Natasha Lyonne

Hello, everyone. Welcome to another episode of Good Hang. I am so excited about our episode today. It is with the sweet, dreamy, and brilliantly smart Natasha Lyonne. We talk about so many things today. It is a... a symphony of conversation. We talk about what it was like to live in New York City as a young kid. We talk about Nora Ephron and how important she was to Natasha. We talk about...

making hits together and what it felt like to be part of a show that meant so much to us and to so many people. And so it is a really interesting...

funny and deep conversation like it always is with Natasha. And to be guided as to what I should ask, I always like to check in with people who know Natasha well, who have worked with her, who count her as family. And so I... asked, two of Natasha's closest friends to join me and give me some questions to ask. And so joining me right now via Zoom is Ronan Farrow, journalist, podcast host of the new podcast, Not a Very Good Murderer.

and playwright, actor, screenwriter, and creative director of the Williamstown Theater Festival, the great Jeremy O'Harris. Ronan, Jeremy, hello! This episode is presented by Athleta. Summer is here. It's time to get outside and get active. And Athleta has just what women need to move the way they want. That's shorts for every type of run from a casual jog on the beach to a competitive road race.

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First of all, let me start. Where am I talking to you? Where are you, Jeremy, in the world? Oh, my God. I don't want to embarrass myself. So I'm trying to get a very popular actress to do a movie I'm producing. So I'm still with her. Jack's Wife's Frida with the director. And I'm in the bathroom of Jack's Wife's Frida on the university. Oh my, so you're in the bathroom of a restaurant trying to secure an actress for a project.

Yes, I'm a girl boss like you, and I'm just trying to make sure all my side hustles flourish. Very, very good. I love it. Always hustling, always moving forward, never looking back. Perfect. And then Ronan, where are you? I am in my home office on the Lower East Side, not trying to convince a glamorous actress of anything right now. But, you know, the day is young. I could find an actress to try to persuade.

in some way. I'm going to try to keep up here. Jeremy's a lot to keep up with. I mean, I have so many questions and I hope, by the way, that both of you come on so I can get in. in depth about what you're both I mean you're both such interesting brilliant people and I guess my question is what you know when you think about Natasha and you think about her in the world a person in the world like how

How would you describe who Natasha is as a person and a friend? Jeremy, you want to start? I would say she has more.

intellect in her left pinky than most departments of major universities have. She is truly, and yet she has this great ability of making you feel like the biggest star ever, even at your lowest. So it's like wild intelligence and wild generosity combined into this sort of atomic bomb of like the ideal friend. That's so well said. Ronan? My sense as kind of a... broken person from a broken home in some ways myself is that that runs very deep and you know her deeply

And so I think you could ask her about that on a profound level where she is searching for a sense of family and successfully creating it. I mean, that's the main thing that I would add to this conversation. Natasha. for all the ways she's like riotously fun and eclectic in the things she does and the people she surrounds herself with. And it's a wild ride being around her. She also, she is family to those.

dear to her. And like, I really became more deeply close with her in a period of my life where I was at a low point and she didn't even really have a way of knowing that, but I was like profoundly broken and lonely. And all of a sudden we went from being acquaintances to her being like,

Every night, you know, come dinner time, Jeremy's very familiar with this. You'll get a text from her being like, what are we doing? Who are we screwing? And then it's like Natasha's wild circus, you know, is off to the races. And through that persistence and that kind of like lack of traditional boundaries, she's not indiscriminately that way. But when she decides like, no, this.

this is a real one and I want to give them my emotional space and time. It's such a gift because she really like pulled me out of a moment of isolation and gave me a meaningful sense of family. And all of a sudden we went from like zero to... 11, 11 being like spending the holidays together, you know, and I was like bringing her to be my family and we were going on vacation, sometimes Jeremy. It's, it is a real gift and it's something that I've learned from. Like if you.

In our busy lives, with all these different distractions and things going on that prevent reflection and prevent deeper community sometimes, if you can do what Natasha Lyonne does to the people you love around you... And just like keep at them and make it happen. I think that is actually the most meaningful way we can form community in a time when we really need it. We really need it individually. We really need it as a country. So Natasha is the answer to everything.

See, this is why it's so annoying that you went second, because you're so... I would have made mine better had I known that you were going to give literally a mini... Yeah, you know, screw Jeremy's superficial bullshit answer. The community building... Okay, what you guys seem to be to her, tell me if I'm wrong, is there's a very fraternal energy with you and Natasha. Like, do you feel like her brother, her wife, her lover, her... Mother like word what if this is a family who are you to her?

In many group chats, I'll give like, I'll send that clip of Oprah talking about Gayle King where she's like, she is the mother I never had. She is the sister everybody wants. She is the friend none of us deserve. Like, she is all of those things. And that's why I think she's been the ideal, like, you know, sort of, like, egg donor for my future sperm, which is something Ron and I have fought over, like, who gets to take the Natasha eggs?

um i think that like you know in a society where eugenics were coming back in fashion um natasha and i would make super babies as would she and ronan Oh, that is so true. A Jeremy Natasha baby would be gorgeous. It's a beautiful future world we can all envision right now in our heads. Amazing, amazing. Also, I want to change this podcast to just Jeremy walking through the streets of New York.

and us falling. Wait, what's happening with your actress while you're strolling? I'm so sorry. She's outside having a cigarette with the director and I thought they were leaving. Just pan to her just so we can see. Yeah. Spill the tea, Jeremy. Who's she?

Until she says yes, I can't let you know. You've got to put a post-production coda on this episode. I will. Yes, if we get her involved, please. But for right now, we're just going to change her face into a cat and we'll reveal it if she says yes. Thank you both so, so much. You know, I have to say that.

