What's your alternative. You wake up, it's February twenty eighth. You remember, you remember your son, You remember that he was murdered, and you get depressed and you sit on social media and you flip through Instagram, Facebook. You see people acting perfect, looking perfect. You get jealous. You say, why can't I have that? Why can't I have my son? Why can't I have a nice marriage like I see on Facebook? You get pissed off. That's what happens. Choose, Josh, choose,
well you redeem that day. What's up everybody? Welcome back to the podcast, episode number one hundred sixty two. Thanks for watching and listening. We answer, well, I say, we I answer your questions. That's what The format of this podcast is. Email me Granger Smith podcast at gmail dot com,
and I'll just talk about it in long form. And you might see a short form of that on Instagram or Facebook or TikTok, but in this place, right here, wherever you are, whatever whatever you're using to listen to this, maybe it's Spotify or Apple podcast or YouTube, We're just talk about it in a long form, So I'm gonna get right to it. The first question, subject line says mental drained parenthesis urgent he granger. My name is Matthew. I'm twenty years old. I'm from North Carolina. Just started
listening to the podcast. I appreciate everything you do for us. I'll send you this email because I struggle with anxiety and depression and keep a relationship and keeping a relationship because of my past and my mental state. Me and my ex recent broke up because I was overwhelmed and excuse me because I overwhelmed her and overreacted, which caused
me to overthink and lash out. And she says she wasn't very happy with herself and she is mentally drained, and she was having a hard time focusing on college her friends, and she keeps trying to make me happy. What she says, we were happy together, but we weren't
happy with ourselves. She thinks it's best that we just stay friends for now and focus on ourselves, and I somewhat agree, but I truly feel like she's the one, and even though we aren't together for less than we weren't together for less than a month, it hurts, and I'm trying to give her space. So I'm turning to God to help me. Lower case G is there any advice you have for me? God bless comes from Matthew and shout out to North Carolina. But thank you for emailing.
This is a good way to start the podcast, because this is gonna be I'm gonna make this quick. Matthew, you've been dating a couple months. You got some you got some bad stuff going on with this relationship. She is mentally drained. You are overwhelming her, You're overreacting to her. You're causing her to which is causing you to overthink and lash out. You've only been dating for a few months. She's like, I went out. This is crazy, this is
affecting my mental health. And then you, after she says that I'm paraphrasing you say, I don't know about that. I think we're meant to be together forever, and so I think we should just stay dating. That's borderline psycho, and that is borderline stocker. Matthew. I love you, brother, I love you. You are part of Yege nation and
I appreciate you trusting me. And I want to start this podcast off with hard tough love because I got a feeling that's not the only one I'm gonna I'm gonna have to say on this, but buddy, your borderline stalking her. Look, I'm not judging you. We all when we get in relationships sometimes we get blinded and it takes someone from the outside to look in and go, look, you're not seeing this correctly. You're sick, your heart sick, your mind is scrambled. So we need wise counsel. We
need friends around us. We need people that are looking from the outside perspective and getting the full scope. And then they look into our relationship and they go, no, no, you need to back away, back away from the ledge, right, So let her go. That's my advice, that's my answer. Let her go. She's given you a really good excuse that you're messing her up mentally. So you got to fix some things. You gotta fix some things. You got to be single and content, fix things, and whatever you do,
stop bothering her. Okay, love you, brother. Next question says subject line friend's wedding. Hey, Grandeer, I'm a big fan of you and your vlogs. Hopefully someday I could see you in concert. My question is I have one of my friends that I've known since the sixth grade that I've had a crush on I still do, and she's getting married to her boyfriend. If I get an invite to the wedding, should I go knowing that I have feelings for her? Interesting question comes from Kevin and man,
that is that's an interesting question. Kevin, I don't think I've ever got one quite like that, and so I appreciate you. I appreciate you stretching the boundaries of the podcast. A little bit. Got a crush on a girl. You've known her for a long time, since the sixth grade. Now she's getting married. You're wondering if you should even go to the wedding because you still have feelings. Well,
here's the deal. There's nothing wrong with having feelings for her because you've known her as a friend and you have somewhat of an attachment. Now there's a level that those feelings could get to where then it becomes a problem. I don't know if you said that. I don't know if that's what you mean, But here's my point. The problem is having a crush on this girl doesn't become
