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Imperfectly Poly

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This is the Imperfectly Poly Podcast where I'm talking about being a polyamorous man going through life and trying to navigate the ups, downs and circles that come my way. This will just be my thoughts and perspectives on different aspects of life and this is not intended as a guide for how you should do poly or life in general. Instead this documents my thoughts and experiences in an attempt to normalize a lifestyle choice that is more common each day.
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Episodes

Navigating the New NRE: When Your Partner Starts Dating Someone New

This episode of Imperfectly Poly tackles the common and often challenging experience of a partner starting a new relationship, specifically addressing the phenomenon of New Relationship Energy (NRE) . We explore the wide range of emotions that can arise, from jealousy and insecurity to occasional excitement and curiosity , validating that all these feelings are normal. Chris shares a personal anecdote about navigating NRE in his own relationships. The episode then provides practical strategies f...

Jul 03, 202523 minSeason 3Ep. 2

I'm back. Did you miss me?

I'm back from a long hiatus. Its been a fun summer so far and in this episode, I'll catch you up on what's been going on in my life and how the month of June was crazy for me.

Jul 03, 202522 minSeason 3Ep. 1

Polyamory and Parenthood: Raising Kids in a World of "More Than Two"

This episode of Imperfectly Poly explores the intersection of polyamory and parenthood, offering insights into raising children in a non-traditional family structure. Chris discusses the importance of honesty and open communication with children, emphasizing the need to explain polyamory in an age-appropriate way. He highlights the importance of creating a stable and loving environment where children feel secure and supported, regardless of the number of adults involved. The episode also touches...

Nov 21, 202418 minSeason 2Ep. 23

Ethical Non-Monogamy vs. Polyamory: Untangling the Terminology

This episode of Imperfectly Poly delves into the sometimes confusing world of ethical non-monogamy (ENM) and polyamory, clarifying the relationship between these two terms. We explain that ENM is a broad umbrella term encompassing various relationship styles where all parties consent to multiple connections, including open relationships, swinging, and polyamory. Polyamory, however, is distinguished as a specific type of ENM that emphasizes love and emotional connection in multiple relationships....

Nov 14, 202416 minSeason 2Ep. 22

'Tis the Season to Be... Poly? Navigating the Holidays with Multiple Partners

This episode of Imperfectly Poly dives headfirst into the holiday season, exploring the unique joys and challenges that come with navigating this festive time while polyamorous. Chris shares personal anecdotes and practical advice on everything from managing family dynamics and gift-giving to prioritizing time with multiple partners. The episode emphasizes the importance of open communication with family members, even when discussing polyamory might feel awkward. It also encourages listeners to ...

Nov 07, 202419 minSeason 2Ep. 21

The Poly Paradise Getaway - Strengthening Bonds

In this episode of Imperfectly Poly, Chris shares his recent romantic getaway with Chloe to Belamere Suites. He highlights the importance of quality time in polyamorous relationships, emphasizing how dedicated one-on-one experiences can help strengthen bonds and create lasting memories. Chris talks about the power of shared experiences, from exploring new restaurants and a cigar bar to enjoying a leisurely nature walk. He also touches on how getaways can provide a safe and private space for inti...

Sep 12, 202415 minSeason 2Ep. 20

Unpacking the Couch: Why Therapy is Important for Polyamorous Folks (and Everyone Else!)

In this episode of Imperfectly Poly, we tackle the sometimes intimidating but ultimately rewarding topic of therapy. We dive into how therapy can help unpack emotional baggage, develop healthy coping mechanisms, and gain fresh perspectives - not just for polyamorous folks, but for everyone. We specifically explore how therapy can benefit those navigating the unique challenges of polyamory, such as jealousy, communication breakdowns, and societal stigma. Chris shares personal experiences of how t...

Sep 05, 202420 minSeason 2Ep. 19

Giving and Accepting Help

In this episode, we delve into the often-challenging act of asking for help when we're feeling down. We explore the common barriers that hold us back from reaching out, from fear of vulnerability to societal expectations. Discover the power of connection and vulnerability, and how allowing others to help us can deepen our relationships and create a ripple effect of compassion. We provide practical tips for asking for and accepting help, emphasizing the importance of clear communication and recip...

Aug 29, 202419 minSeason 2Ep. 18

Down but not out

In this episode we delve into the power of living in the present. I've been struggling with living in the moment so we explore why being present is crucial for happiness and well-being. We discuss common obstacles like perfectionism, technology overload, and fear, and offer practical tools like mindfulness meditation, sensory check-ins, and single-tasking challenges to help you cultivate mindfulness. Discover how embracing the "now" can enhance your work, relationships, and overall enjoyment of ...

