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I'll kid with somebody he's a stranger. I'll start kidding and I'll start joking around with them, and then sometimes they think that I'm serious, And that's the moment where you could either continue the joke and say I'm just messing with you, or sometimes that moment feels like it might be a little too awkward, so you just extend the joke a little longer, the lie, and make it a little bit more outrageous so that then they go, you're kidding, right, But if that doesn't happen, you take

it a little further and keep making a little bit more outrageous, hoping eventually they're going to say, oh, you're joking. But sometimes they don't. Sometimes they keep going and by then you're so far out there that you cannot turn back and say you're kidding, because then you're gonna make them think that you're just making fun of them. I've

had this happen a few times. Then I'm gonna talk about one of those times on this podcast and let me know comment will if you have had this or if you're that kind of person sometimes being a joking person backfars on you. So I got my buddy Bernie Calcot, one of my favorite guests on this podcast, to answer your questions. If you have one, email Granger Smith Podcast at gmail dot com. I'd love to hear from you, even if it's just a shout out or a question

about anything. I'm gonna help you with that. Welcome to the Granger Smith Podcast. Ye yee roll. The intro did change in DC. My tires and school, long line of my fool of husband down, going back range your coronage. Yeah, that gation. Thanks for having me back. You're back, Bernie's back. We're gonna answer some questions. And Bernie is one of my favorite people to have with me. In fact, I

had him last week. And the reason I have Bernie helped me answer these questions is because when I have a question about life, could be anything, career, family, faith, outdoors, it's like it sounds like I'm describing eegee. If I have a question, I will call Bernie. I've done it for twenty years, So I just figured you guys asked me all these questions and it'd be nice to have someone that I trust helping me answer them. If you

have anything, email Grangersmith podcast at gmail dot com. Could be any kind of subject I have kind of categorized some today for the podcast. Happy Monday morning to everyone. I'm going to dig in. Yeah, let's do it. So last week we answered a bunch of questions and we left one that unanswered. That's right. The subject line was boyfriend wanting to be in the music industry. M hm. So I figured today I'll open this box and see what it says. Yeah, says hey Granger. My name is Marissa.

I'm twenty three years old, currently in Franklin, Tennessee. Oh, Franklin, Tennessee. Yeah, my boyfriend is trying to become a drummer and a band. He is attending dark Horse Institute. Do you have any advice for him? What is the best thing I could do to show him my love and support him in his dream? I am a mechanic apprentice and financially want to let him go full on with his passion without

spreading himself too thin. He has an opportunity to do an internship with dark Horse, but we would need to get a job to pay the bills. On top of that, I'm not afraid to get a second job to help him get there. We're coming up on three years together. I honestly want to do whatever needed to take care of him. We picked up our whole lives in Colorado, and I'm afraid he won't continue following his dream just because we may not financially be able to do it.

How do we find the financial balance with following his dreams without either of us draining out? And she says, I saw you at Grizzly Rose in Colorado. Keep up the good work. Thanks, Marissa Drummer, she say the drummer's name. Okay, let's start with this. You're really asking for advice that we could only really give to a married couple. And it's kind of digging a little deep here, and that's

kind and I don't want to. I don't want to disrespect you in that way at all, or your boyfriend, but just being honest, you're asking me to answer financial goal oriented questions when you aren't legally married, and so it's almost irrelevant. So my first advice to you is get that taken care of, because yeah, it sounds like you're trying to I mean, yeah, it sounds like you're all in on the guy, and he's all in on you. Yeah, you love him, You obviously love him. That's why you're

asking all these questions. So go ahead and take care of that so that you know, in a court of law. First of all, everything I mean what you're all, the stuff you're saying, if one of you dies or something happens, none of it matters because in the court of law, none of it's going to hold together. Yeah. So and then it's not your money helping him. It's y'all's money together. Yeah, everything is is y'all's together. It also just protects you. I mean, I know you love him, I know you

trust him, but the dude, he's a drummer. Yeah, if he takes off on you, and you've invested not only your money, but your time, and not only your time, but even more importantly, your home from Colorado to ten See, you've given this up, and you're probably thinking, oh, absolutely, I love him, I trust him, I get it, I get that, But you get you've sacrificed a lot for this, and the first thing you need to get in return is a ring on your finger. It's probably not at

all what she was expecting to say. Answer was going to go, Yeah, I think there's a lot of questions that I would have for Marissa about you know, your relationship and did you guys move from Colorado to Franklin, which is outside of Nashville. That's it sounds like to be close to the music business. And again, you know, I'll every time I come on, I always try to stay.

