The amount of growth and sadness and courage it takes to keep walking through the darkness until you see the light , until you get to the other side of the tunnel . It's the part we don't really get to . It's not on the brochure .
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Welcome back to another episode of Honest Feedback . It is so good to be here with all of y'all .
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Oh my gosh , today y'all , we're going to talk about Lisette's favorite thing to talk about . Can you guess what it is ? It's my top value . It's growth , it's growth , y'all yes .
Everyone got it . It's growth , we's growth , y'all yes .
Everyone got it . It's growth . Yeah , we are talking about growth and all the stuff about it .
Yeah , yeah , and the growing pains of growth there are growing pains .
Oh yeah , what ? Nobody warned me . No kidding , we're talking about growth and we're talking about growing pains . And yeah , well , I mean you've already said it's your top value . What else do you want to say about growth before we get into it ?
Growth is inevitable . You know they're growing or decaying . Okay , so it's yeah .
These are the options .
These are the options growth or decay . And then people get mad because growth ain't pretty either .
Oh gosh .
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Oh my gosh . Okay , I'm in a season where I asked for growth , but now I feel overwhelmed and exhausted . Is it supposed to feel this hard , and how do I know if it's worth pushing through ?
hard and how do I know if it's worth pushing through ? Hashtag struggle ? Yes . Short answer yes , it is supposed to feel this way . It's supposed to feel , however it is , that you're feeling it right now when we go through a growth aspect of our life we are go through a growth
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aspect of our life we are . First of all , an old . Part of you is dying away , and so there is a death . There is a mourning of who you used to be , the way you used to do things . What's happening is you're letting go of the way things were , the way you used to show up in the world . You cannot go back to the way you were .
You know , if butterfly comes out of the cocoon , they're not like I'll just keep crawling around . You know you . You are expected to fly , you're expected to move through things , and that shows up differently for a lot of people . It's really challenging because it doesn't come on the label , on on the box .
You know this may cause challenges , cause , honestly , you wouldn't do it .
No , you got to sell that sizzle y'all .
My life is incredibly different than it was when I first discovered expansion and growth work . The part that is not on the highlight reel , that's not on the Instagram reel , is I lost friends , I lost my community , I lost the people .
I used to live a smaller life , with the people that I was drinking with every weekend and playing and doing all the things that I used to do in a different life . When I changed , they weren't able to meet me and there was a lot of resistance and grief and grief and sorrow and a long period of feeling alone .
What was your experience Like when you first started growing ? Did you find it to be lonely ?
Um , did I find it to be lonely ? I mean , I felt kind of alone before it started where it was just like this disconnection I'll never forget .
I was at a friend's birthday party or something like that , and everybody was drinking , myself included drinking way too much and there had just been like lots of like mismatchy kind of experiences and I got into a fight with one of my friends for who she had voted for . I did not agree and I was upset with her .
I was like your boyfriend's black , like do you not understand what this means for us ? And you know , and it was . I was all on my and later talking to some of the people in the group of friends . One of them was just like I just don't understand why you get so upset . Like I just think't understand why you get so upset .
Like I just think it's better to just not talk about these things that make us uncomfortable . And I was livid because what I was seeing reflected back to me was a friend group who didn't know slash acknowledge that I was black , which also was a reflection that I was not sharing .
I mean , they could see me , but I was not sharing my experiences of moving through the world as a person of color and how my life was different and I was expected to stay in this very small box , and so it made it really clear for me in a sort of a line in the sand moment , like we had already been kind of growing apart , but I kept trying to make
it work . And then I found my boundary of yo . This doesn't work , this is not working . So then it was the oh , I'm going to have to actually start making some changes . And they were small . They were small . I don't know that . I thought I was signing myself up for growth . I was just like I can't be in the relationship with this guy anymore .
I don't know that this friend group is for me . I was like I'm going to move in with my sister and her friend and like it was the slow cracks that led me to a bigger moment of like , oh shit , we really got to look at a lot of shit .
And when you got into the deep growth , yeah , we , we know that you had a very pivotal you know , moment that , yeah , sent you into your growth , your expansion . You're seeking growth . When you got on the other side of growth , how did that feel Like when you started to deep dive into it ?
