Hello and welcome to I'll Ask My Sister, the advice podcast where the cosmic meets the corporate. I'm Ellen Hooper, an executive coach, and I'm joined by my sister, Mads Williams, a human design coach. Hello. Hi! It's night time for you, morning for me. It is, and I am contemplating giving up social reels because I think I've been wearing the same jumper for the past five weeks. I'm kind of sitting here being like, should I go and get changed? But that's so shallow.
It's that time in the Oh, that's funny. UK, you know. It's that time where it's like warmth. Warmth is all we care about. Cashmere is all we care about. I'm sure there are other things people care about, but cashmere is pretty high up for me. I don't know if this will make you excited for me or if it's just like a real salt in the wound, but my sauna got delivered yesterday. Oh my gosh, no, that's amazing. Is it set up yet? No Do you have to build it yourself? fucking yes. I feel so unqualified.
I've obviously hired someone to help me. Obviously, you hire people to like I don't know. Chop up carrots. So, I feel like that sauna is definitely having help. Outsource, outsource, outsource. Hey, if you can, go for it. Yep. And, oh, damn, I was going to say something I felt was like useful. Handyman, the guilt, the shame, So considering you've forgotten, shall we move along to Cosmical Corporate? How's your week been? I'm four weeks into my wisdom tooth journey.
we've done a little bit of Louise Hay looking and it's funny because my kinesiologist said to me, your body feels like the truth is still there. And then last night You're not going to show you? no, it's in the good. Thank God. I texted you being like a little piece when I take my wisdom truth out a little, they must have like chipped off a little piece of it. And so four weeks later. I was driving home and I was like, there's something spiky in my mouth.
And like, I was just always could feel my mouth. you know, when like, you've heard something and you're just like aware of that, but it's weird to be like, I feel the right corner of my mouth all the time. It's like, that's not really a symptom. Anyway. I was like, don't mess around with this while you're driving. But when I got home. you know what's gross about this? Because I live alone, I exclusively listen to podcasts when I'm in the house. Cooking or eating food.
And I just feel like podcasts constantly do this. So if you're eating, we're really sorry. I feel like I need to say that for all the times. I wish someone would apologize for me. So it carries like a lot of weight. totally totally but let's get cosmic about it. who is always, Hey, I Who is Louise Hay? Louise Hay is Louise Hay of Hay Publishing House. No, that's not okay. Big deal. in the spiritual industry for books, but originally.
We've talked about this before she cured her terminal illness in a genuine way, as opposed to the. A bell gives them away. Through looking at the fact that disease in the body is like dis ease in the body and kind of I guess, channeling through, I actually don't know if it's beyond that, what the emotional symptoms are to physical symptoms. Yep, so she's kind of got the encyclopedia of, I mean, we now use it to be like, my ear hurts. What does that mean?
She's like the moon card of bodies for us. I mean, Sorry, that's my interpretation. But she, so she says wisdom teeth is not giving mental space to create a firm foundation. And when my little tiny piece of splintered toothpaste fell out, I was like, I've done it. I have a well, good, good timing for the sauna. That's important. like foundation for everything, or is there a specific topic that feels like it's trying to get your attention on? For me.
Yeah, cause I was just at dinner with friends last night and I was like, yeah, this is all the stuff I'm doing next year. And they're like, that's pretty big changes. And I think it's like, Do I know, them? Okay. I don't like to be left out. That's all. Okay. we talk about them, they're like so much that they're boring to you now, Oh right, I feel like, you're already leaving them. moving my business, like away from doing so much corporate work to doing like more courses, more speaking.
and then like doing more kind of visible visibility work. I think that's what the strong foundation needs to be for. But it's just like, I feel physically and emotionally lighter It felt like when a splinter comes out. But better, but better. And it was like 11 o'clock at night and everyone was asleep. And I was like, I have to share this with everyone. will text the one human that I know is guaranteed to be awake. And I told my husband in the morning, he was like, that's disgusting.
