How Men Think with Michael Yo

I'm just letting you know I got around. I'm gonna be answering all these questions so I appreciate them, and then we're gonna be taking some phone calls as well. It's how men think. But first, this is the eleven questions with me. Michael Yo. Let's get it started. What are you known for? Tell us about yourself. Well, I say I would I'm known for I first got into Oh, that's my alarm. I'm known for not turning off my alarm.

That's first. But I'm known for, I would say, first, being an entertainment reporter on E Entertainment when and that network was huge. He had Chelsea Lately on it. You had Joe McKell for the soup, and I was on E News with Ryan Seacrest. So that was a big moment in my career, and then from Chelsea Lately, I

was on the Kardashians, I was on what was it? Um, Courtney and Chloe take Miami, so I was their radio boss and that show and then being on Chelsea kind of sprung into stand up comedy, which I've been doing just past ten years, and now actings coming into play. So I got a new TV show coming out on Apple Plus here in a couple of months. So I would say I'm known for entertainment. That's what I would say I'm known for about myself. Born and raised in Houston, Texas.

Father's black moms Asian. Um, they were very strict parents. Uh they say it like they mean it all the time. I have a family now. Um, I'm black and Asian. My wife is white, and our kids are black, white and Asian. We gave birth to pandas the Little Panda Bears, so we love them. But my main thing about myself right now, I survived COVID. Um I almost died from

COVID like two years ago. So that's a life changing moment that really meant a lot to me and I and I actually talked about that in my new special coming up. That's gonna be dropping on March seventeen. So that was a big moment, pivotal moment in my life. And to come full circle two years later and drop a special talking about in a bunch of different things, It's very special to me. But I'm just all about family, all about my kids, all about my wife, because you

never know how long you're gonna be around. So that's what I like doing, to spend the time with my family. Who are you in your personal life? I'm that dude. You know what's funny about me is when I was younger, our partied. I went to clubs. I lived in Miami. We threw down the six Am and then they had a club called Space. We would stay up to like two o'clock in the afternoon. That was me twenty years ago.

Now I'm a dude that just likes to chill. I just like chilling um with my family and doing stuff around a house. I'm that I'm turning into my dad. I'm turning into my dad. I'm starting to talk like him. I'm like, oh, I don't like the music today. You know, like my dad, you stayed up about my music. Now I'm the same way I'm like, they don't make music like they used to. I'm that dude now so but in my person life, it's just all family. Man. I'm

just a dad. You know. I told my friends my guy for some of my guy friends is still single, and I said, I'm so much better as a husband than a single guy. Like, I just like to know what's happening when I get home. I know what's gonna I get home. I know exactly how it's gonna be. And I love that. Who are you? And you? Probably we did that with three shows you've been watching, Okay, one already finished a long time ago. It's called Money Heist.

It is so good. Now a lot of people don't like it, but man, when the show started, this is what I love about the show Money Heist. It was on in Canada. It got canceled after a year or a year and a half. Netflix picks it up and now it's a worldwide hit. These people gone from like a hundred followers to twenty million followers. The actors on this show, it's dubbed in another language, but it's freaking incredible. Another thing I'm watching right now that I love the

Kanye West documentary on Netflix. Now, I will tell you this. It's not gonna make you like him anymore. It's not gonna make you like him any less. But what it will do is show you how hard he hustled to get to where he is, and that inspires me. The hustle, you know, and that's what I love. And when he met his tragic car crash that he was talking about, it felt the same with me almost dying from COVID. I was like, this is our second chance of life, so we gotta make the most of it. And that's

what really really touched me. The third thing, and I hate it. I'm not gonna hear lie to you. I hate beinging it, but it's something I do with my wife. The Bachelor and Bachelorette. The worst thing about that show is when somebody says, I don't know how there's so much drama. I was like, you on a show that's built on drama, Like you didn't know drama was gonna be on that show anyway. So those are the three shows I'm watching. What's my favorite food, hands down, pizza

Done Pizza. I'm looking for the best pizza in the world. I will eat somebody. This is the problem I eat pretty healthy, but when I eat pizza, I overeat. You know, you have that one food, no matter how much you you don't want to overeat, you overeat like I should only have like three slices. If there's still pizza, I will eat till I can't eat and I will feel disgusting after it. And then after I feel like that, I'll go I am never doing this again. But guess what,