You can't replace the value of sitting with somebody in a in a conversation, there's a dialogue, it's a back and forth, like we have questions about like the more of the situation. So it's a challenge to like give you answers that are kind of like broad without knowing because she may say, oh, yeah, we're engaged or we are going to get married or you know, there's a lot of questions you know to that that I would

be asking. But so make sure you're talking with other people, you know, connected with other people that and asking him the questions and you're walking through life with people. That's why Granger and I do this, you know, or have done it together, you know, for twenty years, and why

we help to help out some other people. Yeah, I think that he shouldn't as a drummer how do you how do you go all in as a drummer and like not be able to you know, just kind of give everything to it like this, you know, internship at dark Horse. I've never heard of that, Like have you heard of dark Horse? You know, I don't know what that is. And I feel like dark Horse sounds familiar from that Nashville days. But yeah, it's probably great, it's

probably expensive. And I've seen many drummers in my life. I've known many drummers known. I've known drummers that play on the you know, the bar down the street, and I've known drummers that play for worldwide touring bands and you know, justin Timberlake level, and none of them have gone to dark Horse, and none of them needed dark Horse to get them to where they were. Sure. I've also known many studio musicians that are the top studio musicians in the world, and none of them needed an

institute to get them there. What got them there was ultimately meeting well, first of all, like you said in the last podcast, practicing, like being absolutely obsessed with practicing, and then after that, meeting the right people, getting in the right band, getting down the road, meeting other people, at festivals and you just you become the guy where someone says, do you have a recommend nation for a drummer, and you become on the top three of that list

for everyone that meets you. Yeah, oh dude, I got a drummer. Yeah. Absolutely, So I think this Marissa Mersa, right. Yeah.

I think if you have reservations or you're kind of wondering or like what I'm hoping, that you've had these open, honest conversations with him, and regardless if you're out there listening and you have these life changes or you're trying to support your husband or wife or these things, there has to be a dialogue and an honest dialogue about Hey, I want to do this, okay, I want to support

you one hundred percent. Here's here's my fears in this, and maybe you can help me rationalize those fears and call them those or maybe they're valid reasons that we need to like, maybe there's a different path to him being a full time rummer in the industry. But I think there has to be a dialogue to where you feel good and not just okay, but you feel excited

and enthusiastic about the adventure. You guys are going to be on together, and I think grizz is right, Like the best way for y'all to be kind of all in on each other ups and down the highs and lowses is to you know, get married. Yeah, commit for the rest of your life. I need to say on this podcast. And if you if you followed me for a long time, you understand this. If you're new, let me just be clear about something. I don't ever intend to hurt anyone's feelings. I don't ever intend to piss

anyone off. I don't ever intend to throw hate or shade your way. What I do intend is for this podcast to be as if we are on a personal level and we're friends and we're sitting around a campfire and you ask advice, and we've been we've known each other for twenty years, and I say, Marissa, I've known you for twenty years. Let me tell you straight up, you need to marry this dude. No girlfriend ever needs to feel a responsibility to get a second job to

help a boyfriend. That's it. That's what I would tell you. That's not throwing shade your way or being disrespectful. That's how I'm trying to attempt to answer a question as if we were close friends. So as I go through these questions, I'm just going to tell you what's on my heart. And part of the part of Bernie Talk Bernie and I talked earlier, but part of the mission of this podcast is to build family based, integrity driven,

faith oriented family life. And you're not going to get there making these kind of decisions as a as a girlfriend. So don't put the cart in front of the horse here, or the horse in front of the cart. What do you say? What's that? Because usually don't get it fixed up right, like get your pro He's right, Okay, we got that straight. Yeah, thank you, MIRSSA and good luck. Good luck. Drumming is uh crazy? You see that guy can drum? You are good. Sorry. We did this last

podcast and I kind of liked it. I'll throw titles here. I'm throwing some subject lines of these emails. If you have anything, guys, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Any subject could just be a shout out give it to me, dealing with adversity, cease and desist, what's next, anonymous, please help podcast question or insert witty line to catch your attention here, I gotta go with the last guy or girl. Okay, all right, And I got to know

the date, like when was that from? It's from November twenty twenty. Yeah, because I feel like we've talked about that, you know before the US, about having you know, witty titles, and that's what's going to catch so yeah. So and it's kind of like a grab bag. We don't know we're going to get here, so so is it long? Yeah? But I know exactly where to go. Heygre and your my name is Faith and my husband and I live outside of a small town for about an hour outside

of Edmonton, Alberta, Canada. And she has says some really sweet things and I'm going to get straight to her question here. Says, we are approaching our time for having kids, and we talk all the time about it. What values we want to be important, what life we would like, how we need to prep et, cetera. How did you and Amber know it was time and what things did you consider before bringing part of you another part of

you into this world. We struggle with if we have a baby, then if we want to make life changes new house, specifically, if we what do we do if we're able to do it and what do we focus on before having kids? Which we both don't really want to wait as long as it might take to pan all this out. And it is a case of can you always find something you want to accomplish or have done before having a baby. I know I'm we're mentally ready,

but it seems very daunting. I'll be completely doing a happy dance if you read this on your podcast and have some advice. Thank you for reading this and taking the time of the chat. Faith Faith the Canadian. Here we go. I'm jump right into this faith. Yep, she says, yeah, husband, cool. The time is now. Yeah, That's how I'm gonna dive into it. The time is right now. The time is now. Faith. There is no prep, there is no consideration. There is you. There is always going to be a new life change

