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Welcome to the Handsome Pod. I'm one of your hosts, Mae Martin. Joined. It's so lovely to see you guys as always. Joined by... I'm Fortune Feamster. And I'm Tig Notaro. Hi, friends. Hi, friends. Hi. Mae, wherever you are is gorgeous. Thank you. Looks like you're in a, like a greenhouse. I'm in... Lake Arrowhead. It's happening. My weird solo meditative excursion. Where you were inviting a bunch of people up? Well, yeah. Yeah. What happened with that? Well, okay. I've been up here.

five days and like three of those days I've been by myself, like, like sleeping in the quiet house in the woods. So isolated. I don't, I have no car. I have no Uber eats. I have no Uber blacks. I have no. uber my goodness how'd you get how'd you get there uber you uber black yeah lake arrowhead yes and with so much stuff in the uber i packed up

so much stuff and then I'm on the road and I was thinking well okay then what the hell is all that other stuff in my house because I have everything I need I mean I've got multiple suitcases paints instruments cameras Oh my gosh. Facial products, weights. Like I brought my whole- Fake mustaches. Wait, you brought weights? I brought weights. That Uber driver was probably like, the fuck is happening? I know, I know.

Wow. I really need you to pass your driving test. You have to start being able to rent a car. I need you to not because I enjoy hearing about this ridiculousness. Now, tell us how it's going. Is it feeling good? Is it... what you're hoping? Are you really challenging yourself with this time? Yes. I need to challenge myself more maybe, but I'm like, I just realized when I got up here, I'd...

I kind of I've been craving this for years, like maybe 10 years. I feel like I've been talking about wanting to do this and bringing on books and stuff. And I am just realizing like I forgot kind of how to or maybe I never knew how to be it. human being like it's been so long since i cooked three meals a day for myself and did the dishes after and read a book and went to bed i'm like oh my god i get why people do this

And so what do you do? You just order food in and then throw that away. Yeah, the waste. And I'm so I just am so busy and I don't love my kitchen and I I don't I don't know.

I made a pasta up here. I did make one meal. Actually, maybe we can post a picture of it. Should I find the picture and show you guys? This is when I thought I'd need to challenge myself more. Okay, let's see it. Maybe you guys can kind of psychoanalyze what this says about me. We could maybe post this picture, but this was a meal that I had high hopes for. I thought, I'm up in the woods.

What do you eat in the winter? You're not naked in this photo, are you? No. Would you have stopped Mae from showing this picture if so? I just wanted to let our YouTube viewers know that you might be seeing May in the nude. Whether that's good or bad news, I just want you to know. I didn't know if May was trying to trick us into seeing.

Them naked? You know I've been trying to do that. I think people would very much enjoy it. Is that what you're wanting, Fortune? You want to see May naked? Everybody wants it. Come on. Actually. On that topic, someone recently said to me, you know, it's weird how you shave your calves, but not your thighs. And I thought, everybody does that, don't they? And then I realized...

That's just me. And it's like I'm wearing fur shorts. I have these smooth, hairless, womanly thighs. And then I have these manly, like, hairy, or sorry, womanly calves. Reverse. Reverse. Hairy thighs. And I just thought everyone... I thought you're not supposed to shave your thighs because it grows back darker. But anyways, the point is I'm not shaving my calves anymore. They're not? Uh-uh, so I don't have to shave them.

You don't have any hair on your thighs? No, I just shave my legs, my gams. I see. I have little prickly hairs coming out of my knees and stuff like that. So I shave all that. Fortune, you're just shaving your calves? I'm just shaving my calves, but if my thighs were hairy, I probably would shave them. Okay. Well, I think my solution, I'm up in the woods. I'm like, just not going to shave.

any of my legs i'll i you know i like keeping my gam smooth because i gotta show off those muscles yes you do okay this is the meal that i cooked and i thought i'm gonna make hot dogs i'm gonna grill them i'm gonna do this was what a nice alone time meal what a fancy meal oh goodness that is Is there, have you seen this? It's happening here. It's a hot dog on a bun, one plain hot dog and one chip. And two pickles. Two Doritos and two pickles. And I thought.

I don't know. In my mind, it was going to be this, I don't know, summery display. This gourmet meal? So I can't tell if you're having a good time or if you're too lonely. I'm having a good time. I'm having a really good time. No, you're not. But you're also lonely. You're counting the days to get out of there. Look. To load your weights and your hot dogs back in the Uber. You're miserable. Let's talk honestly. This is great. I'm reading books and I'm chilling and I made a hot dog.

Have you invited any friends to come up? I currently have two friends here. And then I have two more friends coming. But for the most part, I'm going to be by myself with the... beautiful creatures of the forest. I've seen four raccoons. I've seen blue jays. I think they're blue jays. They're blue. Sounds about right. Yeah. Sounds like a blue jay. A woodpecker. I saw a vulture.

