S3 Ep 87 Unlocking Your Soul Contract with Amelia Struthers

I'm joined by the amazing Amelia Struthers and we are unpacking all the juicy stuff how your name can shape your soul path , why certain people show up in your life for a reason , even the hard ones , and how karma , talents and free will all play a role into your growth .

We're also getting into the power of birth charts and parenting , healing family dynamics and how to show up more consciously in your relationships with your kids , your partner and yourself . And this episode is brought

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Where we heal , we expand and we get through together . Welcome back to how we Get Through . Today's guest is Amelia Struthers . Welcome , amelia . Hey , so good to be here . This is so good , okay . So I found you on TikTok because you were talking about soul contracts and I was like what the hell is that ? So I reached out to you to be on the podcast

and you were like girl , let's read your chart first before we do a podcast . And I'm like , okay , and so we've had a session together and it just feels so good to come back to you and your presence and really understand myself and my soul path . So I'm so excited to chat today .

You can go to that website and really do a deep dive and learn all about it , and you can also learn a lot about it by using the book your Soul Contract Decoded . So the way that I describe this is based on common knowledge that maybe you designed a few things before you came in right .

Yes , and I say so , you know astrology and you know human design and that stuff . That's like the make and model , like I'm going to have red paint and I'm going to have leather seats . I'm going to go around with this attitude and but what is the track you're on is that soul signature and that soul contract ?

So when you use the method that I use the soul contract you're actually looking at a picture of your soul contract and it looks like numbers on the Star of David , but those numbers are pulled from your birth name . So that's what that soul contract is .

It's the agreement you made when you came in the karma to clear from your soul's past lives or from generational karma ,

and that's really . It shows you what your work is in this lifetime so you usually take the birth name .

It's called an overlay . So a lot of women change their names when they get married . So oftentimes I'll look at the birth certificate chart first and then bring in the common name and do a side-by-side to say , okay , this is like a layer of frosting on that cake , it's giving you some extra information . Yeah exactly Love that word Totally .

And then another thing that can happen is you have that common name since you were born Like I never got married . No , believe me .

Every time you change your name you add this other little layer . But what really matters is what you're commonly being called all the time . So , for example , I had a nickname , my family called me and that has a chart of its own , but because it's not really used anymore , it's not , it's sort of dormant .

You can deliberately work with someone like me , a level three soul contract practitioner or a level two soul contract practitioner , and deliberately change your name and we work through all these different names and choose the one that has just the right number of vibration , the qualities that will help overlay and change some of that . That happens .

So that's a deliberate way . If you have something that comes in and you change your name and you look at it . I just did this with a woman not too long ago and her name was , um , like Christine , but everybody calls her Chris . So we looked at both of those . I said stop having people call you Chris .

You got to use Christine because there was a conflict with some of those vibrations not really helping out . So the answer is yes , it can go either way it either got it yeah , our causes like some friction .

where it lands in your chart . So when the numbers are in the karmic , there's two karmic positions we're going to say like at the three o'clock and the five o'clock position of that star of David right , those are the karmic areas . Those are negative , meant to turn positive .

Your common name from birth , because it's your common name from birth , it's not an extra name you put on . It has some of that vibe , some of that zhuzh the karma .

But you know your life , so we have to put it together . So that's why it's my job . I'm telling the therapist .

Those are the charts that we get and then we throw them in a drawer and forget about them . This chart I want my clients to be working with continuously and seeing how there's fluidity in there .

It has everything to do with being human ego , because you're coming , having to learn to be human again . So that physical downward chart is going to be about your outer world , your personality , relationships , job , just the outer world . So the points that that touches is like that three o'clock , point , six o'clock and we'll say 10 o'clock , something like that .

Right , the downward triangle , you can imagine that . And it has karma . So that's physical karma . It's what you came in with to heal and it could be like what I would ask you . So , when you were growing up , did you have any feeling of being disempowered ? Were there strong male influences in your life ?

I can't wait to see how you make your way through that . Yeah .

You are so smart to have these come in . Yours are 11-2s , so you're really good with systems and perspective and wisdom and just like all of that in your world , right ? People probably come to you to say is this a true thing ? Can I count on this ? And you're like , absolutely or absolutely not . You're just like that , right , a weathervane .

