¶ Overcoming the Battle of Your Mind
Hello and hello . Welcome back , god's Diamonds in the Rough . We are so glad to be back with you one more time . Amen . We hope all is well . We hope you've had a good week , a good day . Amen . Those of you that are watching by video we have a guest with us today .
Michael is not here , and so we have Miriam Matthews , who will be co-hosting with me today . Amen , all right , did y'all hear her ? Hello , I'm sorry , the Internet is a little funny right now , but the devil is alive . You want to say hello again , miriam . I'm sorry .
Yes , hello , there we go Everyone . Yeah , it was going in it now , but hello everybody . Thank you so much for having me as a guest on Catherine .
It's such a pleasure to be here yes , ma'am , yes , ma'am , that's okay , we're gonna . We rebuke that , uh , that old devil messing with our internet . We're gonna keep on going . Anyhow , you heard me come on somebody . All right , let's go ahead and pray , father , we , amen , amen . Father , we thank you so much for your grace , your mercy .
Thank you , god , for allowing us to come together one more time . I pray , god , that you would touch every ear and every heart , that any eye that might be closed to understanding will be opened .
I pray , in the name of Jesus , that you would just have your way in this time , in place in us and through us , that you might get your glory , have your way , turn it over to you , god , in jesus christ's name , we do pray . Amen , amen . All right , miriam , tell us a little bit about yourself , my dear all right .
Well , I , my name is miriam . Again , it's such a pleasure to be on Diamond in the Rough . I am a mother , I'm a wife , a military spouse . I have three kids , two girls and a boy . I'm also expecting one on the way . Oh , congratulations . I am a CEO , a coach . Oh , thank you Thank you so much . Ceo , a coach , thank you , thank you so much .
I'm the coach and CEO of Define your DNA Coaching Academy , where we dive into God , we neutralize those negative beliefs so we can walk in power and purpose . I'm also a licensed therapist as well and I have a private practice . I have .
I am now the author of four books Actually a few more , a few more , but four of my own individual books and I am just excited to be in my calling .
Oh , right now , I know that's right . Ain't nothing like doing what you've been called to do . It don't feel like work right . That's right , amen .
It doesn't .
It really doesn't , absolutely . It sounds like you got a lot going on , and that is a good thing to be busy in the Lord and working for the kingdom . So , absolutely , I first say congratulations to the baby on the way and congratulations to everything that God is doing through you .
Amen , because you don't know lie , but there's a whole lot of folk that ain't doing nothing . You heard me . So what is your message today ? Why ? Why do you think God had you ? that's right yeah , why do you think God had you come here today , why you needed to be on God's diamonds in the rough ? You got something and I can feel it .
I can see it too .
Okay , okay . Well , you know what , what just dropped in my spirit ? As you said that , catherine is , the steps of the righteous are ordered by the Lord . So I believe that , you know , I always commit my way to him and that's where our thoughts and our plans are established .
So we don't want to be anywhere in vain , we don't want to be at the wrong place at the wrong time . So I believe that this is divine order and a divine connection and God's intervention . So so we can speak freedom .
He said we're going to speak benefit somebody else who may be stagnant or not where they should be , right , yeah , or you know who's in the cave , you know who has been hidden , but it's time to come out . It's time to come out the cave and really accept the calling on your life , because it is big , you know God wants us to do .
He said I want you to do greater works than I did . Absolutely Amen .
Amen . So overcoming the battle of your mind . So the first thing we need to understand what is the battle ? What's the battle ? You said , overcome the battle of your mind . So what are we overcoming ?
So when I say , overcome the battle of the mind , there is an enemy against you . You know there's an enemy that's been working against us and many times it is through the mind , where you know God right creates and he , you know God has a calling on your life . He wants us to be connected to him and know who we are through his eyes .