around the corner. There's always going to be a potential new house or a new job or spurning I talked earlier a new dog. Life will always give you an excuse to not grow or start your family. Last week, we had you know a question about I'm forty having a baby? Am I too old? Yeah? So some people are going to say I'm twenty two and we've only been married nine months. Is it too early to have a baby. So life is always going to throw excuses to you. But the time is now, and God has

a purpose for you. He has he has a reason. He is a meaning for you. And not only that, but He's going to give you the tools to do the work that these cultures do and you know, raise these kids or whatever it is. And so, were you guys ready for London? I don't. I don't think we were ready. You say you're mentally ready, which is pretty awesome. I don't think we I mean, I guess we were kind of No. I might have said I was, but when she was born, I knew I wasn't. Yeah, I

was like, wow, I wasn't ready for this. Yeah. So like there's yeah, just get busy. You're good. Yeah, you're good. I have run into this happens a lot in the

music world. I've had so many musicians, young musicians that have come out on tour with us, and they they're always like, yeah, me and my wife like we're just waiting because I would like to have a record deal before or I would like to get I the single just released, or the album's coming out in November, So we'd like to get the album out and get the single out because I'm you know, I'm gonna a radio tour. I'm gonna be busy and I'm gonna have to go

on the radio tour. So our thought is like, wait till after the radio tour, like next summer, we could start trying. And I'm just like, I'm always like, man, you don't realize that after that single, there's another one coming. There's another single, right, and that there is no preparation for the next obstacle that life is going to bring or your career is going to bring. So yeah, that faith, Ye have some faith. It's time Bernie. Yeah, Okay, name

your first kid Bernie or Granger. I guarantee you people have named their kid Granger because you have you gotten like letters like we named our kid Granger. I've seen the tattoos, but have you gotten like I have heard that? You're the half heard that. Yeah, and there's not a lot of Bernie's out there, guys, come on help me out like we need we need more, like solid is Bernie short for anything? Not Bernard or something? No? So, dude, is this a secret about me? You don't know I

don't know. Okay, do you know my name is not Bernie. My name is not Bernard. My name I feel like I did know this. Yeah, my name is Brian. Yeah, my name is Brian. And if you have a sibling like I've had, like I have my brother and sister, my brother Jason, who you know, will give you a nickname thirty seconds after he meets you. And so since I've known him my whole life, I've had a thousand

different nicknames. He started calling me Bernie when we were playing Little League, and so it was that time that the announcer said, coming up to bat, Bernie Calcoat. And after that it was like everybody just called me Bernie. And right before that he called me Bonnie Bonnie Ball

or something weird like that, and I like cried. I was like, Jason, you've got to do something different because that one's going to stick and I cannot have that be my Yeah, so we did Bernie and then they announced it and it stuck and I was like, okay, thank god, And so you're driver, says Brian. Brian, Yep, very few people actually know that. I guess a lot more. No, now, a lot of people know now, Yeah, I knew that, I just couldn't remember that Jason was the one that

gave you the nickname. Yeah he did, that is wild Man. Next up, we're gonna go. I'm gonna throw it back to you. Dealing with adversity. I think the first one was the first one that jumped out. I think we go one, then two. Dealing with adversity. Yep, what you said? Yep, Okay, this is a fresh one. This came last week. It says, Hey Grager, my name is Cole. I'm from uh Patascala, Ohio.

Pascala from Potascal, Ohio. I've been following you for a good amount of time with the Smithson, with your podcast. I've been dealing with a lot of adversity. Seems like it keeps on piling up. It started with my girlfriend breaking up with me on Valentine and after that I was trying to take her out the night before to give her something special. It wasn't anything major, but I truly tried, and she said that she saw that and appreciated it, but just wasn't happy anymore wanted to split.

A couple weeks later, I was pulling out of the parking lot and someone slammed into the side of my car. A week later, I was playing at my first home game my senior year of college football at Ohio Wesleyan and hyper extended my elbow and I was out the rest of the game, very similar to what I did to my right up with my senior ye of high school, which I broke it. I saw something that said, being

positive doesn't mean being happy all the time. It means that even on the hard days, better days are coming. My question is do you keep that mindset? I was always trying to remember. I was always trying to remember it's just a rough patch in life, but then something else would happen and it would start me all a little again to lose hope. I appreciate the podcast and the advice you give. I try to mimic my personal

podcast after yours. That's Cole Nixon. Nice Coal, so repeating Cole's little mantra here says being positive doesn't mean being happy all the time. It means that even on the hard days, better days are coming. Dude, there's a lot to unpack there. I don't know how sub zero deep we want to go, but Coal and I know Granger does this too. There is zero value to any words that I could come up with and advice I could come up with. What we have to do is always

go back to the word. What does the word say and how do we find a way to communicate that to you in your circumstance. So what jumped out to me was the first part of James where it says consider it pure joy when you experience trials of many kinds.

You're experiencing trials of many kinds. The way that we can consider those joy is by one understanding the ultimate reason that they are having the ultimate refinement and building of our faith perseverance that it's building in you and what ultimately that is leading us back to our reliance, you know, and our faith in God. I don't know if I can answer the question about like on the bad day, you know, you can't be positive every day.

I don't know specifically that. But what I do know is if we can wake up each morning and just saturate ourselves in the Word, no matter what adversity or challenges that we're facing, we can start to not just view them as something that we have to get past, but an opportunity to grow into the person that God wants us to be. He's preparing us for what is next. A lot of times we get into these situations just like I just wish this was over. I wish my

arm was better. I wish that I found a new girlfriend. Like, don't miss these opportunities. Yeah, don't miss that's great. Yep, that's awesome. Obstacle is the way. And if you could switch your mindset, because what you're describing here, it's life, man, it's dude. It's life. Dude. Your girl broke up with you, you got in a car wreck, and you hyper extend your elbow. Welcome to life. You know this, man. And once again, this is not like a knock on you, Nicole.

This is if we were on sitting around a campfire, I'd say, welcome to life. You go through rough patches, you go through easy patches, you go through clear days, you go through stormy days. So it's a mindset, like Bernie's saying, to switch when you hit those obstacles, to switch it and say, all right, what am I gonna learn from this? I got to set back on my my elbow. What am I gonna What am I gonna learn?

During the rehab process, during the the healing process. What will I have to learn to be a little bit better from in my life next time. That's why old people are so smart. For the most part. It's just been through a lot of stuff. So your girlfriend, that's the easiest one out of this whole group. You're dude, You're gonna find somebody better. You're gonna find somebody better. And the reason you're gonna find somebody better is because you learn just a little bit more through this breakup

about what's not what you don't need. Yeah, the car, the car slamming into the side of you. It's very inconvenient. See, here's here's something good for you. I keep a journal. I know Bernie does two. I keep a journal and I mine. Me and Bernie different. Here mine's digital, here's you write it? So mine is digital. When I use

an app called day one. And what's been cool for the first time with Day one that I've been I've been loving lately is that every morning when I do my little journal journal entry, I go back to twenty twenty and twenty twenty is crazy. Right now in March of twenty twenty, my journaling, yeah, is like what's happening? Those cases are going up No One, the world's loss, it's mine, tours canceled, no One. And so I'll ask

myself little questions. Now I'll ask my future self questions like, well, well the COVID cases are spiking again, and will this, you know, will this? Will this this little thing matter to you, mister twenty twenty one? So then and now I'll go answer it in my current journal. So I'll write my what's going on today, and then then I'll skip a line and then i'll do oh and to answer twenty twenty now, it doesn't matter. Yeah, you're good,

that's cool. I'm hoping that then years will go by and I'll be able to answer questions all the way back. And so my point is with you, Cole, you could if you start this journal and you're like, hey, mister twenty twenty twenty two, coal, this car just sideswiped me and then it really pissed me off. Does it even

matter in twenty twenty two? And then you'll answer yourself and you go, no, dude, I got actually a really cool truck, now, yeah, And I got the cool truck because I was gonna get it repaired and it was gonna cost too much and then I found this truck on Craigslist and then it's actually, I'll actually love it and it's way better. Yeah. So then you go, oh yeah, and if you're out there living life, these things are going to happen. If you don't have any of these

stories to tell, it means you're not living life. If everything is just yeah, well I woke up and then I did this and I went back to bed. It's like if you get out there and you're pursuing things, you're passionate about things, and you invest in people and causes,

like things are going to happen. I mean, I just think back to some of like it's just created a great story for both of us to be in our lives, the things that we've been through that you then get to sit around campfire and be like, dude, let me tell you this one time, Cole, Like my car broke down and I was a thousand miles from home and I didn't have any money and I didn't have cell phones back then, and it's like you get to tell people the story of like this is what I overcame.

It's another cookie in the cookie jar, as Goggin says, something you can draw back on the next time that you face something really hard, it's like, dude, I got this man, you went that's it. I had a friend and in high school. He's a couple of years older than me, and he hyper extended his knee and he was an offensive lineman in high school football and he blew out his knee. The doctor said, you can't play football again. He said, well, what if I was a kicker?

And the doctor's like, mean, I guess you could be a kicker, but you just can't have you can't be contacts, like you can't play offensive line. So he's like, okay, So he started being He started practicing every day and every single day, everyone else is out there hitting with paths and he's over there by the goalpost just kicking, kicking, kicking, kicking. And he got to the point. I remember at his house he would kick from his front yard to his backyard,

like chipping over the house. Nice back. He would have like a huge bag of balls. Well, this guy ends up getting a scholarship at the University of Texas, plays for Texas, and then after that he goes into the pros. He has since had one of the longest careers in the pro. His name is Phil Dawson, and I think he's currently with San Francisco. But the dude has played made a lifetime out of a knee and one knee injury. Yeah. So, and that's speaking directly to your hy brixtoned elbow. I

know that's that's an extreme case. But you could take everything and go what good can come out of this? Because you imagine if Phil Dawson just said I blew up my knee. Life sucks. I mean it seems like everything's out to get me up. I'm dealing with a lot of adversity and just keeps piling up. Yeah, well what if he said that he just bypassed a multimillion dollar NFL career. If you thought that way, that's right.

