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Gayish Podcast

Featured in Buzzfeed, Oprah Magazine, Esquire, and Queerty, Gayish is an award-winning podcast that breaks down one gay stereotype each week. Mike and Kyle bring humor, honesty, and irreverence to topics like the hanky code, depression, and open relationships. Past guests have included Jinkx Monsoon, YouTuber Davey Wavey, gay porn star Calvin Banks, disability activist Andrew Gurza, a gay priest, a trans atheist, and Mike’s wildly supportive mom.

Episodes

Gayish: 433 Choking: Live in San Francisco

The chicken. On dick. Kinks. There are plenty of ways choking can manifest in our sex lives. Mike and Kyle talk about the history, Urban Dictionary, gayta, Steven Universe, the Heimlich maneuver, autoerotic asphyxiation, and tips for choking in this live show from San Francisco. In this episode: News- 11:05 || Main Topic (Choking)- 18:22 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:23:22 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay ste...

Apr 10, 20252 hr 41 minEp. 433

Gayish: 432 Birthdays

HAPPY 8TH BIRTHDAY TO GAYISH! Mike and Kyle celebrate the podcast’s birthday by talking about birthdays. Fitting, right? In this episode: News- 7:55 || Main Topic (Birthdays)- 15:27 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:12:41 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, you can see our full 2025 live show tour schedule! On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle ...

Apr 03, 20251 hr 20 minEp. 432

Gayish: 431 Bush: Live in Washington, DC

Bush. Yes, that bush. And that Bush. And a few other bushes you may not even be thinking about. Mike and Kyle talk all things bush live from Washington, DC. In this episode: News- 7:31 || Main Topic (Bush)- 17:53 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:16:55 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, you can see our full 2025 live show tour schedule! On t...

Mar 27, 20252 hr 31 minEp. 431

Gayish: 430 Height

We must be wuthering because we’re talking about heights! Mike and Kyle talk about height and penis size, height of gays vs. straights, the phrase “height-weight proportionate,” and more in this tall-boy sized episode. In this episode: News- 6:11 || Main Topic (Height)- 18:29 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:22:23 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that sa...

Mar 20, 20252 hr 30 minEp. 430

Gayish: 429 Gang Bangs: Live in Chicago

How many people is needed to make it a gang bang? What’s the difference between a gang bang and an orgy? Should you hire a coordinator? Or a DJ? Or catering? Have Mike or Kyle ever been in one? We answer all the questions and more, live from Chicago. In this episode: News- 7:03 || Main Topic (Gang Bangs)- 14:36 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:20:16 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs ...

Mar 13, 20252 hr 32 minEp. 429

Gayish: 428 Age Gaps

Half your age plus seven? What age gap is too big for a relationship? Are age gaps more common in gay relationships? Mike and Kyle explore the history, terminology, judgement, and personal experience with age gap relationships. In this episode: News- 4:23 || Main Topic (Age Gaps)- 17:02 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:25:35 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee....

Mar 06, 20252 hr 34 minEp. 428

Gayish: 427 Coke: Live in Atlanta

We’re talking coke, both -a-cola and -caine, on this live show from Atlanta! Mike and Kyle cover the origins of Coke, the stereotypes of Jack and Coke, the issue of cocaine in the gay community, and more. In this episode: News- 7:41 || Main Topic (Coke)- 15:35 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:13:30 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, you can...

Feb 27, 20251 hr 25 minEp. 427

Gayish: 426 Rome

…if you want to. In this Patreon-requested episode, Mike and Kyle talk about the history of Rome, ancient Roman words that mean gay, Roman emperors, and Vatican City, all to uncover just how gay Rome really is. In this episode: News- 3:44 || Main Topic (Rome)- 15:14 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:11:14 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, y...

Feb 20, 20251 hr 17 minEp. 426

Gayish: 425 Meth

Oh, what a meth we’ve made. Kyle gets personal as he and Mike talk about meth use within the gay community. In this episode: News- 9:46 || Main Topic (Meth)- 20:29 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:17:56 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, you can see our full 2025 live show tour schedule! On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle shares with Mike a...

Feb 13, 20251 hr 25 minEp. 425

Gayish: 424 Barbra Streisand

As Duck Sauce said…. mmm cha mmm cha mmm cha mmm… Barbra Streisand. In this episode: News- 2:41 || Main Topic (Barbra Streisand)- 14:00 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:05:56 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, available right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same link, you can see our full 2025 live show tour schedule! On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle shares with Mike more info on the Streisand ef...

Feb 06, 20251 hr 13 minEp. 424

Gayish: 423 Dieting

There are heavy (or light) expectations placed on gay men’s bodies, and dieting is one of the ways we use to strive towards our goals. But is it healthy? Mike and Kyle talk about their experiences with dieting and body image. In this episode: News- 3:52 || Main Topic (Dieting)- 15:57 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:12:41 Buy our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. At that same...

