What was the last empowering and loving daddy-daughter interaction you witnessed or experienced? Hopefully you don't have to think too hard to come up with an example. But unfortunately it can be harder to think of examples of loving interactions between daddy's and daughters than disempowering ones. Today I'm sharing exactly why and how I believe daddy-daughter dates can heal the world. This episode is for EVERYONE! Fathers, daughters, mothers, friends, people with kids or without kids. Learn m...
Dec 03, 2018•36 min
Do you set new years resolutions? If so, how often do you complete them? And more importantly, what is your experience of your new years resolution? As you can tell by the title, I don't like new years resolutions at all. I'm all for people committing to better themselves, but the new years resolution framework is not set up for you to succeed. In today's episode I share why I dislike new years resolutions and what to do instead if you want to start off your year on a powerful note. Learn more a...
Dec 02, 2018•31 min
For today's episode I'm bringing you an interview that I did with Dr. Kyrin Dunston on her podcast "Her Brilliant Health Radio". I had a great time talking with Dr. Kyrin about nurturing relationships, achieving an abundant loving life, finding balance in life, discerning your own inner voice, and living life from a place of passion. Links: https://www.kyrindunstonmd.com/herbrillianthealthradio/hbhr013 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Dec 01, 2018•1 hr
Do you have the life you want today? Very few people can honestly say "yes" across the board. And that's totally cool. Many of us are on the journey to creating the experience we want in life. But there is a large group of people who reject the journey altogether, and are frustrated that they aren't getting the results they way. If that's you, then tune in because I'm about to give you a reality check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 29, 2018•28 min
Can you think of a time when you questioned the timing of something? Maybe you've taken a big step in your life recently, and you're judging the fact that it didn't happen earlier. Or you so desperately want something to happen TODAY, and you're frustrated because it doesn't seem to be anywhere in sight. In today's episode I'm sharing a perspective with you that will impact how you think about the timing of things in your life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 29, 2018•23 min
Why do some men seem like completely emotionless creatures? Why does it seem like men go out of their way to bury and hide their feelings? Why do men avoid vulnerability so vehemently? In today's episode I'm sharing the truth that all men have feelings and emotions, and I'm discussing why so many of us choose not to show them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Nov 27, 2018•45 min
What is the cost of your pursuit of perfection? Today I'm bringing you a bonus episode (actually you'll get a few bonus episodes this week!). I'm talking about perfection and the belief that things need to be perfect in our lives before we take action. Many times we seek perfection because we're scared of something, and by the end of today's episode my intention is that you have greater insight on this for yourself. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 26, 2018•19 min
Do you feel you have work-life balance? If you are, don't stress out. I was too. But I've realized that this concept of work-life balance does so much more harm than good, and actually results in a very ineffective way of looking at our lives. In today's episode I'm sharing with you a different perspective for looking at how you can balance out the important things in your life. This perspective is one that I practice and preach, and it will change your life! * LEAVE ME A REVIEW ON APPLE PODCAST...
Nov 21, 2018•47 min
Are you familiar with visualization? It's a technique that world class athletes and high achievers of all types, use to literally put themselves into a higher state of being mentally and emotionally. I've been practicing it for a bit now, and in today's episode I'm sharing with you what the practice is all about, how it's done, and why I absolutely feel it's a powerful pathway to reprogramming your subconscious to align with the greatest version of yourself and live your best life. Learn more ab...
Nov 14, 2018•38 min
Be completely honest with yourself: are you currently taking on the responsibility for another person's emotions? If so, you want to listen to this episode several times. In today's episode I'm giving some raw and honest feedback directed at those of us who feel like our jobs are to make others happy. It's a dangerous game to play that almost always results in frustration, resentment, and the breakdown of relationships. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 11, 2018•40 min
What is the quality of your life right now? In today's episode I'm sharing with you 8 key areas of life you want to take a look at periodically to assess the overall quality of your life. This episode is inspired by fellow greatness seeker, Lewis Howes. It was on his Instagram page that I saw him post about these 8 areas, and it moved me to share it with you all. Here is the original IG post from Lewis Howes: https://www.instagram.com/p/BpzmA9iA7rR/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaph...
Nov 06, 2018•48 min
Did you know that letting go in life is a choice? Yes, it’s moment-to-moment choice where you decided whether you will release what you’ve been fixating on, or add to your fixation. Many of us can get down with the idea of “letting go”, but we fail to realize that it’s a constant choice that we must make again and again through our days, weeks, months, years. We falsely believe that we can “let go” once, and be healed forever. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 05, 2018•10 min
Are you practicing sexual healing? So many different things can come up when we think about sexual healing. From healing past traumas to healing physical conditions to Marvin Gaye (seriously, that was my entire context until a number of years ago) -- we each have our own relationship when it comes to healing things in a sexual context. In today's episode I'm joined by my incredible wife, Sarah Bivens, and together we get raw and intimate on some current sexual healing that we're both doing. Lear...
Oct 30, 2018•55 min
Where do you spend most of your emotional time and energy: in things you can influence or in things you have zero control over? If you're a proactive person who takes response-ability for their lives, then you absolutely focus on the things you can influence. Reactive people spend their time focusing on things that they have zero control over. The difference between circle of influence and circle of concern is at the heart of today's podcast. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...