And while that is God's plan and mission and design for us , the enemy wants to pervert that thing as well . So when the enemy wants to deceive you , he comes to . Or when the enemy wants to deceive you , he comes to . Or when the enemy wants to destroy you , he deceives you . So it's a mind game . Many times it's a mental battle .
I'll even go back to when my mental battle first started and I will say it was through experiencing trauma . Many people you know that may be listening right now have experienced some kind of trauma . For me it was sexual trauma . So I've experienced sexual trauma . I've experienced domestic violence . I've experienced emotional trauma as well .
You know some of us have been bullied .
You know we all have a story yeah , we all have a story and that those experiences create hurt , it creates deception , it creates lies that we may tell ourselves because of what happened to us and it's because the enemy wants you to see yourself in a perverted way , right and and have negative beliefs about yourself so that you are bound .
But God said it is the truth . He said you will know the truth and it's the truth that makes you free . So if you want freedom , you have to see the truth and the life .
So when I talk about the battle of the mind , it's overcoming those negative beliefs , it's overcoming those lies of the enemy that circulate and are rehearsed in our minds , those intrusive thoughts and all those things that create mental captivity .
I'm going to tell you that's powerful because you said you've dealt with physical abuse and domestic violence , sexual abuse . So diamonds that are here that have dealt with those things , she's living proof that it is not over . It is not over until god says it's over .
Um , and a whole lot of times you , you know life is happening to us and we think that , okay , they did me wrong , they did me dirty , they did this , that and the other to me , and we have this woe is me attitude about ourself . Speak to that . Can you speak to the one that's saying woe is me , okay well , I want to tell you that you're not alone .
You know , sometimes , many times , when we do experience those heartaches , pains and that trauma , we feel isolated in it . You know , we feel like it just happened to us .
We may feel like a victim of the circumstance , but when we plug into a God , any day with God , and not just like knowing him from a distance , but like truly being in him and receiving healing , you know , receiving peace of mind every day with God is a day in victory .
You know , if the Bible is saying that you are more than a conqueror , that means that there is healing for you , there's transformation for you . So we're not meant to stay in a woe . Is me place or mentality ? You know , and out of the heart , right out of out of the heart , the mouth speaks .
Or out of the abundance of the mouth , the heart speaks scripture , something like that . So what is in the heart means the heart just needs to be transformed . The heart just needs to be healed Right , because there are issues that will come out and impact our lives because of the trials and tribulations that we face .
The mindset that we have is your portion , peace is your portion , so it's not meant for you to stay where you are , but to just really step into healing so that you can become transformed and know who you truly are , outside of the pain .
Amen . I like that . Let me add to that you know , ask God , what is the lesson you're trying to teach , amen ? Oftentimes we're going through this and we're going through that , and bad marriage , bad relationship , and that's the first thing we go . What did I do wrong to deserve this ?
You know what I mean and I believe that it's important that we ask God , ask your maker , ask your creator . What are you trying to teach me , amen ? Because when you do that , you can , you're able to grab a hold of the peace , you're able to attain the healing .
A whole lot of times , I believe that people haven't can't access it because they haven't tapped into it . Would you agree with that ?
I would agree with that , absolutely , absolutely . It takes , it takes work right . So faith without works is dead , and sometimes we hear about that . You know healing is possible , but we don't know . Like you know , we're operating from a place of probability . Well , what if it happens to me again ?
Or what if ?
I'm not going to be completely successful or heal . You know , many times we're operating from a place of fear . So I can hear the word and accumulate it , and a Wednesday go by and I hear a good word , but if I'm not implementing it then it's not really doing me good . There can't be any transformation without implementation .
So , like you said , go into the work and seek first the kingdom of God . His righteousness and all these things will be added unto you . So you know god puts us back in right standing , you know he makes every crooked thing straight . And also know you know to that person who may have that mindset , nothing is going to be wasted .
There is a lesson attached to everything . Those , those lessons have so much value . And not only when you get the lesson . You , you become a cycle breaker , because so many things are generational . There are so many generational patterns that were battling generational curses , things that started way before you even were thought of .
