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Let me explain, me explain, because then I started reading these comments below the last podcast and they were like, Hey, I don't think you talked about girls with daddy issues. I liked the podcast, but I didn't hear you talk about girls with daddy issues at all. You're right, You're right. And then Amber came to me and she was like, hey, babe, I think you said the wrong title. I've done that on the Smiths and my other my family YouTube channel.

I've put a one thumbnail on and then said the wrong title because I had two videos going on in my brain. So Bernie was my guest the last two weeks, and I didn't do an intro like I'm doing right now for today's podcast in the same sitting as when I was with Bernie. So as I was thinking about Okay, I got to intro this podcast, I got to talk

about it. So I pulled up my phone and I pulled up Dropbox that I had uploaded the content to, and I started scrolling through to remember what I talked about, and I heard me talking about daddy issues, and it just so happened to be the podcast before the last podcast, so I didn't realize that ran with it. Did the intro, talked about it, did the thumbnail, did the title. It was an honest mistake, So I hope you guys forgive me.

I'm doing this intro right now in the same moment that I'm actually doing the actual podcast, so I'm not going to mess this up. And I've got really good questions. I got questions that I love answering because it feels like it feels like a good way to bounce off an idea, and it's just kind of go back and forth on a good, solid life issue. And I'm not going to tell you that I'm not always going to

give you the right answer. I'm just going to give you my opinion, and I'm gonna reference stories from my life and apply that as if it was something happening to me. Or a friend. That's what I'm gonna do, And you can email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com

and ask me anything. I've been organizing your questions and folders, and I've been as this podcast has gone on and on and on, I've started titling these different folders that's like this, music questions, light questions, heavy questions, Amber questions, God questions, other questions. So I've been kind of organizing as I see them come in all though, oh that's

a God question, that's a music question. So it makes it easier for them for me to scroll and build the content for you guys, and as always, thank you for listening to this content. Thank you for engaging in something like a long form podcast, because that builds a relationship with me and you wherever you are, whether you're an over the road trucker right now, maybe you're cruising down the road in your big rig shout out to you.

Maybe you're in your tractor in the Midwest. Maybe you're you're driving your Mercedes to your high rised office building in Detroit. I don't know where you are, but I just think it's really cool that there's all kinds of ages, all kinds of personalities, all kinds of countries that are listening, and I'm grateful for it all because that allows me to draw in closer with you, so you feel like

you know me. And if you feel like you know me, that makes it it easier for me to make videos because then I could see your comments, and then we could all get along, and as soon as touring starts, I could see you back again in person at a meet and greet, which is what I really want. I really want this podcast to be able to move back and wildflower my bus and sit there and talk in the parking lot of a venue like I used to in the old days. Meanwhile, I'm here at the EEG

Farm Grangersmith Podcast, Episode sixty nine. Here we go did chant and dcl month time and so long line up and down on back range cog. Yeah you gnation. You could ask me anything you want, just email granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. I see all kinds of stuff, all kinds of questions, all different topics, and I know of the way that this podcast has evolved is been me answering them off the cuff without rehearsing or taking notes or having books to reference, because I kind of

wanted to for a couple of reasons. When it's just remain where it's like me and you the truck driving along. Hey, I'm gonna bounce something off you. Something's going on in my life or some good news. I have just a normal conversation with friends. It's kind of how I want

this podcast to be. One of the reasons I like that is because it allows me to just flip this podcast out every Monday, every Monday morning, and I don't have to I don't have to get into a busy week of my work and think, oh no, I forgot to draw out an outline for a podcast topic. You guys give me the topic, and that allows me to continue to pump out the the podcast episodes and not fill the burden. And so that allows me sometimes to Hey, I got some extra time, I'm gonna write out this outline,

or have some extra time. I'm gonna have this guest come in. It's got an amazing story, or I'm gonna tell a story in the meantime, I'm gonna jump on some of these questions right here. This question comes from Travis from Tacoma, Washington. Shout out to Washington State. It's one of the many places that I've desperately missed from touring. Fans are revenous and amazing in Washington, so shout out

to Washington State. It says, Hey, Grangeur, I met you in Seattle at your concert last December before COVID happened, and I had the time of my life. I did too, brother, it was so fun. Your music has changed my life in so many ways. Thank you for everything you do as a music artist and an entertainer. I appreciate you, Travis. And it says, my question is that if I have a monthly subscription to Apple Music, do you get anything if I add and listen to your music on Apple Music?

Thanks again, Yeah, good question, Travis, and a couple answers quickly here. It is monetarily. I do not get any of your money from Apple Music subscription. There are ways that that royalty pays out and it's fractions of pennies. And so I'm part of a record label, and my record label the way that it works, we have a

really good deal structure. I keep most of my content, the label keeps music streaming and purchases until my album and all my bills are paid for and then we split it after that, so it works out great because they can essentially work for it as like a bank to me, and I can get a big loan and go to all the studios and hire musicians and artwork and pictures and music videos like we're about to go tomorrow and shoot a really nice music video that costs a lot of money, and I don't have to pay

for it at all because the record label will front that. So that is a huge blessing when it comes to that. Now, when it like touring, I get to keep all that and pay my guys. So that's where the majority of my income comes from. So I don't worry too much about things like Apple Music. It is fractions that do go to my record label. So that being said, that is more for you, Travis and and your entertainment. I

don't I'm not a member of Apple Music. I don't know how much that cost, but to me, it is worth it for you to be able to have access to every song in the world, as opposed to needing to drive to Walmart because you love a song and then you're searching through I just think it's a better system. Yes, artists don't get paid as much. I don't care. I think it's a it's a better system to have music widely listen to and available to anyone. It's because that

just helps everybody, right, you would think. What it does do to me, Travis, is when you do add and listen to my music on Apple Music, it increases the spins and the plays and the impressions on my profile and on that particular song that you're listening to or album. When that happens, the stock, my stock rises within Apple Music, it squeaks over into Spotify and Pandora and all the other streaming services. And they say, you know, they're trying

to run a business. What they want is they want people going like you and subscribing to their services, and they want you listening a lot. So they want you. They want to find the music that you like. So if you like something that's similar to my song, they're gonna squeak my song in there so that you listen to it more so that you stay on their subscription longer. And that helps me because then they're pushing me up at the top of the list for other people to hear.

So if you've ever seen like my face on the cover of a playlist on Apple Music or Spotify or Pandora. That's a really big deal for me because that means they feel confident that by putting my face on the cover of their playlist, more people will go to their playlist and stay on their subscription, and then that pushes me hire. It gets more people to hear it. The more people that hear it, the more people that want

to look me up. The more people look me up, the more people will go to a concert and buy a ticket in a normal year. So yeah, So my answer, Travis says, yes, it helps me a lot. When you add my song and listen to my music, it helps me a lot, just not directly from that money, if that makes sense. It's an investment. There's so many things

in life are There's another question, Kayla. Kayla is from Eustace, Florida, and this email came in September, so I'm sorry I'm reading it a little bit late here, but it says, Hey, Granger, many people struggle with this just talking about Eustace. How to say, Eustace, thanks so much for reading my email.

I wonder if you or Amber ever struggle living far from home, which side note, we don't live too far from I'm two and a half hours and Amber is two hours and forty five minutes, so we're not that far from home, she says. My husband and I are from Wisconsin and we moved to Florida six years ago and we have met some amazing people along the way.

Our parents are getting older, they're in their fifties and sixties, and we feel a sense of need to move back to enjoy our time together with them, though we will never give up what we've established here in Florida, friends, jobs, etc. Is this the right move? I'm sorry, she said, though we will give half to give up what we've established here in Florida, friends, jobs, et cetera. Is this the right move? We love the southern culture and the Midwest

is cold. What do you think we should do? Thank you, Caleb, great question, and here's my answer. As if we're sitting together in a pickup truck, the fact that you're asking me means it's on your heart. It means you've been thinking about it a lot, you and your husband. And the short answer for me is yes, you should move. Let me try to explain you will not look back thirty years from now and say, man looking back on

my life parents are dead. I'm glad we stayed in Florida with our good jobs and friends and weren't there when our parents died. I don't think you're going to say that. I think it's more likely for you to say, you know what, looking back on our life, we made a decision to move back to Ohio, and I'm sorry, Wisconsin, I get my Midwest mixed up. We decided to move back to Wisconsin to be with our parents, and then

we were with them as they got older. We were able to help them out and transition into their older age. Maybe it was a nursing home or whatever, and then we were with them when they died. They passed away, we got their last wishes, We've got our children to

be around them, to be around their grandparents. I think that's the more likely scenario, Kayla, that this is something that you would possibly have a deep regret about if you were in Florida and you lost your parents and you felt like you didn't give the rest of your time that you could to them, even if it's a little bit, even if it's once a week, heck, even if it's once every two weeks, you know, you go

have dinner with your mom. There's just something to say for that time is the most valuable commodity on the planet. How are you spending that time? The most precious commodity on the planet, time, and how are you spending that Because you're not ever going to get that time back with your parents, maybe you have a rocky relationship with them that could be fixed up a little bit during that time. Listen, Wisconsin. You say it's cold. It is cold,

and Florida is not. But Wisconsin is a beautiful place. It has great cheese and it's a beautiful place in the summer. You almost have to look at the positives instead of the negatives. Yeah, you're gonna deal with cold, but you're in a warm house and you got your family close to you. I think you kind of feel this way, and I think that's why you ask the question.

I kind of think you're leaning that way anyway. And you know what, you could always later down the road, twenty years down the road, I don't know how old you are. You can always pack up and go retire back in Florida again, and you could reconnect with those friends. You could make new friends in Wisconsin. You could, Hey, it's a good scenario. Move to Wisconsin and then go

stay with your friends that you've made in Florida. These relationships, go stay with them and enjoy the beautiful weather in the wintertime of Wisconsin. Go spend that in Florida. That's my answer right now. I don't know the rest of your story, but that's my quick answer for you. This question is from Justin, says Hey Granger. My name is Justin. I'm a combat wounded vet from Iowa and I've just began to love Jesus again because of you and Amber.

Thank you for helping me find my way. My question to you is this, with you being the lead singer, face of the band, image of the company, whatever you want to call it, have you ever gotten lead singer syndrome? I know that singers get a big head and think they are everything about the band, which tends to cause big problems. Is it ever your way or the highway? Or do you always work together as a team. Thank you for your time, Justin, thank you for your service,

and shout out to Iowa. A wounded combat bet from Iowa. You sound like a good dude and you love Jesus. You sound like a good dude, sound like my kind of guy. You're a true American hero in the American heartland. So shout out to you, buddy, Thank you for writing in. It's a great question. I do think about it a lot. There is such thing as lead singer syndrome. I've seen it many times with friends in the How do I

say this starting from the bottom? I know it's cliche, and growing my band and crew from the very beginning, where we all at some point we're struggling in a in a van or pickup truck, changing flat tires and a trailer loading gear in the cold of Wisconsin and hauling it into venues and playing shows to nobody, and then getting cheated by the venue and not getting paid anything, and having a leave and trying to get the cheapest hotel room possible, and then flipping the mattresses over where

some people slept on the mattress and some people slept on the box spring so we could fit eight people in one ninety nine dollars hotel room nineteen dollars and ninety nine cents. I think that that that really puts perspective as you start growing, and what we always try to do is just be so grateful for every day and every new accomplishment with the band. And it's hard, I think, to get a big head about that when

you know where you came from. It's hard to I had to see some big success and think it's all about you when you and your boys made this happen in Amarillo, Texas, when it was snowing and you're spinning tires in the van backing up to a rusty venue door and no one's there but a bartender. You know, paying your dues, that's what they say. And I paid

my dues with my boys, not by myself. What I do to put in place in our crew so that that we don't have a potential of that happening is I keep the same guys around, and I trust them, and they're also my friends, and they keep me accountable. And we've done this long enough now that I don't threaten anyone with firing them. I don't say I have a long time ago, but I don't anymore say you do that again, you're fired, because, as you said, it's

my way or the highway. It's funny that as I'm saying, I look down to my monitor, engineer text me will But I don't threaten them with firing them. I try to always listen because if they if they're say they messed up, maybe they're just having a bad day. Maybe maybe need work on it together, you know, maybe it's something you need to sit down. You're you messed up, man,

you're having a bad day. I'm disappointed. Let's talk this out instead of using instead of using a threat like man, I'll fill your shoes and a heartbeat, fill your bunk. So I don't do that. And I also actively tell my guys, hey, if you see me doing something out of line or acting out of arrogance, call me out, call me out on it, and I'm gonna listen to you. And having this approach doesn't make things all warm and fuzzy.

It does create problems when when guys will look at me and go, hey, Granger, screw you, man, you're wrong. And there is something inside of me that don't say those specific words, but in some form they say that to me. It hurts deep down and there's this little voice inside that goes, I'm the man, I'm gonna fire you, and I gotta go Nope, no, i'm not. We're a team. And if you've got a problem with me, then maybe

there's something I need to look at in myself. Maybe there's something internally I need to look and dig deep and figure out what am I doing that is causing you to react that way? Because we got to all be responsible for ourselves. It all starts with us ourselves. If you're having a problem with somebody, have you looked at yourself first? That's where you got it. You're not gonna change that person. It's impossible. You're not gonna convince

them of your way. You gotta look inside and go maybe I'm maybe I'm doing this, I'm going about this wrong, or I need to do it in a different way, maybe not even wrong. So does that make sense? I just I mean my brother is my manager, my best friend for twenty three years is my tour manager. Every other band member has been with me for ten years, so they know me, you know, like they know me.

They know everything about me, and there's nothing I could hide from them, and there's nothing they can hide from me. So we're a band of brothers truly. Essentially, we're a brand of brothers because I have both my brothers work here Atyege Apparel with me. As you heard me say with me, not for me, not under me. With me, my band they work with me, not under me, not beneath me. My show doesn't sound right if there's not

drums and I don't play those. My show doesn't sound right if there's not a or doesn't look right if there's not lights and I don't run those, Sean does. So as long as I keep those people around on me and don't get this Elvis syndrome where you feel like you got to fire everybody and then hire yes men, that's the biggest danger that you're talking about justin that you've seen, and Elvis is like the ultimate example of that because it actually ended up being the death of him.

He died because of yes men surrounding him, and no one was brave enough to say, hey, King, you probably shouldn't be taking that pill. You probably shouldn't be eating that right now. No one was brave enough to say that because he surrounded himself with yes men that just said yeah, man, yeah, King, Yeah, you do what you want to do. So yeah, I think about it a lot, dude. I think it's a great question, and I appreciate you

asking it. Once again. Thank you for your service. You're a wounded combat vet and all of us listening to this podcast are indebted to you in some way. Justin'll take a quick break. Thankful to have sponsors for this podcast today, and thank you guys for listening. I'm gonna take a break and talk about this because while were so many of us are working from home, I think we're kind of just seeing a lot more of our dogs.

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it on here. I don't totally know what it means, but I'll read it for you guys, says Hey Granger. I'm a musician like you. I recently played my first show in a long time, and instead of making money, they ended up suing me for thirty six thousand dollars because I didn't play a song from start to finish, despite the fact that I thought everyone was properly entertained. I'm in quite a pickle here, and I just want

to know what you would do. I'm from Missouri, but I'll be in Austin, Texas the first two months of December, or excuse me, first two months of twenty twenty one to clear my head. I just need some help, man, ye ye your friend JR. Dude, I don't It's like hashtag not sure if serious here. I don't know if you're serious. They're suing you for thirty six thousand dollars because you didn't play a song from start to finish.

That is that, man. I think you're messing with me right, Like, you're either messing with me or you're either messing with me which I hope you're not, or dude, you gotta get your ducks in a row, because that is the weirdest thing. I've never heard anything like that. It's the weirdest thing. So I will I will address it like you're being serious, and I would say, I hope you have a good attorney. And that number that's way out of the out of the league of any number that

it should be a lawsuit. I've never heard of a lawsuit for anyone that's not playing a complete song. I've never heard of that. Usually that kind of thing, it does happen like venues getting mad that you didn't finish a set or you didn't say you're supposed to go till you're supposed to play till midnight, and you stopped at eleven thirty, and so they want they want to be compensated for the thirty minutes because the reason they would do that is because people could start leaving and

not consuming alcohol for that eleven thirty midnight. They needed you to play music because in their mind, now that the crowd's going to leave because the band's done, and they're out this money for not selling alcohol. And I'm assuming if you're serious this what the venue is saying. But that doesn't make sense because you're talking about one song.

You're not saying you quit thirty minutes early. So what I'm trying to say is usually that could be resolved in the settle up at the end of the night when the venue's mad and they say, man, you quit thirty minutes early. And if you did, and you messed up, and it's in the contract, then you would take out

a percentage of your pay. You know, you take that slice of the pie, that percentage of the time that you didn't play versus the time you were supposed to play, and you add up that money, and I can't imagine unless you unless you're I've never heard of you, but you're making millions of dollars per show, and each song for you is worth thirty six thousand dollars, then I

can't see any other reason for that. I will say this, just make sure from now on, every musician listening, no matter how big or how small you are, get things in writing. And a lot of venues don't like to

sign things. Just them, hound them about it, get them, get their name to you know, their signature on a document that just says my name is Granger, and I'm playing at your venue on this night, and I'm going to play from nine o'clock until eleven thirty, and you are going to pay me five hundred dollars flat versus eighty percent of a five dollars ticket after eight hundred dollars expenses to you to pay for security and what you know, it's like, that's that's the kind of a

typical contract. You it's a guarantee versus a door deal. You get a percentage of that door deal. You guys, right back in if you want to know more about this topic, Right back in if you want to, if you want me to go through an actual venue contract or something like that, if you're curious. But early musicians just get in writing, even if you don't even worry

about the door deal. And a kind of deal is I get zero dollars guaranteed verse one hundred percent of the door, So you're gonna get everything that comes in the door. But if no one comes, they don't know you anything. That is an option. I have done that many times in my in my previous music world. So get things in writing and get their signature on it. That way, you're fine. You could, you know, you take that to court and you go, there's assume me for

thirty six thousand bucks. But look, it says right here that all I had to do was play from nine thirty to eleven thirty, which I did, and he was gonna pay me this amount of money. It says nothing about completing a specific song from start to finish. You said, despite the fact that I thought everyone was properly entertained, that's not that doesn't matter. It doesn't matter what you think.

It only matters what's on paper, what's on contract. So if you're truly in this kind of pickle and it's really got you down because you truly are being sued for thirty six thousand dollars, go to court. I mean, what judge is going to grant them that? Just go to court. Just go to court and go listen, this is my story. I thought they were entertained, and here this is no judge is going to go thirty six thousand your boom. Here you go. Appreciate you writing, buddy.

If any other musicians out there hear this and have questions about contracts, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Next question is from Ricky from Kansas. Shout out to Kansas. It says, hey, Granger, I lost my job of six years right after Christmas. This is one of the best jobs I've ever had to support my family, married and have two kids. My wife and I talked about me switching jobs since it was an hour drive to work with twelve hour shifts and then an hour drive home.

I would like to know if you have any advice on how to get myself into the mindset of a new start. I watch you and Lunker's TV all the time, and I've watched you guys grow through adversity, and I just want you to know. I want to know how you dealt with it. I love the channels on the podcast. The content is great. Thank you for any words of encouragement that could help me. Thank you, Ricky, appreciate you man. Thank you for writing in. I got a couple observations here.

You said you lost your job, it's one of the best jobs you've ever had. But you said my wife and I had talked about me switching jobs since it was an hour commute work, twelve hour shift, and an hour home. That's fourteen hours. I'm pretty good at math, and I just add that up right there, without even using the calculator. So hey, it's not all bad. Right. It sucks that you lost a good job, but you were thinking about changing anyway, so that's not all bad.

We've got to these on these questions we got. We always gotta look at the blessings here. You know, let's always focus on the good. Let's always focus on the blessing and be grateful and thankful for the good in everything, because there's always good. There's not always not everything is good, but there is always good in everything. You could find it. You just have to open your eyes and see that. And that's a muscle memory challenge for all of us

to go. I'm going to focus on what I can control right here now, in this moment, right So I'm gonna look at this and go, well, dude, it's a little bit of a blessing because you we're kind of thinking about changing. Your question is how do I get myself into the mindset of a new start. First thing is and you sent this email January fourth, Okay, so we're still in the same month here. So you got to get You gotta get a money maker. You gotta

get a job to make some money. Right now. When this happened to me One time, I lost a job and needed money to pay the rent that was due that month because I hadn't saved. You know, this was years ago. I hadn't saved, and I'm a single. I didn't have enough money to pay the rent at the end of that month. So I had to do something right now. So I had a lawnmower, and I had a weed eater, and it had a can of gasoline. And I started going door to door saying I'll moiw

your grass for twenty bucks. And it was undercutting every lawn star servous by doing that. But a lot of people are like twenty bucks, seriously, that's it. It's like yep, And I'm thinking I could do it, and I could do it in thirty minutes, little lawns. I could do it in thirty minutes, and then I could do that way. I could do forty bucks an hour. And if I worked, you know, six yards in a day and worked four

days a week, I'm gonna be doing okay. So that was the beginning of that mindset of how to start over right is you gotta pay bills right now. So it's amazing when I started mowing the lawn all these yards, the opportunities that brought the people I met during these mowing people's grass. I remember there was like Montgomery Gentry, remember the country duo Troy Gentry. We actually ended up passing away to a helicopter crash. I met him years ago. This was in Nashville. I met him because I went

to his house. I didn't know he lived there, and I knocked on the door and his wife answered, and I asked her to if I could mow the grass, and she said yes. I ended up meeting him, and then I met Keith Urban's drummer. I was literally driving down neighborhoods and just putting flyers out, and people were calling me, and I ended up making all these connections just because I was mowing grass, connections that have lasted

twenty years since then. So there's a great way to get into a mindset by just saying I'm gonna get out right now and make some money. The second thing I would do is make sure you're getting up early before that your new job, and spending a couple hours without distractions, without social media, without except for Mondays, when you need to listen to this podcast without family distractions and social distractions. Get up early and spend some time

with yourself. Do some reading. There's a lot of great self help books, you know, find a good one, take some notes, write a journal. What do you want to do? Who do you want to be? Who? Who? How do you become the best version of yourself? You're not going to figure that out during a busy day boom boom boom,

boom boom. You're going to figure that out before the sun comes up, with a cup of hot black coffee, sitting in your chair with your notebook and your book, and you're like, I'm going to be the best version of myself starting today right here, when this alarm goes off, I don't have to go to work till seven thirty, So I'm going to get up at five thirty. And that's two hours of me time figuring out my next move.

What am I passionate about? What I'm going to I'm going to make a top ten list on this notepad right here, top ten list of jobs I want right now, and then you're gonna go through every day and that's your power list. And every morning when you get up and you get your coffee and you sit there at that table and you look at the list and you go, all right, I called number one and that lead is not happening. So I'm going to number two. This is

a good one. And the way I'm gonna get to number two is I'm gonna email this person or I'm gonna go in person and talk to this guy. Or my buddy is in this, I'm gonna talk to him about how to get to his boss. And you're gonna attack this with aggression like I'm attacking this new life of mine. I'm going after this like it's like I'm trying to win the super Bowl, Like I'm Tom Brady trying to win the super Bowl. I'm going after this.

And you do that every morning and the next morning, the next morning, and next morning, and six months go down right, and you're gonna email this podcast and go, dude, after six months of doing this, guess what my new story is? Text discipline. But Ricky, that's my suggestion. Man, make money first and start getting up early, plan this out. Attack this with aggression. It's a great question. Say I got time for an on? Was do another one? Here?

This subject line on this one says, dilemma, help what would you do. I'm ready. I'm ready for you, it says, Hey Grange. My name is Kayla. I'm in my thirties, married with two kids. I've recently been hit with a dilemma. We as a family have been praying about it, but we just aren't sure what to do or what would be best. So I thought I would reach out and get your thoughts. Man, the pressure's on, she says. The place we're living now is in South Carolina. It's going

up for sale. We currently rent it. We don't want to buy it because it isn't a house we want to put our money into. Basically, it just meets our needs for renting, but not something we would want to buy. Here's our dilemma. We're originally from Ohio. Funny that I misspoke Ohio earlier, and all of our family lives in

Ohio still. We moved to South Carolina for a job opportunity for my husband almost five years ago now, but we miss our family, friends and just being around people we know and people that can help us with our children if the needs arise. Being said, we're in a transition stage. My parents have offered us land back in

Ohio to come home. And build a house on which is amazing, But we would be leaving a very good job for my husband here in South Carolina, and I'd have to find a job for him and myself back in Ohio. Right now, I'm a stay at home mom. So my question is, what would you do given the state that our country's in with COVID and all and

the hiring freezes and hard to find a job. Would you a stay in South Carolina with the establish well paid job away from family and look for a house to buy here or be move back to Ohio build a house on free and cleared land and be by our family, but have to essentially start over with a new job for my husband, and I would possibly have to get a job as well, which I'm not opposed to because one child is already in school age. I'm stuck because I know the times we're in and well

paying job with security is hard to come by. But we miss our family so much and we would love to buy a house, and while our house was being built, we could just live with our parents in the extra space. I don't know. We're just paying praying for the Lord's will for him to show us the path to take but I figured more options couldn't hurt. What would you do? It says, thank you for taking the time to read and respond. Have a blessed day, Kayla. That is crazy

