Our BESTIE Victoria Albina, NP, MPH, a coach for people with codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing thinking, is BACK and as always... it's everything we've been craving. In this episode we're unpacking OVERFUNCTIONING. Wtf is it? How do we stop? V has all the answers and more. We cover: What it means to be "overfunctioning" and why people with codependent, perfectionist & people pleasing tendencies often find ourselves here Examples of how we overfunction in relationships, the workp...
Nov 20, 2024•51 min
We're diving into ORGASMS with Keeley Rankin, MA, a sex & relationship coach who is ready to redefine how you think about sex. We cover: What an orgasm ACTUALLY is How most vagina owners reach orgasm Orgasm comparison aka feeling like your orgasms are less than because you can't orgasm in a particular way (internally, cliterally etc.) What gets in the way of finding your orgasm THE ORGASM TRAP... what is it and how do we get out of it?! Why we NEED to depriotritze orgasms in order to MAXIMIZ...
Nov 13, 2024•58 min
We're chatting with Sara Fisk, host of the Ex Good Girl podcast and coach for people who want to stop people pleasing. We cover: What it means to be "a good girl" and how it's RUINING your life both in and outside the bedroom The "Good Girl Rules" we need to start breaking in order to live our most authentic, fulfilling lives WHY we people please and how to know when we're doing it A step by step plan for eliminating people pleasing from your life How to disappoint people (and why you should sta...
Nov 06, 2024•1 hr 8 min
After 4 years of interviewing experts, we’re sharing EVERYTHING we’ve learned about asking for what you want in the bedroom (and beyond). We chat through how to ask for what you want, and tools to help you advocate for yourself from start to 💦finish💦. We cover: Common obstacles and how to overcome them How to figure out what you want What to do if you’re feeling insecure about your desires Tools to make asking easier How to deal with rejection (and gracefully reject someone else) Examples of h...
Oct 30, 2024•55 min
We're chatting all things ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION with Melissa Hadley Barrett, a Nurse Practitioner and Sexologist from Western Australia who specializes in treating ED. We unpack the causes of ED, the many treatment options, and how to start working through any shame or embarrassment you or your partner may be experiencing. We also cover: How COMMON erectile dysfunction is and why you really don't need to feel ashamed Reasons why you may be experiencing ED What to say to a partner who's experienci...
Oct 23, 2024•1 hr 4 min
Danielle Savory, a pleasure coach, is here to help us redefine wtf PLEASURE means and how to start prioritizing it. You deserve to be PLEASURED and SATISFIED both in the bedroom and beyond. Luckily Danielle is giving us all the necessary steps to make that a reality. We cover: What pleasure does to your brain Why we need to be prioritizing pleasure (HINT: it'll improve your life and help you achieve your goals) How to find your personal "why" for prioritizing pleasure How to prioritize pleasure ...
Oct 16, 2024•1 hr 3 min
Did you know that dating can actually be JOYFUL? That you don't HAVE to be on the apps to meet people? We sure didn't. Thank the good lord for Lily Womble, creator of Date Brazen and author of "Thank You, More Please: A Feminist Guide to Breaking Dumb Dating Rules and Finding Love." In this episode, Lily covers: Why the current state of dating sucks so much... it's not just you and there's real cognitive reasons why it feels so awful How to start centering IRL dating and get off the apps How to ...
Oct 09, 2024•1 hr 14 min
We’re talking all things GRIEF with our favorite therapists: Emmalee Bierly, LMFT and Jennifer Chaiken, LMFT aka Shrink Chicks. We dive into what grief ACTUALLY is, how it shows up in our lives, and how tf to deal with it. We also cover: How to identify when you’re feeling grief The unexpected ways grief shows up in our lives Grieving when things don’t go the way you expected How control and expectations play into grief How resilience actually makes you cooler, braver and stronger Why having a s...
Oct 02, 2024•1 hr 3 min
This week we’re catching up by diving into our inbox and sharing some of our wildest emails. We’re also sharing some of our favorite sex facts that are pretty much guaranteed to make you feel good about yourself. We cover: The spicy (and unwanted) invitations we've received via email What research has to say about unsolicited dick pics Q+A: How to deal when you want to try something new in the bedroom and your partner DOES NOT aka managing rejecting We dive into the data to find out: Are people ...
Sep 25, 2024•58 min
Need a little guidance? Us too. That's why we turned to Aja Vines, an intuitive reader and guide who just GETS IT. She's sharing her best tips for living your most authentic, fulfilling life and if you're anything like us, it's EXACTLY what you've been needing to hear. We cover: What it ACTUALLY means to live an authentic life How to know what's authentic to YOU Steps you can take to build self-trust How to comfort yourself instead and STOP beating yourself up What to do when you're feeling behi...