And look at what you do with this podcast . You're doing that for people , you're helping them find their way , but it's so positive that we pay no attention to it . It's just like blinking . How often did you think about blinking today , jen ? never , no , but were you good at it ? yeah , uh-huh the best I know , I believe it .

So , where that karma is , where the healing happens , the talents is where , um , as you're doing that healing , your talents come more and more and more online and I say to my clients I want you to activate those , I want you to step into them .

I want you to say every day and in this course that I teach the six-week , 40-days Soul Contract Deep Dive I say I want you to make a statement about your talents and I want you to say it every day . Pick a time every day when you're doing something else , because habits only only 40% of our habits require full attention .

So when you're walking the dog , make the statement . So , jen , you'd be like I can figure these systems out and I am so wise , right , just step into it . Yeah , take that , I love that . Yeah , so that's the talents .

Now we're going over here to the goals and as this talent is sort of pivoting you to heal , it's also pivoting you to like , step into these things that you really want to do . And guess what , holy moly , here is our 7-7 . A goal Perhaps To bring people together with information , maybe .

Maybe people want to come to you and you say , oh , I know what your heart's feeling .

Like I want you to go see this person , this person's amazing and specialized in this and like this blew me away , that they because even I've experienced people on the podcast just like you come into my life and bring this beautiful , like it's almost like holes in my like spirit , body and you just go boom and you fill a hole and I'm like , oh my god , thank

you so much like just a beautiful receiving of different aspects of self that you get to kind of enter into . And there's a vast variety of ways to do that and it's just been such a blessing .

I know we did some crying . I'll do cry again . Yeah , okay , we can do that . Because I also like to say when a seven comes into my space , so many people say I saw you in TikTok and I just knew it and it's like , yeah , your send masters are like nudging you to get the information .

But I also know that with your twos of seeing whether things are real trustworthy , and your sevens with your heart wound , needing you can't be around the nasty that , then I say I am so honored you had , on a cellular level , a knowing that you'd be okay here , and so I take that with a lot of respect and no fooling .

Those sevens are just like you can't see . It's more like this I'm out in the world with my mask right , and then you go home and go . Oh phew , I could

take the mask off , yes , yes .

So that is to continue the big question you asked me . So that's the goal . So you have karma , talents , goals in the physical downward facing triangle , and so that's what gets you out of bed in the morning , that I want to go , I want to bring people together , I want them to learn the things . So this is all in the outer world , right , the things .

So this is all in the outer world , right . And then we have the upper triangle , which is the spiritual triangle , which really comes online between the ages of 35 and 42 . We're right there . Yep , it goes knock , knock , hi , are you listening ? And the more you don't listen , the more chaotic your life could become .

I'm not going to say it's an absolute , but it really is the time when we kind of bring that soul self out again . So we go over it again . We've got karma down here on this side of the triangle , we've got talents over on this side of the triangle and goals up here at the top . Except now we're talking about something more profound .

It's not necessarily the vibrations aren't so much outward , they're more about your very divine , sacred practices . So , using you as a beautiful , obvious example , so you've got your 12-3 down here and your karma .

And I like to say to my 12-3s and I like to say to my 12 threes , who love to share , very loving , so would you give your socks to a stranger on the street ? Yeah , yes . And this is where I say not everybody would do that .

That's the 12th three and so , since yours is in karma , what we have to encourage you is ask you questions like have you ever given too much ? Have you ever gone too far ? So that's your karma . Right , that's where I say I know the number , but do you know your life ?

So I ask you this question and test it out , and I can hear someone saying right now , this is channeling through , right here , right now . Someone says but what if that doesn't happen ? To me ? It's like it's okay , I know the numbers well enough .

I will find somehow for you to manage some part of it to resonate with , because it's come on , it's just there somewhere . So for you , that healing is around those boundaries and slowing down , doing what's going down , doing what's right , not what's next . The three is the worthiness .

It's like being a little librarian inside with these hidden feelings and just having being able to have the confidence to come out again like those sevens very , very gentle need to have such gentle lovingness around .

But as you heal that and feel more confidence here in your throat to be able to speak who you truly are and feel your worthiness , then that switch is more positive Again . Both the physical and spiritual karma you're moving those out and you have this 10-1 over here in your spiritual talents ain't gonna let you be quiet forever .

