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How to Be a Girl

How to Be a Girl is an audio podcast I produce about life with my six-year-old transgender daughter. It stars the two of us -- a single mom and a six-year-old "girl with a penis" -- as we attempt together to sort out just what it means to be a girl.
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Episodes

A post-election message from Marlo

My daughter and I are stunned and sad, but we are doing OK. Here is something for you. Some words from me, with some music from my amazing daughter. Music credit: Improvisation on electric guitar, by M. Mack...

Nov 26, 2024

Episode XXXV: Unwelcome (Part II)

What happens when supporting your child means leaving your home? Meet my courageous friends from Montana, who are building a new life in a new state after anti-trans legislation targeted their young daughter. This is the second part in a two-part story. Listen to Part One here. Music credits: Game Hens by Blue Dot Sessions Chorus and Call, Detroit by Podington Bear...

Oct 22, 2024

Episode XXXIV: Unwelcome (Part I)

Imagine living in a place where your own child has been outlawed. This is happening, right now, all over the United States. In this episode, you’ll meet my new friends, a courageous and close-knit family who suddenly found themselves unwelcome in the place they had always called home. Music credits: Night Light, Dowdy, Quarry Clouds, & November Mist, by Blue Dot Sessions Pacific Tree Frogs by Podington Bear...

Oct 07, 2024

Episode XXXIII: How We Are Now

It's been over two years. I wanted to let you know how we are doing. Thank you for your patience. (Spoiler: My daughter is still amazing.) MUSIC CREDITS: Tides (instrumental) by Benjamin Mullins (Courtesy of Audiosocket) Lost in the Dark (instrumental) by Forest Sun (Courtesy of Audiosocket)...

Dec 25, 2023

Episode XXXII: The Medical Stuff

For years, people have asked me what I would do when my daughter hit puberty. Was I going to let her do... “the medical stuff?" Well, right after the pandemic struck, so did puberty. And this is what my daughter (and her mother) decided to do. If you're interested in learning more about our story, you can check out my memoir: Audible Originals version Book version Find us on Twitter: @girlpodcast Support HTBAG on Patreon MUSIC CREDITS: “Starlight” and “Little Dream” by Podington Bear “Hand of Go...

Sep 06, 202143 minEp. 32

Episode XXXI: M is for Middle School, Take Two

This episode is different from any of our previous episodes. It’s also a do-over, because the first version of this episode overlooked the fact that my daughter is growing up, fast. She’s almost a teenager, and we both agree that it’s time she took charge. So that’s what she did. (Here’s a little more about how this episode came to be.) Listen to the book! How to Be a Girl on Audible Originals Find us on Twitter: @girlpodcast Support HTBAG on Patreon MUSIC CREDITS: “Edge of the World” (Instrumen...

Nov 02, 2020

Episode XXX: Emma at last

I want you to meet my good friend, Emma. When she was a little girl, she was just like my daughter. But no one knew her for 60 years. I'm so glad she's here now. (Note: I recorded this interview early this year, when my daughter was still in elementary school. She just started middle school. Please stay tuned for an episode soon(ish) about that!) MUSIC CREDITS: “Dust in Sunlight,” “Frosted Glass,” “Boardwalk,” and “Clair_De Lune Solo Piano” by Podington Bear "The Wah-Watusi" by The Orlons “In th...

Sep 23, 2019

Episode XXIX: Eleven

I sit down for a talk with my (almost) 11-year-old: Cliques, gossip, fashion, puberty, and how it feels to be a transgender tween. MUSIC CREDIT: “Little Girl” by Jetty Rae (Courtesy of Audiosocket)

Jan 25, 2019

Episode XXVIII: The Tell

A new friend at school. A poker lesson. A 10-year-old hatches a plan. MUSIC CREDITS: “Ganef” by Vagabond Opera and “Moonlight Love Affair” by Steve Rice (Courtesy of Audiosocket) “Chill Wave” by Kevin MacLeod “The Reckoning” by Podington Bear Please consider checking out our Support Page . Your help keeps this podcast going!...

