Getting Out #61 Breaking The Cycle & Creating Inner Wealth w/ Miles Santo

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Thank you for the compliment . I mean but welcome , mr Miles Santo .

I'm 34 years old , I've got a wife and a son who's almost three , and I also have a men's coaching business and I also have the Radical Collective , which is a group of five men who've come together to really help other men radicalize their life and actualize their potential . So we've got a community of 65 men in there .

Right now we're running a free challenge and it's going to turn into a paid community going forward and it's it's been a lot of fun . So , yeah , it's kind of what we got going on .

That could be a thing you know , that could be affecting my health right now , because there's something going on , you know , and I'm not sleeping right because of something , and I don't know what it is . I've tried to narrow it down to food . I've tried to narrow it down to food .

I've tried to narrow it down to , like you know , not eating before I go to bed . Not doing this , not doing that , I still can't go to bed . It's still like dude . Five o'clock in the morning on the dot is when my body will tell me go to sleep . It's so weird .

So if we're looking at our phone before we go to sleep or we've got our blue light alarm clock next to us , or we got , or we're falling asleep to the tv , we're receiving blue light inputs that are actually tricking our mind into thinking that we should still be awake , because blue light is artificial and it's giving this idea that it's not time for bed .

So artificial , you're saying any light , then Any fake light , any artificial light is blue light that is tricking your mind into thinking you should stay awake , so it throws off your circadian rhythm and circadian rhythm health is essential to you operating in a vital and vibrant way .

So if you are feeling like it's hard to wake up in the morning or you feel like you're actually never having your feet touch the ground simple things like this where you wake up , you put on your shoes .

So you are not the individual , you part of the whole . But now we become individuals , we're segmented and and sec you separated .

So we wake up in the morning and we go ahead and take our shower , we put on our shoes , we eat our breakfast , we're out the door to work , we drive in a car , still never having touched the ground , we sit in our corporate office for eight hours under blue light . You maybe have some lunch , but it's probably while you're staring at your phone .

So you're getting inundated with blue light and all these artificial inputs . And you go home at five or five or six o'clock feeling drained from the day . Then you put on your tv and you microwave your food and then you go ahead and go to sleep , but you're having a hard time falling asleep .

was I did three years in prison , dude , you could not have a small cut on your arm and touch the wall because it's like that's how . Like you did not know how what kind , what was , who touched it . Like when you walked into a cell , you cleaned the walls , the ceiling with bleach . You'd ask the officer yeah , can I get some bleach ? What's it for ?

I got to wipe down the cell . Oh , okay , no problem , they understood , they knew what it was for . You got to wipe down everything , clean , disinfect everything . That's how it was , that was . I didn't know that before I went in . This is my first time and only time , and you never again . Do me a favor , do like a little twist and pull up .

You know I'm saying like there you go .

that . But like I started noticing them and I started getting more and more paranoid , more like about my health and worried about the thing , like things like that . And I noticed that the more I fucking put my feet on the ground and paid attention to the things that were underneath me , not like above me , like does that make sense ? Like it was so weird .

I never looked down , dude , I was always look . Yeah , I , I mean I looked at the phone and I looked at the screen all the time , but I was never looking . Like I never looked down to me . Like I never looked down , like what was I actually stepping on ? You know ? Like what was my , what was my foot connecting with ?

And like underneath , and because I would watch that mushroom documentary and it says like about all how that everything's connected underneath itself and wow , yeah , well you're .

But one of the simplest things we can do in the morning if we want to reset our circadian health . All you have to do is wake up three mornings in a row , see the sunrise with your feet on the ground , and your circadian health will reset . She said get the fuck out of here no way .

And when we started doing that , big changes in the family dynamic occurred because people were feeling a lot more regulated and they want to pop a pill . They talk about needing to see their therapist . Here's another pill . Take this . Take that we have a society that wants us to go ahead and really treat the symptom but we're not treating the cure .

And as a doctor , I can actually speak to the fact that a lot of medical doctors are not trained in teaching you about a more holistic approach to living life . Thank you .

He must be and gotten , you know , got got in trouble . He must be like bipolar dude . I was labeled bipolar . I was labeled like x , y , z , like so many different things , miles and like a like thrown medication , like and like just , oh , we sit , wait to eat .

I'm like yo , my jaw , I'm like my jaw is like hurting , like I can't really , like I'm I don't understand it like I'm getting a tight jaw , like just give it two weeks to kick in . I'm a kid , I don't know any better . I'm listening to these fucking doctors , like doctors supposed to help me .