You're just too freaking powerful .

There was a phrase you said which I mean we have free will with everything , but you were like this is taking away that free will , like they are not going to sit and watch you not step into that or or do this for other people , or like it was just that I can't remember what you said , but it was so impactful of like permission in some way , of like

you've been feeling this your whole life . For this reason , keep going , yeah , was what I received , and I was like , oh , and it just gave me a little extra umph from the universe , the world of like yeah , and you know what that umph is .

It says , hey , you got free will to go anywhere you want . Try it out , see how it goes , see how it feels , and then come back and try it . This way You've got a choice . And for you it sounded like oh , that made me get into the flow of life again . The 10-1 , archangel Michael , the number one , is this crown chakra . It's like heaven is real .

You don't have to go really far to find heaven . It's like right there and you bring unity and stability to people , which is nice for your 12-3 over here in your karma , because that can just be like I want to do this , I want to learn this , I want to do that , I want to find that .

It's like it's the highest God-like vibrations in numerology , that 10-1 and archangel michael had the you know , the sword for heaven like right over . Might you're there to say , hey , uh-uh , we're gonna do this in a holy way now . 10-1s have to work hard , though , to stay on the path . It's almost like that it's set up so it's like shiny hello over here .

Do you notice that , that you have to kind of work it ?

Has there been a lot of changes in your life ?

You no longer need that mirror anymore and you can say okay . Yeah , so it's really important in relationships with your three and karma working on relationships that um . But the more you become true and authentic with your worthiness , you're going to step into a relationship much better . Right , and those sevens as well .

When you heal those heart wounds , it can't go in and say , oh no , I'm fine , I'll marry you . Look at , I'm totally healthy , right ?

She was looking for men to come in and really fulfill her because her power was being down , down , down , down . So she was like but then

it's also the don't step on my dress number . I like to call it .

to do all these things and really , I think in the later years , finding what like meeting myself at the depths of me and then seeing who can do that outside of me . But I still have that work of empowering and emboldening myself in my worthiness and in my emotions .

That feels like when I say that I'm like , oh , I've done a lot of work on that , but it feels like teetery still , because it doesn't feel super clear and like the sevens have a lot of dreamland stuff to it and it's almost again that avoidance thing like it's just so much .

So it's a forever coming back , learning again and again . It's not like you're going to sit and put your feet up . You're always going to be having to come back and reintroduce yourself to yourself and your power . Um , it's very , but it's about work hard , work , work , work , work . You have to work hard to achieve um like inner work .

Um , it could be well . It's in your spiritual spot , so it's more like your inner work . Okay . But if someone has a 10-1 in their physical chart , it's challenging because it's a spiritual vibration in a physical position .

So those people can feel like misfits , like they don't ever really fit in because they've been , they're powerful and they're in this other plane . The five fives are the same way Multi-dimensional timeline jumpers and it's a physical chart . It's just like how do you make sense of the ?

Any videos I do about those , I get tons of responses and I think it's part of that misfit , I see kind of feeling and that's a five and eight in any of the stars , like that's in any category . No , the eights .

The eights are um much heavier , it's denser , it's harder in karma , it's hard to relate to the world , but you're really here to bring heaven on earth , which is a paradox , because you're like I want to get the heck out of here , yes , but no , you're really . You're supposed to be back up . That's exactly it . That's exactly the phrase people say .

I came in and said why can't I go back ? And it's like because heaven is here .

So we didn't do the talents , spiritual talents for you , 11-2 . Again I mean spiritual goals at the top . So again it's the inner expression , that 11-2 , the questioning . You know what's changing ? Where's my resilience ? The two is called foolishness to wisdom . Changing Where's my resilience ? The two is called foolishness to wisdom . And as a therapist you know this .

When you're working with your clients , you're helping them regulate before they make decisions . That's what the two is all about . The symbol is a spring .

There's symbols for all these numbers and if the spring is shaking like this and you're emotional and then you make it yes , I'm going to buy that car , or yes , I'm going to buy the puppy , or I'm going to have a baby , I mean yeah , right oh yeah . But if you slow down , do all those practices , all these number vibrations have recommendations for healing .

