¶ Exploring Self-Love and Personal Growth
Trista Polo has over 16 years experience as a business owner and entrepreneur . She coaches CEOs , managers , team leaders and entrepreneurs on self-worth , mindset , communication , leadership , teamwork and the soft skills needed to succeed . Trista is a published author , speaker , trainer and podcast host .
Her mission is to help people win whatever winning looks like to them , because we woke up awesome just as we are , and we deserve all the best life has to offer . Yes , yes , yes , yes , yes , yes . Snaps claps all of the hurrays for that . Trista , amazing , amazing , amazing . You are speaking my language .
Welcome to Heal Grow with Nikki . I'm your host , nikki Kraminga-Hill . Here we talk about everything grief , hope , illness , work , family , tragedy , possibilities , fun stuff and not so fun stuff . It's all on the table . Let's take a look at our lives and work to Heal Grow together . I'm so glad you're here .
Hi , welcome . Welcome to Heal Grow with Nikki .
So excited to be here .
So everyone , before we really get started , this was like a serendipitous meeting that happened . I feel like Trista , I don't know . Also , you're just a brave and courageous person , trista , and I actually do not know one another other than the 10 minutes we spoke right before this , right before we started recording .
Trista found me through the Polkadot Powerhouse website and I've talked about Polkadot quite a bit on my podcast . You're a new dot , aren't you ?
I am . I just joined my local chapter , which is Northern Chesapeake in Maryland , december . Just joined December , so just a couple months ago . You're a newbie .
Yeah , yay , yay , yay . I hope you find it as awesome and meaningful as I have , so tell everybody how you found me , because I think it's just super smart .
Well , I have this book coming out and one of the things that you want to do is to get the word out , because you could have the best book in the world , but if nobody ever reads it , then who knew ? Right , so what was the point ?
So one of the ways is to get on podcasts and talk to like-minded people , kind of share audiences with people that are already out there sharing things that are similar . And so I went on to the Polkadot Powerhouse website . I logged in , I did a search and I just searched for the word podcast .
And some people love podcasts , some people have podcasts and you know you get the information from their bio . And so I just started reaching out and saying , hey , I'm new to Polkadot and I'd love to connect , and I have a book coming out and if you consider me for your podcast , if I would be a good fit , I would love the opportunity .
And you responded and here we are oh my gosh .
I remember I probably didn't respond this way in my email because I didn't know you then , but I was like , oh , hell , yes , I want to talk to this person . Okay , so many , so many things to talk about . First , trist's book comes out on Valentine's .
Day . On Valentine's Day , it's called Self-Love Shenanigans the awesome journey to unleashing your confidence . It's all about self-love . How could it come out on any other day besides Valentine's Day ? It couldn't .
I it's , it's perfect and are in . This podcast will come out on the 13th . So , dear listeners , tomorrow you need to buy this book Self-Love Shenanigans the awesome journey to unleashing your confidence . Okay , I have to tell you this is another reason why I was a hell of a guess . One of my favorite words in the English language is shenanigan . Is that right ?
I love that word .
Yes , I see it all the time . It's a thing at my work . We say shenanigans all the time , and so immediately I was like I must meet this woman that has shenanigans in the title of her book . Tell me why you picked that word .
I think if it's not fun , you shouldn't do it . I really like things to be fun . I think that it makes hard work easier . I think it makes things that you're dreading easier to do and you know you can accept and welcome them , and so I want it . Self-love is really a deep topic and it can get deep . It can . So I wanted to keep it fun and light .
You might notice from my personality and the picture behind me is the cover I'm all about bold color . I've gotten louder , I've gotten older and stop being loud , and I just wanted it to be a fun experience . Some of the early readers have said that know me personally and know my personality . They've said it's like I'm talking to them .
Yes , yes , and that's what I wanted . So it's fun , it's light and the information is really important .
I think I said that to you too , because I haven't read the whole book , but I've read parts of it and immediately I was like this person feels like , sounds like a friend , that's amazing , yeah , which thank you . That's just , I think , like just you who you are authentically , but also just like your speaker voice .
Your writer voice is so friendly and so and I mean this as a compliment , non-clinical .
Yeah .
