How Men Think with Jimmie Allen

I had a few conditions. No sugarcoating, no mind games, and absolutely no man splaining. Men are hard enough to understand without the mind games. To be honest, I'm not even convinced that they understand themselves, but the How Men Think podcast is exactly what we need to figure them out. It's going to be fun, informative, and probably a bit scary at times because we're literally going inside the minds

of men. Buckle up, check out the How Men Think Podcast on I Heart Radio and everywhere you listen to podcasts. Hey what's up, y'all? I'm Jimmy Allen. Some of you might know me as a singer songwriter, uh or someone you're tired of hearing on the radio. Either way, I'm me. I'm here and I'm happy to be guest hosting How men think? So we're gonna answer all your questions and solve some of your fascinating questions that you've probably been sitting on for a while and kind of wanted to yourself.

What do you men think? How do you men think? But I'll tell you what before we jump into all that, we're gonna jump into eleven questions kind of about myself as shucks. So before we jump into that, We're gonna go into eleven questions, and I'll tell a little bit about me that way, hopefully you feel a lot more comfortable. We can get on here and have good time and I can answer some of your questions. Okay, So here we go. This is eleven Questions with Jimmy Allen. What

are you known for? Tell us about yourself? Well, I I probably known for, you know, being a country music artist recently. Probably it's a lot of people know me from Dance with the Star of Season thirty, which is being great by the way. That's me. You know. I grew up in this town called Milton, Delaware with my father, my mother, my siblings, grow listen to country music, rock music. You know, Christie music, R and B, hip hop everything. Um,

this small town guy. You know, I love fishing. I love hanging out at the Mooselage, you know, drinking beers and playing cards with my family. Who are you in your personal life? Yeah? In my personal life, I'm sure my wife would say I am the kind of opposite of who I am on stage on television. Um, I don't know. I'm a lot more chill at home, you know, probably because I spend so much energy at work. I'm a lot I'm sure my wife would like me be a lot more energetic at home because I give it

to the world, gives to everybody else. But times at home, I just love watching TV. Uh. You know. I love being with my wife and you know, saying stuff and laughing with her and crying with her doing we're TV shows because we watched a lot of TV out of movies. Um. But yeah, that's kind of me in my personal life. I love Disney World. I'm pretty simple for the most part. Tell us three shows you're binge watching right now? Three

shows I'm binge watching? Uh, Succession, Um, that's my bench watched. Oh, Lock and Key just came out. Oh and you. We were on you, we just finished you. What is your favorite food? I would probably say French toasts. I love breakfast food altogether. Mac and cheese, my grandma's recipe and mac and cheese, Kenny, I love soul food. I don't know, it's not that great for you. You You shouldn't eat it as much as I do, but it's so good. Tell us about your career my career. Um, while I'm touring

country artists right now. Um, some people consider me country, some people just consider me an artist. Either way. I get to travel and sing songs I wrote with my friends. Um, so that's for me the best part. Um, don't get into a lot of television now, whether it's hosting or being a contestant on the show like Dance with the Stars, doing that, and you know, just working on a bunch of things I've always wanted to do, all right, And you know with my career, I am a officially children's

book Arthur. Right now, I have a book I'll call my Voice as a Trumpet. Um. Two of my biggest highlights in my career, I would say it's one I got to perform with Charlie Pride on the CMA Awards. Charlie Pride is the first black country artist. I sold over sixty million records in the sixties and seventies. Um and working with another musical giant, Elton John. I got to do a song with Elton on his new album

called The Lockdown Sessions. We did a song that I co wrote with some people called Beauty the Bones, and I still can't believe those two things happen in career. What's your biggest fear in life? Probably not living up to the expectations I set for myself, whether that be you know who I am as a father, a parent, a musician, And that's probably my biggest fear. Like setting

bars for myself and not reaching them. You know, um, letting people down, that's my biggest fear, whether it's my wife or my kids, that's my That's my biggest fear. What's your biggest pet peeve? Lazy people on my biggest pet peeves. There's nothing I hate worse than a lazy person. And I ask whole. I ask whole is someone who asked you questions, You give answers and they do the exact opposite of what you told them to do. You know anyone that makes excuses. I just feel like, yeah,

things are hard in life. There's always gonna be obstacles. I don't mean you can't get through them, can't get around them. Um, So yeah, those are probably my biggest pet peeves. What makes you the most happy? I honestly hanging out with my family a Disney World. I'm sure my family is sick a going, but I don't know what it is about that place and being in with my family that really makes me happy. What is your