So you bring the practice in , get quiet , and then the spring stops shaking . And this is for you and your goals . Slow the heck down , the spring stops . It becomes a solid unit .

Now you stand on top and you have perspective and then people are your aura changes , people are drawn to you , yeah , and they find like you're the it's called being the shock absorber for people's lives . So you've got that in your goals . And then in your physical goals you have the 7-7 , which is I am magnetic , Come to me , Come to me .

So we talked about all the areas except the one in the middle . We'll get there when you look at your karma , so that three o'clock , four o'clock , whatever you want to say as those heal , which they are , if you are an awakening person , you're healing them . You say that again If you're an awakening person , you're healing them .

I tell them this right away , just say , by the way , so your gift of service is to learn and with such a loving heart and just to share and give so much so that you empower others , how does that sound for you ? I want to cry . Yes , so it work .

in order to do that , I have to do that for myself oh yeah , the , the healing work . Yeah , and I think it's that idea of like being always being the teacher and the student you know yeah . And I think there's something very um like . Uh , there's no hierarchy a little bit in that , because it keeps shifting .

Because I was too awake not to pay attention , I said , okay , there's something I'm learning here , and now , because of those experiences , I say I have so much compassion for other people . I can't fault them , I don't have to agree with them , I don't even have to forgive them if I want to , but I do , just can't help but feel compassion .

All right , let's talk about the middle part . You have six , six Creative . Don't even have to think about it . Ideas , just Creative .

But I was taught you can bring the people to the information and it's up to them to be sparked to do the healing work . But I'm never satisfied . You will do it . Come , come , learn , learn how to bring this into your life . So your six sixes in the middle and yes , absolutely aligns .

And there's an anytime you're inspired to learn more about yourself and do better work in the world . Who doesn't love that ? So the soul destiny , I like to say , is like an inner and an outer experience , because we know what we're here for , we feel it , but for some reason we also kind of want to see it outside of ourselves too .

Right , we kind of want to reconcile something with a destiny . A destiny is something you're reaching towards , something you want to reconcile with and come back and come into contact with . Even though it's here . It's like the Dorothy thing . You don't have to look beyond your own backyard .

So it does start out with some karmic aspects , like the goals are karmic and positive , negative and positive . So you are working towards it to fully manifest it . Not everybody is here to fully manifest their soul destiny . That is described in the soul contract and that's okay . Why is that ? I think it's because a soul destiny is a process .

It's more like okay , going through learning , learning , learning . And the way the big payoff I always show my clients is you get there your soul destiny , by healing the karma , activating the talents and working towards your goals . Beautiful Do all that and then you're moving along . So let me read you your soul destiny again .

It's a good one , Ready yeah To become the vessel , to become the vessel for the creative force of God to manifest .

That's pretty special . So accepting that it's special is part of accepting that you have that power and it's with your threes unworthiness . I mean , look at how beautifully that's set up right .

Oh , we are a part of the spark , of the same fire , but your spark is going to go like this and mine's going to go like this , and that's what makes us unique . So , yeah , you are special and you're unique . And the more you accept and say that you're not going to do any harm with it , because your 10-1 is in talents .

Instead , instead , you're going to use that as a spiritual teaching tool but that's where I think the work is .

So you feel undeserving of the power , right ? Is that a word that makes sense for you ?

You're incapable of hurting anybody because this time you made a promise to do it differently I'm crying , that's why I'm silent . I am listening . Do you need me to take over ?

Recommendations for this number , so that empowerment the anger for the nines . Oh yeah , so much anger , yeah , moving that through . But then there's ways to also get help with that . There's a method called divine healing and there are practitioners who I recommend , that are my colleagues , that do this work .

It is not about talking , moving things , working with your ascended masters and angels to move the vibrations , because sometimes it's a heavy lift and you can't just do it on your own .

So divine healers often have also taken um the soul contract , um trainings as well , so they can look at your chart and go , oh , look at those nines there , let's see and go through all these different um oh , there's a word for it um , there's things . Is it like energy ? Yeah , it is , it's .

It's connecting you with the what is in the body that's being held karmically right down the mitochondria right and then using affirmations of sort , but they're more statements , it's like I command that this is over now . And it's using the force of the universe ascended masters , angels , guides and it's just it's channeled information .