Because I feel like when we talk about these things , these important things like self-love , self-awareness , it's very easy to get into this mindset of being sort of a clinician . Yes , yes , being sort of a tunnel vision clinician , yes , and that's just personally not how I react with the world .
Yeah , and I want to say , since you said that I'm starting to interrupt , but it's important that I say I'm not a clinician , I'm not a social worker , I'm not a psychologist .
It's written from my own experiences of what worked for me and I'm hearing from again early readers since it's not out yet that it is a lot of stuff that some of the people that I'm talking to have been through as well in therapy . In fact I just have to share no names .
But a friend of mine texted me and said something and then I responded and then they went to therapy and got my text after and said you said in this text exactly what my therapist just said to me .
So again , not a therapist , not trained in that way , but I've done so much work and research and reading for myself and these are the things that I know work and that have worked for me and that have worked for my coaching clients . So I just wanted to put that out there .
And then the person who goes to therapy , who's been going to therapy for 32 years . I felt like and I've had many different therapists throughout the years but I was like , oh , this is the therapist that I want in reading your book . Oh , that's awesome . Yeah . And again , that's in a non-clinical sort of way , yeah .
And I think that's just the way in which you speak and what you talk about these really important things . You know , growth strategies for self care , which I love , because I feel like I feel like the term self care is sort of getting a bad wrap . And yet when I read your work , I'm like , no , this is all important stuff .
This is easy-ish stuff to implement slowly into your lives . You know , I just I don't know . I'm just like a huge fan . You're gonna be your total fan girl and you're gonna be like great .
The feeling is mutual , by the way .
So tell us . I mean , there's so many amazing things to talk about in your book . One thing I want to get to you is just the word awesome . I know we already talked about the word shenanigans , but the word awesome comes up in your work not just your book , but in your work .
In fact , you have a kick ass t-shirt on right now that says I woke up awesome . Look at that . I hope everybody else tried to put the video on for this one too , but if you don't see it , it's a dragonfly . And it says I woke up awesome because , hell yes , you did . You woke up awesome . You woke up complete , you woke up worthy .
Yes .
You know , and can we talk about that ? For us Like just for sure . You have this assurance of yourself , and I'm going to guess , because you are a human being and a woman , you didn't maybe always have that assurance in yourself . Sure , now you're a guest . I woke up , awesome , and so did you Like . How did you get ? How did you get to that place ?
So , kurt , totally a journey , not a light switch .
Love that , not a light switch .
That's not a light switch , absolutely a journey I'm still on . I definitely have had lots of self worth issues over my lifetime . I remember that when I was in high school I ended up in a classroom with a bunch of football players . It was a small class , it was an algebra class and I've never been great at numbers and math and all that Same Z's .
Yeah , and I was like something weird , something weird going on with my butt , like I'm having a pain in my butt , but I was so not wanting to call attention to myself because they were football players in that stereotypical way and I was a band and drama geek in that stereotypical way .
So it's already not a cool kid yeah , I'm full of cool guys , I'm a woman , you know , girl , et cetera . And I just had this pain , but I refused to call attention to myself . I was so embarrassed about putting any attention on me that I sat there the whole class just like having this uncomfortable , you know situation .
It turns out they had put a tack on my chair at the beginning of my life and I sat on that tack the entire class . And I think back , I was wearing jeans , which is why it wasn't super painful and it was like a pain I could survive . And that's just one example of a physical pain . I decided I could survive instead of facing it .
But I have lots of that , you know so much childhood trauma , like we all do , sure . So I had a lot of self worth stuff growing up that I didn't deserve to actually take time from the teacher and take attention to myself for fear of being ridiculed . And it worked out in my favor .
By the way , they never bug me about that , because if I was willing to sit on a tack the entire classroom , then don't mess with me . You know right , but they left me alone after that . But that's just an example of like I don't deserve To figure out what's happening that's hurting me .
I'm just going to just be hurt because it's a pain I can survive , I can live through and you know , what doesn't kill us makes us stronger . And so all of the processes in the books and the classes and the things that I've done , a lot of journaling , has brought me to this epiphany .
