Dry January has come and gone, but the conversation about alcohol—and rethinking our relationship with it—is still very much with us. This week's listener, Natalie, wants to move past the abundance vs. abstinence debate and talk about a third option: thoughtful moderation. In this episode, Courtney Martin brings on journalist Rosamund Dean , author of Mindful Drinking: How Cutting Down Can Change Your Life and Well, Well, Well , a Substack about living better, for longer. She shares how she foun...
Feb 06, 2024•37 min
Travel can be thrilling, relaxing, even life-changing. But planning for your big trip? Not so much. There are so many unknowns: Where to go? When is the best time? How much do you want to spend? In this special episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Brady Binstadt, owner and CEO of the adventure travel company Geographic Expeditions . Brady explains how to pick the right destination, when to splurge, and how to make sure everyone will have an amazing time. If you liked this e...
Feb 03, 2024•33 min
We're constantly getting bombarded with messages about our bodies: They're too big. They're too small. They're not muscular enough, not curvy enough, and so on and so on. Rebecca has lived in a bigger body all her life and she wants the messaging to stop. She's done all the things—followed plus-size influencers, deemphasized weight from her health goals, tried to rewire how she thinks about weight. But it's just not working. In this episode, Carvell Wallace brings in Ronald Young Jr. , host of W...
Jan 30, 2024•43 min
Andrew snores so badly that his cats won't sleep in the same room as him. He's desperate to sleep better at night, and breathe more easily during the day. On this episode of How To!, we bring on James Nestor, author of Breath: The New Science of a Lost Art , to share the history of why we breathe the way we do. Turns out being a "mouth-breather" is more than just an insult, it's harmful to our health. James gives Andrew some nasal breathing exercises to improve his snoring, anxiety, and overall ...
Jan 23, 2024•27 min
Small talk has a bad reputation. It's boring, shallow, and awkward. Who really wants to talk about the weather, again ? But, when done right, it can be a cornerstone of connection. In this episode, Carvell Wallace is joined by Susan McPherson , the author of The Lost Art of Connecting . Susan is going to help our listener, Bee, navigate the uncomfortable small talk that she endures everyday at school pickup. Along the way, we'll learn what questions to have in our back pocket, how to turn small ...
Jan 16, 2024•34 min
Sometimes reading our news feeds can feel like getting hit by a semi-truck of devastating information, without really knowing how to respond. We can't always tune the world out, which means we need to figure out how to be an empathetic person within the chaos. In this episode, Courtney Martin is joined by public theologian and best-selling author , Nadia Bolz-Weber , as well as artist and activist, Jen Bloomer. Together they explore what it means to actually respond to tragedy and injustice. LIN...
Jan 09, 2024•36 min
When he's not working on How To! or coaching his daughter's basketball team, our producer Derek John loves to play in pickup games with friends. But a serious on-court injury has kept him on the sidelines for months. Now, as he prepares to return to the sport he loves, Derek is seeking tips on how to prolong his playing days while avoiding another injury. In this episode, author Jeff Bercovici joins Carvell Wallace and Derek to share insights from his book, Play On: The New Science of Elite Perf...
Jan 02, 2024•39 min
Jonny is a 26 year-old bachelor whose cooking often leads to heartache (and for one ex-girlfriend, a stomach ache). Jonny admits he's a klutz in the kitchen, so we hooked him up with Sam Sifton , cookbook raconteur and head of the New York Times's Cooking section . In this episode of How To! we see if we can teach our love-lorn Millennial to cook one perfect meal. Is romantic bliss just a well-browned chicken thigh away? ( Recipe included!) Slate Plus members get bonus segments and ad-free podca...
Dec 26, 2023•31 min
Here at How To! headquarters, we give and receive a lot of good advice. This year we learned to love our faces , started reading again , aced an interview , dealt with difficult parents , said goodbye to our pets , cooked chaotically , moved to a new country , navigated adult autism , and breathed like Navy SEALs . On this episode, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin are joined by former host Amanda Ripley. They break down their favorite advice of the year and share some surprising upda...
Dec 19, 2023•35 min
Dan enlisted in the Army in 2003 during the early phase of the U.S. wars in Iraq and Afghanistan. He just retired after 20 years of service—and is adjusting to myriad challenges of civilian life while also managing PTSD, ADHD and new sobriety. On this episode of How To!, Bob Beard of Arizona State University's Center for Science and the Imagination joins us to talk about a new program that's helping veterans like Dan plan for the distant future using science fiction, conceptual art, and strategi...
