Curious about spanking, hair pulling, or a little consensual roughness... but not sure where to start? You're not alone. In this episode, we’re joined by Luna Matatas , a renowned Sex and Pleasure Educator known for her playful, trauma-informed approach to kink and impact play. With over 15 years of experience in the field, Luna walks us through how to explore rough sex in ways that feel hot, empowering, and safe. We talk about how to build trust, use communication as foreplay, and find the conf...
Aug 20, 2025•59 min
Your imagination might be the most powerful tool in your sex life and this episode will show you EXACTLY how to use it. We’re talking all things sexual fantasies —what they are, how to discover your desires, and creative ways to bring them to life. Whether you’re looking for fantasy roleplay ideas , inspiration for solo play, or ways to spice things up with a partner, this episode gives you the tools to confidently explore your turn-ons without shame. We cover: What a sexual fantasy really is (a...
Aug 13, 2025•1 hr 1 min
What if sexual confidence had nothing to do with experience and everything to do with trusting yourself? With a background in sexual health research and a passion for pleasure-first education, Caitlin V Neal breaks down what sexual confidence really means and how to build it (even if you’re starting from zero). From quieting your inner critic to getting out of performance mode, Caitlin shares actionable, empowering ways to feel grounded, connected, and fully in your body. What We Cover in This E...
Aug 06, 2025•1 hr 19 min
If your sex drive tanked after starting antidepressants, you’re not alone and you’re definitely not broken. This week we’re dipping into the Honey Aerchive and revisiting our episode with Dr. Jordan Rullo , a Clinical Health Psychologist and Sex Therapist who specializes in sexual function. Dr. Rullo explains how antidepressants impact desire, arousal, and orgasm, and what you can actually do to bring the spark (and your confidence) back. What We Cover in This Episode: The science behind antidep...
Jul 30, 2025•1 hr 9 min
Why do relationships feel so DAMN complicated these days? Modern love comes with sky-high expectations—partners are expected to be our best friend, therapist, co-parent, and soulmate all rolled into one. In this episode, Nicholas Velotta , Ph.D. student and Head of Research at Arya , shares why relationships feel harder today, what the science of intimacy has to tell us, and how building community (and redefining partnership) can take the pressure off and bring the spark back. What We Cover in T...
Jul 23, 2025•1 hr 5 min
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. The Question: “Hi there! Been a looooong time listener of the pod and have a question/need for advice. My fiancé and I have been together for almost 4 years, we’re in a super healthy relationship, and I feel very happy with him. The last few months or so, our sex life has been a little less than normal and less than what I hoped for. We still have satisfying sex, but not as fre...
Jul 16, 2025•57 min
If you’ve ever had sex you didn’t really want to have— to avoid awkwardness, not hurt your partner's feelings or just get it over with—this episode is for you. We’re joined by Claire Perelman , a Queer, Jewish, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in the Bay Area who specializes in working with queer, poly, and kink communities. Claire breaks down what it really means to “push through” during sex, why so many of us do it (even when we know we don’t want to), and how to start honoring your bounda...
Jul 09, 2025•58 min
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. The Question: " I’m in my mid-20s now, but I still feel like my breakup from high school is affecting the way I show up in relationships. Like… my attachment style, my trust issues, the way I react when someone pulls away. It all kind of traces back to that first heartbreak. Shouldn’t I be over it by now? It feels silly sometimes, but it also feels so real. Am I broken or is th...
Jul 02, 2025•1 hr 4 min
Self-trust isn’t just a cute idea, it’s the foundation for literally everything . This week we’re joined by Emily Romero, trauma therapist turned author and creator of The Self-Trust Model™ , to talk about how to stop overthinking, start trusting your gut, and finally feel like you’ve got you . If people-pleasing, insecurity, or indecision have been running the show... this one’s for you. We cover: Why people-pleasing, overthinking, and low self-worth all come back to self-trust. If you’re stuck...
Jun 25, 2025•1 hr 8 min
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. The Question: I’ve been with my partner for almost three years and I love everything about our relationship… except for the fact that he never compliments me. In the years we have dated he has never once told me I look pretty, hot, beautiful, nothing. I tell him often that I like his outfit, hair, shoes, that he looks hot, etc. but he never reciprocates. He makes me feel very l...
