You know the patriarchy is on it's last leg when it can't handle the decision to make highly gendered, gender-normative, heteronormative toys taking a look around themselves and deciding that potatoes probably don't need highly gendered performance when children play with them. But you know, that's what happened when Mr. and Mrs. Potato Head transitioned to just be Potato Head. You would think they would get tired at some point, or break their pearls off from clutching them for so hard...or mayb...
Mar 12, 2021•28 min•Season 5Ep. 6
Trigger Warning: In this episode John and Dean talk about John's battle with addiction and his journey through recovery. Please listen if you can, but if you will be triggered to use by descriptions of drug use and their effects, please keep yourself safe. John and Dean are sad to see one of their beloved Gay Bars, The Toasted Walnut, close due to the pandemic. It was one of the best spots in the Gayborhood for Dean, and a place of some really great memories, including a Karaoke night that John ...
Mar 05, 2021•28 min•Season 5Ep. 5
The new Britney documentary dropped, and John was awake at the exact moment to watch it! (Actually we spend a nice weekend afternoon, but blood-shot and bleary-eyed John makes a better story.) What happened was appalling, but to see it played back to us all over gain, especially for Dean who can now look back at just what kind of world the 2000s was, it's even more infuriating. The way that women are treated and the lengths that the media goes to create sensation, while still happening today, se...
Feb 26, 2021•28 min•Season 5Ep. 4
John and Dean return, finally, again. Instead of trying to plan a show, they just sat down and recorded one. It went about as well you might expect. But they covered the (now not so recent) attack on the US Capital as well as how the Biden Administration is doing a lot of good things to increase the representation of LBGTQ+ individuals in government, including several transgender individuals. But they don't get everything right. Pronouns, like sexual identity, are not 'preferred,' they just are....
Feb 19, 2021•24 min•Season 5Ep. 3
We're really enjoying the new season of Drag Race and Gottmik has won in our hearts at least. It's amazing to see this kind of representation in a queer space on national television. And she turns looks, is a fashion designer, and a fierce competitor all rolled into one. But when there is one thing that is good, there will continue to be old white men trying to make things worse. Another round of Trans-aggressive legislation is working its way through various locales. Apparently they want to che...
Feb 12, 2021•31 min•Season 5Ep. 2
We're back from our depression nap, with a new spin on some old hosts. (John is in charge now, you can blame him.) The queer report for Hollywood came out, and John and Dean wanted to talk about the improvements and the loses that were made. Better diversity, but less inclusion overall. Plus the new Drag Race has begun so we're always ready for some new queens and Gay TV.
Feb 05, 2021•30 min•Season 5Ep. 1
It's been a minute since we had an episode. But John and Dean are trying to get back at it. And what better way then to explore both queer bating as well as the "Over 30 Curse" in the same episode we talk about K-Pop! John has a theory that when a female artist hits 30 they are either excluded or cast out of popularity. Whether it's by the actions of stations, labels, or critics, or just some social force that we all somehow cling to, we've seen it time and time again. Christina, Britney, and no...
Oct 03, 2020•27 min•Season 4Ep. 13
We are so excited that the new EP is out and people all over the world are getting the chance to listen to it. (Special shout out to the one fan in UK who listens to Shadow every day!) John doesn't like to produce a project unless there is a clear story behind it. You won't hear an EP or an album that doesn't tell something that's a mix of personal and art. Immortal Dreams is the first of these stories he has shared with us, and Dean gets a chance to walk through just how that story emerged and ...
Aug 26, 2020•27 min•Season 1Ep. 13
John had a rough day at work, Dean couldn't figure out how to record a podcast. Overall, it's kind of lucky we got this out at all. We start off looking at how representation matters in children's entertainment. (And we don't mean the classic "Guess What?" from she who must not be named. AKA J. K. Trolling.) Velma, according to the creators of the most recent Scooby Doo cartoon, was meant to be explicitly gay, and even have a coming out experience as she realizes that boys are not her thing. It'...
