This is the #1 thing I coach people on: Why you can know what to do, but you just don't do it consistently. Join me for the June Workshop replay, where I break down how and why this shows up with your habits, food, addressing emotional eating, and especially the impact of trauma. Keep listening and you'll walk away with fierce clarity about why things haven't been working consistently for you, and how to shift it asap. When you're ready to jumpstart your health journey and lose 30 pounds by the ...
Jul 24, 2025•1 hr 13 min
If you’ve ever heard a success story and thought: “That’s great for them… but will this work for me?” Today's episode is for you. Because that question is real. It’s tender. And it’s often rooted in fear and self-doubt—especially if you’ve tried other things before and didn’t get the results you wanted. In this episode, I’ll help you: Understand why that question is so common for people healing from toxic patterns. Shift from “Will this work for me?” to “I WILL figure this out!” Start building b...
Jul 22, 2025•29 min•Season 2Ep. 147
One of the hardest things for narc-survivors is to give themselves what they truly want. This is because what they want might feel like: It's at odds with what other people want, It's at odd with what other people want for them, They've spent so much time stuffing down their desires, they've forgotten what that even feels like. They've been shamed for their desires or goals, and have therefore learned to stuff them down. And one of the biggest reasons I see (women especially) backing down from t...
Jul 16, 2025•35 min•Season 2Ep. 146
This might just break your brain a little, because I've spent a lot of time telling you weight loss is easy. And while I still believe that, I also know: 1. Weight loss is simple, but it won't always feel easy in the moment . And 2. It won't feel 'easy' because I'm asking you to explore your thoughts and feelings, instead of railroading over them and just reaching for food. Sometimes weight loss will feel hard, not because of what you're doing in the gym, or what you're cutting out of your eatin...
Jul 15, 2025•19 min
We’re halfway through the year — and I know for so many women, the first half didn’t go the way you hoped. Maybe you started off strong but lost momentum. Maybe life, stress, or old patterns took over. Maybe you’re tired of the shame cycle — with your body, your habits, and your confidence. But what if you could finish the year 30 pounds lighter — and 10x more confident — without dieting, punishing workouts, or starting over again in January? If you’re thinking “this is exactly what I need” — I ...
Jul 08, 2025•34 min•Season 2Ep. 145
ALL human brains are wired for safety. But because of the childhood trauma and dysfunctional patterns you grew up with, that wiring is intensified in your brain. ‘Creating safety’ is what guides ALL your decisions, to the point that it’s prioritized over achieving new goals (like weight loss). The core issue is that safety feels OUT of your control; You don’t realize it, but you learned to rely on an UNSTABLE person to create that sense of safety, which only leaves you pleasing and appeasing, tr...
Jul 04, 2025•24 min•Season 2Ep. 144
Shame is one of the most powerful weapons a narcissist uses to control you. And they use it because it works. You REALLY don’t like feeling ashamed. But often they try to shame you, because THEY feel ashamed and they have such resistance to feeling it. And so what we've learned as the abuse cycle is actually the "shame-avoidance cycle." Shame gets you to shut down, shut up, and get in line... so they can feel better when their shame gets activated. But long after you've left the narcissistic dyn...
Jul 03, 2025•45 min•Season 2Ep. 143
Abandonment is such a powerful wound toxic people use to control and manipulate you. You're afraid of losing someone's love, praise, validation, or even physical presence, so you bend over backwards trying to please them, in the hopes that they'll stay. Even when you know they're not the right fit. Even when it goes against what you truly want. The problem is that you end up abandoning yourself. Not just in that moment, but in giving up on your future hopes, goals, and dreams. It's time to break...
Jul 02, 2025•25 min•Season 2Ep. 142
If you’ve been stuck doubting yourself and your ability to believe you can lose weight and keep it off long-term, you’re not alone. But here’s something your brain might not know yet: That constant need for evidence? The belief that you can’t trust yourself without seeing proof first? That’s not logic. That’s not you being cautious or “smart.” That’s trauma . Specifically, it’s how your brain was trained in emotionally abusive or neglectful environments—especially in relationships with narcissis...
Jul 01, 2025•24 min•Season 2Ep. 141
Emotional eating is such a common habit to have after experiencing an emotionally abusive or emotionally neglectful relationship. Not just because we use food to escape difficult people and circumstances, But because those dysfunctional relationships taught us that our emotions were wrong, bad, not allowed, or completely dismissed. So even after you leave or change the relationship dynamic, you're still afraid of certain emotions. It's not safe to have them or feel them. So what do you do? You e...