I was be no, but if I've heard about that tooth that much, he must have heard about it as shit. It didn't wait for the like, and now it feels great. I think he was like, this fucking dude, I'm going to have to hear about it forever. So have you had a cosmic or a corporate week? I had a mental breakdown week, but then I went away to Wales. You have had a little menti Yeah, it's been going for probably what, three up to four weeks and it cracked. Oh, it's a line in my tooth stitch.
Yeah. Yeah, actually. Thank God for that. Okay. So yeah, I had my breakdown. I had quite a lot of intense sessions in one week. Like I had a psychic reading. I saw a kinesiologist with you, spoke to mom. That was really nice. and then I took the week off work outside of my client calls and I just let myself be in bed and did the slow, soft stuff in terms of like laptop work. And then when I went away this weekend, I decided to leave the laptop completely at home and, oh, my God.
It was like so good for the soul because I probably have not had An entire day, this whole year off, like by my own doing. And I'm just, by the nature of like being in the planting seeds and creativity area. So it, yeah, it was so special. I love being in the ocean when it's freezing and this thing I didn't know about myself.
So I'm doing an authenticity challenge and some stuff's coming up, but Nothing's like, too brand new, but I was staying with a friend and I was talking to her boyfriend about when I moved to the ocean next year, wanting to learn how to surf I guess I was like, Oh, I don't know if I'm going to chicken out. Right? Like it seems hard. Like I, maybe there's just some stuff I want to get out of it and I should try and focus on that instead.
And then he said, well, what do you think you're going to get out of it? And, you know, that's my favorite question in the whole world, but I hadn't really spent much time on it anyway, as we were going through it. I realized I have this like really deep thing about Wanting to be impressive, also love that you like watch Blue Crush in the noughties and you're like, well, this is what Impressive is. well, that's it. Like it's literally has nothing to do with my work life.
but it's like, when it comes to like, am I brave? I a cool girl? like, we went and did a sauna by the ocean and I was taking my, instead of plunge pooling, plunge dipping, I was like running into the, like the stormy ocean and all these people walking around in their big ass winter outfits. And I just felt so vindicated, like. impressed by me. This is like the time when my husband went swimming in the ocean in Queensland and one local was like, you know, it's crocs in there, right?
That was like, Oh no, I didn't. I like, look, to be honest, they're probably not. They're probably like exactly that. Like that crazy girl, she's going to get a cold. all like, there's sewage in the water, you idiot. But yeah, I don't really know what to do with that newfound information, but. It's very important to me. No, it's good. It's just like, all that stuff's just good to know. Yeah. In one of the strengths profiles, I do my bottom strengths of like 25 are bravery, forgiveness.
that's a big one to have a bad it's not great for a long term relationship. Yeah, and appreciation of beauty. Whoa. I feel like that's quite literally the opposite of what I strive for. Oh, no, it's funny. in that thing I've got a kindness theme which some would not agree with But like the paradox of it is also like high judgment, low forgiveness. Uh, yes. Very Scorpio energy. if you wrong me, I will freeze you out. It's like fixed water. Do you have a question for your sister?
Yes. I have a question for you. So during the mental breakdown last week, I missed the fact that it was our one year Recording the podcast, not releasing recording, because we were very organized with pre production. And my question for you, do you have a favorite episode or a favorite memory of our year of podding that you want to share with the listeners? I don't remember the episodes in much detail, because I don't listen to them as much as you do, Do I have a favorite?
I just think those first, like very first few episodes have like this kind of flat pancake vibe. But I feel like kind of episodes. five to eight were really fun. It was like, we found our groove. We got some feedback from people. It didn't totally suck. Always what you're looking for in a new project, not to totally suck. Well, I mean, also some, do you know, it's like got such recency bias, but like having Claire Andrews on, Yes. that so much.
Yeah. It was so special to have her as our first guest. Yeah. And just in general, like what's been a highlight of doing a year of podding as opposed to then like something that's super specific. I think the thing I have found about it and love about it the most is five years ago I used to be like, I know stuff and you need help I just feel like it's been this really great equalizer.
That's like, you know stuff and I know stuff and I just have like a lot of confidence that like, you've got this for you. I think that's really beautiful. and it's so funny, I see it so often with little kids, the oldest child tries to be a third parent. I think I spend a lot of time like trying to be your third parent and you have two good ones, so you don't need that. And it's actually quite amusing because one of our sections is, do you have a question for your sister?