It's a mindset, dude. Yeah, so think about And this is not just for Cole, but for anybody out there that's going through a really rough season of life or really even a rough situation. And this is the mindset I always try to like keep my team in and keep myself in. Is you're gonna get to a point where you're past it, whatever is happening, the season's gonna change, and you're gonna get to watch the game film of

how you responded. I always try to think, like, Okay, if I'm going to look back on how I responded to this adversity, how I responded to the challenge, how I responded to the suffering. Like I want to be able to look back at it and say, man, I gave it everything I had. I had a great attitude and that's it, and that kind of helps me center in the situation to be like, no, man, like this.

I want to look back at the journal jury during this time and say, man, I continue to like center myself and say, no, man, these are the things that I have to do. These are my standards, and these are going to get me through this. And then six months from now, when I look back at it, you you can be like, yeah, man, that's that worked. Like that was you know, helped me get through it. So yeah, So here ats the mindset. Let me change your mantra here.

You said being positive doesn't always mean being happy all the time. It means even on the hard days, better days are coming. Let me change that for you. Being positive doesn't mean being happy all the time. It means that even on the hard days you find the good in them. And that's a big difference between during the hard days, You'll think better days are coming, Like what what kind of life is that to have a hard day and go, yeah, better days are I hope better

days are coming instead of going this is tough. But you know, I could find I could find positivity now today, in this moment, in this present moment of hard I could find the good or I could I could see that this is the beginning of something new, like this car wreck is the beginning of something new, like maybe a new truck. Yeah, yeah, that's perfect. We're gonna take a break, be right back. This podcast is brought to

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desist request. This is a true story, and this is I know what this is about, and this is personal for me. So and I saw this email come in, like you know this person part of this case. I was part of this. I'm actually part of this whole thing. And it's it's pretty funny. So this is a guy named Paul Underwood. He has a restaurant in Brownwood, Texas.

You know brown Wood. It's called Underwood's Cafe. Driven by It before No, it's a legendary doing cowboy out front Underwoods Underwood's Cafeteria thing, and so and and Paul's writing seasoned this his request and he's writing from a he's joking with me because it's a story that happened. And I don't remember what year. Paul, if you're listening, I know he listened to this podcast. You're gonna have to help me. But we we roll through Brownwood, Texas. We

all get out, me and the band and crew. We're gonna eat at one of our favorite stops on the road. And people usually see a group of guys and they're like, are you all a band? What's what kind of music is it? You know, it's like a question. It happens every time. During this time, no one knew who we were. You still get the question, But it never really because people say, are you all a band? And then yes, what kind of music? Country music? Have I heard of you? No, Like,

it's kind of just something. It always ends on a bad So I got into a very unhealthy habit of joking with that question. This one particular time, you really got my foot up in my mouth because this one guy says you got a band? And I was like kind of and he's like, oh, what do you mean? Kind of was like, well, we're a crew. He was like, oh cool, what kind of music? I was like country music?

And he goes, have I heard of the band? And I was like, maybe Keith Urban And he goes seriously And I thought when he said seriously, I thought he meant, of course, not yeah. But he was serious seriously and I was like yeah, and he's like, do you guys play? And I was like, oh, we're the lighting crew and he's like, is Keith playing locally? And We're like he's in a Oh my god. Somewhere around this point in the conversation, I kept it going and didn't stop, and

I didn't. It was like it was like a train. I couldn't stop it. Yeah, and I didn't know where I was too stupid. Were the other guys with you? Yes? Were they not laughing? By then they're just like were they not laughing? Head first? But then they're just like, shut up, Granger, shut up, Granger, shut it up. Great, it so happens. This guy's like part owners of this restaurant. And so I was like, oh no, he goes man. He said something along the lines of I have a

daughter who's a massive Keith Urpan fan. I would love to get some tickets if there's anyway. So I said, let me get you my email and I'll help you with the tickets. And I mean, I mean by this time, I'm just like, where's the back door? I gotta get out of here. This is I thought in my head this was gonna just be like haha Keith Urban ha ha No, but really a Granger Smith, I know you never heard of us. No one's ever heard of me. Oh okay, cool, maybe I'll look you up with it.

That's how I thought it was going to go this and it had before this one went terribly wrong. So this is a joke by Paul. What's funny is I my conscience killed me. I got him in the van, emailed them later, it was like, hey, Paul, I'm so sorry. My name is Granger. I feel like an idiot. I have nothing to do with Keith Urban. We're a band and we are playing in Abilene, but it's just little old me. And he replied he was such a good sport.