Jun 30, 2025•27 min•Season 2Ep. 140
This week we are decoding toxic relationship patterns with people and food! Have you ever asked yourself “why does this keep happening to me?!” Maybe it comes after a string of bad relationships. Maybe it comes after losing and regaining the same 30 pounds over and over again. Either way, the solution is actually the same. Keep listening to learn how to break this cycle in your own life, so that you can: Lose weight AND keep it off for life, and Finally create a healthy, secure, and loving relat...
Jun 24, 2025•33 min•Season 2Ep. 139
One of the biggest desires I hear is: "I want to get their voice out of my head." Sometimes it's a parent or family member, sometimes it's an ex girlfriend, boyfriend, or spouse, but regardless of who it is, or how long ago the relationship dynamic changed, Their voice can still sound really loud in your head. And if you let it, it will hold you back from creating new things. Keep listening to today's episode to learn more about why it's so hard to get rid of these voices, and how to truly chang...
Jun 18, 2025•40 min•Season 2Ep. 138
Do you find you can be so good sticking with your plan Mon-Thur... But Friday night rolls around, and despite your best intentions that morning... You're off the rails the whole weekend. Monday morning rolls around and you’ve now re-gained those 2 pounds you lost the week before. Frustrated, you resign yourself to getting back on the wagon, this time you’re reeeally committed to keeping it together over the weekend. But no matter how hard you try, it never seems to work. We often see this as sel...
Jun 10, 2025•22 min•Season 2Ep. 137
Your past dysfunctional relationships aren't just impacting your ability to lose weight... They're impacting your ability to believe in yourself; Your ability to believe new things before you have the evidence, which is by far THE HARDEST thing you will ever do as a narc-survivor. To believe when you don't have any evidence to support it yet. This is why it's so hard to let go of coping mechanisms (like food, alcohol, dating apps, or other toxic people). It's why it's so hard to get your ex's vo...
Jun 05, 2025•26 min•Season 2Ep. 136
So often we use failure against ourselves; as a reason to believe we CAN'T do achieve a goal. But what if failure helped you believe MORE in yourself and your goals? It sounds so counterintuitive, but is exactly what's needed to overcome perfectionism, self-sabotage, and the pit of shame that shuts you down. The problem is we don't know how to deal with failure, because we think it shouldn't be happening. Keep listening for more on how to reframe and break through negative thought cycles and lea...
May 21, 2025•23 min•Season 2Ep. 135
So many of us believe that what we eat or how/how much we exercise are the most importnt drivers of weight loss. But the reality is momentum and the compound effect are far more impactful. What pulls us out of momentum are "little quits" - you still want to lose weight or stop emotionally eating, but you start to doubt you'll be able to hit your goal for a particular week or month. You unintentionally pull back, because the underlying thought is "I won't hit this goal, so why bother keep trying?...
Apr 23, 2025•30 min•Season 2Ep. 134
How many times have you told yourself: “I know what to do, I’m just not doing it…” If you’re like most people, probably dozens! This is a very common obstacle and there are several angles you need to address. But the #1 most important, yet most underutilized is: Identifying the “downside” of losing weight. It doesn’t make any sense to your conscious brain - of course you want to lose weight! But subconsciously , something is unsafe about weight loss. And that something often has to do with relat...
Apr 15, 2025•28 min•Season 2Ep. 133
One of the most powerful things my coach said to me during a really hard time of my divorce was: "You are getting everything you want, even if it feels terrible in this moment." It was such a powerful reminder that various parts of life and this journey won't always feel "amazing" or even "good" or "easy," but it's all part fo the process of creating something new. And when you stop fighting, stop resisting those emotions, you create such a more enjoyable process as you achieve new goals. This i...
Apr 08, 2025•30 min
Shame is one of those really hard emotions. We do a lot to avoid it, because it’s not just “I did a bad thing,” it’s “I AM a bad person.” We can feel shame about our bodies, regaining weight, binge eating, overeating, marriage struggles, past trauma, abuse, divorce, overspending, debt, sex… The list is endless. The problem is that we typically want to hide from shame → it creates so much emotional pain, we can’t bear the sight of it. So we stuff it down, we avoid it, resist it, fight it. But whe...
Apr 01, 2025•42 min•Season 2Ep. 132
One of the most common misconceptions about weight loss is thinking we just need more willpower. And on the surface, it sounds logical. If I have more willpower → THEN I can stick with my diet → THEN I can actually lose the weight. The problem is that willpower fades, especially with dieting, and we seem to have less and less to work with. Not to mention, if we need willpower to lose the weight, we'll need willpower to keep it off. And because it's not unlimited and designed to only work in real...
