She wants a divorce.

I'm talking months of friendship. We go way back. Christian is such a great dude, and I wanted him to be on this podcast to help me answer some of these questions with you guys, and to kind of walk through this. As you know, this style, if you've heard this before, is much like we're sitting around a campfire and there's three of us and you have a question, and me and Christian are here, and you go, man, thinking about something? Can I ask you guys something? What

would you think about this? And without notes, without preparation, without an outline, We're just going to kind of walk through your questions. They could be lighthearted, they could be music related, they could be tour related. They could be relationship or job or or life. It really could be anything. Email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com, and we're gonna we're gonna get to that, and I have some today that I've pulled aside. Christian is an Alabama dude. First

first guest on this podcast from Alabama. We've had a lot of different states, and I'm sure we have a lot of Alabama listeners. So are you a roll Tide or War Eagle? Guy, War Eagle or Eagle? That's right? Okay, aren't you glad to ask? I'm glad you have. You have to if that's it. And if you're from Alabama, you know you're either Roll Todt or war Eagle and you have to declare warn h what town are you from? From? Pel City, Alabama? Tale City, Hell City about thirty miles

east burnam M. Does anyone know where that? It's comic below if you know where? Pale City? Hey you spelled Pale City, p e lll c C Pale City, gotcha? Yeah? Okay, that Alabama slaying in there, pale So you consider Birmingham kind of a home home base? Yeah, Birmingham's home base. I was raised in Bell City, but most of adult life was in Birmingham, and you know that's where I've worked at and did business there. So yeah, it's great.

I'm met Christian through Celebration Church here in Georgetown, Texas. And we've actually had Pastor Joe or lead pastor. He's been on this podcast as a guest and h Amber and I. You might have seen Amber and I have done a lot of stuff with Celebration besides just attending. And you are a pastor there, what do you do

at Celebration? Yeah, So my role Celebration is I'm the Georgetown campus pastor, so that's our broadcast campus and so I have the privilege of overseen the team and the dream Team there and leading them and it's a lot of fun. What's the dream Team? The Dream Team is the is the team of volunteers. It's church members that say, hey, I have a gift, I have a calling and I want to serve, I want to I want to use

it in God's house. And so we steward that and we just allow them to come along and help us pull off Sundays so to speak. We can do without them. So how many are on the team, how many are on the Dream Team? Yeah, we're about five hundred active Dream Team Alan Georgetown Camp. That is amazing. Yeah, So that's amazing. We have we have like five here at the EE Farm volunteers staff. Yeah, stuff that stuff. So

you are gonna help You're gonna switch gears today. You're doing the same business, really, you're just doing it on a different platform. And we're gonna go through some of these questions. I'm gonna I'm gonna have you help me with these, help me, help me pick some of these. But I should start, I should ease ourselves into these. You guys, let me say this when you when you ask these questions, I am I'm so humbled that you

will trust Christian and I with these things. And we were talking, we had lunch right before this, and it's such it's such a a huge responsibility. But also I want you to know. You probably know that it's a big responsibility when you hear the questions. But what I do want you to know that you might not is that it's also such a privilege to be trusted with

a sliver of your lives. As I don't like to consider us strangers for you listeners on here, but we have never met personally, most of us, and so I just I want to let you guys know that it's a huge privilege. So don't think of it as a burden. I enjoy it if I could help you in any way and give you some advice in any way, you don't have to take it. In fact, somebody emailed and said you better be prepared for lawsuits in case you're telling no, it's not about that. This is more of

a friendship conversation. But I just want you guys to know that it is fulfilling to me to be able to talk through some of this stuff, though, right you understand that more than morning anywhere, Christian. How about this one? It says dreamcar. That's a subject. Hey, Grangeer, I'm justin from southeastern Michigan. My question is with money and need for family use aside, what would a vehicle be that you would like to buy and why? And then it says I do not want to hear about your sixty

nine Charger right now. This is besides that, which is interesting. Justin has heard me talk before about a sixty nine Charger as being a dream car. But I'm confused at why he discounted that car right away this email. He must have a problem with that says thanks for your podcast. Has become my favorite to listen to because of the realness that you bring, love all the guests that you have on brother. Thank you so much. Shout out to

Southeastern Michigan. Thanks for the email. I'm going to try to answer this without mentioning sixty nine charger, which is my favorite, because the duke's a hazard. Gosh, can you answer right on the top of your head. No, like the car, like, if there's any year, any make, any model, Yeah, it's anything he says regards wardless of money, our need for the use for your family. Yeah, I mean it probably it might would be a Toyota Supro like that

car like Brandon Jones who drove our stock car. Yeah, yeah, yeah, So I'm thinking just being a nineties kid and growing up in the nineties, I just remember that was a cool sports car to have their twin turbo engine and six feet transmission, and in the nineties that was a lot. That was a big deal. Yeah yeah, all right, I think I'm gonna go with like a Ford F one hundred or some some older body square body or body Ford, or like a nineteen eighty three Chevrolet square body single cab.

I'm gonna go and I just what I just described was my granddad's truck. You bought it brand new in eighty three, which we still had that thing, but we don't. But yeah, i'mna go with that, and that's a good, good choice without answering sixty nine charter. Yeah, I'm gonna do one more. He's in us into it, and I'm preparing you, Christian for where we're going. I've seen some of these questions, this says playing overseas Grandeur. Have you ever had a chance to play for a non military

crowd in Europe? If so, how is the pro America message and much of your music received. By the way, both of my boys are in the military, one station with one station in England. Let me know if you're planning to play at any bases in Europe, specifically England and our Let our oldest know he's a fan. Thank you, Mike, well, Mike, thank you for I have to say this, thank you

for your service, which might might easily be overlooked. But as a father of two men that are serving, you are serving your country as well in a very important role. You're the father of these men, So thank you for your service. I have played many military shows in Europe and the Middle East, and only a few non military shows and that that was in France is the only country I've done non military shows in Western Europe, so not in England, but I want to do that. I

would love to do that. We were actually planning, we had a tour planned for England in September of twenty twenty, and in March of twenty twenty. Obviously that got canceled. It got completely wiped out. So I haven't seen that same offer come back through, but we would love to do that. How about you, Christian, I know you've traveled a bunch. Yeah, I've traveled a pretty good bit, been to Europe a few times, in Africa and Central America.

And I think the question was asking about the American Right's right, you brought me back here, yeah, And so I think it's we were talking about this a little bit at lunch, just the perspective that we have as Americans, just our worldview, and then when you travel, you you just it's a whole different perspective. It's not quite totally idled here, I think Americans. I think it's I do think it's the best. I think America's, particularly the United States,

is the best country on the planet. But it's just so good to get outside of your perspective, outside of your worldview, and realized that we took a lot of things for granted. Absolutely, so I can I can't answer that, Mike. I could say this that, first of all, you're probably referring to there's a few songs that Earl Dibbles has, like a song called America. Right. America came out after I had already been to the Europe stuff and the Iraq and Kuwait stuff. But we have been since then

to Australia and Canada. And it's funny because the first time I went to Canada and America was kind of semi viral on YouTube. I always didn't know what to do, like what do I do with this? You know, Mike's right, and thinking, now what do I do song? So I win and I took it off the set list. Thought that was an augous thing, which was weird because when we went there, it was like during the height of what this song was, how it was bubbling over on YouTube.

So I did a meet and greet and I saw some good fans that I recognized from Canada, and I was like, guys, quick question, why should I do with America? And They're like play it and I was like, really, that seems weird, and they're like, no, we have the same kind of saying in Canada. It's Canada like instead of America Canada, they do the same thing. Yeah, so they said sing the song and replace it and I was like, that's a cool idea. So I did and they loved it. Then I went to Australia, same thing.

I said, what should I do with this song American and they said, our phrase is Australia. So it just worked. I did Australia. So what I would usually do, and you know, salute to my home country, I would say America the first two times, first two choruses, and the last chorus Australia or Canada, and then they went nuts. So so, Mike, long story short, it's amazing how other countries are actually very accepting of the over the top pro America is because they all share that same sentiment

at some level. So you guys also comment below if you are from Canada or America, I mean Australia, and and let me know what if you agree with that. And then if you're from Europe, what in the world would we say England. I don't know what it would be yeah to the king. I don't know. Are you ready Christian here at Buffalo, Let's go. I'm gonna let you. I'll let you get into some of these. I'll let you help me pick sure, So I'm gonna Here's a

subject called marriage. Subject called advice. There's a subject that says, random question. I have the trouble with girls. My wife and I are thinking about moving. Let's go with advice. That's advice, says hi, mister Smith. For of all, I want to thank you for your inspirational music. When I have a bad day, I resort to your music and it speaks to me and it has saved my life many times. Wow, thank you, she says. My mother passed away almost six years ago and I can't find any

way to cope with it. My project, vehicles and work are how I get distracted. But at the end of the day, it's still there. What do you recommend doing that might help cope with it? This is Danielle from Alberta, Canada. Oh well, some awody from Canada, Canada, Canada. Danielle, thank you, thank you, thanks for emailing and I'm sorry. I'm so sorry about your mother. Where would you go. If you were talking with Danielle and she came to you Christian

with this, where did you start? Where'd you start with? Well, first, I just want to affirm the grief is a real thing and regardless of it's if it's been six days or six years, that's still your mother and that's good. Grief is real and it's although it's is sometimes an emotion or something that has a mindset, it's also something

that you physically feel and you physically experience. And I would just encourage you one is is just accept that and be okay that, Hey, six years later, if I'm still missing my mother doesn't mean something's wrong with me. It's just maybe maybe maybe there's a work that still needs to be done on the inside of me. And I would encourage you to get into some counseling, some grief share groups. I would also just remind you that to stay busy, you know, stay active, keep your mind occupied.

You know, the Bible teaches us that an idle mind can be deceitful, an idle mind can it can be unhealthy. And if you find yourself sitting around just pondering and wondering what's next for you and missing your mother. I would encourage you to get busy and find something just to put some life into, find something to put some of your attention into, because I promise you I can tell you in my life that when I've experienced grief, when I've experienced pain, that when I find something that's

greater than that pain that's worth investing into. Is when I begin to that's where my focus goes. That's where my attention goes, and I'll get distracted on you know, I forget, oh yeah, that was tough. But when I find something or someone to invest into, that's that's usually the game changer for me. That's so good and Christian, you have such a servant heart, and it's it's evident with that, with what you're saying to Danielle. And once

again I'll say, my mother is still around. So I cannot, I cannot begin to understand what you're going through, Danielle. And but I'm sure a lot of people listening have lost a mother and everyone has a different story. This is this is what I could tell you with with grief. Let me go to a couple places here. One, it

will get better. It's good, it just will. And and almost regardless of what you do, regardless of how you just how much or how little you distract yourself time, day by day, week by week, month by month, year by year, it will get better. And that's not always the answer we want to hear, because we're living in the present. We're living in this moment. So how do I deal with it right now? I don't. It's fine if I'm going to be better in five years, but I want to deal with it right now. I look

at it as grief is a thief. It's good grief is a thief because because the grief that you feel for your mother has nothing to do with your mother and who she was. Now, the amount of grief you've had you have for her equals the amount of love you had for So you're by you saying that six years later you still hurt, you still grieve means you loved her a lot, a lot. Yeah, you loved her that much that it still hurts all after these several years. And in the long run, Danielle, that's a good thing.

