No. 22: 365 Days Later + Living With Intention + Normalizing Black Joy.

out and have a good time. What's up, friends and ken, It is none other than Mimi Resident Auntie Supreme here at Hammy My Purse the Podcast, and today I am sipping on a black totty. No, not a hot totty. It is a black totty. And this is brought to you by my favorite mixtress of adult beverages, the Guru herself of Fancy who creations the one and only Bedroom Bartender. And I'm sure you're wondering what is a black totty? Well, Gina, creator of the Bedroom Bartender, created this drink for me

as a way to close out black history mind. She told me she was watching the new Billy Holiday film on Hulu, which is entitled The United States Versus Billy Holliday. The title alone has me intrigued, but she says she was watching that and it made her think about the things that singers have to do to prepare their voice for performance, and about Billy Holliday's pain and trauma, and that it made her think about celebrating the parts of our blackness that we sometimes don't like to embrace out

loud and in public. And she said that Auntie Billy Holiday was definitely a dark liquor kind of woman, or that's what she gives off as darker liquors can sometimes be a healing bomb for vocals. So a black totty consists of black tea, ginger, honey, dark liquor like a bourbon, a conac or whiskey, and lemon. And so I will post a photo of the ingredients that Gina gave me to make this drink very very nice. Listen, a curated drink. It is a good situation. And I can't even lie

to y'all. I have said before on this show that hot toddies are my jam this here. Black Totty is my new jam is so good, and sometimes I make hot Toddies and they are really strong and not as pleasant to drink. This is amazing. It is of course, it's hot, rich, but not too heavy. The ti use was a black chi Ta and this is the first time I've ever used one of those honey spoon things. I don't really know what they're called, because I'm not that fancy. I don't use those. But either way, the

drink is amazing. It's hot. It is like opening up my chest, you know. It ain't nothing like a little brown liquor to open your chest up. The lemon makes it refreshing, so it's not, you know, like heavy, but it's it's rich and not rich as in heavy, but it's rich as it's rich in flavor. So make sure you check the show notes out so that you can go to the Bedroom Bartender's website and follow her on Instagram and see what she has cooking up over there.

Because here at hand me my purse, we support black business and you should too. She has amazing hand poured soy candles. The scents are really unique, so it's not like all of the smells that you would smell at you know, TJ Max or even like your high end candles like Joe Malone. It's not going to be like that. Although Joe Malone candles are the bomb, but they are not created or fashioned after high end adult beverages. How about that they also are not created by a black woman.

So then there is that she has self care kids that are awesome. Another thing I like about her candles is that they don't smell fake and like waxy, you know, because that can be an issue. But anyway, she has self care kids that include bath salts, candles, and special additions to help you create the adult beverage that is associated with the kid, like she has one for Hot Coco. You can listen to the episode episode number eighteen I believe,

or it might be nineteen. No, it's the bonus episode for the holiday where she goes more into what she has on the website. But it's like the best of all the world, supreme self care. It's like me time on a thousand and She has also thrown a self care code because here at Him and My Purse, we don't call them promo codes, we call them self care codes. She threw them one for you guys, and this will

only apply until the next episode comes out. So from March first today until the fifteenth of March, you can use the code Billy and that's b I L l I E and get free shipping on any order over fifty dollars. Go to the show notes check her out. Now let's get into the sham and get this party started. So, friends in Kim. For today's jam, I decided to go

to one of our black geniuses, our creative geniuses. I went to Prince and I chose a song that is definitely one of his more obscure songs for people who are not like heavy Prince fans. I decided to go with a song that if you're not a heavy Prince Fee you probably wouldn't know unless you have a kid who watches Sesame Street and you happen to see him performing it on Sesame Street. That song is called Starfish

and Coffee. It's an amazing song. And I tried my best guys to keep up the spirit of finding and sharing with you guys really good covers. But I hit a wall. Okay, you know that I tried to go to covers by black people first, and if I can't find one with a black person. I go to people of color, and usually I'm able to find something within those parameters. But this time, you guys let me down, like big time, and I found a couple of them.