Mar 26, 2025•35 min•Season 2Ep. 131
You were never meant to live trapped in toxic cycles – with food, alcohol, or weight loss – but right now that’s the only way you know how to feel better in the moment. But it doesn’t have to be this way. You deserve peace, confidence, and true freedom with food and your body – without punishing yourself. I know you want to: Lose weight and finally feel at home in your body, Feel at peace and in control around food, instead of at the mercy of your cravings, Stop bingeing on peanut butter, chips,...
Mar 24, 2025•10 min
Last night I had an urge to binge, but instead of these intense, insatiable urges, like in the past... It was more like a subtle whisper. A gentle nudge reminding me of cookies in the fridge that would make me "feel better" in the moment. I didn't need to willpower or white-knuckle my way through, because I've changed my identity around food. I'm no longer the woman who eats because she feels bad. This is possible for you, too. Keep listening to this week's episode as I explain how easy it was t...
Mar 21, 2025•28 min•Season 2Ep. 130
So often we're reaching for food and not physically hungry. This is how I define emotional eating - we're using food to self soothe and meet our emotional needs . My binging started when I was truly hungry for food, but trying to undereat and overexercise for years on end. It continued because food was then meeting emotional needs and desires I didn't know how to give myself. So often we're binging not just from physical starvation, but from emotional starvation. We're starved for love and affec...
Mar 14, 2025•27 min•Season 2Ep. 129
The "Restrict-Binge-Regret" Cycle is THE #1 reason we struggle so much with weight loss. It's not just about losing weight, but being able to keep it off long term. Never have we ever had more access to healthy food options, while simultaneously having the highest rates of obesity, diabetes, and other health conditions. Because it's not just about the food and knowing "what" to eat; we have to understand and decode our emotional eating and binge eating habits that stem from trauma, chronic dieti...
Mar 05, 2025•13 min•Season 2Ep. 128
If you're familiar with toxic relationship cycles, you've likely heard of a trauma bond with another person. This is often embedded within an emotionally abusive relationship, and makes leaving that relationship so incredibly difficult. But what you may not also realize is you likely have a trauma bond with food. Join me for this week's episode where I explain both patterns of a trauma bond: with people and with food. To see the full image, watch the video on YouTube: https://youtu.be/TANeRHbSwk...
Feb 25, 2025•35 min•Season 2Ep. 127
So often we hold back giving ourself what we want in life, because we've been told what we want isn't valid, is frivilous, or it doesn't count for one reason or another. Our wants and desires are diminished and we grow up thinking this is normal and how things should be. We learn to make decisions based on necessity, but not simply because we want it. Unless it comes to food - then we're really good at making decisions from desire. But what you'll find is the more you give yourself what you want...
Feb 20, 2025•34 min•Season 2Ep. 126
Holidays can be hard after divorce, especially a romantic holiday like Valentine's Day. Not only might there be negative emotions and memories associated with this day, but we're also often used to relying on someone else to meet our own emotional needs. But that's part of the cycle that keeps you stuck in toxic relationships, which is why it's time to break it. Listen in to today's episode for more on how to make any holiday special, regardless of your relationship status, and rewrite old stori...
Feb 18, 2025•29 min
We typically talk about toxic relationships with food and people as two completely separate concepts; however, these cycles are two sides of the same coin with the same root cause: codependency . Put another way = feeling not good enough. The beautiful part is that as you break one cycle, you naturally learn to break the other. Join me for this inaugural episode where I lay the foundation of putting together these two interdependent pieces of the puzzle. Ready to reclaim your self confidence and...
Feb 14, 2025•28 min•Season 2Ep. 125
Are you ready to end emotional eating, lose excess weight, and attract your dream partner—in a FUN, simple, and effective way? If you’ve ever found yourself stress-eating in the dark, when no one’s looking… or stuck in a toxic relationship that leaves you feeling like you’re “not enough,” you’re not alone. While these struggles may seem unrelated, they’re actually two sides of the same coin—both rooted in codependency and the deep-seated belief that you’re not good enough. The good news? When yo...
Feb 14, 2025•1 min
The Body You Crave Podcast is getting a makeover and an all new podcast is coming your way starting next week! Keep listening to this week's episode as I share more details of what's to come! It's about to get so good it doesn't make sense.
Feb 06, 2025•16 min•Season 1Ep. 124
