And here's the craziest thing we could possibly say to you. You have to forgive him. That's what I was just about to say. You have to forgive him. And I've said this before and I'll say it again because it's worth repeating. But sometimes with something like forgiveness of something that of this magnitude, we have to say it and preach it to ourselves before our heart absorbs it. What's up, guys, Welcome back to the podcast Exciting News. Today, we have
Bernie back guest. I haven't had a guest in a long time. It's been just me, but we got long time as Bernie Calcote back. We've been friends for twenty five years. He's been on this podcast eighty five thousand times and he has really built He's built so much of what this podcast has become. In the early days. Yeah, well you started it in the early days on the bus, Yeah, in the in the in the Reformation. So basically we answer your questions if you're new to the podcast, we
answer your questions. Like we're sitting on you know, in the pickup truck and it's me and Bernie and you're in the back seat and you go, hey, guys, could I run something by something been going on in my life? And then we walk through it in long form and we answer your question without notes and without preparation. We just give you friend advice. And Bernie is one of the best friend advisors that I have, and we do this.
We still do it. We've talked about it many times on this podcast, and we still do it to this day. When we have something going on in our lives, one of us will call each other and be like, hey man, can you talk And when we say that, we have to kind of schedule it because we're going to talk for an hour. So it's never like what's up, man, how's it going, It's going good? How about you going good? Kay bye? It's like, hey man, maybe later on we actually get on the phone because we're going to talk
for an hour. Oh and it's so good though, man, those deep, deep friendships and everything that comes with them, Man, it's such a blessing. So I agree. Well, we're gonna answer your questions. If you have one, email Grangersmith Podcast
at gmail dot com. We'll get right to it, and not just if you have a question, because wouldn't it be awesome Griz to one time open your email and start reading and somebody is like, not, hey, they broke up with me or they died, But man, I listened to you guys, and then this wonderful thing inspired me. And what you know, I just wanted you to encourage you guys. You'd be like, yes, that's good. Yeah, give
us some you longtime listeners. Give us some stories on maybe something that's changed in your life because of a podcast episode. That would be really cool. Yeah. Encouragement is great, you know. We sometimes you need it whenever you're getting into some of these really dark places with people which you are really good at, like sitting with them, holding
the space to like really dig into it. But I think it's good every once in a while to hear like, oh yeah, man, this is this is impacting people in a really special way. So I hear back. Occasionally, I hear back from people that I answer a question for and they'll say, hey, I applied this and here's what happened. But I would also like to hear from people that have never emailed but used something from someone else's question
and listen apply to their life. It's interesting. Hey, maybe even I'm not talking about just positive, maybe something negative like, Hey, I tried it and it would failed miserably. That would help. That would help. Let's get right to the first question. The subject line says broken heart by ex husband from nasty divorce. Please help me. I am lost, so broken. I divorced my first husband that I was married to for seventeen years in nineteen ninety nine. We had three daughters.
He treated me like a maid, not a wife. I had no he was just not a nice person. I lost who I was. I just found out six months ago that he told my mom that our youngest daughter, who is thirty five, is not his, that I had an affair with our neighbor, which is a complete lie. I never cheated on him. He also told several of our friends this same story, and my mother knew that was a lie, but she didn't not defend me. He
told this back in two thousand and seven. I can't let it go because he constantly lies about me and posts things about me on Facebook. I felt like I should confront him. I could no longer take it. He is remarried in two thousand and three, and I was remarried in two thousand and eight, but unfortunately, he took his life in twenty sixteen due to PTSD from the army, which I also suffer from. Please help me. I'm on my own, Melissa. A lot of stuff here, Wow, a
lot of stuff. So we're no longer like starting off with the light ones in order. I've been gone for a while. We're just like it. I don't prep these, I don't read ahead on what I'm about to say, so it's just going to fall out. So Melissa, thank you for emailing you. You do have a lot of stuff going on, and I'm so sorry. What I want to deal with too, is your first question. Your very first question said please help me. I'm so lost and so broken, and then your last sentence says, please help me.