Dec 12, 2023•34 min
Allison is on the hunt for her next hobby. One that's satisfying. One that she can stick with. One that will fit into her family's very busy schedule. Except…maybe she's thinking about that last part all wrong. On this episode of How To!, Courtney Martin brings on Eve Rodsky , author of Fair Play and Find Your Unicorn Space . Eve argues that drawing—and defending—boundaries for individual, creative pursuits is necessary for living a fulfilled life. She'll share how to balance domestic labor in o...
Dec 05, 2023•40 min
A parent's main job is to protect. But what happens when your parent doesn't protect you? What happens when they not only let bad things happen to you, but they doubt and dismiss you when you ask them for help? Our listener, Haylie, decided to go no-contact with her father after multiple attempts to reconcile their relationship. Now she wants to know how to grieve the death of the relationship. On this episode of How To!, Patrick Teahan , licensed clinical social worker and childhood trauma ther...
Nov 28, 2023•44 min
On a recent phone call Shannon's mom didn't mince words: The only way she'd vote for Joe Biden is if Jesus himself comes down and tells her to. Growing up in a conservative household, Shannon understands her parents' support for Trump. But she no longer sees eye-to-eye with them and every time they talk about politics it turns into a fight. The result is a complete fraying of their relationship. In this episode of How To!, we bring on Bill Doherty , professor of family social science at the Univ...
Nov 21, 2023•31 min
Hot flashes, fatigue, and vaginal dryness were some of Katie's first clues that her body was changing. Half the population will experience menopause, yet misinformation still abounds—with doctors ill-prepared to talk to patients about this major life transition. On this episode of How To!, journalist Susan Dominus joins us to share the knowledge she gained from working on her viral magazine piece, " Women Have Been Misled About Menopause ." She explains why women's pain has been ignored for so l...
Nov 14, 2023•45 min
To celebrate their third wedding anniversary, Anjali and Rahul are each selecting a surprise activity to do together. This happy couple loves spontaneity, so they're concerned about someday growing bored in their relationship. They're also feeling pressure to mark the traditional milestones of marriage, including having kids. On this episode of How To!, authors Caryl and Jay Casbon join us to share the wisdom they gained from interviewing other married couples for their book Side by Side . The C...
Nov 07, 2023•42 min
Our listener Abdullah has reached a plateau. A mid-career manager at a large electronics engineering corporation, he feels intellectually unstimulated. Even though Abdullah has a stable job with seniority, he dreams of going back to school and pursuing his true passion: economics. But with a family to support, should Abdullah make a risky leap? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace is joined by Freakonomics co-author and University of Chicago economist Steven Levitt . Well-known for o...
Oct 31, 2023•36 min
Kids generate so…much…stuff. A lot of it is memorable. Videos of their first words? So cute. Colorful drawings that progressively get better? Masterpieces. Trophies, stuffies, books? All valuable. The problem: There's no way to keep everything. So how do you figure out what to cherish and what to toss? On this episode of How To!, co-hosts Carvell Wallace and Courtney Martin bring in Nonnahs Driskill , professional organizer and founder of Get Organized Already . She has lots of insight into why ...
Oct 24, 2023•35 min
The beginning of the school year is a gauntlet for Andrea, who coaches teachers for a living. She needs to get to know the 52 educators she'll work with in the coming months. All of them are new faces to her. Which means she's starting from scratch. Time is tight, so Andrea is wondering how to make every interaction count. On this episode of How To!, co-host Courtney Martin brings in Marlon Styles , who has been in Andrea's shoes. As an educator and motivational speaker, Marlon is a pro at makin...
Oct 17, 2023•32 min
Camila is torn. She wants a partner. Someone who is ambitious. Someone who is financially secure. Someone who checks in with her at the end of the day. But most of her dates have turned out to be duds and she's starting to think she'll never find real romance. Should she keep searching for 'the one,' or should she focus on being happy on her own? On this episode of How To!, new co-host Courtney Martin brings in Samhita Mukhopadhyay to guide Camila. Samhita is an author and feminist . She was the...
Oct 10, 2023•37 min
Irina and her husband are more than $100,000 in debt. They're working to pay it off, but between monthly credit card bills, student loan payments, 401k contributions and spending on their new baby, their money is spread too thin. In this episode of How To!, Charles Duhigg bring on Rachel Cruze, a personal finance expert and author of Know Yourself, Know Your Money , to help Irina create a budget that she can actually follow. It will seem hard at first, Rachel says, but if you cut up your credit ...