Jan 30, 20251 hr 21 minEp. 423

Gayish: 422 Books

What’s the first gay book? What’s the latest on gay book bans? Which books pass the Vito Russo test? All this, plus a heavy amount of self-promotion, are covered on this episode on books. (There are some audio issues on Kyle’s side, but not too much to make it unlistenable. Sorry in advance.) In this episode: News- 3:43 || Main Topic (Books)- 20:15 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:17:33 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one ...

Jan 23, 20252 hr 34 minEp. 422

Gayish: 421 Sniffies

Sniffies has emerged as a major competitor to Grindr, but what is it all about? Where did the name Sniffies come from? What’s the difference between Sniffies and Grindr, Scruff, and other platforms? Mike and Kyle sniff out the fun and talk about their experiences with Sniffies. In this episode: News- 3:33 || Main Topic (Sniffies)- 19:09 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:20:45 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereoty...

Jan 16, 20252 hr 32 minEp. 421

Gayish: 420 Two-Spirit (w/ Rebecca Nagle)

What does “two-spirit” mean? Two-spirit guest Rebecca Nagle joins us to talk about her experience, the Cherokee language, coming out, and more. In this episode: News- 6:21 || Main Topic (Two-Spirit)- 17:58 || Guest (Rebecca Nagle)- 21:32 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:01:06 To get more from Rebecca Nagle, listen to her podcast This Land and read her book By The Fire We Carry . You can also follow on X , BlueSky , or Instagram @rebeccanagle. Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now a...

Jan 09, 20251 hr 8 minEp. 420

Gayish: 419 Walking Fast

The idea that gays walk fast came around as part of a new wave of gay stereotypes. But is it really new? Mike and Kyle dig into the history, the walking speeds, Reddit, and even the Olympics to figure out where this stereotype came from. In this episode: News- 2:14 || Main Topic (Walking Fast)- 13:05 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:00:15 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to ic...

Jan 02, 20251 hr 16 minEp. 419

Gayish: 418 Roller Derby

How lesbionic is roller derby? We’ve got the gayta to quantify it. Mike John-stun and Kyle Getz-her are ‘bout to circle the track with this jam. In this episode: News- 2:23 || Main Topic (Roller Derby)- 14:37 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:08:30 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. On the Patreon bonus segment, Mike talks about Roller Derby: The Musical. If you w...

Dec 26, 20241 hr 19 minEp. 418

Gayish: 417 Misogyny

Is the gay community misogynistic? All the way back to Adam and Eve, women have been treated as if they’re the reason for the downfall of society. Mike and Kyle talk about gay men’s relationship with misogyny, the path from misogyny to homophobia, misogyny on Urban Dictionary, drag queens, and incels. Plus, Mike announces the winner of the Dickbag Fuckface Asshole Award for 2024. In this episode: News- 4:44 || Main Topic (Misogyny)- 18:42 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:23:40 Pre-order our book, ...

Dec 19, 20242 hr 34 minEp. 417

Gayish: 416 Blacksmiths

Blacksmiths are kinda hot, right? But are they gay, too? Mike and Kyle delve into Urban Dictionary, InclusiveBlacksmiths.com, The Simpsons, Reddit, and more to try to find the answer. In this episode: News- 2:34 || Main Topic (Blacksmiths)- 13:53 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:01:52 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. On the Patreon bonus segment, Mike talks abo...

Dec 12, 20241 hr 9 minEp. 416

Gayish: 415 Interior Decorating

Gays are supposed to be experts at interior decorating, but does that stereotype hold true for everyone? Is it a helpful stereotype because it’s a positive one? Mike and Kyle break down their own failures as gay men given their lack of skill in the interior decorating department. In this episode: News- 9:48 || Main Topic (Interior Decorating)- 17:58 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:07:36 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one...

Dec 05, 20241 hr 18 minEp. 415

Gayish: 414 Humanism (w/ Sarah Ray)

What even is humanism? Along with guest co-host Sarah Ray, Kyle defines humanism, and then talks about its gay history, its overlap with religion, the gayta, and humanism’s support for LGBT people. In this episode: News- 1:43 || Main Topic (Humanism)- 14:06 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:07:35 Learn more about Sarah Ray at callmesarah.com, and take a listen to Humanist Trek (humanisttrek.com) on your favorite podcatcher. Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast....

Nov 28, 20241 hr 17 minEp. 414

Gayish: 413 Japan

Producer Derek joins as a guest co-host to talk with Kyle about the (gay) history of Japan, LGBT acceptance in Japan, geishas, gay Japanese dating show The Boyfriend, and more! In this episode: News- 2:33 || Main Topic (Japan)- 13:07 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:03:17 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. On the Patreon bonus segment, Derek shares some of the cu...

