Mid-Week Mom Chat: Birth Control.

who've had a C section. But my gynecologists recommended that we definitely went a year just so my body can completely heal because with a C section, they like literally, I mean, I know everyone knows this, but cut you open, cut your uterus open, and that has to heal back up. The scar tissue has to get healed, and everything's got to get good and tight again. So I'm not trying to get pregnant anytime soon because I just don't want.

I don't know, I mean, I'm just scared, like my guts would rip open or something if I got pregnant. It would hurt me, I'd lose the baby, all the things. Of course, I'm going down a rabbit hole. I have no idea if that would happen, and I'm sure I could get pregnant right now. It probably would be fine. But I'm just following my gynecologist what she recommended because that makes a lot of sense to me. So because of that, I will not be I don't want to

be getting pregnant. So that means I need to get on birth control because a year of pulling and praying and all that like that, just, um, that's not gonna work for me in my current situation. If I hadn't had had if I hadn't had how do I say this, hadn't had had a c section? Say that six times fast.

If I hadn't had a c section and I had had a bad general birth, I would not get on birth control because Michael and I most likely want to have another child, and I'm thirty six years old and so it's not like I'm getting any younger and times of the essence to have a baby. So I probably would not get on birth control if I had had a vaginal birth. But since that's not our situation, I am so I have been on a lot of different birth controls. I was on the pill forever, and that

was fine. It's just like, you have to take a pill every single day, and if you miss a pill, then you have this chance of getting pregnant, and then you have to take like two pills the next day. You have to take it at the exact same time every single day. And some people will crush at that and they're doing great. For me, that just feels like a lot to remember, especially right now where I'm just

in the big middle of newborn phase. The last thing I want to have to think about is taking a birth control pill and if I miss it then I could get pregnant. Like so that just feels too stressful for me. So that's out not doing the pill. Um. I've done the new ver ring before, and I actually really liked the new ring. That's the one that you put in vaginally and it's just like a ring that you put in vaginally, and I did that for years.

I thought the new ring was awesome, Okay, but then there was a big negative side effect of the new ring for me, and it gave me malasma. And I don't know if that happens for everyone, but for me, it gave me malasmas. So I ended up getting really dark um like stained skin under my eyes and on my lips, so it looks like I had just like a mustache in like a dirty face, and it was not fun. I could not get it off. I had

to do like chemical peels to get it off. I end up getting off the new ring and it just did. The malasma was too big of a side effect for me to not enjoy that at all. But I did really like the new ring, So that was something that um that would be the one that I would recommend with hormone is in it just as far as convenience, because you put it in once a month, you change it every month, and it's just like set it and forget it. So I really liked that one, but not

the elasma. So then I moved on to an i U D. The last type of birth control I got before getting pregnant was an iu D, and I just I'm already emotional enough without hormones extra hormones being added

to my life. So I really thought the paraguard was a great option for me because it's just a copper I U D and the copper makes the sperm and the egg um repel like it doesn't let them come together, so it's like oil and water, so there's no hormones and it's been around forever and so to me that felt like a really great and so I got that put in probably I don't know, five years ago, and I had it for like five years or maybe like six years ago and I had it for like five

years because it lasts for ten years, which is also another thing that's awesome. You put it in and it lasts for another The last for ten years. And there's some MutS like the Marina, and I don't know what other kinds are there are, but they have like some hormones in them. I didn't want one with hormones. I won one with no hormones, and so I had the paragraph for like five years. The first six months I had the paraguard Um, I had really heavy periods. I

had a lot of spotting. It was painful, like it definitely hurt, and that was a negative side effect. But over time it stopped hurting and it was great and it was just so easy to have. So I really liked that. So yesterday I went back to my guy No and I got the guard put in again, and I was really nervous because when I got it put in the first time, like six years ago, it hurt like a mother to get it inserted, like literally hurt so badly, and then I was like, had terrible cramps afterwards.