These practitioners are incredible . They can pick which area . They're all different areas , many , many different layers and levels . There's different levels of divine healing , light body work . So what I'm saying is we don't leave you hanging right . There's a lot of supportive work to do along with that , and that's when you have a reading with me .

That's what I do , is I recommend people to that , and you can also find some practitioners who offer webinars on these so you can test it out . You can look this up on the Center for Conscious Ascension and then in my course that I this 40 day , like deep dive , I bring in a divine healer to work with all my students yes , oh , I love that .

I call it a relationship chart so I can take up to like five names and it could be your spouse or your ex-spouse , your mother , parents , parents , absolutely , you want to look at those parents and the children's names and then we look at them side by side and then I can say where there's harmony and where there's discord . And isn't that lovely to know .

If you have a child with sevens , for example , heart wound , you're going to parent that child a little bit differently . Or what if they have nine in a karmic position ? You're going to help them find the peace within them and find the way to empower themselves . So that's very rich information to have if you want to do conscious parenting .

And then , spouse , it's great . I remember my teacher looked at my husband I was in the training . He looked at our charts .

He said he must give you so much love because he's got sevens in a talent position and it just made me go oh my gosh , yeah , because I was having the worthy thing of being able to accept love , yeah , and being able to see it as love Right , and then it just came right in . So that's how I work with spouses and then for my daughter's father .

It was beautiful . Again , my teacher again . When you work with a practitioner , it's different than just reading it yourself , which is a great start , certainly how I got started . But he said , oh , he was a divine asshole . And I went oh yes , and I went like this and I said thank you , if you hadn't been that way , I wouldn't have woken up even more .

And then the compassion came through and most of the forgiveness yes , too , the forgiveness comes through , but I was able to go , I understand the role this person had in my life .

It wasn't just chaos , it was a role , it was a relationship and it helped me bump up to a more profound , higher level of seeing things , which was very helpful for me and helpful for my daughter . I mean , you don't want your kids feeling your animosity , right ? Right , you don't .

So , if I can put it into perspective , it's like okay , yeah , so when we get together , because we're still a family , we're going to still get together for certain events . I'm not energetically projecting anything anymore yeah to the divine .

in gratitude In gratitude , that was the word , and it became healing instead of destructive . Yeah , it's like a catalyst . Yeah , what a different way to live . Okay , you said something interesting about C-section babies . I did . Can you repeat that ? Mm-hmm .

work , but they're not . Their soul isn't taking it on . They're not .

She's just like burning through in such a different way . You're like is this your kid ? Or she'll look at the stuff that my friend is dealing with and she'll be like Mom , just get over it . In a much different way , and mine was all about the mother wound and I clearly decided to not raise my child the way I was raised .

I was raised beautifully , lovely family , lovely parents , but still trauma , you know you're a therapist .

Yes , and I remember growing up my mother would look at me and go fakey smile and I was like this right , it was just like and then when my daughter , with little someone , said , wow , look at how amazing she is , I said and I felt it and I just said , oh , hell no hell , no , hell no .

And then I was able to say when people said , wow , what a great kid , I would say yes , she's amazing . And I could feel my heart lightening . I could feel the pain of my childhood just lightening . And this is how healing works in my experience .

My father love him had a great , you know , a good relationship , but he had a complicated relationship with my sisters . He was dying . He was at home . It was six weeks in bed and at one point he looked at me and he said you are so beautiful , beautiful .

And now I realize , oh , he was transcending , it was enlightenment , and in that one phrase it healed everything , right , healed everything . And the same thing happened with me saying my daughter is great . Suddenly , all that fakey , fakey smile it was like was gone .

And so and I think again , like my children are my greatest teachers that show me and mirror really painful things that I'm like okay , how do I deal with this differently ?

Because I don't want this to be yours , but I also can't manage if it is , or you pick it up a certain way or it becomes something for you , right , it's just that I'll be able to validate and hold space for that and repair what I need to repair like that , that worthiness and that scene for me is is the biggest thing for me and my kids .

And so I've been trying to shift that more of like how beautiful she is , like as a person , and just really observing her and smiling at her , you know , like yes , because I think I've , I've especially in these .