A lot of squirrels and then one squirrel that is his own breed or something. He's like the size of a dog and he is so muscular and big.

I sound like I have a crush on him, but I don't. Can I recommend something if you do want people to visit you? Yeah. Send him a picture of your hot dogs. You guys are making some good meals up here. Cooking up a storm. Is it any better with your friends there? Yeah, listen, I'm having a good time. No, no, no. Totally. Totally. They cooked me a steak last night. That was good. Is there a hot tub?

Yeah, there's a hot tub. All right, now we're talking. There's no real, like this whole lake is private docks. And so one night I snuck onto a stranger's dock and I jumped in at the sunset. In a horse suit? I was in a horse suit. It was heavy in the water. I bet. Yeah. But it's been good. I mean, you know, we'll check in and see how my mental health's holding up. I've definitely been getting a little weird.

We'll check in five minutes after we end this Zoom. Yeah, for the real Zoom. How long are you there? I've booked it for three weeks. Whoa, that's a long time. Okay, but wait. Fortune, did you notice what just happened? You said, how long are you there? And Mae said,

I booked it for three weeks. That is somebody who is not committing to staying for three weeks. That is Mae saying, this is how much time it's for, but probably not how much time I'll be there for. Mae, be honest. I'm thinking about... making some little trips to LA just to check in. That's a lot of Uber rides. Yes, seriously, buy Uber rides. Oh my God. Yeah, you have to like, you have to really like the woods and nature and... Not having a lot to do to go up there.

But also, let's be honest, May is indoors. It's not like May is living off the land. Excuse me. I'm out there. I'm sitting at night. I'm feeling the stars, hearing the stars.

You know what I was thinking though? To all these animals, this is like a bustling metropolis where they're like, morning, morning. And then in the city, they must feel like it's a... ghost land where they like hear a noise and they're like maybe it's an owl and then it's just a night bus or something so i'm in there i'm in the big city for them yeah night buses i have to say i just took a trip uh that was very

Very relaxing. I went to Iceland. Yes. And my best friend, Andrea, shout out of 20 years. She went with me and we had. We had not taken a friend trip in many, many years. And it just was so fun. And I've never been to Iceland before. It was amazing. Isn't it? I'm so jealous. Oh, my God. The food's so fresh, so good. We went to this. Lesbian owned restaurant. Yes. Helga is the chef. Of course. She's incredible.

I had all kinds of things I never thought I would eat. I mean, all Icelandic women are sturdy. Sure. Picture that. I fit in very well. You're a sturdy little lady. I'm a sturdy little lady. It was the one country I did not get called sir in. I've tried to push you over before and it's nearly impossible. You're so sturdy. I'm a sturdy gal. So this restaurant, and I can't say in Icelandic, but it just stands for food and drink. Helga just gets right to the point.

yeah no frills just sturdy names but she's like she's like experimented with flavors like so much that she has just figured out how to put things together that you'd never think of and it's incredible like hot dogs and pickles like all kinds of things and my friend is a vegetarian and they they did stuff for her that she loved and So that was amazing. And we went to a bunch of lagoons where you just sit in water. Andrea Kanzler.

Shout out to my friend. She sat in a spa in a lagoon with me for seven hours. What? Yes. were you drunk no neither one we were so tired and like but we were both on the same page of just wanting to chill that like we just were like oh she just texted me oh my god it's like we're still it's simpatico oh my god are you in love no she's like my sister i don't know what you're up to

Andrea to come up to Lake Arrowhead and hang out with me. Well, she lives in Nashville now, but you would love her company. We know her. We hung out with her in Nashville. Oh, that's right. Y'all met her at the Ryman. She's great. But yeah, it was like, you know, one of those days when you're like, you're both like on the same page. You're like, we don't want to be on our phones. We want to be in the lagoon. We got massages on a float in the water.

It's like you're in Lake Arrowhead. Yeah. We got to massage in the water on a float. what first time y'all didn't seem impressed is the masseuse treading water while they massage water with you and it's it's just are they hanging on to your raft going oh hold on. They're like turning you around. Oh, they're standing. They're not treading. Yeah, they're not treading. That would be hard. Yeah. I wonder how they get the traction to like...

Like pushed down without drowning you or pushing you away. They are magical, sturdy, Icelandic women. Not your monkey, not your circus. Yeah. So that was amazing. And, and then we did get reprimanded after our massages because we were floating in the water and we thought everyone had left. We looked around the lagoon and we didn't see anybody. So we started pretending to be Icelandic women.

who were lesbians and we were going like, I'm going to cut wood and eat root vegetables and we're going to make sweet love by the fire on a pelt. And the police came? No, and we didn't know that all these people were being massaged behind us and they had to come over and say, can you guys please be quiet? And we were like shaking, laughing. Oh, my gosh. And then we did saunas and dry saunas and cold plunges and masks and scrubs. Amazing. Laid by the fireplace. Sushi lunch. Girl, you deserve it.