I'm on my own. So Bernie and I are going to tell you right now, you're not alone here. Me and me and Bernie are listening to you. We're going to talk through this. But there's also a lot of people, a lot of people that are going through something maybe not exactly the same, but they're going through similar things. There's a lot of nasty divorces, there's a lot of lies, there's a lot of people who have lost a loved one through suicide, and so you are not alone in
your situation. And that's part of what this podcast does for a lot of people. I think I think ninety nine point nine percent of people don't email me. They just listen, and they listen so that they could acknowledge that they're not alone in their problems. Because we have a tendency as humans to think I'm just this. No one else has it as bad as I do. No one else is in this dark hole that I'm in,
And that's just not true. And also, didn't she say she remarried, Yes, she remarried, but he took his life. Oh okay, her current Yeah, her second husband, second husband, Okay, I thought she was referring to the first one. Okay, so the first one is still out there telling lies that their daughter is what came from an affair, right, Okay, Man, Melissa, this is really heavy. Let's start with this. Let's start
with this. I can't let it go because he instantly lies about me and post things about me on Facebook. Let's start with Facebook. Me and you love that subject, Well, first of all, block him. Let's go ahead and do that. It's not gonna it's not gonna fix everything, but it's gonna fix you seeing it, so it's not going to stop him from lying, which you can't and no one can't. We can't control other people. We can only control ourselves and how we react to them. So we're gonna block
him on Facebook first so you're not seeing it. And then when other people come up and say, did you see what your ex posted about you? You go you just look him straight in the eye and say, oh, no, I blocked him. I don't. I don't follow what he says because it's usually a lie done. Yeah. The other thing that you could do, probably in your mental state.
And I say this with like all humility, and I'm not condemning you know, anybody for your choices or whatnot, but you could get off of social media altogether because then when that person says, did you read what he said about you? You could be like, actually, I didn't, and I don't really care to know. I'm not on
social media. Because it sounds like Melissa, you need to be focused on some healing and connecting with people that are with you in real life and not kind of going into that whole of you know, fantasy and not reality of things that everybody's doing. They're painting like you said, they use car salesman like, they're all painting these pictures of the best versions of themselves. And it's probably weighing on you emotionally, even whether you know it or not.
In light of your ex posting this stuff, I mean, and it sounds like you're struggling with PTSD. You've got a lot of emotional work. It sounds like that you need to do. I would probably do an inventory. It's not just social media, do an inventory of your life. Because the way to our heart, it's just through our minds, and the way to our minds is through our eyes and our ears. So what are you watching, what are
you looking at, what are you listening to? And how are those things getting into your brain seeping down into your heart. We need to maybe clear out some of the stuff that's not healthy and just really try to like zone in on some things that are. Yeah, that's great. Here's another crazy twist for you, Melissa. I believe you because I don't. I don't think you would you would have a reason to email me and lie about this
supposed affair. But let's just throw this out there. What if you did, like, what if what if it was an affair that you had your son with. Well, I'm not talking about the relationship with your son, but I'm talking about the relationship with everyone else that was thirty five years ago. Anyway, no one is the same as they were at thirty five years ago. So you're looking at it like that's you today right now, like a mistake that you made today is affecting you. But it's
thirty five years ago and it's a lie. But you're living it like it's happening in your face today in this moment, and it really shouldn't affect you at all, something that happened that long ago. Anyone that knows your ex husband knows that he's a deceiver. They know what kind of guy is. They know that you were treated like a maid and not like a wife, that you had no voice. You got to let that go. And here's the craziest thing we could possibly say to you.
