The crew is back together! Laurie, Matt, and Producer Steve dive into their first-ever Q & D (Question & Discussion) podcast. Together, they explore areas they have wanted to dive into more deeply including: More of Matt's story of when he felt so purposeless he decided to end his life in junior high (and then launched into a coping mechanism of pornography addiction) Some of our angst about left/right polarity and clinging to our "rights" as Christians How parents who are fighting with...
Apr 12, 2019•54 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 10 Core Need is the need for purpose: filled with a sense of profoundly mattering.} Unless we are feeling severely depressed, every human intrinsically feels this need to matter, to have purpose, and to make a mark on the world. Sometimes, this purpose-need gets redirected from receiving our marching orders from Jesus to staring at marriage: It will complete me. Let's bust that whole thing apart with " Breaking the Marriage Idol " author, Kutter Callaway . We also explore your responses ...
Apr 05, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 9 Core Need is the need to be unique: delightfully special.} We've explored the need to be included (belong), but how does that interplay with our good need to be unique? We talk through this balance with foster and adoptive parents, Brett and Janelle Beimers. Their decision to adopt and foster models Christ's desire for radical inclusion (belonging), but they still need to cultivate each of their children's unique sense of self. How do they do that? What are the challenges to engaging bot...
Mar 29, 2019•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 1
How can we lovingly engage a world that opposes what we believe? What is Laurie's ongoing practice to engage pushback? One word: Lament. Laurie Krieg will walk you through the why's and how to's of what should be every Christian's ongoing practice of "venting to the only One who can do something about your pain."
Mar 25, 2019•44 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 8 Core Need is the need to be safe: Unafraid; trusting everything is under control.} Many of us struggle with anxiety and fear. (Most of us? All of us?) We could shame ourselves. ("Why am I still wrestling with this!? I should know I'm safe!") But instead of shaming ourselves, why don't we look below the fear to the good need driving that fear: the need to be safe? We unpack this good need to be safe with author and award-winning musician, Michael Card. Through the lens of safety, we explo...
Mar 22, 2019•53 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 7 Core Need is the need to be seen: Noticed inside and out.} This episode has two gripping stories: One is of a pastor named John Wilson who, at a young age, recognized his attractions to his same gender. Burying the secret led him to hospitalization due to the chronic stress. Slowly, carefully, he came out to trusted friends, and found some freedom as he daily surrendered himself to Christ. But then he moved far away, started working in a church, and the secret threatened to bury him agai...
Mar 15, 2019•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 6 Core Need is the need to be included: Wanted in this group, team, or partnership; belonging} It seems as if the good need God put into us before the Fall to belong or be included goes hand-in-hand with authenticity. To belong--truly belong--we must be willing to get real. But how many of us feel we are scoring 100% at the relational authenticity level? Social media tells us we have hundreds or thousands of friends, but do we really belong? This is what our guest, Ethan Renoe , calls the ...
Mar 08, 2019•50 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 5 Core Need is the need for love: Unconditionally accepted} All you need is love. It's a nice song, but what about the actual experience of love? How can we feel it deeply before we see Jesus face-to-face? Author and speaker, Jennifer Kennedy Dean , guides us to a deeper experience of God's love that is not tethered to our circumstances (death of siblings, death of spouses, or a deep wrestling with the reality of prayer), but is richly intertwined to the alive and active Holy Spirit in us....
Mar 01, 2019•45 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 4 Core Need is the need for rest: Re-centered and reset in mind, body, spirit; includes having fun} Why is it that it seems whoever is the busiest is winning at life? If you are stressed, busy, but magically not anxious, you hold a higher status? We talk about this with Adam Mabry , whose wife laughed at him when he told her he was asked to write a book on rest. This pastor, teacher, and author of the book, " The Art of Rest: Faith to Hit Pause in a World that Never Stops ," was able to wr...
Feb 22, 2019•49 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 3 Core Need is the need to be affirmed: Overwhelmingly approved of.} Do you ever wrestle with knowing God wants you to share the gifts He gave you with the world, but not knowing how much you should "market" yourself? Shouldn't the Holy Spirit just do that for us? We do wrestle with this, so we brought in bestselling author and speaker, Shannon Popkin , who co-wrote the book, Influence: Building a Platform to Elevates Jesus (Not Me) . We explore this conversation in the context of the Core...
Feb 15, 2019•49 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 2 Core Need is the need to be desired: Specially chosen--no pretense necessary.} The idea of mixed-orientation marriages (where one spouse is straight and the other is not) can make people scratch their heads saying, "How does that work?" Today, through the lens of the Core Need to be desired, mixed-orientation couple, Ty and Rachel Wyss, get real about their marriage, their need to be desired, and leave us--married and single--with wise, God-given wisdom to walk well. This is another sacr...
