#77 S3 EP 39 The Unseen Battle Of Trauma and the Triumphing Over It

So before we get into it , let's go ahead and pray . Father , we thank you so much for your grace and your mercy . Thank you , god , for allowing us to stay , a day we've never seen before , a day we will never see again . I pray in the name of Jesus , lord , that what your will is , that will be done here on today .

We pray for every heart , every mind that is here . God bless them . God bless them in such a way that they cannot deny you . I pray , god , that you would just have your way . We thank you . We bless you In Jesus Christ's name . We do pray , amen , amen . So again I say I'm glad to be before you one more time . Michael is not here .

You have yours truly , catherine . Amen . And today we are going to be talking about trauma , as we are coming into two podcasts interviews before we actually go into a break for a week , amen , before we start our new season , amen . I wanted to just briefly touch on the topic so you are prepared for what is coming before you , amen .

Talking about trauma , I don't know if you know anything about it I think that we all on some level have had some type of trauma in our life and I always say , y'all know , I say the only way can really do serious damage is if it goes unchecked , amen , goes unchecked .

And if we look at the , if we look at the definition and try to define it , when we look on Google , it describes it as a deeply distressing or disturbing experience . And then , for within that , godly says emotional shock following a stressful event or a physical injury which may be associated with physical shock and sometimes leads to long term neurosis .

And that says a lot .

Because , you know , can you think of a time where you have been in a stressful situation , something that emotionally happened , maybe a sudden death , some type of tragedy , maybe you may have experienced child abuse , some type of physical abuse , and it's left you traumatized , amen , and you're , you know , trying to figure out well , how do I go forward when I can't

get past what happened , you know , and people , you have people that live their lives traumatized and they will self-destruct their relationships , their selves , they , they , they can wind up having a hard time in life and we want to help you understand that . You know Jesus is the way he .

You are trauma , you might have had something happen , but there is a way out , amen . There is a way out . Doesn't have to be a woe is me story , amen , um , and not only that . You got to kind of appreciate making it through the trauma , amen . I think that's another dynamic that we often miss or forget .

You know , we , we , we suffer the pain and we uh deal with the anxiety and stress of , of the trauma , but we don't realize we made it through the thing that has terrorized us for years , amen . And so today , we just simply want to encourage you to deal with the trauma , amen .

And the first way you can deal with it is receiving the fact that you made it through it . To God be the glory . Come on somebody . You made it through , uh , the thing that you thought would kill you , amen . When we are walking with Jesus , he allows us to be able to make it through . If we look at the story of Shadarac , meshach and Abednego .

Can you imagine ? I'm sure that was a traumatizing situation . You're in the middle of a fire and you don't die . Come on , hallelujah . You don't die , but you know Jesus is with you . That could have traumatized them , that could have affected that ministry , that could have affected that walk , and you know , sadly it happens to us every day . Amen .

Trauma almost paralyzes people all day , every day . And if we are connected to Jesus and we're trusting Him , we got to allow Him . As he teaches us in 1 Peter , verses five , chapter five , verse seven . He says cast all your anxieties on Him because he cares for you .

Amen , that's the English standard version and that just simply means that you know your worries and that stress and that trauma and that thing that has physically injured you , emotionally , spiritually , that thing he says give it to me . Amen , he said because I care about you and you have to know when ain't nobody else there , he is .

He created you with a plan and a purpose for your life . Amen . And you know , I just dare you to not let the traumatization rule your life . Amen . We don't deny that it didn't happen . Amen , that's not what we're trying to do . But the thing about it is that what happened ? You need to face it , amen , face it .

And one thing that will also help and I know it helped me is asking God what are you trying to teach me ? What were you trying to teach me when that happened , you know ? Or the aftermath of it ? What was the lesson ? What was I supposed to learn ?

Because I truly believe that if we don't ever take away the good out of what could have killed us , take the good out of it , it'll continue to terrorize you , amen . We look at Isaiah 41 and 10 . They said fear not , for I am with you , and be not dismayed . Amen . You know , when you're looking at the trauma , you're dealing with it and you're trying to .