You have to forgive him. That's what I was just about to say. You have to forgive him. And I've said this before and I'll say it again because it's worth repeating. But sometimes with something like forgiveness of something of this magnitude, we have to say it and preach it to ourselves before our heart absorbs it. So we say it with our mouth and we just say, you know what. And you could even tell the next person that comes up to you and says, did you hear
about the lie that you're ex? Husband said, you could look them right in the face. And just like Bernie said, I love his answer. First of all, a first part of the answer is no, I didn't, and I don't really care to know. And the second part of your answer is, but I forgive them, Like wow, what an impact that would make on the person that's spreading gossip and stirring you up. And you go, but I forgive him. He's human and we went through a lot of stuff
together and he's not totally to blame with everything. I wasn't the perfect person either, but I have over the years I have forgiven him. Now, your heart might be screaming in that moment, no I don't, No, I don't, No, I don't, But your mouth is saying it, and you
keep preaching it back to your heart over and over. Yeah, I think it's good to separate forgiveness and reconciliation and healing, so that, like Grangeer is saying, saying that out loud and really preaching that to yourself and forgiving him and maybe forgiving him again, just embodying that idea of forgiveness, like I am really forgiving him as I've been forgiven. So let's not forget that part and let that weigh
on your mind even heavier than what he's doing is. Like, Man, I have been forgiven, so the only natural thing for me to do is extend that same forgiveness. But that doesn't remove the hurt and the pain and damage of everything that he's done immediately. It doesn't work that way. Like healing of the heart and reconciliation or healing or
anything like that definitely takes time. And that's why I would say, if you're not already seeing a counselor of some kind or a therapist or I highly recommend it to everybody who's listening, because we all need that counsel. We all need somebody appointing us in encouraging us and guiding us. But for you, Melissa, I would definitely say, if we're talking just practical things, I'm lost. You need
a guide. The Word of God can definitely be your guide, and it's going to point you to forgiveness and then also couple that with somebody of sound mind and wise counsel to just help you kind of process some of the hurt that has happened over the years. I love it. I love what he said about separating forgiveness with reconciliation, and a way to look at that just at a surface level would be the way that you would forgive a rattlesnake. It's like, I, dude, I got bit by
a rattlesnake. But I forgive the snake because that's the snake's nature is to bite when it's when it feels threatened, and it bit me as a reaction of the threat that it thought I was. So I forgive the snake for its nature of what it is. But I'm not going to go stick in my hand in holes anymore. Right, I'm gonna watch myself when I'm around rocks in Texas because there's rattlesnakes and they will bite. So you're not going to take your ex husband out to dinner and say, hey,
meals on me. You know, you're not going to stick your hand in holes. But you could still forgive him for his nature and for what he is, and love him for what he is, because you were broken just like him in your own way and we all are. So forgive him and love him and get off social media. Yeah, and don't perpetuate the gossip that's coming to you when people want to stir you up, because they know that you're the kind of person that can get stirred up.
And they said, do you hear about your ex? You hear what he's saying about your boy from thirty five years ago? Don't extend that conversation at all, kill it right then, say no, I didn't. In fact, anything he says wouldn't surprise me at this point, but I have forgiven him. There's nothing else to say. Yeah, the person's like, okay, let's talk about something else else. Yeah. Yeah, And your kindness is going to go a long long way for sure. So all right, let's move on. Let's hit another one.
This subject line is letting go of the past. At Grand Drum twenty far'd like to remain anonymous. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two and a half years, with a six month break in the middle. We got back together and after we both grew on our own and he came back after we realized we couldn't stand being a part and loved each other too much to be with anyone else. We tried dating other people with while we were apart, and it's something that
we have worked on together to move forward. However, I still find it really hard sometimes when stuff gets brought up, like around friends about girls that he slept with, and it's always a joke, but recently it came out that while we were on break, there were two other girls he slept with that he forgot to mention or to tell me about when we got back together. He is a he hey he had this is funny. He has a large body count. Okay, I think I know what
you're saying. He has a large body count where I have chosen to wait till marriage and he has always respected that. So I guess my question is how do I let these things that were in the past go, even though it still really hurts my heart every time I hear about things like this. Thank you Anonymous twenty four dated for two and a half years, six month break, got back together. He slept with girls in the break. You realize that you were meant for each other, so
you got back together. You are waiting till marriage. Okay, there's a lot to unpack here. But if you're with me in the truck right now, I would say, why did you get back with Why did you get back with him? Like? What is he bringing to you? You guys have very different morals. They're going two different directions, and so it's really hard to recognized the reconcile these two very different moral standards and bring them back together and then expect things to be normal. And that's why
they're not. We say about this brand, Yeah, I'm this one brings up a lot of questions that I would have for anonymous, like how did you find out? What was that conversation? Like was it I think on the last podcast you talked about the guy that went to the church conference and felt this conviction and went to his wife to confess these things, and she emailed me back. By the way she did, she said that this was really hard love, but I needed it. You dish out
some hard love sometimes, Am I right? Guys? But it's all good man? Yeah? Just what I mean? How did they get back together? What did he say? Was it like he got busted? Or is there any kind of spiritual conviction here? Is there any like, you know, commitment to their faith together in this relationship, without really knowing those things just at face value. I'm like, I don't know. Yeah, face value, this was a rebound. Yeah, you rebounded to him.
