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Matt got a bit of a game for you, close friends.
Sorry, that didn't mean to be as exasperated as it was. I love a little close Friends episodes. It's a way. I've got a hypothetical question. I've got a game we never.
I love quizzing like I like quizzing one another.
What do you quizz me on today? Darling?
I saw a TikTok. I don't know if it's real or not, like it could be made up, but I think let's just say that it's real. And it's like a slide like photo slides. The first slide says we had guests leave our wedding when they read out ridiculous in little quotation mark rules. Okay, so I'm going to read these wedding rules to you and you tell me whether you think they're ridiculous or not.
This is a very passionate subject of mine. Oh is it? You know, I'm very particular about these sorts of things.
I would be particular too. If I was going to have a wedding and I reckon, people would call me an asshole. But it's my fucking wedding, so shut up.
Okay, ready, yeah, I'm waiting. Okay. Number one, what else am I going to do?
Everyone helps out. We didn't hire any staff, so that means everyone needs to do their part. My grandpa set up chairs even with his bad back. My cousin bartended and it turned out beautifully. Not hate that too, that's you're an asshole.
Hate that, especially the granddad with the bad back, but even the cousin bartending. I'm like, so they're not enjoying the wedding.
There, that's no from me too.
Okay.
The next one. Number two drink tickets. The most expensive part of a wedding is alcohol, so my husband thought of a ticket system. Every guest gets two tickets to buy drinks. This also prevented any family drama from too much shrinking.
I can agree with that one.
So I've seen people say, like they do alcohol free weddings as well, and maybe like the couple doesn't drink so therefore they're not doing any alcohol available at all, like alcohol free wedding, and people have cracked the shits about that because, like with drinking culture, it is like one of the main reasons why people get so excited
for a wedding. But then it does say a lot, like if your guests are going to get pissed off at you for having a two drink limit or you're doing an alcohol free wedding, because it's like, are you coming to celebrate my marriage or are you coming just for the drinks? Yeah, I think that's what it says if people get mad about that, and.
People just like hate weddings because I've never really like I feel like when I go to a wedding, like it's never about anything but the fact that two people are getting married.
For me, I feel like it's mainly like, yeah, it's about the couple, but I feel like it's a party.
Yeah, But I'm thinking that they're like, oh, I need the drinks to kind of get through the.
Day, And that's the thing as well, Like people shouldn't need the drinks to get through it because it's not like it's an unenjoyable experience. I mean, sometimes a fucking ceremony is boring if it drags on for like forty five minutes. I'm loving the more modern ceremonies these days. They're like quick and fun and like the celebrants are really fun.
So what do you think about drink tickets?
I mean, I think fair enough. If that's what you want to have at your wedding, I would be like, yeah, whatever, like that's their rule. I might take a little flask in.
I would assume that the drinks would be really expense like it would add up really quickly, because if.
You a bar tab would be crazy for a wedding, like I can only begin to imagine.
And what's worse the bar tab running out and pissing everyone off or people just setting the expectation of two drinks from the get go and like that's what you But also, surely you could purchase drinks after the two tickets. I think that would probably be I mean, it's cheap, oh as fuck, Like I get it, Like I'm like, it's cheap, but I'm also like, if that's what you want.
To do, like it's that's their wedding, Like what with the guests to say yeah exactly? Speaking of like drink tickets, like one thing that we're because we're already planning our Christmas party for our work.
I thought you were going to say, you're already planning your wedding.
No, we're already planning our Christmas party. And because our we do our Christmas party with like our office and warehouse like and then like stores get their own Christmas party because we obviously can't shut down stores and fly people to Newcastle. But what we're going to do for our drinks this year, because it racks up so fast,
is we're doing tickets. But it's tickets for cocktails. So like when everyone arrives, they get like two tokens or tickets or whatever that they can then redeem on a cocktail. And then after that, like the rest of the night is just your normal drinks that you would have at an open bar kind of thing that they still get
for free. Because that's just another little thing. Like if you've got open bar with cocktails, yeah, and people smashing cocktails, twenty two dollars cocktails all night, it's going to be fucking fifteen grand on the bar tab. Yeah, So that's a little hack.
I'm all for the two drink limit why not.