I do it again. So pizza is that food for me? Tell us about your career, Well, man, I started, Wow, it's a long ter. I started two thousand. Well before that, I was a radio DJ. I was in uh Houston, went to Austin and then Miami and that's when things kind of blew up. Work for a station called Why one hundred UM. It was a great station. It really took me to the next level, and uh so radio went really good. Radio got me into television, and then television got me in the stand up, and stand up

got me into acting. So my advice for everybody's just say yes, be ready for opportunity, and once you get that opportunity, freaking crush it. That's my advice to you. So that's pretty much my career. You know from and people always add so do you like stand up more than acting versus interviewing people? And it's all the same. It's entertainment. You know. You don't walk in to a restaurant and go so do you like cooking stay more than fish more than this more? Nah, it's all food.

You just cook it different ways. And that's what entertainment is. I do a bunch of different stuff, but it's just different skills in that and that um and that art you're doing, like stand up or acting. It's just a different skill, but it's entertainment. Uh, what's your biggest fear of life? Well, I faced my biggest fear of life when I was battling COVID, and my biggest fear of

life was not dying. At the time, my kids, my son was three and my daughter was two, And my biggest fear was me passing away from COVID and my kids really not knowing how much I loved them. I didn't want to be a was story, you know, like oh, your dad was like this, and he was like that, Like my son really knows. He's only five now, but he knows how much I loved, you know, Hopefully I can be around long enough where my daughter knows that she's too, so she's still trying to grasp things, you know.

So that's my It sounds simple, but that's my goal in life to be around long enough where they know how much I loved them. So yeah, that's uh. That was my biggest fear, my biggest pet peeve in life.

I hate when you're in a conversation and somebody tells you right away what they do, you know, or ask you what you do, but that's a pet peep or lying lying to your face is a big pet peeve to me, Like they would just straight up lie to you your face like oh yeah, we're gonna do that for you, and then they don't do it for you. But in Hollywood that happens a lot, so man, oh man, so many times people in my face like, hey, we're gonna do this for you, oh really, really really, and

then they don't do it for you. So you know, it's pretty tough. What makes you the most happy, I sound like a broken record. My family. My family makes me the most happy. It's tough, having two kids, it's tough, it's tough, but man, it's the most fulfilling when you had a long day, and one of them walks up to you, cuddles with you on the catch and goes, I love you. I mean done, it's a wrap. It's all worth it right there. What's your ideal Saturday morning?

I really wake up early every morning. I wake up like five six am, and I get all my work done on Saturday before all the kids wake up. And this pretty much every day. I get everything done so then when my kids wake up, they got my full attention. So I hate to sound like a broken record, but my ideal Saturday is waking up, grabbing the kids, going to a park. Wow, I'm so family, going to a park and just having some food at a restaurant because things are opening up, and just you know, like like

yesterday we rode the train. You know, they love trains, so I just take them on the train around the mall. It was it was outdoor mall, but we just got in the train that I could barely fit in, and we wrote it and just to see them smile was amazing. Are you more of an athlete or an armchair quarterback?

I used to be an athlete. I played college football for the University of Arkansas, but now I'm just at I'm into stretching more than like working out hard because I have friends that are my age that still play basketball and get rough playing football and all that stuff. Why why you old? You ain't going pro? Why are you still? Like my friends will be like I blew up my knee playing basketball. It's like, why you almost fifty years old? Why are you you think you're going pro?

There's no sense in you playing basketball anymore. That's ridiculous. Okay, so stop it, stop it, um. What keeps you motivated? Man? I've always said I I'm never satisfied. I'm always pushing and I want that what keeps me It's just a fire. Some people got it, some people don't. You know, I read a lot of books about motivation, and I'm just that dude. Like I always I want to be great. I want to be one of the greatest stand up comics in the world. I want to be one of

the greatest actors in the world. I'm still doing radio. I want to be one of the greatest in that. I want to be one of the greatest in anything I do. So that's the fire in me, Like I'm not doing it to be Okay, you know, the best piece of advice I've ever got was failed fast. So fail really fast. So you know what you're not good at, so you can focus in on what you're good at. So um, yeah, that's that's my loving questions. So there you go. All right, So I get excited about this.

