第535回「記録より記憶に残したい瞬間」

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Welcome to Hapbae Kaiwa Podcast with Jun Senesak, episode 535!

Hey, what's going on, everyone? Jun here with Hapae Kaiwa. Do you think kindness is a personality trait or value? Or do you think situation and environment play a role? Like, is being a kind person just who you are or does it depend on what's going on around you? I've been thinking about this a lot lately, especially after reading about this fascinating experiment called The Good Samaritan Experiment. It was a psychology study done in 1973 by two researchers, John Darley and Daniel Batson.

Their goal was to figure out what makes people stop and help someone in need. And honestly, the results were kind of eye-opening. So I wanted to share what they discovered and reflect on what it means for all of us today. What do you think about the person's personality? Or what do you think about the person's values? Or what do you think about the situation and environment?

例えば、その人が親切なのは元々の性格によるものなのでしょうか?それとも周囲の状況に左右されるものなのでしょうか?最近、このことについてよく考えるようになりました。 This is a research study in 1973 when John Darley and Daniel Batson. The purpose of their purpose was to help people who are困惑. Honestly, the result was that the outcome of their eyes was falling from my eyes.

So, here's what happened in the experiment. The researchers gathered a group of seminary students. basically students training to become priests or ministers, and they asked them to give a talk in another building. Some were told to talk about career opportunities,

while others were asked to give a speech on the story of the Good Samaritan from the Bible, which is a story about a man who helps a stranger in need when others walk by and ignore him. 実験では次のようなことが行われました。 The researchers asked the students to participate in the new school, namely the teachers and teachers who are trained to be trained in other buildings. . . . . . Now, here's where it gets interesting.

The researchers created three different time conditions. Some students were told they were late and had to rush. Some were told they had just enough time to get there. And others were told they had plenty of time. Sate. Here is the interest in the interest of the researchers. The researchers have suggested three different requirements. Some of the students will be late and late and late and late and late.

One of the students told me that they have time to get ready for a while, and the other students told me that they have time to have enough time. In the middle of the building, the students came to the goal of the goal.

The results were eye-opening. You think the topic of their talk, especially the one speaking about the Good Samaritan, would influence their behavior, right? But nope. What actually made the biggest difference was how much of a hurry they were in. Only 10% of the students in a rush stopped to help. compared to 63% of those who weren't in a hurry. Some of the students literally stepped over the man to get to their talk. So, what's the takeaway?

It wasn't their values, beliefs, or what they were talking about that mattered. It was the situation they were in. 結果は驚くべきものでした。 彼らの講演のテーマ . . . . . One of the students in the distance was only 10% of the students in the distance. One of the students in the distance was only 10% of the students in the distance. So, what can you say about this experiment? The important thing is that their values and信念, and the speech was given to them.

That hit home for me. Growing up, my parents always emphasized the importance of being kind. And I still carry that with me. But... Am I guilty of not showing kindness when I'm in a hurry? Absolutely. Take mornings with my kids, for example. When we're trying to get out the door, whether it's school or some event, I get impatient. The kids are stalling, playing, resisting every step of the routine. And I feel my patience thinning fast. If I weren't in a hurry...

Half of these things probably wouldn't bother me. But throw a clock into the mix and boom, instant stress. このことは私の心に響きました。 私は子供の頃から両親に常に親切であることの大切さを教えられていました。そしてその教えは今でも私の中に残っています。しかし急いでいる時はどうでしょう。 I don't know what I'm showing. No, I'm not sure. For example, let's think about the morning and the kids. When I go to school or event, I'm going to go to school and go to school.

I'm angry with you. The children are struggling or playing, and they're抵抗 on the next行動. So, it's a bit of a headache. If you don't have to go, Even the other day, while I was out running, a guy stopped me to ask for directions. I had my earbuds in, my pace was good, and for a second, I debated whether I should stop or just keep going. But he looked genuinely lost, so I stopped. I helped him out, but...

I was also kind of rushing him through it because I wanted to get back to my run. And then, this was the funny part. About 20 minutes later, I saw him again, and he gave me a thumbs up. He had found his way, and that little gesture made me feel good. But later I thought, why was I so eager to finish the run? What was I hurrying for? That run wasn't more important than helping someone. I could have taken a few more minutes to be fully present and kind. 先日も外でランニング中に一人の男性が道を訪ねてきました。

I had an earphone in my ear, and it was good for the pace of driving, so I had to stop at the moment, but I had to stop at the moment. But I had to stop at the road, so I stopped. I taught the path, but I was going to get back to running quickly, so I was a little bit late. And here is the interesting place. It was about 20 minutes later, I saw him again. He went up to me and went up to me. He looked like it was understood. The small task made me happy. However, he thought about it.