a problem until you act on it, right. It becomes a problem when you're starting to lust over it, You're starting to be jealous of the new guy, you're starting to think about her late at night and wonder if there's no way that maybe you could still have a chance, and maybe she's going to get a divorce one day and you could be ready. Like that's where this leads. If what might start is just innocent, just got a crush. I've noticed since sixth grade, I've got a crush. You
have to be careful. Are you self disciplined enough where you could hit the brakes if it starts going towards that the wrong direction? Could you hit the brakes? If the answer is yeah, I got this under control, then by all means, go support your friends and go to the wedding and keep your mouth shut. If this leads to more, If this leads to lustful thinking and jealousy towards the new husband, wondering if you ever have a chance with her, then buddy, stay away from the wedding,
Stay away from her. It's it's time to find new friends. You know what that is? It's funny. You know what that sound is? I record this and this is that sound reminds me that it's time to post a clip from this podcast on TikTok. That's funny, right, I have to remind myself because I get busy and I'll get doing stuff like this, so so now I have to
re remind myself after I finished. But if you ever wonder who does that, If you ever wonder who who puts those things on Instagram and TikTok, that's me Ian, the guy that edits this podcast. He makes me those clips and then I go in and add a caption and add music, and then I'll go in and post it on TikTok. So there you go. Let's see what we got. Let's yeah, we got time. We'll still's hit another question here. I've got I've got an idea. I'm
gonna hit a heavy one here. This is I saw this earlier as I was as I was going flipping through these emails. It says, hey Granger, my name is Josh I'm from South Dakota. I want to start by saying thank you for being a light in the dark world. You always have your arms wide open for this podcast. And I know that you lost a son in the past. My testimony is a little rough, but I love Jesus
more than anything. About two years ago, my ex and I were pregnant two months in without me knowing she took a bunch of pills and killed our son and almost took her own life. We since don't talk anymore, but on February twenty eighth, he will be too. God has shown me what he looks like and also gave me some hope. Every year on the twenty eighth, I get super depressed. How do I keep my head up? I keep going. I have since forgiven her for what she has done, as Jesus has forgiven me for what
I have done. Josh, that's a heavy one, brother, And like I, like I say to a lot of people, thank you for trusting me and being vulnerable enough to open up to this podcast knowing that I'm gonna read it and to a lot of ears. But I do know that a lot of I would say ninety nine point nine percent of people that listen to this podcast
never email. But everyone has something going on. Everyone has a difficulty, some kind of trial that they're going through or have been through, or don't know it but about to go through, And they listen to this podcast without emailing because it makes them feel like they're not alone. People have wild stories out there. You can't you can't make this stuff up. Josh, your's story. You can't you
can't even make this up. And people hear it though, and they go, wow, I've been through something like that. I thought I was the only one. I thought my life was just wacky, and then I hear you, Josh, and it's comforting. I know that that's what people think of because I've heard it firsthand. So Josh to you, you are not alone. He says, this kind of thing like, I don't have a magic answer, but we could talk through it. And that's that's why I'm here, and you
are correct. I have arms wide open for this podcast. I always have my arms wide open. So here's the first thing I'm gonna say. You got your You get your eyes right on Jesus. Keep them there, don't lose the focus. You remember when Peter saw Jesus walking on the water and he said, he said, Lord, I want to come to you. I want to come. You want to walk on water. I want to come to you. So Jesus says, come. He steps out into the water
and he walks on the water. Peter does immortal like me and you, And as soon as he loses sight of Jesus, as soon as he gets distracted by his feet and it looks down. He sinks, that's you, Josh. Keep your eyes up, keep your eyes on your savior. What you're doing. What do you do practically on the twenty eighth, February twenty eighth, What do you do practically for something like this? I would tell you as a friend that you got to redeem that day. You have
to redeem February the twenty eighth. It is a dark day in your history. It's a dark day in your life, and it's a dark piece of It's something that it's hard for you to pull that up and wake up on the twenty eighth and have a good day. So you got to redeem it. How do you do that? You take take all that pain and you say, on February twenty eighth, here, let me just start throwing some stuff out. Okay, Josh, this is I'm gonna give you examples of what you could do, and then you take
take this idea of yourself. You say on February twenty eighth, I'm gonna I'm gonna run I would say half a marathon, but that's really tough. I would say I'm gonna run five miles with I'm gonna add to this with a twenty pound ruck, okay, And I'm gonna run five miles with a twenty pound ruck, and I'm gonna go through a certain area, maybe an urban area, and i'm gonna I'm gonna raise money for child cancer. And the first time I do it, I'm gonna I'm gonna put in
my own money and i'm gonna raise. I'm gonna I'm gonna put in y'all. I'm literally making this up as I go. I'm gonna put in twenty bucks per mile. Okay, we're just starting low, like we're starting low. So you're gonna have one hundred bucks. And this is year one. What this does, what I'm trying to do for you, buddy,
is you're redeeming that day. So February twenty eighth is for your son, and for your son, you're gonna you're gonna pour that into others and you're gonna put effort and sweat because running five miles, if you're a runner, make it ten, make it fifteen. I'm not a runner, so five would be five would be tough. But something that takes it takes mental and physical strength, and you're gonna have a twenty pound ruck, so it makes it harder. So you're sweating and you're hurting, and maybe you got
some blisters. But you're running for a cause, for a purpose. You're pouring in to others. You're gonna help others on February twenty eighth, for your son and if anyone asks you, and hopefully what you want to do is you want to get You want to start gathering people like you tell your friends like, hey, guys, you want to come, and you want to you wanna chip in twenty bucks per mile that you run and at the end of
the day, we're gonna collect this money. Maybe it's four or five, six hundred dollars and we're gonna write a check to Saint Jude for preventing childhood cancer something like that. And you start growing this and you make t shirts for it, and you all wear the shirt and you're gonna run this and you have your rucksack and you're gonna you're gonna sweat and you're gonna cry, and you're gonna redeem that day. That's what you do. What's your alternative?
You wake up it's February twenty eighth. You remember you remember your son. You remember that he was murdered, and you get depressed, and you sit on social media and you flip through Instagram, Facebook. You see people and perfect looking perfect. You get jealous. You say, why can't I have that? Why can't I have my son? Why can't I have a nice marriage like I see on Facebook? You get pissed off. That's what happens. Choose, Josh, choose
will you redeem that day? Hey, I'll tell you what you email me back, Josh, you come up with something to redeem February twenty eighth, and I'll show up there with you. I'll show up. Let's take back that day. Next question, no subject here. The email says, So, my girlfriend and I have been together for six months and she is still talking to her ex, who she had been together with for three years. And I've been told by my friends and even her sister that they believe
she is cheating on me with her ex. And I'm not sure what to do do I break up with her, sit down and talk to her about it. I love her to death and i don't want to lose her, but I'm just not sure what to believe. So I'm asking for your opinion. On what I should do. Did you say your name, Nathan? You didn't say it. I'm gonna say it anyway because you didn't say anonymous. But Nathan, buddy, this is a conversation issue, communication issue. You can't not
say anything. You gotta say something right. But you can't just go right out your girlfriend and say, are you cheating on me with you with your ex? Okay? That could cause major problems if it's just a lie, maybe her sister's stirring some stuff up, that would be a big problem. But you can't just let it go because maybe it's true. So you just be as mature as you can about it. You sit her down, face to face like an adult, and you just say, Babe, I'm
gonna ask you something. And I just want to be straight up and I'm not mad at you, and I'm not freaking out here. I've heard from a few people quitting your sister saying you're still seeing your ex? Is it true? If you are, I'm out, Okay, I'll bow out. No hard feelings. I've only been together with you for six months, but I just want to know right now.
Could he just tell me? And if she's like no, this is crazy you could be like, Okay, yeah, I thought it was crazy too, but you know, maybe you should talk to your sister about why she's spreading these kind of rumors. Or maybe she goes, yeah, I'm sorry, I still love my ex, and you go, okay, it's been fun, but now I know it's really as easy as that. It's religious communication thing. Be cool about it, don't be crazy, don't be angry, and don't be silent
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get into this, I don't keep notes. I don't read these in advance and make some kind of bullet points. We're just going we're just shooting in the dark here. So here we go. You with me, everyone, subject line girl tips, and the email says, hey, Granger came across your podcast on TikTok. Love to your content. My name is Justin. I'm twenty three years old. I'm a follower of Christ. I met this girl who isn't but she says she really wants to have a relationship with God
the way I do. Although she doesn't have Christ in her heart, we share the same morals, views and things like that. She's a sweet girl. However, we were getting to know each other and going on dates and stuff, and I asked her, how does she feel about all this? All this for about two months. She responded by saying, you're like the perfect boyfriend. But to be honest, I still have an attachment to my ex. This is her talking. I feel like you met me at the wrong time.
Now she just wants to be friends and see where things will go. Not sure what to do. Do I drop her? Be friends? Not sure? Thank you God blessed Justin. Thanks for the email, brother, and man, I'm gonna go right after this. You are You're in one of these kind of situations where she's just not into you. And she says that you're the perfect boyfriend. No, you're not. You're not to her, You're not justin. I think you're a good guy. Man, I think you're awesome, but she doesn't.
She says you're the perfect boyfriend. You're not the perfect boyfriend to her, or you would be with her, she would choose you. It's just a line, you see what I'm saying. I love you, man, tough love here. But that's just a line that she's given you to make you feel better, and because then she gets you, she gives you the big blow, which is right after that, which says, to be honest, I still have an attachment to my ex. I feel like you met me at the wrong time, which is another one of these lies.
No one meets someone right at the wrong time. You meet someone wrong at the wrong time. You meet someone right at the right time, But you never meet someone right at the wrong time. That just doesn't happen, because if you meet someone that's right, you change everything, you rearrange your life, and suddenly, whila, it's the right time, right person, right time. That's the correct way to see it. If she gives you anything like this, I have met
you at the wrong time. You're just the perfect boyfriend, and I'm so sorry I have an attachment to my ex. Whoops, we met at the wrong time. That's just a very nice way of saying she's just not into you, man. So your question is what do I do? Do I drop her? Be friends? Not sure? Thank you, brother, here's my answer. How's your heart? I think I think your heartbroken? Otherwise, you wouldn't have emailed me a long email about this. So I'm saying, as a it's a friend me and you.
I'm saying, we're driving down the truck together. You know, we're in the cab of the truck and we got the windows down. We're on a county road, doing some back road. And then you're like, man, Granger, tell me what to do. I'm like, justin, leave everything behind, dropper blocker, No to friends, no to future girlfriend, because your heart is in jeopardy. Your heart is in danger here. That's what I'm saying. If you were like, man, she's a cool girl. I don't know, met her a couple of
weeks ago. I think she's still into her ex. What should I do? I'd say, Hey, just be friends. It's okay, you know, hang out. But that's not the case. I think your heart is really attached to her, so it's time to move on. Let me grab another question here, and here we go. Subject line says obesity. Hey Granger, I wish to remain anonymous, but my question to you is this, how do I tell my wife that she
needs to lose weight without offending her? My wife is three hundred and sixty pounds and can't get around much. Sometimes I feel alone. Well, that's a tough question, and this is one of these words like, well, there's not a right answer. Here's what I would do, total just transparency, total vulnerability to your wife, and come from a place of love, come from a place of complete servitude. So
you're just servitude right back to your wife. And it's like this, maybe it looks like this, Hey babe, I mean you're sitting around, right, You're sitting around, You're like watching your favorite Netflix show, and you say, hey, babe, what are things in your life you wish you had better? What are some things in your life you wish you could do that you haven't done. Try to bait her into saying something along the lines of I wish I could lose some weight. So she says it like it's
her idea. Okay, so however you could do that. You're just like, you're let's just dream together, babe, We're just dreaming together here. What's something you wish you wish you could do for yourself? And so eventually you want her to say, well, I wish I could lose some weight. I'm three hundred and sixty pounds. I wish I could lose some weight, and you just let it sit there for a second. I mean, you're not gonna jump on it and be like yeah, yeah that total love, total servitude,
total honoring, and you're gonna go. You know, I feel the same way. I feel like I should lose some weight too. Even though I love you, I don't love you because of the way how much you weigh. Like I love you because you I love your heart, I love your soul. I love the way you love me. You know which is should be true? All that should
be true. And then you say something like if you want we should try to try to lose weight together, we should challenge each other, we should hold each other accountable, not because we're trying to gain each other's favor or love each other more, but just let's just you know, we're married, Let's work on this together. Let's encourage each other.
Will you encourage me? And she's like yeah, and You're like, well, I'll encourage you because I think if we both if we lost a little bit of weight, we could enjoy things more, we could enjoy life. Okay, do you see what I'm saying. Everything I've just said, you don't have to do it that way, but just come from a place of humility, come from a place where you're it's not judgmental, it's it's not vanity. You know, you're not
saying you're not pretty anymore. You're saying I love you, And because I love you, I want to be there for you, and I want to be there in a place of sympathy where I could hold your hand and we could walk through this together. Not because I want you to, but because I love you and I know you'll enjoy life more if you do. If you could do that, I think that's your answer to a very tough situation. Nice question. Subject CLIENTE says school bully, Hey Granger,
I'm fourteen years old. I'm homeschooled. I used to go to school and I was a bully. I asked everyone for forgiveness last year, but one girl did not forgive me and told me that my friend made her try that me and my friend made her tried to commit suicide but it didn't work. How do I show her that I'm really sorry. That's a lot for a fourteen year old, that's a lot. That's a lot for an adult. And did you say your name? Your name's Evan. Evan, that's a lot for an adult, and you're gonna have
to have to deal with this at fourteen. The good news is you already have a repentant heart about this. You already feel sorry, and you've already asked for forgiveness, hopefully from a true place of humility. And one girl, I mean, you can't blame her right She was bullied to a point where she tried to commit suicide. So where are you now? This is my thing, Evan, Where are you in your head? Are you trying to reconcile her and have her forgive you so that you could
sleep better at night? This is this about you just a question? Or are you coming from a place where you just genuinely from a selfless place where you genuinely want her to be healed because of the damage you did. There's a big difference between those two things. If it comes from a place where you just need a clean slate and you need to check off one another box so your conscience feels a little bit better. If that's the case, then I wouldn't mess with this girl ever.
I wouldn't talk to her anymore. I wouldn't move on because you could come to a spot that could be dangerous to her again. You've already done damage and you could her not accepting your apology again could trigger anger with you. If you get triggered, that could trigger a suicidal thought for her again. So don't do it. The only way you ever see her again or interact ever ever again is through complete selflessness and humility. And it
could start with some flowers and a card. You put flowers on her doorstep, and you put in your right a card you say it's Evan, I'm pretty much the worst person in the world. And I know I've asked you for forgiveness, but I just want to tell you again, and I'll tell you every day that what I did is nothing. It's not related to you at all. It comes from a place for me being insecure, from me feeling like I'm not worthy. It comes from a place
of me hurting. And then I put that out, I put that forward and hurt you because I wanted to drag other people down with me. And you're just a victim in that, and you're a casualty and I will see it now. Then you're such a special person and you deserve so much more than what I gave you, and I know these flowers are nothing and this card is nothing, but I hope that one day it could just be the beginning of mending a heart that I've crushed. Sincerely, Evan,
something like that. Next question no subject here. It says, Hey Granger, I'm Joseph. I'm thirty four. I have a beautiful wife and family. We currently live in Savannah, Georgia. We have six beautiful kids and live off the sweat of my brow. We are a blended family. My wife had two little girls prior to me, and I had a son and daughter prior to her. Now we have two sons together. I love all of them. My problem is the distance from my other two and being the dad I need to be for them. They live on
the other side of the state. I work night shifts on a loading dock at Southeastern Freight Lines. I'm struggling trying to be everything I need to be for my family, and it tears my heart out. How do I be sure that I'm doing my part to fill this void? Any advice is greatly appreciated, your friend, Joseph. And then Joseph puts a picture on this email, just beautiful family with everybody one, two, three, four, five, six kids. Brother, I appreciate you emailing, and it's a legitimate question. And
here's the thing that might like. Okay, we're riding the truck together. We're back road, me and you, Joseph, we're going down some back roads, and you're you're dumping this on me. You're like, man, this is a big deal.
