If you’re like us, you didn’t grow up in an emotionally honest home. Because of this, having healthy relationships as adults has sometimes felt impossible. On this podcast, be a fly on the wall as we, Dan and Justin (a real life couple), learn how to love each other and ourselves unconditionally. Often it’s messy: we overthink, try to control each other, and fall into old patterns. But each time we work through it, something happens on the other side— more closeness, deepening, humor, and a new understanding of the word “love”.
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Dan and Justin wonder why men are turned off by CHATGPT being too sweet and nice to them. Then they explore the idea of softening in like and in relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Justin shares about feeling closed off and unloving this week. Then the couple processes a recurring fake interaction they've been having. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin do some role-play around a dynamic that happens between them that Justin doesn't like. INSTA: @iimbsb Email: ifimaypodcast@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan talks about his past judgments towards men being outwardly loving. Then Justin explores her relationship to her looks past and present. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Justin asks Dan to articulate what coming out of denial feels like. Then Justin recounts how Dan’s recovery used to spin her out. INSTA: @iimbsb Email: ifimaypodcast@gmail.com Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Justin and Dan discuss an ugly dynamic that used to come up for them and speculate on why it's different now. Then Justin talks about feelings that have been coming up around the lineage of “victimhood” for women in her family, and her resistance to looking back on he twenties. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan describes how he broke through an emotional barrier with some help from ChatGPT. Then the couple shares a major announcement before we hear them work through a fight in real time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin talk about their relationship to being funny and how it's changing. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan talks to Justin about the struggle he's had making contact with his inner child. They then explore the burden of feeling like it's your job to make the conversation fun, and the trap of filling up your life with responsibilities in order to feel safe. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin talk about the rabbit hole of healing and recovery work and the fear of sounding like you’ve been brainwashed to some people. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan describes his torturous and confusing process of deciding to put Rickey the dog down. Then Justin and Dan talk about having a relationship with a higher power and how it stands in contrast to their childhood experiences with religion Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Justin and Dan talk about the New York Times article about a woman who’s in an intimate relationship with CHATGPT. Then they recount a charged experience they had this week on a zoom call with a tantra teacher. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan tells Justin about a narrative he's been having in his head in which she's miserable right now. Then they discuss their respective relationships to spontaneity before kind of gettin into a fight right at the end of the episode! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin discuss why they were so moved by a recent rewatch of the 2001 movie "A Beautiful Mind." Then they explore the pitfall of getting stuck in a "role self" and how it can doom an intimate partnership which leads them into reflecting back on periods of major doubt in their own relationship. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin discuss if either or both of them are good in a crisis and then talk through a recurring negative cycle they used to often suffer through and why it's different now. We then hear about Dan's "cool" morning ritual and the song Justin has been singing to her inner child. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Justin and Dan break down a pattern of fighting that has been happening since they returned from New York. Justin lashes out, Dan recoils, everyone loses. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hi! Today Justin and Dan listen to a voice memo of a real fight reconciliation of theirs and reflect back on what went down. They also revisit an uncomfortable confrontation from nearly five years ago when they had first started dating. Justin then shares her huge vomiting in public win and they recap their wildly connecting New Years Eve night out and how it shed light on past struggles. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Dan and Justin lost their close friend a few weeks ago and talk about what's been coming up around his death. Then they discuss why getting covid (and the state of their relationship) this year feels SO different than last year before rating how much they like each other and name what's been "saving their marriage." Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Who taught YOU how to fight? What happens when we desperately cling to good feelings? Justin and Dan break down why they've struggled to have conflict in past relationships. They also talk subtle abandonment, sneaky denial, and the freedom available when you move away from codependency. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
After a false start, we are finally ready to give you Season 4! This season will center around Dan and Justin learning to fight. It's November and Justin is Flyinggg. She recounts a recent rough patch in which she was hating her appearance and struggling with her identity and self-esteem, and what it feels like to be on the other side of that. Then they talk through a recent incident where something Justin did upset Dan and how they both made sense of it during and afterwards. Lastly we hear abo...
OK kids we're back! Dan and Justin rate how much they like each other at the moment and give some relationship highs and lows from the recent past. Justin shares a new mantra she's been trying out and they explore what it's like to be in a relationship when both partners are in fear. Then Dan share's something that happens to him when he's around "sports guys." Thanks for being here! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Season 4 is here! Dan and Justin are back and getting more real than ever. They discuss the binary of seeking versus acceptance, Justin's Spanish teacher's feelings towards PHANTOM THREAD, the state of the relationship, and Justin wonders if it's safe for her to participate in an exercise program. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We got a shorty for you today. Followed by a singing voice message from Justin's mom, Justin and Dan discuss the ADHD boom/bust cycle, Dan's chaotic nightstand, and then have an honest and at times uncomfortable conversation about something that happened between them while attending a play for Justin's birthday. Anxiety! Autonomy! Parts Work! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Hey! SO much has happened since last we spoke. Embracing conflict! Moving away from people pleasing behavior! Getting in the arena of life! Get in the water's warm cutie babies. @iimbsb https://www.patreon.com/iimbsb Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ok folks, this is the real sh*t. Justin and Dan get into it about their struggles with avoidance and disconnection in the last several months. How can they find each other when things aren't flowing? Is there a way through the struggle? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Ramesh is back! And this time he is in a relationship; we dig into it. He tells Dan what he learned from his long tortured history of falling for unavailable men, and what it's like to experience committed love now that he's found it. Spoiler: it's complicated! Check out "Another Fire," Voxtrot's first new release in 14 years! If you are interested in working with Krish and/or Amana you can find them here: https://www.learningloveinstitute.com/ The podcaster/therapist Ramesh references is Ken Pa...
Wow there is SO much going on in Episode 8. Justin and Dan process their respective revelations from the last week. What does it really mean to be cringe? Then they dive into the topic of CONTROL. What did control look like in each of Justin and Dan's families growing up and how is it coming into play in their connection and relationship dysfunction. Then they touch on some of the amazing merits of the 12-Step program ACA (Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families). Hosted on Acast...
We get the lowdown from our dear friend Maya Vizvary (Office On Violence Against Women at the DOJ) about her experience becoming a mom during deep covid. She tells us how having a kid changed her relationship to herself, her work, and to those close to her. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
With wise person Sarah Natsumi Moore, we cover a bunch or irresistible topics. She tells us about attending life-changing Tantra retreats in Brazil, dating after a marriage, the enneagram, and the power and pain of friend breakups. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We interview one of Dan's exes (ahhh!): activist and soon-to-be abolitionist lawyer Jac Lyons. We hear about Dan and Jack's relationship and breakup(s) Then we ask Jack about their journey of identity; coming out, leaving their femme presentation behind, and eventually realizing that they are trans. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