I mean, best time of my life. But I will give a shout out. If anyone goes to Iceland, here's what I will say. It's super gay friendly there. They are all allies. It like isn't even a thing. They have gay flags everywhere. it's such a welcoming place but there's this travel company pink iceland that not only do they um do travel tours for people gay and straight uh they also um put on weddings for people

And they have a lot of people come to Iceland who like are from different countries where it's not okay to like some of their families don't know they're gay or like it's not okay to be gay where they are. And they will... put on these beautiful weddings for them, even if it's just the two of them or two of them and a friend. This company is two lesbians and a gay man who run it, and they have the biggest hearts.

such good care of us they're amazing if you ever go there look them up they are the company that will take good care of you and you saw the northern lights right i saw the northern lights which is wild yeah we went We went to their, they have this, their office is five floors up. And we went and we were just chatting with them. And they go, oh, they're in the Northern Lights. And to the naked eye, it's kind of hard to see them. They're like, it's just like.

if you're not familiar with them but when you take a picture of it it's like so obvious it's the northern lights and they go we've had friends visit for years and never seen them yeah like it's supposed to be a good omen that's very auspicious that's like the Icelandic gods were smiling on you. This was a very healing trip at a time that I really needed some rest and some healing. Of course. How great. Yeah. Good for you.

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We're going to cut wood. I don't even know. It's like part German, part Icelandic. I haven't nailed accents, truth be told. You're like, we know. In all honesty when we were doing these Icelandic women characters I was being a little dirty. Okay, the truth comes out. You were saying, I'm going to scissor you. I can't repeat to you what I was saying. It was that dirty? It was dirty. And we were crying laughing.

And then got scolded and were laughing even more because what I was saying was ridiculous. Okay, the truth comes out. Now I really want to know what you were saying. I can't say it on the pod, I can tell you. This is like, I got reprimanded. Text it to me. Yeah, text it to me right now. I mean, I can tell you right now, but Thomas has to beep it or cut it out. Or plug his ears. I said, I was saying, we're going to cut wood and make real vegetables and then I'm going to f*** you in the p***y.

okay hopefully that's beeped out and you can imagine it but what i'll say about it is that it was so direct like what i i was anticipating But it was very direct. That was great. It's because the lesbians that we were meeting that were in a couple, they loved each other. They'd been together for years and were so into each other still.

And I loved it. So we were saying that the Icelandic, that's how they talk to each other. Yeah, I like that. I like that. I think this is the answer for life is to be... Out of the city in nature with your sturdy woman eating root vegetables. I'm in the city. You're in New York. Yeah, with my entire family. And we've had root vegetables. And how were they? They were great.

They were great. Iceland's known for the root vegetables. They don't have many fruits there. Yeah, they have to grow everything in greenhouses, basically, right? Yeah, they don't have the eat your morning fruits song because they don't have a lot of fruits. Do you think they sing...

Eat your morning roots. Eat your morning roots. Good one, babe. Morning roots. Morning roots. But y'all know... Y'all know... how much i love sitting in water yeah i heard yeah for hours at a time but in iceland you it's so common like that's part of their culture is just being in water and being in saunas and i love all of this

Yeah, me too. And their water comes from their, like, it's natural. Yeah, it's geothermal. Yeah, it's geothermal and it's hot. And their water bills are, like, non-existent there. That's another good reason. I'll challenge you to a hot tub sitting competition. Really? Because I could sit in a hot tub for hours. Same. Same. My family is blown away. I will sit alone.

Same. In a hot tub for four hours. Same. And just stare off and think and do nothing. And Stephanie will be like, are you okay? I'm like, I'm great. Same, bud. I could sit forever. I'm picturing like the sun goes down, everyone's in bed and just looking out the window and seeing your little silhouette tag in the hot tub, just contemplating life. Yeah.

And sometimes barely even having a thought at all. I think you would love Iceland. I have wanted to go for years. You can like just rent a cottage there and it comes with a hot tub and a sauna. Come on. Go look into it. And a root vegetable. Get in touch with Pink Iceland. Those ladies will give you so much great information. They're incredible. All right. Tig, what are you up to in New York? We are just...

Traveling along, a little family. We went to the Yankees game last night. That's huge for Max and Finn. right yes yes it was massive um and some friends of ours with really really spectacular seats um hooked us up and they had I mean, one of the best nights and days of their lives because they got to go to batting practice. They got to be down on the field with the players. Whoa. Like it was the chef cooked us like.

our own vegan menu personal menu what it was and the chef fancy friends it was so over the top and it was so generous of our friends to give us these tickets yeah And anyway, and we're going to go see Wicked. Aw. Yeah. And there's a vegan restaurant that we've been excited to try out here.

