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Having It A.L.L.

Matthew Bivenswww.matthewbivens.com
Welcome to Having It A.L.L., the podcast that flips the script on what it means to “have it all” in life. I’m Matthew Bivens, your host and friend, and I’m inviting you to join me in conversations designed to help you radically shift your confidence, self worth, and clarity. In order to create new results in your life - whether that’s in your relationships, your health, your money, your family or your life’s purpose - you must make new decisions and build new habits. This podcast will not only deliver the lessons and action items that will help you move the needle in your life, but also share the vulnerable and honest truth about the challenges of working to improve and ultimately master yourself. Each breakdown can lead to breakthrough, and we cover it all on this podcast. Personal development is not an easy road, but you can create meaningful change that lasts. Let’s do it together one choice at a time. Tune in each week and see that it’s not only possible to have it all, but that you were meant to all along!
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Episodes

Learning to Love Yourself and Have It All Without Sacrificing a Thing - Ruby Fremon

There is a theme on this show that comes up in a number of episodes: Breakdowns lead to Breakthroughs. My guest on today’s podcast knows all about this. Ruby Fremon has had her breakdowns in life. She knows what it feels like to hit the proverbial rock bottom. Her story has many familiar elements: destructive relationship, substance abuse, self hate. But what makes Ruby unique is in her response to these life circumstances. Now, after years of learning what “self love” means, Ruby can say with a...

Jul 06, 201649 min

The One Thing I Use to Get Back on Track to Achieving My Goals

This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”. I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!” Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it. So I checked it out….and liked what I read! But the point of the article made me think about my one thing and about a topic that I address regularly on this show --- personal miss...

Jul 02, 201624 min

Dingle: Being Original and Chucking the Status Quo - Matt Giovanisci

I’ve met some very cool people through this podcast. Typically, I’m inspired to have them on the show because of their work or the message they are pushing out to the world. I’ll see their TED talk, or read one of their powerful blog posts, or hear them in an inspiring interview. Something like that. My guest today impressed me for a totally different reason. I met Matt Giovanisci through Facebook. He posted a link to a webpage he created with the sole purpose of getting himself booked on podcas...

Jun 28, 20161 hr 4 min

What is Your Love Conversation? - HIA Framework Part 2

Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE. I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love. In this conversation you'll learn: The difference between conditional and unconditional love Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness" The distinction between attachment and connection when it comes to love Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 26, 201639 min

Man With A Mission: How To Have It All While Remaining Grounded with Bill Jamison

Yeah, this episode has a pretty bold title. But bold men are deserving of bold titles. I’ve been inspired by Bill Jamison since meeting him 3 years ago. What Bill has that made me want to record a conversation with him, is this amazing ability to surrender to what he does not know, trust in himself and the process, lead his life with purpose and conviction, love and give with all of his heart, and be an example of what a powerful 21st century man is all about. That’s someone who I want to talk t...

Jun 22, 201642 min

HIA Framework Part 1 - What is Abundance and How Do I Invite More Into My Life?

I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully. Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much passion, anger, conviction, judgement, confusion and frustration around the topic. I knew there was s...

Jun 18, 201629 min

If Your Passions and Dreams Were the Very Reason of Your Existence, What Would You Do? - Kemi Bennings

I have the pleasure of knowing some pretty amazing people where I live in Atlanta, and my guest today is one of them. Her name is Kemi Bennings, and the best way to describe her is as a creative, loving, spiritual being who is always learning and always growing. Kemi is a woman of many gifts and has worn many hats over the years: writer, poet, producer, lifecoach, nurse, entrepreneur, promoter, curator …. Kemi truly is an artist and is involved in any and all things artistic. But at her core, Ke...

Jun 14, 201635 min

A Simple Framework for "Having It All" in Your Life

What does having it all mean to you? It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice. I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question. On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the other side you have people who vehemently argue that having it all is not possible and that saying you can...

Jun 10, 201646 min

Loving Your Otherness and The Myth Of Tomorrow with Dale Thomas Vaughn

What the heck is “otherness”? I know I had that question swirling in my mind when I was doing my research on my next guest. This concept of “otherness”, described in the way that my guest described it, was not framed in a way I was accustomed. But what I learned in my conversation with Dale Thomas Vaughn was that otherness is rooted in fear, and fear is not the path to greatness. I’m sounding like Yoda now, but I firmly believe that! Dale Thomas Vaughn is a Renaissance Man, in the most pure sens...

Jun 07, 201652 min

What To Do When Someone Challenges Your Beliefs

We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held. Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs. Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview! The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded just minutes after I had my belief challenged on air. I decided that I wanted to capture the moment as i...

Jun 03, 201623 min

How to Become the Richest Person On The Planet with Dee Reilly

How do you define “rich”? If you’re like me and most Americans, the first words that come to mind when you hear “rich” are probably about money or something financially related. Makes sense. That’s the context we’re most used to hearing. And I’m sure my guest thought that way as well for a period of time. But somewhere during her journey her definition of “rich” shifted. Maybe it was after hearing Nick Vujicic’s story (see the show notes). Today Dee Reilly defines richness in terms of happiness ...

Jun 01, 20161 hr 4 min

Why You're Failing to Tap Into Your Full Creative Potential and How to Actually Do Something About It!

“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.” In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meaning. Today’s episode is an exercise in creation. I followed the advice of a friend and fellow podcaster...

May 27, 201644 min

A Story of Healing: Using Curiosity and Courage to Find Yourself with Monique Ruffin

Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”. And I completely understand why. Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day. That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but it’s where Monique called home. Growing up in an area impacted by crack, with parents in and out of jai...