So you're meant to be that generational breaker and that pattern breaker for your children , for your grandchildren , for your great-grandchildren , for communities , for this world . So it is important for you to capture the lesson , because all things are working together for the good of them who love God and are called according to his purpose . Right ?
So everything's going to work , no matter what you went , no matter how bad it was everything's going to work out for your good . The enemy meant for bad , god means for good , so there is a lesson attached to it .
Amen , I like it . Amen , you're a coach . You said you're a coach as well , and what exactly do you do in regard to coaching ? How can you help some ?
folks out here , so , in regards to coaching , my coaching framework is about transformation , where we look at you know , different parts of your life , whether that be everything's mindset driven in my coaching program . That's where you know the battle is won and that's where your fruit is going to flow from .
You know how you see yourself is what you become and also what you create . And let me tell you , you're meant to create right . We're not meant to be crippled .
So the coaching program that I offer is meant to help you heal from what has crippled you , so that you can become cultivated and creating again , you know , so that you can see yourself as the salt and the light , because that's what he describes as that . He said you're the salt and the light of the world .
But sometimes we think , oh man , I'm so surrounded by darkness . How is light going to shine bright unless you are surrounded by darkness ? Because you're meant to be a solution for a problem . So it's really to help people get you know , see , yeah , see themselves as a solution and create something .
And you know whether that be that business that God planted in you , deposited in you , or a book that you're supposed to be writing , or maybe it's a nail salon you're supposed to open , or maybe you're supposed to be a speaker
¶ The Power of Mental Freedom
. As you begin to heal , there's that clarity that comes back into play because really you know the algorithm of our DNA in crisis , I gave you power , love and a sound mind , he said . I didn't give you a spirit of fear power , love and a sound mind . So it's you know again .
It's about going from that crippled state of being into cultivated , into creative mode , into courageous mode , and overcoming fear , not letting fear overcome you , so that you can do what you're called to do .
Girl , you speak and your words speak victory and I love it because they really do . They speak victory and they speak power , and that's ordained to us , that has inherited us . God has given us power , has given us power and a whole lot of time .
People cannot walk in that power , not walking that authority , not walking that dominion , but the reality is it belongs to you . Amen , that is the reality . It belongs to you . And look , you gotta go and get it , you gotta use it . You got to , uh , live by it . Not just use it and not just get it , but live by it , hallelujah .
And so I see a book that you just recently wrote , or just published , and it's called pureography . So you got the coaching , you got the books tell us about a couple of your books . Tell us about this book .
Okay , absolutely so . This is my most recent book . It is a 14 day journey through mental freedom , so releasing those mental weights of rejection . You know , I've experienced rejection in the past , maybe bad relationships , experience of divorce , or some friends walked away from you , family members didn't understand you .
So sometimes it's the fear of rejection that is keeping us in that cave . We become cave women . However , you're supposed to be a cultivated woman and step out back into the light . So each chapter is geared towards issues that we've experienced . Whether it's anger , whether it's lust , and whether it's procrastination , whether it's fear .
Each chapter is meant to help you overcome and see yourself differently . Right , purography is a spin off of pornography . Pornography is perverse . It's something that we should look at . It's the perverse way of seeing ourselves or seeing other people . So , as long as I am , have a lens , that is perverse . I'm not seeing myself in the right way .
I'm not accepting truth . Truth leads to freedom , so it's about if I'm giving , I'm casting my cares unto God . Right , so it's . The chapters are easy to read . They're short . There's some education in there , and then now we go to affirmations .
Each chapter has affirmation , so that you can affirm who you are in Christ , because we're all speaking some kind of language , whether that language is negative in our minds and our thoughts or it's positive . So it's so important to decree God's word over yourself , you know , because maybe people did speak negative words over you .
