Pretty Little Episode #62

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Hi. Welcome to the Handsome Pods Primal episode. I'm Fortune Feimster. And I am Tig Notaro, and we stumbled over each other, didn't we? That's all right. That's what we do. We don't want it to be too clean. No, and it's not. We've managed to keep it not so clean. I see you have your gavel. I do. I have my gavel. This is a real gavel. What's engraved on it? It says... Colonel Tig Notaro, because an auctioneer taught me how to, well, he tried to teach me how to auction.

And I did my best. And it wasn't very good, but he still, he had this made for me. Yeah, I think I remember that with you and Sarah Paulson giggling about it. Being an auctioneer. I've made. Yes, there is a very fun video. If you're listening, go track it down for my old podcast. Don't ask Tig. Look up Sarah Paulson, and I think it's the very end of the episode, and we just go completely sideways. It's pretty funny. It's so fun. But yeah. And you're in your new house, Fortune.

I am. I've had a busy week to just getting everything moved, and I'm finally out of the old house for the most part, aside from things that will divvy up.

when that house sells but um all my personal stuff's moved but now i'm just trying to figure out where i put everything i just like because i've been filming too so i just threw everything in like drawers and closets and now i'm trying to unravel all that did you have packers or did you do it all yourself no i did it all myself um yeah i had movers move obviously the furniture

Yeah. But I've never hired Packers in all my years of moving. Yeah. I just highly recommend. Really? Yes. Oh, my God. Yes. I told you I got 30,000 steps the day of my move. I don't know if I caught that. Oh, maybe I didn't tell you guys, but yeah, it was like the equivalent of like 16 miles. Because I did it all by myself with the movers. I spent a couple days just like filling my car up and driving back and forth. And then the day of the move was just like.

going constantly back and forth and then with them and then doing stuff all around that. Yeah. I was pooped. Yeah. Packers might've been the move. one million percent uh especially a full house like you have like that's that's insanity yeah so Well, it's done now. Okay. I went to the store today and got, I'm just kind of starting over. I got like Ziploc bags and foil and like laundry detergent and dishwashing soap. And wait, that stuff.

You left at the old house? Mm-hmm. Why? I think Jax will be staying. I don't know what her plan is, but she might be staying there until. Oh, I see. But I'm not exactly sure. And she needs her foil. Well, I just figured I'd just start new. Yeah, yeah, yeah, sure. Get all that sort of basic stuff. All the old foil memories out and all the new foil memories in. That's right. Yeah. Well, I stand by how exciting to be starting anew.

Yeah. Do you have everything figured out of like, this room is this? And how many bedrooms is it? Three. Well, technically four bedrooms, but... This one I'm using as an office. So I'll have two guest bedrooms. Oh, okay. All right. Yeah. Nice. But it's a much smaller house than what I had, which I wanted. Yeah.

It's one story, which is so nice when you forget something. You just boop into the next room. There it is. Boop, boop, boop. It's a manageable house for a lady living by herself. A pretty little lady. Pretty little lady living by herself. Have you met your neighbors? I met one neighbor. She was very nice. I have not met anyone else, but I've also barely been here. And was your neighbor like...

Are you from the Handsome Podcast? She did not, but maybe she was thinking it. And then when you said you got 16,000 steps in one day, do you clock yourself? 30,000 steps. Oh, 30,000. Where did I get 16? 16 miles. Oh, okay. All right. I thought that was a little weird that I pulled that off. I don't know if I lost a single pound. You probably gained muscle in those gams.

And do you clock your steps every day? It just was on my phone. I need to, I can't find my Apple watch. I would like to start wearing that again to start. tracking my steps because I'd like to be walking on this new show that I'm doing with Will Ferrell. He keeps his pedometer in his pocket. Uh, cause we're walking a ton on the golf courses. So I want to start tracking mine, but right now I'm just going by my phone. So he has one that's not his phone or his Apple watch. It's just a little risk.

Pedometer. And is it connected to his phone? Probably. Oh, okay. I was just asking somebody if that exists because... I love to track. I didn't know about tracking steps. You know who taught me? Who? Mr. Thomas. Oh, nice. Yeah, when we were in Toronto years ago, he was like, oh, yeah, the phone. I don't know if you remember that, Thomas, but you're like, oh, yeah, the phone. count steps. And I was like, really?

And so it's always interesting to see, especially when you're like traveling in a new city and wandering around. Yeah, you're like 30 steps. Stephanie and I were in Amsterdam one year. And I think we hit somewhere around there where we had been wandering around forever. And it was outrageous, the steps that we took. I know, it feels so good when you've done a lot. You're like, yes, I'm not a bum.