Nov 21, 20241 hr 11 minEp. 413

Gayish: 412 Funerals

This episode is to die for! Mike and Kyle talk about the gayest funeral traditions, gay people’s experience with funerals and bereavement, funerals during AIDS, our personal funeral wishes, and Elton John. Lots about Elton John. In this episode: News- 2:38 || Main Topic (Funerals)- 12:26 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:03:17 Pre-order our book, You’re Probably Gayish, right now at www.gayishpodcast.com/book ! Each chapter dissects one gay stereotype ranging from drugs to gaydar to iced coffee. On...

Nov 14, 20241 hr 14 minEp. 412

Gayish: 411 Crochet (w/ Crochet Me Zaddy)

Zac Doar, aka Crochet Me Zaddy, joins us to talk about his experience crafting as a male in a female-dominated space, how his gay identity plays into crochet, and what he loves about crochet. In this episode: News- 3:14 || Main Topic (Crochet)- 15:54 || Guest (Zac Doar)- 18:32 || Gayest & Straightest- 56:00 On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle and Mike discuss an Ask Reddit where a straight 18-year-old guy decides he wants to crochet. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episo...

Nov 07, 20241 hr 2 minEp. 411

Gayish: 410 Vampires

Vampires. So gay? So gay. Mike and Kyle talk about Bram Stoker's Dracula, Interview with a Vampire, Anne Rice, and True Blood. Technically, we also talk about Buffy the Vampire Slayer, What We Do in the Shadows, The Lost Boys, Carmilla, and Vampire Weekend. In this episode: News- 5:00 || Main Topic (Vampires)- 19:14 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:11:34 On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle and Mike delve into more reasons vampires are gay. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episo...

Oct 31, 20241 hr 19 minEp. 410

Gayish: 409 Rugby

Hookers and thighs, it’s rugby time! Mike and Kyle talk about the history of rugby, homophobia in sports, the Israel Folau incident, and alllll the different positions. In this episode: News- 2:08 || Main Topic (Rugby)- 13:43 || Gayest & Straightest- 58:28 On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle tells Mike about first openly gay professional rugby player. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episodes a day early, go to www.patreon.com/gayishpodcast....

Oct 24, 20241 hr 7 minEp. 409

Gayish: 408 Conversion Therapy

Conversion “therapy” is the disproven practice of attempting to make a gay person straight (or a trans person cis) through a variety of potential means. Mike and Kyle talk about the history of conversion therapy, the studies showing the negative health impacts of conversion therapy, ex-gay ministries, survivors’ stories, and more. In this episode: News- 5:28 || Main Topic (Conversion Therapy)- 18:54 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:12:39 On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle asks Mike some thought-pr...

Oct 17, 20241 hr 20 minEp. 408

Gayish: 407 Pennsylvania (w/ Brian Sims)

Former Pennsylvania State Rep. Brian Sims joins us to talk about the importance of Pennsylvania in the upcoming presidential election. In this episode: News- 2:39 || Main Topic (Pennsylvania)- 13:14 || Guest (Brian Sims)- 19:42 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:09:05 On the Patreon bonus segment, Kyle and Derek share LGBT facts about Pennsylvania with each other. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episodes a day early, go to www.patreon.com/gayishpodcast....

Oct 10, 20241 hr 19 minEp. 407

Gayish: 406 Candy

What is the gayest candy? Is candy gay? Are Mike & Ike a couple? Mike and Kyle tackle these any many more hard-hitting questions on this episode candy. In this episode: News- 2:39 || Main Topic (Candy)- 11:07 || Gayest & Straightest- 57:24 On the Patreon bonus segment, Mike and Kyle eat some candy while talking about Strangers with Candy. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episodes a day early, go to www.patreon.com/gayishpodcast....

Oct 03, 20241 hr 5 minEp. 406

Gayish: 405 Gin

Mike and Kyle talk about one of the more disgusting of the alcohols: gin. Is it gay? Is it straight? We look at the history, the gayta, and the internet to try to figure it out. In this episode: News- 3:18 || Main Topic (Gin)- 13:48 || Gayest & Straightest- 56:59 On the Patreon bonus segment, Mike instructs Kyle on how to make a gin drink, and Kyle decides if it makes him reconsider his stance on gin. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episodes a day early, go to www.patre...

Sep 26, 20241 hr 5 minEp. 405

Gayish: 404 Kamala Harris

Mike and Kyle finally announce the official Gayish endorsement for President of the United States for the 2024 election. In this episode: News- 3:50 || Main Topic (Kamala Harris)- 14:03 || Gayest & Straightest- 1:10:17 On the Patreon bonus segment, Mike and Kyle talk about whether they think the US is ready for a gay president. If you want to support our show while getting ad-free episodes a day early, go to www.patreon.com/gayishpodcast....

Sep 19, 20241 hr 17 minEp. 404