Jun 18, 2025•47 min
Ever get hit with a wave of anxiety, sadness, or anger and think, “Cool, but what do I do with this?” This episode is your answer. We’re joined by somatic coach and nervous system expert Béa Victoria Albina, NP, MPH to talk about exactly what to do when big feelings show up (without spiraling, shutting down, or pretending you're fine). We’re talking mini, step-by-step action plans for managing anger, sadness, and anxiety in the moment and how to stay fully present when you’re actually feeling go...
Jun 11, 2025•1 hr 18 min
Who decided being single has to be a pit stop on the way to something better? In this episode, we’re showing you how to make your single era the main event . Think solo date nights, orgasms (duh), reframing everything you thought you knew about singlehood, and building a life so good it turns heads. Being single isn’t a gap, it’s the glow-up. What We Cover in This Episode: Why singlehood isn’t a “pause” in your life, it’s the glow-up. We reframe being single as an expansive, intentional chapter,...
Jun 04, 2025•1 hr 1 min
In this episode, we’re joined by Nicole Thompson , a sex and relationship psychotherapist and host of the Modern Anarchy Podcast . Nicole brings a trauma-informed, radically compassionate lens to the way we talk about sex, relationships, and desire. Together, we explore how shame holds us back from pleasure and how we can start speaking up, owning what we want, and creating the kinds of connections that feel liberating and real. What we cover in this episode: How to talk about sex, whether you'r...
May 28, 2025•1 hr 9 min
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips and personal experience. The Question: "I'm in a really loving and supportive relationship and I want to have sex. Like, I mentally want it—I’m attracted to my partner, I crave intimacy, I feel emotionally connected… but it still takes me a long time to feel fully turned on physically. I don’t just get wet easily, and sometimes it feels like I’m waiting for my body to catch up. It makes me feel kind of...
May 21, 2025•34 min
We sat down with Susanna Brisk , Sexual Intuitive®️ and certified sex educator who's been helping individuals and couples for nearly a decade reignite their sexual spark. We're diving deep into what really happens to sex and intimacy after having kids , exploring how parenthood can reshape desire and sharing practical tools to reclaim your slutty self . We cover: How to reignite sexual connection after having kids – tips for rebuilding desire and intimacy at any stage of parenting Common myths a...
May 14, 2025•59 min
This week we're diving into all things intimacy while pregnant and postpartum. Cass is answering listener questions about her experience navigating sex and relationships as a new mom. We cover: WTF a mucus plug is How Cass navigated body changes while pregnant and postpartum and a PSA on stretch marks Normalizing postpartum vaginas How Cass navigated sex and intimacy while pregnant and postpartum A pep talk for when postpartum doesn't go the way you hoped it would What advice Cass would give to ...
May 07, 2025•52 min
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a bunch of research. The Question: "I think my penis might be too big for comfortable penetrative sex with my girlfriend. We’ve had open conversations about it and she’s super reassuring, but I still end up feeling guilty, like my body is somehow making things harder (pun unintended, but also… not wrong). What is actually considered a “normal” penis size? Do women even care ab...
Apr 30, 2025•33 min
You know when you're in a long term relationship and the sex just gets a little... meh? Maybe it's feeling routine, lacking spice, or just isn't hitting how it used to. That's why we're chatting up Dr. Diane Mueller, a board-certified sexologist with a game plan to get your sex life back on track. We cover: The science behind why passion ebbs and flows over the course of a long term relationship What a truly PASSIONATE relationship can look like Tips for flirting with your partner Action steps f...
Apr 23, 2025•54 min
We're joined once again by the LOVELY Susan Morgan Taylor, MA a somatic sex therapist and relationship coach, but this time we're diving headfirst into LIBIDO. We cover: What a normal libido looks like & how we define low vs. high libido Common myths and misconceptions about having a low libido How to navigate sex drive differences within a relationship The importance of the 3 N's: Noticing, Naming & Negotiating Sex acts for when you're low on energy How to bring this conversation to you...
Apr 16, 2025•55 min
We're revisiting the juiciest lesson on foreplay and initiation with none other than Haylin Belay. Haylin is a sexual health educator, bodyworker, and pleasure witch who is ready to CHANGE YOUR DAMN LIFE. We cover: Expanding your definition of foreplay How to turn yourself ON Understanding the phases of sexual arousal and USING that to your advantage How to feel ENTITLED to your needs How to make communication feel ✨sexy✨ Low-stakes ways to initiate sex How to engage in foreplay ALL DAY Connect ...
