Pretty Little Episode #51

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Pretty Little Episode. Welcome to the Handsome Pod for our Pretty Little Episode. It's fortunate. And me, I'm May. Here in person. Yeah, I like... doing these with you in person me too you can like feel each other's energy yeah your energy is good right now i'm a big energy person did you know this no yeah i am a cancer yeah july 1st was my birthday yeah I would say if you looked up cancer traits, I'm pretty full-on cancer. I line up with a lot of that. Emotional.

what else you feel i feel energy very deeply yeah especially if i'm close to people i can i can tell if something's off yes um i can walk into a home and tell if there's like bad energy really yeah i can tell if there's good energy but i wonder it's part of that like a learned hyper vigilance I don't know. From childhood. I've had a psychic tell me that I have to consciously let go of people's energy.

When I, after I walk out of a room. I think I'm similar. I'm a cancer moon. Yeah. Yeah. And, and I, I feel similarly like people. And I've really tried to like in my life be like, which. who do i feel really good after i hang out with them and feel energized yeah and who do i feel anxious it's important yeah and like uh i it takes me a while to process i'm emotional like not

Well, let me just start that over. I'm not an emotional person. I'm very even. Oh, okay. But I have deep emotions. Right. If that makes sense. The rivers run deep. The rivers run deep, but it takes me a while to process the emotions. Yeah. I don't know what I'm... feeling if you were to like press me I'm like I don't know oh but I will show you an action yeah that my what those emotions are and will you take will you say I need time to figure out what I'm feeling? Yeah, I'll be like...

I just need a minute to be like, how do I feel about this thing? And I just have to internalize it and think about it. I think a lot. I probably overthink too much. But I care about people.

um yeah you have a lot of empathy keen sense of justice i would say like a lot of justice yeah like when someone's wrong when yeah i'm not i don't hold grudges or like anything like that but if somebody does something i don't think is right yes i don't like that yeah same yeah yeah yeah i'm also an overthinker but i i'm like i won't i won't take time to process i'll send an essay

of my thoughts and feelings but i'm getting better at processing it oh i will write things out and give it a minute yeah that's smart i'm doing that now because then i'll realize the next day like oh you don't need to share all that and you don't need to say all that yeah also people know people know how you're feeling a lot of the time yeah i kind of wear my heart on my sleeve yeah i i don't shy away from like if i

Like telling someone like a thing about them that's cool or like a friend if I appreciate something about them. Yeah. Like I want to tell you the same. Like I don't have an ego in like, oh, well, it look. If I'd tell someone a nice thing, will I look silly?

And the opposite, too. Like, not saying, this is what I don't like about you, but I think you stand up for yourself. Oh, yeah. Yeah, which is good. I mean, sometimes when you're, like, considered a nicer person, that's... assumed that you let people walk all over you and i do not yeah you don't suffer fool i do not i well people can be foolish but yeah you suffer fools but you don't suffer uh yeah injustice i just don't

Yeah, I just don't put up with being treated poorly. I love that. Love that. Yeah. But that took time. Yeah. You know, I had to get to a point where I... liked myself yeah i think if you don't like yourself you do allow that and i have certainly had years of my life where i have let people walk on me yeah but with age

And time and therapy. Yeah. I genuinely like myself. I've been seeing a life coach. Yeah? How's that? Yeah. Well, great. Because I often start therapy and then it tapers off or I don't... i dread it and it's like i find it really intense uh sitting across from somebody and diving into like the hardest deepest stuff and i also feel like i know so much of it yeah but this is a more roundabout way this life coach who is a you know a qualified therapist and psychotherapist as well but

It's just a lot more manageable for me because it's like I could do arts and crafts while we talk. Oh, yeah. And we're we're talking about my day to day life. And we made a pie chart of my.

life and all the different areas and it seems more functional and practical and then we can talk around the deeper issues and the things and but for now I'm finding it less scary than therapy I'm still gonna go to therapy yeah and i have been but um i mean i'm not judging that's on everybody's own time you know yeah and people go in and out of it sometimes too yeah like you you go if you're

If you're dealing with stuff, you feel like there's more pressing things and sometimes you need a break from it. You don't want to overanalyze things too, you know. I find that sometimes people get too in their head about things and situations and relationships. and sometimes you just need to chill. Yes. Yeah, because if you're just constantly repeating the same stories, I guess that therapy would help you break those stories. But yeah, anyway. Well, yeah. What is your sign?

I'm Taurus. Okay. With Cancer Moon and Gemini rising, I want to say. I don't know what my other things are. I think the moon is like your emotional world. Okay. Mom. I'll have to find that out. But I do feel pretty through and through cancer. Yeah. And I, they say we're moody too, but I, my moodiness is just, I'm not a moody person. I don't find you moody. I just get quiet sometimes. Right.