But then I saw this assist, this black lady. She's a teacher and she was playing an acoustic guitar and teaching the song. Well she had already taught it to them. But there was a group of like maybe between fifteen and twenty five little kids, they had to be under six, six and under, singing Starfish and Coffee. They were screaming to the top of their lungs. They were clapping off beat. It was amazing. And the only reason that it was

amazing was because the kids were really cute. And to see little kids sing a print song and clap offbeat. I love when people dance and clap offbeat. I know it's evil, it's not evil. That's not evil. If you want to talk about evil, well, if you want to talk about evil, please stay tuned for the episodes that are released on March the fifteenth, because we're talking about

evil things. But it is petty. But when I tell you that, it brings me a different kind of joy when I see people that can't dance or that can't catch the beat, because it's like I don't understand it, so it makes me giggle and laugh. I don't know why, but anyway, the kids are really cute. They're all kinds kids, White kids, Black kids, Latino kids, Asian kids. They're singing their little hearts out. The sister she has this acoustic guitar.

She's playing the song. They're singing, they're screaming. It's a good time. So we're about to get into Starfishing Coffee performed by a cover of Starfishing Coffee performed by the Community the Community Roots Charter School. You know it's gonna be good, So sit back, get into the jam, listen to it. But make sure that you go and you listen to the real version, which I also linked in the show notes. Make sure you listen to the real version and just enjoy. Enjoy the kids. Man. Now let's

get into the show. Yea. So, friends and Ken today, first and foremost, hello again. Even though I just said hello about five minutes ago, I wanted to say it again to you. Today. We are just gonna have a little dialogue, a little conversation about a couple of little things that I've been thinking about. First, let me say that, can y'all believe that it has been a whole damn three hundred and sixty five days, an entire year since I released the very first episode of this show, which

was a trailer, a whole year. March first, twenty I released the trailer, just giving y'all a little glimpse into what I thought I was planning to share with you in on April first, which is the official day that I launched this podcast. That's like the observed holiday, because that's the day that I said, I'm here, I'm here,

We're here, us is here. We as together. So this show, this podcast was definitely berthed or I gave birth to it at the top of a global pandemi as I'm calling it now, because I changed the name all the time. So I started this podcast at the top of the pandemi. And although that is when she was born, I'm gonna let it be as she. She's an auntie, respect her pronouns. But it's still thriving, it's still going, and I don't

plan on going anywhere anytime soon. And you know, it still amazes me that I have listeners on every single continent with the exception of Antarctica, as I have said before, that I know of because they could be listening, it's just that they're not tracking for it. They're not checking for Antarctica, okay, and for me, like that's some dope shit. It actually still blows my mind that people actually still

listen to me regularly. And I think that, like I have the words, but I can't really express to you in full like how that makes me feel. I have been a talker since I realized that I could speak words, and even before I spoke words, I probably made a lot of sounds. And I think about all those times that people have told me in my life that I talk too much, which happens still to this day, and I think about the times where people have shushed me.

I just want you to know that I'm gonna just keep on talking, just an fy because talking works for me. It's always worked for me, and I'm not gonna stop talking. So do with that with you will, moving forward, as I did in November for the close of the first season of Handing My Purse. On April the first for the Handing My purse, first birthday or anniversary. I haven't really decided what I'm going to call it yet. Either way,

there's going to be a celebration, a virtual celebration. Since we are still not really able to convene in person, there will be a celebration. Plus I don't really play around with the pandemic like that, so so yeah, we will just be playing virtually until we make some serious progress out here in these COVID streets, because folks are still out here while in for respect and playing games and I'm good, no grassis, I don't want to play

around with it because no, thank you. Please make sure to pay attention, pay close attention to my Instagram for how to be a part of this event. I'm really excited that it's going to be a celebration. I really haven't figured out exactly how I'm going to put it all together, but I guess I got about twenty one days to figure it out. Actually, I have about fifteen days to figure it out to be really honest, based on what I'm thinking that I'm going to do. But