Do you have the 10,000 a day goal? That's always the goal, but I don't always hit it. I would be curious if our listeners know more about this, but I heard recently. You know, it's always been said 10,000, but I heard you're pretty good at 7,000 and above. And you know what I've heard? What? 10,000 should be the least amount. Oh, God. You should do.

Well, then I'm in trouble. No, but I'm sure you're right. But also health experts, doctors, whatever will say, even if you take a 20 minute walk every day, that is. That is something. Doing something, yeah. Yeah, just moving your body. Well, right now I'm moving my body quite a bit. I haven't had time to tread water. Do you have a pool at the new place? A little mini one, but I think that I haven't tested it out yet, but I think it's just enough room to tread in a little circle.

Nice. How adorable. I'd love to peek in and see the little lady treading in a circle. I could be wrong. I might get in there and be like, yeah, there's not much treading happening here. But it's pretty small. But honestly, I'm. I kind of like the idea of a much more maintainable pool as well. Yeah. Well, sounds like you're all set. Speaking of all set, should we head on into our first question? Let's do it.

Let us do it. Hey, handsome pod. My name is Dawn and I'm in Portland, Oregon. And I've been really enjoying you guys so much. I appreciate you very much. Okay, the question that came to me to ask was... What was your favorite Halloween costume growing up and why? Well, you know how I feel about my elf mask. The greatest line of all handsome episodes. Then why was that? Then why did I go as Alf? Then why was I out? Whatever you said.

That would have been high up there for me. I'm trying to I was not great at putting together Halloween costumes. Were you? No, but my mother was an artist. And so she kind of. really got into uh halloween like if if if we wanted to be something she really got into making it yeah you know and um I was just talking to my therapist about how, oh my gosh, I just have to share with you. I took a picture after my stepfather passed away of his phone, the weekly report.

And this was when he was alive. Your screen time was down 47% to two minutes a day. He was on his phone. That was his average. I guess his average was four minutes. Dang. Yeah. But anyway, yeah, I was talking to my therapist about how I dressed, and maybe I've shared this on here, how I dressed as John Travolta. And went to a friend's birthday party and all the girls, it was for Greece and all the girls were in poodle skirts.

And they were crowding around me wanting to dance and treating me like I was like... This cute guy. And it was very confusing for me. But I really liked that. And also for a few years on and off, I would dress as. uh dracula oh yeah that's a good one real girly stuff the yeah we were so lazy about it we were just like grabbing like a something to just put on our heads and that was it I don't know why not me or my brothers were like oh I'm gonna go as this and I'm gonna wear this and my mom

Wasn't crafty, so she wasn't like making us anything. So yeah, we kept it pretty simple in the Feimster house. So would you just be like a sheet over your head and you're a ghost? Oh yeah, I did the bare minimum. Which is so funny because now I'm in costumes all the time for work. I figured. Not just for fun. You're just...

Treading around in your tiny pool in a costume. Yeah. You know what's smart? Checking Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds on car insurance. You know what's not smart? not checking if that new restaurant in town is open on a Monday. You're excited to try that new Italian spot, but spaghetti is going to have to wait till Tuesday, even though you drove all the way from your house. Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds.

You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary. Subject to terms, conditions, and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company and affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. Yeah, I'm kind of, now that... Max and Finn are a part of my life. Halloween is so over the top. They're both so into it. And I am so not. Yeah.

I mean, for years, I would just say I'm going, when people would say, who are you? What are you? I'd say I'm an aging lesbian. And that's the extent of what I put into costumes. Yeah, I'm more of a Thanksgiving kind of gal. I do love some Thanksgiving. Me too. Well, should we hear what Dawn's answer is? It's going to be Alf. It's going to be Alf.

Okay. And then just to share my favorite Halloween costume was I was an angel. I think I was sixth grade, 11 years old. I got to wear this angel costume with these pretty like wings that had all this glitter on them.

But the coolest part was I got to roller skate because I had these like cool white roller skates. Keep in mind, this is like the late 70s. And so I was like a roller skating angel. And the reason it was awesome was because I was roller skating. And I thought that was cool. All right. Thanks. Keep doing what you're doing. Love y'all. Love you too, Dawn. Yeah, Dawn. That is so not my world, the butterfly.

wings and sparkles and um probably wasn't any of our handsome lives right no yeah i don't think any of us had any of that sparkle Although I could see May doing some version of something with wings or something. Something. I don't know what it is. But anyway, thanks for your question and your answer, Dawn. And what else we got?

Hi, handsomes. This is Anna calling from Copenhagen. I have been a fan of yours since seeing Take Life here in Copenhagen a couple of years ago. I am utterly and truly in love with all three of you. Now I have a problem and I desperately need advice. I have been single for about a million-ish years and I have a really hard time connecting with people out in the dating world.