That would be the moodiness. My mom would say I get moody sometimes with her, but that's... You got license to get moody with your mom. Yeah, you regress. But that's just a parent-kid thing, I think. But you, yeah, you are a steady person. I mean, yeah. And you handled fatigue really well, or you just don't seem to run out of energy. I guess not. What's up with that, dude? I don't know. I don't know, because, yeah, I'm taking better care of myself right now, which is helpful. Yeah.

my last tour I got very out of hand and gained a ton of weight and I felt super lethargic but right now I'm just eating a lot less and trying to work out and that helps with the energy It helps with everything. Although I will get gelato after this recording. Oh, at that place next door? Yeah.

why not you come on yeah i'll get a gelato sure oh my god what flavor i don't know i gotta see what they have because there's a place around here that has weird things like bacon flavored ice cream and stuff that i'm not into that no i want i want a classic i'd like a mango ghost story they have that at the i i like glanced on the way here they have a mango sorbet great which is delish delish let's get to our questions after all this sharing of feelings

Hi, handsome. My name's Letitia. I'm a long-time listener and a big fanboy of your podcast and all three of you. I'm recording here in Melbourne, Australia. You really need to come and visit and practice your Australian accent. I'd be happy to show you around. My question for you is, what is your all-time favourite party game?

And or board game? Party game or board game? Melbourne. Melbourne, Australia. I'm not going to do it. Y'all put me in this trap every time where I start doing my Australian accent and Toni Collette tells me it's not good. That was pretty great. I mean, I don't know where to start.

mafia mafia is good if you've got it what traders is based on yeah so if you've got like eight people it's ideal i have been in some amazing mafia games but especially back in my groundlings days yeah it's like all comedians and artists yeah so passionate so dramatic oh my god i played mafia with this is one this was with parv and a group of people and with abby jacobson and clea duvall and a bunch of other people and it was so intense and so much fun yeah and clea is

absolutely an assassin like she and it's just so scary to question her like she's like seriously you're you think i'm the mafia and you're like oh like she just is so um she's so good at it and then and then my friend accidentally threw a knife across the table. It wasn't a good story by accident, but it almost took an eye out.

dude that would be so gnarly he was gesturing and it flew out of his hand and imagine if that just no that you don't want a game to go that way yeah yeah mafia is a good party game it does take some people a minute to got the rules and to folk i get i'm like guys we gotta focus like i yeah i can get irritable okay what about you i like that mexican train

game have you ever heard of that what's that it's like dominoes but like i don't know i can't remember how it's played but it's easy to pick up on ah but it's a you you like stack dominoes in a certain way mexican train there's another game that Natalie Mays taught me that's really fun with dice, but I don't remember the name of it. God dang it. I'll have to ask her. So I'll tell you next time. Yeah. But you would like that game. It's you need to like four or five people. It's called.

oh is it fast i like a fast um like with dice it's like you roll and if like you get sixes or like you know and you have to keep score and stuff and there's different rules yeah but that one's I know that's not helpful to our listeners but it's a very fun dice game I like um

a game if you're ever at i mean which you will be like the emmys or you're at like a really swanky day which i always am like how fun would it be to get some big some big game going with all those amazing people there but what so the

game that I like to play and I play it at the BAFTAs in England is it's called tissue shoulder and all you do is you take a bit of a napkin and you roll it up into a small ball and then the objective is to get it on the shoulder of someone without them noticing oh my god and then let it stay as long

Yeah, it's so fun. And you did this at the Baptist? I did it to some... some some big names people really yeah yeah yeah so they ended up being on stage with this not on stage because it would fall off but it's more like people are milling around after or you're sitting in your seat and it's just having to walk by and and just place it

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Checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Savings vary subject to terms, conditions, and availability. Allstate Fire and Casualty Insurance Company and Affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois. Should we hear Letitia's answer? I have a favorite game that's just called The Hat Game. Yeah. And it involves a lot of acting and miming.

and all around chaos and i think that may you would love it and if you ever do come to australia please make sure to reach out and i will teach you how to play okay thanks for being amazing and keeping me company on all of my dog walks my boy

My dog is a very bad boy. He's the goodest boy, but he's a very bad boy. Letitia, I'm there. And I know this game, the hat games, you put names in a hat of famous people. I mean, you could even write... fake grapes yeah you know put in that and then there's three rounds timed the first round you can describe it without using the word second round you can only use one word to describe it third round is just mine but it's really fun because you got to remember all of them gotcha