Apr 09, 2025•1 hr
In this week's episode we're answering one of YOUR questions with a combination of expert tips, personal experience, and a whole lot of vulnerability. The Question: "My best friend and I have been inseparable for years, but now we’re in different life stages—she’s focused on her career and dating and I’m starting a family. It’s hard to stay as close as we were. How can we keep this friendship strong while growing in different directions?" We cover: • Expert tips for navigating change within a fr...
Apr 02, 2025•46 min
If the sex you're having is overly focused on penetration, you're missing out on a WORLD of pleasure. Treating P in V as the main event is keeping us from exploring the endless buffet of sexual options, which is why we're learning to broaden our menu with Claire Perelman, a Certified Sex Therapist. In this episode we dive into: WHY you need to start decentering P in V sex The BENEFITS of focusing on sexual acts outside of penetration How to tell your partner you want to stop prioritizing penetra...
Mar 26, 2025•51 min
Ever had sex that didn't live up to your expectations? Maybe you didn't feel the way you thought you "should" or things didn't turn out the way you imagined. Moments like these can lead to some serious negative feelings, making you want to avoid sex altogether. Luckily, Sex Therapist Jessa Zimmerman is equipping us with all the tips, tools and knowledge to navigate these tricky times. We cover: What sexual avoidance is, how it can feel, and WHY it happens Redefining all the "shoulds" that come w...
Mar 19, 2025•49 min
Ever wish you could hit refresh on a few of your personality traits? Maybe you want to be less nervous, more outgoing, or become a little more organized. Olga Khazan, author of the new book "Me, But Better: The Science and Promise of Personality Change" is chatting us through the HOW TO's of all that and more, so grab a pen and buckle up. We cover: The "Big 5" personality traits-- emotional stability, extraversion, openness, agreeableness & conscientiousness How to figure out where you rank ...
Mar 12, 2025•58 min
Chances are your masturbation practice could use a little *refresh*. That's why we're giving you a step by step guide to crafting your PERFECT solo play ritual. We cover: What our current masturbation practices look like (HINT: not ideal lol) WHY you should be prioritizing masturbation The MANY physical, emotional, mental, AND relationship benefits of masturbating How to set up your space for a peaceful practice Extra steps you can take to make yourself feel special 3 example masturbation practi...
Mar 05, 2025•53 min
Whether you're looking to take charge in the bedroom, feel more confident in your everyday life, or learn wtf it means to be a lifestyle dom, then this episode is FOR YOU. We're talking with Mistress Damiana Chi, a legendary Dominatrix with over 25 years of experience and a Ph.D. in clinical psychology who uses BDSM as a healing modality. We cover: A refresher on what BDSM is and what it means to be a Dominatrix What it's like to be a lifestyle dom and a deep dive into the master/slave dynamic w...
Feb 26, 2025•1 hr 9 min
BIG transitions are a part of life. Whether you're moving in together, getting married, having a baby or experiencing some other form of change, your relationship is bound to feel a little (or a lot) different. Cue Tarah & EJ Kerwin, two therapists on a mission to provide couples with the tools they need to GET THROUGH these transitions without giving up on one another. In this episode, we cover: The most common transitions couples go through and WHY they're so f*cking hard (even if they're ...
Feb 19, 2025•1 hr 7 min
We're diving DEEP into the history of PORN with our friends over at Right Answers Mostly, Claire and Tess. From the dawn of time to the creation of the internet, porn has captivated us horny little humans for basically EVER. So in this episode we're covering: Ancient porn (because, again, humans have been horny from the start) Porn in the 1800's (including erotic novels, naughty nudes & Stag Films) The Golden Age of Porn Porn & Pop Culture A lesson on ethical porn (what is it, why it's c...
Feb 12, 2025•1 hr 21 min
SEX IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN! Which is why we're introducing you to a BUTTLOAD of games you can start playing in the bedroom and beyond. We cover: WHY you need to start playing sex games and their MANY benefits Games to help you and your partner get to know each other Teasing games to help build the (sexual) tension Orgasm denial games Food games Games to play with sex toys Timed games & actual board games (including a special Honeydew Me game you can get if you subscribe to our Patreon!) JOIN ...
Feb 05, 2025•48 min
We're diving into long term relationships with Dr. Frankie Bashan, a sex therapist and founder of Little Gay Book, an LGBTQIA+ matchmaking service! We cover: Whether or not long term relationships should feel EASY + other common misconceptions about LTRs The tools you NEED to build a strong relationship The common (and toxic) mistakes we're making in our relationships How to navigate with dreaded "roommate phase" What being "clingy" actually means and what you can do to address it Daily + weekly...
Jan 29, 2025•55 min