You know you're trying to get past it . That can be a fearful thing , amen . Come on somebody . I hope somebody out there can relate to what I'm saying right now . It is fearful . It is not an easy thing , amen . I would not dare try to minimize the pain and the hurt that came behind the trauma .

But Jesus says with me , you don't have to be afraid because I am with you . Amen . You don't have to blame yourself and you know , and go out there and seek your vengeance and all of that . You don't need to do that . He said I'm with you . He says for , I am your God , amen , I'm your God , I'm your father , I'm gonna take care of you .

He said I will strengthen you . The verse that I'm reading is Isaiah 41 , verse 10 . He said I will strengthen you , I will help you , I will uphold you with my righteous right hand . Amen . That ought to encourage you . Hallelujah , amen . Encourage you that he will give you the strength to make it through . Amen , he absolutely will . Amen .

Can you remember a time where you almost gave up , you almost quit ? You know , I can y'all know here . I tend to use my first marriage a lot , because it was that was a turning point , that was a whole , that was like another , a brand new chapter of my life . You know when that ? When that dead marriage ended .

But I didn't think I would live through it , I didn't think that I had anything to live for . Amen , I didn't think that I was good enough . You know what I mean . Because of this trauma that incurred during the marriage . Because during the marriage , um , he did a lot of damage in regard to my self-esteem , but my self-esteem shouldn't have been in him .

You understand what I'm saying my identity shouldn't have been wrapped up in him . Amen . You know there's a whole lot of things about me that was in him and it shouldn't have been . Amen . Our identity should be in Jesus . Our identity , uh , who we are , our self-esteem , and all of that it should be rooted in him .

Amen , because , see , look , when the trauma happens , when the things happening in your life , amen , if , if it's , if you're , if everything is in Jesus , then when the failure happens , he's able to pick you up . When you feel weak , he's able to give you strength . Amen . I hope that that makes sense . Amen .

When life is happening , you know that you're not alone . You know that he's right there with you . Amen . I know it's easy to talk about after you've overcome , but I'm trying to help you understand that you know it's not over . Amen , just because you've had trauma , we've again . We've all had trauma in some sort of way .

Some has been short and some has been lasting . But in order to overcome it , you got to face it . Amen . You got to acknowledge hey , this hurt me , this left a broken place in my heart . So I can't trust , I don't know how to trust , amen . So you know , deal with it . Amen , hallelujah .

Some of the other things that happen when we are traumatized and when a person is traumatized . Some of the symptoms are you know , you got anxiety , you have panic attacks , ptsd . You hear that a lot with with people who come out of the military . You know , trauma , temptation , trauma , that traumatization Hello is a real thing . Amen .

And the next two interviews that are coming behind this one , I know the first story with Terry Wellbrock Wellbrock . She experienced a whole , you know , I think I believe it was physical abuse she experienced . You know , she watched up . She would ended up being in the in the same vicinity of a bank robbery , robbery and all types of stuff .

And then the next young lady , daniel Burnock . She talks about how God gave her an anemone for self in regard to loving yourself . Amen . And both these , both of these ladies , are very powerful voices for those who've been traumatizing how to help you get up .

So , you know , I want to pray that you will tune into the next two episodes because it's really , really important for us to be there for each other . Amen

. Somebody else's story can help you come into your glory . Amen . Somebody else's story can help you come into your glory . Amen . Or , you know , if you don't want to say glory . You say it can help you come into your freedom . Amen , it can . It really can help you come out of that place of darkness .

Because the traumatization can absolutely leave you in the dark . Amen . It could leave you hopeless . Amen , it could leave you feeling like you were a mistake . Amen , it can . It really can . But you have to know that there is a plan and a purpose for your life . Amen . Don't make what is temporary permanent . Amen .

And we can absolutely do that with how we look at that particular situation or that circumstance . Amen , hallelujah . And then he says weep and may endure for a night , but joy comes in the morning . Amen . And unfortunately , some people's night hasn't ended .