And since we've started it, I do have less questions for you, which I actually think is such like an amazing result of the podcast, but also kind of the irony, like we really need the questions. But the reason it's called, I'll ask my sister is because I would say that in every. Interaction with my close friends. I always felt like I didn't have a grasp on my own life and you knew best.
And I think that is so totally accurate and just, balancing out to individuals who compliment each other rather than having to be reliant on you. And I say that like with all the love in the world, like it's such a relief because actually it's like, I had overworked my Ellen muscle in the sense that I was like, do you know how you just imagine like someone swimming in circles?
Cause only one fin is working like in even finding Nemo and actually, I'm I think for like one paddle in the canoes, maybe even more normal. um, but it's quite nice just to. Like even now still absolutely seek out your advice, but then I can like return to a meditation or like kind of come back to that. What's my way of doing it? And yeah, it just feels like something I've been searching for for a long time.
And you really love to, and I've seen you do these heaps less, but you love to gather info for advice from lots of people and then like ignore it all. It's just Absolutely. It's my favorite way of I'd be like, why did you ask me? I think it's that thing of, we always talk about it. Like, how do you process? And now that I know I'm just a verbal processor, it's less about your advice and it's more so I can say it. For sure. Well, that's a beautiful share. Thank you. I appreciate that.
You're welcome. I appreciate you digging a little deeper one. Do you have a question for your sister? Yes, it's like nowhere near as deep, so now I feel bad. No, we, the balance. I find like November, December energy a bit hard, because I've had this kind of month of being annoyed by my like physical ailments. so I'm like starting to come out with a resurgence of energy, but then. I've got like four weeks until I take, I don't know, like six or eight weeks off.
And so I don't really know what to energetically do for the next four weeks. I think it's hilarious that you don't remember our episodes. Cause you legitimately asked me the exact same question this time last year. So you should just go and listen to that. Oh, okay. Which one is it? Uh, it's either like literally episode one or like two or three. I do find November energy hard.
I find November's the time, so business owners, November's the time you make your worst decisions, particularly if you offer a service because you're like, Oh my God, I'm never going to get any work again. I can't see any work for next year. And this, I'm like, I haven't done that this year. That's good. Also, when you're listening to this, like late November into December was mercury retrograde. So there might've also been like a pool asking you to review.
So if that felt like less like forward momentum and just like reflective energy, that's amazing. You're right on cue. I just did some tweaks today and some reflection, which. Pretty sad for me. My favorite ever meme is like the stuff about Mercury being in the microwave. I just like, think that's so funny. I just, , what's wrong with me? it's a pretty good rhyme. Yeah. Mercury and Mars are my ruling planets, so I take them very seriously you're so intense.
with those two or Because isn't like, like the planet of war and the planet of technology not working? Yes, that's correct. Conflict, action. Yes, I'm very intense. Correct. Please fall in love with me, somebody. What planets would they need, do you think? Ooh, I would like some grounding energy cause I'm so up in the air, but then I have a lot of fire. I actually don't necessarily want the water to put that out, but the, I think the earth was good for the fire and the air.
Because our kinesiologist, Lani, from Soul Philosophy, who's amazing, we've been hiding her because she's always fully booked. She's so good though. She was like, Mads, Ellen grounds you. And I was like, why are you always so mad at me for that? So I don't know if you actually do want grounding energy. it's what I had for a decade. And so I think I get scared that people trying to ground me are trying to bring me back to a past self I was uncomfortable with or in.
And so actually I'm working through a lot of, . trust to like fall in love again, but also knowing I've learned a lot. So actually it's like trusting myself as well as like love as a concept and you know, men. where are we, what are we talking about? Oh, November energy, November, December energy. , I think this is really interesting.
So essentially that I like what you just explained to listeners, that it's not necessarily the time to throw out your business because it might be a quiet time or I think the mistakes I've made is like taking on a contract for like a really low rate or with a client I don't like, is your question, so that's amazing advice, but is that what it feels like you've learned from that? So is the question now about your business or is it more about managing energy levels before your holiday?