One day I wanted to do a YouTube channel and I thought what do you have to say ? You don't have anything to say . Who would want to hear from you ? I have this , this thing , where I believe that my contribution isn't worthy , that it's sort of a it's a wonderful life , kind of like . What's the difference if I don't show up ?
Who's even here , that I'm not there ? I don't have that anymore . You can't write a book from your words and feel that way . By the way , you have to believe you have some value to put out . And I woke up one morning like who am I not to put out a YouTube channel Right now , in this moment ? I woke up , I forgot to take my makeup off .
I am , you know , my hair is disheveled , I'm just waking up , I have morning breath , etc . And I am still awesome just as I am . Yes , I have something to say .
And so then I woke up awesome , that's where that comes from , like it really came from , this epiphany , like right now , just waking up in this moment , I am perfect , just as I am , even in my imperfections , because I worked for everything I am and I I earned it through every experience that I've had .
Now I still have self doubt and I still have worth issues and I still have all those things , and so what I want to share that I think is really important is that stuff never goes away . In my experience , and then the experiences of everyone I've spoken to , that stuff never goes away .
The question is , when you have that thought like I'm not worthy or whatever , that thought is , what do you do next ?
Do you let that pile up and find evidence and talk yourself like a little motivational speech of how much you suck , or do you flip the switch and say , well , let's think of one small little thing that I could find right now , in this moment , that makes me feel like maybe I might be worthy , maybe , and then let that build and build up on that and create a
motivational speech about positive yes , so that was kind of a long way around , but that's how the journey came , and when I moved to Maryland in July of this past year of 2023 , I had to reestablish my business and I actually called it . I woke up awesome , because that is who I am and who you are . You also woke up awesome .
Every one of us is awesome , just as we are . In fact , I don't know if you can see it the back of my shirt Can you see the back of my shirt ? You woke up awesome , just as you are , so every time I see people on the street , when they walk by me or where they're walking behind me , they get a message and reminder .
Is that something I can buy from you off of your website ?
Let's say yes , coming soon .
¶ Author's Book and Personal Journey
Okay , everybody , wow , we're gonna just put you on the spot , sorry about that . No , I love that . I realized we haven't even talked about your book at all .
I'm sorry , we have sort of there it is , there it is .
Okay , tell us about your book here . Okay , here are the takeaways . Everybody Increase self awareness . So if you read this book , you follow the activities you do , the journaling . Increase self awareness yes , who doesn't want that ? We need that . Improve self confidence yes , please .
I would love some more of that than their strategies for self care Thank you , because I need some of those and enhance personal growth . Obviously I'm here for that because it's part of what heal and grow and these are all things . That all four of these things are things that help me every day on my personal healing and growing journey .
I think the self awareness is something that's kind of new for me . Maybe that's something that we get when we get a little bit older . I don't know . But I don't know All of this . So those are the four takeaways . Everybody buy this book .
I mean , obviously there's way more than just these four things , but these are the four things you're going to get when you read Trista's book . Tell us about your book , trista . I want to hear about it in your own words .
I thought you'd never ask . I know because I like to talk . No , no , not that I'm going to tell you a secret . Writing a book is one thing .
Promoting and publishing and putting the book out is a completely different set of skills , and I had no idea what I was getting into when I started , and so for the last few weeks I've just been talking to everybody I can about the book , because , again , if nobody knows it's coming , then how would they know that they want it ?
I'd rather get it , yeah , yeah . So it's gotten to the point where my mother invited me to something , an event that she's I don't know , sponsoring or something , and we went last year and it's March 10th or whatever it is , and she said so do you want to go to that ? I'm like , does that have to do with my book being published in a week ?
No , then I can't talk about that .
I can't .
I can't talk about anything . You can't talk about that right now , but if you want to talk about my book , I'm all in .
So I guess what I want to say is that I took everything that has worked for me , put it down to its simplest form that I could and then shared it with strategies and tips and story of my own , so that it would be available in a lot of different ways , because everybody learns differently .
It wasn't again a light switch , it wasn't one thing one book , one video , one affirmation that made the difference . It was like a building block of a lot of things that , when they came all together , along with my willingness to allow them in it , made the difference . And so the book is kind of like a resource manual . It has lots of different topics .
