"Send Ben a text" In this enlightening episode, Ben explores a fundamental concept in parenting that most advice gets wrong – the external focus versus the internal focus. Discover why concentrating on things outside of your control, such as your teen's behavior, can drain your energy and hinder your growth as a parent. Discover the key unseen elements that influence your parenting, including your core values, fundamental beliefs, daily thought patterns, emotions, and your identity as a parent. ...
Oct 05, 2023•20 min•Ep. 174
"Send Ben a text" Today's episode features Julia Rocque as a special guest, discussing the Pyramid of Influence. The Arbinger Institute, known for "Leadership and Self-Deception," authored this concept. The pyramid consists of six levels: Get out of the box or improve your way of being. Build relationships with others who have influence. Build the relationship with your teenager. Listen and learn. Teach and communicate. Correct when things go wrong. The three principles of this pyramid are: Spen...
Sep 28, 2023•46 min•Ep. 173
"Send Ben a text" 3 types of Parent Traps you may be falling into: The Controlling Parent Trap: Ever found yourself trying to control every aspect of your teen's life, from their thoughts to their actions? It comes from a place of love, but it's a trap. We'll show you how to break free. The Doormat Parent Trap: On the flip side, some of us become total doormats, letting our teens walk all over us because we want them to like us. It's time to regain your boundaries and self-respect. The Lost and ...
Sep 21, 2023•15 min•Ep. 172
"Send Ben a text" Powerful Points Teens need support from a community of adults. You can have an impact on more teens than simply your own teen. If you want to have an impact on a teens life, simply be the best adult you can be. We both remember the impact that other adults had on our lives. Let us know if you would like us to do a Mini-Series. Shoot us a DM @drive_your_thoughts_coaching @benpughcoaching Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—a...
Sep 14, 2023•29 min
"Send Ben a text" You'll Have to Listen To This Episode This was an awesome interview with Carrie Marshall. We had an amazing conversation. As always, I don't really do show notes for my interviews because they're not scripted. We just talk and go. Powerful Points Your story is worth sharing. You have a story to share. Anyone can write a book. Understand what you want to tell the world and why. Want To Connect with Carrie? Links Below! Driveyourthoughts.com Instagram Podcast Are You Caught in th...
Sep 07, 2023•51 min•Ep. 170
"Send Ben a text" You'll Have to Listen To This Episode This was an awesome interview with Natalie Dianne. We had an amazing conversation. Powerful Points It's not your job to change your spouse, your teen, or anyone else. You can only change yourself. The only person who can know if divorce is right for you is YOU! Tap in to your internal wisdom, do the inner work, and make the best decision for you and your family. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keepin...
Aug 31, 2023•45 min•Ep. 169
"Send Ben a text" Some of the most common problems with athletes If you have a teen athlete, this podcast is for you and for them. If you don't have a teen athlete, you can still listen because these principles are true in parenting as well. Every year I coach a handful of elite athletes who want to take their game to the next level. Often times, these are athletes who used to play at a high level, but for some reason, they've started struggling and falling behind. Other times, these are athlete...
Aug 24, 2023•20 min•Ep. 168
"Send Ben a text" Some of the most common problems with athletes If you have a teen athlete, this podcast is for you and for them. If you don't have a teen athlete, you can still listen because these principles are true in parenting as well. Every year I coach a handful of elite athletes who want to take their game to the next level. Often times, these are athletes who used to play at a high level, but for some reason, they've started struggling and falling behind. Other times, these are athlete...
Aug 17, 2023•30 min•Ep. 167
"Send Ben a text" Are You and/or Your Teen Dreading School? First off, I think you should know that teens all over the US are dreading returning to school. If you're teen is feeling anxious and they are dreading school, this episode is for you. If you're teen is excited and ready to return to school, you can still implement everything you hear in this episode to help your teen make this school year great. So, to be clear, if your teen is dreading the upcoming school year, you and your teen are n...
Aug 10, 2023•16 min•Ep. 166
"Send Ben a text" As the back-to-school season approaches, parents and teens alike experience a mix of emotions. While some parents eagerly anticipate the return to routine, many teens might feel anxious and overwhelmed by the upcoming challenges. If you find yourself wondering if coaching is the right solution for your teen during this critical time, this podcast is here to provide valuable insights and guidance. Join Ben as he tackles the question, "How do I know if coaching is right for my te...