Oct 23, 2018•27 min
What does being proactive mean to you? I would say "It means taking initiative". But I have learned that to Be Proactive means so much more. And understanding this meaning is imperative if you want to have it all and lead an abundant loving life. In today's episode I bring in one of my favorite books, Stephen Covey's 7 Habits Of Highly Effective People. Get ready to get your learnin on! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 21, 2018•41 min
When do you apologize for something you've done? When is it appropriate to come clean in a situation, versus letting things go and moving on? In today's episode I'm replying to a listener message about knowing when to come clean, clear the air or let it go. This is such a common thing for all of us, and my intention is to give some perspective on fully owning your decisions. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 16, 2018•39 min
If you were to take an audit of the environments you spend most of your time in, would you say that they uplift you, do nothing for you, or drag you down? In today's episode I explore environments and talk about why it's so important that we are picky with the people and places we surround ourselves with. I also give you a few action items for taking a hard look at your environments and making some powerful changes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 10, 2018•30 min
How do you like to be loved? How does your partner prefer to be loved? Are they loving you in the style in which you like to be loved, and vice versa? Today I'm sharing my favorite tool for creating a powerful relationship, and I'm taking up a notch by showing you how Sarah and I have turned the 5 Love Languages into a much more powerful tool for building our amazing relationship. Oh, and are you in the TRUST Challenge yet? Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/trust. Learn more about your ad choi...
Oct 02, 2018•45 min
Be real with yourself: are you waiting for someone or something outside of yourself, to come and give you the life that you desire? At any level? Today's episode is a deep look into my own beliefs that have been keeping at a certain place in my life. I'm sharing a raw audio, recorded in my car as an epiphany was washing over me. *EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT* The new TRUST Challenge is here! Join us as we build our trust & confidence within ourselves. 100% free. Learn more at www.matthewbivens.com/...
Sep 30, 2018•48 min
What does "having it all" mean to you? It's a question I have asked so many people on this podcast. And I've received so many unique answers. Well, today I'm bringing you an interview/conversation with the man who helped me develop that question (and this very podcast), and who has been an incredible influence in my life -- Day Adeogba. We go wide and deep on this one, and I promise you'll understand why it's been a privilege to call Day my coach for the past 5 years. Learn more about your ad ch...
Sep 26, 2018•1 hr 12 min
When you think about sex, what is the goal for you? Is it to have an orgasm, or to make sure your partner has one? Is it to show your partner how much you love them and to validate your relationship? For most of my life, the goal of sex was orgasm. But there are other goals of sex that can create a much more powerful, loving and connected experience. Today I'm diving into the goal of sex and am serving up a few alternative that can help you create a more powerful and healthy sexual experience. L...
Sep 22, 2018•48 min
As your responsibilities go up (new children, new job, more lovers), is your capacity to handle these new responsibilities going up as well? For most, the answer is something like "I don't even think about my capacity when I take on new life stressors". And if that sounds like you, then this episode will help you become aware of your current capacity and will give you very actionable steps to raise your ability to handle the life you've created. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone....
Sep 19, 2018•39 min
How do you bounce back when your world gets rocked? When everything seems to be going wrong in your life? When your dreams are shattered? In today's episode I share with you what inspired me to jump off the couch, grab my mic, and record this very podcast! Also, check out the Life By Design, Not By Default Virtual Summit where I'm speaking about love, relationships and sex. Here's the website: https://lifebydesignsummit.com/register Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Sep 14, 2018•28 min
What is a moment or experience that completely transformed who you were as a person? For me the biggest one was experiencing the birth of my daughter, Maya. Today is Maya's 2nd birthday (September 11, 2018), and on this special day I wanted to do something different on the podcast. So I'm sharing the story of her birth, from the early signs that Sarah and I realized labor was starting, to when we welcomed her Earth side in our bedroom (Maya was born at home, right in our master bedroom). Learn m...
Sep 11, 2018•1 hr 3 min
What is something that you've always wanted to do, but you know you've let fear and discomfort hold you back? It's the first week of September, and that means Fall is officially here. You've been putting in deposits into your tank for a while now, and now it's time for you to act. In today's episode I'm setting up a context for getting into action to do things you've been afraid to do, to experience things you've always wanted to experience. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/a...
Sep 04, 2018•26 min
What does surrender mean to you? When I started working with a coach I would hear the word "surrender" a lot. I had a hard time with that word, because for a long time "surrender" was a word of weakness and giving up. Today my context around surrender is much different, and I use the word all the time. In this episode I want to give you an alternative context for "surrender" that can empower you and create a much more enjoyable experience of life. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphon...
Aug 29, 2018•36 min
When was the last time you intentionally created time for you to check out and recharge? Last week I talked about balance and gave you a different way to think about the elusive work-life balance. Well today, I'm putting it into practice! Sarah and I decided to take an impromptu vacation. We were feeling the impact of going hard for the last few months, and recognized we needed a break. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Aug 21, 2018•17 min
How are you currently experiencing life? I'm not talking about the results you're creating. I'm talking about your EXPERIENCE of it all. In today's episode I'm digging into why your experience of life is truly what matters, and how you can change it for the better. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Aug 19, 2018•30 min
What does living a balanced life mean to you? Similarly, how do you define health and fitness? And how do your perceptions of these concepts impact your overall wellbeing? In this episode I'm talking about how you can view the idea of "balance" in a way that doesn't leave you feeling defeated and frustrated. I'm here to present to you an idea of how you can balance out your health and fitness in a way that's sustainable and holistic. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Aug 14, 2018•1 hr 12 min
How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner? I don't know where I picked it up, but somewhere in my adolescence I adopted the belief that a healthy relationship was one where I could not be happy if my partner was not happy. In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...
Aug 08, 2018•47 min