I also like running charades. Oh, yeah. That's fun, too. Wait, what do you mean running? You run to different stations and they give you the clues and stuff. Oh, what? Yeah. I want to do that. It's fun. It's active and you go to different people for it. That sounds good. The clues. I like that. Should we hear another one? Yeah.

spaced out i just left my body you know what i just i just had a whole thought yeah where i thought i really want to post something nice about fortune on her birthday and then i thought maybe i'll get a picture with fortune today but i won't say it's for that and then on the day another day i'll post all that random second i went on a whole journey and then i was like

honored yeah the other day i was eating with and uh i said i um was trying to think of a word between breakfast and lunch and i said to this person i said i really was I said, I can't believe for a second I thought I wish there was a word between breakfast and lunch because it's just brunch. It's brunch. But I literally was like, I wish there was a word. You said I wish there was a word. Oh, my God. And I was like, what is wrong with me? That's real.

Really funny. Blunch. Blunch. We should get blunch going. Because to me, brunch is still very breakfast. Yeah, it's like more pancakes. But lunch is more breakfast, I guess. Or more lunch focused. Oh, yeah, because it's more in the lunch. Blunch. It's more of the word. That's great. But how come there's no... Linner. Or dunch. Dunch. There should be a like between lunch and dinner. Like a four o'clock situation. Yeah, yeah. An aperitif. Yeah.

Yeah, I love an aperitif. Yeah. In Europe, when you like go for a drink and they give you all these snacks. Yes, or like an afternoon tea in England with the scone and the cream and all. Oh, I love an afternoon tea. Did I tell you that? No. I love afternoon tea. and teas. Okay, let's go. With all the trays of the scones and the sandwiches. Cucumber sandwiches and little pastries. Yeah, me too. A high tea, they call it, and I am all about it. Oh man, that's good. Let's hear our question!

Hi, my name is Carrington from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. My question for you all today is, which historical figure would you most want to ghost you after one weird date and why? Oh, who you would want to ghost you? Jesus you'd be like where'd he go oh that's true but he'd come back Jesus would be good. I was seeing this really cool guy who was in his early 30s, long hair. He had all these friends around him all the time. Yeah.

preaching he's a little preachy yeah but he never judged anyone he turned my water into wine yeah And then all of a sudden, one day, he just disappeared. Wait, but to be ghosted by Jesus would be really hard. Because it's for mankind. Oh, I see. I see. Right. Okay. Yeah, that takes a sting out of it. He was sacrificed. Yeah.

Yeah, you're right. You go, well, I gotta respect that. It's for the greater good. Yeah, okay. Yeah, that's a really good answer. I think I... Would I want to be ghosted by it?

Like if I could have a first date with someone really psycho, you know, who I know would get too attached because they're... but you want to experience the freak in the sheets yes and then they and then yes yeah and then and then they can go to worry about the aftermath yes exactly like we're talking do you think some roman emperor really we're not i mean

I was going to say Emperor Nero, but I think he was really dark and fucked up. Oh, we don't want to go too dark. No, I want to just... What about Joan of Arc? I think Joan of Arc would be... two like me like gender wise like we'd be two of the same magnet right you need to go a different flavor yeah like maybe a cleopatra okay

But I'd be sad if she ghosted me. Whereas if it was some twisted emperor and we just did really messed up stuff. He put me inside like a giant... bronze bull you know and then a bronze bull no bull because that's what bull i think nero put put people in a giant metal bolt and then killed them i think i don't want that but i want some weird stuff and

It would be fun. And then I go, he goes, I kind of want to kill you. And I go, kill me next time. And then he goes, yeah, you live. Yeah, not Nero. Live to tell to tell. Whoever is listening to this and knows. Oh, Alexander the Great? Maybe. That would be pretty hot. And he was bi. He was? They all were, for sure. But Alexander the Great, his boyfriend died, and he built this huge funeral pyre for him.

It was in mourning. I didn't know all these guys were bi. They were. Because it was of the time. It was of the time, I guess. Yeah. No one was judging back then. Yeah. You just murdered people if you were. Was it hatred? You were done with them. What? Was it Hadrian was his boyfriend? And that's where Hadrian... I've never heard this. Have you, Thomas? Were you aware of Alexander the Gay? I didn't know about that. Hadrian was Antonis' boyfriend. Okay.

Who were you on? Alexander the Great's boyfriend? King Darius's eunuch named Bagoas, he took as his lover. I could be a eunuch. I've got eunuch energy. I like it when they say took as his lover. Yeah. And will you take a lover? Will you take a lover? Do you ever use the word lover? No, I can't. I can't. And even when people go, hey, lover. Hey, lover.