Yeah, I reckon that one's fair enough if it's your own wedding. Okay, Number three, respect the seat assignment. Unless you are getting a drink, food, or going to the bathroom, there is no need to be out of your seat. Some guests want to just stay with their group and not socialize, and that has to be respected.
See.
I fucking hate this because whenever I'm at a wedding or any sit down event, I can't wait for the dinner and speeches to finish so you can get up and go and socialize and dance and like go and mingle with your friends that are at other tables and stuff.
Yeah.
Like, I feel like the sitting down formalities is like one of the most boring bits.
I honestly have never understood a seating chart at a wedding. Like that's one thing I don't understand. I couldn't give a shit where anyone sits at all, but it's like a really big priority to get the seating exactly right and who's sitting with who, and blah blah, couldn't give a shit sit where you want. Well, we'll probably still have a seating plan, but like, I mean, sit where you want because like what's their issue.
Well, one of our friends a couple of years ago, we went to their wedding and it was the coolest
wedding that I've ever been to. Their parents have like a property, and so they had it on the property, and they had the ceremony at one end of the property, like they had it all set up beautifully, and then we literally just walked across the property, I don't know, five hundred meters and then like the after party whatever it's called, what's the reception, was at the other end of the property, and it was stunning and it's like right on the lake, so it was really pretty. But
they didn't have a sit down food dinner at all. Instead, it almost felt like a bit of a music festival. They had like a dance floor in the middle, just made out of those like wooden plank things that you stick all together and it makes a dance floor. And then around they had like a couple of drinks trucks and then a food truck, and then they had these also really nice like demountable toilets that they like brought
in like in a caravan thing. And then the whole night was just you walk around like you go to the food truck and they had heaps of lounges and everything like all around and random chairs, but there was
no sit down part of the wedding. And I just thought that was like something I'd never been to before, and I felt like that was really cool, and it took out the whole part of them needing to find out who sits next to who and we can't have her across from her because she doesn't like her, and it was just really cool, like you just walked around, went and order food from the food truck, went and got a drink from the van, and then just like walked around. It was really great.
I love that idea.
Yeah, for any of you out there who were planning a wedding, consider that obviously not everyone has a fucking property that they can have a wedding on. But it was fucking great.
Because I do think food is like such a big part of the only part of the wedding that I don't love because it's always fucking boring. It's checking off fish, child fish or maybe beef, but it's like it's not I've never I don't think i've there's been actually one wedding that I went to where like the food was pretty exceptional and also at the same wedding, the coolest thing I saw was that they did their first dance
by themselves and didn't tell anyone. And so we were actually all having our dinner sitting down and there were like glass doors on the side, like windows, and like we just kind of noticed, like one person was like, oh my gosh, they're having their first dance, and like our heads turned and we could just see them through the glass, just having a private first dance, just the two of them. It's nice. I was like, this is so good because.
I love seeing all these modern things that people are doing with their weddings now, Like I even love the first look. So you know, traditionally, like the bride will walk down the aisle and that's the first time that the groom is seeing her when he turns around kind
of thing. Well, now a lot of people are doing their first look in private before the ceremony, so they're in like a private room or whatever, or if they're like at the Huna Valley or whatever, they might be out in the valley thing in the vineyards and they have that moment privately together, just them and like the photographer or videographer, so that then that moment is intimate just between them two, which I really like.
Yeah.
I like seeing people like, you know, not stick to the traditional rules of weddings that we usually know and see.
I know someone who did all their wedding photos prior to the ceremony. Yes, me too, went and did all the photos with the wedding rings on as if they were married, and did the ceremony for that.
Then you get to spend your whole wedding with everyone that's come to your wedding, because sometimes they disappear for three hours to do photos and then they come back.
I think as well, like the traditions as well as in like the rules like oh you can't do this, or you won't or it's bad luck you know what, I mean to see the bride on the night before or on the morning off or whatever that whole rule is, and like even the something borrowed, something blue, all the rest of that. Maybe how many times have people done every single thing to the book and they still end
up getting divorced? So I don't reckon anything matters, and you can do whatever you on as long as you sign that paper, and that is official. Whatever else happens that day is totally up to whatever you want to do. Do they have any other rules? Yes?