it will be virtual. I'm really excited. I can't wait for outside to open back up so that we can gather and celebrate in person. I want to meet so many of you, unless you are a psychopath, because if so, I don't want to meet you and we can just talk, you know, we can just keep it real instagrammy, how about that? But celebrating is a must. I celebrate all of the winds. I want to normalize celebrating all of the winds, no matter how small or how big. One

of my favorite words is grandiose. So if I say it a lot, now you understand why how small, how grandiose. It's important to celebrate ourselves and to celebrate one another. And a lot of times people think it's silly to celebrate these moments like okay, you made it to a year or so what. But that kind of tells me a lot about that person as a human and how they process like emotional information, and it tells me about

their emotional intelligence. And another thing is that I've seen online people particularly black particularly is a hard word to say if you say it fast, particularly of course, and then I said right that time, right, anyway, I've seen a lot of people online, particularly black women. While I said it perfect that time too. Sorry anyway, I digress black women online talking a lot about normalizing luxury for

black women, which I fully goddamn support. We shouldn't even have to normalize it because it should just be a part of our damn existence and without anybody questioning it or having anything to say about it. However, I kind of feel more importantly that it is important for us to normalize or focus on the concept of normalizing the celebration of wh all of our wins, whatever they look like.

And it's funny, you know, I had this show already and outlined, but just today I talked to my little brother, who definitely believes he is a fashion guru, and quite frankly, the kid wears some pretty amazing outfits. He has pretty good style, he's pretty dope. But shout out to my

little brother Isaiah. I love that kid. Anyway, he posted on Instagram some in his stories, very nonchalantly that some Instagram fashion accounts or some style accounts on Instagram have featured him, like four of them, not like one, like four different ones, and the posts were like a month and some change old. So I sent him a DM like what's up with this? And sent all these celebration emojis, and I was like, yes, yes, I'm so proud of you.

Why didn't you share these before or tell me about him, to which he said that it wasn't really a big deal. And I told him, Oh, you're a damn lie. This is a big deal. This is great, This is you know, important, because this is important to you. You put a lot of effort into you know, how you dress, in your style, and for you to be acknowledged for it, like that's a thing. And in twenty twenty one, were celebrating all

the winds Homie, like all of them. This is major and I'm proud of you and you are the man. My other brother, my middle brother, he was in a music video last year with Snoop Dog, So I was like, I'm really excited for you, Like you know, me and my cousins we were like, all right, we see you out here winning in videos with Snoop Dog, like hobnobbing with snobs, okay, And I did the whole proud big

sister thing again with him. Well out again. This was before this, because this just happened, but it's a major thing. We celebrate wins all day and day. That's what we're doing. And in a world where our lives mean so little to so many people, and even people who look like us. So let's just sit in that for him in at first. And no, I'm not only speaking about black on black crime. People always going to pull that out, you know, and not that it's not important or that it's not something

that needs to be addressed. But that's not the only way that we tear each other down right in this life. Think about all the ways that it manifests itself in our daily lives, in our culture. Anyway. We need to celebrate ourselves, and we need to celebrate one another. We need to love up on each other. We need to cheer for each other. We need to be each other's greatest hype women and hype men and hype people. And we need to do this often for each other. We

need to do it regularly. It needs to be something that is a part of our everyday movement because the truth of the matter is that if we don't do it for one another, who will Please tell me that? I kind of feel like not celebrating our own winds individually and collectively is an indirect act of self loathing. So yes, normalize luxury. Absolutely, yes normalize celebrating one another and ourselves. But more importantly, how about we normalize black joy? Oop?