But I recently met someone who I like and who likes me. And I feel like this could actually turn into something. But he has bad breath. I don't know what to do. We have been out a few times now and I haven't even kissed him because I feel like I just can't as much as I would like to.

Dang. I brought mint to our last dates and kind of ate them obsessively, but I felt too awkward to offer him one. I don't know why. I guess because it was like on my mind that it would be too obvious why. Yeah. So how do I disagree? and politely do something about this um i just don't want to give up on a potential connection over something so dumb so i hope you can advise me uh thank you so much

Well, that is tough. And it's not dumb. I will say that because I think it's like the people's scent is so crucial with attraction. you know oftentimes bad breath is you know dehydration or a bad diet or whatever but um i don't know what to do about that i've certainly Been in that situation a time or two. What about you, Fortune? I mean, well, definitely.

I would have started with offering them the mints. Yeah, but that's not a long-term fix. That's one mint in a lifetime. I know. I mean, that's... It's so hard in the beginning because you're both trying to like, you know, not walk on eggshells, but you're just like, you know, you don't want to like ruffle any feathers.

I don't know. I think I would have a hard time being blunt about it, but I feel like you would just be like, would just say it. Me? Yeah. You don't think you would just tell the person? Your breath stinks? Well, not like that. What would I say? I just envision you being like, hey, I just want to, you know, I don't want to make things awkward, but I felt like I should tell you that, you know. Your breath could be better. Your breath could be better. Is that a delicate blow?

Yeah, I guess if I try and picture myself because I struggled with it with people and it made made it hard to kiss them. But what would if I buy a mouthwash? But you have to have the conversation because he's not, you know, it's probably not that he can't afford mouthwash or he, you know. Yeah. I think you're supposed to also be scraping your tongue. You've really got to hydrate. Yeah. I guess if I was really into, oh, it's tough. I think she just can't date this person.

Really? Because what if this is the one and you just do find a way? Maybe. Do you have a therapist? I don't know if I could be with someone full time. and like not even be able to get close to them but what if they kicked the the the the breath situation i mean i guess if that's i guess that that's what you're faced with right if it's like you either have this uncomfortable conversation or you just don't date this person.

Because you kind of have nothing to lose, right? Yeah. Yeah. Because if you say, hey, I'm not going to see you, it's the same as if you tell them and you hurt their feelings and they leave. It's the same result. Yeah. So. Now we've narrowed it down. So it's kind of like, yeah, what do you have to lose? Because the alternative is that you're just not going to date this person. And that's the same result. Yes. So I would say it sounds like.

Yeah, it sounds like he's worth it. And I would just say it as gently as possible. And I don't know what that is because I don't know how you deliver news. But yeah, I would. preface it with I enjoy you so much. I find you so attractive. And I don't know how to get to the next part. Butter him up with compliments first. But truly, not just compliments, but just to let him know you really do like him.

You don't know if there's something chemically that's not jiving in his gut, but something stinks. I mean, yeah, it could just be like, you could just preface it with, listen, I want to bring up something a little awkward. You know, just kind of call out the elephant in the room. Yeah, see, it's awkward for me, and I hope it lands okay with you because I'm only bringing this up because I like you so much. And I want to be close to you. Yeah.

And, you know, I just noticed this and I don't, you know, I mean, I would probably put it on me like I'm extra sensitive to this. Yeah. Maybe other people wouldn't. care as much but i'm extra sensitive to sense is there a way to like you know look into that yeah and then have a care package full of flaws Tongue scrapers, mouthwash, toothpaste. Hopefully they're just, I mean, hopefully they're not a person that's just not brushing their teeth. Cause to me, that's a sign of like.

What else are they not taking care of? That's rarely the issue. Yeah. It's usually in your gut. It's something deep in your body that is causing that. Or like I said, dehydration. Yeah. But anyway, well, please keep us posted, Anna. I know. I want to know what happens. I know.

We wish you the absolute best. Please send us an update. I've never been to Copenhagen, though. I do want to go. You haven't been? No. Oh, it's so beautiful. I've heard. It's really pretty. I went to an incredible restaurant there. Anyway, send us your questions and advice requests to speakpipe.com slash handsome pod. And if you like any of our episodes, please share them with a friend and help us build this very handsome community. Like, review, give us five stars if you're up for it.

And until next time, what do you say, Fortune? Keep it pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Mae Martin, Tig Notaro and Fortune Feimster. The show is produced, recorded and edited by Thomas Ouellette. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com and please follow us on social media at handsomepod. What a podcast! What a podcast! That was a HeadGum podcast. You know what's smart?

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