It talks about forgiveness and failure and gratitude and affirmations and all kinds of things , and some of the stuff you'll be like gratitude I already know about that .
Ok , great , maybe look at it with different eyes , because I actually have some pieces about gratitude in my book that I had never heard until I learned them , and when I implemented them , not only did they save my marriage during the pandemic , but it actually made me fall more madly in love with my husband , and we are already in a very strong 27-year marriage .
Welcome , girls and sisters . Yeah , thank you . So it's really about lots of different ways to look at the relationship you have with yourself . And you can read the whole book . You can open it to a chapter . I like to say don't read the book , be the book . And what I mean by that is you can read the words .
They might impact you , so something might click . One of the things that I say in there might have a paradigm shifting effect , but if you read all the words and then put it down , you're not going to get the same level of effect as if you'd be the book .
You actually do the activities at the end of each chapter which help you implement some practice of what we just talked about , the journaling questions I mentioned before . Journaling has been such a game changer for me , and so I wanted to include journaling in there as well .
I've been told there's so much value of the being piece that I should create a workbook and a journal , and da , da , da , da , da , da , da , da , da da , because they could stand on their own .
Yeah , yeah , I mean , it's a great idea , are you ? No , you are a part of another book . You've already written part of a book before .
Yes , I was a contributing author for a book called Abundance , volume One , and each of us just shared what abundance meant to us . It was empowering . It was an empowering experience because it allowed me to see myself as an author .
Right , you know , these are my words and I have something to say , and it's valuable enough that it's printed in a book with binding and a number . It's a real .
An .
RSTN number Right , it's an official .
Oh , please , but this is like , this is your first . Do you say that this is your first book or do you say this is your second book ?
I say that this is my first book and that I am a published author , Because the other book I'm listed as the but it's not my Sure Author page and yeah .
Yeah , oh my gosh , it's just terribly exciting . It's terribly exciting . It's terribly exciting , and you said something a minute ago that I want to touch back on . You said that the ideas and the concepts in your book are not necessarily original or unique , which of course , that makes total sense to me .
But sometimes , when someone else says it differently , are you here Like I am absolutely into hearing about how gratitude helped you fall more madly in love with your husband during the pandemic . I mean , it's just , you never know how your personal story is going to touch another person , even if they already .
Yeah , I've done the self-care , I've done the gratitude , I've done the journaling , sure , ok , but you haven't done it . Through this lens , just try it Like folks . I don't even know this woman and I'm like I kind of want to just hang out with you all of the time .
I'm in .
That's the power , that's the energy that you have , and I'm so excited to read the whole thing . What Is there anything that surprised you while you were writing this book , Like like , oh , I didn't , I didn't know , I felt this way about that .
Or or , oh , I thought I , I thought I had um killed this thing with myself , but it's coming back up in this book . Or like , yeah , did anything just really surprise you ?
Yes . So two things . First of all , I am one of those people that , because of whatever went on in my childhood , I don't have a lot of memories of my childhood . I can't remember unless it really had a very positive or very negative impact . I just don't have memories from my childhood .
They're very sparse , and so there were things that I remembered happening as I was writing the book that came to the surface , that I didn't remember until I started writing it , and I feel like that kind of speaks to that . This has so much value for others and it was a healing journey for myself .
If you ever think you might want to write a book , highly recommend it .
¶ Promoting and Publishing a Book
The second piece was not the writing of it , but the promoting and publishing of it . I am experiencing every chapter of this book as I am putting it out into the world Like failure . I've made mistakes , self-doubt is anybody going to like this book ? Gratitude , flipping the switch , all the kinds of things that I have in the book .
I've been able to repractice as I am putting the book into the world , and so much so that I've started . I have a private Facebook group that I created for people that wanted to get updates and things just kind of as a way to create the community and start the promotion of it , and I started doing lives Like up .
Chapter nine showed up for me today I'm going to be my , you know , so it's just amazing that the I didn't expect the book to come up in my life so much while I was putting it out into the world . It's a surprise .
That's interesting . Yeah , I love that . I love that we're going to have to do a follow up with you in a couple of months , just about like like how did it go and how is it going , all that stuff ?