So we're going to go to that. How do Max and Finn show their excitement? Like at a baseball game like that, where it's like their dream experience, are they like chatty or are they kind of stunned, wide-eyed? Well... They're very chatty, just in general. They're very, they're not shy kids. A lot of people comment on how they seem like little men because, you know, Finn has all of his stats and, you know, the history of all the different stadiums. And so somebody will say something casually like.

oh yeah you like the whatever well my team is this and he's like oh yeah well you know now they got that uh bigger budget and then they use their money on blah blah player and so that really uh you know and the guy's like Wow. Yeah, that's true. I don't know if they got a bigger budget. I don't know the terminology or how to talk like that. But but yeah, they.

When we were at the restaurant, they were talking to everybody near us and our waitstaff. And, you know, they're just very engaged. Yeah. Is what I will say. Can you imagine if you went back in time and...

And I told you, like your future kids that haven't been born yet, they're going to be these two twin boys who are... baseball aficionados and love to chat like it's so specific and you can't predict those things what kids will be into and what they'll like it's so wild and it's also so wild that my life is baseball and sports all the time. Like, and they're on travel teams. So like my weekends when I'm home, I'm driving with Stephanie and Max and Finn everywhere. And we're gone every weekend.

And we're sitting in bleachers. And then during the weekdays, we are at baseball practice. And when we're home, we're watching baseball and we're. it's a lot yeah my nephew is on a travel baseball team and all my brother and his wife do is travel yeah it's it's really something but you know it's like

There's definitely days where you're like, oh my gosh, I do not feel like going to baseball practice or a baseball game three hours away or whatever. But really, it's like... pretty great that they are interested and out doing stuff you know yeah that's the really positive thing and we we also we were we just came from denver we went to andrea's

Andrea Gibson's memorial, which was at this place. It used to be called the Mercury Cafe. And it's been around for decades. And it is. It's been the heart of artists in Denver, painters, poets. musicians, comedians, people just always going there, having food, performing, watching others perform. And it's where Andrea first started poetry. It's now called The Pearl.

But they haven't really changed it a bit. And it's just such an incredible place. And L.A. and New York and so many places are known for their... artists and creativity, but I'm telling you the people I came up with in Colorado are some of the most incredible. incredible artists and Andrea being one of them. And it was so beautiful because there was a private memorial at the Mercury, or as people call it, the Merc, at the Merc.

Different friends spoke and then they opened the doors and it was open to the public and poets from every corner of everywhere. came to town and they and every it went all night for hours just different poets doing andrea's truly greatest hits and that is what is so wild as i was sitting there going Oh, my gosh. These are hit poems. Yeah. And the audience, it was over capacity. They're.

you know, saying the poems along with Andrea's friends and other poets that came in town. And it was just really so beautiful. And the talent, I cannot express enough. The talent. In not just the poetry world, but in Colorado, in Denver, Boulder, those areas, I just, I'm so proud to. to know these people and um andrea has made so many tremendous friends i just feel like it's amazing to have a poet like andrea like break

I feel like recently there haven't been a lot of contemporary poets that are, because it used to be like the beat poets or in the olden times, poets were the coolest, the most sort of. Stephanie said the other day. She was like, you know, it's wild is not many poets are known by name. Yeah. And she was like, and from now on, Andrea Gibson has become. And will continue to become a poet that you know by name. And it is just phenomenal to me. The reaction to that episode that we did was so amazing.

Yeah, and oh my gosh, when I walked through, I mean, so many places that I've been, but especially in Denver and Boulder and at the Mercury. cafe also known as the pearl now people came up to me and just really expressed how appreciative they were that we really got into that and that it was helpful for their grieving and so That just meant a lot because it was a very authentic moment that we accidentally deep dove into. So I really appreciate all of the kind.

thoughts and words and expressions and so yeah very handsome community very handsome yeah it's so interesting like you know gathering in that way for this unfortunate situation but what a magical night that Andrea Andrea and Andrea's legacy brought together such an amazing group of people it was so it was such a beautiful beautiful night we should do a show in colorado i've never been i'd love to go and and oh my gosh yeah

Oh, my gosh. We would be slammed. We would be slammed. You know I like getting slammed. We should do it. We should figure it out then. I mean, we should. And it would be incredible to include some poets in the show. Heck yeah. Anyway, that's what I've been up to. We're all having very healing summers in a way. Absolutely. Yeah. Absolutely. Except for that hot dog, which I left the remnants outside because I was hoping it would lure the raccoons. Oh, you don't want to lure the raccoons in.