ideal Saturday morning? Ideal Saturday morning falling into the city on a new city on tour, you know, having my family with me, eat bread, let's hang out, you know, doing a couple of beers with my band, playing some corn hole. That's that's great for me. Are you more of the athlete or the armchair quarterback? I think I'm more an athlete for sure. Definitely more of the athlete. I'd rather be out there doing it than sit and watch somebody else do it. Last and not least. What

keeps you motivated? I'll say my family keeps are motivated, you know, for for providing for them and in my career. For me. Honestly, everything clicked once I have my son. You know, I realized that my dream didn't change, but my purpose and my reason behind when I was doing changes, because I feel like you see a lot more success. You have a purpose, you know, for what you're doing, and there's a reason behind what you're doing. That was the Eleven Questions with Jimmy Allen. So, y'all, I just

answered some questions about myself. Now I'm actually here to answer questions from you. So let's jump into that right now. Hi, Hey, how you doing. I'm good. My name is a Lissa. How are you hello? Listen, my name is Jimmy. Hello. Okay, So my question is why do men always say they're simple creatures but we can never figure them out? Well, honestly we are. The thing is, see, man, if you ask us a question, whatever we say, that's what we mean. And what I've learned is women like to look for

meanings within our answer. There's no more meanings. That's it. So if you ask us, sir, for instance, you know, one of the most famous ones is if a woman says does this dress make me look back right? And say the guy says, yes, it does. What we're saying is we're not saying you're back. We're saying that dress makes you look that way. And then you know I've said that someone before. So every dress that where it makes me look at No, I didn't say that. I

said that. You said does this dress make me look back? And we said, yes, that dressed us guys need three things. We want to watch our sports and not we ask any questions during our sports. That's it. We want. We love to eat, We love time, y'all, and just enjoying it without it meaning anything. If a guy asks you, hey, let's hang out, it's not because we're in trouble trying to get out of trouble. No, we just want to hang out. One thing that men don't like the most

is just the thing my wife does it. Hey, babe, we do want to eat tonight? Um, and I'll say something. I'll say, well, what do you want to Oh, it doesn't matter. Then I mention something I don't want to eat that. What do you just said? It doesn't matter. So the thing you, guys, the more straight to the point you are, we understand that when questions and things start getting drawn out, that's when we're just guys. Would rather just tell us what you want we'll do it.

M take. Thank you. You're hopping on here. What's up? How are you good? How are you? I'm doing well. Nice to meet you. Nice to meet too, too. I appreciate you hopping on here. Of course I'm excited to ask you my question. Nice, she got so I need to hear a man's perspective about texting in my dating life. I have never understood why men text so short and simple that they don't include emojis like obviously us females do.

I just can't get a read on it. Is there any way to figure out a guy has interested you and you by the way he texts, Not really by the way he texts, but if he texts you first. Put it this way. If you text the guy and he responds, it's one thing. But if you don't text a guy for a day or two and he don't text you back, he ain't interested. That's a good point. That's good to know. Okay, guys, if we want something,

we go get it. And a lot of times I know you might try to make excuses for him or for yourself, saying well maybe he's busy, he ain't that busy. It takes two seconds to send a text and if he's not even thinking about you, honestly, to send a text because he ain't thinking about you. He because I guarantee, see, guys were different. A lot of times girls will give out their number and not even want to talk to

a guy. They just do it to be nice. Guys, we don't ask for girls numbers really if we're not really interested. And if we text you, we're interested. So if you're texting him more than he's texting you not It's not about the length of the text message because a lot of times we're straight to the point. If you're texting him and you hear from him that night or the next day, he ain't interested. Move on over. I love that. That's a good quarter. I'm gonna keep

that in mind. Yeah, thank you so well'll careff. There's no emoji or anything anymore emojis. Thank you, You're so welcome. You have a good night, all right? By under pressure? Um, the pressure on the stretch. M Hi, Hey, what's going on? Are you good? How are you doing good? UM? I have a question for you. Right okay, So my boyfriend lives in Miami. I live in California. UM, I know you're on the road. So how do you keep it, like, how do you keep your connection or your relationship close

with all that distance. Well, I tell you this, most guys were bad at communication, honest, Like my wife would tell you, I am not the best with communication. But I love my wife, you know what I mean, She's the one I chose to marry, so what I want to be with. But we're not always good at showing a lot of times we're better in person. Um, I would just say, be honest. You know, first of all, I ask him, hey, do you see this going anywhere? Long term? Straight to the point. With guys, is better

