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Let's get started. First post is by user Throw-R-A-O-R-B-F titled My Best Friend and Her Husband We're in an open relationship Now that they're divorcing, she's telling everyone we had an affair My ex-best friend, Maddie and her husband, James, have been together for about six years and married for two
Last year she pressured James into opening their relationship. She already had someone she wanted to sleep with in mind when she asked him He didn't want to open it up but agreed with the condition that she wait until they both found someone to sleep with before she does anything with Sam, the other guy
He tried to call her bluff and told her he wanted to sleep with me. She spent weeks convincing me to go along with it and I eventually gave in Sam and Maddie's relationship fizzled out pretty fast when his girlfriend caught him
She started telling James she made a mistake and wanted to close the relationship but he said he didn't want to and she should find another partner When she first asked to open the relationship up, he warned her he wouldn't close it again just because things went badly for her It had to be a mutual decision Eventually, she told me they had closed their relationship and if James tried to hook up with me again it would be cheating and as her friend it was my duty to reject him
James contacted me a few days later and I shouted at him for not telling me they had closed their relationship When I calmed down, he explained what really happened. He ended up filing for divorce a few days later Now, James comes from a very rich family so when they started dating, Maddie dropped out of college because she assumed he would look after her, which she did
So she has no work experience or college degree. She thought when they divorced she would get half of his assets but he had her sign a prenup, which I'm sure she never actually read Now her lawyer is telling her she is unlikely to get very much out of him as their marriage was short and his prenup is ironclad
She called me to complain about how selfish she was but I was still pissed at her lying about their marriage being closed so I told her I didn't want to get involved in their relationship anymore She's now started telling all of our friends that me and James were having an affair and he's leaving her for me She even sent screenshots of our texts to prove this Most of my friends have cut me out because of this and the few that are still talking to me keep giving me shit over this supposed affair
How do I navigate this? Do I just cut my losses with those friendships or is it worth trying to prove my innocence? The next post is by user Discombobulated Owl81 and there are actually two posts for this one and original and a follow-up. I'll be reading both
The title of the first post is My Flatmate has told my boyfriend she's in love with him. I moved into my flat in October of last year to take the place of a mutual friend of mine in my new flatmate We have a generally great atmosphere in the flat and both have similar expectations and habits and while we're not friends yet as in we wouldn't go out for brunch or be each other's plus once for parties
We are very friendly. She seems super normal and level. When the lockdown began March, my boyfriend of two years was living with his sister and his mother undergoing chemo who lived alone needed somewhere to stay where she could be looked after so she moved into his room and he came to stay with us My flatmate was totally fine and we had a proper chat about ground rules etc but ultimately the flat is huge for two people and she has kind of a granny flat set up in hers
Either way she gave definite approval. Now we three got on great but never really spent a ton of time together We all worked from home and spent the occasional evening playing games or whatever but ultimately we didn't mingle much more than before My boyfriend however, cooks every night for both of us as a thank you and so we do now eat together and my flatmate seemed happy to be included
It was great. However last week my boyfriend took me aside and told me that while he was in the courtyard hanging out the washing she ambushed him from behind and gave a huge speech about how she's in love with him and while she respects he's with me she has deep feelings for him and that she's available if he were single Oh and please don't tell OP. She didn't try to kiss him but tried to hold his hand
He was very anxious and flustered when he was telling me this. The flat atmosphere is very awkward now but as far as she knows he's not set a word She's not said anything else to him but he did mention that she had touched his arm a couple of times as she was walking past recently and it's really gotten under my skin My boyfriend is also confused because he hasn't spend that much time with her apart from dinner and never alone
I spoke to my flatmate's mutual friend who was shocked and says she's never done anything like this before and says she's never known my housemate to have a crush on anyone either I've not seen her acting strangely in any other ways and it hasn't outwardly affected how she treats me We can't move right now because virus, money, etc. How do I deal with this? Now we'll move on to the follow-up post. It gets a little intense so first I'll just cover some things I wasn't able to in my original post
I trust my boyfriend completely. Even if I didn't, this apartment is large, not massive. I know where that beloved MF is 24-7 A lot of you asked when after my roommate's confession he told me about it. He told me a couple of hours afterwards He explained to me after we had a chat about it that he was afraid I wouldn't believe him or be angry because at first he thought it was a weird joke that made him uncomfortable
and he felt rightfully so weirded out I agree with the bulk of you that her continued touching is harassment and while a number suggested he just confront her himself, I empathize with being in a situation without breathing room where someone is sexually harassing you
It's not easy and you can quickly find yourself unsure if those brief moments of crossing a line happened He's not on our lease and understandably he was concerned about me and the power dynamic in the house because her room is a mini granny flat, she pays the bigger share
I also don't believe that it was a some suggested hypomaniac episode I have bipolar disorder too and while I understand the love rush, she exhibited zero other behaviors and never tried to contact my boyfriend outside of the weird touching I also can appreciate there's no way she was actually in love So, yesterday after a tens few days of trying to avoid her, my boyfriend and I were in the kitchen at breakfast with her around in the living area
I went to our bathroom, she has an on-suite, which is just off the main area to brush my teeth I walked back out to grab my phone as she was sliding behind my boyfriend who was looking in the fridge and I caught her running her hand and forearm across his lower back where his t-shirt had ridden up a little My boyfriend, who didn't see me, yelled really loudly and just lost it, he yelled at her to stop and when they both saw me, he starts going, you see?
You see? This is what I was talking about I was furious, just whole body anger and I could see she had now realized he had told me about her confession slash behavior and just sprinted to her room and slammed the door My boyfriend and I went out for a walk to calm down and he kept apologizing for not being more firm but he was shaken up, some of you told me I should just confront her head on, which in the moment I 100% sided with, I was so angry for him
He told me he'd rather give her the opportunity to do it diplomatically I appreciated what you guys said about lockdown being, extenuating and in discussion with our mutual friend, I was willing to believe that an element of it was naiyavite and a bit of fantasy gone too far, I was willing to be kind to her When we returned with a plan of action, we knocked on her door but she didn't answer, we tried a couple of times but she just wouldn't come out
although she was seeing my WhatsApp messages, come late afternoon, I was just over it so I knocked and told her I was coming in I sat her down on her bed and told her gently but firmly it was inappropriate, making us uncomfortable, told her she had to get the hell over it, slash herself
if she intended to continue to live with us She burst into tears and starts crying about how she's so sorry and what a bad person she is and she can't believe the pressure of lockdown is getting to her, whatever and I felt bad
started sympathizing, trying to be compassionate and then she says, it's just so unfair that the guy I'm in love with has a really great girlfriend Reader, I lost my shit, unfair my ass, I told her she had a lot of growing up to do and perspective to learn and that she owed the house an apology
she started to have a meltdown, a full weeping, hiccuping, snottie meltdown and then when I stood up to leave I spotted in her clothes rack my freaking shirt I took it and went back to my room my housemate cried loudly with the door open until 7pm for attention when I cracked
I used our emergency contact sheet, called her mum, told her she had to come pick up my housemate I've never met this woman who came rushing in like a superstar but the look of annoyance and embarrassment on her face when she arrived and found her 27-year-old daughter having a tantrum
told me this wasn't a new part of her personality my housemate also shut the fuck up pretty quickly after she realized her mum was there they didn't say anything to us and we just hid in our room until they were gone I think she'll be gone at least for a while but I texted her to let her know it would be best if she texted me before she came back
I don't know when I'll see her. Technically the lease ends in August so my BF and I think we can make it work and find someone new and if not it's not so long till we can resign without her as a code to all this, my boyfriend mentioned if she took a blouse maybe she took other stuff too I appreciate some of you may consider this an invasion of privacy but I did go back in just to check the clothes rack I found a set of my jeans, my t-shirt, one of my boyfriend's work shirts, a vinyl-owned
my fucking charm bracelet from when I was a kid from inside my jewelry box and a sheet of my old antidepressants this was just what was on the rack slash on display I imagine there's more in the drawers I don't know if this was the right thing to do but I left them there for now because I don't want there to be any doubt she sold them there's zero chance she's going to live here anymore honestly I hope she does get help I'm really angry and violated and so is my boyfriend