Oct 03, 2023•27 min
Like many pet parents, Zak Rosen and his wife lived for years in a state of denial about their beloved dog, Rumi. Then they learned that Rottweilers only tend to live about eight to 12 years, and there was no denying it: Rumi is already in her twilight years. In the not-so-distant future, they'll have to make some truly tough decisions. On this episode of How To!, Zak seeks out advice about end-of-life pet care from Dr. Ellen LaFramboise, owner of Crossroads Veterinary Hospice , and fellow pet p...
Sep 26, 2023•33 min
Sarah is a part-time pet groomer who dreams of opening up her own business. Having worked long hours for low wages, she can't help thinking that she could earn more money and control her schedule if she starts her own pet salon. The only problem? Sarah has no idea where to start. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in Mae Chan to guide Sarah. Mae is a business alignment coach who helps entrepreneurs figure out their dreams and scale their businesses. Her questions for Sarah will h...
Sep 19, 2023•32 min
Niky just isn't jibing with Spanish. She's tried courses, podcasts, apps, and even private tutors in order to make a connection with Spanish speakers around Toronto, at her job, and while traveling. But years into her language-learning journey, she's not even close to being fluent. On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace introduces Niky to Luca Lampariello . A speaker of 14 languages, Luca is a teacher and the founder of the Smart Language Learning Academy . He offers up tons of insight into...
Sep 12, 2023•35 min
Katie was ready to graduate from college when the pandemic interrupted everything. Unceremoniously cut-off from her group of friends, she's now in a new chapter of her life but struggling more than ever to find her people. Katie's friendships at work feel surface-level and she's anxious about opening up too much for fear of rejection. On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings in friendship coach Danielle Bayard Jackson . Don't worry about finding your next BFF, Jackson says. Instea...
Sep 05, 2023•38 min
It's a family joke that Dave and his 13 year-old son are the same person. So when his son found out he is autistic, Dave realized that he, too, is on the autism spectrum. The label is a comfort—a reassurance that his personality "quirks" have an explanation. But, at the same time, it's led to all of these questions like should he tell people? What does this change, if anything? And how does he learn to navigate a neurotypical world? On this episode of How To!, Carvell Wallace brings in journalis...
Aug 29, 2023•40 min
Susan never really got over saying goodbye to her eldest daughter, who left for college four years ago. She knew it would be sad, but she didn't expect to be nauseous. Now her youngest is applying to college, and she's already dreading drop-off next fall which makes her feel like a "pathetic loser." What can Susan do to prep herself for more heartbreak and a completely empty nest? On this episode of How To!, Amanda Ripley brings on Kelly Corrigan, best-selling author and host of the podcast Kell...
Aug 22, 2023•29 min
Have you ever wanted to move to a new country? Picking up and starting over internationally can be rewarding, but also nerve-wracking. Our listener Sara has lived overseas for more than a decade, but she recently moved to Switzerland and is struggling to fit in. On this episode of How To!, founding host Charles Duhigg brings in Dr. Nassim Assefi who, amongst all of her interesting professional accomplishments , is a self-identified "global nomad." She's lived in over 10 countries and draws on he...
Aug 15, 2023•30 min
As the massive Caldor fire blazed towards South Lake Tahoe in 2021, Joyce knew she had to get out. "The sky was red. It was like hell on earth," she remembers. Her family got to safety and her house was miraculously spared. But, even now, it can be jarring to remember the fire. Climate-related extreme weather events are on the rise and another disaster is seemingly right around the corner. Especially with freakish flash floods, a scorching heatwave and wildfire smoke blanketing much of the count...
Aug 08, 2023•29 min
When Gwendolyn found out her friend was diagnosed with cancer, she knew she wanted to help. She just didn't know how. Her friend lives hundreds of miles away. How can she help in a way that's more meaningful than sending a meal and a few encouraging texts? On this episode of How To!, guest-host Courtney Martin brings on Mia Birdsong , author of the book How We Show Up. Mia went through her own cancer journey and figured out structures of support that not only helped her but made supporting easie...
Aug 01, 2023•36 min
Every year J. and her parents fly thousands of miles, meeting in the middle for their family vacation. A vacation that often leads to shouting and tears. J. and her father have a rocky relationship. Little disagreements often lead to her dad yelling and dredging up the past. It would be easy, in theory, to cut off the relationship before it got even more toxic. But J. wants to make it work. The question is, how? On this episode of How To!, host Carvell Wallace brings on Nibarna Kannathasan , a p...
Jul 25, 2023•40 min