Because it is not something that is I think it's not something that I feel is socially acceptable for black people to just be happy for no reason, Like there always has to be something up with it. It always has to be like a catch, you know what I mean? So why don't we start with normalizing black joy? Boom? There we go, woomp, there it is. I thought you knew. That's the pie. That's the whole pie. We can slice this pie up, however, we choose for T shirts, for

likes on Instagram, for all of the things. We can slice it up and present it in different ways with the keys to start normalizing joy for black folks because we deserve to be happy. God damn, it's the very least that we could do is just be happy. Okay, think about it. Have you ever been in a joyous mood or you know, been in a really good mood? Well, let's just start with that shit start over. Have you ever been in a joyous mood? Because some of y'all I don't know, But have you ever been in a

really joyful mood? Or your energy has really been up in light and somebody says to you, what are you so happy for? Or why are you in such a good mood? Or something to that effect that concept and just saying that to someone is crazy to me. And I know that I've done it in the past, and it's still insane. I ain't exempt. But the truth is, and I say this all the time, what is the

alternative to me being in a good mood? I remember some years ago, it's probably like ten or fifteen years ago, my cousin Julia, who is a social worker, told me a story once about how someone at her job said something like that to her, and her response was just that, what is the alternative? And when I tell you that thing sad with me and I still carry it around with me to this day because the truth of the matter is, like, let's just keep it real. What is

the damn alternative? Like, what are my other options? Being gloomy and sad and riddled with melancholy and sullen and all of the other synonyms that mean sad and gloomy and down not actively seeking out moments of joy and bliss, just down down bad, as they're saying. I think the kids say that now he was down bad I was down bad. I can't remember, you know, I've been I've been away from kids for a long time. It's time for me to get back around some kids because I

need to learn some new slang. I feel like I'm losing my cool auntie mojo. I need to get it back. But like, who wants to be the human manifestation of Yore? Raise your hand? I know I can't see it, but raise your hand anyway. Raise your hand if you know somebody who is like the human embodiment of Yore from what's the little name Winnie the Pooh. I'm getting old.

Raise your hand if you know a human or because I know a couple of them and being around them sometimes can literally be draining on my spirit, because really that's exactly what some of you folks are out there in these streets, just out here walking around, just being sad and spread and gloom and doom everywhere you go. But you know, like, we got to do better than that. We owe it to ourselves. We owe it to ourselves first and foremost for ourselves. We gotta do better for

our families. We have to do better for our friends, for our communities, for our children, and for the future generational melancholy and generational sadness better known as generational trauma. And this is just one of the ways that it manifests like it ain't what's up? We need to be out here trying to be all different types of happy, finding all different types of joy. Stop it, friends like we deserve better. So to our ancestors, they didn't die for us to be out here moping around and stuff

and the words a little duvall smile, bitch, smile. So I'm sure that some of you are wondering how doth one turn this state of melancholy around? Mimi. I can just hear y'all ask, and I can feel into my spirit. And if you ain't asking, you should because you might be a human manifestation of Yore. And if you are, and nobody has told you, you need to get new friends. So let me share what I've done, or how I think it can be achieved. More than likely what I've done.

Not that I used to be a human manifestation of Yore, but we all have down days, right. The most important thing is to always remember to be intentional. What do you mean by being intentional? Mimi? Once again I hear y'all asking me a question that is very simple. Being intentional is choosing how you move. It's about being strategic. If the goal is to find peace of mind and find joy and be happy, you create, excuse me, a strategy to get there. What does joy look like for you? Right?

What does joy mean in your life? What does peace of mind like for you? How does it show up in your life? In your mind? Visualize this? What do you do when you are happy? And if you don't know, create it? Make it up. If your response is, well, shit, I don't know if I've ever been happy, I don't know how to be happy. Make it up. Tap into that like juvenile or that you know, childlike place, because we all have it. Even if you had a fucked up childhood, you have it, and you have an imagination.

Even if your imagination is dark, you still have one. It's still there, which lets me know that you can create. So you can create it to look however you want it to look. So visualize it and then create the imagery that you want to create a life of joy and to create and to create, excuse me, a life of peace? Right? Dream it? Dream the life wherein you are filled with joy, and you feel at peace. Now you need to create the life's map to get there.