Because you're on the decline, but you're. Still needed to show up I think it's the thing that we talked to Tamara Drayson about, which is the generators, like, Oh, start or. do this, but then the practical reality is if I was like back five years ago, not interested in my, or tapped into my energetics at all, I'd be like, well, it's all about finishing for the year and like getting through to the break. And it's just funny that like the energy wants to do like something a bit different.
Yeah. and I think that you are quite outcome goal oriented as like how you've been, I was going to say raised, but I guess I've been raised the same. How our childhood imprinted on you is about , concluding to get the reward or to at least feel like you can take it off the list, whereas I think I look more of it like, Oh, we're starting a new chapter. So what needs to be cleaned out or set up for the next one.
So it's quite different to like, Oh my God, I'm literally hurling down the hill to the finish line. It's like, Oh. Sunday cleaning out the apartment, I'm getting ready for the week ahead, but I want to make sure this week's being tidied up too. so it's not necessarily like a new year's resolution thing. It's just like, Oh yeah. what do I not want to carry forward? Because I have learned the lesson and it doesn't need to come into this next phase.
Yeah. And I think the other thing that I just was thinking about was. all the timeline deadline dates are all pretty arbitrary, like I can do whatever I want in December. Yeah, definitely. And, even just having my men TB, like it was so. Nice to give myself permission to not work. Like I actually forgot. and I know not everybody has that luxury but, often we have sick days that we do not take because we guilt ourselves into, or we like adopt the culture of the workplace or whatever.
Like, again, towards the end of any chapter, you have got a few little treats or rewards you've collected and you can cash them in. All right. Should we hear from our sponsor? Yes, let's do it. Shall we hear from our listener? Yeah, let's do it. So this question comes from a one for emotional generator from Canada. Look at us going global. And she has a question about parenting This is a big one, actually.
If we know our kids human design from a young age and teach them about it, do we alter our children's experience for the better? Or do we take away possible hardship that could help them learn? Essentially, how much do I base my parenting on her human design and how it could impact her? I know there is no right answer here. Just questions I contemplate and I'm curious about your perspectives. I love this question. I have to admit, I haven't thought. about this in the same way.
my kind of initial thoughts are there's always going to be obstacles and hardships in life. And I like, this tool isn't magic, but maybe it is, but I just think you cannot go wrong by knowing yourself really well. And there's lots of different ways to do that. And like, we really encourage with our kids to kind of, help them make their own decisions. Like it's funny, our four year old's doing this really funny thing where she gets up and she's like, what did, her brother have for breakfast?
So that's how she decides what to have for breakfast. Oh yeah. Very generator actually. Clever. Yeah. Interesting. Cause I've been like but what do you, what do you want? so she'll literally ask, Yeah. what does he had? Yeah. And one time he hadn't had breakfast yet. So she was like, what am I meant to do? But when she's coloring in, she'll be like, no, mommy, you can only use these three colored texters. You must ask my permission before you use any other colors.
it's, all of the kind of work that I do, the corporate work I do is all about being strengths based. And that's this kind of idea that knowing yourself really well and doing things aligned with what is your strength, not kind of the conventional wisdom or what other, how other people would do it is going to give you the best outcome.
But also the process is going to be like, The least friction, so I just think that knowing yourself really well that that just sets you up to navigate all of life's challenges because life's challenges will come. But you'll have like, yeah, really strong foundations I have 2 things popping up in my head.
So at first I got this like visual of like training and Olympian and it's just like the difference between giving them the best kit, the best equipment, the best shoes to run the race in or, you know, Each to their own off. You go to the mall and say what you've come back with. Like you're going to still run the race. We might as well give them an advantage.
And the other thing that was popping into my head, I've definitely tried to talk about on the pop before, and I find it really hard to convey because it's definitely something I have heard other people in the spiritual space speak on. It's not come directly from me, but when I paraphrase. You know, we sometimes have some issues, but it's this idea of free will versus fate or destiny. yes, we have free will up and to an extent.
Like we have free will within our like day to day until destiny comes knocking and like pushes us back on our path if we're like really far off. that's why we're like, look to the planet. So, Often why we look back on really hard situations and say, like, that did change me for the better. But if we know our manual, right, that's what kind of human design is. It's literally a manual.