Well , when I started to deep dive into it , my growth started in community , which is not everyone's experience . So for many of you who have listened to the podcast or listened to my story , you know a little bit about this , and for those who do not , just a trigger warning .
I experienced a rape that really spun my life , and in that moment it was when I got the choice of , like you can keep living life the way you are and you know , or you can choose something else , and it was me choosing something else that led me to the pole dancing community , the central movement community .
That really changed my life , and so I felt held by it , because I immediately met new people and I felt the separation of oh , I'm having challenges with my family , with my new thoughts and new beliefs , and that part was a struggle .
Yeah , yeah . So I absolutely understand and appreciate that it really helps to be in a new community when you're growing Like , can you grow in community ? Can you sit in sisterhood , can you sit with people who are taking that next step in their life ? When I first started , it was a seminar back in the day , something much like Landmark called PSI .
And I got to grow with these people and it was wonderful . And yet , at the same time , at home , I was struggling to talk to my siblings , I was struggling to talk to my friends I hung out with and partied with and I was so excited about the expansion . And that's something that happens .
That can happen is you get so excited about your growth and you share it with everyone and they're like not ready .
I do remember that experience .
Yeah , Like no , thank you . That's great for you I didn't even hear .
That was great for you I heard I think you're crazy , right like I was , like you can control your thoughts with your mind and people are like you're insane they want to have an intervention .
Yeah , they want to have an intervention
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For me it's like she's meditating . She won't go to our western doctor yeah they thought I was crazy . But I feel you with that resonance of , that joy of when you have the lights turned on in your life . All of a sudden you're like , oh my god , you guys , there's light here , I can see more things .
And for those who are still in the dark it can be really disorienting and they don't want to hear about our Lord and Christ .
No , you don't want to hear about our Lord and Savior .
Yeah , uh-huh , uh-huh , yeah , it's like . I mean for better use of like . I just feel like that metaphor really resonates with like people are like . I found a light . Let me tell you about it . It's like you can keep your light . No , thank you , Get off my porch .
I do not want your pamphlet . Thank you very much . Yes , yes , yeah . And I remember that excitement and then the disappointment , the disappointment of like , oh , there was like an expansion and then , well , people aren't seeing me and meeting me and your life looks so different from a new perspective , and you allow yourself to see your world in a different way .
And if you don't have a support system set up , if you don't have you know , if you're not aware that there's challenges , that it's not a straight line . If it were a straight line , you know everybody would do it . But you go up and then you hit an obstacle , and a lot of people hit an obstacle and they go . This growth thing's not for me .
Yeah , you know and they stop and it's like when ? When did we learn to give up at the obstacle ? You know , because we didn't . We didn't have that as a child , you know , I didn't know . No , I mean it did . You know you were learning to walk . The first time you fell you were like was walking things not for me ?
No , children are resilient . We say it all the time .
Yeah , children are resilient . They'll crack the code , they'll look for it , and you just keep going . You keep walking and you keep figuring it out and sometimes , when we have this big expansion , your mind can't go back to the way it used to be . So you can't go back to the old way it's growing .
You're like , ooh , that's not working and your unconscious mind will seek your old patterns for comfort .
That feels so familiar . I've done a lot of expansion my own life and sometimes , when an obstacle comes up , I'm like like I've made it so far in like health and fitness and all the things . I'm like treating my body like a temple , but all of a sudden an obstacle comes up and work and I'm like you know what we need ? Pizzas plural , plural .
Do you know what I need ? The family size chip bag for one , you know , and it's like the old coping mechanism of this is how I used to survive shows up and it can be really unexpected . If you're like wait , I feel like I went to that three-day seminar . I listened to Tony Robbins . I'm in my future self .
You know , I'm doing all the things , something happened and all of a sudden I'm right back there with that crack pipe . No , I'm kidding , no , I'm really kidding . That wasn't my path .
That was not a real life experience .
No judgment , no judgment , but yes but you know , that's how I feel about sometimes , like the addicting foods . It's just like mm .