It's just like goal setting. It's just goal setting on a much more grandiose level. There goes the grandiose word again. Huh. You create the map. Here's the thing, the keys that you are in control of all of this. And don't get me wrong, this shit is not easy work at all. But like I said earlier, what's the alternative a life of discomfort or being content with being miserable? No, it's a no for me, dog, I ain't doing that. So be intentional and choose. Be intentional about your life. Be

intentional about your smile, Be intentional about your joy. Being intentional, Oh little little look when you keep saying it, it's hard to say. Be intentional about your happiness. Be intentional about your energy. Be intentional about your love, where you put it, where you share it, who you share it with. Be intentional about the love you receive. Be intentional about what you share with the world. Be intentional about what you take or receive from the world. But most importantly,

be intentional about your peace and mind. And we can start by just doing a check in with yourself, checking your energy and checking your intentions as you navigate through your day every single day, because we know when we ain't right, we know when our intentions are not good. We know we know when we fucked up. We know. It ain't no secret. And you can act like you don't know, but you know, and you know better than

anybody else because it's your mind. The thought comes in your head and before you even act on it, you know it's there. And if you feel like you don't have any control over those thoughts, you definitely need to talk to somebody because some other things need to be tended to. And that doesn't mean that if you are doing something the world deems wrong, that it's wrong. You know, I'm not here to judge, and I'm not saying go out here and commit crimes and think that it's okay

or anything. What I am saying, though, is that judgment is not for man's, for God or for whoever or whatever you believe in. So don't worry about what other people have to say about your roadmap to happiness and your intentional life and what you choose to do and how you choose to set your intentions for your life,

because it's yours. It's not theirs. You know when your intentions are ill advised, right, Like I said, we know, but you got to make sure that you're living your life for you and be intentional and do the things that are important to you and that you want to do. Like I said, don't go all here while and for respect, doing a whole bunch of bad stuff to hurt people. Okay, but you know when you ain't right, And I know it seems like it's a heavy load because it is.

It is. People make it seem like being happy and living a joyful life is easy. No, it's not. The shit is hard work. It's hard work. Be like you gotta work like joy is hard work. Happiness hard work. Peace of mind is hard work. And if you throw in some mental health issues, whether they be small or drum roll grandiose, it's even harder work. I am tired. It's really hard work. And like, at the end of the day, it boils down to what kind of life do you want to live? It also comes down to

who's in control of your life? You know, I know I don't like people telling me what to do, but that's my own you know issue, right, But because of that, I want to constantly be in a space where I am choosing the life that I live and I am being intentional about the way that I move on earth every single day. And when your intentions are pure, you can kind of live free and move toward a place

of peace. You know, it's not a destination. I always say that joy and happiness is like a spectrum, Like it's different points on the spectrum that you're gonna you're gonna hit or you're gonna you're gonna touch in your life. It's not like you look at the map and you drive to that place and that's the destination. No, you're

always driving. You're gonna be driving forever. But along the journey or the road trip, you're gonna have moments of peace, You're gonna have moments of happiness, You're gonna have moments of joy. So you need to map that out, like on this journey, where do I want to go on this journey to try to get there? And it is hard work, but it's kind of essential. You know, for your physical health, your mental health could because when you're

mental healthing right, your physical health suffers. And likewise, when you're physical healthing right, your mental health suffers. So I mean, like, it's not really too many ways around it. You know, some of y'all ain't right, and sometimes I ain't right. I'm been not right before, but I'm constantly working on being the best meeting that I can be. I'm always working at being my best, at least at the very

least being better than I was yesterday. And some of us are out here and our intentions are all kind of all kinds of ft up in murky, but they don't have to stay in that space. That's the thing that is the listen. That is the wonderful thing about God. And I don't really care what anybody has to say, like that is the amazing thing. Every day that we wake up, it's another opportunity to do it again, to fix what we couldn't get right the day before. That's