So, if we are our vehicle and we know the manual and we're going for a really long drive, we might as well be as prepared as possible. So, when, if we do kind of break down or Someone bumps into us, or we go over a road bump, we at least know what it would take to course correct or fix the vehicle.
So, look, I don't know if I've landed the plane on that one, because I've kind of like thrown lots of different concepts there, including a plane alongside a car, but like, I don't find that actually you are altering the course of history. By holding up a mirror to someone's uniqueness. Like we actually do it all the time. It's just that when we are doing it with societal conditioning, we're holding up the wrong example of who we're trying to get that person to be.
So again, I'm saying it so many different ways, but it's just like giving someone the quickest or fairest shot at like them being them. I think most of the early childhood and early education experts would say you are way better To spend time teaching a kid about emotional regulations and social skills, then making sure they can like write their name or read.
By a certain age, like the, I think the conventional wisdom at the moment, I think these things do swing and, new research comes out, but is that you can help people catch up with those academic things, but those social skills are much harder to learn. later in life, and I guess the reason I connect that to this question is there's a whole range of ways to help kids learn how to be resilient and navigate emotions.
And I have found the human design overlay really, really useful for my kids because, for example, we have one projector in the house. And he just needs so much more rest. And I don't think we would have clocked that and that he would have clocked that without those little insights. Cause now that we've gotten to explore that a lot more, he has actually found ways for himself to do that.
And it's funny, he'll often like go outside and onto the trampoline, which is really interesting because like no one else's energy is out there. And then he gets really annoyed when his sister's like, Hey.
So it's just, any tools that you can help your kids know who they are and we really try to teach them like knowing what they need and then asking for it, which like, you know, they're pretty foundational in the moment, they actually find it really hard, but I just don't think our generation has really been taught that very much and so there's so much of this, like, Why didn't you know what I was thinking, or how could you possibly have said that to me, because having coached heaps and heaps
of, like, super senior people in workplaces, we all just assume, people have the same kind of innate values as us. So Mads, when you say something that, I think is hurtful, if I didn't have this understanding of everyone kind of working differently, I would be like, well, you knew that was going to hurt me and you did that for the purpose of hurting me. And that's just like how most adults are walking through the world at the moment.
I think it would be fun to go through kind of the energy types for kids and maybe some things to like consider, but I also wanted to just go full like cosmic coach on this and fall into what I believe or. Or what the different healers or practitioners I've sought out have kind of shown me. And so it's this notion that in human design, you have your strategy and your authority.
And like, that's really what you want to be protecting for your children and implementing them, the skills to like, listen out for, right? Like, what is the. Sound of your unique intuition, because it just means you're raising little humans who knew how to make decisions from their core truth. But I also then like have had past life regressions and have seen patterns repeat throughout my relationship dynamics that have like been implemented from, when I was a teenager.
And I don't necessarily know if like knowing my strategy and authority would have prevented or like. Remove me from those things. Like, I do think we sign up for a life, like we sign up with this soul. We're here to be humans. Like no amount of knowing our human design is going to take that away from us. So think your life is a great example of that.
Yeah, and I'm a 1 3, like, the 3 is literally designed to bump into life, like, I am the most, like, bruised and battered person I know with life, you know, and I love it, like, because that's my alignment. I love you said this episode being like, hi, I know all about my human design and I've had a mental breakdown this week. Like, I guess that's what I'm saying is like, it'll just. It's just. another tool, kit, The toolkit. But another one.
Sure. no. So that wounding they sign up for or that past like soul progression they're working through or whatever, like that's kind of out of our control, I believe. but when it comes to what's your role again, it's like, we don't tell people who they are. We can just share what the material says and they get to experiment with it themselves. Just like we do as adults.
So it's like, Oh, you know, when it comes to generators, that notion of, is it this or that, yes or no, you can trust that if it's a no, like that's because your body understands. It's not right. Like we can inform that way and, allow them to be their own. I don't know what, like, authority, Yeah. Their own authority. There's already a word for it. And when it comes to manifestos, it's really amazing because manifestos come into the world being like capable of doing it themselves.
