Welcome to the Hairpreneur Show . I'm Ryan Weeden , founder and CEO of Masters of Balayage . I still remember that day when someone I loved told me you're just a hairstylist .
Talks of relationship probably , but it was just the fuel I needed to become obsessed with cracking the success code From dead broke with just 75 bucks in the bank to running one of the most reputable seven figure brands in the industry . I've dedicated my life to helping others like you push the limits of what's possible .
So if you're ready to unlock the secrets to using our love for hair as a vehicle to achieve more personal and financial freedom in your life , you are in the right place . Welcome to the show . Who in your life calls bullshit on you ?
Who's that person that can look through everything that is going on with you , the way you're acting , the way your emotional state is , the decisions you're making and say , hey , ryan , what's going on , what's wrong ?
And even though you might not even feel like there's something wrong with you , this person can see right through you , connect with your soul on such a deep level that they know in some way you're not being true to yourself , you're not being the person that you wanna be , the person that you put out to the world , the person that you look 10 years into the
future and say that is the perfect version of myself . Well , that person for me is my wife , jenny . The other day I was in this , I guess , a weird kind of mood . I didn't feel like anything was off .
There's been a lot of stress in my life recently and , not to put myself on a different level than anybody else we all , over the last several years , have faced all kinds of traumas in our life . We've some of us have lost people , some of us have made big moves and changes and financial decisions .
And then we have this gas prices are insane right now , food costs more than it's ever cost and it's hard to sometimes pay our bills . We look toward how we're gonna build wealth in our life and people talk about all over Instagram gurus everywhere . It's time to start building wealth . This is the time to start building your wealth .
When the market is shifting and people are pulling back , this is the time to push forward . But at the same time , if you don't have the resources and if you don't have the knowledge to do that , if you don't have the money to put to work for you and don't know where to put that money . Then it just it's like it doesn't make any sense .
You're like well , this doesn't apply to me , this hasn't applied to me , and how am I gonna make this happen ? And throughout these last several weeks there's been a lot going on in my life , emotionally and personally , with my family and with business and everything , and a lot of it is very positive .
But there are some negative things happening that have , I guess , caught up to me . And the other day Jeni looked at me and I came home from work and I don't know what was going on with my face . But she looked over and said are you okay ? And I said yeah , uh-huh , yeah , I'm fine . Why ?
And she's like because you just reacted like that , I think something's going on with you and I took an offense to that . I hate when somebody says something like are you okay ? Are you feeling okay ? You look kind of sick . Because suddenly you're like well , what did I do with my face ? Why do you think I'm sick ?
Especially if I'm not sick , especially if I'm feeling good , then suddenly I'm in a bad mood . So this comment that she made hey , ryan , are you okay ? And she was sincerely asking me are you okay and I said , yes , I'm fine . Why , gosh , why would you ask me that ? Did you have a rough day ? Today was fine , today was fine .
And then she said well , something's going on with you . And I said there's nothing going on with me . And you can tell this is how I was reacting I was aggravated , I was bothered . And then I took a moment and I thought about it and , although nothing had happened on this particular day , I was at a very high emotional level .
I remember I was sitting in my office . We have a new office here at Masters of Bollayage and it's very cool , but it's still very unfinished . I'm in my office in one of the clean areas where my desk is pretty much organized and I'm just I'm plugging away , getting work done and I put it on my Spotify and I'm listening to .
It just popped up on my recommended list , it's Cat Stevens , and if you've heard Cat Stevens , it's it's . It's got some incredible music . It's very heartfelt , it's very touching . The words and the lyrics really resonate with me on such a deep level . And there was this one song that I was playing .
This song was like Wild World and so many good hits that I was going through . And then this one song it I remembered it from a long time ago and it necessarily didn't didn't necessarily mean a lot to me back then . Of course I loved it .
But then I just started hearing the lyrics while I was working and you know , when you're unconsciously listening to something , then you're like , okay , wait , what was that ?
It's almost like your name being called in a shopping mall or a grocery store and you just turn around and you go hey , ryan , even though it's not for you , it's for a kid or for somebody else , and you turn around because you hear your name . Well , this particular song spoke to me and I'm like , wait , wait , what is a song ?