And then we basically became friends, like PenTile friends. We're still right back and forth. So he wrote me this song email from Vern Wobbly, his alter ego, and basically making fun of the entire conversation. He said, enclosed, you will find an invoice for nine hundred and twenty two dollars in Keith Urban merchandise that we gave to the fans that I promised I would get it. So yeah,

that's pretty good. He said. Ps, this could perhaps lead to a larger discussion on your podcast about road pranks, So yeah, shout out to Paul, shout out to Underwoods. And I'm still it's one of the stupidest conversations I've had. Are you guys prankers? Like? Do y'all do pranks? You know? I love pranks. Yeah, I like to do pranks on other people. Yeah, man, we have pranked other bands, But when it comes to our band. We have traveled together so long that any prank becomes really bad. Yeah, I

dare you one. We set up one rule a long time ago that's never messed with a dude when he's sleeping. Never. Yeah, and everyone. So while we'd hire a new crew guy and he would break that rule, then we'd have to remember to tell him. But it's like, when you're on the road, sleep is so important that you start messing with some dud's nap time or middle of the night. You're drawing faces with a sharpie on his face, you

know whatever. But yeah, there's there is that's a whole different podcast of the pranks that I probably can't even say on this one. But yeah, shout out to Paul. Sorry about that, buddy, still storry, I'm stupid, all right, so Bernie, we have what's next anonymous help please and podcast question. I hear your cry for help. Yeah, yeah, says hey Granger, my name is Destiny. I'd like I hate it. I hate what it says. The next sentence says,

I'd like to remain anonymous. Guys. That happens all the time. Guys. If you're hey, that's a little bit on her. I'm sorry. Destiny. But if you want to remain anonymous, I'm not going to say where you're from or how old. Yeah, have a lot of destinies out there, Okay, but yeah, guys, please, if you're writing me, don't put your name at the first sentence and the second sentences you want to remain anonymous. I'm sorry that happens. I'm connecting with you and hopes

that you can help me. And I'm get serious because she says helpfully, so I can be laughing through this. I'm connecting with you in hopes that you can help me. I've watched your podcast from start and your most recent You have become such a inspiration and it's helped me get closer to God and faith. I use your words as daily motivation and as a guide for how I want to live my life and how I want my sons to be. I recently got into a relation two months ago with a guy I've known for a while.

The only problem is he lives in Oklahoma, and that's a long way from where she lives. By the way. I've made visit with him, visits with him, and I've met with him and his family, and I've thought I instantly clicked with him and vice versa. However, he just told me today, two months after getting together, that he went and met with a girl and intended on cheating but couldn't and use me as the excuse to leave the other girl. And that was a month ago. I'm

not sure what to do. He has been part of my son's life, and I've put so much time and effort and affection into wanting this to work. My son loves him. Reminder, we have known each other for almost a year and a half before getting together. I fell for him in the beginning, and he said that he couldn't continue with the act. Hang on a second. I fell for him at the beginning, and he said that he couldn't continue with the act with her, and it was a mistake. He regrets it, but was always told

to leave and not continue being with a cheater. I'm sorry trying to follow this the writing here. I just bought a plane ticket for me and my son for New Year's and I'm just not sure what to do. My heart says stay, but my brain says it's not right. I'm glad you said the last sentence because that really helps me. That last sentence really helps me a lot. Yep. So her brain says stay, but her heart says it's not opposite. My brain says stay. Yeah, I'm sorry. My

heart says stay, my brain says it's not right. Okay, And does she mean stay home or stay with the stay with the guy. Yeah. Oh that's a good question, Bernie. Yeah, because she bought plane tickets to fly there. Ye, my heart says to stay, but my brain says, but my brain knows it's not right. I think she means not right to stay with him with him? Yeah, okay, Okay,

where do you want to start? I'll jump in dude. Well, I like that you said the heart brain thing because that really helps me because that's very biblical, that the heart is evil in a lot of ways, and it's a misconception in our world to follow your heart, follow your feelings, follow what makes you feel good, man, follow

what your heart tells you is right. But God gave you this brain that's able to calculate and manipulate situations and overcome adversities and obstacles and have discernment and where to when to not go down dark alleys, and when to when to eat and when to you know, like that's what your brain does. The heart is just this pumping organ that pumps blood that is synonymous with feelings, and in this situation, your brain says it's not right.

You gotta trust your brain. Yeah. Absolutely. You also have to think about your son and being very, very protective. I'm sure you love your son dearly, want the best for him. Just being even more thoughtful about what you expose him to and what kink of effect that that has. Look at this Oh wowah, okay, young too. What you would have thought? You would have thought this girl thirty eight?

I thought that that's how old she was. Yeah, and then you said, you know my son and blah blah, And I was like, okay, well maybe she's a little bit older. She's young. Yeah, Destiny, this is easy. Leave the dude. Yeah, leave the dude. A he's in Alklahoma. That a long way away. Yeah. You have a son that's your number one priority. And this dude has already

already flirted with the idea of cheating on you. Yeah, if he if he hasn't come in and completely wooed you by the way he pursues you and loves you and gives himself up for you, which is all biblical, which and he is not making you fall in love with Jesus Moore, there's no question if it's like a yeah, but I kind of like him. He's cute, Like there's

there's a greater person out there for you. Absolutely, and I'm not sure I can quote exactly what Parker said last week, but becoming that person, she can become that person that will be worthy of that one that she will meet. I think that, Yeah, I think that needs to be your focus now and on your son and being the mother, you know, the best mother that you can be, and then yeah, become the mother that you want to be, so then you could open up to

meet the person that you deserve. You can't meet that person that you deserve unless you become the mother you want to be, or at least you're on the path. And let me just say where you live, there's I'm not going to say it because you're anonymous, but there's a lot of really good guys where you live a lot and you don't have to go all the way to Oklahoma to find one. So there's too many red flags in this. This is a very clear cut to me. Sometimes questions come in where Bernie and I have to