So number four, I think I can get behind this one. No cameras. My husband said, a QR code in front. I'm guessing on the table that everyone scans and downloads the pov app, which I'm guessing is like a Polaroid kind of app. They then each get ten pictures they get uploaded into a big shared album.
Yeah, but my thing is, if there's no cameras, how am I scanning the QR code with your phone? But isn't the phone the camera? Like is that? So how's the bride gonna know whether I take photos on the app or just on my camera roll?
Because maybe they look different, or they've got like a little thing at the bottom, you know, when you put them into an app and it's got like a little tag on the bottom or whatever.
Hate that idea, but also love no phones. I've said before, I'm so no phones. Do not fucking get your phone out of my Yeah, I.
Think I can fully get behind. Actually, when the bride and groom don't want you to post any photos before they do kind of thing like that, they should be the ones to share their wedding photos first, and I hate when you do see them walking down the island and then people have got their phone out, like you know, I'm all four, put your phones away. But I do like the idea of just like a QR code that gets an app and everyone takes photos and it adds it to a shared out album, like I reckon, that's
a really cool idea. But I also think people should be able to like take their own photos for themselves.
Kind of thing. Yeah, you know, yeah.
And there's one more number five, everyone out by ten thirty. We love the party animals who stay up late and want to have fun. But my husband and I still have work in the morning. Surely this is fucking fat. But my husband and I still have work in the morning, so we need to get a good night's rest just like any other day. Well that's just solidified to me that this is fake.
Because I reckon Wednesday wedding, like on a Friday or a Saturday, or maybe a Sunday, maybe Monday. But wouldn't you be going on a honeymoon or taking the time on Why wouldn't you take the next day.
I've seen people that have gotten married, and then they go back to work for a little bit and then their honeymoon's coming up.
Kind of thing.
True, But everyone out by ten thirty.
I could get behind that. I'm pretty sure I've been to weddings where everybody's out by ten thirty.
I feel like the latest wedding I've ever gone to has been like midnight at the latest.
Yeah, I think like the room's book till eleven, so we're probably out by ten thirty anyway. Yeah, I'm happy with that one.
All right, it's got your ticke of approval.
So I gave a ticke of approval to drink tickets yep, no photos or to an extent. And the last one was everyone out by ten thirty. What was the third one?
Respect the seat assignment?
Oh yeah, I couldn't give a shit about that. Sit where you want. I disagree with staying in your seat Like that is so full on to be, like these two go on to work as school teachers the next day, because it's giving school teacher energy to be like, you must sit in your single file at the bar with your two drink tickets. Everybody quiet, please, Like I just imagine the bride going to do her speech and going waiting for the chat to class, you know, when the teacher and then I I A P I A P
T smart chat. What the fuck is that? You don't remember that? I'm sorry, don't remember. I've never heard that in my life. What what did you just do?
I I P P T S not chat?
What does that mean? Was? Was it a A P?
It was like some businesses song?
Oh, I'm thinking of teachers standing at the front of the room saying that it was like a business and that was the I used to be so good at personating all the teachers, and they're different ways to get the classes attention. One, two, three, stage three. Look at me, I was one of That was my Stage three teacher. There were more, but I can't remember right now.
For all your teachers out there, it's fucking tough, GI, it is tough, gig. Seriously, I couldn't do it.
Later I probably could, got you. I reckon, well, I reckon. I would have liked to be a teacher, but my dad is My dad's a school principal. And when I was younger, I remember being seven years old. I mean like, I'm going to be a teacher like my dad, and he said, do not be a teacher. Seriously, get a different job. And I was like, okay, it's hard.
I can only imagine.
Yeah. Cool, Well that's close, friends, done and dusted. It is. It is what a slagh.
Looking forward to your wedding with drink tickets and everyone can sit wherever they want.
Yes, no, we're not doing drink tickets. I don't know. We might have alcohol free. I mean I don't drink alcohol that often and Sky doesn't really drink alcohol at all.
I'll be sneaking in little flask in my bag.
Yeah, go for it. I'm all about that. You're all about that. And you know rules are made to be broken. So even if there are rules at your wedding, not everyone's going to follow them.