Well , can I tell you my goal ?
Yeah , what's your goal ?
So my goal is I want to be a bestselling author . Yes , and I want this book to do that . So I'm real . That's why I've been doing so much getting it out there in the world . I feel like the word promotion has kind of a bad rap , so I think that's why I keep trying to say a different thing .
But you know , promoting it and getting the word out , I really that's a goal of mine to be a bestselling author . I have a novel that I've written all but the end of and I really , when it's over , when it's done , I want to be like here's my novel , I'm a bestselling author , he's published it .
Wait , wait . What does what does it mean ? Like actually , like logistically what ? What do you have to do to be a bestselling author ? Is that like so many copies sold and what is like ? Is there an established benchmark for that already , or is it your personal thing ?
Yeah , so it's so funny because it is not what you think . All right , so I'm just going to tell the I'm going to , I'm going to spill the tea .
Okay , great On what it is to be a bestselling author .
Okay , so I'm going for it . On Amazon yeah , so there are two different Amazon bestselling author things that you look at . New York Times is a completely different animal , okay , and that apparently almost have to know somebody who works for the New York Times or have your book published like a by a publisher that's well known to make it that way .
Okay , so I'm not doing that . So , amazon , you can be a bestselling author in two different ways . If your book goes to number one in one category , even for one second , then you're a bestselling author and you can claim that for yourself , and so that's the one thing , I'm an Amazon bestselling author . I'm an Amazon bestselling author .
My book made it to number one in at least one category Now , so that's what I'm going for on launch day . Okay , On launch day , my book is in , you know , multiple categories and I'm going to be having all those three categories up at the same time and just hitting refresh and refresh and refresh over and over so I can catch it and get the screenshot .
Not if declaring when yeah .
Absolutely , oh , I am so into just like declaring what it's what it is , yes , yes .
If you then , for 10 days in a row , have a rolling average of the top 25 in any category like the same category , so if you have the top 25 rank in a category over a 10 day rolling average , then Amazon declares you a bestseller on Amazon and they'll give you a little label on the book page and I don't know , maybe they said your artwork .
It's never happened to me so I can't say for sure but then they'll promote you as a bestselling author , as a bestselling book , as the bestselling book , and so those are the two pieces .
So the first benchmark is hitting number one in at least one category in a day , or happen for five minutes , and then you know , go back down , and then the other one is the rolling average .
Well , how do we help you get that ?
The best way is to buy . It's going to be on for 99 cents on Valentine's Day . That's my Valentine to you , heck . Yeah . Yeah , it's the Kindle version , so you'll be able to download it either on your Kindle or any smart device . You don't even have to have Kindle today to read an ebook from Amazon .
So just a 99 cent contribution to my goal on Valentine's Day is the best way to help , okay .
Yeah , I mean done like that's gonna happen and I'll link all of this stuff for for our listeners that they can get it to easily too . But , um , how are you feeling like ? How are you feeling about all of this ? I know you're excited , obviously .
I'm excited , I'm nervous . You know , I I'm like a , I'm like a spiritual skeptic . Okay . So I don't know if that's real thing , maybe I just coined it . But that's your next . Yeah , I'm writing it down Because the thing is , I'm very spiritual , I meditate , I journal , I believe in energy of all things . Yep , I earth , I talk to my spirit guides .
I am a very spiritual person .
Yeah , what do you mean by I earth ?
Oh , I earth . I walk around barefoot in the earth .
Oh , is that called ? Is that called earthing ?
or thing , or grounding it's .
Okay , sorry , sorry .
I was like no , that's fine , that's just yeah most people call it grounding , now that you mentioned it . But yeah , I call it earthing , but it's yeah , but the thing is , I'm very skeptical that it's actually really true .
Interesting .
I follow all of it , but my faith it wanes . Yeah , in fact , there's a story . I'll tell you . That's in the book . I Don't trust my gut . Hmm , I don't believe in , I don't believe that my gut has my back , because I don't believe that life has my back . That's my , my default setting .
Life doesn't have my back , and so I was going through all of this process of growing and Expanding and falling in love with myself and I really wanted to trust myself , but I I didn't . And have you ever heard of muscle testing ? Yes , okay . Have you so for my people that haven't . It's where you like .