to ask straight to the point. Don't try to figure out what he's thinking. Just ask him. Right. If you ask a guy that right and he gives you a long drawn out answer longer than three sentence, three sentences typically is full of crap. Because we're very honest, you see, it's gonna wear Yeah, I do boom, that's enough. Um, but I don't know. I would say, just talk to him and tell him what you need, right. And I

feel like, here's the things about relationships. It's about finding someone who can give you what you need, and also you give them what they need, and then find someone who gives you what you want and also make sure you can give him what he wants. And I say you have that conversation right now. Just be honest, because the last thing you want to do is waste your time. Yeah,

always his time. You know, you could try to make something work that ain't gonna work, and all that's doing is you're wasting time, stopping you from meeting the person you're supposed to be with, and you're stopping him from waste you know, meeting the person that he's supposed to be with. And just know, there's a lot of great people out there, right, but not every great person belongs together. You know, life and relationships are about you living your

life and they live in there. And along the way you find someone who's still heading your same trajectory, but your lives and who you are don't don't have to change. And you know the thing about relationships is has to equal, not saying each person has to give a uncent, but as equal, because it might be sometimes where you're gonna give and you have to make sure he's willing to

give that other eight invit. So yeah, I say, you have that conversation with him and be honest and if it don't work out, no hard feelings, it just don't work out. That means that's not the person for you. Because I don't really get wrapped up and soul made stuff. I don't really believe in that. I believe in you finding the person who you're willing to deal with their baggage and their bad part because everybody can do well

with the good parts of the person. But are you willing to deal with the person's bad habits, deal with their baggage. That's that's when you fain. Okay, I can deal with that. That's how you know you're on the right path to find a person you're supposed to be with. Thank you, Thank you for too into love doctor, get that? Okay? Hi, what's up? Hi? My name is Zoe. How are you, Zoe? How are you doing what you're calling from? I'm good.

I'm calling from Orange County, California. Orange County, Yeah, I know, we're pretty Orange County. Yeah, I'm in l A right now. Awesome. Well, it's nice to see you. And so my question is, I'm not currently in a relationship, but there's a guy at work who expresses his interest I e buys me food, talk successively to me, fixes things for me for free. But the other day I offered him my number as opposed to talking at work to avoid getting in trouble,

and he didn't respond to it. He just kind of avoided it and continued today to just his sweet behavior and like didn't really like and like didn't really like. I think he ignored the question. But I don't know. I'm confused, Like, do you guys like forwardness? So they're not I'm so confused. So here's the thing about guys. Sometimes they like forwardness. But from what you said, I

have two takes on that. Okay, One he likes the floor at work because he's probably in a relationship already somewhere. Or he might not be interested in girls. He probably you know, might like guys and just wants a friend. That's what I was thinking, Oh my god, because I'm like, if he if he's flirting with you and you offer the number and he don't take it, you have relationship or just don't like girls, or maybe he does like girls, but he might want to just keep it as a friend.

I don't know. I feel like those are the only three answers that you should if do you like him? Do you find him attractives? Yes? I do. But my other answer in my head was he's gay, because I feel like guys who are attractive and nicer they're taking are gay, and that's he's not. My thing is winning doubt. Just asked the question, say, hey, I'm interested. There's nothing wrong with being honest, you know, not wrong being forward. Hey I'm interested in you. Would you like to hang out?

Are you interested in me? Yeah? But he said he's single. He's like, oh, I'm single. That's why I buy people's stuff and that's why I'm like, what, Yeah, Then maybe he just enjoys being single and enjoys the game. There's some people that just enjoy the game, you know, they don't. They just enjoyed the hurting, the you know, the interaction at work, and that's kind of where they wanted. So you should ask him, went in dout. That's my that's my answer for everyone. Just asked the question. Try to

get an honest answer out of him. That way, you know, you can just figure out from the air and I'll move on. Oh you're so awesome, Thank you so much to me. I appreciate it. I appreciate you calling in a great in whatever this thing is? Yes, God black right, maybe you're my advice. My wife's another and she probably they're like, why why I ask your him? Hey Gabby, how are you doing great? How are you good? What