I get to actually talk to you guys that are on the phone line. So going to the phone's iris, what's going on? Well, okay, here's the deal. I've been talking with a bunch of girlfriends. This is not the first time this topics come up, but about men just not making the effort. It's like wanting to, um, you know, pretty much assume that if they don't want to, if they want to be with you, they'll find a way. They'll move mountains. And it's just so many guys just

seem like they're not putting in that effort. And I don't know they don't if it's just me, they don't want to be meaningful relationship or something real, but I don't know. It just seems like I hear it too much. Maybe my dating radars off. Well, Well, I rest I love the question because I'm that guy that all the girlfriends come to like. I have so many girl friends

that come to me for advice and even guys. What I think is if a guy really wants you, he will move mountains and it happens pretty quick, you know. I feel like you know, they say love at first sight or you know, right away. With my wife, I knew pretty pretty fast. I mean. And and here's the thing I used to think, and I wasn't ready to settle down. I would always say, well, I'm too busy to have a girlfriend or I'm too busy to be

in a relationship. That was a lie. I just didn't find the right one, because all things stop when you find the right one and you take time out. How fast can I mean, how long does it take this in the text to say thinking about you? It takes two seconds. So if a guy doesn't have two seconds to reach out to you, then he really doesn't want to be with you. Good point, and a lot will reach out like all day long, but then they don't want to drive and make the time to get a

babysitter or do what they have to do. It's like it's still the same thing, Like you gotta understand like what I tell people, And this may sound bad to women, but women don't change men. To want to be married, a man has to be ready to be married. That's just my opinion, because no woman could have changed me. Like when I met my wife, I was already looking for the one I used to date to date, but then when I change to date to be married, it's

totally different dating. So a woman, really, to me, doesn't change a man. A man has to change first and then find the right one. Good point. I like that. Yeah, too many lazy guys out here, but they're lazy. But then but if they're lazy, that means they're not really in it. Good point. You are, So okay, that's what we're gonna talk about, and now we have your opinion. So ah, alright, alright, alright, alright, well thanks for the call, Thank you, take care bye. Right, Hey, Vicky, how are

you good? Good? How are you great? What's your question? Um? Okay, So I'm in my forties, I don't have kids. Um, and finally, UM, I've met someone who is genuine and kind and who you know, I can really see myself with. So I'm actually falling in love with him. Um. But he has four kids and he's going through a divorce, right, now and his ex is like very complicated. They don't have good like co parenting relationship stuff going on right now.

So I just I need to know, like should I continue dating him or is this just all a big red flag? Well? This is this is this is very simple. You're taking on another man's family, which is fine, which is fine if you if you're fine with starting out with four kids, that's what you got. But you know the advice I always got, you marry. Uh, you don't just marry the person. You marry their family. And part of his family is his ex wife that's gonna be around for the rest of your life or for the

rest of her life with the kids, you know. So it's just something you're gonna have to deal with now whether your love can get through that. Like I don't know the personal ins and outs of your relationship, but that's very stressful I would imagine for a relationship because it puts the guy in a bad position a lot of times because he doesn't want a dog on the X. Maybe I don't know. I would imagine if it was me,

I wouldn't want a dog on her. But at the same time, I gotta keep a balance where I can't dog her, and I can't dog you to her, So I'm just trying to like, I'm just kind of stuck in the middle, and I want to put it on on the guy. If it's about you, it's like, can you handle this woman for for however the kids are till they're out of the house and making their own decisions. That's what it really comes down to. Love this love Like if you love this guy, if you really love

this guy, you can work through it. But just know, when you marry him, you're marrying everything about him, not just him, and I think people lose focus of that. Yeah,

that's that makes sense. I have thought about, you know, seeing her for for forever, you know, andever forever for know you said it right, and that's the mind frame you gotta have, is forever, this woman will be in my life, even when the kids graduate college or get married, or she will be there and you will have to deal with her for for vacations, for family get together.

