Hello, Tazo. Hey, Taura and
I'm Jermaine and welcome
back to Cities Hush Podcast. You know, previously goes, we talk about manifesting today. I want to talk about something similar but not quite our intuition. Intuition. OK. OK. First of all, what do you know about intuition and
a curse?
My goodness
intuition is that tingle, tingle that you get in your gut right down in my stomach. Here usually tells me if something is wrong or something is
right. Right. You know how they say people have five senses. I think intuition is women's six I six sense women only. Yeah. Actually, I think it's skewed towards women. I mean, correct me if I'm wrong. But I've always felt like the woman's sixth sense. It's kind of stronger than the men's interesting.
OK. Let's start with a simple question. Right. OK. Do you to listen to your head or your heart? This
is such a tough question. I listen to my heart. Unfortunately, it is hard for me
here. Can you answer for me? You listen to your heart?
Sure. So did you know that the term intuition has no scientific evidence behind it? It is like a happy little coincidence that intuition, the definition of it, it is entirely intuitive. So it's a feeling, you know what I mean? It's
not a verb, it's a fee. So we don't even know if it's real or not
because it's basically that little voice at the back of a head that tells you to trust or to be wary of something. Right? You can't even explain this little voice and it's a combination of experiences, observation, emotional intelligence and our subconscious analysis.
I mean, who's to say whether it's right or wrong? At the end of the day, you make that decision and you live the consequences of it, right?
No. But what I found really interesting was scientists and psychologists. They have come to this theory that women because we historically have had lower social power. This is why we have stronger intuition because we spent all our time reading the room absorbing the social cues. So we are better with telling how this person feels or am I gonna be in trouble if I get too near to this person?
And in society, of course, we we possess a natural inclination to be more in touch with people's emotions, not just our own. Like I'm a hyper sensitive kind of girl man. I watch a movie last night and I cried for one hour straight. What movie you watch this Chinese movie were very sad if I tell you women are just so hyper sensitive, don't you
think I think we're very in touch with our emotions. But I do think that both women and men can have intuition. It's just that because women are more in touch with our emotions and our feelings, right? Whereas men are more logical and rational thinking creatures, they gear more towards like, is this logical? Right? Which is nothing wrong with that question? Do you also think it's because we're a little bit
more observant? You know? It's like how if you're mad with your partner because to you, it's like clear as day that you did this or you said this, obviously, they will never know. Right? Because they just don't pick out these things. So is it because we are a little bit more observant? And that's why we pick up the smallest things and then we add them all up together.
On the other hand, if our partner has had a bad day, he comes home, I mean, as the girl will know right away, there's something's wrong, right? So, but how come they, you come
home with a bad day? He won't know. And then you get angrier like
hello? He asked to drink more water. The solution
to everything is drink more water. Trust me, the solution to a lot of things is drink more water but not to the end of a bad day. But I think it's just that because women, I guess express our feelings or are more in touch with our emotions we're able to be attuned to our intuition a little bit more but not saying that men aren't. We feel shifts in energy maybe a little bit better perhaps.
You know, like somebody says something a different way one time or one day and you're like, something is not right. And people tend to pass it off as like you're reading too much, do it, you're overthinking it, you're being crazy and one day the truth comes out and we were
right. And don't you think you of us as host, we are able to read the room a little bit better. Like we have enhanced skills in this for, we know when our guests are feeling good or when they're not
or uncomfortable or they need a break and things like that.
So when does your intuition radar light up goes? Oh,
actually it's usually when I'm meeting new people for the first time. Right. It can be in a work setting or personal setting when I meet them. I'm kind of reading them, not through their physical attributes but through the energy and aura that they're giving off. And I kind of know, ok. Do I want to get to know this person more or is this person talking to me for a reason for an advantage or something like that? That's what I'm trying to read?
Ok. We're meeting new people. Agree. How about you? I
don't, actually, I feel like when I meet new people, I'm a little bit more not thinking,
oh, because you're not trusting you giving. But I know your senses kick in after like, you will know whether this person is good or not after a while, after a while.
Yes, because I think we spoke about this the other time. Remember the ranking of like friendship? And I think for me it starts at the bottom and if it's at the bottom, right, it doesn't matter to me. Like if you're irritating, then maybe like I probably won't see you again or if I have to see you again, I just like, whatever doesn't matter to me. But if it progresses and then we got to start evaluating like you deserve to be promoted. Interesting. OK.
Right. OK. So this is something someone said online every time I had a bad feeling about someone, it turned out to be true when I first started talking to my. Now ex I sometimes felt that something was off. I used to have a lot of anxiety around him. I even remember thinking something is wrong with this guy, but I don't know what, even though he acted super soon, super carrying, he was generous, bought me gifts, offered to pay for things such as plane tickets, etc plane tickets.