you think and what's on your brain? Um? Well, my question, I guess would be um, boyfriend and I are in just this new relationship and um our schedules are very opposing. So I guess my question is how can we make sure to make time for each other? Because sometimes it feels like you try and plan everything. Maybe it's not as romantic. I guess I would say, see the thing about there's a difference between romance and what you see

on television, right, you know what I mean? So I would say, find out what's important to you, right, and whether it's time, whether it's words of affection, whether it's physical touch whatever, and see he didn't give that to you. And also if he's busy and stuff, you have to take in mind, what are you willing to sacrifice until he's able to give you what you want? And I

feel like that's the biggest thing I'm all about. You know, have the conversation you might not always agree, you know, but if you feel like that's the person you want to be with and he tells you and shows you he wants to be with you, um, you know, you try to make it work again. Like I you know, I told someone before, relationships are about sometimes he can only give twenty and you gotta give eight. Right now. With my wife and my schedule she's given, I can

only give ten. You know. I'm sure it's frustrating for her, but you know she's been great. You know, she's been my rock, holding me down and um to where I'm all over the place traveling, you know, she's been there. I'm sure it's frustrating, but she's still there. And when someone loves you, even though it hurts and it sucks sometimes not seeing them all the time, they're willing to put that work in. So I don't know, it's just a conversation you gotta have with them and be honest,

you know, be straight to the point. Tell them what you want, tell them what you need, ask them can you fulfill this? And if you can't, what's stopping you? And how long will what stopping you continue to stop you? And then see if you're willing to do with that. Yeah, absolutely, Oh yeah, that's that's great advice. That's why I'm here. Open conversation. Definitely a way that's an open conversation. And honestly, I feel like the worst thing people do in relationships

is not say what they're feeling. They're afraid of offending or hurting somebody else's feelings. It ain't about that. Yeah, it's about you being honest because the last thing you want to do is not say what you're feeling. Then two weeks, two years down the road, during this relationship with you're frustrating not getting everything you want, and the person you're with could have been willing to sacrifice and make it work. But guys, the thing about guys is

if you don't know, we don't tell us. If you don't tell us, we don't know. We are not mind readers. We don't try to be mind readers. We are very simple creatures and women are the most complex individuals in the world. So the best you can simplify it for him, the better. All right, Okay, oh yeah, I appreciate you coming on here. Thank you so much. Oh you're welcome. A great night. How you taking easy? All right, we're back from break and Jimmy. A bunch of our listeners

have d m us emailed us. Um, don't forget everyone that's listening right now. You can d m U s at how Many Things podcast or email us h M T at I Heart Radio dot com. Um, And if it's okay with you, I'm going to go through a couple of these questions. Sounds good when you're not working. What is your ideal date night? Huh, my ideal date night or my watch, my ideal date night is going to the house bowling maybe and my wife going to

the bowling alley. But that's my ideal date night. Honestly, it would be going to the house, hanging out with my wife, you know, ordering some food, watching a TV show, or moving just laying in bad like I just I enjoy her company, like I really really do it And I don't have to be doing anything to be happy. Women are always said to do it all. How are you possibly dancing, touring and helping your wife with a new important baby. Well, I'll tell you what my wife's

actually doing all that too. You know, you know, I've luckily been blessed to marry an amazing, strong woman who's doing the parenting right now, you know, while still supporting me touring and doing Dance with the Stars. So honestly, I'm doing all that because of her. What is your advice if a dad won't change diapers or help with feedings, how can that conversation be started? Man, throw it out there and say, hey, you're turning to change the diaper

and the das I want to change. You don't love your kid, so you don't want to just you just want to. You could kid here in a in a dirty diaper because you don't want to get up and do it. Yeah, actually do that. Um, But also too, there's a balance, you know. I feel I feel like the mom is working and busy and the dad got a lot more free time change the diapers, you know what I mean. I feel like it's that's the relationship I guess between each couple. You know, Um, if you

have the free time to do it, do it. And I'm not making an excuse for people that are working and don't change diapers. But again, I'm in a city Wish where I've lucky enough to where my wife understands like I'm mom, I'm tired, you know, um, and she changes our children's diapers and don't even mentioned it. Every now and again, I might change the diaper, you know,

but typically I'm I'm gone when I come home. I'm just so tired, you know, I hang out with her for a little bit, and if the baby's there and i'm you know, next to our go ahead and change the diaper. But again, I think it's each each relationship differs. You know, if you feel like you need help with the diapers, don't be afraid to ask that person for help. When we are all so busy and tired and still want to be affectionate. How do you show affection? What