You're saying, six months break, you got back together because we realized we couldn't stand being a part and loved each other too much. Okay, well that's it. That's not enough time. Six months is not enough time for you to go. Yeah, I'm cool, I'm good, I'm over it. Yeah, yeah I would, I would say, I don't. I don't know if I would invest any further in their relationship. I'm sorry, I'm saying the same thing. Yeah, And again, like we don't know one hundred percent of the context.
You could email us back and be like, no, well here's you know whatever. But it just sounds like he's he's got some things probably to work out. And I mean, yeah, you sound sometimes on TikTok people say this guy only tells people just to break up. But the slightest thing. I'm sorry, So now I'm hesitant because of TikTok. I'm hesitant to say dump him. Yeah, but that's kind of what I'm saying. Anonymous, like you're friends, I would just say dump him. And I know it's hard. It's called heartbreak,
and of course it's hard. You got six months, you tried to recover. It wasn't enough. You loved him. Two and a half years is a long time, and it's also a long time to save yourself for marriage with a guy that hasn't saved hisself for marriage. So you're
expecting a lot from this guy. Well, and if she she's twenty four and she's been saving herself for marriage, So it sounds like there's some kind of like conviction in her heart somewhere to that, yeah, right, which which makes me believe like, okay, maybe she is a Christian. Maybe she believes in, you know, having sex with your white or with your husband or wife. And it doesn't sound like this guy has the same you know, like whatever, do what you want, but it doesn't sound like he
has the same values. And Matt brings up more problems down the road, more problems down the road. And I know you may be thinking, man, I'm twenty four. A lot of people are starting to talk about getting engaged, and I don't want to get old. And yeah, dude, you're still young. Yeah, you're still young, and you need to be treated and respected and valued and pursued and adored for the person that you are and love the way that Jesus loves you, not the way that this
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search question. I grew up in the church, confession of faith, baptized the whole bit, I joined the army and even had a Christian music show while I was overseas for almost a year. I know who I am in Christ and have never stopped believing. While I know church attendants is not required for salvation, I also know that keeping
the company of believers helps sharpen your faith. With that said, over the last few years, attendance has been fewer and fewer in my faith, while not fleeting has been challenged. And now you have entered my life versus an entertainer. Now as a brother, I am binge listening to the podcast like my soul cannot get enough, even though I've heard some of it before. I'm just trying to understand why now, why am I so craving his message? If it's a God thing and his timing, I could accept
and roll with it. Thanks and God blessed Tim. So this is this kind of goes to your first thing you said in the first break about let's get a let's get someone that says what the podcast has done. Yeah, so Tim, awesome, Tim bro. What you're feeling is absolutely normal and absolutely a necessity in your walk right now. And this is an interesting thing that Bernie I can talk about. We talk about it a lot together off camera. We could talk about what's happening to you, and it's
called a rebirth. And this is the danger that I should bring up. This is the danger of American Christianity growing up in church, confession of faith, baptized, the whole bit, those are your words, and there's a false sense of security of salvation in that. So tons of people, tons of people grew up in church in America. They gave the confession of faith in church, whether it was in confirmation class or with a pastor, or at an altar call,
or with an elder or in a small group. They were baptized, and that could have all happened in the baptism as well. And then you walk away and you think I'm good. I have a false sense of security, and yeah, I accept Jesus. I call this dog tag Christianity because in World War Two, when when they made the dog tags, they would ask for your religion, so that if you died, they would they knew what kind
of priest to bring to your funeral. And so it said Christian on your dog tag, and so much of us, so many of us walk around with dog tags that say Christian. But we don't really live anything more than that. We don't have a craving at all. And when you are saved, truly, when you're reborn, which is all God. Salvation is all a force from God, not us. We can respond to it, and that is the mystery of
salvation includes us responding to the Gospel. It's responding to the call, responding to the choosing, but the active force that begins this is always God. One of the first things we could see as a result of this sow the true salvation that you're talking about, Tim. One of the first things we see is a craving, a thirst, a hunger for more. We also see a high conviction of sin. So's it's a false representation of Christianity to think that we go on sinless. Jesus says, go sin
no more. But we take that to the extreme and think sometimes that Christians don't sin, but we do. But the difference is the ones that are saved have a higher conviction of it. It's like we hate it, we do it, we regret it, we want to repent for it, we want to apologize for it, we want to move on, we don't want to go back to it. And that goes right along. And I guarantee you didn't say it, Tim, but I guarantee you you're also feeling that. That's an
other thing you're feeling right now. And so this craving that you're having, this hunger, this thirst, this when you're away from the body of church of the church and you want to go back to church and you just crave it. You it's like Sunday and you're like, I don't care what I got going on, I don't care what NFL team is playing. I gotta go to church.