And I went and looked at the title and it said Father and Son and I'm like , oh , wow , okay , I think the last time I probably heard this song was before I had my son , before I had kids . Even If you're a parent , I bet you were a lot different than you were before you had kids . Right Now , you're a completely different person .
You have different responsibilities , you have different emotions , you have different decisions you have to make . You have responsibilities that you never thought you'd ever have to have now .
So your focus is different and I listened to the song and then I started listening to the lyrics , and the lyrics were so touching they started to almost create this emotional response automatically . It was about letting go . It was about this relationship between a father and a son .
And then , whenever a song really touches me , the first thing I do is I really want to get to know that song a little bit better . So I'll go on Google and I'll type in what is the meaning of this song , hoping that it's going to give me even more insight into where that person was in their life when they were writing a particular song .
And this particular song , cat Stevens , is a very famous song . It's called Father and Son . It was about how he had the son and his son was getting older and he realized he was maybe too controlling because that's the way he was brought up . He was trying to control everything because he was controlled as a child .
And then he realized this wasn't the way he wanted to continue to parent . He wanted his son to have his own identity . He wanted to let his son go . And I don't mean like see you later have a great life . I mean let him make his own decisions , let him figure out life on his own .
Let him go through challenges so he can grow on his own , not always being there to try to help him avoid every challenge in life , because what makes us stronger in life , it's the challenges that we face . It's the challenges that we go through , it's the hardship and the traumas that we come out successfully on the other side with .
So he was giving himself permission to let go and he was older and he's like I got to live my life too . He's like I am old but I'm happy . And then I put the song back on , I replayed it and I started crying almost instantly , just because it touched me . And I know I'm not at that point right now with my son .
Right now I'm in father protection mode because he's just turned three , but I know at some point that's going to happen . I'm going to have to say you have to make your own decisions . Now You're growing into becoming a man , an adult , you're going through teenage years .
You're going to have all these tough decisions to make and I'll always be there to support you . I'll always be there to love you , but you need to start living your own life at some point and just looking ahead in the future .
And if you are what I like to call and refer to as an active parent , somebody that wants to be present in your kid's life and there's a lot of parents out there that don't want to be in their kid's life and it's just a sad , sad thing .
If you're a parent , spend time with your kids , get to know your kids , because they'll help you get to know , they'll teach you about yourself things that you didn't even know existed , and they'll bring up things from your past that you didn't know were there .
And then I realized , after listening to the song and thinking about my relationship with my kids , how I need to let certain things go in my life to move on Things that I've felt regret about , things that I've felt guilty about , things that maybe have been left unsaid , that need to be said and , unfortunately , sometimes things that need to be said or needed to
be said . That time is past , that person is gone , and it's a hard , hard emotion to face that regret and forgiving yourself for not always making the right decisions , for not always having the courage to stand up for what you believe in , to stand up for what is right . It's hard to give yourself that permission to forgive others , to forgive yourself .
We are always very hard on ourselves and if you're an achiever , if you're some way that's always striving to become the best version of yourself , you know what I'm talking about . You're always putting yourself into uncomfortable situations .
You're always trying to find new ways to say something better , new ways to do something better , new ways to have more of an impact in other people's lives and , in turn , your life .
New ways to show up as a strong family member , to break generational curses , so that way you don't have the same , your kids don't have the same traumas , maybe , that you had growing up , and if you're the one in your family to break that chain .
It's hard , but it's necessary and it takes courage , it takes bravery , it takes boldness , and I want you to know , if you're listening to this today , I see you . I see everything that you're carrying on your shoulders . I see all the struggles that you're facing .
I see that you want to have a better life for you , for your family , for the people that you care about . I see you and I want you to take a moment today , maybe journal , maybe write it in your notes . What are you thinking about right now ? What's on your mind right now ?
What is weighing you down that you cannot control , that you need to start letting go of because it's not serving you in the next chapter of your life .
I believe in you and I want you to know that this is your opportunity to strive for greatness , to be bold , to be daring , to be your authentic self , and if you don't have somebody that can call your own bullshit and say , ryan , you're not being who you say you are , it is time to find that person .
Hold out of them tight and go , give the world the passion that you have inside of you . Thanks for tuning in today .