One of the nicest things about this is the feedback I get from guests who feel very seen and loved when we ask people who love them to join. So I have no doubt that Natasha is going to be so thrilled that we talked because like you said. She's a connector. And I think she's just going to just.

So I thank you. And on behalf of Natasha, I thank you for jumping on today. I know you're both so busy. Thank you so much. I really love her. I hope it was helpful, did her justice in whatever small way I can, because she's important to me. She's been a real. lifeline to me. Yeah. I love her too. I love her too. Thank you so much, Amy. Thank you so much, cuties.

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Is it a velcro? Hand me the necklace. Honey, it's so tight. It's so tight. And also, I want to put it in. That's what she said. If you want to know anything about the history of Russian velcro. tightest vaginas in the game came together. We're with Natasha Lyonne. She's joining us now. That's right. You know, brief history of time. It's like Stephen Hawking said, the universe expands and contracts. And that's what you need to know about women.

And nobody can get from vagina to Stephen Hawking faster than Natasha Lyonne. So Natasha Lyonne, you're here. We have known each other for... Quite a while now. I would say coming up on maybe 20 years in some way. I would say maybe coming up on 30, which is an exercise I'm not proud to have recently done with our friend Clea Duvall. You know, Clea directs this season. Last season, she played my sister. She's my best friend.

I have a big crush on Polar. And forever. And rightfully so. Put me in a sandwich. Everyone's married. That's not how it works, guys. Fantasy. So, but, so, Clea. Yeah. Is direct to the season. Does a great job. No spoilers, but she does direct Method Man, who's my favorite. No offense. Fantastic. I mean, we have the same sense of humor. The guest list on that show is incredible. I have an image of you, a memory of you coming by UCB.

And of course I knew who you were. And I had this image of you being like at the time feeling like you were seeming and presenting quite shy, like gentle and shy. Like we didn't really. I was stoned. Oh, yeah. I don't smoke pot anymore. And I was pretty drunk. And I also, I haven't had a drink in 20 years. Yeah. But I'm thinking about it today. So we met, do you remember when we first met?

So our friend, so Jake Fogelnest. Yes. So I was like 16. You were 16 then? I was 16 and Jake Fogelnest was 16. Wow. When I was 15, he's very popular now. Have you heard of Woody Allen? Okay, so I did this film called Everyone Says I Love You. Woody Allen was my dad. Goldie Hawn was my mother. I finally felt seen. Thanks to that on-set tutor, I discovered the surrealist movement. Apocalypse Now, Heart of Darkness.

I mean, so many things changed through that tutor. Anyway, I was 15, left behind with a guardian because my mom was well. And so I lived underneath.

or on the ground floor, so I guess adjacent to Curry in a Hurry, which is on 28th and Lexington. And this woman, she was a criminal attorney. Her name was Ruth. She worked at an office with Jake Fogel and his dad as criminal attorneys at law. I'm guessing it was called. And for some reason, it was like, oh, both these kids are like 15, 16. And Jake had that show.

Was that MTV? Yeah, he had like an MTV show where he was like a young fan interviewing like the Beastie Boys. Yeah. Bjork. Yep, he had really good guests. And Jake is a really sweet... tender, learned guy who liked a lot of things and liked showing that he was enthusiastic about a lot of things and was a writer and creator at a young age. And...

So you have sort of the basis for Wayne's World, if you've ever seen. So Wayne's World is about these two guys. And but he was kind of the basis of that, like, you know, a sort of. public broad... Yeah, public access. Public access show in his mom's bedroom as a kid. So he was sort of like this, you know, young prodigy. I was doing this movie. We were introduced. And the point is, is that Jake was a comedy...

Like, I was never a comedy nerd. I would say I'm still not, frankly. I just, but he was sort of my gateway drug. Yeah. And so he was the one that knew about UCB. He was the one that was bringing me to SNL. Uh, and I think that I was about 16. Wow. So you were 16. Yeah. Cause I do remember, uh, uh, a sweet and, you know, like a, uh, yeah, a younger.

quieter version of you then and it was I remember you coming around with these big eyes and like observing a lot of stuff that was happening there and being very sharp and funny and everyone loving your work already and you but you being um uh just even back then where when you're in the room people want to head towards you like moth to flame you have a

electricity about you and you did then and I remember that and you're really taking me back like I'm pausing and taking us to McManus I want to take a minute because I remember that it also was like it takes me back to a much younger time too we were

I, we were only a few years apart, but it felt like a long, we were, we were, I don't know. I felt like an older sibling. Well, because to me, you felt like just this rock star. Just because, first of all, I've never been a stage person. So figure, I mean. you know, acting since I'm four, I just turned 21, uh, 46. And, uh, so at that point I had been a child actor. I'd been on Pew's Playhouse. Yeah.

Very famously. I was Dennis the Menace's babysitter and Dennis the Menace. Okay. Not that famous. Christopher Lloyd and Walter Matthau were there. Didn't know who I was. Small part. And. You know, so I'm just saying, I always say this to like Christina Ricci or Macaulay Culkin. I'm like, yeah, but you guys were child stars. I was a child character actor. I see. Yeah, that is different. You're right. That is different. Yeah. So I wasn't really like exposed at that level, but emotionally.

the kind of tether that we all have, or Haley Joel Osment this season in Poco-Face Peacock. So he is also a child star. There's like this unspoken way that we look at each other in the eyes and we're just like... I know that you have been alert and awake since you were four years old. And so have I. It's so specific. It's eerie.

Because it's like, that means I was doing the family taxes at 12 years old. I was like, you know, there's a lot that goes along with that. Yeah. Of paying the bills, being alert, knowing how to like present to adults. Yeah, there's a big price to pay for that. And also access that you get at an age that you may or may not be ready for. It's a long way of saying by the time I'd seen you on stage doing like ASCAP, I was in shock.

Just because my life had been like, I'd done 60 commercials and I had been for three seconds on screen. And as the world turns, you know, some episodes of Pee Wee's Playhouse, some weird movies I made, you know. But like you just bound it up there. Even your show recently with Tina, it's sort of this thing that I was just like, what is this activity? Because I was not a theater person. I've never taken an acting lesson. You know what I mean? So it was like, what is this weird?

like athletic sport of confidence where it's just so much running. Well, it's just that it's inside of you. Like I think I learned so much from you and from Fred about that. There's like abundance. Idea of an endless supply. Probably I think that you guys get from dress rehearsal at SNL where you throw out genius ideas and just move on to the next day instead of lingering on something like a diary entry. Oh my God, I wrote a sentence.

Yes, it's funny you say that. I do feel that one of the things about that training is you can't believe that your good idea is your last good idea. And in fact, throwing it away is like a...

power move to remind you that the next good idea is right behind it. You cannot get too precious about anything and you get athletic. in terms of like practicing coming up with an idea. Because I'm at a point now, I don't know about you, but I feel like sometimes we make the idea king and I'm much more into people and process. I think an idea is what it is.

It can be shined to be this beautiful idea. It can be totally dull in the wrong hands. But an idea is not as important. A concept is not as important as people in process for me. I hear you. Like, it's so much so that in that whole exercise they do in pitch meetings of why now or something. Yeah. Or like, what's it about? It's kind of like, hey, babe.

Just so you know, Amy and I could make a show right now about this pair of sunglasses. It doesn't fucking matter. And the reason why now is because whatever, where you and I are at in this moment emotionally, that we're, you know, saucy for us, or to use your word, juicy. Yeah. We'll make this pair of sunglasses go live on that story. And, you know, it's but it's it's but a prop for our kind of inner now in this or something of.

what we find interesting. And it'll be filmed in either black and white or color or, you know, on 16 or the AI generate, who gives a fuck? Like, it's really going to be about where we're. But emotionally, it's not actually, it's all in the execution and the human beings that you're doing it with. It's not actually the idea. That's right. When you talk about young Tosh, can you give me a little...

like a snapshot of young Natasha in New York City walking around? Like, what did it look like when you were seven, eight, nine, walking around? What did your New York look like? Where were you? She's thinking to herself, and this is where I get mixed up, okay? Because I couldn't tell you if I've seen too many movies dusted, not on PCP, on dust. Have you guys ever just tried? Run.

Dust, you go to the film forum, you just put your fingers along the side of the seat, and you just wave it gently in your periphery. Just dust. New York dust. Oh, man, that's just New York pure. dust. It's not even, it's not even a truck. Have you guys ever snorted ether? It's crazy. So anyway, I couldn't tell you. Okay. If it was De Niro and taxi driver.

Or it was me in Times Square as a seven-year-old, is what I'm trying to say, Amy Poehler. I want it, but I remember being left behind at various castings. In my mind, there's this... alcoholic figure. Let's call him dad. I, I'm there, I'm at an audition or like, you know, I was a child model. That's probably why I pose so well. Now there we get to it. I was a Ford model. There we go. Okay. That's it. Later I moved to closeups.

I remember him casting rooms in Midtown. Also my mother, Paul Rubens, so lovingly said to me when he took me to a steak dinner in the Valley after rehab. He said to me, oh, Natasha, don't worry about it. I was never shocked when things went south. You're going to be OK. But it was inevitable. You got to remember, I met your mother. It was a real comfort for me that there was a witness to that time in my life. The only other one I really have is...

I guess I have, I have Gabby Hoffman and Natalie Portman and Lucas Haas because they were also in that Woody Allen movie where already I had a, a guardian. Right. And by the way, my mom is awesome. And so is my dad. Like they're, they're really like. brainy, wonderful people. I would just say that the big discovery of modern times is we have treated versus untreated mental health addiction, whatever. Like now that's, that's the revelation. It's like, there's no shame in.

whatever your mental health or, you know, addiction or whatever else. It's about, you know, are you treated or untreated? Like, are you experiencing a cycle of shame where you refuse to get help for it? Or are you doing your best, you know, in the day you're in, one day at a time to kind of address it? I just think they didn't know. Like, honestly, I think it was the 80s.

There was a lot of cocaine around. And I just think that was the best they could do. You know, I forgive them for it. Cut to the end of the story. I do recall a lot of me in Midtown. Sort of like I'd go into the audition or the modeling, casting, commercial or print. And when I came out, sort of like, where are they?

You know what I mean? And sort of like walking around Midtown. And this is where I can't remember if it's me or De Niro and Taxi Driver. Because now it's such a cleaned up hood with Disney. Back then there was a lot of. It was a lot of stuff. So I remember being kind of like streetwise. Yeah. Because like if you just sort of you had to, you know, kids, we didn't have cell phones. Right. We didn't even necessarily know how to use a yellow pages. You just had to sort of like know how to kind of.

sit still and have a sense of where they might reappear. Right. And be big and small at the same time. Yeah. Yeah. And know how to like, there's this De Niro quote that I read about getting recognized in New York. He's like, I'm a professional. If I want to get recognized and I need a seat.

at a restaurant, I just, you know, put on my De Niro face, throw my shoulders back, and I'm a famous guy. And if I want to walk through Manhattan and have some peace of mind, I just disappear into myself and I become part of the wall. You know? Yeah. So for some reason that really resonated with me. And I think even as a kid, I sort of learned how to do that of sort of like, I need help versus I'm in midtown Manhattan.

So I need to disappear into myself. Yeah. So, you know, there's no human trafficking. Yes, yes. Essentially. You know, so we do this thing on the show where we talk to people before our guest comes. who may know them or like be fans of theirs or have some you know experience being in their lives to kind of like talk well behind their back and they also give me questions They think I should ask you. So we spoke to Ronan and Jeremy just about an hour ago. Okay. About you. Uh-oh.

Did they tell you that I tried to get semen from both of them because I had a fantasy about having 13 children? They're fighting over your eggs currently, they both said. Yes, I know. Congrats, by the way. By the way. But wait, so Ronan and Jeremy. Of course, they dearly, dearly love you, as do I. And we talked a lot about how you have this way in which you.

bring people together, right? You really want to create a group, a family in the way you bring people together. And, you know, Ronan wanted me to ask you, which is, Like, do you, like, do you feel that way? Like you're collecting family when you bring people into your life? So just to say, like, yeah, because I have this. wacky family of origin story where, like, I mean, yeah, just, you know, the facts are they just simply don't exist. You know what I mean? Like, I...

They exist in my mind's eye. Heraling degrees. You and I made a whole show about it. Jeremy and I recently finished a script. Jeremy O'Harris and I recently... He's a very, the most Tony nominated playwright. Incredible. Yeah. And anyway, we just finished something and I was like, holy shit, fiction. You know, and I was like, because you and I have spent so much time sort of.

And I, I've spent so much time doing self-referential bits. What did that feel like? To write some story, a fictional story. Like when I sent it out to, you know, when I sent the email out.

I was like sitting at home and I was texting Chloe and it was like four in the morning. So she was up with Vanya, you know, in New York at 7 a.m. for her. Me, I was in the middle of the night. My hands were cramped. I was like full carpal tunnel. I, you know, of course, it's a, there's a few of you guys that really changed my life. It's like you and Nora Ephron and Jenji Cohen and Cindy Holland and like.

these kind of like powerhouse women that just sort of like appeared in, you know, the top of act two of my life and said, listen, bitch, you're a writer. You know, you're a world builder. Let's go. And I was like, no, no, no. And so Nora and I were very close. You know, I did her play poker together and stuff like that. But my hands and I looked and I texted Chloe and I was like, I think maybe I just sort of morphed into.

a type of Nora because I kicked out this, you know, fiction pilot that Jeremy and I wrote together. But it was like, I was in Los Angeles alone with a dog in bed. At like 4 a.m. just kind of as a showrunner person, kind of correcting typos and synthesizing and, you know, making sure it was ready to get PDF'd. Yeah.

And I could feel my hands. And I was like, the spirit of Nora was sort of in me in that moment. Because remember how she was like this little New York lady. I never met Nora. You never met her? No. What was she like? Would have loved. I know, would have loved. She was a real Amy Poehler. Oh, what a nice thing to say, Tosh. I mean, Nora was like revolutionary. You know, I remember.

So my first gig, heartburn. I'm just a, you know, an extra asleep on a lap. Maybe Jack Nichols and Meryl Streep are getting married or something. That means Mike Nichols picked me from a picture. It was a big deal in my house. No lines. And then about maybe when I was like 30, so that was probably I was four. When I was 30, Delia Efren and Nora wrote this show called Love, Loss, and What I Wore. And I said to them. in Midtown, in one of these offices. I was like,

Hi, Delia. Hi, Nora. I'm not really sure what the play is. I'm not a big theater guy, although I've seen Amy and Ashcat on stage. But really, I'm having some relationship problems, and I feel like you guys might be able to help if that's okay. They did. I broke up with that guy and Nora said to me, Natasha, I know you're in Heartburn, but have you ever read it? And she handed me a copy. And I was like, holy Toledo, who is this human being? Because beyond this sort of image of sort of.

clean, you know, comprehensible images and jokes and a giant like the heart and blood and guts on the page of the heartbreak. I just read Heartburn recently a few years ago and. Exactly that, Tosh. Like being reminded of how much Nora put herself in that story, like really let us in, really let us into her at a time when those kind of characters felt paper thin. Like she was.

like a blood and guts character in that piece was so amazing to read it again. It was just so, so it totally like was like a tectonic plate shifting moment. And also what, like I'm somebody who's always had this weird chip on my shoulder that. I need to shake. It's no longer serving around like being a tough guy or being bad or cursing. That's really me being, you know, I'm just nervous. I'm just, you know, an introvert, extrovert kind of weirdo who's like making it up as I go.

a lifelong improviser with no training, winging it. You know what I mean? And kind of like relying on the people that I'm like, you know, are like a drowning man sees as a life preserver. Like who the fuck is Amy Poehler? Like I think that's safe. You know what I mean? And so for me, like, you know, Nora was God. She's a giant. And she was safe. She was safe for you? It was also that it changed my...

worldview around, um, so like I'm a scholarship kid on the Upper East Side. Like, so the family had some money, then they lost it. Then by the time it's me and my mom, like alone, you know, she's divorced now on the Upper East Side.

Yeah. 10. I'm going to this private school on the Upper East Side, but we're in like the wrong side of the track, sort of. I'm not sure if you're familiar with the film called Slums of Beverly Hills. I might be in it. But in Manhattan. Yeah. Actually, it takes place in Los Angeles. In Manhattan.

You also have like on the Upper East Side, the good apartments are the ones on like Park Avenue. And like within this space, that's really rarefied air. In the fringes of it, though, you have other people there. So I had this beef with Nora because I imagined her as like real Upper East Side. She retrained my mind to understand that no kid.