Why am I so fast? Why am I so fast? Why am I so fast? Why am I so fast? Why am I so fast? Running is more important than anyone else. I have a little bit of time and I集ed with him. 親切に接するべきでした。

What we often forget is that context matters. Maybe they're late to pick up their kid. Maybe they just got bad news. Maybe they're trying to hold it together. We live in a world that moves fast. We're all busy. We live by our calendars, always rushing from one place to the next. And sometimes that rush makes it hard to see what's right in front of us.

or to stop and be kind to someone who needs help. It's not that we don't care. It's that we don't have time. Or at least we feel like we don't have time. other people who help them or do it is easy to判断. We are only talking about one time. But what we are forgetting is that It's important that the situation is important. It might have been a bad news. It might have been bad news. . . . . . . . . So maybe the lesson here is this.

Kindness isn't just about who you are. It's also about slowing down enough to be who you are. Life gets hectic. There are deadlines, meetings, events, kids' schedules. Everything. But when we give ourselves even a little breathing room, we create space to notice what's going on around us and act with compassion instead of reactivity. The Good Samaritan experiment shows that kindness doesn't always come down to character. Sometimes it just comes down to time.

It's important for you to be able to show yourself. It's important for you to be able to show yourself well. It's important for you to be able to show yourself well. But when you have a little bit of time, you can get a little bit of time when you have a little bit of time. 反射的にではなく思いやりを持って行動できるようになります 良きサマリア人の実験は優しさは必ずしも正確に依存するものではないことを示しています 時には単に時間的な余裕があるかないかの問題だったりします。 Most of the time, the answer is probably no. The people we help and the kindness we show

are the moments that actually stick with us. So maybe it's not about being a kind person, but about choosing to be kind when the situation makes it hard. And if we can slow down just a little, We might find that we have more room for kindness than we thought. So, now I'm in the case of this situation. So, it's really important. It's important. It's important. It's important. So, if you can choose a little pace, you might be able to choose a little bit of patience.

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All right, let's get into today's topic. Have you ever struggled with whether to take a photo or just enjoy the moment? In today's conversation, Kelly and Kara talk about that exact dilemma. when to capture a memory and when to simply live in it. Let's listen in and hear how they each handle it. さあ、今日の課題に入りましょう。 写真を撮るべきか? The moment you should be able to enjoy the moment. In today's talk, we will talk about the fact that you should be able to take a picture of a picture in a picture.

Are you guys ready? Let's get started. Questions of the day. 今日の質問 1. Why does Kelly try to find a balance between taking photos or videos and enjoying the moment? Number two. When does Kelly find it hard not to take photos or videos? Number three. What kind of camera did Kelly use when she was younger? ケリーは若い頃、どんなカメラを使っていましたか?

Kelly, this is something I personally struggle with. How often do you go... How often do you take videos or photos? And then how do you decide when you should take the pictures or when you should kind of be in the moment and be experiencing things in real time? This is so timely and so funny that this question came up because I recently did go on vacation. I went back to Japan for the first time in 15 years for three weeks. Whoa.

There was definitely that element of, I want to just sit here and look around and enjoy it and hear it and smell it and all of that. But also... my memory is terrible so i knew that when i went back home i would forget that any of that happened so i tried to sort of find a happy medium where I would take some videos and take some photos or you can take photos while you're taking a video now. So I would sort of like have the video going and be like photo. Right. And then put the phone down.

purposely put the phone down for a second and do the experience. But it's really hard if you're a tourist. To kind of force yourself to do that, especially if it's a once in a lifetime trip or a place you might not go back or maybe an event or an experience that doesn't happen very often. It's really hard to try and focus on that. i definitely feel like before smartphones i did that a lot more often because when i was growing up we had like the kodak one use you had to like

Right? Like 24 pictures. There was no way to tell if it was good or not. You had to manually advance it. And then when it was done, it was done. So you had to experience the moment. And I feel like maybe now that it's so easy. It's really easy to forget to do that. So I struggle with this for sure. I try and find a balance, but I don't know if I'm really good at it. How about you?

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Let's go over the answers. 今日の質問に答えていきましょう。 Number one. Why does Kelly try to find a balance between taking photos or videos and enjoying the moment? Kelly likes to enjoy the moment without taking pictures. But she doesn't have a strong memory. So she also wants to take photos and videos to help her remember important times. ケリーは写真を撮らずにその瞬間を楽しみたいと思っていますが、 Number two. When does Kelly find it hard not to take photos or videos?

