Yeah, complexity. We were talking about this yesterday on the awakened man call. So many of us have been brought up just to make things complex and it's, it's particularly prevalent and for and for us to think about if we are fathers. Well, we think about it anyway, but like, particularly if we are fathers and we've got children. And so, yes, yesterday I took Leo, I picked him up from nursery and I took him clothes shopping because, you know, I need to get some new clothes. He's growing.
And then along when we're going shopping, he's like asking me for things. Oh, Daddy, can we go to the toy shop? And I want, I want, yeah, I want new cars. And then he wanted a snack and then he wanted to drink. He's like, and something we were talking about yesterday on the way, command call is like when your child wants something. So he's like, I want X. And then rather than just saying yes or no, it's like through our minds goes this like, oh, well, if I give him, if I give him X
and that can happen. And oh, actually, like if I go and spend £50 on that, what I've got all these other bills coming in this month and like, how is it the right time to spend that sort of money? And like, we just go for all these like different complexities in our head rather than just making a simple decision, right.
And it's, and that's just like a little example, but yeah, I suppose like I've definitely had that like growing up and then doing like degrees in architecture and technical degrees and so on. It's all like the work that I was being qualified in. It's all super technical and like to make a decision, get like when you're designing a building, it's there's so many complexities to that. And then it's so easy and to just take that into your day-to-day lives rather than keeping things simple.
So it was a great conversation. And also what we've which of what I'm going to talk about this morning, because I just want to share some insights with you guys that I've picked up over the last couple of weeks within the away command and some of you guys are in are in that. So we've heard this, some of you guys are not, but we've been doing a lot of talking around archetypes and core archetypes. And what's come up recently is we're talking a lot about the ego and we're talking a lot
about shadow. And there was a really, really powerful insight for not just myself, but I know a bunch of the guys yesterday on shadow. And so we were talking about. So just just so I've got I've got like Leo just like chanting in the background about breakfast. So just for just for reference, archetypes, 44 core archetypes. And this is this is what young talked about and positioned in
the four core. There's number one is our ego is the persona, right, which is essentially this is what we want the world to think who we are. It's the these are the masks that we put on ourselves. This is like mum says you're a good boy, OK? And so then you you put a mask on because she says you're a good boy around a particular thing. Mum says you're a bad boy. You put another mask on for that particular thing. Society says one thing, your teachers say one thing.
And we just so we go through like we put these masks on, they become our ego. Bear with me, guys. Leo, Leo, please mate, give me 10 minutes. You can have breakfast, OK? Can you just play with your iPad? So there you go. That that's that's our that's our ego, right? And we and we and we build these personas. We build, we build our ego because we want the world to like us. We want to be accepted.
We want to be pleasing. OK, Secondly, secondly to that, the, the the other core archetype is our shadow, right? This, our shadow is the things that we suppress and we and we we essentially put into our darkness. So we put into our shadow, right. And and then this is what colour, this is what happened. This is what will materialize is, is that the ego is the things that you are conscious of. Like you think about how you act day-to-day.
Now you are conscious of that. So the ego is very much in your conscious. The shadow is what you fail to see. The shadow is very much in your subconscious. And you know, and we know science tells us, research tells us 5% is in our conscious, 95% is in our subconscious. So there's loads and loads that are in our shadow, right? And then the and then the other parts of the archetypes is your anima and animas, which is essentially your masculine and your feminine.
All right, and. It's OK, it's OK. He's on my bed, mate. All right. Can you? I'll tell you what. Can you go and tidy the toys in the room please before nursery please go and do that. Anima animas, which is masculine and feminine. This, this is the every woman has masculine within her. Every man has feminine within him and and vice versa, right? And the world teaches us that and the world talks about society talks about, you know, men can't be emotional, which is feminine.
Men can't be vulnerable. Men shouldn't be vulnerable. Men shouldn't be soft, which is feminine. Women shouldn't be warriors. They shouldn't, you know, they shouldn't be leaders and so on, which is masculine, right? And so then there's we go through life and we skew both of those dynamics. So we start being more masculine than we are feminine. But to be truly well-rounded and to get to the 4th archetype, which is the self, right?