I mean , she's gonna be seven , but I could see a lot of dark times with her where I'm just like I've got a mean face , like if I'm pissed you'll fucking see it , you know . And so like really trying to repair even that with some moments of like I see how wonderful you are .

For example , my daughter and I both have nines in physical goals and when I started to get really deep into this method , I could see how , through my own conscious parenting just what I know about child development and parenting how I was already adjusting .

But now , with this information , I was able to adjust even more , to say , okay , we're going to butt heads with power .

We do have conflicts , emotional conflicts , but the thing that she always knows is that we're always okay . Even if there's a rift , we're always okay . And part of that came through as I was a single mom . I would lose it . I'd just be like , because I was a single mom , it was hard . I had five jobs and I would like stomp away .

And then within 30 seconds I'd come out and go okay , I'm sorry , that was totally me , not you . And she says that as a therapist . She says that she goes like , yeah , my mom would freak out , but it was okay , it didn't affect me because she would always come back and apologize . Now it turns out that I have a 20-2 in my chart .

We get over things really , really fast and I used to say how come people you know they hold on to things ? And now I realize , oh , it's just a part of my abilities to be able to do that . So now I can be patient with my husband when he doesn't get over things right away , or my daughter . See how this works . It just it comes in , it comes in .

That's what's getting triggered for me . Is I feel disempowered in when I'm in spaces with her because she's craving the power and I'm like , oh fuck , no , you don't get that . Blah , blah , blah .

There there's a developmental theorist named Sambhava Lovemore who did something called natural learning rhythms and they described that seven to 10 year age is emotional being . So she's going to be moving into the emotional being , moving into the emotional being and you need to just be so understanding how suddenly their skin is totally thin .

One of the things they suddenly realize is they're mortal and death becomes like a whole thing . And also being understanding rules and saying , no , you've got to do it this way . No , this is the right way to do it . So it'll be really interesting to see what happens with her power when that , when she kind of becomes a little bit more vulnerable .

Well it's , her whole life's going to be shifting , so perfect time for her to step in the emotional world and remember she's got her own soul signature .

I call Maya sometimes I go oh honey , I'm just remembering a time she said Mom , I don't remember any of it .

And everyone's like , oh , I'll listen to you If I try to do anything like that .

. Forever , forever in this .

This is where your twos are really helpful , because you can help people learn resilience .

We are a family and no situation is ever going to change the fact that we're a family and I oh , and this is the biggest thing you say , I always have your back . This may feel like stuff , you may , whatever it is , but I want you to know we are always a family and that's never going to change . Amen , and the little old woman too . That's good .

We have 10 minutes , I know , but , but I but I think what people can hear is also the experience number one , anything about the soul contract , but the way that you read and the way that you intuitively really like even you said like I , I'm imagining you being marble and like so sturdy oh yeah , that came through yes , but your ability to do , to have those

downloads and say , just write what you need to hear , and I just think that's very unique and special . So thank you for doing this work .

, because it's perfectly timed , because something's going to happen between now and then that you're going to want to talk to me about . Absolutely Don't worry about it .

And if you need something in the meantime , I have these classes that I'm doing on a regular , rolling basis , where you can start looking at your soul contract and using it in a really good way , and I'm going to actually start some even more mini programs . So it's always good just to get on my email list , and you can do that at essentialhowtocom .

Get on the email list , I'll send you information . You can find me on Instagram . Find me on TikTok .

It's like this I say there's a triangle , your Ascended Masters are up here , you're down here , right , and they're giving you downloads all the time . Hey , hey , hey , hey . And sometimes the ego like makes the journey a little bit hard . Yes , so they go , amelia , like yes , and they give me the information that then comes across to you . Oh , I love that .

So if you're feeling drawn yeah , you're feeling drawn and you know it like you did , you're just like I got to do this . So that's why I don't worry about advertising .

I don't worry about broadcasting really loudly , because I know , if I'm just that lighthouse , that the people who need to see it will come yes , yes , and I did so , thank you no , thank you , and I love your podcast . I love it because I've also said this is the work , this is the conference .

I want to do is bring people together , like you are , because I also have sevens , yes , um , so that's another thing . Being on my email list , you'll see about some conferences where I bring someone like you on and then we can switch roles . Yes and I can interview you , I love it Yay .