So they were in the LDA long distance relationship. But this girl, she eventually decided to shove a bad feelings aside and ignore them and continue being together with this guy a year later. She discovered that he was a narcissist. He was manipulative and had been emotionally abusing and gas lighting her all at the same time. So her gut feeling was right. Her intuition was
right. Actually, my friend just told me a very similar story. Her boyfriend actually was gas lighting her for like over a year. He was in two relationships at once and basically they stay in the blocks next to each other. So he was just going back and forth, back and forth that house, this house, that house, this house, two
different women in
each and every day, she would be like, what's wrong? Are you cheating on me? You must be cheating on me. And he would just straight out say, are you crazy? Like, are you crazy? Why would you think that and turns out he was and she and her intuition and her friends intuition all told them it is true. But until the truth comes out, yeah,
sometimes love is blind. Sometimes just refuse to believe that the other half is cheating. But if you don't see
the evidence, right? And this person that you love so much, you trust so much or you want to trust is telling you I'm not cheating on you. You want to believe that. Yeah. And because it's an intuition, you can't prove it either. I know it somewhere. Something as a feel, right. But I don't have anything to work with
like this girl from online she says, I knew in my gut that my ex was cheating. I just had no evidence. He was really good at covering his tracks. I had full access to his phone and I knew his password etc, but this cheating people, they can always cover their tracks anyway. So this girl, she managed to get evidence while she was away on vacation. So she dumped his ass and level up. She says, I believe in my intuition. 100%. I love that. This is MC main character energy. Absolutely.
I want to know like how he was hiding it and how she found it.
Yeah, if you have full access to this person's phone, then
how OK, let me share with you a story. Ok. I was at a crossroads in
life or like an extra
movie junction that no, no, I don't go out and the sun is out. Remember vampire?
OK. What
crossroads? I was at a crossroads alive in life. I had a decision to make and I couldn't like, you know, some decisions you just wanna, you want to follow your heart but your head is telling you something else, you know all the time, correct? Can we have more details? I'm very lost. OK. You're making a decision about a person. OK. OK. OK. OK. Like let's say hazy and I, and I'm deciding whether to keep her in my life. Ok. Yes. And it was just a nagging feeling that I will not find
another hazy which I won't love by the way. OK. Yeah. OK. But it was a nagging feeling and I couldn't let it go. So I actually asked this person and I said, when you can't ignore your gut, what do you do? Like if you think about it? Have you ever heard anyone say shit? Man? I shouldn't have listened to my God. No, you hear people say shit. I should have listened to my God. That's true. And I was like that must count for something. No, it is true. Yeah.
So more often than not listening to your gut probably is the right thing to do. We're not saying it's 100 accurate. I'm sure someone has made some mistake by listening to the God. But there's a reason
and this intuition in women somehow I feel like this unique energy actually strengthens bonds between girls. Yeah, I mean we share so many things girl math girl cos shit like that. There have been so many instances where women in tuition or six sense actually helped each other out. So for example, this girl, she was at the club with her friends and a guy was trying to dance with her, but she showed no interest, right?
But this guy got so persistent and another group of girls saw immediately pulled her into the circle and protected her the whole night. I love that, right. This is intuition
kicking in, I'll do that any time for any girl? Yeah.
Are there any like special moments like these where you felt like your sixth sense and your intuition between yourself and another goal? Just help you become friends.
Not so serious, not on such a serious note. But I think more of just when a woman's intuition makes her reach out to you. So what happened was I was living overseas and I was dating someone that was here but it was like, it was a relationship. I was like, casual, you know, and I didn't post anything about this person. This person didn't post anything about me. So it looked like probably we had broken up. So this girl that I know in Singapore she was on Tinder and she came across
his profile on Tinder. If I put myself in her position, I would just think, oh, maybe they already broken up. That's why he's on Tinder. Ok. But something I think in her compelled her to reach out to me and let me know. And that's how I found out that he was on Tinder while we were still in a relationship. She could have just ignored that feeling and it could have gone away. But she felt compelled to come and tell me about it even though I was like, miles and miles away. Yeah. Oh,
that's nice. That's nice for me. Maybe it's more of in a work setting. So we have this new colleague from the radio competition. She came in second she joined us on the evening drive time show. Her name is E and I feel like, you know, your
show is three now. Girl, it's been a while.
It's been like one year, baby.