This is, this is like who you are, your, your, your most truly aligned authentic self. That's where we want to get to. And to get to that, it's like it's the integration of both the masculine and the feminine, right? And having both of those dynamics playing like beautifully with each other. And it's also very much getting in touch with your shadow and understanding your shadow and doing the work on integrating the good parts and the bad parts
of your shadow, right? And it's overcoming the ego. So most of us will spend the most part of our first part of our lives being very egocentric. Second part of our lives is when we, when we've become, we've start to like overcome that. You know, when he's like met like older people are like, and they just don't give a fuck. You're like that guy does not give a shit. He's just outspoken, right? It just just really has stopped caring that's he's getting out.
He's got over his ego, right. So that's that's just like a quick, a quick summary of the the archetypes that that young was and he he called these like the four core archetypes. And now hundreds, OK, there's there's hundreds of archetypes that we go through and that we and then we have but the four
core. Now, what was the the most interesting insight the I picked up yesterday and I know a lot of the other guys picked up, is that when we think about our shadow and for you guys that have done shadow work or investigated shadow and or you've listened to some of the work that we do on the way, can we talk a lot about the shadow? Is that I think that what it is absolutely that the thoughts around shadow is that shadow is bad.
And the, all the, the only things that we put in our shadow is the things that we are ashamed of. And they are bad things, anger, rage, just like the, the things that we're, we're, we're, we're pushing down that we think are
bad for society. But what Yazin talked about yesterday is that we also, we, what we also put in our shadow is the great things we, we can also put in our gold, the things that make us fucking exquisite, the things that make us unbelievable, the things that make that that can make us incredible human beings. We, we can, we also put that in the shadow. So it's so it's not, it's not just putting the things that we are ashamed of.
Well, essentially like we could, we could potentially be ashamed of our greatness and put that in our shadow. And that's like and that plays and even and having a focus on that, like where's my fucking greatness? What have I actually put into the shadow? Because I'm worried about if I fulfill my greatness, then what would the world think of me? Or like it's like that fear of failure or that also the fear of success.
Like the fear of success is way bigger than I think many of us probably think it is. I don't have a fear of success, but actually maybe you do have a fear of success in hiding the greatness that you've got and suppressing that and not bringing it out into the world. And so that was that was a powerful insight for me yesterday. And I spoke to a number of guys after, after the call, and I actually had never thought about the shadow hiding my greatness.
So I think I just want, yeah, just I want to share that with you guys this morning. Like, and for you, for you to think about that is like, actually like, what are you hiding? Like, what do you like? What are you truly showing up into the world as? You're probably fucking not if you're on these calls. You're not. Right? And what does that look like? Like and and young young said, it's like the you're ignoring your gold is way worse than you
highlighting your darkness. So you're ignoring the gold is way worse than highlighting the darkness. One one second men, Leo, homie, can you play with that in the bedroom? Because it's noisy, man. Play with it in the bedroom, please, because it's carpet in there. Thanks mate. So young believe that ignoring your gold is way worse than highlighting your darkness. And this is how like it was
described yesterday. So imagine an acorn, and you probably heard this analogy before that you got your acorn. And that acorn can grow into a beautiful tree. But if that acorn is put into a little tiny pot, right, a little bit of soil and it's not a tiny little pot, it's not going to grow into and blossom into a big fucking tree. It's the same with same with you guys. It's the same with me. Same, same with everyone here,
right? It's the, the other analogy is the koi fish, beautiful koi fish, but you keep it in a little fish bowl, a little tiny fish bowl. It's not going to grow any bigger. It's not going to expand. Put put the koi fish into a river into into the ocean. It's going to expand. It's going to get bigger, right? Same, same with the acorn planet in a field. It's going to it's, it's going to grow. It's the same. It's exactly the same with us, right?
We ignore our gold, hide the fucking good things about us, right? And we will not blossom that that's way more disruptive to us than uncovering the dark sides of us. And I think that's like that can be such a fucking big focus is our like, let me uncover the dark side. Let me uncover all the bad things about me. Let me figure out like why I get angry so quickly and like why I suppress all these emotions.
Like, let me figure that out. Let me find the darkness and then let's get in touch with the darkness and that which is, and I've been guilty of of doing that. Let me figure out all the dark side, all the bad shit. But actually, like, where can we start to begin to uncover all the gold, all the platinum, all the extraordinary, exquisite things about us. Then we can then bring that into the world. So team, that was my, this is my
share this morning. This is what I've been thinking about, what we've been talking about on the Awakened Man's quick 16 minutes summary. Hours of discussion. Something for you to think about today, men. There we go. Enjoy your days, good to see you.