really think about it. This is really clear cut to me. You have other priorities. You're still really young, there's no sense of urgency. Take care of what you do. You probably have family where you live to you don't want to get you don't want to leave them. You don't want to spend money on plane tickets. This email came in in November, so something has already happened since we're

reading it. So right back in and tell us, tell us, Yeah, I'm pretty stupid because the subject line said a anonymous please up, and I still pretty I'm sorry. It's okay, okay, So we're looking at podcast question or what's next? Those are both very ambiguous. Let's go. Let's go what's next? That says, Hey, my name is Jason. I'm from Arkansas. Longtime fans since my son, my son showed me Earl Dibbles Junior back when he was in school in twenty thirteen.

What is your plan after music? By that, I mean if you couldn't perform anymore and you had to choose between making music touring over family, what would you do to support your family? This isn't a knock or anything like that. But if your music wasn't an option anymore, what would your life look like in the future. Loved the new album, both volumes g glad I picked that. I was reading the title as like, what's next, you know for me, you know, like help me figure out

what's next? But hmm, yeah, Well, let's say, first of all, well, shout out to Arkansas. Thank you Jason. Let me say first of all, you said if I had to choose making music touring over family, I don't really know what that means, but of course it's obvious what I would choose. But what you mean is if I didn't have music and touring, how would I take care of my family? I think that's what you mean, So it's a good question. The easiest answer is, well, I'll say this, I'm not

going to be making music and touring. I'll at least not be touring my whole rest of my life. If I was going to plan it out, now we all know we only have today. Tomorrow's not guaranteed. But if I was going to map out my life, I would say, I'm not going to be torn when I'm an old man. If you know, God will and I'm an old man, I'll probably always be making music just because I love making music. But the obvious answer is we have Ye Apparel, and that is one of the biggest blessings outside of

other humans in my life. It's one of the biggest blessings that's monetary, as Ye Apparel it is. It has kept me alive during the pandemic. The growth of Ye Apparel happened at the same time the decline of touring happened, which is just a miracle in itself, and I love it. I love this company. I love you Apparel. I loved the brand. I love the faith, family, outdoor value that

it stands for. I love that it's a great foundation for not only this podcast, but for future albums and touring and meet and greets, and it's just all kind of connects together. So if you take any component out of that little circle of mine, it's the circle still lives.

So that's my first answer. My second answer could be that I have felt a calling lately for maybe jumping into some kind of public speaking type environment, and so much so that I've actually talked to my book an Agent about what would be the steps we need to take if if opportunities came up where someone said, we have this convention and we want Granger to speak at the convention. We have a twenty minute slot for him, and then there's Joe Montana is headlining it, and then

someone else. You know, that's how same as music but speaking. So I kind of started uncovering a little bit of that world through my book and AI because they do that, they do that too, and it's really intriguing to me because, Ay, there's a ton of fulfillment in being able to speak almost like we do on this podcast, but actually with a live audience. And then and the second thing is the longevity of being able to go and do public speaking last a lot longer than going out with a

band and playing music. What I mean is you see a lot more old gray hair men speaking and not as many of them a singing. Sure, So yeah, I don't. I haven't unpacked it any more than that. Really, I'll tell you what the conversation with the book an agent was. The conversation was, we need to connect you to our book department because typically the way that you do what you're saying is you start with the book and then you pitch the book to these speaking engagements and they say,

what is what did he talk about? Well, here's a bit. Yeah, here's the book he could he can talk about these ten subjects. He can talk about career, music, faith, life after loss. You could talk about these things. Or here's his book he talks about that. So that's kind of the So then I talked to the book department at my book an agency, and so this is all pretty new and I've never really talked about it. So I'd

love to hear your thoughts on this podcast. But yeah, I'm excited, buddy, either way, no matter what, you coming with me. I'm coming with you, all right, coming with you? Okay, all right. The last question here today is titled podcast question, and that's why it's last because it was a little bit of a boring subject line. But it's probably probably really good. Let's find out. It says, Hey Granger, my name is Josh, I'm from Texas. I love your music,

your family, and your YouTube. I've seen you every time you come to Billy Bob's and I can't wait for the next time for meet and greets. So I could give you a challenge coin from my department, try to sum this up. My wife and I've been married for twelve years, and we've struggled to have kids. We've had two miscarriages, We've spent over twenty grand on IVF treatments, and have been told it's impossible. God's since has blessed us with two beautiful miracles. But that is a testimony

for a longer format if you're interested. I'm a man of God. I understand that I am supposed to let go of things and I don't understand and turn away from it. Oh, I'm supposed to let go of things that I don't understand and turn away from anger. But anytime I see people who had children by accident and don't appreciate it, our people who give up on their kids or have abortions, it angers me so much. I

find difficulty in showing these people love. I thought it would be so different once we had our kids of our own, but it hasn't. How do I move past this anger and learn to love these people well as some are close friends or family. I love how you take deep questions and give Godly insight and advice. Thanks for all you do. Keep it up. Gig them and ye ye Josh deep Yeah, I share, Josh, I share with you in this miscarriage, and I share with you I v F so we have that in common. And