You're joking. No, you're joking. It's been
one year. She joined us for the entire way. You know,
like so many times she's
this petite girl, super cute. But we gel and we bond so well because of our sixth sense. Like we think the same things in many aspects even when it comes to the show, I mean, some might call it chemistry. But also I think being a girl, girl thing, it plays a huge part. I
saw a Tik Tok account actually of these best friends, two girls. Ok? And then they did this video and they were like we became friends to because we dated the same guy. Wait, wow.
And I, I just have to know at the same time or what. I
can't remember that. No, I've seen a lot of like, oh, I'm friends with my ex ex. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Like sisters. That's a bit weird.
I have a friend. Ok. So she dated this guy that she didn't know a lot of money. And one day my friend received a text from her boyfriend's ex girlfriend. Ok, so let's call my friend A and the ex girlfriend. B so B comes up to A and say, hey, I know you're dating this guy. I hope you're happy and shit. But can you please get him to return me my money? So, a is like what my boyfriend owes you money. When was this? And how much does he owe you? So,
after finding out like so many things, right? A realized that her boyfriend doesn't just ob money, he owes a lot of people out there. Yeah. And it's only because B came up to tell her about it. Oh my God. In the end, I think they kind of like bonded over this tragic incident and b eventually told a, you know, think about it. If he's not for you just let it go. Did they break up? They did, they've broken up now. So I think this is quite sweet in a
way. No, I really believe that girls can be there for each other and we can kind of sense when another girl is in danger. Like for example, they have this thing where let's say you are having conversation, right? And I give you a look, you know what kind of book it is. But if I give you this look, I'm like,
oh you think this guy is cute? I give
you this look,
this guy,
you see, so you get a look, right? I mean, girls are so in tune with each other.
I love that. But the thing about intuition is that there's no scientific meaning behind it. So sometimes it clashes with our mind. Oh
my gosh, actually I saw this thing, ok. This woman, her husband had died basically in a crash. I can't remember what crash it was. I feel like it was a helicopter crash. Oh, gosh. And she said even before it happened, she knew and it was so strange because when they turned up at her house it was like your husband is dead. She's like, I know. And they were like, no, you're not, you're not hearing us like sit down, your husband is dead. And she was like,
I know because she had a gut feeling. She had a gut
feeling. Plus like, you know, when things don't add up or when things are a little bit off because we're so hyper sensitive to it. People always say we're overthinking but they all add up. There's a reason why you were like, you know, focus on this thing that was out of place or something like that.
You know, I used to be so afraid of losing my grandma to the extent that every time I received a call from my house, I would think, oh my God, is this my dad calling me to tell me my grandma has died. No, I would be so scared. And then when I pick up the call, it's just my dad asked, give me what I will be home. They'll be like, oh luckily this is where my gut feeling is wrong. But sometimes I'm just so sensitive that I trust it too
much. But there are pros and cons obviously to being so observant, so hyper sensitive, always thinking about everything, right. And it can cause a lot of mental stress and pressure as well. For sure. Have you ever heard of something also called like a mother's intuition, intuition? Mother, mother knows best. That's what they say. They say mother's intuitions when your senses heightened, when you become a mother and whatever in relation to your child, you just have a heightened sense of gut feel.
But it's because you want to protect your child. Right. I'm sure. Yeah, there
was once my mother, I came home and she looked at me, she was like, ok, I'm fine. Mother's intuition. I was like, why? And she was like, I just have a feeling in my heart like something does not feel right. I don't know what it is. But are you ok? I'm fine. And then apparently it was my dad la like something happened I think. So. She had a feeling that something was not right, but she didn't know she didn't. Right. Right. It wasn't me. Right.
Well, speaking of this, mother's intuition is real. I just recall recently. So I just ended a relationship, right? And I didn't even speak to my parents about this. Not a single word but one time, one weekend I went home and my mom was like, trying to test the waters. Hey, haven't seen this person in so long. How are you guys doing? And I'm like, my mom is crazy like she knows that, but I didn't even breathe a single word and there's no way my sister would have told her about it.
No way. OK. So this is a story from our PD. I think it is very interesting. Nothing to do with mother daughter, more of like in a relationship kind of context. She says I used to be close friends with this girl. I always had a not necessarily bad feeling but a weird feeling about her. Over the years, there were instances where I felt that she flirted with every boy I was interested in. But because of our close friendship, I trusted her and gave her the benefit of the doubt.
