Let's explore the radical, often uncomfortable practice of believing in others—even when life, systems, and personal history give us every reason not to. This episode challenges our instincts to withdraw trust and explores belief as a choice to see people as unfinished, capable, and still becoming. It's not about ignoring harm—it's about holding complexity with integrity, courage, and care. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here....
Jun 23, 2025•19 min
Letting go isn’t often graceful, it tends to be gutting—and it might also be the truest path to liberation. In this episode, laura explores what it truly means to release relationships, roles, and illusions that no longer serve us—personally, politically, and spiritually. If you’ve ever struggled to loosen your grip on what once defined you, this conversation is your invitation to choose courage over control. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here....
May 27, 2025•20 min
What if certainty is (sometimes) a part of the problem? This episode unpacks how our need to know can prop up domination—and how embracing the skillfullness of not knowing can be a practice of love, liberation, and justice. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta meditation / training-an-open-heart calls....
Apr 14, 2025•11 min
To fight or not to fight? And how? And against whom? Or for what? Join laura for a discussion about how to fight on behalf of love and justice differently . Plus a whole lot of reflection questions for your growth and development. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years....
Mar 26, 2025•14 min
What do we do when we start to feel really embittered toward the world and the humans in it? How do we hold love and rage at the same time? How do we train in love when what we sometimes feel is hate? Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years....
Feb 19, 2025•24 min
Can love really go toe-to-toe with hate? If so, how do we train for it? What does love really have to do with today and the next four years? Come dig in. Join laura's private network here to learn more about monthly metta / loving kindness meditation and open-hearted skill-building for the next four years. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here....
Jan 20, 2025•23 min
In this episode, we explore the art of personal reinvention — what it means to choose change on your own terms and imagine new possibilities for your life. Reinvention is more than self-discovery; it’s the training ground for transforming the world. Apply to UNscript here . Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here ....
Nov 20, 2024•13 min
Join host laura brewer for discussion about practicing self, family, and organizational care during the upcoming weeks -- and how to prepare for it now. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here .
Oct 28, 2024•11 min
We rarely confront the true costs of courage—social, emotional, physical, personal, professional. This episode unpacks why, despite the steep price, courage is worth the choice for personal and collective liberation—helping you understand the cost and truly consent to it. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here . Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it!...
Oct 21, 2024•24 min
Loveability is a mess. But love- ability ? Now we're talking. Tune in to hear why shifting from "loveability" to "love-ability" might change your life, and the world around us. Download the transcript here . Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here . Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it!...
Sep 30, 2024•16 min
How do we love people we really, really disagree with? Join today's guest Jada Hebra to hear her personal story of crossing a giant divide with her spouse. As the election cycle heats up and divides between people are more inflammed than ever before, this conversation is a must-listen –– especially for those who want to practice rehumanizing our culture and our relationships. Fun things to click🌟: Watch Jada's TEDx talk here. Check out Jada's suggested resources and/or download the transcript o...
Sep 17, 2024•49 min
Happy Birthday/Anniversary to How To Make Love ! 🎈 We're back after an extended sabbatical and ready to take on more making of the love, justice, courage, and other important things listeners value. Hear laura share what's been up, and what's getting going. Connect with laura – leave a speakpipe here or send an email here . Transcripts – You can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript he...
Aug 26, 2024•13 min
The winter can pose unique challenges and opportunities to our practice of making love, courage, justice, and liberation. Tune in for a couple of things to remember and consider as you move through the world this winter. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love ? Become a patreon of the podcast .
Nov 30, 2023•6 min
There's the idea of freedom and the somatics of freedom. Today's episode tackles how and why we should learn to cultivate the sensations of freedom in our bodies. Welcome. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here . Want to give a little love back to How To Make...
Oct 30, 2023•12 min
Who's ready for a mid-life crisis?! Me! You? Come on in for a lovingly honest and personal conversation about those feelings of falling apart –– midlife, or any other time. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here . Want to give a little love back to How To Mak...
Sep 30, 2023•16 min
Ethic. Process. Aspiration. Practice. Come learn what else UNcontrol is and means and why we should engage it in the work of personal and collective freedom. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love ? Become...
Aug 31, 2023•10 min
Belonging. Repair. Lines of difference. Today, guest Al li Myatt and I discuss radical relationships — especially at work . What makes them hard, what makes them complex, and what makes them beautiful. AND the things we need to unlearn so we can be in radical relationship with one another. Plus, a 🔥🔥🔥 book/resource list you don't want to miss out on here . New Feature Alert: Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website. Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy...
Jul 31, 2023•42 min
Becoming a bad winner and a good loser is ... a little counterintuitive, to say the least. Learn how and why in this episode. And what all of that has to do with our collective and personal practice of liberation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Check out this episode's transcript here . Want...
May 31, 2023•15 min
We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you list...
Apr 28, 2023•12 min
The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula Chrystal Toop , we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for all of us – to UNlearn. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too...
Mar 31, 2023•41 min
There is bracing . And there is breaking . In today’s episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist Oceana Sawyer , this is a conversation about what we gain when we “lose” (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, ...
Feb 28, 2023•33 min
What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think . Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a new website , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while yo...
Jan 31, 2023•12 min
What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or...
Nov 30, 2022•14 min
When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also talk about the direct link between consent and anti-oppression/anti-racism. And of course, there's ref...
Oct 31, 2022•21 min
Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download wr...
Sep 29, 2022•23 min
Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. Ch...
Aug 30, 2022•16 min
Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode.
Jul 28, 2022•14 min
We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read My Grandmother's Hands , by Resma Menakem. Send laura a question from the episode . Love How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon....
Jun 30, 2022•14 min
No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. Send laura a question from the episode . Love How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Link to become a patreon.
May 05, 2022•15 min
😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: Send laura a question from the episode . Link to become a patreon. Love How To Make Love ? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️...
Apr 19, 2022•13 min