Hold your arm up and then Somebody asked you a question and if they can push your arm down it's a no , and if they can't then it's a yes . Like your body answering questions , I was like I could fake that . I could totally fake that . And then and then , have you ever heard of using a pendulum to find an answer ? I have heard of that .
I have not done that . So so you have like a yes or no and you hold Usually it's a crystal or some sort of rock on a chain and you just hold it . So it's completely still , and you say show me yes , and you don't move . And all of a sudden it starts moving .
Let's say left to right , yeah , and then you you stop it and then you say show me no , and then maybe it moves front and back and you stop it . Now you ask questions . If you goes side to side it's a yes , and if it goes front back it's a no . Well , I could fake that too , like I never believed any of that .
Okay , so I Read a book that said you can get an answer from the universe . Just demand an answer and then say how long you want the answer by , like I want to know this and you have 72 hours to deliver . I'm like great Right . It's like demanding of the universe yeah , so I said universe .
Please show me with definitive , unwavering proof how I can trust my gut , yeah , how I can trust a yes or no answer . So I have never heard of anybody else that does this . This is why I'm laughing so . For many , many years now , if there's a question , I ask . If it's a yes , I yawn . Okay and if it's a no , I gag . Wow , this is ridiculous .
This is like who wants to be able to gag ? But you know what ? You cannot say that I am yawning to , I'm not faking . You can't really fake a yawn . You can fake like you're sounding like you're yawning , but the actual , a real one . Yeah , you can't fake a real yawn and you can't fake a real gag .
Right , pretend to gag , but your body's not doing it and you can feel the difference and it's for me , it's like all in my throat , like right in the throat and upper chest area . God forbid , I get many questions that are nose in a row .
Very unpleasant .
Very unpleasant . But I have friends that will be just at lunch and they'll know this about me and I'll yawn and they'll say what did something ? I just say give you a yes , should I ? Should I do it , yawn and gag like no , I'm just tired . Yeah , yeah , yeah well , you know you yawn when you're low on oxygen too yeah .
So what's interesting , though , is , as I've become , as I've begun to trust , that it's gotten more subtle . So now , like I might not actually it might just be the thing you start to do in the back of your throat , so it's less unpleasant for the gag and less noticeable for other people , but it's just it comes back to like spiritual skeptic .
I do not believe any of it , but I want it so badly to be true , and the more I believe it , the more power I have in the world and the more I can influence on purpose . We all influence everything all the time with our thoughts , which is why it's so important to love ourselves Right , right and have high self-worth , because we only get what we deserve .
I always say your network or your net worth is limited by your self-worth . Yes , only ever have what you think you deserve to have Right , right . So as I have grown my self-worth and I have become less skeptical but I definitely , you know , I'm like ah , ah , ah , I don't know , there's that voice in the back of my head .
It's like , yeah , yeah , oh , that is fascinating to me , wow , okay , that's all . You have so many books in there , it's a whole .
I know it's a whole lot Two minutes and I feel like nobody else . I've never heard of anybody else that does that , so I'd be curious no , If you have any listeners that have ever done that or that if they know that Yon or Gag , please let us know To answer questions . Right , not because you had bad fish . You had bad fish .
Okay , yeah , it's terrifying If you just gag or Yon , because that's what your body's doing . No , thank you . I wanna know if it's a sign from the universe . That's right . Oh my gosh , that's hilarious . Not hilarious , it's just really .
It's hilarious , it's weird , it's ridiculous .
¶ Embracing Weirdness and Self-Love Stories
Chapter one of my book is Be Weird , it's your super top .
I loved that . I loved that because I think so many times we're like , oh , I'm sort of strange , I sort of don't fit in here , and then we try to cover it up and it's like , no , just be your weird self , that's right , I put the world , because that's right , absolutely .
It makes you unique . But the other thing is , if you are , you think people don't know your weirdness . It splits out . They know . So if you own it , they can respect you for it instead of using it against you .
Yes , yes , yeah , that's why I'll make a joke about myself before anyone else can . I'm already aware of . I know I know about this . Yeah , so I get to own it . I get to control the narrative and you don't get to . That's right .