Some people's night has lasted for 20 , 30 , 40 years and they don't realize that not allowing that traumatization to pass . It has affected every relationship you've ever been in . It affects how you respond to whatever comes at you . Some people can't keep a job . Some people , again , they are married , they're getting .

They've been married three , four , five , six times . You know what I mean . Somewhere along the line there is a root of traumatization and it's affecting every area of your life . Amen . Some of it might be in their money , so I mean just all kinds of things , amen .

And so I dare you to come back and , for the next two weeks , take a listen to these two ladies story Amen , see how you can relate . Amen , there are absolutely treatments . There's all kinds of things that can help you . Amen , it can help you . There are a couple of types of trauma as well . There's acute , there's chronic , there's complex , amen .

Acute is a single stressful or dangerous event that happens to you . Acute is repeated , it is . It just keeps on happening . Repeated and prolonged exposure to highly stressful events . What is an example ? Child abuse , bullying , domestic violence . Those are examples of chronic trauma . Complex is multiple traumatic events , amen .

And it's interesting because people , everyday people , are suffering from one of these , one of the other . Amen , hallelujah , you got to face what it is , amen .

Some of the symptoms , which range from mild to severe in regard to the person and how you can tell , is their characteristics presence of mental and health conditions , previous exposure to traumatic events Y'all see getting tongue-tied , that was a lie , amen .

Different types , the type of characteristics of the events , the background and approach of handling their emotions Amen . A lot of times , the response to the trauma is denial , amen . Not only denial , but anger , fear , sadness , shame , confusion , anxiety , depression , numbness , guilt , hopelessness , irritability , difficulty concentrating Amen . Why ?

Because you haven't flashbacks to what happened . You don't know how to cope with it . And there's also sense withdrawal , amen , hallelujah . Nightmares at night . All of these things are real , amen . So , no , you're not crazy . You've been traumatized , amen . Sometimes we don't know how to identify .

I'm telling you , with everything that I'm reading and what I understand , you've been traumatized . This is why you respond the way that you respond . This is why you do what you do because it has happened , amen . What else can happen ?

You can have unanswered or don't understand why you keep having headaches , digestive symptoms like being sick , all the time , nauseated . What did I fatigue ? Your heart racing , sweating , you're like jumping . You hear noise and you jump . You know you're doing this than the other and you're just very , very tense .

Yeah , all of that comes from something traumatic that has happened in your life . Amen , hallelujah . I'm looking and I'm reading . Here we go . What else ? It just kind of says research estimates that 60 to 75% of people in North America experience a traumatic event . 60 to 75% . That leaves 25% who have not . Oh my gosh , that's a lot , amen .

That's very few that haven't . Amen , look , thank you . How do we see it , the forms or the way that it comes ? I'm going to read the list that's in front of me . It says bullying . These are traumatic .

This can call a traumatization , bullying , harassment , physical , psychological or sexual abuse , sexual assault , traffic collisions Traffic collisions now , childbirth , life-threatening illnesses , sudden loss of a loved one , being attacked , being kidnapped , acts of terrorism , natural disasters and war . All of these traumatic events can be isolated , repeated or ongoing .

Amen , hallelujah , that's powerful . Amen . Another big one is childhood trauma . You're wondering why , as an adult , you know you're , you know you last shout and you're angry all the time . Nine times out of ten , you had a traumatic event that happened in your childhood and you don't remember it .

Amen , maybe somebody walked out of your life , as when you were a child and you left . You were left with no answer as to why . That can cause trauma and it can absolutely affect your relationships in your adulthood . Amen , what kind of treatment is there out there ? Okay , therapy .

Therapy is typically the first line of treatment when you're dealing with trauma because it can help you bring it out . What really is wrong Cognitive , behavioral health , amen , and I would have to say , actually my own daughter has to is . She's in therapy as well because there's a lot of things .

We're trying to figure out why she do some of the things that she do . Look , ain't nothing wrong and show me no shame . If you need therapy , it's okay because at the end of you're going to come out better . Amen . You're going to come out better than what you were . Hallelujah , what else we got here ? You can take medications , of course . I personally .

