We all want to have a hot girl summer but…what exactly does that mean? For me, it means not needing approval or rescuing from any guy or even society. I’ll break down how to deal with body shamers and why gettin’ yo bag is the key to happiness! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastcho...
Jun 09, 2021•41 min•Ep. 100
Putting yourself out there is crucial to making friends…but what do you do when your coupled up galpals aren’t reciprocating the effort? This week we’ll help a Shalligator who is the odd (single!) girl out in a sea of loved up ladies. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more ...
Jun 02, 2021•35 min•Ep. 99
This week on YouTube I explained why silence is your main weapon if you want an ex back, but here we’ll delve a little deeper into the strategy behind it. Plus, we’ll follow up to my tale about a booty call that became a wife, and what precisely she said to him to get out of the sex zone and into an engagement ring! Take the MedCerts quiz to see if becoming a medical professional is right for you, and start your 21-day free trial now at medcerts.com/shallon 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetre...
May 26, 2021•41 min•Ep. 98
This week we talk to a Shalligator who wants to rekindle things with a guy she rejected (twice!) and another who wants her husband to morph back into the man she married, and not the mega douche he's become. I'll help you let go of regret and knock some sense into guys who are letting you slip away! 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜SHOP MY CUSTOM QUILT COLLAB💜 https://jlbeautyllc.com/collections/quilts/products/biscuit-rag-quilt-by-shallon-lester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION💜 https://sh...
May 19, 2021•41 min•Ep. 97
With summer around the corner, it’s easy to have spring fever about boys and dating. But before you start swiping, texting or hooking up, I’ll give you a pep talk on why we NEVER CHASE. Plus, I’ll help a Shalligator who isn’t sure if she’s worked through her issues enough to get out in the dating game. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜GET CUSTOM HAIR CARE 💜 www.formulate.co/podcast , use code “SHALLON” at checkout 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS O...
May 12, 2021•41 min•Ep. 96
Dating apps are a great way to meet guys…and an excellent way to completely waste your time with f*ckboys! I’ll tell you red flags to look for in a boy’s profile, plus help one Shalligator who isn’t sure if her new Bumble boy is all in or all trouble! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! Go check out their website at w ww.usualwines.com and use my discount code “SHALLON” for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us! Go to HelloFres...
May 05, 2021•48 min•Ep. 95
Change sucks. Change is the worst when it’s change you didn’t particularly ask for...but isn’t MOST change out of your control? I’ll give you five tips on becoming more resilient instead of bitter and erotic, and talk to one shower gator whose ex just dropped a bomb about the change in his own life! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallon...
Apr 28, 2021•51 min•Ep. 94
Do you find yourself attracting guys who don’t really have a social life of their own? Or are your “friends” flaky, frazzled and forgettable? I’ll give you tips on getting a life for him AND yourself! Head on over to www.formulate.co/podcast complete the brief hair questionnaire and use my code “SHALLON” at checkout. Order today and you will get a second order FREE. 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitte...
Apr 21, 2021•40 min•Ep. 93
We should all be visualizing what we want out of our future but what do you do when imagination goes bad? If you struggle with romanticizing things at the expense of reality, I’ll give you the two keys to happiness and help you pump the breaks on a runaway emotional train! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTo...
Apr 14, 2021•33 min•Ep. 92
This week, we’ll break down the psychology of beta males who neg amazing women, plus share some lessons from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Essentialism,” and help you walk away from “perfect” opportunities that don’t feel so perfect after all. 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜GET FORMULATE HAIR CARE 💜 http://www...
Apr 07, 2021•54 min•Ep. 91
As we emerge out of the pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to remake things into a new normal, from our job situation to our friendship. I’ll tell you how to rejigger dynamics that are/aren’t working, plus talk to a Shalligator who worries that she may have followed “Why Men Love Bitches” a little TOO closely! 💜GET “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 pleas...
Mar 31, 2021•44 min•Ep. 90
We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.t...
Mar 24, 2021•55 min•Ep. 89
This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight fair! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day tr...
Mar 18, 2021•37 min•Ep. 88
As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and...
Mar 10, 2021•39 min•Ep. 87
Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you! Go to FlexFits.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! Go to AnaLuisa.com/GIRLONT...
Mar 03, 2021•30 min•Ep. 86
This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct of a boundary-less life! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https:...
Feb 24, 2021•36 min•Ep. 85
This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness. Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata comes out every Wednesday, on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts! Go to Curology.com/SHALLION for a f...
