We hosted Jennifer Peepas of " Captain Awkward " for the Monday episode and had so much to talk about that we couldn't fit it all into one episode. Thus: Opinion Overflow #8! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week plus a new Listener Question and a special announcement: BONUS 1 : A writer who goes by Miri penned an EXCELLENT " Polyamory 201 " post on the-orbit with in-depth musings about the "monogamous for the right person" question from our Poly 101 episode; BONUS 2 : We'l...
Sep 06, 2017•38 min•Ep. 8
Hannah and Matt interviewed Jennifer Peepas of " Captain Awkward " for the Monday episode and delved super extra deep into two questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on an exclusive sneak peak of a soon-to-be-published question: Captain Awkward (July 20th, 2017): " “My Very First Dick Pic:” A horrible coming-of-age story "; Captain Awkward (May 11th, 2017): " Our Friend Hits Women. "; Captain Awkward : "Scared of Spending"; Part 2 of our time with Captain Awkward i...
Sep 04, 2017•57 min•Ep. 35
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Bonus 1 : Listener Sara recommends " Here's the Plan " by Allyson Downey for new or expecting working mothers (in response to Listener Laura in this Monday's episode). Bonus 2 : Listener Paige (from Overflow #5) has an update for us! And finally, Listener Lacey asks : I’m sort of at the point in my lif...
Aug 30, 2017•21 min•Ep. 7
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 20th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Do I Have to Be a Patron to Be a Friend? "; Dear Jane : " How Do I Talk to My Husband About Our Erratic Sex Life? "; Ask a Manager : " I Ghosted My Ex, and She’s About to Be My New Boss "; Dear Sugars : " Uneducated and Confused "; Listener Laura : "Will My Being Pregnant at a New Job Be Considered Too Soon?"; Submit your favorite questions or q...
Aug 28, 2017•48 min•Ep. 34
Hannah and Matt take a vacation from the usual format to bring you the hotly-anticipated Poly 101 episode featuring Matt's girlfriend Laurel Lathrop ! We're covering more questions than ever before, so strap yourselves in for the long journey to Ethicalnonmonogamyville: Listener V : "How Do I Navigate Exploring My Bisexuality While In an Ostensibly Heterosexual Primary Relationship?"; Listener Sarah Manning : "I'm In My First Poly Relationship. Now What?"; Listener Open Imbalance : "I'm a Bisexu...
Aug 21, 2017•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 33
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of August 6th, 2017, and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Twin Q-and-A "; Let Us Sex-plain : " How Do I Get My Boyfriend to Stop Playing a Certain Podcast During Foreplay? "; horizontal with lila ; The Ethicist : " Is It O.K. to Protest Trump by Withholding Taxes? "; Ask Dr. NerdLove : " I'm Nonmonogamous and Having Trouble Finding Dates, So How Long Can I Withhold This Info? "; Listener Ann : "How Can ...
Aug 14, 2017•38 min•Ep. 32
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Zelda asks: I am being urged by a couple of physicians to have a mastectomy/reconstruction even though I do not have cancer because my mother had breast cancer very young and is no longer with us. I carry the BRCA2 mutation so my odds are pretty good for getting it. Also, my younger sister jus...
Aug 09, 2017•9 min•Ep. 6
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 30th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager : " Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive? " (Part 1 of 2); Dear Jane : " How Do I Get My Grandpa to Realize He’s Acting Like a Creep? "; Dear Prudence : " Introvert Boyfriend Ignores Friends "; Ask a Manager : " Is the Work Environment I’ve Created on My Team Too Exclusive? " (Part 2 of 2); Listener Kate : "Can I Intervene On ...
Aug 07, 2017•45 min•Ep. 31
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Paige asks: A few years ago I was diagnosed with a serious heart condition. Part of treating this condition means spending ample amounts of time in the hospital. In the last year I've spent over two hundred days there, and that is not likely to change for the foreseeable future, at least until...
Aug 02, 2017•14 min•Ep. 5
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 23rd, 2017, and beyond, including: BONUS SEGMENT : "Mostly Positive"; Positive 1: The Toast Updated on July 26th!! ; Not So Positive 1: Andrew W.K. is extremely tone deaf (and needs to take a look at this political cartoon about centrists ); Positive 2: Captain Awkward has answered 1000 questions!! ; r/relationships : " My (33F) self-absorbed sister (22F) is holding an "auction" for all her potentia...
Jul 31, 2017•49 min•Ep. 30
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 16th, 2017, and beyond, including: Captain Awkward: " The Palette Wife "; Ask A Manager : " My Employee Set up a False Fraud Investigation … Because She Was Being Abused and Wanted the Police "; Dear Prudence : " No Embryos for You "; Dear Jane : " How Do I Break Up With My Long-Term Partner, Logistically Speaking? "; Listener BerthaBessie : "How Do I Get Used to My Newly Open Relationship that My P...