Kelly finds it hard not to take pictures when she's on a special trip, like a place she might visit only once or not visit again for a long time. She wants to remember those moments. Number three. What kind of camera did Kelly use when she was younger? Kellyは若い頃どんなカメラを使っていましたか? When Kelly was young, she used Kodak single-use cameras. These cameras could only take 24 pictures.

Summary Kaiwa no yōyaku Kelly talks about when it's a good time to take photos and videos and when it's better to put your phone down and just enjoy the moment. She thought about this a lot when she went back to Japan for the first time in 15 years. While she was in Japan, Part of her wanted to stop using her phone and just enjoy being there. But Kelly also says that she has a bad memory, so she likes to take photos and videos to help her remember special moments. 彼女は日本に滞在している間

He didn't have a phone call, and he just wanted to enjoy the place. However, Kelly has a lot of memory of his memory, and he likes to watch a special moment after a moment. Kelly tries to find a good balance. She wants to enjoy the moment, but she also wants to record it. This is especially hard when you are on a special trip or at a place you might never visit again. It's easy to want to take lots of pictures and videos. 特に特別な旅行の時や二度と訪れないかもしれない場所にいる時は難しいと感じていますそういう瞬間は写真やビデオをたくさん撮りたくなると言います

She used Kodak single-use cameras. These cameras could only take about 24 pictures. After that, you couldn't use them anymore. So people had to stop taking pictures and just enjoy the moment. But now with smartphones, it's easy to take many photos and videos, which changes how people enjoy special times. This is why people don't have to take pictures of the camera.

Phrases of the day? 今日のフレーズ For the first time in years. 何々年ぶりに。 For the first time in years. 何々年ぶりにを意味し、何かを長い間していなかった後に。 久しぶりにそれをする時に使う表現です。例えば、今日の会話でケリーはI went back to Japan for the first time in 15 yearsと言いましたが、これは 15年ぶりに日本に帰ったことを意味しています この表現は長い間していなかったことを今回久しぶりにしたというニュアンスを持ち 旅行人との再会趣味の再会など For the first time in three months. For the first time in a while. しばらくぶりに のようにも使えます。 例文 I saw my high school friends for the first time in 10 years. 十年ぶりに高校の友達に会いました。

I visited my hometown for the first time in seven years. I went to the gym for the first time in three months. 3ヶ月ぶりにジムに行きました Number 2 Happy Medium ちょうどいいバランス Happy Medium はちょうどいいバランスや For example, Kelly is in a conversation with his memories and memories. In this moment, I'm talking about finding a happy medium to find a happy medium. This表現 is a very convenient way to find a smartphone. I try to find a happy medium between working and spending time with my family.

I need to find a happy medium between saving money and having fun お金と楽しみの両方を両立させる方法を見つけなければなりません I'm trying to find a happy medium between using my phone and spending time offline. I'm trying to find a happy medium between using my phone and spending time offline. Number three. Put something down. 何々を置く Put something downは何々を置くを意味し、手に持っていたものをテーブルや床などに下ろすときによく使われる表現です。 例えば I put my phone down on the table. といったニュアンスで使われることもあります 例えばキリが会話で言っていた . . . . .

You can put that bag down on the counter. This book was so good, I couldn't put it down. Sometimes you have to put down your phone and enjoy the moment. Number four. For a second. ほんの一瞬。 For a secondはほんの一瞬やちょっとの間など短い時間を表すカジュアルな英語表現です。直訳すると1秒間ですが 実際の会話では少しだけやちょっとの間というニュアンスで使われています例えばちょっと待ってくれる?はCan you hold on for a second?と言います 日常会話ではsecondがsecに省略されることがよくありfor a secと表現します例文Can you watch my back for a second? I need to use the restroom. ちょっとバッグ見ててくれる? トイレに行きたいんだ。 一瞬携帯電話をなくしたかと思ったのですが、

For a sec, I didn't recognize you with that new haircut. Number five. Once in a lifetime は一生に一度のや 滅多にないほど特別なを意味し A once-in-a-lifetime trip それは一生に一度のチャンスだったは It was a once in a lifetime opportunity のように言います この表現には この機会を逃したらもう二度とないかもしれないという特別感や感動が含まれていて、思い出に残る大切な経験を強調したいときにぴったりです。 Seeing the northern lights was truly a once-in-a-lifetime experience. That's a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. You have to do it.

It was cool to see the sunrise at the top of Mount Fuji. It was a once-in-a-lifetime experience.

Repeat after me. Number 1 For the first time in years. I saw my high school friends for the first time in 10 years. I visited my hometown for the first time in seven years. I went to the gym for the first time in three months. 2. Happy Medium I try to find a happy medium between working and spending time with my family. I need to find a happy medium between saving money and having fun. I'm trying to find a happy medium between using my phone and spending time offline.

