Hey Guys! This week we talk about a poignant question that people inquire about and/or think about in a marriage. Sometimes the question comes up while dating or before entering a marriage. Other times, it may come up when deciding to call it quits. That question is "How to deal with your partner wanting different things?" Tee and Trav give their take and share how they approach that in their own relationship. We run two of our segments this week. "Come Again?!" focuses on a tweet dispute betwee...
Mar 03, 2021•47 min•Season 2Ep. 35
Hello Everybody! We briefly recap our experience of #amandaseales #smartfunnyandblack. We introduce a new segment "Who you got?" Who would be the better girlfriend? Laura Winslow or Moesha Mitchell Who would you rather be best friends with? Tommy or Cole Recently, B. Simone said what she said! She's manifesting love all 2021 and helping others do so. When you make a list of the qualities you want in a man, be prepared to also Iist what a man like that would want or need in a woman. (Insert any t...
Feb 17, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 34
Hello Everybody! This week we catch up on an interesting question our six year old had about "Coming from Daddy?" How do you handle certain conversations with kids? Its our anniversary and Valentine's Day this week. We chat about being intentional with our plans which we haven't always done. Does intention matter to you? Since we've been married for seven years we share our biggest lesson in marriage so far. Part of our plans include watching #AmandaSeales #SmartFunnyandBlack show. #MeganGood an...
Feb 10, 2021•40 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Welcome back everybody! Tell me how you know your spouse is unhappy without them saying their unhappy. Go! There were some gems in the Wendy Williams Biopic. Surprisingly, Tee watched and liked it. She quickly bussed down a few things from the movie. A quote from the movie Someone Great generated today's conversation,"When something breaks, if the pieces are large enough, you can fix it. Unfortunately, sometimes things don't break, they shatter." Is getting back with your ex the move? Is it ok t...
Feb 03, 2021•41 min•Season 2Ep. 32
This week we get into a few things per usual. We start off by recognizing the vibe change of the country thus far into the new presidency. We refrained from the mention of any previous president . All positive vibes over here. Let's get into it. Do you handle rejection well? Recently, a 31 year old Harlem woman was victimized seemingly by men with bruised egos. Its dangerous to be a woman. I know its dangerous to be all types of nationalities, races, and genders, but the conversation lends itsel...
Jan 27, 2021•42 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Hey Guys! Tune in for #uploadwednesday as we chat about tension in relationships. How we play out arguments in our heads and decide if its worth it. We discuss how gender roles impact marriage and how arguing is healthy. Dr. Sue Johnson says, "It's emotional disconnection that destroys relationships, not fighting. Happy couples fight. The difference is that happy couples fight and find a way to turn back and connect again." We dive into that a bit more. One of our segments are Come Again?! where...
Jan 20, 2021•42 min•Season 2Ep. 30
💣Watching movies/shows and reading books as an adult can be a mind-blower! The messaging hits different with some life experiences. 💣Like Waiting to Exhale by Terry McMillan or Chris Rock's I Think I Love My Wife. 💣Using the film we had discussions about sex as the demise of relationships, entertaining friends or people from the past, the significance of year 7 of marriage, and reasons why some people can cheat. 💣Our segments this episode are #IReaditonReddit: Is the word toxic being overuse...
Jan 13, 2021•53 min•Season 2Ep. 4
Hey guys! Have you seen LoveCraft Country? We did a brain dump while discussing some lasting impressions about the show. A brain dump is the act or an instance of comprehensively and uncritically expressing and recording one's thoughts and ideas. Its really good to do in all facets of life. There are some spoilers to scenes and connections in the series. The show takes place during the 1950s. You can find it on HBO Max. We discussed what peaked our interest, our favorite scenes, and thoughts on ...