Feb 08, 2019•53 min•Season 1Ep. 1
{Week 1 Core Need is the need to be nurtured: Cared for; held.} It's time to dive deeply into Core Needs. What are they? They are good needs God put into us for things like belonging, purpose, affirmation, and to be seen and desired. The Fall threw a wrench in our once-natural ability to get them perfectly met by God and supported by people, however, and now we have natural inclinations to get these good needs met in ways that don't satisfy us and don't glorify God. (That natural inclination is ...
Feb 01, 2019•49 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Author, speaker, and professor, Dr. Christopher Yuan , brings his authentic self and expertise to the podcast microphone today. In addition to hearing his story, we explore our favorite names of God (with you listeners), expand on the reasons why it is beneficial to the church that there are more conversations around sexuality and gender in the world, and explore the questions, "Is God gender fluid?" "Why don't you identify as gay?" and "How do you confront the lonely life?" It's another real li...
Jan 25, 2019•58 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Failure makes you feel like . . . a failure. Should it? Should we celebrate some failures instead? Today we talk to Chad Bird , speaker, podcaster, and author of Upside-Down Spirituality: The 9 Essential Failures of a Faithful Life. We will cover seven of those nine "essential failures." Three of which are: 1. The failure to believe in ourselves or, "The good news that God doesn’t believe in you" 2. The failure to follow our hearts or "Go home heart, you’re drunk" 3. The failure to find our soul...
Jan 18, 2019•59 min•Season 1Ep. 1
"I think I am afraid of being in *God’s* presence. The thing is I am afraid to be in *my* presence. I am afraid to look at and have God see me as I see me . . . I am sure that when I look up again He will have left the rom. And shockingly, He does not." --Curt Thompson, M.D. Let's dive right back into the shame conversation with Dr. Curt Thompson , and explore how shame began and how we can practically combat it. //: Highlights: "God—even in His pursuit—He is not going to shame us. He is not goi...
Jan 11, 2019•47 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Shame affects all of us--even if we don't know how to name it. It often drapes us in a vague feeling of being covered in a wet blanket. It speaks, "I am worth less. I must hide. There is something wrong with me." How can we address it neurologically, spiritually, and practically? We brought in the big guns to answer all three shame categories today: Dr. Curt Thompson, MD, author of one of our favorite books, The Soul of Shame: Retelling the Stories We Believe About Ourselves . This and next week...
Jan 04, 2019•59 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Peek between the cracks of the podcast to hear updates on our words for the year ("Do you feel like God gave you that word?"), look forward to our words for 2019, and hear us encourage each other unplanned. As we reflect on this year of pain and growth, we may even shed a couple tears between our laughs. (Of course we do. :) ) We love you, guys. Thanks for being a major joyful part of our year.
Dec 26, 2018•14 min•Season 1Ep. 1
It's almost the new year, and many of us are thinking about doing something to jumpstart positive choices next year. But what about today? Sharon Garlough Brown , author of the Sensible Shoes series, walks (ha) us through the basics and depth of spiritual disciplines. We cover things like, "Are spiritual disciplines for the hyper-spiritual, Enneagram 4, flower children?" "Does lament have to be so depressing?" and "What can we do today--what one step can we take?" We also play a pretty hilarious...
Dec 21, 2018•54 min•Season 1Ep. 1
At HIMH we sometimes call ourselves "gospel addicts," but what is an addict? Author, psychologist, and addiction expert, Dr. Gregory Jantz , breaks down some of the attributes and questions we may have for ourselves or our friends on how to take steps away from the following addictions: Alcohol Food (eating too much or little) Work Sex/pornography Relationships TV/Netflix Social Media Because we can't help ourselves, we dive into the Die Hard debate (Christmas movie or nah?), and play a game c...
Dec 14, 2018•47 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Fruit of knowing the Good News is believing that God loves kids. He cares about their souls, he cares about their spirits, and he cares about their bodies. That is the focus of this episode: How can we protect our children, our nieces and nephews, and our friends' kids from childhood sexual abuse? How can we do it in a way that is not "shamey"? We explore it today with experts and authors of the important kids' book, 'God Made All of Me,' Justin and Lindsey Holcomb . (We also play a silly "Is th...