Aug 18, 202422 minSeason 2Ep. 16

Polycule Change & Growth w/ Danielle

Life throws curveballs, even in the most loving polycules. Whether it's a new job, a health scare, a breakup, or any major transition, change can rock the boat for everyone involved. But fear not! In this episode, we'll delve into the emotional rollercoaster of change, exploring how one person's experience can ripple through the entire polycule. We'll discuss the importance of open communication, navigating jealousy and insecurity, and revisiting relationship agreements. But it's not all doom an...

Jun 20, 202442 minSeason 2Ep. 15

Poly and Self-Esteem

Hey, I'm Chris and I'm a Model! After a little modeling gig, I thought about doing an episode about self-esteem in polyamory.

Jun 03, 202429 minSeason 2Ep. 14

My Poly Ain't Your Poly

This week I talk about different styles of polyamory and how each individual's way of doing polyamory is unique.

May 26, 202432 minSeason 2Ep. 13

Happiness looks good on me

This week is a life update just bringing everyone back up to speed with what's been going on around here. Things have been good overall. Also, apparently I glow like a pregnant woman when I'm happy.

May 07, 202420 minSeason 2Ep. 12

The Poly Perfection Trap

This week I talk about one of my personal sayings "progress, not perfection." I relate this concept to perfectionism in polyamory and relationships in general. Then I talk about how changing the focus away from perfection towards progress can help mental health significantly.

Apr 18, 202417 minSeason 2Ep. 11

Compersion Myths and Tips

This week I talk about all things Compersion. I start with describing compersion and give examples of how compersion is not just for polyamorous relationships. Then I talk about some myths related to compersion and finally a few tips to help someone achieve compersion.

Apr 11, 202422 minSeason 2Ep. 10

KTP and NRE w/ Chloe

In this episode, I have my lovely girlfriend Chloe on the show and we are talking about our first month together, how we support each other and how we have been navigating Kitchen Table Poly (KTP) dynamics along with managing our New Relationship Energy (NRE).

Apr 07, 202420 minSeason 2Ep. 9

From Breadcrumbs to Follow Through

In this episode I'm talking about how dreams can still come true even when you think they died. I also talk about some experiences with breadcrumbing and explain what that term means. I talk about how my life is on an upswing and my dreams are finally coming true.

Mar 29, 202420 minSeason 2Ep. 8

Coming out as poly w/ Danielle

Today I have my wife, Danielle, on as a special guest for us to talk about coming out. This is mostly us just telling our stories about coming out to family, friends and coworkers and sharing how they accepted or rejected us along the way.

Mar 16, 202436 minSeason 2Ep. 7

Life Update: First Date

This is a little life update including my first week at IOP and a first date that I went on! Listen in for more details.

Mar 11, 202425 minSeason 2Ep. 6

Needs and Offerings

A relationship is more that just what you get from a relationship but as importantly it also includes what you are able to offer the other person. In this episode, I talk about a little exercise to figure out your needs and offerings within a relationship and I encourage you to do this periodically, as these thing can change over time.

Mar 10, 202426 minSeason 2Ep. 5

The Invisible Support System

You may not see it everyday, but the support systems are there. Reach out, be vulnerable and allow people to support you. In this Episode, I'm talking about a hard day I recently had and how people supported me through it.

Feb 29, 202428 minSeason 2Ep. 4

My thoughts on Emotional Safety

As I have began thinking about finding another partner, I am reminded of the importance of emotional safety. This is just me chatting about my thoughts on Emotional Safety and why its important to me.

Feb 22, 202435 minSeason 2Ep. 3

Imperfectly Bipolar

In this episode, Chris is going to spend some time getting pretty vulnerable and opening up about his mental health journey. Chris has been sober for 3 years and diagnosed with bipolar II about two years ago. This is not the most upbeat episode, but it will shed light on who Chris is to give more context as the episodes go forward.

Feb 09, 202429 minSeason 2Ep. 2

I am Imperfectly Poly

Welcome to February 2024! Where did the time go? Oh, yeah.... A lot happened. Chris is going to spend some time to catch you up over the last 18 months and talk about a change in format. A lot has happened so buckle up for the ride.

Feb 02, 202420 minSeason 2Ep. 1

Imperfectly Rebooting

We're bringing this podcast back to life. Be ready because Episode 1 of the new format comes out soon!

Feb 01, 202430 sec
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