She would be, she would say to me, like, just stay in the house and call the housekeeper, smoke outside. She would remind me that her parents were screenwriters. Oscar Levant, who's extraordinary, Google, you know, he was the neighbor. The history of complex humanity is so embedded into the DNA and the fabric of like...

Every single individual on this earth, you know, let alone every person that presents well on camera or something. It really healed something, I think, to have her take me under, you know. Rojo Dono would say to me back then, like, you're not the irregular sheets in the discount bin at Bed Bath & Beyond. Do you know what I mean?

Like not to be married to that. Tyne Daly would say to me in that production, don't be a part of the walking wounded. You know, be a foot soldier. Like let go of this story that there's some sort of inner brokenness that you must heal, that you must be constantly apologizing for by.

being chaotic or taking up space or being confused, you know, you're not running on time. All this kind of stress and anxiety that manifests in these ways that people don't understand. Like you, Nora, you know what I mean? Like with these kind of like... tethers for me of it's also okay to be sane and successful and well. Yes. And boy, were we sane, successful, and well when we did Russian Doll. Right?

I mean, ish, you know? And I would say that we were insane in all the right ways. Yeah. I think that's a good way to say it. I mean, we did a show called Old Soul, which was kind of like a straightforward sitcom.

Based on loosely based on the idea that kind of what you were talking about is that at the time you were feeling like you were surrounded by older people who were who you were learning something from who were kind of like surrounding you and taking care of you and you felt like an old soul. And that was.

An idea that we made, a show that didn't go, but what a cast in that show. If we can just talk about it. You tell it. Okay. If I can remember, it was Ellen Burstyn, Richard Benjamin, Fred Willard, Rita Moreno. Marla Gibbs. Marla Gibbs. And Greta Lee. The great Greta Lee. Yeah. Nikki Cat Carole with a little cameo. Yes. And Nick Thune. Nick Thune. And it was so...

And I remember that experience. It was kind of like, you know, one of the many times when you're doing this job, you have a heartbreak of like, is it going to go? Is it going the way it's supposed to go? Are we feeling the way we're supposed to feel? But I remember. And working with you on that was the beginning of me realizing a couple of things. First, that you can do almost anything. You are able to produce and write and direct. You also are, you have this thing that the camera.

The camera just loves you, Natasha. I guess when I talk about electricity that you have, the camera is like, mommy. The camera is like, there's my mommy. There's my mommy. So watching you perform was... was a lesson in acting. And then just that I wanted to do more. I wanted to work with you more again. And then we kind of...

cannibalized that idea a little bit, but just kept talking about the bigger ideas of, of what it's like to kind of feel like you live your life over and over again. Or if you get the kind of reset, what would you do with it? And what does that feel like?

And, yeah, tell people what you remember about those beginning days of Russian Doll. To synthesize, I guess, somewhat, it's interesting that the way I remember— old soul into rationale is okay we knew each other for we met each other around this ask at time right i sort of saw you you were like this Tiny little giant, the funniest, sexiest, like, hot little blonde number who was just a freak. Like, so fucking funny. Amy Poehler, Jesus Christ, you know, so quick. And.

And like a real, like an Olympian, like an acrobat, you know, because it was just the way you throw yourself around that stage and come up with new ideas all at once. And then, of course, SNL, all those years backstage, but just kind of not that tight.

We saw each other at some premiere at MoMA. We kind of had a laugh. Next day you call me. I'm in bed watching NYPD Blue, falling in love with Dennis Franz. No, the phone's never ringing. And you say, as long as I've known you've always been the oldest girl in the world, should we make a show about it? Sure. Old soul. And then the way I remember it is when that didn't go, we were crushed. Yeah. And we got into a car. And I remember, I think I was driving. The windows were rolled up.

I was chain-smoking, and you didn't like that. And you said— I still don't. Natasha, I know the show didn't go. It's really hard. But picture, if you will, my body. No, picture. Picture for a moment. Imagine there was no network. There were no rules. There was no anything. What is the show that we would really want to make? What's the story we would really want to tell if we left all that aside, assuming we could do anything anywhere?

And that's how we started getting to this idea of you could go to the same party over and over again. You could take everybody home thinking that something outside of self would heal you, would change you, would fix you. But no matter which iteration of this sort of exterminating angel, Benoit reference journey you would take, or the Doug Hofstetter version would be I'm a strange loop or whatever, parallel path.

You would still find yourself at home with you and your unresolved stuff if you didn't really face it head on. And the real goal of Russian Doll is you had always described it as... It was the search for the littlest doll inside of you that is the truth of who you are. This message is brought to you by Apple Card.

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Then we do Russian Doll. Big hit. What a hit. What a hit. What a hit. Remember the Emmys day? Oh my gosh. All those nominations after all that work. So fun. I mean, I got to tell you something. I haven't been on it. I've never been on a show that was a hit in real time. I've been in a show that was a slow like, oh, that's people love that was a slow climb. And I've been on a lot of things that didn't.

pop. And I've been in films that I felt like I added and contributed to, but didn't really feel like was truly something that felt like I was a major part of. And to be on a show that is a hit is... I recommend. Yo, strong recommend. She's great. It's wild. And the idea that that was the thing that people responded to was shocking. Yeah.