It's like a cop , you know they're supposed to be one that's supposed to cure me , supposed to be one that , like that , like to teach me the things that you do . Right , you know , and we weren't like , well , it's sad .

I know it's so a lot of times it's like they're incentivized , even with the covid vaccine , like how many times did you get vaccinated ? You're getting a certain level of payout from that stuff and I know that sounds really outlandish and might piss some people off , but that's based on paperwork that I fucking saw . So it was congress , it was congress , you .

Thank God he bought Twitter because of what they were doing with that vaccine . Shit was crazy . No one would have found out about that . Yeah , thank you . Like , honestly I Like savior . Yeah , like that was like no one would have found out about that . Like , yeah , thank you . Like he , honestly I huge . Like savior . Yeah , like that was a huge hit .

Like I was a home run . Thank god for that . And then I was trying to explain it to them and they were like , when did that happen ? It never happened . Like , yes , well , I was like that was in front of congress yeah , well , you know you can't watch the news you know , news controls everything .

You weren't this guy who had these problems and needed to go be in prison and whatnot . You're not a menace to society . They called me that dude , but you're not Okay . I need you to hear me . You're not . I know you .

I talk to my clients all the time about authenticity . You know one of the easiest ways to understand your authenticity Start thinking about your childhood , zero to seven . That's when you are your most pure self , before you get conditioned by society and by what others teach you to be , not who you were born to be .

So a lot of times we go through a process of discovering our true self .

If we want to find who our true self is , one of the quickest ways is to actually go ahead and think about your child and who you were at that age , before you had other people's expectations and wounds placed upon you because that person who talked to you when you were a child and you were in school and they yelled at you you don't know what kind of shit

was going on in their life , where they might have been projecting onto you because of some other wounding that they never dealt with . So there's a lot of trauma in this world that gets pushed onto others and you're now absorbing other people's trauma and it has nothing to do with you .

I do , and we do and I and I know it's done I do the same thing , but as a child you need to survive , so you grab onto whatever you can to help you survive because you can't take care of yourself . So now , all of a sudden , you're living a life that's not yours because you want survival .

But when you get older , you don't need protection from your parents any longer , but you already have too much of an ingrained conditioning within you based on that survival mechanism that was within you when you were younger . So I want you to know and hear from me that it's not your fault . It's not your fault .

You were failed by society because of the ways that they could help you rehabilitate . Could have been a lot more holistic and healthy , but instead they looked at you like let me just push this thing onto him and get him out of my office as fast as possible .

I was in so much pain , like , and I was like at least I'm not taking four pills . You know that at least one thing and not four things , and that four things were like really not was making me a person I didn't like , I was very mean , you know , like very like snappy , and you know I still am because of the sleeping . But I know , I'm aware of it .

I wasn't aware of anything before , I was just going .

Dude , my brother and my mom coached my team one time like I don't know if you remember that and like you . You were probably middletown little league like if you could tell I right now like he was always a bigger , like just like fucking beast and like I was .

I was always a chubbier kid , but still like I went up to that plate and like you were the only person that ever could tackle me when we played football . Remember , I remember ?

I was like yo , that was fucking all it was kind of like one of those hits where we all like we all like stopped .

So we all wanted to see what jesse wanted to do I , I just it was .

His house was even sicker . You had the indoor pool , Bro . Inside pool , your dad would come out and play fucking basketball with us and , bro , I would get so scared because his chest had so much hair on it . You know what I'm saying . You know what ? He didn't care . He flaunted it Like you do with air .

As you move forward , you want to maybe have your own place , create a family , all these things , and you start thinking about it a little differently . So for me it's like amazing child , super blessed , like to be able to live in a house . That was that big childhood memories are unbelievable . But like do I actually need those things ?

So I'm actually going through the process of , like , selling my two cars , I'm selling my house , I'm going to move in with my mother , like we're trying to have less Take in Because we don't need as much .

So , if I have a value of freedom , is having ABC thing in my house actually helping me be more free or not ? So we start to make decisions from an intentional base place of saying , okay , if I buy this thing , is it actually moving the needle toward my value of sacred connection ? Is it moving me toward my value of love ?

If it's not , I probably don't need it . So if I really believe these values are most important to me , then every decision I make in my life should be moving toward having those values be more present , because those are the ones that actually matter to me .

