DELILAH DILEMMAS: Some needed perspective

from d her boyfriend. She says, heard your show about a gentleman who had been dating a lady for a couple of months and she was pressuring him to marry her. You told him to put on some shorts and tennis shoes and run the other direction. You said the woman was controlling. My boyfriend then told me he was sharing this story with me because I am the same way as that woman, but our story is different. He and I have been dating for two and a half years,

not two and a half months. I asked him about our future and told him I was ready for a commitment after a year. Don't you think you should know if someone is right for you. I'm forty four years old and he is forty six. I have a seven year old and I desire a complete family. He's a good hearted man, but he has a closed mind and he feels our situation is the same as the one you spoke of. I would like your response, Well, D,

I will give you my response coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a forty four year old woman who has a son who is seven, who has been dating a man for over two years and wants a commitment and he's saying, no, you're being too controlling about that. D. You're the one who needs to put on the shorts and the tennis shoes and run if after two and a half years, he doesn't know what he wants. There's

a great book out it's by Steve Harvey. It's called Act like a Lady, Think like a Man, and it is so good. D you got to pick it up and read it, and then you will discover if he is looking for keeps or if he's just out having a little bit of fun and not really interested in a forever relationship. Read that book and then I'm sure you will come to your own conclusions. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma says, my dad has been in and out of jail since I was about two. I am now sixteen, and I

haven't seen him in about eight years. I mostly just tear things, and he used to write to me, and I look forward to it. Now I wish I didn't know him at all. He video cams homeless people and makes fun of them. He's cynical and mean. He's just a bad person. So how do I deal with this? I'm so disappointed and I'm so hurt. I will have my words for you, honey, coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from a sixteen year old who's not seen

or talked to their dad in eight years. Dad's been in and out of jail since they were two, and dad is a cynical, mean person. How do I deal with this? Here's how you deal with this. You thank God that you are here and that God allowed your father to father you, and then you recognize that just because your dad is those things doesn't mean that those things have to be visited upon you. In fact, it's probably if he's that cynical, and that mean it's a good thing that God kept him away from you for

the last eight years. So number one, you wouldn't be hurt. And number two, those character traits are character defects, those bad things wouldn't be visited upon you. Because a lot of times kids become what they are exposed to. So if they're exposed to drugs and fighting and alcohol and abuse, they become drug addicts and alcoholics and abusers. But because your dad's been in jail and you said you haven't had any contact for eight years, he's not been allowed

to influence you that way. Now, how do you accept the fact that your dad is a deadbeat dad and as a mean person. You just put him in God's hand and say, I don't know how he ended up so broken. I don't know what happened to him in his childhood that he's got such a mean spirit and I can't fix it. So God, you deal with him and then you let it go. And I bet you have a lot of people that love you, So focus on the gifts that you do have, not on what

you don't. Here Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is so sweet. It says I know this sounds silly. I'm sixty two and single. I've been single for almost twenty years, and I've not dated during this time. I just get on the computer and I joined one of the dating sites. I'm very safe, very picky. I've had several lunch dates, but the chemistry was not there. Two weeks ago, I received a message from a guy in another state, and we've been emailing

and instant messaging constantly. Now we're talking on the phone. He's flying here in two weeks, and I'm sure the sparks will be flying when we get together. He said all the right things. He makes my toes curl and anticipation of this visit. Delilah, am I too old to fall head over heels in love with this man. He's on my mind constantly. I ache with the very thought of him. Am I just being silly? I feel giddy, not like a sixty two year old grandma. Any advice

from Linda, young lady. I will have my advice for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's dilemma is from Linda, who is falling head over heels. She is twitter paid. I won't call it love yet because it's only been a few weeks, but you are twitter paated, Linda, and that's a very very good thing. So long as your heart is beating and you are alive on this planet, you have the capacity to love. And there are so many different kinds of love, and romantic love is just

one of those kinds. But it's so delightful and so delicious, and you have protected your heart for two decades. Good for you. Be safe, Be sure you set boundaries if you've not met him, make sure that you've got a safety net and friends around, and you're not getting into a bad situation. He could be a flake. Many people are, but if he's as wonderful as you think, you're not being silly at all. Good luck. I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy

bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah.