Do you really need to recover from grief?

The holidays are always tough for grievers. We spend much of the day wearing a mask around people, then when we are alone feeling the loss of our loved ones acutely.  Thanksgiving begins the holiday season. The holidays were never pleasant when I was growing up and grief has not helped that situation any. I have found unique ways to cope with my grief. One of them is believing that my son communicates with me through signs.  In this episode, I talk about the concept of Recovering from Grief and what that means to me as a grieving mother. When you say I need to recover from my grief. I hear you say that I need to stop missing my son or feeling sad that he is not here. I can't imagine doing that. What is helpful to me is developing a deep connection to him through spirituality. My spirituality is not religious. It is the belief that I can not still have a meaningful relationship with my son even in death. In many ways, this connection to my son has enhanced my connection to myself and helped me see the gifts of grief. I will always be sad. I will always miss my son. I don't believe that is something I need to recover from or heal. 

Biography: I was living the average life. I was married with two children working in a profession that I loved. On June 19. 2011 that life was destroyed and I became another person. My oldest son died unexpectedly. My son did not die from cancer. Chemotherapy killed him. It is a common experience, but I didn’t know that then. I thought that chemotherapy was going to save him. Almost immediately I felt betrayed by my profession because I was a counselor. I should have known how to handle his death. The loneliness started almost immediately. I felt so alone. I stopped sleeping and the people around me began to disappear. I knew I need community. 10 years later I am finally in a place where I am trying to build the community that I so desperately needed when Christopher first died. We can’t change that our children died, but we can help each other through it. Join me in creating a community for grieving mothers to share our stories with each other creating a sacred space for authentic grieving.

It is my mission for the podcast to provide grieving mothers everywhere a safe, sacred space where their grief is accepted. It is through the podcast that the culture of silence that surrounds the grief of the mother will be dismantled, and a culture of support will be created. It is our vision to create a community where we can share our questions, and concerns, and support each other.

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