I don't think I can do it. This is my lover. Did you ever see that Will Ferrell, Rachel Drouch sketch? Oh, yeah. It'd be like, my lover in the hot tub. Yes. It is such a word. yeah this is my i mean it's a really nice way to put it in a way but yeah instead of like what's right fuck buddy um let's hear carrington's answer my answer nikola tesla

I just feel like he'd show up in a weird cape, over explain his crystals and then disappear into a puff of pigeon feathers. Wait, this is a different like take on Tesla than I'm used to.

like yeah yeah because that he would explode into pigeon feathers and he's this sort of mystical Merlin figure I like that I know I did an escape room that was Tesla themed really yeah it was a lot of wires and knobs it was too like intricate yeah yeah should we do a quick one yeah one quick one quick one hey handsome this is roxy from ohio i love listening to you especially when i'm doing

chores and different things around the house or running errands. I feel like I'm so much more productive because I feel like I'm part of the conversation and just hanging out with y'all. But my question is, what is your favorite kind of chore something that you like to do that just kind of it's it's weird but and nobody else wants to do it but you're just like oh yeah i'll do it the name on everybody's lips is gonna be Roxy.

Thanks for going with me on that. You're welcome. I have like a spending problem, but not for big items. So just I buy clothes like online late at night. Like I'm just clicking.

clicking yeah so i end up having a lot of stuff that i don't wear and i'm not good at returning stuff so my favorite chore is to go through everything in my closet and make a pile of stuff to donate and then and then like see that my closet only has stuff that i wear that i like white t-shirts like basically it's this yeah you just spend all this money just to spend it because i get excited at night i think i can wear that plaid yeah double-breasted suit

um yeah that's a good one i love clearing stuff out that's a nice feeling i don't like a lot of stuff yeah i don't like to accumulate So there is something very freeing about donating things and throwing things away. Marie Kondo-ing. Yeah. This doesn't spark joy. Yeah. And you do that voice to yourself. This isn't sparking joy, Mae. Do you sweep and vacuum and do all that? I don't mind vacuuming. When Jax and I were together, she was kind of the...

She was very good about all that stuff. I don't mind the outdoor, some of the outdoor stuff. Because when I was growing up, that was my chore. Yeah. Was yard work. So there's, we have like a, like a. the thing that you cut bushes with oh a trimmer trimmer yeah a hedge trimmer yeah i love going out there with that thing we have these bushes that uh get unruly i can imagine you like um edward scissorhands whipping up a shape yeah yeah very

there's these one bushes that just grow like constantly and I go out there like yeah I feel very I'm like yeah but uh yeah I feel very productive in that I tonight have nothing to do and but i have a list of like 20 chores to do and like laundry and i've been on tour like i have stuff in my suitcase yeah and i'm gonna put something on and do it like do you listen to a podcast or music music podcast i think i'll listen to some really

awful true crime probably all right i can't help myself what is that about i think that's just what you're into i guess Maybe I'll listen to Handsome. Like, I haven't listened since. Yeah, check us out. Honestly, well, a friend of mine just started listening from episode one. She was like, I never listened to it. And she was.

saying things from episode one that i was like that's pretty funny i think yeah we could hear uh some of our quotes yeah and how we've changed pineapple apart yeah it goes yeah I'm trying to think. Two against one. We need more quotes. I know. It's been a minute since we've created a new one. But I don't know if it's that we've stopped being quotable or that... People have stopped quoting us. Yeah, or like stopped lifting quotes. You guys, have you...

gone away from our quote. Yeah. Please keep it going. If there's anything in here worth quoting. If you like anything. Please. Let's hear Roxy's answer. Mine is folding laundry. I hate putting it away. I hate everything else about it, but I do enjoy folding laundry. Yeah, I find laundry very zen. Yeah. I think Tig likes laundry too. Yeah, yeah, yeah. It smells so fresh and clean. Yeah, but I agree putting it away, no good.

yeah no leave it in a pile on the sofa yeah yeah fold it neatly well what a treat what a treat as always lovely to see you bud you too and thanks everyone for sending in your your amazing questions keep sending them in speakpipe.com slash handsome pod

Yeah. Give us questions, advice, whatever you want. Yeah. Or if you need advice. We have not gotten many advice questions and I'm asking for them every time. Yeah. I would love that. Yeah. I guess all that remains is to keep it. Pretty handsome. Handsome is hosted by me, Fortune Feimster, Tig Notaro, and Mae Martin. The show is produced, recorded, and edited by Thomas Ouellette. Email us at handsomepod at gmail.com and follow us on social media at handsome.

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