So now , all of a sudden , you've escaped the matrix because you don't need to fit in with the Joneses .

But I , that's how , the way I am , I'm more , I'm leaning that way now and I was trying to push it on other people . I think .

But if you can actually live your life in an embodied way where people just get curious like what's he doing ? yes , just live your life by your actions , then you don't need to talk about it . So you don't have to keep speaking about it . You just are , yeah , so the more you are , the more people get curious , and that's vibrancy .

So people are a magnet that get drawn to you . They're just curious . It's like a fly in a light .

It's been like , not even just like just been doing , like you know , like whoa planning stuff and just doing it , and when the time is come , comes to it , like when that time comes of it's happening , then , like you know , they'll know or whatnot , but like I , I just put it in my head so I don't let anyone else fuck with that negativity .

You know , fuck , put that energy and put that down 2020 was a big year for everybody yeah , bro , isn't that crazy that I was the year I went to fucking prison .

So then it was this process of peeling back the layers and discovering who actually is Miles , and then making decisions for Miles as opposed to for other things , discovering who actually is Miles and then making decisions for Miles as opposed to for other things . And once I started doing that , you can't unsee what you now see with open eyes .

And when you do that it's like wow . I mean , hey look , when the COVID vaccine first came out , I'm a dentist sitting here getting told I'm not going to be able to be a doctor anymore if I don't get vaccinated . So I'm like , well , all right , I'll go get vaccinated once they come out with it .

But then it took them another six months or nine months or whatever it was , to actually develop it , and at that point I had woken up too much . I was like I can't , I can't do that , and I had to decide how important is that value to me over my career .

And it worked out that I was still able to continue my career , but I had patients leave the practice when they found out I wasn't vaccinated Cause , they were like I can't stand for that . Now some of them actually came back because they went to other places . They're like I don't like the care I'm getting there .

I'm like well , just because I'm vaccinated doesn't mean that I don't care the same . So you're going to get care from me because I'm Miles , miles is Miles .

But they were judging me because I didn't get vaccinated . How is that ?

I actually don't , I actually went a little bit into the rabbit hole . It's fucking ridiculous . They actually the regulations for vaccines are not really there we could go there if you want , but you know that like right , isn't that something like it's true ?

Yeah , maybe like a one , like it was like a percentage of . Like a percentage .

So you know what we do instead is we outsource our parenting to this technology to take care of our kids . But our kids just get more overstimulated and they become terrors , and then you just want to throw them in decor and you want to have other people pay .

You want to pay other people to take care of your kids and you care of your kids and you want to give because you have to , because you have to go work two jobs , be able to be able to put enough food on the table and that's no one's fault , but that's society's issue . Society broke the family unit . That's what happened .

The family unit got disintegrated by society because we told women they had to start go working my mom , my mom .

It's either grandma or you're sending them to daycare . But what's happening at daycare ? There's 25 people . At best you got one person taking care of these 25 kids and they're not getting the attention or the rearing that they need . Wow , that's so true and they're just running rampant too .

But there's a myth in society that will tell you that if your kid goes to daycare , they're going to be more socialized . So because my kid hasn't gone to daycare , he's automatically not as socialized as other kids and they think the learning improves because they go to daycare . Now look , I'm not judging parents , but because their kids in daycare .

If you have to do it , you have to do it , and that's the way society is so how do you do it ?

So in this instance , I used to work five days a week and I wasn't around for my son the first year of his life . I knew it .

So now other people in a corporate position might not have this flexibility . So that's where I have a big privilege being in a family business . So you just stacked your appointments . I basically just worked longer hours on shorter days . Yeah , you know . So I have Tuesdays . I work eight to seven . So smart so but that gave me Fridays off .

I want to be as healthy as I possibly can be , so the less I'm out of the chair , or rather , the more I'm out of the chair , the better , because can be healthier . So I'm sitting in a room like this hunched over . You're drilling these old amalgams , you got mercury flying everywhere . Where's the mercury at ? It's in the silver , all those silver fillings .

I was a kid because I was a fucking menace and I was doing that for like a year and I thought that I was going to go to your dad and he was going to rip me to shreds and I don't know how young I was , cause I was seeing him to , probably was like 12 or something and I went and I had not like he's like not no cavities .

I'm like get the fuck out of here . But I told him I have this one tooth and I still have it dude tooth . And I still have it dude . And I remember to this day .

I remember to this day the what he told me and like the reason for it , because it's still there and it's still the same pain and I'm always wondering not to no offense to you , dad , or anything if , like , if it at really what , if that's really what it is , because it hurts sometimes , but I it's like a one-time thing , like I'll hit it , like I'll just ,

and it just shoots and like , but my like it doesn't . I don't have a cavity in the back , like I don't see anything a lot of reasons he said it . But he said it's probably because I grind my teeth at night .

episode . It's like it looks like you grind your teeth , and I was you ?

So you don't know what kind of a ripple effect can be created from a smile . So the one aspect of dentistry that's really cool is when you create a smile , you create more confidence for somebody and they might just go get a job or they might have the confidence to go start a new career .

So if you need motivation to make sure you're going to the dentist like , proactive dentistry is always cheaper than reactive dentistry so just go get your clinics . That's what I'm saying . Just go get your clinics , be proactive . Get them checked out . It's all good yeah absolutely .

Okay , if you want to avoid the aging that is rampant in society , you need to be looking at the ingredients , because it's the way that we live our life that's creating a lot of the toxicity and the aging and it's in our food . Our processed food is garbage . Now our toothpaste has a lot . Sit here and tell you don't brush your teeth .

But there's no good toothpaste that I've found that's going to help you avoid the xanthan gums or the natural flavors . That's MSG . That's not a good thing .

So I go and pick up a hundred pounds of meat every six months . Get the fuck out of here , yeah , yeah . And I go to the local . I go to the local farmer's market .

Just you can't totally trust it because the amount of money out there that can buy things like you can get a box of cereal that will have the aha label on it , american heart association approved , I know for a box of cereal .

It's got 50 grams of sugar in it they're buying it was bought by keller exactly but if you follow , if you follow the food , pyramid .

Now , there's some better ones , but the things I would tell you if you want to go back to toothpaste is base is avoid SLS , sodium lauryl sulfate , avoid carrageenan and avoid fluoride .

awesome . I love that you're into the health stuff , because that's honestly been a huge step forward for me in my life , because , as you're getting high and running and doing the things that I was doing , what are you worried about your health If you're putting a needle in your arm ? What the fuck am I worried about ? The air quality ?

I 100 agree so rediscovering the energy of your youth and then reclaiming the natural vibrancy .

Think about it . He was surrounded by alcohol in the womb and he still surrounds himself with things and people and alcohol .

And limiting beliefs , you have to start understanding whose voice is it that you're hearing and is that voice really from you or is it from another place ? That's a really good point , because if you want to be able to create a reality where your dreams become real , you have to be able to believe that your dreams can become real .

So your beliefs are central to your reality . If you've got limiting beliefs that immediately tell you you're a POS because you did something , you dropped a pen on the floor , oh , you're such a POS , well , you're just immediately filtering yourself with negativity over and over and over .

So , instead of when I , when I became a father , when I told my father that I , my son , that my wife was pregnant , the first thing my father said to me was your life , as you know , it is over . It wasn't a . Congratulations what . It wasn't a .

And I'm not blaming him , I know , but I'm saying that that's a what it's , his lens that's how he fucking views it . The way he views it is wow , your life's going to be different , Different yeah , and that's how his was . And that's the way he phrases it . But we could say your life's going to be different in a much more positive way .

The way I would say it is you're about to embark on the best growth journey of your life . Yeah , like wow , your life's about to change , my friend , Because fatherhood is going to make you recognize all the strengths you have and all the weaknesses you have . And , by the way , your children are mirrors of you .

So if your kid's acting like an asshole , it means you're probably unbalanced . It means you're the asshole I agree with that all right .

So our kids are mirrors . So if your kid's an asshole , that means you have to take responsibility and accountability for going ahead and growing up . So now for Jesse and I , we're 34 years old . Well , guess what ? If we're still assholes , I fucking feel like 10 . We need to go ahead . Well , okay , that's important because a lot of us don't actually grow up .

We don't have rights of passage in this society any longer . We don't have a moment that initiates us into manhood , so we still I'm not saying you have boy energy , but a lot of us do , but a lot of a lot of us don't go through the prince to king transition , we don't become a man .

We've got a lot of grown boys out in this world right now and because they're just wounded , they hurt , they don't know how to initiate themselves . We don't have strong male role model leadership in this country . We don't have male role models that are telling us how to live and then also what we can do to go ahead and initiate ourselves .