I literally had to take the day off and just give in to my pain and just like lay down take a bath because it was so painful. So I was really nervous and preparing for a lot of pain and cramps and all of that. But I have to say, maybe it's because my uterus has been stretched out five thousand times bigger than it was before, or I have no idea what. But it was a little sore, like it hurt a little bit when she um put the clamp into like I guess insert the paraguard. But after

that it was great. It was so easy, Like I didn't have any cramping afterwards. There's a little bleeding afterwards. But like now I've had it, I guess a day or two. I can't remember remember when I got it. I think I got it yesterday, maybe the day before. Um, and it's been great. I haven't had any negative side effects, so I'm like, woo hoo, this is awesome. UM. So I have to say from my experience, the birth control that I personally like is the Paraguard. That is just

my experience. I am sure some people out there hate the Paraguard because it does cause cramping and pain and there are side effects. I mean, okay, yesterday I forgot I did have a little bit of traveling pain like

I had. I would get like a sharp, a sharp shooting pain, and different parts of my body, like my lower right growing area, I had a sharp shooting pain and then like transferred to my other side and it kind of like traveled around my body for a little while, but it wasn't anything bad, and it just lasted for like a few hours and then I was going. So overall, I'm gonna say I really liked the Paraguard and I really like it now, and this experience has been even

better than the first time I got it. So if you're asking me what my opinion on birth control is UM, especially after you've had a baby and you're not trying to have another baby, I think a lot. I think the pool and pray method works for sure if you don't care about getting pregnant again and you've that and you vaginally um birth to your child and it's safe for you to get pregnant, and say you did get pregnant, you you'd be fine for me with a C section.

I just feel like, um, it wasn't safe for me. Not too And let's be real, he wants to use condoms every time, not us, So sorry, husband happy kind of talking about her sex l but not really just vaguely talking about birth control. So the paraguard is the winner, winner, chicken dinner for me. So that is my thoughts on it. So I'm gonna answer some of y'all's questions because a lot of you'll have questions about birth control. Shocking opinion

on birth control pills while breastfeeding. Okay, that's another thing i've heard. Another reason I'm do you ask that question? Another reason why I did not want to get on a pill because I don't want to take one every day and I don't want hormones. But also I have heard that taking a birth control pill does affect your

breasts milk supply and it decreases it. So I don't want to do anything to mess with my milk supply because my milk supply is awesome, and I'm really I'm navigating breastfeeding I'm trying to figure out my pumping to breastfeeding ratio, but my milk supply is awesome and I'm not trying to mess with that, so i don't want anything to interfere with that. So that's another reason why I would not want to get on the birth control pill. Um.

Someone says, I don't trust the withdrawal method. That's how I got prego with my son exactly. UM, I'm not saying it doesn't work, but you are playing with fire when you are pulling a praying and so I think that, Um, that is definitely not a method I want to trust. Another Sorry t m I any. I mean, if you're a guy listening to this, bless you, because I mean this is some straight woman talk. Right now, I'm gonna tell you another little trick, um that I have figured

out when I was trying to get pregnant. The guys, I'm sorry, if you're listening to this, shut your ears because this is gonna gross you out. This is for my women out there who are seriously wanting to know about birth control and ovulation and babies and all all things having to do with this. Okay, So I warned you guys. Um, ladies, you can tell when you're ovulating

because of your discharge. I don't know if you knew that, but you definitely can't like if it is so I can't believe I'm gonna talk about this, but this is real live talk. If it is like white and pasty, that means that you are getting your ovulations coming, it's getting closer. If it starts getting like clear and stretchy, but it's still got white pasted in ovulations coming coming and getting closer, you're probably a day or two away. And once it is clear and like slimy and really stretchy,

that pretty much means you're ovulating. So that's another way to just check your ovulation. I don't know if that happens when you're breastfeeding, because you don't really have a period when you're breastfeeding. So I have no idea if that discharge method works to tell when you're ovulating. But I do know that that has um been dead on

for me. I mean, I'm not a doctor, so don't don't like quote me on that, but I have looked it up and I have like read about that, and um for me personally, I would when I was taking the ovulation kits. Like when I was peeing on those sticks, it always matched my discharge. So like when you get the flashing smiley face and your ovulation kit, that meant that you're getting close to ovulating, and my discharge would be like like clear and stretchy with white pace in it. Okay,

I'm sorry this is gross to talk about. I know, but I told you guys, it's your own fault if you're listening, and the same thing when I was emulating, it would be that like stretchy clear kind So I'm sorry if that's too am I. But my podcast is called Get Real, right, so I'm trying to get real with you guys anyway. So there's that. Um let's see, I just got an I U D and the verdict

is out if I like it or not. Okay. Well, and that's so true because it's there are side effects of the I D. I know it can cause a lot of cramping and heavy periods and I don't know what else, but I have experienced cramping and heavy periods with it so far. I'm having a great experience round two with my paraguard. But yeah, it's definitely that is a side effect. Not about birth control. But please do a chat on breastfeeding. Okay, I'll talk more about breastfeeding.