Meaning losing a mother that you loved that much at your age now I don't know how old you are, but is so much better than a lifetime with a worthless mother. And so you're you're very blessed that you have a mother that you loved that much and you have those memories because not everyone can say that. So there's a massive positive right there that you have that.

And let me go back to grief as a thief, because I've thought a lot about this in my life, but grief, grief will come in to your mind and steal your the positive thoughts about your mother, take that away from you. When when you want to think of your mother and smile, and then you do smile because of something great thought you had about her, and then

you feel guilty for smiling because you shouldn't. You shouldn't be feeling happy you lost your mother, And that that's a lie, that grief is stealing, stealing that that good moment that you're trying to have with your mother and trying to smile by telling you you shouldn't be smiling, you should be sad, and just realizing that helps you go so sad. Oh wait a minute, this is my This is that thief Grangel was talking about. And just imagine think about you said that about it being a thief.

Think about how grief has distracted you from so many positive things in your right, Like it's stealing so many great moments and so many great memories, right and delaying you from starting what you talked about, getting into something that's more valuable than that grief. And we're and we're not at all suggesting that grief again, that isn't real and it's just a choice where you just wake up one day and it's gone. That's not it. That's not

the case. It's a process and it's a journey. But it is also a thief and it will rob from you and rob from others and those that are around you that you're there, you're meant to invest into. If this is a different piece of advice than I would tell you if this was six weeks, it's be different, Oh for sure. But six years I say this, Danielle. After six years, I say, when that comes up in your mind and you start feeling super sad and thinking of maybe the last moments with your mom, you recognize,

right there, no not going there. Yeah, no, I'm going to good memories. Yeah. And I would say too that in those moments where you're grieving her, to Granger's point, like just honor her in that movement and like, and if you're having a day that you're missing her more than ever, then make it a point that day to share with someone that you're in relationship with, someone at work,

someone you know at the office or at school. We don't know what season of life you're in, but just share a moment of your mother that honors her, like your best memory growing up. And it's gonna be hard to really, you know, when you share a positive memory like that, you're not gonna be that sad about it, you know. Absolutely. It's been seven years since I lost my dad, and I love that now. I could go, I could drive past a restaurant and I can go, I could smile. Dad love that place, you know, and

it's all smile. I've never lost a sibling or a child or a parent, but I've lost grandparents and I've lost aunts and uncles, And yeah, that's the clothes I can closest. I can relate to what she's going through, but I can tell you now, I'm in a season of life and we celebrate them like we like. I honor my grandparents for I think the investment they made into me, and so of course I missed them I miss them every day, but I'm also honored it I had the time you know that I had with them

here on earth. So it's good hanging there. Danielle. I appreciate the question. Seek, seek wise counsel, seek good friends, and seek those those moments of serving others, because when you start serving others, and maybe there's someone in your in a circle around you that lost their mother this year, and you can go to them and go do you want to talk about this? Tell me about your mother?

Could you have any pictures of her? Show? And you'll watch yourself as you're investing in that, watch yourself start healing from the inside. So that's I think that's pretty solid. And thank you for emailing back up to you. Christian. We're spinning the wheel here. We have I'll go to the bottom. We have faith and friends. We have need some advice. We have if you were seventeen. Let's do

the faith and friends. Faith and friends. Okay, it says, hey Granger, I'm going to give you the same paragraph that you that you read all the time. But I love your music, I love watching your podcasts and vlogs, I love your sweet family. Thank you so much. So here it is it says. I know religion is not new to your life, but in the past couple of years it's become a part of your storyline and I

love it. My question is does your religious views are writing the word affect your everyday life when it comes to other people. Do you talk about Christianity to others all the time, like everywhere you go or do you find that you have to be more reserved with some And have you ever had a fan or a family try to discredit your faith in any way by saying something negative about you and talking about your faith? And so how do you handle it? In this day and time?

It seems that if you say I'm a Christian, people want to judge your every step. For example, if you drink, you're a sinner. If you show anger, you're a sinner. If you dance, you're a ciner. I get really discouraged from statements like this or in general just saying negative comments about being religious. How does a person in the public I deal with this? Thank you so much for your time, Angie from Georgia, but your neighbor Georgia. Yeah, kind of good stuff. Good stuff. I'm Angie, and I

want to start I want to start here. I want to start by saying, because I see this in emails a lot from you guys, I want to kind of squash the word religion. That's good, let's do it. I just don't kind of rebuke that word because I'm really I'm very religious about waking up in the morning and eating and eating, eating, and watching watching Aggie football, going to the restroom. Yeah, pretty religious about that. Yeah, it's going to happen. Yeah, I'm religious about having my cup

of coffee every morning, though. And uh, and sometimes that word just gets it gets kind of muddled. And there's a big difference between loving Jesus and being religious. And I don't want to I just want to clear that up before we even get into this. And Christian and I talked a little bit about this even at lunch today. But let's get into the to the meat of your question.

It sounds like and you sounds like you are a Christian that is struggling with the world around you, and you've it sounds like you've had some some people try to discredit your faith, saying some negative things, maybe calling you out for what they think that they think you would judge them for that, right, and you're doing it, so then we'll call you out on that. And this is all basic normal, it's normal world. You know. Have

you do you Christian? Do you deal with this people's people coming to you and saying something similar to what Angie's saying. Yeah, I mean, I think we've all as a believer, I think we've all had days where we have people questioning our relationship with the Lord or critiquing us and criticizing what it is that we believe in, or maybe our character as far as like hey, why you know you don't you shouldn't have to do that as a Christian or But I mean, I think what

I would say to is it Angie? Is that right? Angie? Angie from Georgia, Angie, I would I just want to encourage you. One is is uh what Grander and I was talking about lunch, and that is is that you know, our our relationship with Christ is really not something that we have to defend and know is it something we have to prove? And the kind of the thing we talk about often is is that we just want to be someone that has something. There's something in us that

other people desire like we don't. We don't have to go around sharing you know, memory versus and scripture and you need that's right. Yeah, Like our goal is, like we've talked about this day of lunch, I just want to see something. I just want to be someone that someone sees, Hey, I want what they have, Like I know what they're walking through in life, and look at the strength that's on that, look at the joy that

they have, look at the peace that they have. And I will tell you that when you're someone that, when you're someone that's walking like that, people are going to desire that, regardless of what religion they're from, what faith background they have, And you can't critique that, like you can't you can't criticize peace. If you ever see somebody's just, they're just. They come in and there's joy in their life and they're peace. They're peaceful in the middle of

a storm. No one's critiquing that. Everyone's desiring that. I think that's perfect. Like the person that is that in twenty twenty, the people that are walking in peace were walking in confidence and assurance while the rest of the world was falling down around us and in chaos. That was what everyone was desiring. Yeah, yeah, that's so good. Well, I've heard it said that you don't have to worry about saying the message so much. When you are the best,

you have to live it. You live the message. And so Angie, that's perfect. And I don't even I don't totally know this is what you're even asking. I'm just kind of assuming that this is happening to you, which is why you're asking it to me. So you say, my question is does your religious views are spreading the word affect your everyday life when it comes to other people? Yes,

and it should. It should for everybody because when it is when you are the message, when you are living this, when you're living by that word, that it should just permeate everything that you do. I'm not talking about everything you say. I'm not talking about the weird on the street corner that's that's saying Hell's Coming and holding the Bible and screaming at people that it's not what I'm talking about. I'm talking about exactly what Christian said, where

you go, there's something different about that guy. There's like a piece that I can't describe what's going on with you. It's how you treat the lady of the chuck outline like it's it's how you treat your your waitress or your waiter. It's it's how you interact with people at the ball field, and you know, it's it's just how you live your life to the So it's always on

my mind everywhere I go. I'm thinking about the people I'm interacting with and the friendships that I have, and like, I want there to always be fruit on my life that I'm a follower of Christ in all. Yeah, second part of the question, how do you deal with people judging and giving you negative comments about being religious? Well, I think it's that that kind of stuff. It's anything else in life that starts with it's any negative comment, it starts with you being confident with your your views

and your your way of life. The way I look at any negative comments in anything in my world is and I read this in a I saw this in a Brene Brown book called Daring Greatly. But it was basically the idea that we're all in this arena and if we're down, if we're the gladiators on the dirt, the only advice or criticism where we can take is from people in the dirt with us that are sweating and bleeding with us. But the person up in the nose bleeds up in the top, I'm not listening to that.

So not listening to that criticism because you're not down here. Now. If you're down here and we're brothers and you say, man, you got straightened up. Okay, we're bleeding together, I understand, but not from you way up in the top of the nose bleeds in the arena. And I think that's the same with you. And by the way, drinking is not a sin. Dancing is not a sin. So we'll go ahead and clear that up. Does say show your anger,

So there's there's there's a fine line there. But but if you've named two out of your three that aren't even sins that people are calling you out on, that's just weird. That's that's someone that's that doesn't understand ceremonial and civil and moral laws of the Old Testament and the difference between them. So keep doing what you're doing, Angie. Shout out to Georgia. We're gonna take a quick break

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email Granger Smith podcast at gmail dot com. Could be about any subject, I'm gonna answer it here. I'm gonna go through the rest of these right now. I only have one request, and I don't say this too often, but if you have a question, try not to make your whole life story in the body of the email, because it's just harder. It's harder for me in this content to read through a very long email. Just try to keep it where we can get the main points and if that makes sense. So Christian, we have top

to bottom, we have marriage, we have advice. Random question trouble with girls. The wife and I are thinking about moving, let's do that one. This question comes from Jeremy. It says, my wife and I and our four year old son want to move to Texas, but we don't know where in Texas. Where do you think would be a good town or community and would be a good small town from us in northern Maine. Your music is awesome. A crank caller in my yoda, and that's why I love

dirt roads when I'm out goose hunting. Keep up the great work. Your family's awesome well, and here's a shout out to Jeremy, Melissa, Jensen, Tuck and Houlton. That's some awesome names from Maine. My first reaction to this femail, Christian, is you're leaving northern Maine. Beautiful there. You're gonna come here. It's so hot. It's hot, beautiful in the northeast. Yeah, I've toured Maine. You usually tour Maine once a year,

and it's just unreal. Now you're leaving for the reasons that you haven't said, or you want to leave for reasons you haven't said. But don't whatever you do, don't leave because you think the grass is greener in Texas because it's not greener from Birmingham. It's it's not greener in Texas. I mean it's great, but the grass is liter Birmingham is very not greener. Yeah, Burnham's a lot of rain, so yeah, Birmingham is a beautiful town. It's beautiful. So have you been to main I half once. Did

you get lobster? Uh? No. It was a quick trip with family, so it was in and out really quick, so I wasn't able to get lobster. I'll just see a moose. I did not see a moose. I want to go back, like it's one of those trips that I want to go back. So Jeremy, here's the deal, me and Christian, we're going to trade with you. You come on down and you will just switch houses and we'll go uh we'll go up and start a celebration in church. And it absolutely I could do the podcast

there on my back porch with the moose. In all seriousness, if you actually are coming for business reasons or whatever else, I am. I am have a sweet place in my heart for Central Texas in Georgetown and the Square, just like many places in the country, the real estate market is ridiculous right now that everyone seems to be moving, but I think everyone's moving everywhere off the coastal states right and going into the interior. So what do you have?

Would you say Central Texas? Would say, I would say Central Texas And he's asking a boy the city I would I mean, I would say Georgetown. Any any suburb of Austin. Yeah, any suburb of Auston I think would be a great you know, being new to town and being from Birmingham, it's it's Central Texas is amazing. There's

a ton for family. I mean, he mentioned his family, and I think in Williamson County they have some of the fastest growing cities in America, the most appealing, Like I think it's the number two city in America to raise a family. So just with all the parks and the education. Yeah, uh, outskirts of Houston, you're gonna see some really tall pine trees. Might make you feel a little bit like Maine. You're gonna have that coastal air,

that salt air that it might remind you made. But it's a lot hotter, that's and you're gonna deal with hurricanes. But but yeah, thanks for the question, buddy, what do you think Christian we have I need some advice. We have faith in friends, We have trouble with girls. Podcast question, Random question, the random question, Random question. I like how you're picking the ones that didn't stand it, says, hey, Granger in My name is Gavin Holsworth from Stillwater, Oklahoma.

And your song the Country Boy song, you mentioned being a quarter Cherokee. Is this true? If not, I totally understand. I'm just curious. In your podcast you said we could ask anything and I'm Cherokee. That says, thank you, Gavin, Dude, great question. I say in that song, I say quarter Cherokee blood from my mom's half, So I don't think

that's the old Devil's math there. And the reality of the truth is my grandmother is a quarter Cherokee, my grandmother's so my grandmother's father was half, so she's a quarter, which makes my mom in eighth, which makes me a sixteenth. And I believe that a sixteenth is almost nothing. It's not worth bragging about or claiming, because I think a lot of people are probably sixteenth of some kind of

Native American. Yeah, what about you? You You got Irish? Irish, got that Irish a lot more than sixteenth What is it now? I don't know these actus Williams and clann but Williamson Clinn. Yeah, we're definitely we're Irish. And my actually my grand my granddad, my grandmother was half Cherokee, but I didn't quite didn't quite make it my way. So yeah, it's in you. Similar, it's in there, It's just not in my complexion. Yeah, and you could tell, like my brother Tyler actually has no I don't have

much facial hair, but Tyler doesn't have any. Yeah, which is any? That's usually the big indication of how much Native American the genetics you have in you? Is the facial hair? Really? I didn't know that. Yeah, thank you, Kevin. That's a good question. Where do we go now we have? How about this one? Because this one kind of been popping out. There's no body to it. It's just a subject and it says, and there's actually not even a name.

It's ask God. It says, what would you do if you were seventeen and your parents were trying to destroy your relationship. I'm happy with the girl, and I don't want to lose her do to my parents. B s ooh wow, no name, no contact, just that well, one is I don't know if he wants to know what, I'm going to say, Yeah, I don't know. If I want to know what you're first, I would say one is being seventeen. I'd have to ask the question, you know, are you living under their roof? And how do you

determine what's your definition of destroy? Is it something that they see in her or in you that is unhealthy and is leading you down maybe a path they don't want you to go down. And so is this mom and dad destroying your relationship? Or is this mom and dad parenting you in a direction that you may not see is the most beneficial for you? Right now, let

me tell you my morning reading today. Proverb six It says, this is proverb six point twenty, this is my son, Keep your father's commandment, and for sake, and not forsake your mother's teaching. Bind them on your heart, always tie them around your neck. When you walk. They will lead you. When you lie down, they will watch over you when

you awake. They will talk with you. For the commandments as a lamp, and the teaching a light, and the reproofs of discipline and the way of life, to preserve you from the evil woman one from the smooth tongue of the adulterys. Do not desire her beauty in your heart. Do not let her capture you with her eyelashes. Right it is. I think love and Dad might be looking out for you. And you know, I think you have to ask too. You have to ask yourself, is this

what's the character of mom and dad? You know, I think if you you know, again, we don't know your name, but you're seventeen years old, and if you're sitting here going man, this is just completely out of character for my parents. And I would say it's probably just something the piece of it you're missing. Yeah, for the past seventeen years, mom and dad has been incredible. Mom and dad incredible. Parents, have instilled so many great things into you.

And now all of a sudden, you feel like they're coming out of left field. They may not be coming out of left field. It might just be a you know, you ever heard the saying love is blind? Yeah? Yeah, Yeah. The trick to this question is you say, what would you do if you were seventeen and your parents were trying to do? Yeah? Well, so that's a different deal because if I was seventeen, I would be seventeen and

I would be you. But I'm not anymore, and I'm looking back on it, and I'm saying I'm saying, brother,

regardless of what your parents are doing. You guys know on this podcast that I'm always going to go back to a biblical foundation and this is not it is not supported biblically for me to tell you to forget what your parents are saying, because it's bs as you said, So my advice to you, as a brother, as a buddy, as in a campfire setting with me and Christian, I'd say, brother, you need to consider what they're saying, and you need

to take it to heart. And you don't have many more years under their roof, like you said, you don't. You're at the end of your time, but you're still in their time. You're still under their clock. And I would think why Christian said, there's more to this story. There's something they're seeing with this girl. You say, I'm happy with her. But happiness doesn't have anything to do

with it, buddy, it doesn't. Happiness is fleeting. Happiness happens when the sun comes out and shines on your shoulders and the rain stops and you go, I'm kind of happy right now, but that's nothing that drives something as big as this. So that's my advice. That's not what you wanted me to say. It's probably not what you expected me to say, but I did read that in Proverbs six. When I said twenty six this morning, I think that might be a sign for you. Trouble with

girls again. Advice marriage podcast question. Let's go marriage. See what that is? Hey, Grandeura, It's Dalton from Pennsylvania. How are you? My wife and I got married last year on August first. Well, now seven months into it, she doesn't want to work on things anymore. She walked out, barely talks to me anymore. She said she wants to go through the divorce. She's made it very clear. My question is how do I go about life and move

on without her. We've been together seven to eight years and it seems like she doesn't want anymore, lost, confused and hurt. Hope to hear from you soon, Dalton, man, I'm sorry, brother. That that's uh, that's that's a that's a marriage question right there, and that is a quick turnaround. The seven months into it, I've heard of this before. I don't know anybody personally that has been only into

it seven months. Yeah, I think. I think. What's interesting because he asked the question how do I go on with life without her? And I would you said, y'all have been together seven eight years and clearly you love her. I would just encourage you. Now, don't like you made a commitment, you made a covenant. Don't give up. Fine, go seek some counsel, Go seek some help, learn to understand how she receives love. Maybe listen to what she's saying, are the reasons why she's leaving or wanting to be

with someone else? And then ultimately remember that you can't control her, you can't change her, but you can fight. And what I hear in the what I hear in this email is that you may have given up a little bit, like it's how do I live life without her? So it sounds like you're in the driveway ready to pull out, and I would tell you get out of the car, go back in the house, fight, stand firm, stand, stand confident, and don't give up on your marriage. It's

not gonna be easy. You know. What's interesting is that I wonder if this is a product of the pandemic a little bit. They said they got married August first, last year. Yeah, that's a tough time, said terribly. Yeah, they get married. Man, that's tough. That's you guys. Maybe I'm assuming you had it planned for a long time. It just fell right during the pandemic. I'm assuming you guys in Pennsylvania had heavy restrictions on the actual ceremony

you've had. That's a tough go at a world when you're dealing with problems that most married couples hadn't deal dealt with in the last fifty years. I wonder if that's not part of it. I hope it's not. You would hate to think the divorce is going to come out to something that is fleeting, like the pandemic, that's gonna eventually go away. I love everything Christian said that. I love the analogy of you're you're already in the driveway waving goodbye, and you need to get back in

the house. And I say, when you go back in the house, start digging into what are the reasons that she wants to walk out and barely talks to you. What kind of concessions can you be making instead of thinking that this is her problem, this is she's walking out, she doesn't want to talk. What are you doing that? You could then turn to her and go, I want to I want to meet in the middle. I want to come to you with this. I want to surrender to this marriage in a way that I haven't before.

And Babe, how can I do that for you? How can I how can I help save this? Do I need to quit my job? Do we need to move? Do we need to have a second conversation about this the child we were thinking about having. Do we need to do we take a vacation? I don't know. I mean, there's a lot of things that I think if you go down fully, commit fully to the path of giving everything to it, then if she's adamant and walking out,

your heart is gonna be a lot better off. I think you've just got to know you you gave it everything you've got. You can't you can't have any regrets. Yeah, but I would also encourage him. I remember that as a man of the house, you're the leader of the house, and so she's looking at you potentially lead lead you guys through this, like lead you guys into counseling. Don't wait on her to make the appointment, don't wait on

her to reach out for help. Interesting, listen to what she's saying and go and get some help and get some advice. Also I would encourage you is don't allow how she's responding to anything that you're doing to affect

the decisions that you're making. Like don't so go bira a dozen roses and bring them home, And don't let the fact that she wasn't excited, didn't smile, change the fact that you wanted to get her some chocolate or do something nice like the next day, like you just you got to commit, man, and you've got to predetermine it. I'm making these decisions because I'm committed to my marriage, not how she's going to respond to her. Wow. I

love that. So then also you said listen to her, So in the listening, it's the same thing regardless of what she's saying, regardless of how she's just chewing you out. That's right, letter, Listen, listen to hear it out because maybe you could learn something from it. Maybe she's telling you something that you need to hear. Right, there's that, oh for sure. And I think if she's chewing you out.

Then she's hurt. She's angry. So there's either a reason why she's angry, which you need to lean into and discover what that is, or this is the reason why she's hurt, so you need you know both. You've been with her seven or eight years. You didn't You didn't marry someone who was angry and yelling all the time something's happened. And again, just I think it's your role and your responsibility to lead her through this, lead the

two of you through this. Don't weigh on her. I think too often in relationships and every relationship we move forward in those relationships, but I think we have heart time being vulnerable. So we're always like, hey, are they gonna are they gonna take this step too? Are they

going to do this too? And it doesn't matter whether it's a friendship or someone you're married to, But I would encourage be vulnerable, tell her how you feel, and again, do things expecting no response, Like it doesn't matter whether she is thankful that I did things for or not. Do it anyway, do it just out of a servant's heart, just the server. Think about this question, Dalton, Think about if you asked her with a full heart, babe, what can I do to save this? Yeah? And and mean

it and let her know that you mean it. What can I, dude, save this? Yeah? And I mean and you can't. And it's got to be You've got to be you hearing from her. So if she says, well, I need you to do this, this, and this, your response can be well, I need you to do this this and yes. Your respond is like, Okay, I'll work on that. I'm on it. I'll go I don't know how to do that, but I'm gonna go get some help.