you didn't know that when you wrote this email. But you didn't know as you're writing that that we had more in common than you think your thoughts burn. You're such a you're such a good family dad too, and you have you had an adopted child, which kind of helps that perspective as well. Yeah. Yeah, I think that there can be a difference between a righteous anger and judgment anger. This is a really tough question that can

get controversial really fast. Sure, but I share with you in that anger, and that just I don't know if it's anger. I don't know if anger is the right word, as much as it should be heartbreak. When you see children neglected, no matter where in development stage they are, it's it's neglect, it's lack of accountability, it's lack of support, it it's brokenness of our world. Just it's very front

and center. I would just advise to I mean, if I had to, I don't know, man, I think that we're all kind of in the same boats sometimes dealing with seeing people neglect their kids or or just leave their kids at the hospital after they're born. But I also know that we are all by nature just sinful and prone to it. So I don't think that we can what what should we expect? What more should we expect from from a sinful people and sinful humans? Good?

And how did we forget that? It was only by God's grace that our eyes were open to our need for Him and his and his grace. How can we not view these things with anything but grace and brokenheartedness unless we're also viewing ourselves as the chief of sinners

as well. Yeah, you're expecting too much from man kind. Man, you look to man for that kind of thing, that kind of perfection that you want so desperately to see, You're never going to see it unless you're looking up, because that's the only place you're going to see it. You're saying, you're finding difficulty showing these people love. I

get it, man, I get it. But this is what you got to remember, Especially with the friends and family that you're talking about, the close friends and family, the only way you're going to affect them is through love. Anger will get you nowhere with these people. How do you do that? You're asking, You're thinking, how do I show these people love. I don't even respect their life

decisions about their kids. How about this, You're with friends and family, You're sitting around, and you just go, Man, I cannot tell you how thankful and grateful and blessed I am with these babies. Can you believe the twelve year struggle I had and the money that was so hard to come by that we put towards this, and the heartbreak of miscarriages, And I look at these two. I'm reading your words, buddy, I'm looking at these two beautiful miracles that are a testimony to my life and

the love of God. You say that to them, you don't think in their mind they're gonna be like, dang, I know exactly what he's talking about with me. I feel exactly what Like that's the way to get instead of approaching them with their life is just pull back on your own life and just pour in the gratefulness

and show them what a miracle that a little baby is. Yeah, and not only that, Granger mentioned that my wife and I had a bio child and then we were foster parents and adopted a little girl, and then we had another bio. So I and I think that this is going to be you know in the word as well, like sometimes the energy that we spend looking at other people saying why are you not doing this? Instead of hey, go adopt another kid, Go be a foster parent as well.

You have these two if you want to like display what God's love is, it's an orphan being brought into a family, someone who did not deserve the love being brought in and made their own like she is our own. And so I'm going to be a strong advocate for let's turn our energy energy away from saying y'all don't need to do this too, Hey, I can't. I mean, you would be astonished at the number of foster kids

there are in the system, justin Travis County. I know that there's a lot of love probably in your heart still, and a lot of anger that could easily be turned to love for one or two or three more adopted kids or foster kids or whatever whatever you feel called to. But I think that in that God will just continue to give you grace. I think as you just continue to divide His word and really push into it, you're going to start to see yourself more and more broken

and in need of Him. And that's going to allow you to just look at others with so much more grace and your own situation with so much more gratitude. So good. I'm going to talk about one sentence that you said, I'm a man of God and I'm supposed

to let go of things I don't understand. I don't really think there's any Yeah, there's nothing biblical about that sentence, right, I mean, yeah, I think he may be saying, like, you know, like God's ways or higher than our ways, and we don't understand them, and so it's like I need to let go of it. But I also agree with you, like, I don't think we let go of that. I think kind loves us to wrestle within in the hard And where do we find it? In the scripture?

We go straight there, we run to it, and you're going, I mean, I'm flipping these pages and I don't see anything about people aborting their babies. And that's why I'm so angry right now. Dude. There's stuff in there that you can find that's really close to what you are talking about. You'll find it in there, and then you'll find the reaction, and then you'll find God's reaction. This is crazy how you could find stuff that's very relevant

to exactly what you're talking about in those pages. So don't run or let go of things you don't understand. Just just give it to God and look. But that doesn't mean just go I don't understand, So God you got it. No dig into it, but make sure the grounding of what you're digging into is correct. It's good word. Man's a good question, Man, good question. Thank you, Josh, Thank you for everyone that I emailed today and Burns appreciate you, dude. I'll have you back if you want

to see more. Bernie, say say more, Bernie. Thank you guys. Hey, before we get off, let me do some of these shout outs. I get them all the time. Yeah, DH has a birthday shout out Cole Nixon, Jacob Fulton, Gloria Strong, Marty Moserve, Keenan Ferr, Jen Dias Hayden Lancaster, Adam Blakely, Jacob Green, and Dwight Martin. Shout out to all you guys for listening. He says your name. You got to share this and buy a new EU T shirt. That's

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