So how do you prioritize self care when you feel like you have zero time or how would you tell someone who feels like they are just busting it don't have any time off? Are like moving a million miles a minute? How can someone prioritize self care in their life? Because I know you are like that is your like self care is. We have to have it. It's so essential for our well being, for everyone, for this world
to thrive, we all need to have self care. So how when some feels like they don't know how to have self care they really have never prioritized it. How do you work that into your life? I would say, um, really, really be specific about the things you want to say yes to and do your practice exercise yes, be okay with saying no, because really, at the end of the day, it's never as big of a deal as you think
it is, do you know what I mean? Like all the good decisions we think we have to make every day, or if you miss this or you missed that event, or it's really not that big of a deal and maybe you missing something means that something bigger is right
around the corner. And I think when you do have moments of downtime because I remember, like when I was younger, if I had moments of downtime and I could just spend the day, you know, being like a sloth, I would get so stressed because I'd be like, I should be doing something, I should be doing something, I should be doing something. And then I when I was busy,
I regretted not taking advantage of those moments. So I would say, even if it feels unnatural to you and you need a day where you just lay on the couch, do it. Do you know what I mean? Do it? Listen to your body. Those moments are really important. Do you have practices that you put in place till I get you in the zone? Yeah? I mean I meditation is really huge. Um. Meditation, I do a lot of Like um, when I say prayer, um, it kind of comes in all different forms, you know what I mean.
I talked to the universe, to goddesses, to angels like whatever I feel called to pray to you in the moment um those things kind of and then also weak. I know this is gonna sound a little silly, but like staying hydrated and eating is so important. You have got to nourish your body. If you don't nourish your body and you think you're gonna go go, go, go go, you are going to crash. Like I feel like some people like that. Intuitive eating is so important to me.
When you're hungry, eat, do you know what I mean? Like, screw what you think about the business, screw what you think about what you're worried about. Your body is amazing. It will tell you when it needs to eat. Eat, you know what I mean. I've seen so many people afraid of honoring that, especially in this industry, like eat, eat eat. How do you navigate the pressures of like having to feel like you have to like keep your body a certain way. Are you finally just done with that?
Are you? Like I am? I am? I mean, look, I'm not going to lie and say that I'm not insecure. Every once in awhile, especially after COVID, I gained, like I gained more weight than I've ever gained in my life, Like a lot of my clothes to fit anymore, and I was like, what the fuck I know? And it's like, especially you and like I've kind of in the same way. It's like you do so much self work and you're
feeling so good about yourself. But then you actually do gain like twenty pounds, You're like, oh my god, I'm a wreck. I'm back in the spiral. Yes, that's for me. Yes, And it's funny, you know, especially now, like being single and thirty eight years old, I'm like, oh my god, but I'm not in great shape. Like what if I want to meet someone, shouldn't it be in the best ship? And I'm like, no, stop it Like, love yourself how you are, and if someone wants to meet you there,
they will meet you there. And if somebody is not going to love you because you're not in the best shape, then you don't want to be with them anyways. Do you imagine having to maintain your body for the love of your partner? Oh my god, Oh my god. Suations like that and they're, oh you have yes, you have been so I see. I think I have always gravitated towards people who are like healthy, but never like perfect physique, because that, to me, that pressure that's too much for me.
I've already had too many eating disorders, cared too much about what I've got. I'm like, how do you deal with maintaining that? Well? I feel like I don't how did you, What was it like? Honestly, I'm really bad at consistently working out, So that's always been my struggle.
When I was younger, I had really great metabolism, and now that I don't have that metabolism driving me anymore, I have to try to find ways to work out, not because of looks, but more because of aches and pains and like, oh my god, I want to be healthy when I'm old. So that mindset switch is really important, Like making the way I eat. Look, I indulge all the time. I love me too bad food, pizza, nachos, you know what I mean. I have a doctor pepper every day I'm trying to quit. I can't do it.
I'm like, but me, it's like that if you switch your mindset to be like, I'm doing this because I want to be healthy, not because I want to look a certain way, that to me is that because when I start working out and eating healthier and this and that, it's I know, my body doesn't change in two days, but I feel better and I feel more confident. And so coming from there, I read have you read um
Women who Run with the Wolves? No, but you're like the third person who has mentioned that late, like, Okay, you have to read it. There is this one chapter that talks basically about bodies, and I will never forget. It impacted me so deeply because it basically said in a nutshell and you have to read it for yourself. Um that when you don't like a part of yourself, it's you telling your ancestors and your future generations that
you don't like parts of them as well. And I was like, I would never look at my grandma and be like, Grandma, I hate your arms, they're too flat me or Mom, I hate your stomach, or you know what I mean. All the things I say, I'd never said it to my child, or my people, or my sisters. So when I say it about me, even if I can't have that wherewithal to say, don't say bad things
about yourself. When I'm saying about me, I'm telling my sisters I don't like because we all have similar bodies, so I'm telling them I don't like how they look, and I think they're beautiful. So that was a really good. So now when I get down on myself, I'm like, oh my god, do I have cellulated on my arms? I'm like, I mean, I have my grandmother's arms, like I would. I love my grandmother's body, So thank you, grandma.
You know what I mean. I try to do that shift, which actually has been the most helpful thing that is profound and beautiful, and I love that because I have cellulite all my stomach and I'm like me do I'm like, oh my god, this is ridiculous. But then I'm also like I'm like, listen, I if I stand naked in front of you, there is a lot of stuff you can I could pick a part, you know, But it's like,
so what, I'm a human. This body has served me so well, and like so thankful to this body and so thankful for all the privilege that I have to have mobility with it and you know, and to have all the functioning parts. Like what a privilege and blessing. I know. Switching your mentality and I totally agree with you. Or do you do that? You catch yourself and like switch it like self talk. I was like, I don't
remember what I was. Oh. I had done a little tiny workout by myself, and I was on a yoga mat in like child's post for a second, and I was feeling not so great and I had this like weird out of body experience where I saw like my soul like up here looking at my body and saying, like, you, she is on loan to me, so nurture her and take care of her, because she's not yours keep, Like this body is not mine to keep. She is literally
on loan to me. And then I almost saw my body as very separate from myself and started going like, oh my god, I'm so sorry. That's so mean to you, Like, and she has been showing up for your body, just showing up for you every day. I show up for you. I gave you a vehicle to move around this world, to travel to to love, to all these experiences, and you're kind of mean to me, Like I was like, oh god. And then it's like and then she's like, when I'm finally not doing what you are asking me
to do, it's because you've broken me. You've worn me down, like you have beat me to a pole. I can't function anymore. Like cut me a break and love me. That is so sweet. I love that. That's a really good visual to think about and just to remember that like this is this body is just housing our soul. Yeah, and we got to take care of it. We got to take care of it. Yeah,