Dec 07, 2018•59 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Let's take it back to the basics and then broaden to the more complex: What does LGBTQIA mean (and why doesn't the term "homosexuals" cover it)? Where can parents take their mix of emotions when their kid comes out? Is there even a right and wrong when it comes to the gender conversation? We are tackling some big and basic questions related to pastors, parents, and therapists today, and who better to navigate with us than Christian expert in the field, Dr. Mark Yarhouse ? Mark is Professor of Ps...
Nov 30, 2018•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Heyyyy! Happy Thanksgiving to all of you in the United States! Happy "we are thankful for you all" if you are not in the States. In this 8-minute special we debate whether or not you put the stuffing in the turkey. (Answer: Find Alton brown's killer recipe on the link below for turkey SANS STUFFING. Throwaway turkeys are welcome for such goodness.) We also get a lil' bit serious on what we are thankful for. Get it here, kids. That Link: (At the bottom of the last episode): https://www.himhminist...
Nov 19, 2018•9 min•Season 1Ep. 1
What do you get when you cross 350-square-feet, six people, a one one-eyed cat named Sirius, and an honest look at what makes up our identity? This episode. Ashley Auerbach , a mom of four turned-tiny-living expert (whose life is soon to be featured on a TV show!), talks about obedience and the beautiful shredding it does to our perceptions of self. We also have her figure out our tiny living problems such as how to play Cones of Dunshire in our hypothetical new RV, and what to do in said hypoth...
Nov 16, 2018•57 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Yup. We are talking about looks. Specifically, clothing. This may seem like too surface-level of a conversation for this podcast, but aren't clothes an expression of who we are? An expression of who God made us to be? We would say, yes. This conversation arose as I (Laurie) was stressing out way too much about what to wear on a stage. I found myself dressing for my audience as opposed to dressing as an expression of who God made me to be. Then Kelli ODell --a friend and our Producer Steve's wife...
Nov 09, 2018•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 1
If you have ever struggled with pornography addiction or are close to someone who has, please listen to this episode. Licensed mental-health counselor, ordained minister, and author Jay Stringer , helped peel back the layers of understanding for all of us as we heard results of his nearly 4,000-person study on the "whys" behind unwanted sexual behavior. From the research laid out in his incredible book, Unwanted , we dig into family systems that can foster certain types of lust and anger, the po...
Nov 02, 2018•53 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Do you intrinsically feel the shift in culture over the last ten years or so, but you can't quite name it? Author and pastor Sam Allberry can. In addition to being a really great hang, Sam lays out four cultural shifts and seven responses to those shifts on today's episode. This is not one to miss. //: Highlights: "As I deny self I don't become less me. As I follow Jesus and deny self I become more the me God had thought up in the first place. Isn't that amazing? God can take a group of us and ...
Oct 26, 2018•58 min•Season 1Ep. 1
If you grew up in the purity movement era of Christianity--where a lot of talk around sexuality was based on 'just say 'no' to sex before marriage'--were you burned by it? Encouraged by it? Our friend, Jason Soucinek , executive director and founder of ProjectSix19 talks us through the benefits and detriments of talking about sexuality with a focus on this type of purity, and helps us consider another way. We also dig into favorite group games (just don't talk about kickball kaythxsbye), get a b...
Oct 19, 2018•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Every week, we invite people into our home for food, conversation, and games. It's basically the podcast but in real life. My real life little sister, Angela Bowles, talks about how this works both as a biological sibling and sister in Christ. We also discuss the first time I shared my story with Angela (on her 16th birthday?!), how we get motivated to do difficult things, and PLEASE listen to the after-closing bloopers. We guffawed. //: Highlights: "I got super convicted by my own mouth on a st...
Oct 12, 2018•48 min•Season 1Ep. 1
Do you ever wonder how people can go from living comfortably to saying "yes" to serving people courageously? We do. So we asked some of our friends how they did it. Tom Mollhagen transformed from being born in a brothel in India, to living the American dream, to going back and serving those he left behind. His wife, Dana, went from accepting Jesus on a swing set at five years old, to a successful nursing career, to working side-by-side with Thomas in India. Our friends are not special Christians...
Oct 05, 2018•49 min•Season 1Ep. 1
91% of US adults believe the best way to find yourself is by looking within yourself, and 2 out of 5 Americans believe that, when it comes to what happens in the country today, "people of faith" and "religion" are a part of the problems in our country. How can we speak into this environment as believers? Author, speaker, and leader of leaders, Gabe Lyons , helps break down how Christians can be both courageous and faithful in a world that thinks we are extreme and irrelevant. We launch the coura...
Sep 28, 2018•43 min•Season 1Ep. 1