Sep 18, 2024•1 hr 5 min
April Davis of Haus of Vagina, a sex and menstrual educator, is BACK to tell us everything we need to know (but definitely don’t) about vaginas, periods, and birth. We cover: Labiaplasty- what’s the deal, why people get them, what the potential side effects are, and questions to ask if you’re considering getting one What happens to your vagina after you give birth Postpartum sex and why it’s not as scary or bad as they say it will be Questions to ask your OB or gynecologist The importance of car...
Sep 11, 2024•1 hr 7 min
We're starting off our new season by learning how to navigate change and life transitions with our bestie Victoria Albina, NP, MPH. Victoria is a coach who helps people overcome their codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking and she's also our go-to whenever we're ready to feel SEEN, heard, and have our worlds absolutely rocked. In this episode, Victoria covers: The very primal reasons why change can be TERRIFYING Finding safety in yourself so you can be confident navigating chan...
Sep 04, 2024•1 hr 30 min
This week, we’re learning how to breakup with ANYONE (yes, anyone) with Jamye Waxman, a sex therapist and author. We cover: The types of breakups we experience (friends, family, romantic partners) WHY breakups are so damn hard HOW to breakup with someone What to avoid when breaking up with someone What’s a “good enough reason” to breakup with someone How to start feeling better [Episode 122 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podca...
Aug 28, 2024•1 hr 9 min
Hey ya filthy sl*t... let's learn how to talk dirty. Dr. Tara is back on the pod with TONS of examples and expert advice. We chat about: How ANYONE can be good at dirty talk (even if you're awkward) Dynamic dirty talk 8 types of dirty talk and examples for each Directing vs narrating Beginner to intermediate examples Alternatives to "daddy" Our favorite words to refer to a penis [Episode 123 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podc...
Aug 21, 2024•1 hr 9 min
We're covering all things libido with sex therapist (and libido expert) Dr. Emily Jamea. We chat about: What libido is and isn't The difference between libido, sex drive, and desire What a "normal" libido looks like Why low libido isn't inherently bad How to navigate mismatched libidos in a relationship Common libido myths What can negatively impact your libido [Episode 138 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adc...
Aug 14, 2024•56 min
This week we're pressing play ON PORN and learning all the ways it can make our sex lives hotter and our relationships better. Rachel Wright, a licensed marriage and family therapist with a Master's in clinical psychology joins us to chat about: How porn can BENEFIT your relationship Fun ways to incorporate porn into partnered sex Jealousy and porn: "why do they watch porn if they have me?!" and "what if my partner is jealous that I watch porn?" Is watching porn cheating? Feeling insecure about ...
Aug 07, 2024•52 min
Okay Honey, it’s time we talk about sex and antidepressants (but also anxiety, stress, and depression). Sex on drugs aint easy, which is why we’re talking with Dr. Jordan Rullo and getting ALL the tips on how to deal. We cover the basic science behind it all, changes in sex drive and sexual function, fight or flight during sex, and a whole lot more. In addition to actionable steps, we talk through mourning your sexual self, reframing your sexual experiences, and how to support a partner who is s...
Jul 31, 2024•1 hr 4 min
Michelle Hope, sexologist, activist and Director of Social Impact and Strategic Communications at SIECUS, joins us to talk post-Roe action items and resources. We discuss: What Roe v. Wade is, what happened, and how we actually got here The role of comprehensive sex education Resources for states that have lost access to abortion Getting involved in your community Resources: https://www.threeforfreedom.com/ [Watch on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your...
Jul 24, 2024•45 min
We’re breaking down toxic masculinity and sex shame with Zachary Zane, author of "Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto". We cover: What toxic masculinity is and how it manifests How toxic masculinity impacts our sex lives and leads to sexual shame How sexual shame limits and negatively impacts us Zachary's personal experience with sexual shame and being bi Labels in life and social media What queerbaiting actually means [Episode 137 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn m...
Jul 17, 2024•58 min
We are finally talkin' PURITY CULTURE and, perhaps more importantly, we're talkin' all about how to ditch that bitch. Erica Smith, the creator of Purity Culture Dropout TM, is here to share all the dirty deets. We chat about… What purity culture is How purity culture impacts our sex lives Concrete steps for quitting Concept of virginity & "body count" Post-sex guilt [Episode 83 on Youtube] Keep up with Honeydew Me: On Instagram On TikTok Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices...
Jul 10, 2024•58 min
THE Dr. Jennifer Lincoln is on the pod and ready to talk ALL things birth control. We chat about: Common myths and misconceptions (i.e. infertility, negative health impacts etc) Whether "hormone balancing" is legit and if "hormone imbalances" are the cause of all your issues WHY we tend to demonize birth control Types of birth control methods (hormonal vs non hormonal) Plan B: what it is, how to use it & when to use it What actually is an abortion and what are the types of abortions FREE RES...