Yes , yes , and then you're seeking the safety of the old way .
Yes , because you're like , at least in the old way . I knew you know this X , y , z was going to . I knew that so-and-so was a fuck boy . It was going to fuck me over . I knew if I drank this much like I'd make terrible decisions . I'd make terrible decisions and it's fine . You know , like yeah .
So it's the known yeah , yeah , we , we . That's part of the discomfort that comes with it is you're going to swim in the unknown , yeah . And when you're growing and you're expanding , you're just like oh , this is really uncomfortable . And it's not that it's uncomfortable , it's that it's unknown . And your , your nervous system is like will I survive this ?
And when you learn to come to expect this it's something I really start to prepare my clients for is like we're in a three month container . Because you're , I always say , I can guarantee you're going to feel great on day one . I can guarantee that you will see life through a whole new lens .
You'll be like oh my God , this is what it feels like to live without that baggage . And then , a few days in , in your old environment , things start to come up , triggers start to come up and it's just like can you remember who you are ? Can you remember the wisdom that you gained ?
Can you stay focused on where it is you're going and not the obstacle that's coming up in this moment ? Can you Absolutely ? Oh my God , how do you do that ? How do I do that ?
Yeah , how do you do that ? Inquiring minds want to know ?
Well , you know , there's four requisites of change . I'm pretty sure I've talked about this before . My teacher , matt James , talks about these ad nauseum . It doesn't matter how many classes you've taken from him . This is where we start , yeah , so let's go back . The first one is release . You got to let go of the baggage .
A lot of modalities don't actually have release work .
I know A lot of them . Therapy , yeah , yeah , I know .
They start at three and four . So step one is release . The second step is creating an intention , a compelling future , something that's pulling you , Because if you just let go of baggage and you have nowhere to go now , you just have an empty room you know , and if you've ever emptied a room , it fills up very quickly .
Yes , yes , if there's not an intention . If there's not an intention , yeah . Sorry I just had a realization about our home , but yeah , yeah .
So you have to have an intention like oh , this is going to be a guest room . This is going to be a baby's room . This is going to be my office . It's going to be dialed in like this is where I'm headed . You know , I let go of the baggage of the fuck boy . I am looking for partnership , true , authentic , loving partnership .
I let go of that poverty mindset . Now I'm might have my eyes set on thriving on , you know , my first six figure month , or my Mm-hmm . You have to set your mind on where you're going . You have to do those two . You have to . They're called requisites for a reason . You will not create the change fully if you don't have those Steps .
Three and four only you can do on your own . So I help people with one and two all the time in my work . Three and four the day I can do these . Oh , there's going to be another zero or two zeros on the end of my day .
I will say you hold people accountable . I do , through step three and four , absolutely I do hold them accountable .
They have to show up for it yeah , only you can take action .
Yeah .
And that is a different action . You cannot create a new life doing your old actions . Yes , you can't get that six pack still eating the pizzas . You know , like there's , there's discipline . Boundaries are new action . You got to put boundaries up with family , with friends , people who want to hold you in that old paradigm .
You have to hold up your boundaries around that and boundaries with yourself . I will not do that anymore . I will not interact with that person anymore . You must keep up your boundaries , so you you , you're the only one who can take action . I can hold you accountable must keep up your boundaries , so you , you , you're the one who can take action .
I can hold you accountable , but you can be the only one who can take action and you must focus . Focus on where you're going , focus on that intention , focus on the end result . If you're not looking at the end result , you're looking at the obstacle and you have to take yourself all the way to the end result . Time and time again , time and time again .
When you hit an obstacle , that is a sign that you're getting closer . You hit the discomfort . That is a sign you're getting closer . The discomfort is part of it and it can be lonely , it can be sad . You are grieving a past version of yourself . You're grieving your old habits . I quit drinking a little over a year ago , thank you , and I'm so proud of it .
And now I'm going to go hang out with my family and it's like that was a thing we used to bond over , you know and I get to reintroduce myself as the person I am and focus on what it is Like . Why am I doing that ?