And and Joseph, I'm glad that it's a big deal to you, and I hope it's a big deal to other dads that hear it too, because so many times in a when a family divorces, splits up and some kind of distance comes between the two, so many times the kids that are born after become the priority and the others are kind of forgotten because it's just too difficult to deal with in a lot of ways. But not to you. You're looking at all of them as a priority equally, which you should. Here's the deal, Okay,
riding in the true me and you. You got this job at the loading dock at Southeastern Freight Lines. My question would be this, how do you get the other kids here with you in Savannah or how do you uproot where you are and go to them? Because my question would be what's more important here, the job or the kids? Because could you get another job where the kids are? How could you get these families together? That's my question. Are you doing all that you can to
get to them? I mean, surely your wife understands that now, and I under understand that six kids, that's a big deal. The move. You can't just move them. It takes planning, it takes effort. It takes finding a new job. It takes your wife finding a job, It takes looking at schools, it takes looking in a place. But I want to
tell you this. I want to be your friend, Joseph and tell you that although all that stuff is stacked against you and it's very difficult, all of that would be worth the sacrifice to have everybody together in the same town. Like if you could do one thing, if we thirty years from now, you could look back on your life at thirty four. Say you're sixty four years
old and you're looking back thirty years ago. If you could do one thing, if you could say I had one chance, I could do one thing to change I had a chance to get everybody in the same town where all the kids grew up together. And I was the dad equal to all of them. I was there for him. I went to their sporting events, I went to church with them. I was there when they needed me for their birthdays and their proms and whatever. You get that chance now and thirty years it's just a memory,
possibly or regret. Is this job worth it? Could you get another job at a loading dock where they are? Could you uproot that family and get them to with you? Get them with you? All questions I have in the cab of the truck. Thanks for the email, brother, all right, cruising right through here, Let's grab another. We've actually, we've actually moved and gotten some gotten some stuff done today. Subject line here says social media, and the email says,
hey Granger, my name is Brian. I'm from Idaho. I'm in the ninth grade. I don't have social media because my parents won't let me. I feel like it's the thing that will help me make friends and just overall happier. I molawn's make good money. I have friends, but I just feel like I need social media. Any advice would be appreciated. Things ye ye, all right, Brian, shout out to Idaho. I love your state, and man, I remember I remember being a ninth grader. It's not an easy time.
And obviously I didn't have that issue growing up when I was in ninth grade. But I'm gonna say this. You might know this already. You know. I'm gonna say, you got to honor your parents. Why do they not let you have social media? It's because they want to make your life miserable. No, because they love you, Brian, I love you, and it's dangerous. We don't know the effects of what social media is doing to kids. We don't know. Yeah, you're you're just a kid. Your man,
you're almost a man. You're like right on the border of becoming a man, but in a lot of ways, like you might look like a man, but a lot of ways you're still a boy. And your parents know some things that I don't. They know something that your teachers don't. They know some things that your friends don't. They know some things that you don't about you. Why, man, they raised you, They changed your diapers, Man, they give
you bottles. They taught you to walk, they taught you to talk, they put you in school, they taught you how to throw a ball. And now they're saying I don't want you on social media for a reason that you might not understand. And I could tell you one thing for sure, Brian. It will not bring you more happiness. It will not bring you more friends. That's the lie that social media brings to our world today. In fact, Brian,
here's the crazy thing. You might not believe me. Maybe you won't, and I don't really care, but I can tell you that social media has the opposite effect of happiness. It brings you loneliness, It brings you insecurity. It makes you feel like you're not worthy if it makes you feel like you're not perfect, It makes you feel like you'll never be there. You start seeing likes and hearts and comments and posts, and then you post and you don't get a comment, you don't get a like, you
don't get a heart. You start seeing some of your friends talking to each other about something you're not a part of. The conversation is endless on what this could do to your life, and it's all negative. Do I understand why you want to be on social media? Of course I do. Yeah, that's obvious. You don't want to miss out. You have fomo. You don't want to walk down the halls and someone's laughing at a meme that you didn't see because you're not on social media. Bro,
you're better off. You are better off. That's my opinion. That's what I would tell you. And then the whole other side of the coin is what I started with. Honor your mother and father. They just know what's best. Brian. I say all this out of love, man. I have everyone every question I've answered on this podcast, on this episode or any episodes in the past, Guys, I have
no reason. I have no reason to lead you astray from what I don't feel in my heart, in my own house, my own family, my own kids, my own life. I have no reason to lead you any other direction. Besides, I genuinely just love you guys, like it doesn't make the podcast any better if I just lead you astray on purpose. I believe everything I'm saying, and I'm only doing it because I genuinely want to try to help. That's it. I love you, guys, and I appreciate you listening,
and as always, we'll see you next Monday morning. Thanks for joining me on the Grangersmith podcast. Appreciate all of you guys. You could help me out by rating this podcast on iTunes. If you're on YouTube, subscribe to this channel. Hit that little like button and the notification spell so that you never miss anytime I upload a video. If you have a question for me that you would like me to answer, email Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com. Yigi