I'm gonna go talk to my dad, talk to my brother, I'm gonna talk to someone who might have been through something like this, and yeah, I'm on it. Yeah. Shout out to Pennsylvania and Dalton. Thanks for the question, brother, Yeah, great question. Appreciate the vulnerability to absolutely. Please email back in and let me know keep us updated on what happens with this. All right, we got we got maybe two, maybe one more, so we're here to the final stretch

of faith and friends. Need some advice podcast question trouble with Girls and then another just advice. Let's do the I think the podcast Trouble where Girls are the last two. We haven't done. Do the podcast questions. Podcast question It says, good morning, Granger Smith. I'm Jake, eighteen years old. Just moved to Florida from Kentucky. Moved here to continue my education at the Universal Technical Institute to be a master mechanic.

I moved here to get closer with a girl that I had been with for three years in Kentucky, and she moved to Florida. Then we had a big falling out not long after. Five months later, I still might find myself getting upset and thinking about her a lot. I missed that girl a lot. I love your podcast and enjoy listening to them. I always love your answers that you give to people. Any chance you can give me a little advice that might get me closer to getting over this girl. If you read this and talk

about it, thank you, Thank you. Jake shout out to Kentucky and Florida. It's a different variation of the last questions. So this is it sounds like it's done. He has. He made a big step leaving Kentucky and going to Florida to be closer to her, and now she's gone. The first thing I think of, and this is always from that, you know, outside looking in, I don't not

in the trenches with you, Jake. But the first thing I think of is you move there to be with her, But you also continued your education to be a master mechanic that you might not have had that kind of opportunity or that boost right without moving there for her. So there's already a big plus you're getting out of this. I know that doesn't make you feel any better, but it will later, oh for sure. And then you have to ask yourself too, what did you learn through that

whole experience and through that relationship? You know, I'm sure there's there's value in everything that we go through, Granger, and so I realized it didn't work out the way that you wanted it to. But you're specifically asking the question, how do I get over her and how do I move on? I think it's very similar to it's grief.

It's still grief. Grief is grief, whether it's a loss a love war and a loss of a relationship, And you know, you hold onto the fond memories and just understand that life is in this situation, Life is moving forward, and you've learned a lot, You've grown a lot. You're not the same person you were at the beginning of that relationship, and you know there's again there's value in everything. And here you are. You've got your degree, got a great career in front of you, you have your whole

life ahead of you. And so that's a really encouraging thing. Something positive did come out of it. Yeah, and there's going to be so many more positive things you don't even know of. Jake and me and Christian consider and tell you a million stories between us and friends and other. This is this, this story, your story is thousands of years old. You know you fell in love and you lost her and now you miss her. The first thing I would say to you is if you say, how

do I get over? It's a little a little more time go by. It's been five months, just hasn't been enough time yet you're still it's still fresh, the wound is still open, and just got a little little more time go by. And you've got to be you have to be open to move moving on, not closed and sad and lost, but you got to be more open to well, I'm here, I'm finishing my education. That's awesome. I'm meeting new relationships, new friends. You have now the

opportunity to go back to Kentucky. Maybe you're free. Hey, you're free, dude, you're free. You can go back to Kentucky. You go back to your old friends, and you got to this awesome degree out of it. So you're going to see that as more months go by. But you're only five months in, so you're just you're just not there. So that's yes's for my advice. That's it. Yeah, it's interesting you said something there. You said you got to

be open to moving on. And I think that's an interesting statement because I believe any anytime we have to overcome something emotionally that we're going through our first choices, we got to choose to want to overcome it, like because sometimes I think when we're going through something, it's easier to sit in it, right, It's easy to be like, man, this hurts, this is painful. But somewhere because that hurts,

is hurt too, and that hurt. Guess what, It's easier to be in the hurt than it is to overcome. But somewhere you've got to choose like, I'm not going to be I'm not staying like this, I'm going I'm going to overcome this. So that was a great I love that you shared that being in that hurt. He's still feeling the remnants of the love. So he's still kind of in a relationship with her. She's just not there. He's just instill in it. So you're gonna be You're

gonna be just fine, Jake, just fine. Yep, let's do let's do one more. Christian. We have advice. We have troubled girls. We have need some advice, and we have faith and friends do advice, it says, Hang on a second, I'm messed up. This is Danielle. Shout out to Danielle. We love your girl. We love that. We love you so much that I didn't delete your email the first time, so that makes it easier. We have we have trouble with girls. Need some advice. Faith and friends. Faith and

friends says, hey, grangew would you would you Christian? Would you believe I did this twice? Did you do it twice? But twice? That's Angie. When we got when we got off the break, I h hit some weird button on my iPhone in it unarchived things. Okay, now it's much easier. Trouble with girls or I need some advice. Trouble with girls. Trouble with girls. This is like a girl's episode. Is I was just thinking, we're episode. By the way, you knew I had repeated those subjects, didn't You said it early?