I got to be around other believers. Like you said in your email, I need to read the Word, like I just I got to open this Bible and see what he says, Like what is God saying to me today? So I open it up and I'm like, God, this is the Word of God, and I can't stop until I see where he finishes all. This is a really great sign and it's totally natural. So I would say, welcome. Yeah, I think that you've you're growing up sounds very similar
to mine. And I'm guessing that you have probably heard a lot of narrative about kind of this dog tag Christianity or what a Christian is. But then all of a sudden that paradigm's kind of being flipped around, right, You're starting to hear some things that are like wait a second, yeah, and then the spirit's kind of opening your heart to understand, open your eyes to understand, like oh okay, there's that those moments where you're like, oh, my goodness. And so I would just encourage you to
keep digging in. Man, it just gets better and better. It gets harder and harder and more like it'll stretch you. I mean, being a disciple of Jesus is one of the hardest things that you can think of. Being a dog tag Christian's pretty easy, pretty easy, pretty easy. But giving your life away, like putting yourself behind others, giving away your wealth, being generous, being humble, restraint from your you know, worldly desires like those yeah it's to die
is gain? Uh, These things are very very difficult. So I would just encourage you to keep keep pushing in to all the things, whether it's this podcast, your time, and the word. You're gonna definitely need some brothers and some sisters that you can lock arms with, be encouraged by, and that you can then pour into when they need it, because we're all human and we need that encouragement. But I think you've probably heard something in Granger's voice, and
I don't. I love you know, Grizzy's been my friend for a long time, but I don't think it's him. I think it's the Holy Spirit that did a work in him, and now that's starting to come out and people are starting to hear it and be like, man, what is that. That's a different word than I've heard before, and I gotta go. I got to go read more about that. I got to figure out what that is. And then you're like, oh, I got more of it. I got more of it. I need more of it.
So it's not him, it's not this podcast, but it's the words that are coming out of it that I think, and those words are available every morning to you. So if for all the other tim to you, i'd say welcome for everyone else that's listening. And if you say that you're a Christian, but you're thinking to yourself, I don't thirst at all. I don't hunger at all, I would say gently and lovingly, that's a red flag. I would say why why are you not? And I would
want to dig into that. Okay. I posted this yesterday on Twitter and it's a revelation twenty one six. It says it is done. I am the Alpha and the Omega, the beginning and the end to the thirsty. I will give from the spring of the water of life without payment. And so I would say, are you thirsty? Why are you not thirsty? Because that's the only requirement we have in this passage here is to be thirsty. So why
are you not? Yeah, and if you're not, like you need to just desperately pray because God will hear and he will respond if we go to him in desperation, and maybe you're just in a season where you're not feeling that. I think that's what he wants, is us to just go to him in prayer and just God, I don't feel you. I don't feel this desire, but I want it. Where is it? Can you respond? Can you respond? And God is always, it seems like in scripture,
very slow to respond to what we think. It's like so long, but then all at once, And so just be faithful and diligent in that. Absolutely, let's move on here. Next question says, are we gonna be able to do this with the clock tickets? Yeah? You want me to give some weird problems going on in the room right now, dude, I'll just take it. Hey, well, no, let's try something new. Okay. You were going to read the question for the first time, Okay, and I'm gonna get rid of this clock that's tiken.