Because I want to be a clear channel for the energy work I do like I am sites on that , yeah , and then putting up my boundary and then rinse and repeat , yeah you go through this . You're never done changing and it's , it's , it's a lot what would you say ?
I mean , I guess I'm like the feeling
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that comes through is like I would love for you to just share . Can you talk about like a specific moment you were in these crossroads and like how the four records that supported you or how you navigated this Because I hear you and I'm like sounds theoretical , yes , absolutely Sounds theoretical Literally . How did you real world , real world example .
We need a story . Thank you , oh my gosh .
There's . So there have been so many massive growth points in my life . Yes , and I will tell you before I had a career breakthrough that changed my life like in a massive way . I was so broke I couldn't afford like a hundred dollar ticket to go to Las Vegas .
And I was I just remember being so and I was like , babe , I can't have this opportunity to go to this seminar . All I have to do is get myself there and you're like then you fucking get yourself there , we will figure it out .
You know , that was a moment , yeah , and I was like , okay , and I went there and something that happened was we created a goal . What was the um ? A game worth playing .
It was called the Guap .
Yeah , and so we created a Guap and in that moment for me it was I want to create $60,000 in a year . Yeah , and I had never done that before .
Yeah .
So I did my . I asked someone there who I knew did this work ? I was like , hey , would you do a breakthrough on me ?
And she said yes .
And so we go through the breakthrough . All of a sudden the baggage is gone . Yeah , I was like , oh my gosh , like I had this stuff around . I can't remember specifically what it was , but it just like it was something around , not feeling smart enough Like I won't be a good business owner , because I'm not smart enough oh right .
And I'm like , oh so , so I'm sitting , you know , I let that shit go and I was like that's fucking stupid . I know some dumb ass people that make a lot of money and no disrespect , yeah a lot of money and no disrespect .
Yeah , blessings on them . They're a beautiful example for me . Yeah , because money has nothing to do . Money has nothing to do with intelligence . Yeah , exactly so I let that shit go .
And then she put me on like the strictest of strict , like we , this is where we're going . I had it , I had a money cock . Yeah , we called it and it was one of those thermometers , but the way I drew it just came out extra phallic . So I would , every dollar that came in I would like draw it in and I was filling the thermometer .
So there it is like release the baggage , yeah , set the intention , yeah , you know , yeah , and and focus on that , no matter what . And I remember it was within hours of the end of my breakthrough that I signed my first person at my new price .
And then a day after that and I think my breakthroughs are like 2,500 back then and I was , and like the next day I did another one , and then it was just like momentum . I go okay , what am I doing ? That that matters , like what do I know that matters ? And what matters is connecting with people , and not everyone wanted to connect .
Yeah .
And not everyone .
I remember talking to people and them being like oh , change sounds scary , not interested , you know , but I never stopped having that obstacle in my mind and that's not the obstacle having that goal in my mind and focusing and focusing , no matter what happened , and showing up to reading the books that I was told to read and forgiving as often as I needed to
forgive and just show up to my business and and through that , the change happened . A goal I had set for a full year . I got it in seven months and our financial life has always expanded since then because I know what matters to create the end result . Is that a good example ?
That is a great example . I mean , I'm saying it for the people , of course , no , but I it helps to hear like how one navigates it . What would you say has been the most either surprising quote , unquote loss or the most challenging loss to navigate , and how did you navigate through it ?
That's a great question . Let me be with it . Yeah , oh , I would say I had a friend . When I first did the seminar , I had a friend . She was my best friend . Gosh she was a coworker best friend Like I loved hanging out with her . We would get wasted , yeah like a white girl wasted . We would get really .
It was gnarly , you know um blackout yeah blackout drunk and I got the moment of hey , did you know you're responsible for your life ? And she didn't want to hear that shit . You know we got along through commiserating yeah , and we we had a lot of um , our friendship was built on that similarity .
Our friendship was built on drinking , getting wasted and sleeping with boys .
So all that changed as I healed and became more myself and became okay with who I am . That's something to talk about . In growth , too is , the more you heal and the more you grow , the more you become who you actually are , and so you stop masking , you stop trying to fit in where you're not fitting in .
