Hey it's Delilah. Thank you for stopping by. I have put together some of my favorite radio moments here to share with you on our daily podcast. Every night on my radio show, we have Delilah's dilemmas. We love them all. When you call or you write with a situation that you're in and you just need a little advice and direction, we love them all, and today we wanted to share some of them with you on Hey It's Delilah. Marie wrote to me and says, my barely ex boyfriend just
came home from overseas. He came home about a month ago, and I was so excited after not seeing him for a year. Everything was going well. I got to spend time with him. I was so so happy he was finally home. Well, a week ago, he broke the news to me that he was back with his ex, who he was engaged to previously during the time they were together, she cheated on him. Now, I've been fine up until this point. I've kept it together and kept my head up,
pretending like everything was fine, except tonight. Tonight is finally getting to me and I'm breaking down emotionally and I don't know what to do. It hurts bad, and although this isn't my first breakup, it's definitely the hardest I've ever been through. I just pretend like everything is fine and nothing bothers me, but I can't do it anymore. Please help me. From Marie Ah, Marie, I will help
you in just a moment. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from Marie, who wrote to a young man was involved with him while he was overseas. He came home to her loving eyes arms and then told her that he was going back to his ex. And she's pretending like everything is fine. Honey,
everything is not fine. You have been betrayed in the worst way, and you've put your life on hold, hoping and planning for a future with somebody who was involved with somebody else, obviously during the time that he's been away. So stop pretending like it's okay, Stop pretending like your heart isn't broken, and cry and let your tears out and let your pain out and call your best friends and have some been and Jerry's ice cream with them, and then move on because you deserve to be loved
completely by somebody who just wants to spoil you. Okay, So you can have my shoulder. My virtual should review the radio to cry on God bless you. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from someone who is making bad choices because she loves too much. Jessica writes, I am twenty six with a beautiful baby girl. I am very much in love with both her and her daddy, but he has a bad drug habit. Because of his drug habit, we have lost everything. I am still so stupid in love
that I keep taking him back. I know it's not good for me or my baby girl. Please tell me how to let go and do good for me and my kylie Bug. Thank you so much from Jessica. Jessica, I will have my mother delilah response for you coming up next. Tonight's Delilah's Dilemma is from somebody who is
stupid in love. Yes, you are, Jessica. You are stupid in love because you are doing stupid things that could cost you the life of your child, or it could cost you CPS coming taking your child, or it could cost you your child being messed up for the rest of her life. Jessica, you need to go to nar Anon. Nar Ann is a organization, a group I don't want to call it an organization meetings for people who love, people who love their drugs more than themselves or their children.
People who are addicted to drugs, be it prescription drugs, be it over the counter drugs, be it street drugs. People who are addicted to OxyContin, to painkillers, to pot to whatever, cannot make sound choices. They cannot make good decisions. They cannot be good parents while they're using drugs. And because you are so addicted to this man, you are not being a good parent to your baby. You are putting your baby at risk, at risk of being hurt, killed,
taken by CPS. You are putting your baby at risk because you are as addicted to the drug addict as the drug addict is addicted to drugs. So please, for your baby's sake, stop. If you don't love yourself, Jessica, and I get that because when I was your age with a baby, I didn't love myself and I was addicted to a drug addict. If you don't love yourself, I get that. But at least, for God's sakes, love your baby enough to not put her in harm's way.
Go to narin On or go to alan On. Go to a counselor and figure out why you are addicted to an addict, and then start making good choices for you and your Kylie Bug. She deserves it. Here is tonight's Delilah's Dilemma. Becky writes, I fell in love with the most amazing man almost seven years ago. We dated for three years before we decided to marry, and I was afraid of making a mistake. My husband has one son. I have three children. His son lived with his mother
and my kids live with their dad. Well, we just recently moved out of state and my sixteen year old daughter moved in with me and my husband. That was last summer and last fall. His nineteen year old son had to repeat a senior year, so he moved here with us to go to school. His parents felt he needed to get away from the people he was hanging out with, so we took him in since my daughter was here. What else could I say? He and his father never really got along, and five months later, all
they do is fight all the time. I'm not talking about a little arguing. I can deal with that, but fighting. As a mother, I don't feel my daughter or I should be subjected to this craziness. We are planning on moving back home in the summer. I'm not sure if I can wait that long. I really need to get me and my daughter away from this craziness. I told
my husband something tonight that tore me up. I told him, if I knew it would be like this with him and his son, I never would have decided to get married. This is a man that I've longed to find all my life. We were best friends, we share everything. But my stepson cursed me out today, and I just think it's about time for my husband to decide him or me. I need some serious advice, Mama Delilah, help from Becky. Becky, I will be back with my insights my response to
your Delilah dilemma coming up next. If you were listening a moment ago, I got a letter from Becky who has married a man that has an adult son, and that adult son has moved in with them and is causing all sorts of mayhem in the household. And Becky, here's what I would say. When a child is a child, it's the parent's responsibility to provide for that child. But when a child is an adult and your step son is then that child is responsible, that adults is responsible
for making their way in the world. And it sounds like he moved in with good intentions to complete school and to get away from some negative influences, but he brought with him a whole lot of behavior that is not acceptable. You cannot live in a household where there is physical fighting going on. So I support you one hundred percent in saying I can't live this way. I
cannot live under these conditions. But I'm suspecting your husband is feeling extremely guilty because he was not the custodial parent, and there's nothing in this world quite as strong as parent guilt. Before you pack your bags, Becky and head out, have you thought about saying to your husband, can we go talk to a counselor can we get some input from somebody who's objective. Can we talk to somebody who's
an expert at helping families stay together. You need somebody who can help you see all the different nuances and all the different things going on and can really give you some sound wisdom and advice. That's my best advice. I so hope you have enjoyed these radio moments as much as I enjoy bringing them to you. I'll share more with you each weekday on Hey It's Delilah l