Hey everybody . I am your host here , ryan Whedon . Thanks for tuning in again . I'm actually coming at you here from all the way in Utah where I'm going to be going on the stage here at Hair Love Retreat with Elizabeth Fay . I'm just so excited to be here . This place is magical , it's spiritual .
I wish I was going to be here longer , but then in another few days we've got our fifth annual hero event coming up . So if you're going to be there , like hundreds of other stylists are , then I can't wait to see your shining , happy , enthusiastic face .
But today I want to jump into something here real quick , which I've been seeing a lot of this going around social media and frankly , I'm sick of it . So I want to . It's not going to be . I'm not going to get mad at you , don't worry . I'm not going to get mad at anybody here .
But I want to talk about a serious topic and it's about ownership of who we are and our own success . So I just want to get right into it . Okay , we are and our own success , so I just want to get right into it , okay . First of all , I think we all , no matter what's going on in our life , we need to stop blaming others for your lack of success .
I mean , seriously , it's not going to help you get anywhere . I mean , I get it . It does feel good for a moment to say like so-and-so had better connections , a better upbringing , they had more money , easier parents . It's so easy to point the finger right , but here's the thing when you point a finger , you got three fingers pointing right back at you .
It's funny , as I say that right now , I just saw this reel recently about somebody making fun of this . You know , you point a finger , you got three pointing back at you and this guy was just pointing with all five fingers , or four fingers and a thumb or five digits , to make fun of it . But yeah , but you get the point .
But getting beyond where you are now , wherever you are , wherever you're stuck , whatever level that you're at , it is up to you and nobody's going to be coming to save you . Don't wait for some shining knight on a white horse that's going to come and grab you and say , hey , this is the way . Nobody's going to give you the winning lottery ticket .
I mean , you got to still go out and go to buy the lottery ticket . You got to take action to get to where you want to go . Nobody's going to hand you the job of your dreams on a silver platter . You got to earn it , and not just once .
You don't just accomplish something and expect like , oh , I did it , now things are just going to fall into my lap , because that's not the way it works . You have to earn it over and over again , even when you think you've made it . You have to keep pushing , you have to keep grinding . You got to keep proving yourself .
The momentum you build that is on you to keep going . Now , here is the absolute , 100% truth . It's time to step up . If you don't have what you want , you got to go and get it . Back when I was wanting to get on a big stage , when I went to my first hair show at the ISSE show in Long Beach and it was 2003 .
I'm like I want to be on that stage . For years after that , I talked to all the companies , all the big companies , and I said , hey , I am an ambitious stylist , I want to be on that stage . What is it going to take ? Put me on that stage , and I got turned away at every single turn . I didn't get that opportunity . So five , ten years later , in 2016, .
I said screw it , I'm going to make my own stage . I'm going and I just I got sick of it and I realized that it was up to me not to wait for somebody else to give me the opportunity I had to put the power into my own hands .
So if your books aren't full , if your bank account isn't where you want it to be , if your business isn't thriving , you need to look in the mirror , because the answer is staring right back at you . It is up to you . And listen , you know me , this isn't about being harsh or negative . It's just about responsibility .
It's about taking ownership , because as soon as you own where you are , you get to own where you're going , and it's the ultimate power move . Now let me just give you a little perspective here . All right , if it's not going to matter in five years , don't give it five minutes .
Now , I know that says a lot , because some things seem very urgent , like there's fires happening all the time , whether we you know in our lives and on social media , or we get a hater comment . But if it's not going to matter in five years , don't give it five minutes .
Life is full of storms , situations that feel like they're going to knock us down and keep us there , and sometimes it's scary , but here's the thing about storms they pass Every time . Then guess what comes out the sunshine , and the problem most people have is their minds stay stuck in the storm even after it's long gone .
You got to rebound , or worse , they're always anticipating the next one , like , okay , well , that storm passed , I better get ready for the next one .
And it's one thing to be ready for it , but it's another thing to stay in that negative space where you're just waiting for the next bad thing to happen , and then , when the sunshine finally comes , you're not going to appreciate it , because you've been so focused on the next potential disaster . Well , I mean , why do we do this , though ?
Why do we let future fears or past failures keep us stuck ? I mean , why do we it's so odd to me with this human condition , I mean , our brains get in the way , because why do we wait for the perfect moment to finally take action ? I mean , newsflash guys , there's never going to be a perfect moment . Life doesn't wait for you to feel ready .
Time is going to . It's ticking man . It's going to move ahead , with or without you , it doesn't care about your plans and if you're sitting there thinking I'll start , I'll start . I'll start Monday , or I'll start the first of next month , I'll start at the beginning of next year Guess what ? That's exactly where you're going to stay stuck Now .
The opportunity to change your life and your career and your mindset it's right here . It's right now . You don't need more time , you just need more action . The best time to start yesterday sure , we can all agree with that . Best time to plant a tree 20 years ago , and then you would have shade today . But the second best time Today .
So here's the challenge for you today I want you to stop waiting to get off that fence . Stop hoping for an easier path or for someone else to open the door for you . Step up , kick that door down and create the success you have been dreaming of . You have everything you need inside you . You just have to get out of your own way and start taking action .
Take those first steps . Remember , the storms are going to pass and the sunshine will come , but it's up to you whether you stay in the rain or you embrace the light . So come on , guys . Today this is your sign . Go out there and make it happen .