And then that's so complex because we live in a society where adults. Don't really trust that in their mechanics. So the thing, when you have manifested children, it's explaining to them that actually the thing that's going to lead them to fee being in their alignment is teaching them manners. And that obviously sounds so obvious because we want to teach all kids manners, but it's this thing that rah, who is the founder of human design says, no, one's going to get in the way.
Of a manifestos vision when they've been granted permission. So a manifesto can do it, but if you encourage them to say, I would like to, or may I go and then everyone else goes, ah, amazing, like good manifesto, of course, off you go. So letting them. Seek the permission that they don't really need energetically is a really good way around this notion when we're like dealing with how you raising these little humans and then manifesting generators.
It's like just making space for all their energy. It's the same with the generator of the yes and the no, but it's really like what, like with generators, what are the things they love doing? Where is the joy in letting them spend time there? And the MGs, it's like letting them do all, letting them have lots of curriculum out of, Co curricular activities or spreading their wings. Like if they're done, they're done because they've taken what they need to it. Just like an adult would.
So maybe not signing them up for 12 weeks of karate, maybe just allowing them to be the ones that buy the weekly pass or like, Encouraging them that it's okay to move on and then project is like Ellen said, the rest is so, so massive and even just like being a custodian of the rest because I think also projectors can get really like riled up if they're around their other kind of energy being friends and just like being, really like vocal about how important that downtime is And also listening
like for a projector, like they, they're the guides are here to guide us. They're literally like the new CEO energy. Like, if you can, as a parent, like put down your phone and give your projector your all. Cause they, they want to like zone in with their aura. They want to connect with you one on one and even with parents, right. If you have a projector child, it might be worth spending time with the kid alone.
Like, not all three of you, but like one parent at a time to really foster that dynamic and letting them be seen by you individually, especially with, if there are other siblings flying around and then our reflectors, it's like, they are going to feel different. in every situation they're put in.
So instead of having to define exactly who they are, getting them to ask, like asking them, like, where do you enjoy being, which environments you enjoy spending time in and letting that be a really healthy, normal question. And. Owning or trusting holding space. If they say like, I don't like it there. Like that is actually massive because they are going to be like literally reflecting back who they're around. So again, it's like, where can you be a protector for your kids.
Because it's actually just letting them get stronger in that muscle of what. Alignment or that feels like to be themselves. So then when they're in situations that don't feel good it's like easier to get out of. And like, who's to say, like, I think about, being bullied and like, maybe if my intuition was stronger, I would have gotten out of that quicker I don't regret it because, if I hadn't learnt it there, I would have learnt it somewhere else.
So that's why I don't feel like you can go wrong. yeah, and I think there's an interesting assumption in the question and I see this come up all the time, this belief that it has to be hard to be good cause I think of it in two ways, I think when we look back on life. Like some of the things that were hard for us, we have had learnings from, but that doesn't mean that we have to experience things in these really hard ways to be able to learn.
And in fact, the kind of adult learning research would say. That it's very possible to learn through positive experiences or positive reinforcement, and I do think we get stuck in the really gritty hard stuff and like, kids just need to suck it up and it's interesting Dr. Becky from Good Inside, who's She's one of the most amazing child psychologists on the internet and has some books that I haven't read, but think I was about to, I need to.
She says that the thing she hears from parents the most is that they are worried about their children becoming entitled. And there's like a fairness in that. But it's like sometimes in the desire to make sure your child's not entitled. We think we're going to do them a service by like, not taking away obstacles for them. And there's like a real tension in that.
Like, and I do think this kind of ability to, for, to help your child know what they need and encouraging them to tell you, and then listening to it. So our projector just said, Hey, I've actually been going to after school care four days a week. And like we had previously been doing three. And he was like, that's a bit too much. And it would have been really easy to be like, well, what an entitled little shit. But I was like, Oh fuck. Yeah. He is getting pretty tired.
Like , I don't really know how we're going to manage that, but I'm actually going to really look at that and see if I can make any changes because that's a really good insight from him. That is so amazing. And it's actually made me think, like, actually the times where I have felt mum and dad have thought of me as entitled, or maybe they've even voiced it, has been me trying to say, like, I am unhappy. It's not working. Like, can't you validate that they're not working?