I actually have a question for you , yeah . You said about grounding or a thing . Is that something that you do Like ? What's your experience with it ? I haven't . Should we tell people what it is ?
Well , I've always thought that grounding was just well like how you described , like really just being outside with your shoes off , in nature , in the dirt , in the graph . The closest experience I've ever really had to that is I'm thinking of the brand name right now and that's making temporary Earth art .
There's this organization I took some classes through called Morning Alters , and it talks about how to use what's in nature to create art like sticks , leaves , flowers , branches , whatever , and even asking it permission , like may I use you ?
And then creating art like for healing , for grieving , for celebrating , and so that's not really grounding , but that's kind of my take on it .
I love that .
Yeah , yeah , yeah , it's really cool . I think he just calls it Earth art .
Yeah , I wrote down the name Morning Alters , I love that Good morning .
Yeah , and I've taken his classes and I've made several things just like in my backyard , like whatever cool thing to create with , yeah , so that's sort of my version of grounding .
I love that .
Yeah , it's really cool . Check it , look into it , and I could put that in the comments for the show notes for this episode too , so that other people can check it out .
Yeah , for sure .
OK , so you have a big day on Wednesday .
I do .
All going to buy your book . We're all going to give it five stars and leave a review , and we're all going to share it with other people so that it reaches as many people as possible . Can I make ?
two requests . Absolutely , you can , ok . So the first thing is I'm creating a community around the book and so that is on Facebook . Can I share where Please ? Ok , great , so it is called the Self Love Shenanigans and Stories Collective . Oh fun , I think if you just type in Self Love Shenanigans , it should come up and Stories Collective .
OK , I'll find that and I can link it .
So that's the first thing , and what was the second one ? I don't even know I do . Ok , sorry , brain came back . So the second one is you are excited to read the book and you've produced it already and you said you thought it had great value . But you have also had moments where you have fallen more deeply in love with yourself , right ?
Yeah , because you're on the journey too . Yes , I want this to not just be about me and my journey and I didn't feel like I could share clients' journeys because confidentiality I just didn't feel comfortable with it without going and getting everybody's permission and all that stuff .
But what I have created is called the Self Love Stories Collection and I'm asking for people to share a two to three minute video about how you have fallen more deeply in love with yourself . Like , what was the catalyst ? How did it occur ? Why did it occur ? What's possible for you now ? What was the outcome ? I have it all on my website Awesome .
But I think it's just so important that we all share our personal journey and stories because , who knows , hopefully my stories will make a difference for people , but I know that your story probably would too . Yeah , and it's not about this is a book I read and here's what I read about it and here's what the book is about and here's why I love the book .
It's like I read this book and this is what's possible for me now .
And it's a good thing .
Yeah , so if anyone resonates with that and would like to share a story , we're still collecting them right now to put together in a special collection , a digital book collection , where all the videos will be put together .
Yes , I want to be part of that .
Absolutely Great . It's part of what I'm sharing with people who registered for the journey of the book coming out , but of course , everyone who's part of it will get a copy as well .
This is amazing . I love the community that you're creating , that you've created . I mean , I'm just loving . I'm sort of dancing in your chair right now . I'm dancing , I'm just really having a dance party . I'm just this is all
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fantastic . I'm going to link everything in the show notes . I'm so excited for you , I'm so proud of you for just showing up awesome all of the time and saying I've got a voice . And here's my voice because people are going to resonate with you . I already do resonate with you .
Thank you .
Yes , thank you Everyone . Please go out and get a copy of Trista's book Self-Love Shenanigans the awesome journey to unleashing your confidence . And , trista , thank you so much for being here with me today .
Thank you , Nikki . This has been amazing , and one last thing I want to say is I am only maybe one step ahead of other people on this journey , which gives me something to contribute , and you , the listener , is probably only even one or five steps ahead of others .
So even if you're not sure that you know enough to share your journey , start sharing it anyway , because there's something out there that will really be able to take to heart and it can make a difference for them .
And you may never know that .
No one that made a difference , but it's still big .
And it matters . You got to share your story . I love that . All right , thank you so much for listening and , as always , thank you for healing and growing with me , mwah .
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