Yes , full circle moment for me , you stop trying to fit in where you're not fitting in . Yes , full circle moment for me , you know , with that friend group , yeah , and I think that for me was so hard , like I can feel a little choked up just from the space of like I so wanted her to come and I so wanted it .
It's skeptical as fuck and and I know she sees my life like freaking rocking you know , and it's and I love her and I respect her , and everyone has you know um . Everyone deserves to grow at the pace they want to .
Yep , yeah .
Absolutely respect that and love that and it was sad . It was devastating for me . I remember crying a lot at the loss of that friendship .
Yeah , Friendships . I feel like that's the part that you're shining a light on that not everyone is aware of . When we say yes to growth , it's like , yeah , my life's going to change . And people are like , yeah , it is , which means it's going to change , Like that sentence is is true , it is going to change .
And some of I know my , some of my own internal conflict or turmoil has been like I want this over there . And then the universe is like , great , this is what it means to have this over there . And it's like , oh , but I wanted to keep all these same things .
And it's like I wanted to keep the same small thoughts , the same small relationships , the same small ways of being , and it's like that's not who I become , to have that experience that I want in my life . And the fear of like what if I don't meet another best friend ? You know what if I don't meet another ?
Da-da-da-da-da , and just allowing yourself to know that there's more on the other side , Like would you say you've met new friends .
A hundred percent .
I'd be real cheesy right now .
I'd be like you're one of my best friends . Oh , you're one of my best friends . Yes , yeah you know of my best friends .
Yes , yeah , you know , if not the .
Yes , and that is that . It's that in between , that liminal space between what you've let go of .
Yeah .
And what you allow in that is . That's probably the darkness that a lot of people can't make it through . That is the choice . That's the point of the point of no return , where it's like well , I don't like this new way of thinking . Let me go back and pretend that I'm not magical .
Let me how did you hold yourself through that ? I mean , what's feeling like like almost like the dark night of the soul , but like that betwixt between , that in-between moment where it's like I now know something that I can't unknow , but I haven't gotten to where I'm arriving yet . What is it that you hold on to ?
Yeah . So one thing I want to say is as when I started growing , I was so excited and I thought my life would change instantly . And the thing about that first seminar is they didn't actually do release work . There was a like , there's a you could change your thoughts and you could change your life . And that's a slower process . It's a much slower process .
You could change your thoughts and all of a sudden you're like my car is still breaking down , my home still sucks , my bank account still keeps going to negative , and so I was like I can control my reality . I can control my reality , and I did
¶ Pushing Through The Darkness
for a little bit and I found myself in this flow of magic and then things settled magic , and then things settled and I was like I almost felt like I lost my spark there for a minute . Yeah , you know and I .
What happened was that truth that my mind creates , my reality got so lodged in there as a truth like the law of mind that was that's what they call it in . Who know , like the law of mind is everything's your mind .
Everything is your reality .
Everything , everything , everything , everything . You're experiencing everything inside of your brain , right here , in this tiny little part . So it's not actually happening out there . Where it's happening is right here .
Yeah .
You know , yeah , and if everything is your mind , I just was like kept coming back to responsible and it was one gift that they gave me is like you can be a victim or you can be responsible , and I just kept going back to I'm responsible for my reality .
I have years of momentum of being broke , sad , lonely you know , and you know , in the closet and all the things it took several moments of my coming out journey came out through that when I was like I cannot deny that I'm gay anymore . Yay , yay we're all happy and I had to come out to my family .
That was hard , that was challenging , that would you come out to first .
Oh , alex my sister , oh yay oh , she was the best .
Yeah , it was a very like okay , like kind of we knew the whole time surprise , surprise no one was really surprised , like not even my mom . No one at all was at all surprised . I think , my oldest brother . He was a little taken aback but , like everyone , was pretty cool with it .
But that's part of the hardness that you never get told when you're going through the growth journey . You know you might have an awakening and not connect with God anymore like you used to . You might have a religious awakening . You might have a sexual awakening . You might have a financial awakening .