Aug 03, 2023•27 min•Ep. 165
"Send Ben a text" You'll Have to Listen To This Episode This was an awesome interview with Emily Brown. We had an amazing conversation. As always, I don't really do show notes for my interviews because they're not scripted. We just talk and go. Powerful Points In this episode we talked about how many parents struggle homeschooling their children because they're trying to do all the tasks, before building connections. We talked about how important it is for you to meet your needs, connect with Go...
Jul 27, 2023•46 min•Ep. 164
"Send Ben a text" Want a Better Relationship with Your Teen? If you're anything like the parents that I work with, you probably want to improve your relationship with your teen. That's awesome, because having an impactful relationship with your teen the foundation that successful teens are built on. The problem is, there are sneaky traps that parents get caught up in that kill their relationship with their teen, and if you're not careful, you might be making these very same mistakes. #1 Being "R...
Jul 20, 2023•28 min•Ep. 163
"Send Ben a text" Powerful Points In this episode we talked about parenting being the best personal development course ever. We talked about how it gives you endless opportunities for personal growth. Dr. Paul also taught about how personal growth is one of his 4 pillars for positive parenting. Dr. Paul's Free Book As a special gift to you, Dr. Paul is giving away his eBook, Portable Positivity. You can simply go to DrPaulJenkins.com/impact to get your copy completely FREE. https://benpughcoachi...
Jul 12, 2023•47 min
"Send Ben a text" YOU Have the Power to Make Tough Moments Powerful Moments Recently in one of my group coaching call, a mom humbly and a little embarrassed admitted that she had recently parented her teen in a way that she was not proud of. In fact, she was embarrassed and beating herself up. She couldn't understand how, after learning all this new stuff inside the membership, she could still say such mean things. She was worried that she had done the complete wrong thing and that it was maybe ...
Jul 06, 2023•17 min•Ep. 161
"Send Ben a text" This is an awesome conversation about trauma and Triggers with Dr. Leanne Hawken After my recent podcast episode, Leanne reached out to me to further the discussion on trauma and triggers. This is a powerful conversation. SO, you'll definitely want to listen to this one rather than just trying to read the show notes. Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover...
Jun 29, 2023•48 min•Ep. 160
"Send Ben a text" Have You Ever Had A "Gut Punch" Realization? Today, I'm going to tell you about one of the most life altering events of my life. It took place during a jog at my local walking park with Brooke Castillo. Only, she wasn't there. It was just me, my phone, and my head phones, and Brooke's podcast. It's Not My Teen That Needs To Change, It's ME! I can't remember which podcast episode I was listening to. Usually I'd either listen to multiple episodes in a jog, and sometimes I'd liste...
Jun 21, 2023•24 min•Ep. 159
"Send Ben a text" What Does Trigger Even Mean? For most people, when their talking about triggers, or "being triggered", they're usually talking about some kind of circumstance that triggers them or others. This circumstance could be somebody else's actions, or words, or even something outside of their control like the color of their skin, their past, or even their heritage. The truth is still the same, triggers are circumstances that trigger a mental, emotional, or behavioral response, and prob...
Jun 15, 2023•25 min•Ep. 158
"Send Ben a text" Habits Are Underrated and Underutilized Every year around New Year's, everyone starts talking about goals. This is awesome, I think everyone should have goals. The problem is, with out habits, your goals are little more than dreams. If you want to accomplish your goals, you need to identify, "What habits will it take to accomplish my goal?" Powerful Parenting Habits Set Your Intention Each Day Commit to Connection Daily Embrace the Moment Manage Your Mind Trust Yourself, Your T...
Jun 08, 2023•23 min•Ep. 157
"Send Ben a text" Boundaries are Misunderstood There are some common mistakes that parents make when setting boundaries. Boundaries aren't meant to control others. Boundaries are important for you and your teen. Come Join Me! I'm going to be Live for my 3 Day Be the Change Parenting Training It's going to be awesome! Register and Save the dates: June 8 - 12PM (MDT) June 13 - 12PM (MDT) June 15 - 12PM (MDT) Click here to register! Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns th...