And hey , son , you are now a man . That's an important transformation for a son to go through , and that didn't exist for me . So my own initiation never my own and I see you're emotional . Yeah , no 100 , because I think I I completely understand , and my own initiation was my parents separation and divorce .

I was a boy , my my wife didn't know she was going to be able to marry me because I was such a boy . Because , of boundary issues with my parents .

They were doing nothing wrong . This was all on me .

So you can't do any of this without vitality .

We get it now that's the whole , that's that's like we're coming to the end , like , and that's really just we , we hit home right there because , damn , dude , you really hit up , you , you , you definitely hit home because I , that's the thing I think right now I'm doing that transition myself and it's like really tough because , like , if you were like whoa well ,

you often like , dude , this is sick , like yeah , I did this all by myself , dude , like I don't know how to use a screwdriver well , I want you , I want you to know I did . I had a lot

. I don't learn any fucking like , do I nail something or screw it ? Like , why does wood crack ? Like , why can't I just screw ? Why can't I just put a screw right in ? Why do I have to pre-drill something ? I had to buy my own drill . Like I was never allowed to like , like if I had a saw something or something like that .

Like that , like yo , dad , because I have to go to storage grab a saw shit . Like dad , can you just saw this for me , even if I live somewhere else , like I was living on my own , I'd come yo , dad , you will fucking cut this shit for me .

Never did anything like this by myself and like I just I really was just had to step up and like because they're getting older and they can't do the things that they used to do . And I'm seeing that now and I'm seeing , like you know , like the eye , their visions going .

You know stuff's going and they can't , they're , they can't see the little things , even in a bigger perspective .

Your overarching belief , that's underneath things , is I have to try , I have to do this .

When I was going through my career transition , I was afraid of fear of failure , like what are people gonna look miles is a dentist .

I'm more afraid of getting to the end and saying I'm filled with regret because I didn't go ahead and live my life than I am with someone else that we went to high school with , looking at me saying what the f ?

I was like , just like I want to be talk to someone every week and just do something . You know , and I couldn't . I was working on it . I'm still working on the ep . It's about to be , you know , mixed and mastered when it drops , and I , but I was like I want to find another way . I was like I , I could do other stuff besides music .

You know , I was like I don't want to learn new things , I want to like , but what can I do that can incorporate everything ?

And then he showed me Serial , which actually turned into an HBO .

Like what the fuck am I going to listen ? Just listen to something , and it has no video . To me , a podcast is audio . That's what a podcast is to me . It's , bernie , you know .

Podcast it's to me because , bernie , you know what I mean when you say , when you say , oh , yeah , I'm doing a podcast , that means to me , yeah , I'm shooting some , I'm shooting audio and then the video part is just separate , like , yeah , I got a youtube video up on , you know , that's it .

So bernie introduced me to all this and I was listening to this guy who was telling his story and I never people know him and he's from Jersey and Joey Diaz and he's funny as hell and he reminds me a lot of he reminded me a lot of myself and his story was very similar , but he's besides music , it was comedy and he said that he was too he .

He was funny but he too vulgar , he cursed too much , he did this too much , or you know , he , he was a certain way we showed up late or like certain things , and he had to find a different path and but he's good at telling stories .

So he said once he went on , joe rogan did the podcast , or doing podcasts like he found a different avenue and that avenue opened up stand-up comedy again for him . He was able to go back out and then he figured out what really did work for him in stand-up and I was like you know what ?

Let me figure like , take a different path and I audio still involved . You know , I've always wanted to learn how to shoot video . We're doing that and I'm literally I'm hopefully this works . Um , we'll find out . Yeah , we'll find out . Um , but yeah , like I'm , I'm just want to learn new things and that was that's . That's the whole point right now .

It's like I want to sit down next to people old and new that haven't seen him , no more and different things than me and just try to gain more knowledge and hopefully change for the better . Yeah .

You lit I'm gonna send you something listen to on the way home gymnasium on a fire . You had 500 people singing with him . I'd never been right , wasn't it ? You wasn't it . I had so many . Never been more proud of someone other than me . Thank you so much , dude . At a young age before I was like living through Jesse . It was unbelievable .

But the reason I'm bringing it up is you have the qualities . If you look at your authentic expression of self and who you were as a child , podcasting represents a lot of those qualities . It's a really natural fit for you and that's part of helping people rediscover like what are the qualities underneath the activities that you used to do as a kid ?