You thought your entire life that you were being held down by the man and then you didn't realize it was like oh , actually I'm in control of my wallet .
The boot on your head is yours . The boot on your head is yours .
That was my favorite meme . Yeah , Um yeah , and so um . The amount of growth and sadness and courage it takes to keep walking through the darkness until you see the light , until you get to the other side of the tunnel . It's the part you don't really get to . It's not on the brochure .
Well , thank you for telling us all about it .
The truth about growth .
No , I don't say that facetiously . The truth about growth no , I don't say that facetiously Something that I really value , that we do in both of our containers as individual space holders , but also for our retreat is we have this kind of conversation with our clients , with our students of like yo .
So this is the part that wasn't on the brochure and we're going to tell you before you leave the space , so you're not surprised by it and you get the opportunity to choose to keep taking steps forward . I did . It was really great and it was very expansive and it was like a weekend of like magic , um , and I didn't really know what to do with it .
Like I was just like I had this experience . That's great . I didn't decide to continue on cause I hadn't expanded to the point where I thought that that was possible for myself .
Um , I , literally they were like you should invest and they were like you could give us a card , and I was just like I , literally they were like you should invest and they were like you could give us a card , and I was just like , okay , and they're like this card is declined .
I was like , well , that is my reality , which is what I told you but , like you know , I didn't know what to do with the information , I didn't exactly know how to integrate it and I wasn't prepared for the like moments of choice .
Like I think , I went to that experience , had an expansive experience and then , pretty shortly after , was back at Taco Tuesdays and having margaritas and the being in the ways that I knew how to be , because I didn't know what to do or how to sustain a change .
Yeah , you know a lot of those things and I don't know . It's been a while since I've been there and I've spent a small fortune on personal development and a majority of the ones I went to before I discovered NLP , mer HUNA . There was no release work in them . There was no release work . They're like just change your mind and change your life .
It's like not if your entire nervous system is dealing with the deep truth that you're unworthy and you don't deserve anything , because you ain't shit . You know . It's just like try to focus on that while you think terrible things about yourself , because that is what's at you .
Believe at things about yourself because that is what you believe at the deepest level , because that's what reality is going to reflect back to you . Your reality will be reflected what you believe at the deepest level , not what you want to believe . Which is why affirmations can be bullshit .
If you read affirmations that your unconscious mind is not in alignment with , it'll be like you're a fucking liar . And so if you don't do the first step of release work , which is why it's the medicine I serve . It's why I'm so passionate about it when you let go of your baggage .
I've got a client right now who's just kicking ass like so beyond incredible financially . He's like I've never made this much money in a day and I'm like , yeah bro .
Yeah .
Yeah , and we're like , we know , like we , we believe in this , we know it and we , we live it but , you cannot do that with the baggage , you cannot do that with your old belief system .
It reminds me of . I feel so grateful that you introduced me to these tools . Side note , of course we do release work at retreat . We do release work in all our stuff . But like anything we have there's really certain , but it's like trying to white knuckle , like something you have an addiction to .
Like it's like , oh , if they just like stop doing drugs , if they just stop drinking , and it's just like that is a symptom of something that's deeper and you're white knuckling against that deeper thing , and if it's all that you've ever known , it can be such a Goliath experience .
And what I noticed the difference was was , once I've had release work , then it's not a Goliath , it's easier for me to refocus and look towards the future and look towards the good , because I'm not actually trying to white knuckle my way like up a mountain up something that feels so arduous .
It's like I was able to actually like put that shit down and then it's like , well , now I get to pick a new truth . I'm not carrying this old thing with me , and I feel like that is the difference that really makes a difference to catapult your life Absolutely .
Kind of going back to like the room analogy is like , let's say , we empty and clean out a room , now we could put new furniture in . If you haven't done release work , your room is full of shit . You've got wall to wall boxes of opinions
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and beliefs that I love . That scene in Inside Out Nevermind Opinions and facts .
Yeah , and they just get mixed up . They get mixed up , it's okay .
They get mixed up . They get mixed up all the time I digress . So you have this room full of all these beliefs and ideas and it's wall-to-wall boxes , and you're trying to put a new piece of furniture in .