Is bad and actually like, when I'm in my joy or like following the thing and like actually putting so much work in because of course I want to, because it's like giving me energy back. Therefore, it is me in my design, then yeah, it's actually, it's like a cry for help as opposed to an actual reality. Yeah, for sure. I don't know what Dr. Becky has to say about entitlement. I guess I should read her book. I feel like that kind of is our parents generation.
Like, I almost feel like our generation is going the opposite way where we are more. In the, protection realm, but maybe that's just my algorithm, you know, like, I think that can really Oh yeah, I think there's an echo chamber, but also I actually do a keynote On this in the leadership space, which is we like moved away from command and control being the leadership style.
And so we kind of get all the positive psychology stuff and the strengths based stuff, but we actually don't know what to do when it doesn't go right. And you don't know this, but in that keynote, I actually talk about how that also has happened in parenting. We don't have the toolkit. And I actually tell the story of the time that you and mom and dad were with my eldest at the train station and they were telling him not to step over the yellow line.
He was like three and he wasn't listening to them because he was sorry. they knew that if they yelled at him, or hit him, or like, did all the kind of things that would have been good, like, the parenting they were actually taught, that I'd be mad at them. so they didn't know what to do, but also, like, he was doing something dangerous, like, it was dangerous. And you told me that you just, like, took his hand And were like, come over here. God, I'm an amazing aunt. I had no idea.
but it's like, yeah, you can like touch him, and you can like tell him that that's not safe and you can physically, you know, move him if it's not safe. But I just think it's like such a good little capsule of, we know you don't want us to do this other stuff, but like, what the fuck do we do now? And so do think our generation is still worried about our kids being entitled, but we like, don't know. What to do about it. but what benefit would my son have from.
not learning early on that he needs to rest. I just think he's going to go through, like, he's going to have to navigate fucking TikTok and cyberbullying and climate change and , sexuality and, there's plenty of stuff. Like, why not give him the foundation that he knows that he needs more rest than other people do? Like, what can that possibly do taking from him? I think that's really nice. Like coming back to the fact, this is literally just like, how does your body best function?
Don't worry about the plot lines that are coming your way. Just what do you like, like in the way that we learn nutrition now, we can learn our design Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. I think that's a really good. summary. Yeah, I was like, we don't need our kids to like, not know they need to be well hydrated so that they could like, learn life skills. And I think it, out there. I don't, day. yeah, like whatever.
Yeah, we teach them a whole base of like foundational survival skills and like emotional regulation is just one of them. And human design doesn't have to be the way that you do it. But I think there's just something about if we actually just, Let our kids know themselves and we listen to them as the experts in them. That could be really huge. And I will just end on Ra, the founder always said we're dinosaurs. It's too late for us. Of course it's not. But like this actually is for the kids.
no coincidence that our generation are the ones that are like kind of obsessed with these tools because we get to pass them on. Anyway, I look forward to my children finding this episode when they're doing therapy in their twenties and they can tell me all the things I didn't get quite right. I can't wait for that gossip. I love gossip. Okay. Oh my God. Should we hear from the moon? Yes, let's do it. today we have the full moon eclipse.
Inclusions are within reach and the attuned to the moon is that which is meant for me, will not pass me by. Ah, see, there's nothing you can do that's going to stop that destiny hurtling towards us, all your children. Seed control and let events unfold and meditation, pranayama and yoga nidra all recommended now. full Mean eclipse. And just like that, a door slam shut.
If you've pulled this card, it suggests that the situation you're asking is about to reach your peak or has just done so and things are now out of your hands. What you are experiencing now is what your soul signed up for. A way for you to learn and for your soul to evolve. So allow events to unfold and be easy on yourself. If you're letting go of someone or something, know that it's the right time, as hard as it might be.
Forgiving someone for what they did, could be the key to resolving this situation in a positive way. It doesn't make right what they did, but it releases it so you can move on. There you go. Oh, but the soul needs to learn. Okay, let's get you out of here. You've got to go. All right. love you. too. Bye. Bye. Bye.