Jul 24, 2020•21 min•Season 4Ep. 12
It was a hell of a week for trying to not be around people who weren't wearing masks, or who were wearing them improperly enough that it didn't matter. There's no "A" for effort here. From the Gym to food prep, we've seen too many people just not doing what we all need to do to keep each other safe, and it it's showing. So of course our eyes turned to Fire Island. We love naked men as much as the next gay but it's important that in our debauchery we also maintain the safety of others. There were...
Jul 10, 2020•23 min•Season 4Ep. 11
For at least the last year Dean and John have been talking about when we would get cats after we moved in together, and that day finally arrived almost a week ago. We adopted 2 little ones, Trixie, a flame-tail Siamese and Katya, an incredibly intelligent short-hair mix with black fur like a scar across her right eye. Of course we had to name them after our 2 fave Drag Queens. Like any proud new parents we bore you with the details of how pretty they are, where they sleep, and how John sacrifice...
Jun 26, 2020•26 min•Season 4Ep. 10
For at least the last year Dean and John have been talking about when we would get cats after we moved in together, and that day finally arrived almost a week ago. We adopted 2 little ones, Trixie, a flame-tail Siamese and Katya, an incredibly intelligent short-hair mix with black fur like a scar across her right eye. Of course we had to name them after our 2 fave Drag Queens. Like any proud new parents we bore you with the details of how pretty they are, where they sleep, and how John sacrifice...
Jun 26, 2020•26 min•Season 4Ep. 10
It's our first week in our new home and our new studio. So of course we have a cocktail and break down the health advisory from NYC that says glory holes, voyeurism/exhibitionism and other great kinks are now the new normal for us to stay safe and still get off. A timely and appropriate turn around for the city that tried so hard to root out kinks and such. And a great way to spend our time in isolation, discovering new things that turn us on. John is disappointed/excited that now more people wi...
Jun 19, 2020•23 min•Season 4Ep. 9
The move has happened, but we recorded this a week ahead of time to make sure it got out. We can't begin without recapping what has been happening with Black Lives Matter. The police officers who also participated in George Floyd's murder were charged, and we hope that justice is served in this case. But the movement goes on, and we talk about how important it is for allies to make sure they are contributing in ways that are productive and fit with the organizers and advocates they are there to ...
Jun 12, 2020•26 min•Season 4Ep. 8
We recorded this episode a week ago, and there have been many developments since then in regards to George Floyd and a host of other Black men and women who have been brutalized and killed by the police and the systemic racism that controls our every day lives. Thousands of people have risen up to speak, to protest. We have dedicated this Pride Month to future episodes that continue to engage with the Black Lives Matter narrative (hopefully with the voices of activists and black queer individual...
Jun 06, 2020•24 min•Season 4Ep. 7
Last week we listened to the new singles that came out from Lady Gaga and Tove Lo, and it was a day for the gays. But before we get into that, Dean and John catch you up on life in a tiny, small, ever shrinking amount of quarantine space. Does John ever sleep? What day is it? Where are we? There's restaurants using mannequins to fill the empty space in order to keep guests socially distant, but how would that even work. And if that wasn't enough, smart AI sex robots are selling out so quickly th...
May 30, 2020•25 min•Season 4Ep. 6
We recorded this prior to watching tonight's episode, so hear how wrong our predictions were for the RuPaul Drag Race's Renuion episode were! Dean and John try to take on Wilam and Detox with a short trip down a Drag Race Stan podcast, before quickly and efficiently diverting into a rare "unedited" moment. See how the episodes' sausage is made. ;) John does a transition. Dean is a loss for word. John calls Dean old...again. We talk through whether "staning" is in fact a gay right of passage. Plu...