She will be there. And I don't know your dynamic, but if your love for this man and his love for you is strong enough, you could work through that. But if you're on the border, then it's something you really need to think about because it's a lot. It's a lot. Yeah, yeah, I know that that makes sense. I'm pretty agreeable. I think I can get along with anyone and probably make it work. It. Yeah, it's just

kind of daunting. Just know for the rest of your life she will be in your life and if you can deal with that mentally wrap your head around that, then go for it. All right, Thank you? Vicky. Hey Simone, Hi, Hi, I just wanted to ask about first dates, Like I got really really nervous on them and really in my

head about how to act and what to do. And I guess I was just wondering, Um, are there any like cues or clues that I can get from a guy, you know, just to like recognize whether they're into me or not? So well, I think I think, I mean, I think you're discreding it yourself. I think you need to be more worried about are you into him? You know what I mean, Like you need to look out for yourself first, and if you like the guy, then

look for cues. But I think the first thing is to be more confident in and be like, do I want to actually like this guy? And if I do, now let's look at the signs now, guy. You know, guys are guys, and so as a guy pulls out his phone just like a girl, they're not interested, you know. So unless he's like a super busy guy that is like, you know, has to be on his phone. But still you should pay the other person respect and not be

on your phone. And you know how guys are. I mean, if they're kind of like uh huh, they're uh huh okay and you and not really listening, then they're not into you know. Um, it's it's very guys. Here's the thing about guys, terrible liars. So you can it's easy to know if a guy is into your not and

it's not that difficult, you know. I think women want to make it difficult, especially if they like the guy, and they give the guys all these outs and give them second chances and third chances when in their heart they know the guys not into him. So I would just say be yourself, and I know that's so cliche, but be yourself, but forget about the guy liking you. Do you like the guy and do you think he would be best for you, not the other way around.

Never put him first, put yourself first. Yeah, okay, okay, I just got like a really freaked out on them. But thank you. Oh no, just be confident because I own it. Girl. You you deserve to be there. Okay, you deserve to be happy. Thank you. Alright. Someone, Hey Caitlin, Hi, how are you great? Great? What's your question? Okay? I recently met a guy through friends, UM, and we all went out and had a vibe. It was really really fun. Um. But he didn't ask for my number at the end

of the night. UM. So I was like, okay, but my friend said he was kind of shy but like super nice, and so he was probably just like too scared to be upfront. UM. So I was like, oh that's fine. UM. But then I connected with him on Instagram and we start to chatting on d M. UM. Since it was going well, I offered my number and he texted me right away, uh saying you know, hello back UM, and he gave me his number as well.

But UM, now he has like he hasn't said anything else. UM. It was just kind of like a quick back and forth of exchanging uh, like our numbers, UM, and our conversations on Instagram. We're going like really well so I don't know should I start another conversation on text and like be the one to like kick off that, or should I just like wait for him to text me again because I don't know. Am I being? Am I like the one thing? Well? Let me do you mind me asking how old you are or what range of

age you're in? Yeah, I'm in my thirties, and so here's my thing. And I'm different than a lot of guys. I might, but I don't feel like in your thirties you should be playing games, you know what I mean. I I feel like that's a younger thing to do, like in your twenties, mid twenties and under what you're getting your thirties. If a guy doesn't have the the ump to reach out to a woman that he's interested in, then that's on him. And I don't know if you

want that type of person in your life. Yeah, I mean this like I'm just hearing this from the outside, But if a guy is interested in something a hundred percent, I mean, he goes after it. I know I do. But even if he's shy, you know, because he's talking to you on Instagram and he's talking to you on text, So why are you initiating it? That's well, that's how Then that answers your question. Like I I feel that a lot of times women know the answer, they just

don't want to believe the answer, you know. And this is and it's not just women, let me a lot of men too, where if you really like someone, you will give them every excuse. But if a friend, if I were to say to you, say we were friends Kaylin, and I go, there's this girl I keep texting her, but she's not really hitting me back and stuff, you'd be like, what are you doing? She doesn't like you? You know what I mean? So basically, take your problem, record it and play it back to yourself, and what

advice would you give to that person. That's a really good point. Actually I would tell my friend that just

probably um move on. Yeah, yeah, like I I tell I tell everybody their their answers to their problems is basically, tell a record or your problem and play it back and what advice would you give to that And that really it kind of simplifies it because if he's not coming after you, that either means he's in a relationship and he's trying to balance like maybe another person and you and really doesn't know how to do it, and do you want to be involved with a person like that?