Like people like , well , I just played sports and I chased girls ? I'm like , yeah , but like , what sports did you play ? Oh , well , I played this . Is this all right cool ? Well , there's some teamwork aspect . Like did you play board games ? Yeah , well , okay , did you like the stories ? Like were you watching fantasy stories ? Like did you read novels ?

And so I just wanted to shout out your podcast too , because I'm , you know I need help . This is what it's for the show's . Jesse needs help , you know . So every week I'm gonna get some help . So , uh , yeah , so like , can you give us some , like , fucking tell us what this podcast about ? You know ?

Let us know , uh , it's called what's , uh , what's podcast called radical collective right , yeah , yeah , it's called how many of you ?

So we've all worked with her at different points in time and then , just kind of like , the universe kind of brought us together and this was about january of this year and once we came kind of came together , it was just initially a friendship and we just kind of met every sunday night and kind of talked about life .

And then eventually this june we were like , hey , you know what we need to kind of like share these conversations with people because there's a lot of power here . And then we just created a community . We created the podcast .

We've got a container with four men in it that paid a substantial amount of money , you know , to be in it , but we've got a community of 65 men and it's been a lot of fun .

So these are words , but basically what they mean is we're taking you down , like if revelation is , you experience the call , you have an awakening like 2020 , something like that for us . You hear the call , you answer the call , the hero's journey right , you got all these fantasy books . So revelation is the beginning of the hero's journey .

You answer the call , then you take responsibility for all the areas in your life where you've got energy leaks , where are you having addictive tendencies , where are the holes that you need to plug . So you take responsibility and we got one guy , mitch , who does all the responsibility work . And then , once your holes are plugged , you dive into resourcing .

Resourcing is all vitality . You think I know a lot about vitality . You should go talk to my man , colin . Colin is like the vitality God , so he's the resourcing guy .

And I'm the realization guy , so I help people understand who they are , so I get them to the root of the authenticity , the values and really showing up as your full self in the world . Now that you're kind of showing up as you , then you get hit with real life . So here's real life . How do you react ? So that's refinement .

So you're constantly making refinements . That's our guy , steve . And then lastly , sam , who is out in hawaii . He's the , he's the renewal guy . We're , we're across the country . That's awesome dude . One in ohio , one in hawaii , one in puerto rico , one in florida and then me in new jersey that's awesome .

A couple of times they're maybe a little rude , like hey , that's so weird . But more times than not I'd be like hey , like I really admire what you got going on , like I'd love to talk to you , and then , more times than not , they're like very happy to share . And I found men . I got introduced to men's work that way four years ago .

So my original leader of my men's group , his name , was Dominic Cortuccio . Like that's how I met , dom . So then I got into men's work to feel your feelings , talk about your feelings , all these things .

As soon as we so that's all stuff I learned you know , how to make somebody comfortable , how to help hold an open space , allow someone to be vulnerable without judging them . That's huge . Just sharing from the heart , get them connected out of the head and get into the heart All this stuff is stuff I learned .

I would actually prefer you to stop crying , because now it's bringing up things in me that I don't want to confront . Yeah , that's what it

is . So I got exposed to men's work but even my dental mentors I found all through messaging , and that was part of the catalyst of how our business tripled Our .

So all this personal growth in my life has been a result of me being in the right environment and finding the right people to learn from and also realizing that it wasn't my business that had to be focused on . It was actually me that had to be focused on .

So the more I grew , the more the business grew , instead of the more the business grew , the more I would grow .

Dude , like every day , and sometimes I'll get it Like I think I got it all like figured out and it's just that that super glue is like really , really tight and it just keeps pulling me back and I'm trying to get out and that's the fucking whole point .

So I , I it's a beautiful thing what you're doing and I think like their story in general is just awesome , like bro and like honestly , I think that kind of in high school , because we did , we grew apart , me and you like me , me in high school . Like I'm not afraid to say that like I became like like a different person in middle school .

I was like they had this like asshole phase and like I separated myself because , like I want , like I , I I put myself around the people that I shouldn't have . I surrounded myself with like two or three good people and the other people were just like fillers but bad fillers , you know .

But you put yourself around the right people , you know , and like I always admired that too , like , oh afterwards , like when I realized , like in high school and stuff like that , like I never looked down on him . I always was like , yeah , I wish I was like still talking to Miles . Like you know , I wish I was still .