I'm not a medication type of person . You know some people are you follow . All I say is follow the spirit , amen . Some people need medications and others don't . Just depends on you , amen . We live in a society where you know there's appeal for everything , but I'm telling you it ain't necessarily so that you need appeal . Amen . Some do , but not everybody does .

Hallelujah . Maybe you just need to talk about it . Sometimes we got . Self care is a solution to dealing with the emotional , psychological and physical symptoms of trauma . We can exercise meditation , yeah , like things like yoga and whatnot .

Making sure you're getting plenty of rest , getting a balanced diet , you're not mixing and meagling with a whole lot of alcohol and drugs , and just simply relaxing , spending time with people you know that care about you and people that you care about . Amen .

You got to build some relationships with people that you trust so that you can get , you can come into a place of peace in regard to whatever that trauma was . So we can no longer be a terror to you . Amen . We got to make peace with the trauma . Amen , so it can become your testimony . Jesus , there it is . You heard me . Hallelujah .

I'm going to say that again . You got to make peace with the trauma so it does not terrorize you , but it becomes your testimony , it becomes your message . Hallelujah , amen . This is this . This is when God takes that thing that the enemy meant for evil , he turns it for your good . Yes , god , hallelujah To God be the glory . I hope that makes sense . Amen .

Look , don't ever get to the place . You want to commit suicide . Amen . Suicide is not the answer . Amen , hallelujah , it is not the answer . Hallelujah . You can end your life prematurely . Suicide is not the answer . If you know somebody who seems like they're on the brink of that , reach out and help them . Amen , reach out and help them .

Do whatever you can to keep them from fulfilling that act . Amen , because far too often people in their lives prematurely before the fullness of God has come to pass . Amen , y'all talk to me , hallelujah , we are almost there , hallelujah . So I hope that this was a help to somebody .

If , if , if nothing else had turned on the light , amen , it answered some type of questions as to what's going on and why you might act a certain way , and or maybe why relationships you keep getting in and keep falling apart . I hope that this becomes a help to you , amen , because you know you're not alone .

You have your father who cares about you , and he's going to send the right people at the right time . Have you listening to the right thing and looking at the right thing right on time ? Hallelujah , he's never late . Amen , he's always there . So I pray again that you will come back . Listen to the next two episodes Amen , number 40 .

No , Number 39 and number 40 . I believe it is . Check out those two episodes . Then we got 41 is a bonus episode before we go into our next season , which will begin in on the first Friday of March . Amen , amen , I'm not . Yeah , march , march . My bad , y'all had got confused in the numbers .

Amen , so quickly , let's go ahead and pray before we get ready to get out of here . Amen . So , father , we thank you again for your grace and your mercy . I pray in the name of Jesus , lord , that your will will continue to be done . Father , we pray for every heart and every mind that is here .

I pray that something will say it for anybody who's listening . I pray , in the name of Jesus , that we come into a place to realize that everything that we hear ain't for us , but there is something Amen , there's . Nobody is anywhere and doing anything on an accident that you are absolutely in control . You know what's going on .

I pray that your people will continue to trust on you , continue to lean on you and not on their own understanding . I pray , god , for that person who's traumatized and doesn't know it . I pray for that one who's traumatized and doesn't want to deal with it .

I pray , god , that right now , in the name of Jesus , that you will reach way down , deep , into a place that no man can touch , that you , god , will reveal and bring forth what it is that they need to see , what they need to hear , what they need to understand .

Bless your people , god , in the way , in the manner , in the way , in the manner , in the mind that you have to reach them . God , we thank you so much and we bless your people . We bless your name . I thank you , we thank you , we praise you , we praise Jesus Christ Name . We do pray Amen , amen and amen , hallelujah , hallelujah and hallelujah again , amen .

We love y'all so much . We're so grateful that you are here and listening each and every week . So y'all don't forget it , don't ever forget it you are a diamond , you're a diamond , you're a diamond in the rough . We bless you and we thank you again for your presence and we bless your day . We continue to bless your journey .

Pray for us as we pray for you . Amen , we love you and we'll see y'all next week .