are your favorite ways someone shows you affection? See, I'm not honestly sure what my favorite way of affection is. I've never really narrowed in what my love language is. Um. But I know when it comes to my wife, I know she likes quality time. You know, that's a big thing for her. Um. She might not say it, but I think she loves words of affirmation UM. And I know for sure she loves physical touch. But when it comes to me, I honestly don't know. And then really

stopped to figure that out. Are men attracted to women even if they're fresh after working out or waking up, depends on the guy. I think my wife looks great in the morning, you know. You know, I want to roll over and grab a kiss in the morning, even if she got her little glasses on with her bad breath, you know what I mean. I feel like when you're attracted to some person, it's the person you're attracted to,

you know what I mean. So whether you see them with makeup or without makeup, that's still the same person. So for me, attraction goes beneath the surface of the appearance in the face, you know what I mean. You're attracted to that person. You're attracted that person's soul. You're attracted to who they are. So whether they're fresh in the morning without makeup or with makeup, I personally prefer my wife without makeup. I'm all about that. Let me see you, you know what I mean. So that's that's

what I'm into. When did you know you were ready to be married? And when did you know you were ready to have kids? Um? I feel like a kid thing. You can't really plan it, you know what I mean? Because I had my son when I was making nineteen thousand dollars a year, you know what I mean. So it's not really a right time or a wrong time to have children, it's just once they get here and making sure. I feel like it comes to making sure you're willing to do whatever it takes to provide for them.

It's not about a certain job. It's not about making a certain amount of money. Um. Marriage for me hit me when I wasn't expecting it. You know, I was you know, I was starting to have success in music. I was single, I was traveling, I was having a good time. And then me and my wife connected and I don't know, it was just a shift for me. I was okay. Remember I told my cousin. I was like,

I'm done retiring my jersey, hanging my sneakers up. He was like, really, I see yeah, because I found someone that for me, what was important is she's from my hometown where I'm from, and I love where I'm from. I'm very sentiment like at homesick a lot, so being with alexis for me it's like having a piece of home everywhere I go. Now, that was important for me, you know, someone that understood where I was from and someone that added to my life. And that's the big

thing someone that asked to your life. That's when I felt like I was ready. But it wasn't a point where I said, when I get here in my career, when I do this and do that. And I felt like I knew I was ready by meeting the right person and actually thinking about, Hey, is this the person I want to be with, and then just making a decision to do it. This is a little bit of a longer email from Lindsay. She says, my husband has a child from a previous marriage and we have a

new baby girl on the way. How do you make sure to make both kids feel special? Are there any phrases or activities my husband and I can do to make sure the love is spread evenly been in that situation My first son aid, and is from a previous relationship. UM, I feel like the biggest thing is always include the first child from the past relationship, you know, because a lot of times you can get so wrapped up in a new baby that you can unintentionally, you know, leave

out the other kid. So just make sure whenever y'all have the kid, spend time with him, you know, do things with him and his new baby sibling. But also do things with just that child as well. UM. I feel like that's super important, just making sure they always feel included. Last question, what is the best advice you have for keeping a marriage solid? Man? This advice I'm giving myself the same time I'm giving you um communication

which I suck at. UM. Making time for that other person, even if that means you don't get as much sleep as you want or if you're exhausted. Just just being honest about everything, even if it's something you think the other person doesn't want to hear. Just be honest. That's the biggest thing I've learned about being married is just be honest. See how you feel, because you can't read other person's mind and you don't know how they might feel when you say something or when you bring something up.

So openness and communication is number one. And then you know, I don't want to say that word compromised because I don't really like that word compromised, because I don't really think the way I say sacrifice. I like the word sacrifice because to me, sacrifice means you're giving up something you want for the person you love because you love them. To me, the word compromise kind of means you're giving it up to avoid turmoil or avoid an argument, and that I don't think this should be about it to

be about sacrifice. You know, you love that person and you're willing to give up something to make sure that happy because you love them. Hey, y'all, that was a good time. We answer some questions. Hopefully, um, someone heard something they need to hear to help their relationship continue to grow and help them with you know, getting into their next relationship. But yeah, you know you can catch me on all the social media's at Jimmy Allen as j I M M I E A L L E

n um. Yeah. So it's been fun. I will see y'all soon. Make sure you tune in to the Disney Christmas special. You might see me on there and I'll see you all there. You have a happy holidays. Thanks for listening to How Men Think an I Heart Radio London Audio Production