You know, yeah, American Pie was in one movie in the world or something. It didn't feel like it was that close to the bone. It wasn't like I'm telling you about, you know.

trauma and mommy issues and fucking i don't know being self-destructive and wanting to take yourself out in this life and the need to move from a nihilistic lens that's placed on you through an epigenetic footprint that is the roadmap of each human being that one must forgive themselves for that may lead to sort of nihilistic, self-obsessed behavior that's self-destructive, transitioning.

into connection with another human being who's probably a stranger through like a small act of kindness, you know, in a big city. And that that's the solution to your sort of metaphorical. dying over and over again, insanity defined, you know, making the same mistakes, thinking you're going to have a different outcome. Shocking that that's what connected. And it was funny. Hard fun. I mean, the... That feeling too, I just have to like contextualize. That was a time pre-COVID.

When Netflix was taking, I think, big chances and real chances on full season orders and artists and being like, yeah, I like your. I like the package that you've got. I trust you, Amy. I trust you, Natasha. I trust you, Leslie Hedlund. You're coming in with an idea. Here, make it and go and run with it. I think it's more than that. I think it was algorithmically, it was like, Leslie Hedlund.

Was it Sleeping With Other People? Also, her movies, combined with Parks and Rec, combined with, I guess, Orange is the New Black, when you put it through that at-the-time sauce, yielded... This is the budget for this many episodes. It's going to be a low budget thing, whatever you want to make. And it just so happened that what we wanted to make was, you know, quantum physics comedy. So we did. Now you, you, when you.

You just brought up quantum physics. You're probably the only person I know who reads quantum physics, but only actor I know anyway, who reads quantum physics quite regularly. I'm assuming that can't be true, but I do. I am a, yeah, I do find it very relaxing. It's sort of how I quiet the mind. I love things I don't understand. And over time.

I've even begun to understand, you know, some, you know, like small concepts or something. A double slit experiment is very much the kind of concept behind why Charlie and Nadia. you know, die at the same time all the time. Like these are sort of- For the one or two people listening who don't know what the double slit experiment is. What is it? Yeah, I think it's just, it's essentially the concept about what is the fabric of the universe, right? Like-

Are we here? You've done acid. You're Amy Poehler. Yeah. You're the listeners at home. You've all done LSD or micro dosing. I know what young people are into today with their mushrooms and chocolates and candy bars and gummies and whatnot. But. with that little feeling that you have. Are we here? Yeah. Or even like, what is, you know, a deep sleep REM state? What, what, what's going on? Right.

What the hell is going on? Or when you close your eyes real tight and you open them and there's all little these particles and stuff and it's a little bit trippy or weird. Or a real pedantic version of that is like deja vu. Sure. Just that. What is deja vu? Right. So a lot of people are basically after the same question, which is...

What is this fabric of the universe or this sort of unseen thing that we don't, can't comprehend? Like, are we in multiple timelines? Is it, you know... AI so advanced now that it's scraped all of our data against our will, that it's actually running tests and simulations on that to actually figure out in this sort of... paperclip sort of experiment type of thing of, you know, endless iterations to discover which world we should be in for a positive outcome. Like, is any of it real?

The bottom line is in a day to day basis, it just doesn't fucking matter if any of this stuff exists or not, because it's basically you still got to pay your bills. You still have responsibilities. You got to show up. You got to fucking take a shower, you know, and you got to like. Be a person. So you can't get so lost in space, but emotionally, for the purposes of Russian Doll, it was really about, you know, this dual timeline kind of thing, right? That Nadia and Alan.

were fractured in, or in season two, it's kind of about this sort of a quantum leaping, right? And it's, Carlo Rovelli poses the question, why can I remember my past, but I can't remember my future? So, you know, we used it in a storytelling device as...

Would I be able to forgive the experience that was grandfathered into me traumatically if I had a day to walk in their shoes and understand that, you know, my parent came by it honestly. It wasn't on purpose, that damage done. But all these ideas about sort of like healing.

and science and sort of connection and the idea that two different individuals could exist in two different timelines, but be having a similar experience because they're tethered by something unknown that's connecting them and binding them. is still also part of this idea of what we're talking about of like creating family and all this kind of stuff of even when you and I are not together because we're busy, I know you exist. And it feels like, you know, thank God, you know, something like that.

You know, listening to you is like watching a symphony. Like the way you talk is like a bunch of instruments playing together. You have the highest aptitude for talking of almost anyone. I've ever met. You're very good at talking. Thanks, Amy. It's not my real tongue. You got a tongue transplant? Yeah. Would you ever own a robot? In your house? And if you did, what would you hope it did for you? Let me think. So, it depends. I guess, like...

You know, the first thing that comes to mind, actually, the only thing I've been thinking about since you asked, is root beer, my dog. So I'm like... How is it helping root beer? Is it soft? Does root beer love it? How old is root beer now? Root beer is now 15, which is weird. Wow. I'm somebody that always thinks I'm going to be like, you know, dying any second. And even root beer is 15.

And for people who don't know, Root Beer is what kind of dog? A Maltipoo. Yeah. A Rottweiler. Yeah, a Rottweiler at heart. That's what I tell people. Yeah. And Root Beer is 15. Wow. It's wild. Yeah. Because I'm like, she's even old for papal years, let alone dog years. Yeah. Yeah.

Do you have a sense of when you, like a lot of your work deals with death, you're very open about thinking about it. You meditate on it a lot more than people I know. Do you have a sense of when you'll die? Later today. Oh, good. Well, then let's get, let's, let's finish up. I can't tell if it's going to be, you know, I mean, like that's what's so weird about the existential threat of AI. A lot of this stuff really is just from, you know, all the Russian doll deep dive research that.