I'm still navigating breastfeeding. The only thing that's going that it's going consistent for me is that I'm having a really solid milk supply, and I'm very thankful for that. I'm still figuring out how to feed if I want to feed her bottles with breast milk in it, or if I breastfeed. What I kind of am landing on right now is I give her about half of her feedings just bottles, And right now she's eating five ounces five to six ounces each feeding, and I like to

give her a bottle of it. In that way, Michael can feed her also and I don't have to be the only one feeding her, which is really nice and helpful, so he can take some of the shifts um. And then when I do breastfeed her, I always like to top her off with a bottle because she'll only eat about ten minutes on on my boob, and then after that she's like done and I can't get her to nurse anymore, and so I'll get a bottle. She likes it warm. Oh my gosh, Sunny likes a warm bottle.

She will not take cold milk, no, sir, ree. She wants a warm bottle, and I'll heat her up a bottle and okay, I have something in my throw. I might have to get up and get some water unless I can just swallow and make this tickle go away. Um. Okay, she looks a warm bottle, and so I will top her off with like two or three ounces. I just breastfed her this last feeding, and she ate for like ten minutes, and I figured, like normally when she does it, I've been able to measure it because I like pump.

I pumped right after I fed her before, and on a full boob, I get like six seven ounces, like full boob when I haven't nursed her fed in like five six hours, which is probably going too long. Off of that boob, um, I'll have like six or seven ounces in it. And so I've pumped before after she's eaten, and I'll get like three ounces out of it. So that lets me know that she eats about two to three ounces when she breastfeeds on me, which is not near enough. So I will put like three ounces in

a bottle and top her off with that. So I just fed her, nursed her, and she ate for ten minutes, and I thought, okay, she probably got like three ounces. I'll give her three ounces. That's air on the more. That's giving her more than she's gonna need, is what I thought. And she ate three ounces from the bottle, and then I gave her another ounce and she had another ounce, so she ate four ounces plus eating on

my eating breast nursing for ten minutes. So I have no idea how much she's getting breastfeeding, but the fact that she eat four ounces after eating um breastfeeding, I was like, okay, you know, I'm just it's I'm glad I'm topping her off because I do not want her to be hungry. So that's kind of what I'm doing, feeding her bottles with five to six ounces in it each feeding, and then breastfeeding her probably two or three of the times, and then topping her off with a

bottle for now. That's what I'm doing. UM. I am subject to change because it is a working project progress and every day is different. I'm so glad you're doing this. I'm set up to getting an I U D soon and I'm nervous. I get it. I was really nervous. Actually, this last time I went to my guy that I was sort of almost had a little panic attack because I was like, oh my god, it's gonna hurt so bad. I mean, I've just had a C section, mind you, but I was completely numb, so I didn't feel it.

But um, it did hurt. I mean it hurts. It's not I'm not gonna lie. There's some pain involved, but it's mine's worth it. Um Someone said Marina at last five years, sadly, I'm about to retire my second one ten years. No periods Oh, I guess the Morina, you don't have a period? Weird? Okay, well, I guess if you don't want to, if you don't want to have a period, then that's a good thing. I kind of like having a period. I don't know. I just feel like it's like it's natural and like you need to

have a period every month. But that's just my opinion. I have no backing. I don't know why I feel that way. I have nothing to back that, and I'm sure it's probably awesome not to have a period, so I would look into that. Ladies, if you're wanting to not to have a period. Um, No, hate just don't believe in birth control. I totally get that. You know, like, there's a lot of reasons not to believe in birth control, religious religion, reasons, religious reasons, um, personal reasons, whatever your

reasons are. I totally get it and support that. And you know you've got to do you so amen to that. UM. I had twins by c section. They were five months old, I found out I was pregnant with another set of twins. Okay, so I guess you can get pregnant. She's five. She had twins by c section and then five months later pregnant with another set of twins. So I'm guessing you can get pregnant before a year after a C section. According to this person, Wow, two sets of twins, go mama.

Oh my gosh, I hope you live in your family because you need help. That is a lot of babies. Oh my gosh, God bless you seriously. That's amazing. UM. New Ring rocks not as intense as an I dy, but I don't have to take a pill every day. I totally am with you on that. If I was gonna do a hormonal birth control, I would do the New Ring except for the melasma that. I did not enjoy that, but that was I agree. New ring was easy. It was great. I didn't have to think about it.