Maybe you internalize those words and you started speaking over yourself . Well , he says , such as a man think of in his heart , so was he right . So it's to help cleanse the heart at the end of each chapter , because now I need to see myself differently .
I've been seeing myself the wrong way every time I look in the mirror , but now I want to see myself differently . So the visualization is powerful , that you can go to and just sit and lay down in a nice place and visualize and meditate on his word . David said I meditate on your word day and night . You know how much more do we need to do that ?
You know when we've experienced all this chaos and that trauma . I need to meditate daily . I need to see myself differently so that I can walk in the power and authority that is granted to me , as you said earlier , catherine .
So that's what that book is about 14 Days . Amen , I can't help it y'all . I got to say this again . Miriam , you just look like you have overcome some things and the fruit I see . Now I see the fruit of what you had to go through . Does that make sense ?
I see the fruit of it and I just believe when you find , when you run across people , women of God and men of God , who they just have a heart for what they are doing you know , it's a story attached to that freedom .
We can be free , you can be free , and she and I are are proof that freedom is possible , that where you are , you don't have to stay where you've been , you don't have to go back to that . You know what I mean .
You can overcome whatever you are facing and that what you are facing , it is not for nothing and what God wants to do and the glory that comes out of what you are going through , is really up to you to allow it to happen and let it bring forth its fruit . It don't have to be bad , amen . It doesn't have to be bad fruit , hallelujah .
It don't have to be that . It doesn't have to be bad fruit , hallelujah . It don't have to be that . The choice is really up to you . You have to overcome the battle , because it is a battle , it is .
¶ Journey to Spiritual Transformation
It ain't easy , and I say this to my congregation all the time you know the enemy is gonna . He's not gonna sit back and let you be happy . He's not gonna sit back and let you be happy . He's not going to sit back and let you be peaceful . He's not going to sit back and let you not worry .
He's not going to sit back and do all the things that our flesh says it's supposed to do . It just don't work that way . You're going to be free . What ? If you're going to be free , that means I'm going to attack you more and more so that you won't be free , so that you will be wary . He's going to keep on coming at you . You got to decide .
You got to already make the decision . What you think about that , miriam , don't you know ? Would you agree ? You have to already decide . You got to set your posture and set your mind mm-hmm , absolutely , I completely agree with that .
I agree , you have to set your mind , you have to have the right heart posture and not lean into your own understanding , because sometimes we try to rationalize . Well , god , why did you allow this to happen ? If you're a good guy , why did you allow this bad thing to happen to me ? And we forget that ?
Ok , you know God gives us free will , his perfect love allows for free will , and you know mankind made bad choices , you know , and mistakes and things like that . But again , if I'm not leaning into my own understanding , god says that everything is going to work together for my good .
You know , to those that are called according to his purpose , that I'm going to see the purpose instead of the pain . Right , I may experience pain , right , but it's not meant to a a permanent pause in my life , only temporary if I allow healing to happen and because the enemy wants us to be in bondage .
But again , once I become transformed and I heal , what was meant for the enemy to create bondage ? Again , what the enemy means for bad , god means for good . Instead , I'm going to be a benefactor of healing . You know I'm going to benefit other people .
People are going to see me as an inspiration , they're going to see you , catherine , as an inspiration , and then they're going to like OK , wait , I can do it . If she went through that and she came out of it , I can come out of where I am . I can come out of this hurt . I can come out of this bad , toxic relationship . You know , I can come out of .
You know , just misery . Right , I don't have to even maintain even the wrong connections , because misery loves company . Even looking at who your circle is you know , and having the courage to leave those circles and leave those relationships , so that way you can connect Amen , like-minded people who have that growth mindset . I mean Jesus said what in the scripture ?
He grew in wisdom , stature and in knowledge and in favor with God and in man . So I mean , imagine he's about growth , growing in wisdom , stature and favor . You know , I need to be about growth as well . I don't want to be in the same place .