I said it earlier, you didn't, So I'm going to tell you done that. He's done so many episodes. Surely he knows what he's doing. That's right, that's funny, Okay, trouble with girls. It says, hey, grade, your my name is Justin. I'm twenty I'm from Iowa. Shout out to Iowa says I've recently had a tough stretch of meeting some great girls and them leaving me because the timing

wasn't right. I'm just lost because I feel like God is telling me that I'm ready to give someone all that I have to offer, but it keeps falling through. I was just wondering if you have any advice on dating, because I'm sure you've had you've dealt with similar similar situations. I love your music and what you do. Sincerely, Justin,

Thank you. Brother twenty years old, Justin and Iowa. And he has had a series of girls that he really likes, great girls and then leaving him because the timing was all right, Okay, similar question to the last, but this is different. And here's the biggest reason why it's different, Justin, because there are a stretch of girls. There's several girls, meaning it's not their problem. Right, There's a common denominator.

There's a common denominator, and that's you. Yeah, what would you tell to Justin if he came if he came to you and said Christian and he's dumped this on you. Yeah. I mean, first of all, Van Bro tough time, and I'm sorry to hear that, but you you know, again, there's a common denominator here, and listen to what they're saying. Listen, listen to their reasons for moving on, and and just grow from it and just on it. You know, as men, sometimes we've just got to take responsibility for the reasons

why they felt like it wasn't going to work. And then two, I just want to encourage you and know that there is someone, there is someone out there for you. It's just clearly those ladies they weren't the right one. And again, be encouraged in that. And then the second part, what was the second question? He asked he asked this two questions. Oh, he said, I feel like I have so much to offer. What single person in their twenties

isn't saying that right? You know? And that's kind of like I think of like immediately, I think, you know, there's tension that we fix and there's tension that we manage, and so I think that's just one of those so good. Yeah, that's one of those tensions that you just got to learn to manage that and there's tensions that we fix and tensions that we manage. Yeah, I love that. Yeah,

I've never heard that. It's good advice. And so you've made you you're twenty, you're super young, you're maturing so exponentially right now, and I would this is a great season in your life to become the best version of yourself that you can be, because you need to be healthy to be in a healthy relationship. You can't take two unhealthy people put them in a relationship and have a healthy relationship. It requires two healthy people for a

healthy relationship. So man again, you're still young. I imagine you're working on your education beginning of your career. Just hey, just be okay in the season of life that you're in and just work on the best version of yourself you can be right now, so good. And I know, justin. I know that's hard to hear Christians say that, because that doesn't just offer you a McDonald's happy meal solution right now, here and now and fix this craving. It

doesn't solve it. But that's just the right advice. That's just what you're saying is just right. You have to be the best version of yourself, and now it's the perfect time. In a way, we all wish that we could be twenty again, not to be in a relationship, but to be the best version of ourselves and to work on us. There's two interesting things you say in this email. And I love it when when you guys help me answer yourself through your own question. I love

it when you do that. So two things. One so I'm just lost or excuse me. One you say the girls have left me because the timing wasn't right. I'll tell you right now. The timing thing is a lie. It's always a lie in any relationship in life, at whatever age. It's never about the timing because if it was about the love, love would overcome time no matter what it's it's always I would just I'm not. It's not I'm not in the right place to be in a relationship, or I'm not I'm in this. I'm in

school right now, and it's not there. It's never guts. If it's true love, it's if it's meaningful, If it matters, it overcomes, and it encompasses all of the life in between. It doesn't. Time does not matter. So if you hear that the time just in the timing's just not right, that means I just don't love you as Yeah, unfortunately it's an there's no easier way to say that. But the second thing is, and this is this is a kicker for me and you kind of I love how

you kind of answered it. But you said I've lost because I feel like God is telling me I'm ready to give. I'm ready to give someone all of what I have that you know, he let us write to this, He led us to this. Let me say it again, you this is your words. I'm just lost because I feel like God is telling me I'm ready to give someone all that I have to offer. What if that's

someone is God? What if God is calling you to give all of yourself to him, and what kind of blessing would you get out of that, including a relationship or or or things even greater than a relationship. But have you considered that? Have you considered that? That is what That's the reason you're lost. That's why you can't connect the dots and why these girls are not working out. And you feel like this, You feel this call from

God and he's wanting you to give love. But it was not to give to a girl, it was to give to him. It's interesting. Yeah, and you and I both know Grange are that void that he's feeling can only be filled by the Lord. I can only be feeled by God. Is can never be filled by another relationship or by another girl. So truth is, until you, until you allow God to fill the God's size hole in your heart, they're never going to be that best

version of yourself to be in that relationship. There is a God size hole in your heart and you could fill it with anything, you could feel it with any kind of substance or any kind of girl. And it's when you still feel lost, when you fill that hole with everything you can and you still feel empty, it's because only God could feel that. And that's why you feel lost. You don't feel lost because you've had some broken relationships here. That's not the reason. But you're the

one justin that said God. You're the one that said it, not me. He set it up. He set it up. That's awesome. Appreciate you, buddy. That's all the time we have. Christian, you the man. I appreciate. Did you do this again? I'd love to if you guys, if you guys like Christian, please comment below. More Christians say more Christian. That's that's actually it's actually his name and he's William's son. That's right, there's some some William at some point had a son

and that became your william son. I'm honored to be part of that for many of d That's right. Hey, thanks shout out to Alabama for Christian to see you guys more ego. Thanks for joining me on the Granger Smith podcast. I appreciate all of you guys. You could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. Hit that little like button and notification spell so that you never missed

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