grace and mercy, you know. And I don't have nothing to do with any kind of religious beliefs. That's just grace and mercy. The grace that is extended that we are we don't really deserve. If you want me to be honest, we don't. So you don't have to stay in that space. You don't have to remain there. You have the free will to set your intentions to get up and get out of that space. You have the power to choose how you want to show up in the world. You choose. You don't let the world, nor

do you let anyone else choose for you. And that is an act of freedom because it is your life, it is your choice, and you deserve to be free. So, friends and ken, today's straight fact question is from a young lady named Renee. Renee lives in Atlanta, and Renee says, I am noticing that I'm becoming one of my friend's convenient friend and convenient isn't quotation marks Not that social media media really matters, but I noticed that they always invite me out at the last minute, never really for

any planned outings. Also, they post heavily all the exciting and fun events that I would actually like to attend if they would let me know ahead of time with their other friends others also in quotation marks. Am I being sensitive or is this something that I should bring up to them? First of all our name. I went through something like this in my early twenties with a friend of mine, and what she said to me was that she basically said that I was a flake and that.

You know, a lot of times she would invite me out and I would flake on her, and so she kind of just stopped inviting me out. Well, that situation was twofold, but this isn't about me. I'm gonna keep it about you. So what I'm saying the reason that I brought that up is because it allowed me an opportunity to reflect before we go on about you know how you should address it with your friend. Take a minute and reflect. Is there something that could be going on?

How am I contributing to this? If I am contributing to this, I'm not saying that it's your fault at all, but take a minute, just a quick minute to reflect. Because once she told me that, I was able to reflect, like excuse me, I was able to reflect like, well, damn, she's right. I do like basically flake out at the last minute. I don't blame her because she addressed that with me and because she said that to me. Since then,

I don't flake out on my friends at all. If I say I'm going to be somewhere, I'm gonna be there. I'll probably be late, but I'm gonna be there. I'm gonna show up because it's important to show up for people. It's so important. It's something that I live my life by. And also, if I don't want to go, then I don't go. But I say that I'm not gonna go if I'm not sure we're about it, I'll say I'm not sure if I'm gonna be able to make it or I'm really going to try to make it, but

I can't guarantee. At the end of the day, you know, I just had to do some self reflection and it actually changed my life. So think about that first two. I'm never gonna negate any feelings. You are allowed by the universe. You are free, you are worthy, and you are validated in feeling however you feel. Even if people think you're being sensitive, or you're being dramatic, or you're being extra all things that I hate for people to say to other people, you have the right to feel

that way. So in saying that, I would say that the next thing is that if someone is your friend, you also are free to address them. I don't recommend being super defensive. I don't recommend being super I'm bad if I don't recommend being super aggressive. So this is another way that you might want to check yourself. I don't know you renee, so I don't know how you

approach situations. But something that I always tell my aunt actually, which is interesting because she's the aunt, but I always tell her that you get more bees with honey than you do with vinegar. It's an old adage, you know, black people. Old black people say it all the time. I'm sure other people say it. But as you know, you already know how I get down. So anyway, I would say, go to her and have a conversation with her. And social media does matter. All of these things matter

because you're bringing it up. So it's an issue. If it's an issue and it's on your heart, let it come out of your mouth. Say it to your friend. If you love her and you care about her, and you guys are really friends and your friendship is important to you, then it is important that you go to her and you say, hey, I noticed that, and then

you finish. It's that simple. And how she responds, what she says, how she addresses the issue, and how she moves and navigates through your friendship after you address it with her will tell you everything you need to know. So, as with most of these questions, that I get for straight facts. It's all about communication. Go to the person, state how you feel or state what you're thinking, speak your peace, and have a conversation like your adults. You

know what I mean. If she comes at you sideways, then you know, maybe this check ain't my friend. If she tries to tell you, if she gaslights you and say no, because people are notorious for that. She gaslights you and say no, you're crazy, that's not true. That'll tell you a lot too, because you know they had to come from somewhere. Either way, Just talk to her.