If the relationships are that I'm surrounded by everybody's insecure , everybody's miserable , everybody's speaking negatively , hold on , I need to disconnect myself , you know , and separate , right . So many times innovation requires separation , not , you know , from certain people , separation from certain mindsets , separation from certain places .
So I can step into the position you know that God has for me and it is about having the right heart posture . I got to decide because either way you're making a choice , either way you're making a choice , but in those so it's like , okay , well , I want the choices that I make .
Amen . So back to the book and the coaching . How can people be coached by this ?
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And I'm telling you , when you become healed and transformed , you will . You is not only going to benefit you , but you're going to be a benefactor of those things You're going to begin to create again and there's wealth attached to that .
So you want to heal , so that you can , you know , step into the wealth that God has for you , so you can help others as well . Hurt people hurt people , but heal people help people , right ? So there's so much in you that needs to come out . We don't want to just , you know , take our potential to the grave .
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OK , I'm just trying to put this information out for those that are um , and you'll be able to make it a little bit easier . I gotta check my spelling . Y'all gotta go back to school . I'm just kidding , um , kidding , so kidding . You're good , don't mind me . Yeah , I like to have a good time . You know I laugh a little bit while I'm on here .
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So you make sure that you check this young lady out , because she's doing it big for the kingdom . We are excited for you . Miss Miriam , you have any final words for our audience before you pray ? I don't know if you caught that .
Okay , thank you so much again , miss Catherine . Thank you so much . Let me just tell you , you know , I am so happy to be a kingdom builder . And look , the kingdom of God is inside of you , you know . You know God really wants to make himself known through you , you know .
So , you know , you that are listening or who have been watching and listening and listening , it is time to step into doing , you know , and do all that God has called you to do . So just be encouraged , you know , so you can also step into transformation . And I can go ahead and pray Amen .
Yes , ma'am , yes ma'am .
Okay , all right . Well , dear Father , we just thank you so much , lord , for this amazing time . Lord God , together . We thank you , lord , that you said , when two or three are gathered , you're in the midst , and I thank you that you are surely in the midst , father . We thank you , father , for the Holy Spirit that leads us into all truth .
Lord , I thank you , lord God , for even enlightening the eye of our understanding , and I thank you , lord God , that each word , lord God , that has been spoken today , lord God , and each person that is listening they were called here . You ordered their steps to this podcast .
Lord , I thank you so much for Miss Catherine and her husband , who are kingdom builders . They're doing great work for the kingdom and , lord , people are being set free , lord God , jesus , even by this platform , by this podcast alone . So , lord God , we just thank you , father .
We pray , father , that you give everyone that is listening just wisdom so they know how to navigate , even from Lord God listening here , lord God , that we don't just hear it and not do anything , father , but that , lord God , we turn it into action . And that's what wisdom is about .
It's about application and , lord God , we do things that don't benefit us , our families are broken . In Jesus' name and we just thank you , father . I just decree radical obedience over all of us , Lord God , that we can be the places that you want us to be in , have the heart posture that you want us to have .
Give us pure hearts , father , so we can see you , lord God , jesus , and see ourselves the way you want us to see ourselves , not the way that we have seen ourselves . I come against Lord and pray against all limited beliefs , limitations , lord God , bad words that have been spoken over us .
We cancel it in Jesus' name and , lord God , let your truth and your word be made manifest in everybody here right now , in Jesus' name amen , amen , amen .
Thank you again , miriam , for being here . We so appreciate you coming one more time .
Amen , yes , ma'am , amen . Thank you so much for having me .
All right . Well , you have a good one and we'll talk to you soon . Everybody else , y'all know what time it is . Remember , you are a diamond and it might be rough , but you are still a diamond . We'll see you next week . Peace and love and prayer from us to you . Lord's will . We'll see you next week . Peace and love and prayer from us to you , lord will .
Lord's will . We'll see you next week . Amen , amen and a .