Jan 06, 2021•34 min•Season 2Ep. 3
Hello 2021, we started a new show. Let me rephrase that, new to us, Lovecraft Country (@lovecrafthbo). We aren't finished with the season, but we each discuss our favorite character and why we like them. Tee has been reading Feel Better in 5 by Dr. Rangan Chatterjee.This book talks about how to make new healthy habits. Making goals attainable can be less daunting in five minute increments. Tee explores his theory. Oddly enough, the definition of resolution is a FIRM decision to do or not to do s...
Jan 01, 2021•39 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Hey guys! We're back! Welcome to Season 2. Christmas is over and New Year's is underway. We gave our reflection of 2020. Was your 2020 negative? What are some good things that happened to you in 2020? What are some lessons you've learned? Trav learned not to downplay himself. And Tee talks about coming into her own. Are you different from the 2019 you? We discuss what the year has left unfinished for us. And for Tee its the gotdang book! If you know, you know. Hopefully, you were kind to yoursel...
Dec 31, 2020•44 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Hey Guys! We missed you last week. Its November and we're getting in the thick of the holiday season. This week we chat about the election, social media triggers, COVID rates rising, birthday woes, and wrapping up our first season! Two conversations we dug a little deeper into was Why Tee doesn't like celebrating her birthday? And Should women be grateful for men who don't cheat? We are taking a holiday break. We will return for #UploadWednesday on January 6, 2021 . In the meantime, you can find...
Nov 17, 2020•50 min•Season 1Ep. 25
This week we're recapping and providing commentary on @alldondre Male vs. Man conversation with The Campbells @iamericacampbell & @warryncampbell. We dove into a variety of topics.The absence of a male influence and how it affects the emotional development of young men. Men's approach to childrearing which is often different than women especially when it comes raising young Kings. And Tee will tie this in to how Joe Jackson may have gotten something right. We explore the all familiar "shotgu...
Nov 04, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 24
This week we're talking about all the things. How we feel about last week's visuals and how to approach putting yourself before the world. We discuss intertwining our circles which we really haven't done since we were kids. We had our second kid-free weekend of the year and got to hang out with a few of Trav's friends. Hear Trav's reaction to Tee being in his social space. @KristenBellamy said something on @BlackLove After Love that resonated with Tee. She said, "Allow your partner to grow and e...
Oct 27, 2020•48 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Hello guys! Cue the song:"Friends...how many of us have them" Tee and Trav chat about their childhood friendships. We discuss how they have changed or evolved over the years. Do you think you are a good friend? We evaluate ourselves.We came to the conclusion that...we're bad friends...yet good? We said, what we said people! Do you think people should ask their friends, if they are a good friends? This week's I Read it on Reddit is titled Help Me! A girl needs advice about her best friend's somet...
Oct 21, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 22
Hey Guys! This week we cover Bishop T.D. Jakes' 2020 Model Homes sermon which was suggested to us by our friends The Criders. It was a great listen and we took some highlights and gave commentary Trav & Tee style. Model Homes led to a discussion about what feeds some doesn't feed others, having children with people you don't like, and mom-son vs. dad-daughter relationships to name a few. Are you looking for a spouse or a role to fill? One of our favorite parts of the sermon was @bishopjakes ...
Oct 13, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 21
Hi Guys! Hater Trav always hated on the @5LoveLanguages book until this week! We discussed the importance of vocalizing what you need! And, do you feel like you are unapologetic and standing in your grown-ness, so to speak. Are you being your authentic self? Tee's bestie and childhood friend randomly posed this question and made her think. On our segment Come Again?!, we chat about men being with their late wife's sister inspired by headlines stemming from #NickaylaRivera.
Oct 07, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 20
Hey Guys! Tee gave Trav homework this week?! Tune in to hear his assignment answers about taking things for granted and he shares his tattoo regert...I mean regret story. We talk about using your voice to say no because feeling overwhelmed isn't fun. We dabble in propaganda and hows its used in a divisive way in our society. *Recorded Pre-Presidential Debate* Tee explains quotes from #MichelleObama and #JeannieMai which leads her to her own thoughts "Your story, no matter how flawed is your own"...