how similar that is to the earlier question. And it's crazy that this this is South Carolina going back to Ohio, and the first question was Florida going to Wisconsin, and it just so happens to be on the same podcast episode. I'm gonna approach this differently than I did with the Florida question, and I'm gonna kind of start from scratching my head, even though I think the end result is

probably similar. In fact, Kayla, you have a little bit of a better situation than the Florida question, because the Florida question didn't have land ready to be built on those free and clear of payments. But both of you have good jobs and this dilemma comes up. You are in a time constraint because the house you're living in you're having to leave because the landlord is selling. I would you're asking what I would do? I would rent again in South Carolina, short term lease. You could even

do an extended stay hotel. The reason I say this because you're talking about your kids. You have two kids and you're stay at home mom, and you're gonna have to pluck them out of school and take them to Ohio with no job. Right now, I would get an extended stay or a like a six month lease in something and then be job hunting like crazy in Ohio.

Maybe maybe you and your husband are gonna have to spend a little time apart, like maybe maybe he's gonna have to go and and do some in person interviews and you're gonna have to stay in your extended stay in uh, South Carolina. And it's it's not gonna be easy. This is gonna take a sacrifice. Any any kind of big move with a big payout like this pay off is going to require sacrifice. The life is about sacrifice.

So this is not. There's no easy answer, which is why your your subject says, dilemma, help, what would you do? So there's no easy way out of this. But everything is sacrifice, Even love is a sacrifice, right Like everything requires a little out of the ordinary effort. Like in the last question, dude, you got to get up a little earlier. That's a sacrifice. So you guys are gonna it sounds like you're gonna have to spend some time apart.

Maybe he's gonna have to go like a Monday through Friday and job hunt, interview, interview interview, fly back for the weekends to be with you and the kids, or vice versa, and then the whole house thing you're gonna have to figure out. Like me and Amber right now are living in a in an RV in our barn, and that's a sacrifice for it. We're building a house on this property, and that's a sacrifice we chose instead of either buying a house that's completely built or renting

while we're building, we're renting another house. We decided to make the sacrifice to save money and stay in an RV on the property and look at it like it was an adventure. So you could do that. You could you say, your husband gets a job tomorrow that's really good in Ohio. That's an equal kind of job, which you could you could even get a lesser paying job because now you're going into a free and clear house.

But you could get an RV and put this on the land and live in the RV while you're building, or like you said, you could live with your parents and they've even offered you to come and stay in their house while while you're building. That's a really good deal. So yeah, that's that's my answer. The answer is not stay in South Carolina forever. That's not what my answer is. My answer is stay in South Carolina right now. I would say look at it as a sixth six month window.

You're going to stay here for six months, and you might extend it to another six moth so this might take up all of twenty twenty one. But you're hardcore looking. In the meantime, your husband's still keeping his job in South Carolina, so he's making that paycheck. You got the benefits.

Your lifestyle is not going to change, even though you're you should be throwing a little extra money in the savings account every month now for this house build, and other than that, your lifestyle is not changing that much. So you're just hounding the job market in Ohio, looking, looking, and then once you lock something down and it feels good, then you make the full commitment to move the whole family.

That way, you're going to be safe. With everything you said about the state of the world and the job market and all that, you're still safe because the worst case scenario on this is you're living in a six month least that you extend to a year, and that extends to a year and a half. It's not a bad thing. A year and a half in the grand scheme of things is not that big a deal to this plan that you're eventually going to live on your

on this land in beautiful Ohio. So yeah, a different answer than I gave the first time, but a similar result. The end result is you're gonna be in a place where your heart is happy. And that doesn't mean the good pay and secure job. That doesn't make your heart happy,

that just makes you feel safe for now. But you're gonna have that longing and you're gonna have like I said in the first question, you're gonna have this regret if you don't do this, Like what if your parents you say no and they offer it to someone else and then someone builds a beautiful house there. How long would you live with that regret of gosh? I remember ten years ago my parents offered that land and we said no, and we stayed here, and now my husband's

even switched job since then. South Carolina. Our kids are now graduated from high school, they're out of the house and here we are and we don't have Ohio. It's my thought. I gotta say, that's what I think. But great question. And thank all you guys for emailing and if you have anything. As you can see, these subject matters are kind of all over the place. Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com and I'll get to it. Love y'all. Gege, thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith Podcast. I appreciate

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