I hope that helps. Good luck with your friend, and you might want to be considering yourself lucky that she isn't inviting you out to all these places, because from the looks of it, down in Atlanta, people are wiling for respect hanging out in strip clubs and clubs and lounges and stuff, and they don't have no mask on. So maybe it's good that she doesn't invite you. Okay, I mean, you know, just always look for the positive

and every situation syst be good. So for we got to do better today this episode in the spirit of today being March first, which is the first day of women's history months. I just thought that this will be a great quote. The quote is by the amazing ancestor Hattie McDaniel. And if you don't know who Hattie McDaniel is, please just pause this and go google it and come back to it, because you need to know who she is. Hattie McDaniel said, a woman's gifts will make room for her.

I'm gonna say it to you again because that's what I do. A woman's gifts will make room for her, so first and foremost, like I said, shout out to Hattie McDaniel. And this quote was originally a Bible verse in Proverbs eighteen sixteen. It says a man's gift makes room for him, but Auntie Hattie said, it ain't all about men and their gifts. We have gifts as well. Shit, we are the gifts, okay. And it's funny that this

verse speaks of men. But I can't help but to feel like women were counted out of the concept of gifts making room for you when this was written in the age of pronouns and such. You know, put some respect on my pronoun, okay. A woman's gifts will make room for her. Put some respect on my her name. Now that we've cleared that up, I found this interpretation of the quote or the verse online and it says, what you were designed to be known for as your gift.

God has put a gift or talent in every person that the world will make room for. It is this gift that will enable you to fulfill your vision. I enjoy this interpretation. I like this breakdown because it's inclusive, first and foremost, and I also like it because it lays it out in the most simple way. I always say, break it down to the last compound, and this is

broken down to the very last compound. The truth is that your true God given gifts, when you acknowledge and accept them, will create a space in your life and an energy in your life to thrive. And as long as you stay out of your own way, you will thrive and live in those gifts and reap the reward of that God given gift. So I leave you with this thought, friends and ken, do you know what your gift is? Have you identified your God given gift? And if so, what is it and how does it show

up in your life? Is it a part of how you fulfill your vision? Do you even have a vision. If you have not identified your God given gift, or your triple g as we'll call it, how will you begin to tap into finding it? You could be very well sitting on what it takes to save this incredibly disturbing world that we live in. So tap in, friends, and can tap into your triple g because it's time.

The world is waiting for you, friends and ken. The first thing I want to do is always the first thing that I do when it's time for me to show gratitude, and that is for me to thank God. Because God is supreme. I recognize and appreciate the grace that God extends me every single day of my life. And I am beyond grateful because there's nowhere written that says that that's how it has to go for me. I also want to thank me for all the hard work,

for the consistency, for the determination that I show. I'm grateful to myself for being committed to this podcast and showing gratitude for yourself as a form of self care. And we know that here at hand, me my purse, we are all about self care. I am thankful for my family, my friends, my supporters, and of course you out there listening. I love you guys so much and I'm honored to share this time and my energy with you, especially if you keep coming back. I cannot wait until

the next time we get to do this again. Remember that the next release for shows, which will be March fifteenth, I'm releasing two shows on that day and they will be very informative. We're going to talk a little bit about racism inequity in specific sector in this country, and it's going to be really informative. It's going to be really good. So please make sure you listen. And you don't have to listen to both of the shows in one day unless you want to. I highly recommend it,

but you may not have time to do that. But I want you to know that the shows are going to be really amazing. I have some really amazing guests on both shows. I also want to take some time out and thank one more time Gina, the creator of the Bedroom Bartender, for sharing that amazing recipe in all the accoutrements that go along with it, bringing her vision to life. For our drink today, which is called the Black Toddy and celebration of the culmination of Black History

Month and to celebrate our Auntie Billie Holiday. I got to make sure to watch that movie on Hulu because Gina said that it was good. Now hold up, before you exit out of whatever streaming service you are using the listen to this, I want you to stop what you're doing because I'm about to ruin the image in

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