One of the hardest parts of healing from porn addiction is helping the spouse heal from the betrayal and emotional wounds. To do so, they need ways to ground themselves emotionally. In this episode, Joe discusses how they can do so.
It this week's episode, Joe takes a look at common withdrawal symptoms to porn addiction and how to handle them.
In this episode, Joe discusses how to confess a relapse, specifically after a long period of sobriety. In it, he shares specific tips on eating the frog, maintaining a positive sense of self, and more.
In this episode, Joe discusses finding motivation wherever possible to get out of the addiction including engaging in November's 'No Nut November.'
In this episode, Joe examines what each day looks like as an addict, a person just getting sober, a person six months sober, and a person 10 years sober. How is the day structured differently? What sort of things are done each day? How does the day of a man who is 10 years sober differ from the man just getting sober? Each question and more is answered.
Those familiar with the 12-step program will understand outer, middle, and inner circle behaviors. In this episode, Joe defines middle circle behaviors and talks about potential behaviors for porn addicts to avoid. He also discusses microcosms and how the little things in your life tell much bigger stories.
One of the hardest parts about sobriety is rebuilding trust with your significant other after you've been caught or have come clean. In this episode, Joe talks about how to rebuild trust and gives advice to the addict and to the wounded partner.
In this episode, Joe talks about the need to find a positive replacement for porn with the new found time, energy, and money that often accompanies sobriety. It's not enough to just quit porn. Sobriety must come with positive life changes.
In a recent episode, Joe discussed the role of the father in a son's porn addiction. In this episode, Joe examines the role of the mother including struggles with overbearing mothers, how a mom can best support her son, and how the addict must learn to love him or herself.
Our society has created a pendulum for men that swings between the woke fear of "toxic masculinity" and finding our masculinity in our high libido or in things like big trucks and country music. We struggle to know what true masculinity looks like and how it can help us get out of porn. In this episode, Joe takes a look at how pursuing manhood and masculinity can help us better our relationship with ourselves and thus help us find freedom.
We know how important positive attachment with your parents is when it comes to porn addiction, but there's a special importance placed on fathers in particular. In this episode, Joe discusses actions to take if you are the addict who has a poor relationship with your father as well as if you're the father who is looking to help your son.
In your sobriety, it's common for your wife, girlfriend, parents, friends, or others to criticize or fail to believe in your sobriety. This can trigger us to act out if we're not careful. In this episode, Joe discusses how to appropriately handle criticism and stay present with those criticizing your efforts.
It's the age-old question in psychology: Is this problem more due to nature or nurture? In this episode, Joe discusses whether porn addiction and its roots are more due to nature or nurture.
In this episode, Joe talks about the three hydras of recovery and how living intentionally solves each.
In this week's episode, Joe takes a look at some of the best trauma techniques to help you process through your trauma.
What is Big "T" vs. Little "T" trauma? What is complex PTSD? What if I don't have any major traumas and yet I'm still addicted to porn? In this episode, Joe answers all of these questions and more.
In this week's episode, Joe talks about the unforgivable sin pertaining to porn addiction. Your mind might run to horrible types of pornography or certain sexual acts, but it is none of those things. It has to do with the heart.
Joe is back with another episode on eight common myths many believe concerning pornography addiction, especially those in Christianity. Working through these unhelpful myths are key to overcoming the addiction.
In this episode, Joe gives advice to the unmarried porn addict, the unmarried non-addict, and the significant other of a porn addict.
Have you ever known something without actually knowing it? You logically grasp it, but you fail to feel it. In this episode, Joe discusses the disconnect addicts often have between knowing something and failing to feel the truth of it.
In this episode, Joe explains more terms concerning sex addiction including future tripping, recovery, and trauma.
In this episode, Joe looks to define terms that he regularly uses but that some listeners may not understand. What does "Dysregulation" mean or "Foundation"? Those terms and a few more are defined in this part-1 episode.
Is masturbation wrong? This is a common (yet taboo) question among teens and adults alike, especially in Christian circles. Everyone knows porn is wrong, but what about masturbation? In this episode, Joe discusses why it's wrong and what someone can do to get help to stop.
Do you listen to your betrayed spouse when they are triggered or do you find yourself becoming defensive or detaching emotionally? In this episode, Joe discusses attuning to your spouse and truly listening to them in order to understand them.
When discussing addiction, you'll often hear about codependency and how addicts will take advantage of enablers in their life in their codependent marriage and relationships. But what about when an addict is the emotionally available and enabling one? In this episode, Joe discusses how many porn addicts actually seek codependent relationships where they fail to set boundaries with others.
We know porn affects our mental and emotional health, but it also affects us physically. In this episode, Joe looks at pornography addiction's effect on testosterone in men.
The statistics concerning porn use among women are eye-opening. Over 50% of teen girls are seeking out porn at least once a month. In this episode, Joe discusses the stats and why women run to porn.
Why did God create us with a sex drive? What was His purpose for creating sex? Just to have kids? In this episode, Joe takes a look at God's purpose for sex and why pornography use completely distorts that reason for sex.
Therapy can be daunting and anxiety-inducing, especially if you're wondering whether you've chosen the right one. In this episode, Joe gives practical tips to assist you in finding the right therapist to help treat porn addiction.
Have you ever known anyone who heads for the ditch when things are going good? It's almost like they can't stand things being normal or "too good." This happens in addiction quite a bit. In this episode, Joe explores why some addicts self-sabotage and what they can do about it.