I want to get a photo of a raccoon by the time I leave on my film camera. And I've positioned the cameras like by all the windows in case I see one. But won't there be like eight of them? I want that. All the better. But the point is, I know that's irresponsible. What if bears come? But the point is... In the morning, not a single animal had touched that hot dog and it just made me realize that it's plastic. There's no real food in that. Oh my gosh.

That is so funny. Even the animals are like, no thanks. It's not a hot dog. I have to say, it didn't look like a great hot dog. No, of course not. I don't know what you did to it. I don't know. It's more what I didn't do. Like cook it properly or. Yeah. Summer is winding down and that's a little bittersweet, but there's also something nice about settling back into more of a regular routine. Being home more often is a chance to reflect on my space and my style.

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Andrea's friend, Buddy, who was living with Andrea in the end to help. He was an EMT previously, but also an incredible poet. He wrote about how... There was this marathon in Boulder that he and Andrea stumbled upon one day. And they were cheering on. all of the runners like that were trailing behind. And he was saying like, we had no idea that this was our passion in life was to like cheer on exhausted runners. And the way he wrote this, in fact, I want to.

to reach out to him and get a copy of it it was so beautiful but he just told this beautiful story and in the end he said that was ultimately what andrea did in life was cheer on exhausted runners in this world oh i love that

Oh my God, it was so beautiful. Anyway, I just had to acknowledge that it just popped in my mind. Yeah. It was really, really beautiful. Should we get to our question? Yeah, let's do it. Yeah, why not? I'm very excited. Today's question, Oscar, we've wanted...

to have her ask a question for so long. I'm so excited. She's a comedian, actor, writer, and producer who co-created and starred in Broad City. She also co-created and starred in the TV adaptation of A League of Their Own, which was so good and so... steamy and starred in No Good Deed on Netflix. She also directed my standout special, Sap. Abby Jacobson is asking today's question. Nice. Okay. Here we go. Okay, I'm curious. Do you guys feel like you've found like a personal style? And...

I'm asking this because like sometimes I see someone I'm like god they just like really tapped into their look and their vibe and they clearly feel really good and confident in what they're wearing and you know it's like it's a thing that like exudes from them do you guys feel like you have that and if so like what is it when did you find it yeah great question Personal style. By the way, the Broad City show that Abby and Alana created and starred in, one of my favorite shows of all time.

Yeah. It is so funny to the point where I actually want to go back and start it again and watch it all over again. It may, it used to make me cackle. It's so rewatchable. Yeah. It was ridiculous and so good. I think Abby has a personal style. I'm interested to hear her answer. I think other people looking at the three of us would say we have a very distinct... personal style but i don't know if i feel that or do you guys feel that i feel like as far as personal style um lesbian

Right. I just feel like I would have that style too. Yeah. I always tell people that if I ever go missing, I'm scared I'll never be found again because I'm. like five, five brown hair, brown, I mean, graying and. just look like a generic lesbian. I always am surprised when people recognize me because I'm like, how did anybody recognize me? I look like the most generic lesbian wandering around.

No, I don't think you were like generic at all. I guess that's what I wanted to hear. Chisel jaw, Tom Cruise, wearing kind of simple masculine staples, good quality cottons. You know, like quality cottons. Yes. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And I think I like earth tones. Yeah. You like a brown and a green. That's another reason you wouldn't be found if you were lost. You'd wander off in the forest and you'd blend in. Yeah, the wild animals are...

feeding off of my carcass. But anyway, that's my style. Better that than the hot dog. Anything but that hot dog. That giant squirrel that's around here, he could... Eat in one sitting. Now I, to go back to your meal in quotes, why two pieces of, why two Doritos? I've also left out the most embarrassing part of. the meal, which was that I did have a sort of date up here who I was trying to impress. Oh no, that was the meal for the date?

That's what I served her. So it was like a garnish, two Doritos. It was a garnish. May, that is precious. That would have been the time to make the pasta. I know. Because I've been making pasta. I don't know. I panicked. What are we doing having a hot dog date? I thought I might look good on the grill. Was this a lady, a man, or a lady? This is a lady who I thought.

I'm going to just stand and grill these hot dogs that couldn't get the grill working, had to do it in a front pan. Only had these weird flavored chips. They weren't even Doritos. They were like no name brand. And then these two little gherkins. But you knew this day was happening? Yeah. And then I got overwhelmed with meal prep. I had a big plan for the meal. Wait, this was prepped? Yeah, I was going to say that's overwhelmed. This meal was prepped. Yeah.

I just, I don't know. Someone had to open the bag of Doritos. Oh, no. I thought it would be a simple and nostalgic, you know, summer meal. You didn't even steam the buns. Hello, who's to say Mae didn't steam the buns, you know? I don't know. Mae, did you steam the buns? Well, what I actually did is I put the buns on top of the toaster. I balanced them on top of the toaster slots. I turned the toaster on thinking it would toast the buns gently. It burned them black and it was smoke coming off.