Sep 30, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 19
Hey guys! Our baby girl is turning TWELVE. We share our reaction to it all and briefly reflect on being parents for the last 12 years. This past weekend we got a kid-free break.The first night away in a year! During that break, we watched the Netflix Documentary THE SOCIAL DILEMMA. It had us asking ourselves, What is our relationship with social media? We also chat about the evolution of what people are sharing. We discuss social media cleanses, clearing out who you follow, making your page priv...
Sep 23, 2020•44 min•Season 1Ep. 18
What's up with that virtual learning? Tee and Trav share experiences with their virtual kindergartener. The #conversationstarterseries with the show Love is... has come to an end. The episodes led to a discussion about how molestation and rape manifest in relationships. Also, our opinion about women proposing to men and we discuss our first failed engagement.This week's Come Again?! segment is on Niecy Nash's marriage to Jessica Betts.
Sep 16, 2020•42 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Welcome back! We reflect on our first week of virtual learning with a Kindergartener. We also discuss another two episodes of Love is...in our #conversationstarters series. The episodes lend us to discuss questions like Do you believe corporate holidays should be celebrated? Can the absentee parent really blame the fully present parent for shortcomings and decisions? And our segment Come Again?! is in full effect as we discuss "Where did our village go?" the viral tweet looking at where Black Am...
Sep 09, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 16
Hey Guys! This week we talk acceptance and support as we continue with our conversation starter series using the show Love is... The episodes drive our conversation to topics like: Do you feel in 2020 gay men can climb the corporate ladder? What does a supportive friend look like? Should you make business moves based off friendship? How involved should your friends be in your friend's love life? And we bring back our segment "Come Again" this time reacting to Terry Crew's Magic City #blacklovema...
Sep 02, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Hey Guys! Check in with us and listen as we continue our conversation series with the show Love is . It lends us to topics such as:Have you ever gone through great lengths to track someone down? Tee tells her stalker-ish story. Are women held to a different regard than men? And I Read it on Reddit is back, is it ok to double tap thirst traps?
Aug 26, 2020•34 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Hey Guys! This is the second episode in our Love is...series. The conversation led us to ask ourselves, how soon should you move on before dating someone else? Do you feel that you should be in a certain financial situation before dating? We also discuss a Gab Union comment about the Curry's in our new Come Again!? segment.
Aug 19, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Do you believe people of different backgrounds can flourish and come together? We use the OWN show Love is...as a springboard into our conversation. We chat about our personal differences and how it affected our relationship. And our I Read it on Reddit proves difficult for an interracial relationship trying to find its balance during these current racial tensions.
Aug 12, 2020•34 min•Season 1Ep. 12
We talk about mental health that has been in the news as of recent years. What do you do when you don't feel your best? Trav talks about decompression and why its important. Tee talks about figuring out her own mental health battles that seemingly came out of nowhere.
Aug 05, 2020•40 min•Season 1Ep. 11
This week was filled with tension. Per request, we talk about conflict and how we deal with it. We use our argument from the week to put things in perspective and Trav tells Tee about herself.
Jul 29, 2020•37 min•Season 1Ep. 10
This episode we talk about the most common reasons people divorce, give our deal breakers in our own marriage, and respond to some stats about marriage. During our I Read it on Reddit segment, you'll hear one guy who's clearly disturbed and a lady who is giving encouragement.
Jul 22, 2020•49 min•Season 1Ep. 9
Are you afraid to go after your dreams? We talk about the negativity that sometimes comes along with it. We also explore the pros and cons and how going after your dreams can affect your relationship.
Jul 15, 2020•48 min•Season 1Ep. 8
This week we cover common dating mistakes that relationship therapists talk about and give our take on it. Should you internet stalk before a date? Is it appropriate to share about previous relationships on Date #1?
Jul 15, 2020•32 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Have you dealt with your insecurities from childhood? Or did you carry them into your adulthood? Everyone has insecurities especially as kids. We reflect on ours and introduce a new segment I Read it on Reddit.
Jul 07, 2020•50 min•Season 1Ep. 6