Feb 17, 2021•33 min•Ep. 84
This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it! Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLO...
Feb 10, 2021•32 min•Ep. 83
This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! 💜READ “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live .shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices...
Feb 03, 2021•38 min•Ep. 82
If a friend vanishes out of your life, do they deserve to get let back in? I’ll help a Shalligator who is wondering if a long lost pal wants another chance or if it’s time to let things go. ALSO! Listen to XO Radio every Wednesday on the Stationhead app (free!) where I play my fave tunes and break down their lessons. AND! Subscribe to my intimate new blog, Eat Prey Love. 💜READ EAT PREY LOVE 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live .shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 I...
Jan 27, 2021•17 min•Ep. 81
This week, a Shalligator is at her wits end with guys who seem to break up with her because they “can’t give you what you need.” But the gag is, she doesn’t really need that much! Is this just a line guys are handing her, or is she portraying herself has way more high maintenance than she is? I’ll decode it all! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https:// shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week h...
Jan 20, 2021•34 min•Ep. 80
When you are a bad ass chick, as we are here in the Shallontourage, it can be hard to focus on just one career or even just a manageable handful of hobbies. I’ll help one Shalligator sort through her maze of interests and explain why recklessly spending energy will leave you bankrupt! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https:// shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/...
Jan 13, 2021•34 min•Ep. 78
To kick of 2021, I'll help you embrace the past (yes, even 2020) and tackle a question by a Shalligator who thinks she's starting absolutely from scratch after a tough and trying year. I'll give her some tough love but also 3 actionable, science-backed steps to improving her self-esteem, getting back to her authentic self, and leaving the misery behind! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https:// shallonlester.com 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week htt...
Jan 06, 2021•38 min•Ep. 77
It’s our last podcast of 2020 and it’s time to set intentions for the new year. I’ll tell you my easy, 3-tiered approach to goal setting and manifestation. Plus, we’ll tackle the topic of guys who slide into your DMs, and how to craft the perfect Instagram! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GIVE BACK 💜 gf.me/u/za8h5d 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/Tik...
Dec 16, 2020•48 min•Ep. 77
Whether you're in a small town, small college or small office, getting over someone you have to see all the time is an exercise in agony. I'll give you some practical tips on moving forward, and we'll talk to a Shalligator who's in a quandary about how to find a good therapist! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https:// shallonlester.com 💜GIVE BACK 💜 gf.me/u/za8h5d 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester 💜FOLLO...
Dec 09, 2020•38 min•Ep. 76
‘Tis the season to…go into debt making buying presents, right? NOPE. Not this year. We’re going to look at the silver linings of 2020, reset our attitude toward money, dial down expectations, and come out of the holidays feeling rich in every possible way! 💜ASK SHALLON A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO www.hellofresh.c...
Dec 02, 2020•33 min•Ep. 75
Is cheating actually cheating if it’s with a sex worker? And can sending a guy nudes prevent him from straying? I’ll explore this sexually tense situation, plus help another Shalligator sort out who exactly should pay for the date, and when to start pitching in! 💜 BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜 ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜 BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonlester 💜 FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO Lea...
Nov 25, 2020•39 min•Ep. 74
This week we’re focusing on just one topic: turning yourself into an alpha female. Specifically, I’m breaking down the three major shifts I made in my life to go from cold blooded to independent, bulletproof, and ultimately, very happy and satisfied no matter what my circumstances. This weeks motto: “No thank you.” 💜BINGE EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜YOUTUBE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube.com/user/shallonle...
Nov 11, 2020•30 min•Ep. 73
Halloween may be over, but we're keeping the sinful fun going with an Evil Week bonus, where I break down easy tricks to gather information on your enemies and haters so you can craft the most effective strategy against them. Plus, I'll tell you some sanity-saving tips on surviving election season with this week's motto: Do Not Disturb. 💜JOIN EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://www.youtube...
Nov 04, 2020•31 min•Ep. 72
EVIL WEEK BONUS: How (and Why) to Embrace Wickedness Evil Week is in full swing but it can be hard to fully step into the shoes of sin, right? I'll give you a perditious little pep talk on how evil and intuition walk hand in hand. Plus: we'll sorting out what exactly makes for great sex (and how to get it!) and ranting about...Emily Ratajkowski? 💜JOIN EVIL WEEK 💜 https://infstream.com/shallonlester 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜BINGE 💜 4 new videos a week https://ww...
Oct 28, 2020•45 min•Ep. 71