but I can empathize with the havoc and uncontrolled mental health issue can wreak on your behavior and while it's still wrong, it sucks for her to experience it and lose friends note I can't be sure none of us can but I feel like maybe she has his ironic personality disorder ps. our mutual friend has told me another friend who went to school with my housemate had told her a rumor she told a bunch of people in there that she had leukemia yikes this next post is another two-parter
I'll be reading both by user respectable ghosts post title boyfriend and his girl best friend on social media being excessive my boyfriend and I have been dating for a few months and we were long distance for a while until the beginning of this month when he moved to Chicago where I'm living at
when we first started talking he never mentioned anything about his best friend until about two months ago when he mentioned a friend that was coming over but would never mention the gender then eventually he said it was his best friend and that it was a girl
right before he was moving he told me he was trying to convince his best friend to move to Chicago as well he was saying she's really cool super supportive blah blah blah that's all great every time they hang out she comes over to his place and it's always super late at night
I've asked him about her and he said they were just friends and merely platonic the night before he moved she was at his place and he has a thing where he keeps all his payments on Venmo and what not private he even asked me to pay him and keep it on private so no one can see his activity
I was on Venmo that night paying a friend of mine for something and I see she pays him at 3.50 am and it's all out in public last night I was on Facebook and he posted that he'd moved to Chicago and under that post he tags her and says sorry blank my sweet baby girl then he shared a photo of them together and she comments on that saying my bay she's always commenting on his stuff with hearts and saying things like me and you for other random posts
I understand that some friends do really playful stuff or accidentally online but seeing that caught me off guard in the past I've had trust issues with guys and one of my exes who had a girl best friend was secretly hugging up with her while we were together which is why this whole situation is a bit triggering I have no problem with him having friends that are girls that's not the issue at all I'm just not really sure why he's so secretive about her specifically
I know if I were to approach him about this he might just say I'm being insecure and there's nothing going on between them but he's mentioned a few times that he really wants her to move here making me think if they've hooked up had a pass etc
I don't want to feel insecure about this but I don't know how to approach him now we have an update to the previous post of boyfriend and his girl best friend on social media being excessive I read all the replies and got many messages for an update I appreciate all the advice that everyone gave
last night I basically went off on him he explained that they previously did have a pass many years ago but they had reconnected after his last relationship and it was strictly platonic but then he tells me that he has herpes that's one thing then tells me I should possibly get tested
the last time we were physically together was in May I confronted him and asked him if he slept with someone and he admitted that he slept with one person pretty sure there were more he said I met nothing and it was only physical and there was nothing emotional about it
I asked why he did it and he said it was more of a last hurrah before he moved but it was with someone totally random I asked how you meet someone random and he hesitated and said Tinder Hearing all of this I didn't know what to say and was in complete shock
he said he was sorry and it didn't mean anything he said he understood if I wanted to break up but would still want to be friends because I'm really important in his life I obviously immediately broke up with him but it feels like huge weight is off my shoulders
I don't plan on being friends with him either since it shows that he's trying to have me around in his life more of a benefit to him he's a piece of shit and I'm glad he has herpes another update there were things I needed to get off my chest for my own closure so I sent him a message saying that I'm not comfortable being friends after everything that he's done and he's trying to keep me around and whatnot he responded back with a few messages but the one I thought was hilarious was when he said
I am upset about the whole situation and the prospect of losing you in my life you are an amazing woman and it was a pleasure getting to know you I wish you the best and hope done a line we are able to reconcile
I realized with his response he never apologized for hurting me or about the situation itself and saying he's hurt I'm glad I got out of it sooner than later I removed him off all my socials as well thank you everyone for the comments and support I'll make an appointment soon to get tested that's all for today guys I'll be back soon with more Reddit posts stay tuned she's waiting for me