I was doing along the way and, you know, I'd be sending you articles in all hours of the night. Yeah. You got to see this one, you know, is it a simulation, Amy? I mean, and I'm always like, I think so. I think so. And there's a joke in here, right? You're a professional. Where's the joke? Yeah, I mean, to your point, it's like you have to get into the heaviness of it and then...

life is a dream and nothing matters. You have to constantly flip back and forth between those two things to get through the day. I think so. What do you do to get through the day that isn't like where you're using a ton of brain?

So I've been asking people, like, what is the thing right now in these times where everything is quite heavy? What do you do to check out, to zone out, to, like, what do you watch or listen to? What do you do? So, you know, I have a swimming pool, and I'm a swimmer. You've seen The Swimmer with Burt Lancaster. I swim.

Uh, and also like, you know, I, I do some kind of like meditate. Like when I wake up, I kind of. Do you meditate? A little bit, you know, like I've done the TM course and, but I'll just sort of sit there and I'll kind of like. zone out, look at the trees, watch root beer run around, you know what I mean? And then do some laps. And then if it's a more sporty day, you know, there might be some...

You know, reggae, you know, Brian Eno involved, depending, like, you know, catching a vibe that way. When you're swimming, can I ask you more questions about swimming? When you're swimming, what's going through your head? I think a lot. lately about, I'm just a big science, I guess. So I think.

A lot about how weird it is that we're animals. So I think a lot about how weird it is. I'm like, this is so amphibian. Those are my thoughts. I'm like, what's going on right here? What is this move? And they call it a breaststroke. And then I'll go over here and I'm thinking.

about Busby Berkeley or, you know, how back in the 90s, I used to stay at the Chateau Marmont and Anne Mira of Mira and Stiller. You know, she'd be there and she and I would do jokes where we would swim and be like, isn't LA funny? Look at us swimming like. two Busby Berkeley number, you know, girls, and we would try to do synchronized swimming, but it was me and Ann Mira. We didn't succeed. That's not captured anywhere. And so I'll think about that while I'm trying.

It's weird they caught a breaststroke. And so what if some people do it? So what do you do to- I do storytelling. But your mind is still going there. Your mind, even when you're swimming, your mind is going. When does your mind- I would say that it's- Oh, probably. You know, sport fucking. So sex. So I would say why I'm such a, I'm always, you know, saying, right? Like, hey, guys. Like, because I think, you know, sex is a very.

People like to really, you know, consider it, give all this meaning to it. I'm a little bit more German than all that. It turns out I'm not German at all. But I think it's like there's a... There's a physical, we are animals. It's important sort of like medicinally to quiet the mind through a third activity that reminds us, you know, sports essentially is what I mean. you know athletics the double slit theory the double slot theory uh and so you know i would just say that swimming and

You know, sexing. Sexing. So body stuff. Body stuff. Body stuff is what gets you, what pulls you in. I relate. Like the idea of like feeling grounded in your own body. Yeah. But do you have it in other ways? Yeah. I relate to this feeling sometimes when I'm living in my head, like I need a like pressure, like physical pressure, whether it's like work, swimming or like physical touch, something that like reminds me to get back into my body.

Yeah, and it's also like, oh, the big one, obviously. Like, the reason that, you know, I'm so in love with you and Fred, Maya, whatever, has really always been about... Laughing. Yeah. That hard. Yeah. Is an outer. I'm telling you're talking to somebody who's done every drug in the history of the world, including dust at the film forum. I just got New York side of the seat dust.

And it's shocking that literally like hard laughing where you will forget where you are and go to a third space. Like I'm saying, but you're just like. Is this even fucking the fabric of reality? I don't even remember. I can't remember what I was pissed off about. Yes, yes, yes. I hear you. It is major. It's major. It's major medicine. Major. Yeah. Sometimes I'm like.

I'll laugh hard and I'll be like, oh my gosh, I thought I was depressed. I just haven't been doubled over laughing in like, you know, a week. What happened? When's the last time you've laughed really hard? What have you laughed at hard lately? What are you laughing at right now? What's making you laugh? I had this hang recently. And Sean Lennon's, you know, a musician and an old friend of mine. And he said, come meet this polymath. And then, you know, I went home.

Your voice is getting so little. Gentleman. And he was there. And then we kind of dissected the polymaths, the quote-unquote polymaths theories about the universe. And... We sort of were able to break them down to like a moment in time where he developed a resentment against a science program. And that that's what his sort of theory of everything was actually based on.

We were doubled over laughing so hard. Because you observed something about someone in real time. Yeah. And we were just laughing so hard because the idea that it was sort of couched and, you know, out here, we meet a lot of people that are.

I love when you say, enough with the geniuses, too many geniuses. Talk about that, please. The word genius is thrown around a lot. Yeah. And it's oppressive. The word genius is oppressive. I mean, and it's kind of. And also it's used primarily for men, you know. I would say like maybe double up on calling women geniuses and maybe dial it back a little bit. But I think you also say that like. Enough with the geniuses. Sometimes people just need to get to work.

Because geniuses have like self kind of like, you know, obsessed concepts or whatever. And, you know, like. Concepts don't pay, you know, concepts don't pay the bills. They don't get pen to paper. No. You got to kick out a draft, babe. That's right. And I mean, like you can't.

You can sit in your think tank forever, but, you know, like, chop, chop, you got to make something and you got to fail. Yes. You got to get out there and try. Okay. Yes, ma'am. I got one more question for you. Okay, doctor. Love you so much. I can talk to you forever.

But I got one more question. We should talk about Poker Face. What a gift that you're doing this because it means that we get to hang out. I know. That is my favorite thing about today is I get to see you. Yeah. I mean, that's what's so funny about— growing up and you know being these show people I think that

Over time, we learn, unless you're making something with your friends, you really don't get to see him. No, that's why I work is so that I can see my friends. Also, I get a real boner in a non-weird way. I know you're a take and you're spoken for, ma'am. But, you know, I get the platonic boner when I see you on set with like your truck and what are these called? Your buds or some shit? I call them cans. Oh, cans. There's a real term for them. you know, directing.