Jun 01, 2023•33 min•Ep. 156
"Send Ben a text" Trying to Control Your Teen Hurts Your Teen Just Because Everyone Does It Doesn't Make It Right Do You Like It When Others Try To Control You? There's a Better Way If You Continue to Control, Your Relationship will Suffer Come Join Me! I'm getting ready to do my 3 day live Be the Change Parenting series. This is one of my most popular trainings that I do. Don't miss it! Click here to register! Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you ...
May 25, 2023•16 min•Ep. 155
"Send Ben a text" Teens want connection. Contrary to the myth that teens don't want anything to do with you as their parents, it's important for you to trust that your teen actually desires a connection with you. Build Values-Based Connection. Instead of trying to connect over things that you value, it is important to connect with your teen based on their values and interests. Understanding and engaging with what matters to them can strengthen your relationship with them. Your Relationships Refl...
May 18, 2023•18 min•Ep. 154
"Send Ben a text" Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz...
May 11, 2023•27 min•Ep. 153
"Send Ben a text" In this podcast episode, I interview Cliff Ravenscraft from MindsetAnswerman.com We talk about: 1. Identity 2. Abundance 3. The Law of Attraction and a few other random things. Come Listen and Enjoy this Podcast Interview! Want to be the mom of your dreams? Come join us in my parenting membership. Benpughccoaching.com/fffp Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to u...
May 04, 2023•1 hr•Ep. 152
"Send Ben a text" Are You Caught in the Parent Trap? Discover the hidden patterns that are keeping you stuck—and how to break free. Take this quick (and eye-opening) quiz to uncover which common parenting trap you’re falling into with your teen. Get a personalized roadmap to help you parent with more clarity, confidence, and connection—starting today. https://benpughcoaching.com/parenttrapquiz...
Apr 27, 2023•30 min•Ep. 151
"Send Ben a text" Real Talk about the book Leadership and Self-Deception What does it mean to be “in the box” towards someone? Being “In the Box”= Seeing ourselves and others in a systematically distorted way. Others are mere Objects Being “Out of the Box” = Seeing ourselves and others more or less as we are, as People. Self-deception is creating stories based on your own reality that doesn’t serve you! Collusion When we are in the box towards someone we generally want to get other people to joi...
Apr 20, 2023•40 min•Ep. 150
"Send Ben a text" What is Your Parenting Identity? One of the things I’ve realized is that if you are struggling to make lasting changes in your life, it is probably because you don’t identify as someone who could make those changes. Mindset Matters! Often times, experts, whether in parenting, business, or weight loss focus on the tactics, but they often forget the mindset component. Mindset is powerful. How you think determines how you feel, and how you feel determines how you behave. Managing ...
Apr 13, 2023•49 min•Ep. 149
"Send Ben a text" Feel Powerless in Your Parenting? If you're like most parents, you've probably felt powerless from time to time. In fact, if you're a first time listener to this podcast, I'm guessing that you've recently found yourself feeling powerless. If you've listened to my podcast very long, you've probably heard me say that when you feel powerless as a parent, it's because you're focusing on things outside of your control. Today, we're going to talk about getting your personal power bac...
Apr 06, 2023•29 min•Ep. 148
"Send Ben a text" My Favorite Things to Teach I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you. Do You Know Your Values?...
Mar 30, 2023•16 min•Ep. 147
"Send Ben a text" If you create experiences you can create powerful transformations and powerful relationships. We underestimate the power of fun in our lives. When I took my kids surfing in Hawaii the instructor told us that when we got up to make sure that we looked ahead of us, like at a palm tree. If we looked down in the water, that is where we would end up. I love this, it fits so perfectly with my favorite saying, "You are where your attention is" We need to set our intentions and not jus...
Mar 23, 2023•40 min•Ep. 146
"Send Ben a text" My Favorite Things to Teach I want to walk you through my 10 favorite things to teach parents. In fact, these principles are not only my favorite things to teach, but they are the things that the parents who I work with consistently tell me have had the most impact on their lives. So, over the next several episodes, you'll get access to my top 10 favorite principles. And, I'm going to teach them in the order that I think would be most beneficial to you. This week I'm talking ab...
Mar 16, 2023•19 min•Ep. 145