But very recently it proved to be true. I discovered that she had slept with a boy I liked at that time. It's like, ok, it happened years ago. But can you imagine me opening up to her about it? And then she's sleeping with him behind my back? I think there's like red flag man, but I think they're still in touch now which baffles me. But our PD says it's tough because they are both bridesmaids for this other friend's wedding. So they still have to see
each other. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. This our PD that, that one
she's called out. You have a question. Sorry, this has nothing to do with anything gut feel or anything. But just wondering OK. Now A has expressed her interest in this guy to be but it just so happened that let's say B was not after him, but he hit on her for example, she's supposed to say no just because she knows that her friend likes him. But this girl called what? I it's, it's a lot then
I feel like you shouldn't because if you don't have to
like, like, like, like real feelings, if a really has real feelings for this person, understand it's
girl code. But then again, has there been a time where your intuition influence your relationship? So it has that for me, I was in this relationship and towards the tail end of it, right? I just felt like he wasn't that into me anymore. Yeah, of course, I didn't go about like, looking through his staff, his phone and everything, but it's just a feeling, you know, and I trusted that feeling I broke up. It was a mutual breakup but it was, it was great. Like
it was a happy breakup I would say. And then two months later he got attached with the girl that I felt like he bonded better with. I mean, nothing against that, nothing against that. But it's just that I'm glad I trusted my intuition and they're still together now. Very happy. I'm very happy for them. Wow. Wow. So that's my sixth sense kicking in.
No, it's true. It's really true. And so we all know that. First of all, I'm not a jealous person. Secondly, I can't be fucked. I won't take your phone, whatever. Obviously, I can't be found. But we also know that I was once cheated on. It was a gut feel that something was not right. And I had to check something and I've never done it.
So, what do you check his phone? No, no, no,
we know this. Remember? Do you not know
that you mentioned this? I got one
of the episodes. I please do not learn from me. I don't think you can do this anymore right now. But last time you can log into somebody's whatsapp on web and it doesn't show on their phone, they will never know. Damn. Damn. Yeah. So he left the room. I scanned quickly. Fellow left. OK, I went through and I found it. I was like,
uh also make sure to check the archives chats. Sometimes they hide it there. Oh my God,
sorry. It's true. So, so your intuition was right? 100%. But what about his actions showed you that something was happening almost nothing.
Wow, this is how, you know, he's a pro confirm on the first time he's done this and
also her intuition is really spot on a bit scary. Yeah, I don, I don't know, has been like really, really wrong in that sense. But I think it's one thing to have intuition. It's another to act on it like he did with your ex. Yeah, I think that was very brief of you. Thank you. But there are sometimes when your intuition, I think over reading into things can betray you, right?
Because we are just so emotional and sometimes we let that get the better of us and that sort of overrides our intuition a bit. I think it's also very important to strike a balance between intuition and not letting our over analytical tendencies cloud our judgment. True.
I'm guilty of overthinking, right? Like sometimes my boyfriend told me something and then I overthink about it so much and you can see it in my eyes. I'm just like staring at the ceiling and I'm going like, and I'm just silent and then he would just pull me in the heart. He'd be like, don't overthink it. It's nothing more than that. I don't know. It's really tough. Like I analyze these
things and, you know, I have theories for them. I look into every single thing and people would say, you know, don't overthink it or you don't have to read into every single thing. It's really not that hard or it's really not that serious. It's just, you know, but it will turn out that way. Yeah, like over time it will just prove to be right, whatever I was thinking so we
can use this as a tool to help us in our decision making process. For example, buying your home. I think we have to rely strongly on our intuition. Like, I have a friend who bought a home recently. She was telling me that the moment she stepped into that piece, she gasped, she went, like, and that's how she knew this place was right for her because out of all the other places that she's been in, none of them gave her this feeling. Right.
Even though they were like better places out there. But she, she just like this place. It's just a feeling. I think buying cars for men as well in tuition is a big part, right? What other things are
like when you interview for a job? Yeah, I think you can kind of sense. Is this place gonna be right for you? Is it going to be the right fit? Right? Sometimes you know, it's not the right fit but you go for it because you want the money or you want this or that, but then you end up miserable, right?
But I think with anything, try to give it a chance as well because if you are guilty of overthinking, you may just overthink yourself into like nothingness right into confusion and just confuse yourself sometimes, then you might, you know, because you're so tunnel vision, then you miss all the experience around it.
I agree. And while intuition is very strong, is very powerful, I just want to gently remind all of us listening to Harsh podcast that it is not always right. No, we have to remember this. Our gut feeling isn't always right. So act carefully. OK? Don't act rashly
at the end of the day, you wait it out, your head, your heart, your gut was the saying. And at the end of the day, it's like everything else in life, right? Whatever decision you make, you got to live with it. Yeah, I think if you are just going through every day in your life, not reflecting about what you observe, what you see. Some people could afford to be a bit more intuitive and a bit more present and mindful of what's going on around you, right?
Sometimes put that phone down, take a look around the room, sense the vibe, sense the energy there.
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