Dec 31, 2018

Episode XXVII: Playdates with Christians

Are the new next-door neighbors going to let their daughters play with mine if they find out she's transgender? To attempt to answer this question, I seek expert advice from a new friend in the Bible Belt. MUSIC CREDITS: “Morning” by Nicole Reynolds, “Shall We Gather at the River” by Pat Holmberg, “Amazing Grace Solo Piano” by Lana Palmer (Courtesy of Audiosocket) "Canoe" by Podington Bear "Amazing Grace," piano and vocals by Miss M. Mack Please consider supporting us on Patreon . It really help...

Nov 29, 2018

Episode XXVI: Sarah McBride

Need to hear a positive story about politics? I know I do. Here's the inspiring story of Sarah McBride, the young transgender activist who gives me hope (and is my personal pick for the first transgender president). MUSIC CREDITS: "Halflight," “G Piano," “Across the River, and "Triste" by Podington Bear; “Asturias” by Isaac Albeniz (Courtesy of Audiosocket). Please consider supporting us on Patreon . It really helps keep this podcast going!...

Nov 06, 2018

Episode XXV: To Tell or Not to Tell? (Advice from HTBAG listeners)

In the last episode, I asked my listeners to help me answer this question: Should my daughter tell the kids at her new school that she's transgender? In this episode, you will hear the wisdom that came back to me. My cup runneth over. MUSIC CREDITS: “Den," "Floating in Space," "Surface Tension," and "Threshold" by Podington Bear; "You Are a Memory" by Message to Bears (Courtesy of Audiosocket); and "Leave Them" and "Telling Me So" by St. Paul de Vence. Please consider supporting us . It really h...

Oct 30, 2018

Episode XXIV: Moving & Marrying, Part III - New School

My daughter starts fifth grade at a new school next month. It's a fresh start, where no one knows that she's transgender. How do I handle this? How do I advise her? Should she keep her transgender status to herself or be more open? At the end of this episode, I'll be asking for your advice: What should I do? MUSIC CREDITS: "Sensitive" and "Constellation" by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0 ) and "Bloom" by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0 )....

Aug 20, 2018

Episode XXII: Moving & Marrying, Part I - The Prince

Did you know there's a wedding coming up, uniting an Englishman with an American bride? Listen now for ALL the juicy details on this intercontinental couple's forthcoming nuptials! (And hear what my daughter thinks of her soon-to-be stepdad.) MUSIC CREDITS: "Lord of the Land," "Evening Melodrama," "Master of the Feast," "The Rule," and "Bossa Bossa" by Kevin MacLeod

May 17, 2018

Episode XXI: Going First

In this episode, my daughter and I get to talk with two of our heroes. Jazz Jennings is a reality TV star, LGBTQ activist, and arguably the most famous transgender teen in the world. Her mom Jeanette is as brave as they come. MUSIC CREDITS: “Springtime,” “Quartrefoil,” and “Blue” by Podington Bear (licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0 ) “Helice” by Monplaisir (licensed under CC0 1.0 ) “Comedie” by Jahzzar (licensed under CC BY-SA 4.0 )...

May 10, 2018

Episode XX: The Betrayal

Of course I knew this was going to happen eventually. But that didn't make it any easier when it did. Music credits: “Chicxuclub” and “Transient” by Podington Bear “Undaunted” by Kevin MacLeod “Dormir rien de plus” by Monplaisir...

Apr 26, 2018

We're back! Welcome to a new season!

After a pretty lengthy hiatus, we're back! The first episode of the 2018 season comes out next week. Here's a little taste of what's to come. Music credits: "Lode Runner" and "Sorrento" by Podington Bear....

Apr 19, 2018

A little girl, a holiday, big news, and... a miracle!

This mini-episode contains: One VERY excited little girl awaiting Santa, news of the big changes coming to our lives, my plans for the future of this podcast, and... a miracle! Music credits: Dee Yan-Key, "Santa on Tour" (licensed under CC BY-NC-SA 4.0 ) Borrtex, "Buying Presents" (licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0 )

Dec 25, 2017

When it rains it pours

How can the best of times also be the worst of times? This spring nearly washed me away... but not quite. M. tries her hand at TV journalism. Music credit: David Mumford, “Singing in the Rain (Instrumental)" (licensed under CC BY 4.0 )...