May 23, 2020•23 min•Season 4Ep. 5
Dean and John have survived another week quarantined together. (No Couches were harmed in the making of this podcast.) And live from the South of France, a blast from the past, Devon Hunter joins in the fun. It was exciting this week to see J. August Richards, most familiar to Dean and John from the Buffy spin-off Angel, came out publicly. It's always nice to see "action" stars being able to be open and out, must like we saw with Colton Haynes a few years ago. That lead us to talk about our firs...
May 01, 2020•21 min•Season 4Ep. 3
Dean and John are back to talk about sex songs or songs about sex, depending on how you define it. What songs make Dean want to get down? Which songs did John add to his Sex playlist? Does John call Dean old, yet again? And how do you jack off to porn whe
Apr 25, 2020•23 min•Season 4Ep. 2
The show is back? We're alone, together, for weeks on end...it's not going well. John hates Dean's couches. Dean fell out of bed. And the only friend they have left is the TV filled with old episodes! But that's a lot of laughter and fun for you as Dean and John have decided to isolate, together, in a 600 sqft. apartment for the duration of this Quarantine. Enjoy the evolving metal breakdown with the same old humor and sass as ever!
Apr 17, 2020•21 min•Season 4Ep. 1
Dean and John are back for seasons four! It’s been a productive break including a name change for one of the hosts. From Britney to Colton Haynes and Daddy lovers, the guys take a crack at getting back into the swing of things. Stay tuned for more to come. And hear an original song inspired by Orlando and the current issues facing all minority communities today.
Aug 26, 2016•26 min•Season 1Ep. 18
It’s been almost a week and Dean has been struggling to figure what he would say to you this week. There are no words that will make things better, will change what has happened, or will take the pain away. But he still believes in hope. He wants to share a story about erasure and invisibility from his past that is tied up with a song called “Elegy” composed by William Payn. He’s mastered a live performance of the Andante Handbell Choir performing the song last year so you can hear it for yourse...
Jun 17, 2016•19 min•Season 1Ep. 18
Dean and Brendan take a road trip! Deep in the urban jungle they sit down with Betty Swallows, a new, but quickly rising, Drag performer to talk about the important things. Heels. Sex. And cute boys. Sadly there’s negativity surrounding drag,
Jun 10, 2016•24 min•Season 3Ep. 17
It’s just Dean today! Brendan John is taking the week off after finishing his single and getting ready to promote it. Dean starts off by sharing why the podcasts started in the first place as he looks back on the previous 3 years.
Jun 03, 2016•21 min•Season 3Ep. 16
Did you know that Utah wants to ban porn on mobile devices? This is brought to you by the same people who have declared porn a “public health crisis,” you know, like the stuff you catch at the airport and HIV. Brendan,
May 27, 2016•30 min•Season 3Ep. 15
Why the fuck are we even here? It boggles the mind, and we even tried to do a show right after the bill in South Carolina passed, but the recording crapped out on us. Dean hoped it would be different, but it’s getting worse as more and more states ar...
May 20, 2016•22 min•Season 3Ep. 14
It’s finally happened, Jaxon Radoc has made his first appearance as a semi-regular co-host alongside Brendan John and Dean Sage. They cover a spectrum of recent topics, all related to showing off our true colors and perhaps being more ourselves even ...
May 13, 2016•31 min•Season 3Ep. 13
Who exactly are these people making rules on what we can wear? Is there a committee? Can we go to a meeting or something? So Madonna wore a very complex, intricate, and revealing design to the Met Gala this week, and unsurprisingly,
May 06, 2016•25 min•Season 3Ep. 12
Who exactly are these people making rules on what we can wear? Is there a committee? Can we go to a meeting or something? So Madonna wore a very complex, intricate, and revealing design to the Met Gala this week, and unsurprisingly,
May 06, 2016•25 min•Season 3Ep. 12
You all have been twitting and chatting and we’ve been listening. Brendan and Dean respond to two listener questions/topics this week, and can’t wait to do that more often. The idea of twinks is slowly losing meaning,
Apr 29, 2016•24 min•Season 3Ep. 11