Like, I love seeing, you know, and I love directing. I love being at the peak of those powers and watching my friends do it. I'm like, oh, this is who you are, Janix and Bravo. You know what I mean? But you directed Poker Face. Yeah. Tell me. me about that experience because it's so great you're such you're incredible in it and you what was your experience directing on that show uh and in general what's your experience how much do you like it yeah i mean i i love directing i know you do too yeah

What do you love about it? It just feels like I'm in my right place. Like my feet are where they're supposed to be. And if you're asking me about like what quiets my mind, it is, I don't know if it's the same for you, but it is like. That's when I hear the click. So much is happening that is so in the present moment that finally I'm like in my body and hear the click. And they also, when you're an actor, they're kind of like, do you need to pee pee?

When you're a direct and you're always just like, I'm in my 40s. I think if I had to pee, I would. Oh, now that you mentioned it, I'm in my 40s. I totally got to pee. Sure. Thanks for reminding me. But when you're a director, nobody says you have to pee-pee. And when you go pee-pee, they don't say, are you going to come back? They know you're coming back.

You're making the movie. And when you're an actor, you're kind of sitting there and you're like, why is everyone so stressed? I'm a codependent. I can feel it. I'm like an empathy guy. I can read a room. But when you're behind the monitor.

You're like, I know why we're stressed. It's because we're looking at the one-liner for tomorrow with the first AD and so-and-so missed their connecting flight, you know, out of Austin. So it's not about that. Is it as simple as control? Because what you're talking about... is like feeling like you got to hand over your control to other people or be able to be in control of like how you shape your day, your project, your own experience, the time you get to go to the bathroom.

I think that that's this weird... ancillary bonus i think that for me what it's really about is like being this like 360 like filmmaking machine that is actually getting involved like lenses and camera positions and angles and what's in the frame and what's not in the frame

and what is the actor doing and how we need to, on the fly, change that line of dialogue to reflect that or because we're running out of light. So therefore, we're going to reposition this whole thing. And it's like, I just feel so... In control? No, like I feel like 360 activated at like what I was like made to do. Yeah. As a kind of, yes, it is in control as like a conductor, but it's a conductor of like a frame. And it's also that like.

You know, I think what I hate being, I don't like being famous. I think it's whack. Like, I'm just, I've been a character actor for, a New York character actor for like. you know, 40 years and then like famous for six. It's super fucking weird. Like people treat you all like you're a, I'm like, I'm a, I'm a person. I'm just winging it too. But when you're a director, you're with, what's amazing about Poker Face especially.

is, like, I am with the crew. Like, I know it's like, you know, me and Rob Harlow, the Dolly Grip, we're making the show together. Like, I fucking love that dude because the cast is all rotating. So the cast is rotating, directors are rotating, writers are rotating. So it just feels like I'm one with the camera, as I should be, and really discovered that directing and rationale.

A real peace comes over my body where I'm like inside of the material as an artist. Instead of sort of sitting outside of it, waiting for somebody to tell me, you know. this child, you did a good job or not. It's kind of like, it's very alive. Like I start walking like Charlie Chaplin because it's so many things are happening at once. And it's very funny.

How do you feel when you do it? That's exactly, you said it beautifully, which is the idea of like, the idea of being in community in creativity. Creativity in community is what directing feels like. It feels like you're. Your. People are looking to you to have answers, but the answers lie within all the people making the piece. That's it. And it's really fun. The thing is that acting is so lonely. Yes. Clea and I used to do this funny thing. She was dating a drummer living in Topanga.

They're like six wiener dogs, wiener dogs. But, you know, her girlfriend at the time would be in there drumming, practicing for the band. And Cleo and I would sit out there with those wiener dogs in Topanga and we'd be like. So, fuck, we're actors? How come we don't get to do band practice? Should we jam? Should we act? That's what's so weird about acting and writing, you know, at least in draft, not in the room. They're a very lonely sport. That's right.

directing is a team sport. I cannot wait for Poker Face. I cannot wait for that new season. I love watching you act. I love watching. I love listening to your brain. I love seeing you in person. I love being around you, Tosh. I love being—I miss you too, bud. And I love being part of the weather system that is you. I love being able to get close to you any chance I can. I'm always so ashamed, as if it's a—

Series of weather reports. And like the big event in life is to just be like, eh, you know, no waves at all. No waves. And also I want you to know I kept this necklace safe the entire time. Because I was nervous about it going missing. But here it is for you. That's so crazy because you're a known kleptomaniac, ma'am. I didn't replace it with like fake diamonds while we were talking or anything. I would never do that. That's a weird move.

I love you, Tashi. I love you, Amy. Thanks for doing this. Thanks for coming. Thanks for having me. Oh, man, Natasha, thank you for coming. You're just the best. And, you know, Natasha talked about so many things, but she mentioned something that I wanted to just remind listeners about as we plunge into our polar plunge at the end of the show. And that is the book Heartburn by Nora Ephron. It's an incredible.

deep dive character study into the breakup of a marriage. And it also was made into a film with Meryl Streep and Jack Nicholson. I would advise reading the book and then watching the movie, but. You can do it either way, but both are just these beautiful pieces of art and really honest storytelling and heartburn. So good. Still so good. Nora, so good. Thank you for everything that you gave us. All right. Well, thanks so much for listening to Good Hang. And we'll see you soon. Bye.

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