Jul 06, 2017

Episode XIX: Red State Mama

I thought I was pretty brave until I met my counterpart from a red state. Music credits: "Telling Me So" and "Spring" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence...

Feb 22, 2017

A little update from Marlo

This tiny episode is mostly silly, and a little bit serious. I also have some news. Plus, cat videos. (KUOW is hosting a How to Be a Girl listening party in Seattle on February 26! Reserve a seat at http://kuow.org/post/join-us-how-be-girl-listening-party ) MUSIC CREDITS: "Quirky Dog" by Kevin MacLeod ( www.incompetech.com ) "Mama" (instrumental) by St. Paul de Vence (Thank you, Benjamin Doerr!!)...

Feb 18, 2017

Episode XVII: The Window

In 2013, Obama opened a window for transgender people when he made it easier to change the gender on your Social Security record. But with Trump coming into office, it looks like that window is about to close. I hadn't been in much of a rush to change my 9-year-old transgender daughter's Social Security record, but I sure am now. MUSIC CREDITS: “Dubakupado” by www.incompetech.com “Homeless California” by Monplaisir ( public domain ) “King Thumbscrew The Third” by Doctor Turtle ( CC-BY-NC 4.0 )...

Jan 11, 2017

Episode XVI: How to Be a (Teen) Girl

It’s still five years off, but I think about it all the time. What’s it going to be like when my transgender daughter becomes a teenager? Music credits: Andy G Cohen, "Land_Legs" (licensed under CC BY 4.0 ) David Mumford, "Twinkle Twinkle Instrumental" (licensed under CC BY 4.0 ) Loch Lomond, "Elephants and Little Girls" (licensed under CC BY 4.0 ) Kevin Macleod, “J.S. Bach, Prelude in C” (licensed under CC BY 3.0 )...

Dec 21, 2016

Episode XV: Just Maybe

She hasn't got a womb or ovaries but she wants to be a mommy. How do I tell my young daughter that she won't ever be a biological mother? Music credits: "Child Come Home" by Michael Howard (Licensed under CC BY-NC 3.0 ) "Flagger" by Blue Dot Sessions (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0 ) “That Old Harpoon” by Gillicuddy (Licensed under CC BY-NC 4.0 )...

Nov 30, 2016

Episode XIV: My Friend Lauren

When I first realized I had a transgender child, Lauren reached out and told me it was going to be OK. Ever since, she's been the one I lean on when I'm terrified. She's the bravest woman I know. My friend, "Lauren," in 1979. Music credits: “George Street Shuffle” and “In Your Arms” by Kevin MacLeod (incompetech.com) “Evenhanded” by Podington Bear “From here to Iceland" by Loch Lomond “I Enjoy Being a Girl,” performed by Christine Jorgensen "Mars Landscape: Moon Set” by Julie Maxwell ( Source: F...

Nov 09, 2016

Episode XIII: Play Date

My daughter has lots of friends, and she's big on play dates with other little girls. But sometimes we need to book a special play date, because sometimes you just need to hang out with somebody who's just like you. Music Credits: "The Temperature of the Air on the Bow of the Kaleetan” by Chris Zabriskie, “Hélice” by Monplaisir, and “Rainbow Street” by Scott Holmes. Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com : Ann Frossard, Lorna McCarthy, Maricia Scott, Lyle Mattson, Ryann Grove, Jessica Gaa...

Oct 19, 2016

Episode XII: How to Be a Dad

When my husband and I split up four years ago, we agreed to share custody of our...."son." Four years later, we have a transgender daughter, and the crazy truth is that I've never really asked him how he feels about this. So I did. And this is what he said. (I asked him a few other questions, too.) Music credits: “The Father’s Name” by Gianluca Sgalambro Thank you to my new supporters on Patreon.com : Chris Wright, David Roswell, Laura Kivlen, Britt Tanner, Robyn Kanner, Nicole Villacres, Henry ...

Sep 28, 2016
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