Jul 24, 2017•49 min•Ep. 29
Having hosted Heather Havrilesky of " Ask Polly " for the Monday episode, we ran out of time and had some additional opinions we couldn't keep to ourselves. Thus: you're getting another Overflow, yaaay! This Overflow contains two questions from the previous week: Dear Businesslady : " How Do I Respect My Coworker’s Gender (and My Own)? "; New York Times : " Real Men Might Get Made Fun Of "; Captain Awkward : " My Husband is Dating My Mom "; r/relationship_advice : " My mother (54/f) and my husba...
Jul 19, 2017•23 min•Ep. 4
Hannah and Matt interviewed Heather Havrilesky of " Ask Polly " for the Monday episode and—in true Polly fashion—delved super extra deep into questions from her columns that have stuck with her as well as taking on her most recent question: Ask Polly (June 28, 2017): " Do People Ever Really Escape Their Dysfunctional Families? "; Invisibilia : " The Problem With the Solution "; Ask Polly (July 5th, 2017): " I Moved for My Job, and It Was a Huge Mistake! "; Ask Polly : " I’m Terrified of Having K...
Jul 17, 2017•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 28
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of July 2nd, 2017, and beyond, including: Auntie SparkNotes : " My Friend Doesn't Like '13 Reasons Why "; Today : " Netflix should remove '13 Reasons Why' immediately "; Thought Catalog : " Other People Aren’t Responsible For Your Mental Health: Why ’13 Reasons Why’ Is Pretty Much Bullshit "; r/relationships " Renting summer house with friends (20s m/f). Couples get bedrooms; singles have to sleep on air ma...
Jul 10, 2017•52 min•Ep. 27
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 25th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask APW : " Can I Keep Closed-Minded Family from Judging Our Drag Extravaganza? " Ask Polly : " He Wanted an Open Relationship. Why Wasn’t I Enough? "; Captain Awkward : " I think my friend told me he loved me a few years ago, and I’m just figuring it out now. "; r/relationships : " Me [30F] with my fiancé [31 M] 11 years, he doesn't take no for an answer when it c...
Jul 03, 2017•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 26
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 18th, 2017, and beyond, including: Ask A Manager : " Employee Drew Genitalia on an Intern’s Cast "; The Cut : " Sexual-Harassment Claims Against a ‘She-E.O.’ "; Ask E. Jean : " How Do I Get My Fiancé to Stop Catcalling Me? "; After Hannah reached out to Elle to point out how problematic E. Jean’s answer was, Elle silently took down the page. It nevertheless did not escape Archive.org preserving the ...
Jun 26, 2017•56 min•Ep. 25
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 11th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guests Gigi Engle and Mike Fishbein of the relationship advice podcast ' Dirty Sexy Monogamy '—including: Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 1, 2017): " Would You Ask Your Mom for Sex Advice? "; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (March 15, 2017): " How Do You Know If a Guy Is Actually into You? "; Dirty Sexy Monogamy (February 22, 2017): " Can I Be Sexually Empow...
Jun 19, 2017•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 24
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener J asks: "This feels like kind of a silly question to ask, but as I saw the following events unfold today, I knew I had to submit this question. Today I was at Whole Foods having lunch with my daughter. I was standing at the (large, communal) salad bar looking at the "Build Your Own Thai Noodle...
Jun 14, 2017•12 min•Ep. 3
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of June 4th, 2017 and beyond—with an HaMKIA exclusive recorded response to a Reddit question from Ask A Manager's Alison Green!!—including: Captain Awkward : " Messy Housemate Blues with a Side of Bugs. "; Dear Mariella : " I Love My Partner but He Says He Doesn’t Love Me Back "; Rose Buddies: " Horse Poop Censorship "; Ask A Manager : " My Coworker Jokes About Suicide "; r/relationships : " My [29F] former...
Jun 12, 2017•56 min•Ep. 23
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 28th, 2017 and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " My Husband’s Best Friend Proposed to His Girlfriend During Our Wedding Ceremony "; Buzzfeed : " This Couple Got Upstaged At Their Wedding And People Have Their Back "; Auntie Sparknotes : " I'm Interested in Dead Things "; Social Q's : " When Is It O.K. to Date a Friend’s Ex? "; Ask Amy : " Husband Needs to Step up at Home "; Emma : " You Should Hav...