Would you go back on birth control until you try to have another baby? Yep, I just did. I have a paraguard, so I would totally do that. Um. Yes, So wonder how they affect me the pill hormonally? The pill made me crazy. The pill made me crazy, you know. I think the hormones kind of affected me and made me a little crazy too. I mean, I don't know. I could have just been crazy because it was in

my twenties, and I mean, who knows. I think, at least for me, I was definitely figuring out life hardcore in my twenties, so maybe I was just crazy in my head already. But I do think hormones can affect you for sure. I mean I know how they affected me after I had Sunny, when I was losing all my pregnancy hormones. I mean that was a major hormonal swing. So hormones definitely can affect you. PHO show um, go for it, go for birth control. Breastfeeding is not birth control.

That's how my second oldest came along. Um let's see what she said. I work in an ob ga in and so many women get pregnant by not going on something. And that's the thing I mean, I think. I think it's totally cool. If you're okay with like getting pregnant again, that's great. But if you don't want to get pregnant again, you're super hormonal. I mean super hormonal, yes, but you're

super super fertile. After you have a baby, Like I think, you are so much more fertile, and you can get pregnant so much more easy, easier because your body is like, oh, we know how to do this, this is what we're used to, and you can just get pregnant really fast. So you just gotta be real careful. Marina is the

queen of birth control. Okay, that's that same iu D that that one person said did not give them a period, So check that out if you guys are interested in not having a period and having an io d. Um. I love my io D. I'm so ready. That's someone said, I love my io DI. I agree, I love my io D. Also, I'm so ready for anything but the pill. It's making my face discolored melasma. Yes, I am with you, girl.

The hormones made my face discolored and gave me a mill asthma, and I was just not into that at all. Like I know, I feel you, So I mean my recommendation. Of course, I'm not a doctor, and you need everyone needs to go do their own research and make this decision for yourself. I'm just giving you my opinions that are based on nothing other than my experience. I have no medical training. I just want to say that for the record. I know everyone knows that, but I don't

want anyone to take this like I'm some professional. This is just my random opinion of someone who has lived through lots of different types of birth control and who is currently not trying to get pregnant after having a baby, So just I want to say that. Um, but I agree the milasma was awful, So there you go. The pill makes me crazy. HUBS doesn't like condoms using spermicidal loose sperm spermicide loop. I've never tried that before. I mean,

I have no idea if that work. But spermicide lou interesting. I think I think I knew that existed. I'd be interested to look that up and see, um, to see if that really does work. But go you if that does, and that's a great solution. Um, have you heard of have you heard of or thought about natural family planning? The only all natural birth control. I don't know exactly what that means. Does that mean that you just follow your ovulation? I would need to look up natural family planning.

I do think, um, learning your when you ovulate, and like following your ovulation cycle is another really good way too to not get pregnant if you aren't wanted to get on birth control, but you just run the risk that you could. You know, it's just not nothing is percent but um, And it's so funny because before I got pregnant, you spend your whole life trying not to

get pregnant. And then when I was wanting to have a baby, when we decided we were ready, you think, oh my gosh, I'll just get pregnant right away, and then you realize it is I mean, some people get pregnant right away, but for a lot of women, including myself, it is so difficult to get pregnant, like really hard, if not impossible in some cases. And it makes me not It made me not want to get on birth control again, because I really do think we probably will

want to have another child. But at this point, just like I've told you on the beginning of this podcast, with like my C section needing to let my body heal, a year is a long time to try to navigate without birth control, and so we're getting on it. But because it was so hard for us to get pregnant, I definitely would not probably have wanted to get on it, just because what if it takes another year for us

to get pregnant. What if we can't get pregnant. You know, I don't want to have anything making it more difficult to get pregnant because it was so hard. So I get that. Um, let's see the pill. Yeah, okay, birth control works for me. Not sure it helps breakouts for me, but no, baby's well on the pill. Yeah, I've been trying to decide which method is best for me. Talk about the mini pill? What is the mini pill? I have no idea what the mini pills? Let's see. I

love this topic. Have you ever looked into the Craton method. I've tried the pill and went crazy. I have no idea what the Craton methods c R E, I, G H, T O N is or the mini pill. I'm gonna look those up, but that sounds interesting for sure. Um So, really, you guys, that is my two cents on birth control. I think that there's a million different ways to go about it. You have to do what's right for you. Of course, you can also just have absence be absent.

How do you say that? Have absence absence? Anyway, you guys, I ramble when I talked by myself and I going on a rabbit hole, so thank you for coming along with me. Sorry, I talked about discharge. That's kind of gross. I can't believe I talked about that. But I mean this is the topic that I'm covering and that is a part of it. So I hope this was helpful, and I hope that you guys are liking my midweek

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