May 24, 201651 min

Why Personal Mission Statements Are the Most Powerful Way to Uncover Your Direction and Path

At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger. Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?" I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest. Well...here we are! This week I have an incredibly awesome guest with me, live in the studio (first ...

May 20, 201659 min

BONUS - John Lee Dumas on How to Create the Life You Truly Want to Live

If a Hall of Fame existed for podcasting, John Lee Dumas would be voted in on the first round. As the creator of the insanely popular business podcast, Entrepreneur On Fire, John has interviewed the most successful entrepreneurs of today. People like Pat Flynn, Seth Godin, Tim Ferriss, Tony Robbins and Gary Vaynerchuk. I had the chance to sit down with John on my previous show, The Digital Marketing Guy Podcast, and although it was a marketing show, JLD and I spent little to no time talking mark...

May 19, 201634 min

Learning How to Be Awesome When Life Hits You With Circumstances - Faydra Koenig

I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them. Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of. Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circumstances! I was inspired to connect with Faydra after watching a personal and candid video on the circ...

May 17, 201653 min

How Do I Make Sure I’m “On Path” To My Greatest Self?

What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self? Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential. It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful tool for self realization, growth and transformation. Any ideas yet?!? What you’ll learn in this episode...

May 13, 201630 min

A Story of Dreams, Perseverance, and Taking the Road Less Traveled - Mike Mills

This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!” The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills. Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo River in Ponca, Arkansas. The Small “s” success is the thriving business that Mike has built over the p...

May 09, 201655 min

How Aware Are You of Your Influence on Others?

We are all influencers. Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life. However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have. Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly than others. In today’s episode I share a powerful story of influence and ask you to ponder a question t...

May 05, 201620 min

Moving Through Hell and Rising Above Circumstances - Colleen Crain

We’ve all been throughsituations that, at the time, felt never ending. Time crawls by. Our bodiesrespond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future topast. Going through hell feels likegoing through hell. But if you’re reading this, ifyou’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived THRIVED! Because when you walk throughhot coals, your feet get tougher and more resilient. Colleen Crain knows that islike. A traumatic event as a child left her physically impa...

May 03, 201654 min

How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live

Love and Fear. It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to. Love vs. Fear. Fear can be one heck of a beast! We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions. I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on. And I also remember the feeling after those choices. The feeling of having to sit with myself knowing that I choose a lesser path. This past weekend I faced a di...

Apr 29, 201640 min

How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbeing - Dr. Michelle Robin

How do you define "wellbeing"? How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you? My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing. Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself into an author, speaker, and podcaster. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Apr 26, 201640 min

The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success and Small "s" Success

You have been lied to about success! Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there". Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal. But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful. But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" success and big "S" Success. We may all define success in our own unique ways. But the big "S" and little "s" ...

Apr 22, 201619 min

Becoming the Most Powerful Influence in Your Life - Tripp Lanier

It's probably of no surprise that I love listening to podcasts! I was browsing through new and popular shows a few weeks back, and stumbled across "The New Man" from Tripp Lanier. The title intrigued me, and I jumped into a random episode to see what it was all about. That episode was "Mission and Purpose - What's the Difference and Why Does it Matter?" I listened to it three times. Yup. Played it...restarted....played it again....restarted....played it one last time. Then I told my wife about t...

Apr 19, 201647 min

Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers

What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"? That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on. Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podcasts -- anything that she can get her hands on that will elevate her consciousness. She has read and re-read the works of authors like David R Hawkins,...

Apr 15, 20161 hr 3 min

How to Create a Life Worth Living with Kimberly Rich

Living a BOLD life is what Kimberly Rich is known for today. But her life wasn’t always described as bold. For years she did what she was supposed to: got the degree, landed the job, worked the hours, joined the rat race. However, a BOLD decision in 2013 sent her life on a path she never expected. Kimberley is the creator of The Bold Life Movement , where she coaches aspiring entrepreneurs on how to live life boldly and on their own terms. In our conversation, we talk about the courage necessary...

Apr 12, 201655 min

How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton

Have you experienced true discontent in your life? That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations? My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed someone else, ignored it all together, or asked yourself “What is this here to teach me?” Dianne has spent most of her life asking herself “What is t...

Apr 08, 201655 min

Embracing the Tiny Leaps That Lead to the Big Changes in Our Lives with Gregg Clunis

Gregg Cluins is like a sponge that’s squeezed over a funnel. [Great visual, huh?!] Gregg is the type of guy who dives in head first and deep into the things he’s passion about, soaks up everything he can, and then shares it in a way where you get only the best stuff that you can take action on. In his case, Gregg is passionate about Personal Development and improving his experience of life. Since his brother first handed him a copy of TITLE by Tony Robbins, Gregg was hooked on the idea that the ...

Apr 06, 20161 hr

How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Powerful Results in Your Life with Amy Balog

Amy Balog is asking us all to “lead from center”. But what does that even mean? Well, to Amy, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazing results in your life and the life of others. It's about gaining clarity, calmness and conviction, and being acutely aware of the environment inside of yourself so that you may more powerfully impact the environments around you. Amy’s passion is helping leaders ta...

Apr 01, 201653 min

Having the Courage to Pursue Your Freedom with Shawn Manaher

“I wouldn’t be here today, talking to you Matthew, if I didn’t make the decision 3 years ago to get healthy” Shawn Manaher knows what it’s like for his body to fail him. A few years ago he woke up feeling numbness in parts of his body that he couldn’t explain. And neither could his doctors. But one thing Shawn knew was that things had to change, or he wasn’t going to be around much longer. And what was he sacrificing his body for? What was that important that he was willing to put his health on ...

Mar 25, 201638 min
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