Oh boy, Okay, addiction getting in the way of my relationship with God. Hey Granger, my name is Josh and I am eighteen. I have a porn addiction. I have tried to quit in the past, but I fall short. Every time I tried to quit. This has been eating at me and makes me feel horrible. I've tried praying about it and asking God to help me, but nothing seems to work, and I always go back. What can I do to quit my addiction and grow my relationship
with God? I love this question because I actually have, unlike some other questions, I actually have a some systematic things you could do right now. So, first of all, Josh, bro, you're not alone, right, not alone? There are so many people, most of them that don't admit it, that are dealing with this. Okay, So so bro, you I'm so I'm so happy, I'm so pleased that you had the courage
to email me about this. And I just want to stand with you for a moment in that and just say you have a lot of courage to admit this and to bring it into light and to stop. You don't want to walk in the dark anymore. You want to walk in the light, and you're bringing this to the light. And luckily I have some I have some
pretty good systematic things I have for you. And at eighteen, let me just say, yeah, like at eighteen, to be able to recognize the damage that this can cause in your future and to be vulnerable enough to put it out there now and say, like, I know, this isn't the life God has for me, and I want something better. Todd, That's awesome, Josh, good jobs. Absolutely so, Josh, what I'm about to tell you is very difficult to do. It's easy for me to tell you it's very difficult to do.
But because of your email, it sounds like you're in a desperate situation where you're willing to do something difficult. Okay, so I would I would wonder how desperate are you? Because this is tough. But there is a website called covenantiyes dot com and Pastor Chad told me about this, and Pastor Chad has used this with a lot of different counseling sessions that he's done. So Covenant Eyes and we talked about this at t forg ME and you
Chad at dinner. Covenant Eyes is a website where you you inter I'm so sorry, I can still here that clock that I'll put outside, Okay, so you you enter your information from your computer and your phone and your iPad and it it recognizes your ip address and then it shares it monitor where you go and what you search. This is a problem I get. I get a friend of mine on the podcast and he starts laughing at me. I'm sorry, Josh. The clock that usually sits here that
tells the time. There's the clock I have on the table that I use for this podcast that monitors how long I go. It counts up. It's a counter. And it started first it started flashing, so while we were talking, it was flashing at us. And so during the break I took it outside and like plugged it into the charge in a reset and I was like, cool, I'm good.
Now it started flashing again. Then it started clicking. Now it's actually chiming, and I go to hear it in the other room, chiming, all right, we're gonna get it back, Josh. I'm so sorry. This is a very serious subject. Attacked by the enemy. Right now. You know that this is an attack by the enemy because it doesn't want me to tell Josh this truth Reset Reset Covenant, eyes dot com or org one of the two google it Coven
and Eyes. It takes your information and it will monitor your online searching so that whenever you go to a porn site, it will send that IP that activity to whoever you tell it to send to. So it could be your mother. I would suggest putting it as your mom, yes, or your dad or both, so your mom will get an email that says, Josh visited this website at this time and there's nothing you could do to stop it
once you sign up. So that's what I say. Okay, So that's when I say this is very difficult because you're going to have to be so strong because when you do it, you don't want to go through that
embarrassment of Mom seeing what you just looked at. Yeah, but if you're talking about habit correction, like you have to have like extreme consequences or some kind of repercussions or else your habits are just going to go back if it's like, oh, you know, it's sent an email to my buddy who also struggles with the same thing, so we don't even pay attention to it anymore. No, there has to be some rewiring of your brain a
little bit, and this can definitely help. So, Bro, Hey, Josh, do me a favor if you have courage, and I think you do because you email me. If you have enough courage to sign up for Covenant Eyes, message me back and just say, hey, man, I did it. I'm signed up because I just want to know that you did it. So I'm going to be over this next week after the podcast comes out. I'm going to be
waiting for your email, Joshua Reese. Okay, I want to hear back from you, bro, because I got your back and I think it's so important and I love you, man, and I'm so I'm so pleased that you have the courage to email me. Okay, let's do this together and you and not just Josh, but any dude out there,
because this is a very destructive habit and addiction. It's so destructive and there are resources out there to help navigate through it, not just covering eyes, but also like getting connected to a group of godly men that can you help keep you accountable and remind you of the things that God's word, that God's Word says, and also
continue to just sit in God's word. Let that be the thing that is going in your eyes and your ears and getting into your mind and going down to your heart like you're almost like trying to flush out that addiction with God's word. Just preaching to yourself all the time, all the time. So anybody out there that is wrestling with this, I definitely recommend what Granger's talking about. Yeah, if you guys have a question for me, Grangersmith Podcast at gmail dot com would love to hear from you.
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