Jun 05, 2017•53 min•Ep. 22
Hannah and Matt hosted Mallory Ortberg of " Dear Prudence " for the Monday episode and had so much to discuss that we split the conversation in two! This overflow is FOUR questions from DP, including two old favorites and one from a recent week: Dear Prudence (April 13 2017): " Baby Name Blow-Up "; Dear Prudence (July 19, 2016): " 42 Pearls and Counting "; Dear Prudence (December 8, 2016) : " Don’t Let It Burn "; Dear Prudence : " Pops, I'm Poly "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you...
May 31, 2017•47 min•Ep. 2
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 21st, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Mallory Ortberg of the eclectic column ' Dear Prudence ' of Slate!!—including: The Ethicist : " I Accidentally Killed a Child. May I Get in Touch With the Family? "; Carolyn Hax : " A Few Tips on Gratuities and Special Orders "; Listener : "Transition Trouble"; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the podcast to ...
May 29, 2017•1 hr•Ep. 21
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 14th, 2017 and beyond, including: Asking for a Friend : " I Have a Fancy Law Degree, But No One Will Hire Me to Do Good! "; Carolyn Hax : " This Wedding Plus-One Kerfuffle Just Doesn’t Add Up "; Ask Gigi : " Can I Meet Someone IRL Anymore? "; Ask Dr. NerdLove : " Help, My Drunk Friend Is Hitting On Me "; Ask Bear : " Be Glad in Love "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may have for the ...
May 22, 2017•53 min•Ep. 20
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of May 7th, 2017 and beyond, including: Social Q's : " In-Flight Etiquette "; Dear Prudence (via listener Mia Wallace): " Big Love "; Dear Mariella (via listener Kelsey): " I Cured My Husband’s Depression, so Why Can’t I Now Forgive Him? "; Listener Alison : "Racism in Retail"; Captain Awkward : " How much fighting in a new relationship is too much? "; Submit your favorite questions or questions you may hav...
May 15, 2017•59 min•Ep. 19
We have too many opinions to keep to ourselves! That is, we have too many questions and we'd like to answer more of them, so that's why you're getting Opinion Overflow. Whether you want it or not. Listener Esmerelda asks: "This was inspired by your February episode where you discussed the problem of people foisting books upon you, and in particular, Hannah's very particular taste and the etiquette issues that arise when they don't care for something their friend or acquaintance loves. My problem...
May 11, 2017•21 min•Ep. 1
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 30th, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Jillian Anthony of the ever-sexy column ' Let Us Sex-Plain ' of Time Out New York!!—including: Let Us Sex-Plain (April 5, 2016): " How Do I Introduce My Straight Boyfriend to Butt Stuff? "; Let Us Sex-Plain (June 1, 2016): " How Can I Explore the Polyamorous / Swinger / Sex-Party Scene in New York City? "; Let Us Sex-Plain : " Is My B...
May 08, 2017•1 hr 8 min•Ep. 18
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 23rd, 2017 and beyond, including: Ask Polly : " Now That We’re in Our 30s, My Friends Are Abandoning Me! "; Dear Prudence : " Coming Out of the Poly Closet "; Ask Amy : " Temporary Breakup Prompts Friend's Nasty Text "; Ask A Manager : " My Boss Got Drunk and Was Angry That I Couldn’t Drive Him Back to the Office "; Listener Vicki : "Dealing with the Anxiety of a 2nd Marriage"; Submit your favorite...
May 01, 2017•59 min•Ep. 17
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 16th, 2017 and beyond, including: Dear Prudence : " Is My Friend Really Queer? "; S-Town ; Savage Love : " Dick Monsters "; Dear Kiki : " I Can’t Get My Mind off of the Speaker of the House "; Little Village Mag ; Daily Mail : " Revealed at last: The picture of shirtless Paul Ryan that proves Romney's running mate really IS an action man "; r/relationship_advice : " My wife's (28/f) boyfriend (20/m...
Apr 24, 2017•58 min•Ep. 16
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 9th, 2017 and beyond, including: Ask APW : " How Do I Tell My Partner He Needs to Make More Money? " Ask a Manager : " A Coworker Objects to My Using Gender-Neutral Pronouns to Refer to Her (And to Everyone) "; Ask Polly : " What Does Love Feel Like? "; Social Q's : " Hold Your Bark "; Listener : "How Do You Maintain a Healthy Optimism Balance When Applying for Jobs?"; Submit your favorite question...
Apr 17, 2017•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 15
Hannah and Matt tackle questions from some of their favorite advice sources from the week of April 2nd, 2017, and beyond—and are joined this week by special guest Liza Featherstone of the quintessential leftist advice column ' Asking for a Friend ' on The Nation!!—including: Asking for a Friend (May 5, 2016): " How Do I Stop Harassment Without Involving the Police in a Gentrifying Neighborhood? "; Asking for a Friend (April 7, 2016): " I’m Putting My Kids Through College With an Evil Job—Should ...
Apr 10, 2017•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 14