You cannot do that , and so when you do deep release work , when we let go of the anger , sadness , fear , guilt and shame and the thing that's being reflected at the deepest level , what we do is we clear out the whole room , we detail it , we fine , clean it . Now we can put beautiful things in .
Now you can put in the affirmations , now you can set that intention to where you're going . You know , one thing I want to say to this caller writer is they said how do I know if it's worth pushing through ? It is , it just is . If you want your life to look the way it always has , then stop pushing through .
If you want something different , you must go on . You must go on . I forgot the quoter who says it . It's like if you find yourself in hell , keep walking , don't stop there , don't set up camp . You know , don't stop there , don't set up camp , don't put your furniture down . Like keep going , because it can be overwhelming .
And it like remember that you chose this . You asked for . You asked for this growth , and so keep going through . And when you hit an obstacle , it just means you're getting closer . So keep moving , keep learning to walk , keep taking those steps .
I just want to say you mentioned you're like , hey , I'm growing and now I'm feeling exhausted and overwhelmed . And my curiosity is were you exhausted and overwhelmed before ? Is that just a habit ? You know , sometimes we get intimidated when we're trying something new and we forget it's the first fucking time .
And when , like you're learning to do something for the first time , it does take a lot of focus , it does take a lot more energy and then , when it's on autopilot , it takes no energy at all . Like driving , you know , you had your hands on the wheels 10 and 2 . Now you know , eating salads , doing makeup .
I literally once burned my head with a curling iron because I was curling my hair while driving .
That's a choice .
I know LA traffic was very intense so I felt like I had quite a lot of time . Anywho , I digress , but it's like the habits that you are used to are on autopilot , so they don't take a lot of energy . It doesn't take a lot of energy to keep sleeping with the wrong man .
It doesn't take a lot of energy to keep being broke , like if that's what you're used to . It does take energy and mana and focus when you are learning something new . So my offering and invitation is be kind to yourself and know you're not going to feel exhausted and overwhelmed forever . It might just be in this moment .
That might be a strategy and a habit for keeping you the same . And 100 million , zillion , thousand , billion times yes , it is so worth it to grow . My life is better than I could have ever imagined .
It's better than I ever could have dreamed it , and when I think about some of my darkest moments , when I didn't want to be here , when I wasn't sure what life was , when I was just and I chose to grow , my life has continued to awe and surprise me and just humble me with tears of gratitude . For that I'm so happy .
I said yes to the growth Like I would not be with this woman today if I hadn't said yes to growth . I wouldn't have the friends that I have , I wouldn't be running my own business , I wouldn't be living in this gorgeous house , I wouldn't have my amazing dogs . Like there's so much goodness and I'm like every day .
I am so grateful that my life does not look how it did before I chose to grow . It absolutely changed and it was absolutely worth it .
Absolutely 100% . And throughout all of that , it's not on Instagram , it's not the highlight reel . There were some tough times . I , just a few months ago , I was sitting on the bed crying because I was leveling up to the next step and it was the biggest investment I've ever made in my life toward my own personal development . But I knew what it was .
I was going to get on the other side of it and I'm sitting there crying Can we do this ? And Brittany , being the loving goddess that she is , was like do you want to do this ? And I'm like , yeah , and she's like , well then , we will fucking figure it out . And we did .
And when you have your eye on the prize , when you focus on this thing , you set your intention on it will always . You will always find a way . You'll see some obstacles , but you will find your way out of it .
Always , Always , always , always . Wow , this episode , this topic . I mean we can go on and on , and I feel like this is a great stopping point to digest , integrate , reflect . I mean we brought up a lot .
So I would encourage if you are feeling things , activations , openings , ahas like this is a perfect time to get out your journal and ask yourself like what are my takeaways ? What did I learn ? How am I going to use this to support me in my life , where I am right now ?
Because the truth is , like she said , we're always growing or we're decaying , Like there is no standing still . If you think you're standing still , you're probably going backwards . So allowing yourself to reflect and feel into what feels most alive and true for you and how you can use it in your path .
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