Then I had to do it again and watch them. And so what did this lady eat your offering? We picked at it. We, you know, she took a picture of it. Did she have a sense of humor about it? Oh yeah. Adorable how you prepped for this. And this is all I got. She was. Suitably appalled, I think, but also it's a good, it's a good anecdote with the photo evidence of how bleak it was. Did you leave her with a t-shirt that said, I went on a date with May Martin and all I got was this hot dog?

Well, I was trying to justify the presentation. I was like, how cool is it that a hot dog can be the main and also a side? Like you got an extra wiener on the side. Yeah, you did a hot dog and a bun and then a side of hot dog. Yeah. and anyway my personal style is even a burger even a burger would have been a better oh of course anything charcuterie board like hot dog falls on the bottom of the barrel

Yeah. List of things to serve on a date. Like we were at the Yankees game and we didn't even have hot dogs. Like you had a full meal. It's like making someone a like a grilled cheese, which that might have even been better.

I love a grilled cheese. Then you should have done grilled cheese. I know. I know. You should have done grilled cheese. I don't know. Are we allowed to ask? Did you at least smooch? Did you get... yeah fortune that's so private you know may doesn't give up details i needed to know if this hot dog led to something it was more like

The hot dog came at the end of a day of stuff. So it was like, I was exhausted. We were worn out. I was, we'd run out of time to prep the, you know, that, that was more of the situation. Oh, you got the smooching in first. Yes. So if I had. It wasn't like I needed the meal to seal the deal, you know? The deal was sealed. Yeah. Before the meal. You were too exhausted to even make something proper. Got it. Well, that's a different story. Do you want to see this person again?

Yeah, listen. Off the pod. Yeah, listen. Personal style. My personal style. What's your personal style, bud? Well, I've had this haircut my whole life except for two years, 13 to 15, when I went high femme. like grew my hair out so I feel like I do have a distinctive look but I but clothes I really struggled with and I held on to skinny jeans for a long time after everyone else had moved on and now I feel like I'm just settling into like

Yeah, good, nice jeans, nice, simple things. Anyway, how was that? You love a white tee. That's the most boring answer. You love a white tee and a black tee and black jeans. Yeah, white tee, black jeans. Black tee, blue jeans. And you definitely have a distinct style with your hair for sure. I'm going back blonder. I'm using sun in that spray from the nineties that you, you know, you spray it. Yeah. This is what I was.

My friend said, you're using sun and does it work? And I said, yeah, it's, you're just spraying bleach on your head. And then I kind of heard what I just said, like I'm spraying bleach onto my head. Yeah. That can't be good. I don't know if you guys saw, you know, we received some incredible fan art for the show. Let's see it. And our socials posted some of that. They periodically post this fan art.

All three of our hairs, our hairs, head of hairs, what would you call this? Heads of hair. Heads of hair. All three of our heads of hairs. Hairdos. Was put on a vibrator. With ties. Oh, I saw this. On like a wand. Yes, I saw that. So I would say we are pretty distinct because I didn't know who everyone was. You knew which vibrator was who. I know which vibrator. hair um it was your hair on a vibrator there it is thomas marie come by with us it's so funny our listeners are so creative yeah yeah

So we, yeah, the hairstyles are styling. Fortune, you are a fan of a... wait i have to go back yeah go back tig don't leave any stone unturned no i still wear skinny jeans what do i do about this is it a problem may how skinny are they i don't know i mean tig is skinny

I think you can pull it off. I think the tick they're just called jeans. Right. I just started getting a lot of flack of people saying you can't wear those anymore. It's a straight leg or even if you're... boldly hipster jeans right now yeah so baggy too baggy i think i don't want baggy jeans yeah what if what if i just want to just go ahead and wear the pants i already have

I think you can, Tig. Okay. This is what I need to learn from you. It's the way that you own it and are confident about it. It's like people can pick up that I'm like, is it okay that I wear these jeans are still skinny? And then they go, no, you got to change. And I go, okay. But if I just went, hey, I love my jeans. Maybe people will be like, where'd you get them? I got to get some.

I think you owning your own thing will be helpful. Me? Yeah, I really don't care if people like what I'm wearing or not. Yeah, you got your holes covered. That's all that's important. I've worn some horrific outfits. What did they say? You got your holes covered. She said you got your holes covered. That's all that matters. But I guess in the Adam and Eve times, that's all they did, right? Covered holes. Cover the holes, cover the nips.