He's like , damn , he looks good , you know he's fucking killing it , because I know I always I wasn't the kind of person that was like you know , like , oh , the , the , the person that's the smartest is like you don't , don't be an asshole to him , because , like they're gonna be , like there's the ones that are gonna run the companies .

Like I knew that , like I was told that I know , I knew that the people that fucking were the smart ones . I knew the people that like , like , had their shit together were to wind up having a good rest of your life , because high school is only four years . There's a lot of life left to live after that .

So I just got lucky that I got exposed to some things that helped me start learning how to think for myself . But when you go through this mindset shift as well , you're now not looking externally for something that's gonna make your life better .

You're now actually going internal , and the more internal you go , then now your external world is going to reflect that . So the better you are doing internally , the better your external world is . So if you ever look around and your life is in chaos , I know , I know that I fucking know it Miles , but how ?

So the more you can get connected to the self and understand who you are and start to charge yourself up and get resourced in a very vitalistic way , the more you'll bring your body back online . I had a client the other day .

He was like I feel like the light has been turned on for the first time in my life and when I spoke to him he said like you literally turned me on and he started making a joke . He was like Miles Santo coaching I'll turn you on .

So once you shed the layers now , all of a sudden you can start having the freedom to go ahead and think well , all right , but if you're limited by your resources right and your external , your outside environment , like what do you do ? Grounding is free , looking at the sun is free , going to the beach and putting your feet in the sand is free .

You get all those negative electric ions that are going to charge up your body . There's a lot of things you can do to get connected to nature . It's totally free . So I'm not trying to sound like a hippie here .

But if there are ways that you can start to mitigate the negative effects of how others are living and you can actually just start focusing on how you're living Now , that's going to bring back a little bit more control for you .

So , for instance , like if you're you know you want to help eliminate some blue light , but like you're at work , like you can wear your blue light blockers , or you can also . They're glasses . Really , yeah , blue light blockers , they're glasses that you wear on your face and it's going to help block the blue light .

What I'm going to tell you to do instead is start to get in line with who you really are , and there's certain things you can do immediately to go ahead and help bring yourself back online and gain some clarity .

So once we gain some clarity , then you're going to have a lot more confidence making decisions moving forward that are going to be more in line with your design . That's really the whole point .

How you built . That is incredible , by the way . Like god bless you . And like smart , like I mean , I've done , I did that and it's like crazy , it's so true . I've messaged big jay oakerson when , when we were here , when we , just three , four months into the podcast , he responded he's like bro , do you do skype calls ?

I don't know how to do , but I was like , yeah , I don't know how to do it , but I said yeah , and he , but like he never got back to me after that .

But the fact that he got back to me , right , like you know what I mean , he has so much going on now that I understand that he's on like seven different podcasts , like every day he's on another pocket . Well , yeah , and he's from jersey .

But , like I gave , I wrote a nice message , like you said , and like I said , I admire you , I'm from jersey , I went to prison , I have your stories like very similar to mine , I'm a musician , um , I'm new to com , like the comedy podcast world , and like I would love to , you know , sit down and talk with you and , yeah , you do skype .

I was like holy , wow , it really works . Like , so I , yeah , I , the messaging thing is is really , I think , a lot more powerful . Or like just reaching out , I think that's it , the messaging . I would say I hate the fucking messaging . Reaching out , like you know , talking to people , my mom always gets mad at me if I go out with her and we're online .

I'll talk to the people online with me all the time and she's like , why do you have to have a conversation with everybody that's around you ? Because that's what life is . Isn't that what you're supposed to do ? Like I , I thought that's how we were raised . Like I thought that's what all life is is meeting people .

No , you know , you know you have any experiences . Yeah , yeah , so I don't know . I just , uh , I think it's a beautiful thing what you guys are doing and , uh , I definitely need some help . So , anyone else that's out there , you know , reach out , my man , I'll put his uh , I'll put his uh socials on the bottom . You'll see him right now .

You'll throw him up on the page and , uh , yeah , give him a shout , give him a look . You know , take a look . Yeah , I guarantee , bro , he's already helped me . He's only been here for an hour or two hours and he's already put me through a , a crying session and a laugh session . So , miles , bro , you brought back so many memories .

Thank you for being here . You know , like , hopefully maybe I can come see what you guys are doing , do a little Skype , tell me how to do it , you know , and I can help you out with what you got going on over at your spot .

So anything you need , I'm here too , and maybe Anything you need , I'm here too , and maybe we can keep going and doing something . Figure something out .

with you .