Jul 03, 2024•1 hr
THIS IS SUPPOSED TO BE FUN… and by “this” we mean sex, hookups, dating, ALL OF IT. Cue Myisha Battle, a sex and dating coach who quite literally wrote the book on finding the fun in all of it. We decided to deep dive into hookups (obvs) and chatted about… Deciding what we want from sex Finding your sexual values How to find hookups (both on the apps and off) What’s the deal with “chemistry”? The benefits of hookups How to make hookups as fun as possible “I’m not that into you, but damn I wanna b...
Jun 26, 2024•54 min
We’re talking all things MASTURBATION with one of our favorite sex and pleasure educators, Luna Matatas. We cover: New positions to try How to make your hands feel JUST as good as a toy How to finger yourself What to do if you get nervous while *exploring* How often we should masturbate How to start fantasizing during solo play Dirty chat rooms How long a solo sesh should be Taking masturbation OUTSIDE the bedroom (legally) Connect with Luna: Website On Instagram [Episode 129 on Youtube] Learn m...
Jun 19, 2024•59 min
When did being NEEDY become a bad thing? We have NEEDS (a lot of 'em) and those needs deserve to be met whether they're in the bedroom or beyond it. That's why we're talking with Mara Glatzel, MSW an intuitive coach and author of the Book "Needy: How To Advocate For Your Needs and Claim Your Sovereignty". We chat about: What it ACTUALLY means to be needy Why we should ditch the "chill girl/person" mentality What happens when we neglect our needs How ignoring our needs impacts our sex lives How t...
Jun 12, 2024•1 hr 5 min
Let's get it on... IN PUBLIC. We're talking PDA with Dr. Tara and breaking through ALL the shame. We we chat about: What Power PDA is Critique and support for PDA What if there's a discrepancy between what you and your partner want? Giving NO f*cks Who decided affection needed to be kept private? Should there be goal with PDA? How far is TOO far in public? How healthy displays of affection are GOOD How to start engaging in PDA if you're new to it Connect with Dr. Tara On Instagram Website [Episo...
Jun 05, 2024•52 min
Alright Honeys, we're juuuussst about ready to send you into your summer of hook-ups but can't let you go without a little help and advice for our girl, Abigail Jensen. In this episode, we dive into girl chat about what makes for a PERFECT date. We chat about: How to practice being confident Key ingredients for setting up a great date Where to take your dates to ensure good vibes Questions we should be asking to get to know your date Common dating mistakes LTR dating tips Connect with Abigail In...
May 22, 2024•1 hr
Get your hands nice and warmed up because we'll be puttin' them to WORK. This week we talk to Barbara Carrellas, erotic massage pro, about how to give and receive pleasure through massage. 🙌 Barbara holds nothing back when it comes to pleasure and this episode delivers tips, tricks, and erotic puppets??? We chat about: What makes a massage ✨erotic✨ The benefits of an erotic massage How to get present in the moment Best positions to give a massage Massage prep How to incorporate ALL our parts Co...
May 15, 2024•1 hr 5 min
There is nothing more make-or-break than kissing chemistry, so as we head into our summer of hook-ups, let's refresh ourselves shall we?! This week, we chat with the one and only, Luna Matatas all about the art of lip-locking. In this episode, we cover: Mistakes we make while kissing How to practice your technique What cues to pick up on from a partner What to do with your lips How to french How to communicate with your partner about what you want more or less of Connect with Luna: On Instagram ...
May 08, 2024•1 hr 6 min
Dating casually never seemed so easy after this convo with Talia Koren. As the host of Dating Intentionally podcast, and a HIGHLY experienced casual dater, Talia knows a thing or two about putting yourself out there to get what you want and have fun while dating. In this episode, we cover: Getting clear on what you want out of dating Tapping into your own desirability Benefits of casually dating How to be selfish (in a GREAT way) Creating your roster Rules of Casual Dating Connect with Talia On ...
May 01, 2024•54 min
We believe that every last BIT of you deserves maximum pleasure so we brought back Dr. Tara to teach us a thing or two (or 12) about how to tease, play and talk dirty to ALL of our naughty bits. In this episode, we cover: Breast and Nipple play Nipple-gasms for ALL How to play with the booty cheeks How to relax during anal play What to do with the balls Dirty talk tips Connect with Dr. Tara On Instagram On TikTok Website ✨Dr. Tara's Course ✨ Watch Honeydew Me On YouTube Keep up with Honeydew Me:...
Apr 17, 2024•46 min