Free the nip. Let's see them titties. My son Max wrote a poem the other day called Big Feet and One Purple Nipple. That's what's up. I'm sorry, what? In Andrea's memory, yesterday would have been Andrea's 50th birthday, and we were... you know, doing some Andrea style poetry, but with silly topics. And that's what Max came up with is big feet and one purple nipple. And then he ended it with y'all, which is how Andrea.

would do but anyway andrew would have loved that absolutely i let meg know and she was thrilled oh any hoodles do squirrels have nipples oh thomas can you google please

What if it said squirrels have one big purple nipple? Yes, they have nipples. Thank God we got to the bottom of that. So what's your style, Fortune? Because you wear a lot of t-shirts with phrases on them. Yeah. Look at this. Des Moines. Hell yeah. Oh, hell yeah. I love Iowa. This is just someone from Des Moines gave me this shirt and it's super comfortable.

Therefore I wear it. That's your style. That's my style. Yeah. You wear what fans send. Yeah. As long as it's, as long as it's comfortable, if it's a scratchy, you know, those thick scratchy tees. I don't wear those.

okay right and so if anyone gives me one of those thank you but i'm not gonna wear it but if it's like a nice cozy like soft cotton tea that's i will wear that for sure we should come up with some weird thing to put on the t-shirt because we know you'll wear a free yeah i don't care what it says it says des moines hell yes Is that part of it? Because you're good with money. Do you like shopping or not like it? And you're just like, so it's easier to wear merch. I mean, I will say. City merch.

I have in the last year really been enjoying wearing suits. Yes. So when I've had to... elevate for something like I hosted the you know Jimmy Kimmel show um and I wore three really fun suits and I really enjoyed that process of yeah uh with his uh the show stylist that they each had fun colors and the shirts were like vibrant i like so i've been enjoying experimenting with suits and colors and patterns that's been a real treat now i don't wear a suit obviously and

everyday life. I'm not like Paul Feig. Um, but I, I just, when there's an event or something that requires me dressing up, I'm really into suits right now. Yeah. Good to know. I once had a suit made, like tailored, and I thought that would be good. And then he said, do you want to embroider like a secret message to yourself on the pocket inside?

I wasn't prepared for the question and I went, yeah, let it be. I'm so embarrassed when I go, this is so corny. Let it be. Let it be. In my suit. Why is that corny? I don't know. It's like the most obvious Beatlesy thing. I should have gone, you know. I am the walrus. Yeah, I'm the walrus. Or cuckoo ca-choo. Cuckoo ca-choo. Yeah. I said cuckoo, caroo. Really? You said cuckoo, caroo? I don't listen to the Beatles very much. Okay, clearly. But yeah, my style is just being comfortable.

yeah where it's taking i'm being comfortable and uh same deal and my hair like you're like you said my my hair has been this style and cut for probably 23 years. Wow. I like how specific. You're keeping track of it. Roughly 23. It was like around college. 23 and a half years I've been having this. I discovered my hair kind of was a triangle a little bit in high school. And then I learned about layers. Wait, did nobody else around you know about layers? No, nobody told me. Hey, girl.

Like Gilda Radner's character. Triangle head. A thick triangle head. yeah and uh amazing we'll discover once i discovered layers i was like i like this let's stick with it but like what else would my hair even be i don't pigtails it's so like what it is you know Curly hair is hard, right? Yeah, people straighten it. I look insane. Well, I'm picturing your character, Brenda, has straight hair, right? She does. That's a wig. That's a wig, right. Because I was straight in it.

straightening it to do that character and I was like this is not gonna fly I cannot do this every time I do this character so I just got a wig I wonder if any of us

have like a big style makeover in our future or have we landed pretty much where we're at? Oh, I know I don't. Like if someone comes and looks very different. Yeah. Yeah, I think Tig's done. I'm done. I'm just getting more gorgeous the older I get, so that I can't help. Yeah. Right. No, you are. Sorry. That's a sincere, yeah. I wonder, like in the old days, like in the 60s, people wore such colorful, fun things, and now it feels like pretty normcore. I just love it.

Of all people weighing in on style, us. I mean, we are handsome. We're the hottest style influencers. Wearing t-shirts. I will say, though, on our... picture for our podcast we do look very handsome yes we do so when we were feeling ourselves that day when the three of us actually try we we can really turn it out

My hair's looking way grayer than when we first started the podcast. Should I dye my hair? No, don't dye it. You're rocking it. Okay. Yeah, I like your hair. It's cool. Okay. All right. Everyone calm down. I think if you dyed it, it would be like a solid block color, and this has many dimensions. Well, I just, I'm having...

these moments where I, and I've talked about this before, how, you know, working with different actors, they've clearly had Botox or different work done. And I just thought, wouldn't it be fun if I just showed up with my hair dyed? Botox in my forehead and got my teeth dyed, bleached white. My teeth dyed. Whatever. My teeth dyed. Purple teeth.