Or he just has other issue. You never know people's lives. He could have issues with money right now, issues with parents, issue, who knows, and he doesn't have enough time to be to have this in his world. So you never know people. You never know what people other people are going through. But it seems like he's not aggressive about you, so I don't think you should be aggressive about him. Yeah

he could. Yeah he's shy, but it's still just yeah, but shy, shy and not because it's different when I was growing up, Like if you were shy, you really couldn't talk to anyone because you couldn't text him, you can't instagram. You had to walk up to the person and actually talk to them. And now guys have all these outs where they could just text a person. So if he can't even text, I don't know if he's worth like you wasting your time. Yeah that's okay, thank

you for the clarity. That's um that yeah wow yeah alright, well thank you, Caitlin, thank you all right, have a good one. Hey, Karen, I had a question. Um, now, my husband and I have been together for almost twenty years. We're dating ten years and we've we've been married for ten years. We got two kids, and we both recently got promoted in our jobs, so he nice, thank you. Now. The kids, though, are active in a lot of sports and after school activities and all that kind of stuff.

And you know, lately, I really feel like I've been carrying the load of the household with the kids, and I'd really love him to be more involved, you know, helping them with their homework and shuffling with their practices and stuff. But I mean, he's always so exhausted after work, you know, he says he has to distress and things like that. Yeah, so my question is is there a way to bring up his involvement with the kids without you know, making putting more on his plate. I understand.

I think this is tough because since you both work, it's a different story. You know. Like I'm in a relationship where I work, but being a mom of two is a lot of work too. So my wife she's to stay at home um and any time, like, I'm very involved though, but anytime she needs me more involved, she just she'll just assign me something, you know, and I don't know if that's right for all. She'll just be like, oh, hey, I gotta do this, but can

you take the kids? Uh blah blah blah, and and this is this is kind of what to me, Men are better being told what to do than having a conversation about it, you know, and like because when you were, when we have a conversation about we'll find out. But if you're like, oh, I'm doing this today, but I need you to take the kids to school, most guys

be like, Okay, that sounds simple, you know. So I mean the whole conversation and not wanting to offend them because you both work, you know, I just say one day, just go, hey, I gotta do this, so can you take two kids to practice? And I know you're tired. You'd be empathetic because I'm sure he is with you at times, but you gotta be empathetic and go, I know you're tired, but I need to do this project.

So I need you to take the kids to this and see where it goes from there, you know, because there's no excuse where both parents shouldn't be involved in the kid's life, you know what I mean, instead of just saying, you know, do more, just be a little more specific. Yeah. Yeah, that's like somebody saying be a better person. You're like, okay, what do you what do you mean? What's wrong with me? Well? I want you to be a better person and listen more when I talk.

Now you're specific, right, instead of just I need you to help out, like I would be like, well, what are you talking about about? This is the first defense mechanism a guy goes to if a woman says be be uh you need to be more helpful. Well, I work, I bring money home, I do this, and so we get defensive. But if you're like just like, oh, hey, can you do this for me because I'm doing this, then you'll find out where a guy really is on things. You know what I mean? Let's be more specific and

more and more. Guys. Look, my friends they always say my wife told me to do this this, and she didn't say do stuff. She said I gotta go to this store, pick up this, I gotta do this, and I gotta take the kids here. You know, guys were not that bright. You need to tell us exactly, because we like our thing is, we don't analyze what's going on. We're just we just like, but if you tell us I need you to do the garbage today, I need you to run the kids to school. We're like, all right, cool,

I got it. But if you go, hey, just help out, We're like, I thought I was helping out. Okay, that's actually really helpful. Thank you. It just maybe I just confused him by saying, you know, help mark, yeah, because we don't know what that means. We're dumb. Remember, we are dumb, Like, we don't know what that means. But if you say take the kids to school, we go, oh, I know what that means. Okay, great. Oh that was so hopeful. Thank you, you bet you care. Have a

great one. Thanks you to take care well. I had a blast on how men think. And I gotta say thank you for all the phone calls. If you want to follow me on Instagram, hit me up at Michael Yo. But my new comedy special drops March seventh. I'm so excited about it. I put my heart and soul into it. And uh, it's the same day that I went to the hospital two years ago battling COVID, So two years after it's dropping March seventeenth. And to see what you can go through and see the light at the end

of the tunnel and drop a new special. It's beautiful. Just go to Michael Yo dot com and you can watch it on there on March seventeen, and follow me on Instagram at Michael Yo. Love you guys, Thank you so much for hanging and keep listening to this pot and keep the calls coming. I'll see you next time later. This is how Men Think and I Heart Radio London Audio Production listen each Thursday on the I Heart Radio app, Apple podcast or wherever you get your podcasts.