You can put that bag down on the counter. This book was so good, I couldn't put it down. Sometimes you have to put down your phone and enjoy the moment. 4. For a second. Can you watch my bag for a second? I need to use the restroom. I thought I lost my phone for a second, but it was in my bag. For a sec, I didn't recognize you with that new haircut. Seeing the Northern Lights was truly a once in a lifetime experience. That's a once in a lifetime opportunity. You have to do it.

It was cool to see the sunrise at the top of Mount Fuji. It was a once in a lifetime experience.

Are you guys ready? Let's listen to the conversation one more time. Kelly, this is something I personally struggle with. How often do you go... How often do you take videos or photos? And then how do you decide when you should take the pictures or when you should kind of be in the moment and be experiencing things in real time? This is so timely and so funny that.

this question came up because I recently did go on vacation. I went back to Japan for the first time in 15 years for three weeks. And there was definitely that element of, I want to just sit here and look around. and enjoy it and hear it and smell it and you know all of that but also my memory is terrible so i knew that when i went back home

I would forget that any of that happened. So I tried to sort of find a happy medium where i would take some videos and take some photos or you can take photos while you're taking a video now so i would sort of like have the video going and be like photo right and then put the phone down purposely put the phone down for a second and do the experience. But it's really hard if you're a tourist.

to kind of force yourself to do that, especially if it's a once in a lifetime trip or a place you might not go back or maybe an event or an experience that doesn't happen very often. It's really hard to try and focus on that. I definitely feel like before smartphones, I did that a lot more often because when I was growing up, we had like the Kodak one use. You had to like.

Right? Like 24 pictures. There was no way to tell if it was good or not. You had to manually advance it. And then when it was done, it was done. So you had to experience the moment. And I feel like maybe now that it's so easy. It's really easy to forget to do that. So I struggle with this for sure. I try and find a balance, but I don't know if I'm really good at it. How about you? Awesome job today.

This is a tough one for me, especially now that I'm a parent. I really want to be fully present and soak in all the little milestones, funny moments and silly things my kids do. But at the same time... I almost instinctively reach for my phone and capture it all. Most of the time, I can't resist that urge. I end up snapping a photo or hitting record before I even realize it.

I've had a lot of parents with older kids tell me to take videos, not just pictures. They say videos capture more than just the image. You get the voices, the movement, the chaos, the Even just hearing my voice or my wife's voice in the background can be a little time machine back to that exact moment. But at the same time, In most cases, you can't do that. If you have a picture, you can take a picture or click on the button. . . . .

So I've been trying to take that advice to heart and record as many videos as I can. Not just the big stuff like birthdays or first steps, but the everyday candid stuff like when they're dancing around in pajamas or talking to themselves while playing. It feels like my way of holding on to these fleeting moments, especially since everyone keeps reminding me how fast kids grow up. Ironically though, while I'm busy recording these memories,

I sometimes feel like I'm missing the moment itself. That's why I try to take a quick video or two and then put the phone down so I can actually be there with them in it fully. That's the advice I've been thinking about, and I'm able to take a lot of videos to take a look at it. It's not just a big thing that I've been walking around, but I'm going to play a lot, and I'm going to play a lot. . . . . .

But as simple as it is, if you have any thoughts on these thoughts, you can see the real moment that you are losing the feeling of feeling like this. So if you have a short video of 1,2, 1, then... I'm excited to spend a lot of time with children and children. When you're learning English, you have a friend who can study together with a friend who can study together. Hapa英会話公式コミュニティ Hapa Buddiesは英語好きなメンバーが集う会員制のFacebookコミュニティです。 Hapa Buddiesでは会話で使えるフレーズや表現を学びながらアウトプット練習を行ったり、

We will be able to share information with other members and English, native course and online. We will be able to learn English as well. If you are looking to find a place where you are connected to other English learners, Hapa Buddies has a wonderful friend who loves English. We can try it for 14 days. It's a very fun community. もしかするとあなたの人生が変わるかもしれません。 Finally, check out Podcast Plus. Podcast Plus is a new HAPA language service, which is a platform for more effective and effective learning.

Podcast Plusには、エピソード全体の英語と日本語のスクリプト、英語のみの音声ファイル、個別再生用の音声ファイル、そしてフルバージョンのライブカンバセーションなどが含まれています。 PODCAST PLUSの詳細については、HAPA英会話のブログをご覧ください。 The details of today's episode is posted in the blog of Hapa英会話. The whole sentence, the phrase and the phrase.

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