I just thought it would be so funny to show up with just dark hair, white teeth, and Botox in my forehead. And like lip filler and cheekbone. Oh, I would love to see you with a little bit of this. No, nothing too extreme. But just something where I'm kind of keeping up, you know, with Kim Kardashian. Yeah. I'm always trying to keep up with that one. Big old ass. Get an ass implant. Yes. You never know. I have a pretty good idea. Yeah, you feel like you're set.

Old dumpster tits over there is set. Don't call me that. Should we hear what Abby has to say? Yes, please. Okay. I'm going to answer the question. May told me I have to answer the question, which I didn't realize until now. I think I asked this question because I'm really curious. when people find their style because I struggle with it and sometimes I feel like I got it.

And sometimes I'm like, what the fuck did I, what was I wearing there? What was I thinking? You know, I think the moments I'm so sorry. I'm like truly like walking around New York. The moments where I felt most confident were like, when I stick to like a classic sort of basic and when I've sort of found a uniform for myself.

Oh, I'm rambling. I don't know if I have it. I think this is a never-ending question and something that is sort of always evolving as we change because like our styles change and like the way we feel most comfortable.

and confident changes right whoa so did i ask a question that can't be answered i'm sorry It is always evolving. And I'm glad she didn't get run over by a car. Yeah. That felt like an episode of Broad Cities. I did feel like that. Yeah. I definitely have gone back and seen pictures online that I'm horrified.

by what i'm wearing i know i went through a sweater vest phase that wasn't great yes and i went through a vest phase that wasn't great what was the other one that wasn't great sweater vest and vest Vests are great. Sweater vests are great, said the one that dresses like a lesbian. There was a period of time where my t-shirts were a little too short.

I like a cropped tee. I'm not supposed to be wearing a cropped tee. Supposed. What is supposed? Were you wearing a cropped tee to like pick up a dude? Were you like, hey. Was it in those days? Me? Yeah. I was never picking up dudes. But when you thought you were straight. The dudes were interested. They certainly didn't want me in a crop tee.

But I'm saying, is that why you were wearing one? No, I wasn't purposely wearing a crop tee. I wore t-shirts that were just too short. It was an accident. Okay. It wasn't like I was like, it wasn't like. this it was like just shy of my belly like my belly was poking out we're all doing our best you know so yeah i don't love to google myself from the past because some of those outfits

And on red carpets, too, where I knew my picture was being taken. I looked horrible. It's good to have a couple of friends who are brutally honest with you.

I was about to do a red carpet for my friend's show and I was with her and she said, is that what you're wearing? And it was a big swing, like a kind of Harry Styles-esque, like floral jacket. And I was like... no you're right this is insane and then just wore a white t-shirt felt much better see back to your style I was on I was on a red carpet with Reese Witherspoon one time and she is really good at

giving me a hard time. And I happen to be wearing a long black coat on the... and she turns while we're being interviewed and points out cat hair all over my um black jacket she's like is this cat hair I was like, probably. Yes, it probably is. From Kitty City. Yeah, Kitty City made its way out here. Well, our podcast is all about handsome being whatever it is.

to you that's right handsome is in the eye of the beholder as well you're handsome to people for different reasons and you're handsome to yourself for different reasons and Your style can be whatever it is you want. As long as you feel good fortune. That's right. That's what being handsome is. Yeah. We're a handsome trio. And, um, thanks Abby for.

The question. Yeah. Thanks, Abby. We're all very confused about our own styles. I know. That's what it seems like. I will say I was at Abby's wedding and she looked stunning in what she chose to wear. And weddings are hard. Yeah. And I always think Abby looks very stylish. It's the classics. It's yeah, it's interesting when you when you see that certain people that you think look great doubt.

how they look. I know. You're like, you look like a million bucks, kid. You look like a million bucks. You look like a million bucks, kid. Well, that was a delightful episode.

I'm going to tell you what I'm up to, folks. I am going to be at Dynasty Typewriter in Los Angeles on September 21st. And then I'm going to be at the Beau Ravage Resort and Casino. September 27th in Biloxi, Mississippi. Check tignotaro.com for more dates because the show, the road goes on forever. Ever. This weekend, I'm in Spokane, Washington at the Great Outdoors Comedy Festival. Then I have San Antonio and Houston, Texas, and then Norfolk and Richmond, Virginia.

Washington, D.C., Portland, Maine, Boston, Mobile, Alabama, New Orleans, and Atlanta, a bunch of other stuff, Salt Lake, Chicago, Fresno, San Jose. Tickets at my website, fortunebeamster.com. I have a Largo show in LA on September 17th. Yeah, and I really want people to come. It's going to be a really fun, special one. And then Wayward is coming out on Netflix September 25th. So I'm just getting pumped for that. Yeah, the trailer looks so good. Thanks, man.

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