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Gay Men Going Deeper

Michael DiIorio & Matt Landsiedel | Gay Men’s Brotherhoodwww.gaymensbrotherhood.com
Gay Men Going Deeper is a podcast about gay relationships, identity, sexuality, and personal growth for gay men navigating modern life. Hosted by Matt Landsiedel and Michael DiIorio, the show dives into topics like dating, shame, masculinity, confidence, emotional intimacy, and the pressures of modern gay culture. Expect raw conversations, psychological insight, and the kind of honest discussions that challenge assumptions and invite deeper reflection about what it means to live authentically as a gay man.
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FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out)

About Today’s Show The Fear of Missing Out (a.k.a FOMO) tells us that if we could just be somewhere else, do something else, or be with someone else, we would be “better.” All it really does though is take us out of the present moment and creates unnecessary anxiety. In this episode, we’ll answer these questions: 1. What sparks FOMO in you? 2. Where do you think FOMO really comes from? 3. What can we do to alleviate and work through our FOMO? Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join t...

Sep 23, 202155 minEp. 49

Transforming Limiting Beliefs

About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Holistic Practitioner, Andrew Rowe about transforming limiting beliefs. Andrew and Matt share their best spiritual and psychological wisdom on how to shed those beliefs that are no longer serving us. Limiting beliefs tend to be the culprits that are preventing us from becoming our most authentic and confident selves. Time to learn how to let them go. Here is what you can expect to learn from the episode: ● What are beliefs? ● How are limited b...

Sep 16, 202156 minEp. 48

Self-Acceptance

About Today’s Show We all want things for ourselves and our lives: more confidence, more love, more connection. But we can’t get to more if we don’t begin by accepting exactly where we are in the present, flaws and all. Join us on this episode as we unpack these questions: 1. What does it mean to accept yourself? 2. What are the practical benefits of self-acceptance? 3. How can you develop greater self-acceptance? Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community...

Sep 09, 202157 minEp. 47

Coming Out Later in Life

About Today’s Show Not all of us had the luxury of being able to come out at a young age and enjoyed the benefits of long fought for rights. There are many men around the world who still have to live in the closet due to fear of safety and many other reasons. Today Calan Breckon hosts an open discussion with 3 amazing men who all came out later in life. Each one of them has a unique experience to offer through their own coming-out story. You can come out at 40, 50, 60, at any age really, and sti...

Sep 02, 20211 hr 1 minEp. 46

People Pleasing

About Today’s Show What is ‘people pleasing’ and how is it different from simply wanting to be nice to others? In this episode, we’re diving into this very common pattern that tends to have a unique flavour for gay men. We’ll answer questions such as: – how has people pleasing impacted your life? – why do gay men start people pleasing in the first place? – how can you start to overcome people pleasing? Psychology Today Reference Watch this ep on YouTube — – Connect with us – Join the private Fac...

Aug 26, 202153 minEp. 45

Non-Monogamous Relationships

About Today’s Show There is a cultural shift occurring where more people are questioning whether traditional monogamy is right for them. In this episode, Michael has a candid and informative conversation with professional life & sex coach, Craig Cassey about alternative relationship structures. From monogamy to polyamory and everything in between, this illuminating episode answers questions such as What are different relationship structures and what do they look like? How do you know what’s ...

Aug 19, 20211 hr 4 minEp. 44

Finding Your Inner Circle

CLICK HERE FOR THE LIVE INFO SESSION DETAILS! About Today’s Show Your inner circle are the people who you can count on to ride life's highs and support you through the lows. They can help us foster greater trust, intimacy, and vulnerability. On today's episode, we're sharing who is in our inner circle, why they are important, and what you can do to find and connect with these people in your own life. Watch this ep on YouTube Give us a Review! Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Member...

Aug 12, 202155 minEp. 43

Sexual Consent with Court Vox

Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community! About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Sex and Intimacy Consultant Court Vox about sexual consent. The term “consent” is becoming a lot more common in the gay community as men learn to honour and value their need for safety within their sexual and intimate relationships. Come spend an hour with Matt and Court as they unpack the following questions: -What is consent? -Implied consent vs actual consent? -Wh...

Aug 05, 20211 hr 3 minEp. 42

Inside Out

About Today’s Show We tend to rely on external things in our lives to make us feel good, but the truth is that our power is actually within us at all times. In this episode, we're going deep within to understand how things like internal conditioning and beliefs impact our experience of the world around us. We'll also speak about the difference between external validation vs. intrinsic self-worth and how to find greater alignment with your true self. Watch this ep on YouTube Give us a Review! ---...

Jul 29, 202153 minEp. 41

Exploring the Feminine with Chris Oh!

About Today’s Show Life likes to box us in a lot of the time. If you don’t fit into a nice and tidy box with a bow on the top then how are people suppose to judge you accordingly? Androgyny, Boylesque, drag queens, non-binary, it can all be a grey zone at times. In today’s episode, Calan and special guest Christopher Olwage a.k.a. “Chris Oh!” have a dynamic conversation about exploring the feminine as well as all aspects of ourselves through self-expression. The former Mr. Gay World 2013 has an ...

Jul 22, 202150 minEp. 40

Internalized Racism

About Today’s Show Welcome to a special takeover episode of GMGD, with special guests Reno, Starron, Mike, and Andre. Today’s episode is a deep, potentially heavy, important, introductory, and ongoing conversation around the topic of internalized racism. We are not experts in the topic, nor do we represent the perspectives of all BIPOC people. In this episode, we speak on our own personal experiences with internalized racism, while briefly touching on some of the definitions, and sharing how we’...

Jul 15, 20211 hr 27 minEp. 39

Loneliness & Belonging

About Today’s Show Going through life as a gay man can be alienating. In fact, some say that loneliness is the new gay epidemic. Despite widespread progress in legal and social acceptance of homosexuality, studies show that gay men are disproportionately affected by loneliness. In today’s episode, Michael and special guest Phil McAuliffe a.k.a. “The Loneliness Guy” have a candid discussion about normalizing loneliness and how we can seek a greater sense of belonging. Connect with Phil Watch this...

Jul 08, 202157 minEp. 38

Internalized Homophobia

About Today’s Show What is internalized homophobia? How does it show up in your life? What can you do to address it? In this episode, we’re going deeper within as we unpack internalized homophobia. We’ll share our own experiences as well as some tips that will inspire you to look within to heal the aspects of yourself that may be harbouring these negative beliefs. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper....

Jul 01, 202149 minEp. 37

Demisexuality

About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt explores the topic of Demisexuality with fellow brothers Carlos, Ron and Andre. All 4 men identify as demisexual and they candidly break down what it’s like to be demisexual in the gay community and the benefits and challenges of honouring this truth. Here are some of the questions explored in the episode: -What does it mean to be demisexual? -In what ways do you find it difficult to fit into the gay community being demisexual? -How has it been communicat...

Jun 24, 20211 hr 19 minEp. 36

Celebrating Our Gayness

About Today’s Show On this episode honouring Pride Month, we’re celebrating what it means to be gay. We speak out about the challenges we've faced and the valuable life lessons they have provided us. Pride has a unique meaning for everyone and this episode is about celebrating who you are in a way that feels authentic to you. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com -— Join the Waitlist for the Gay Me...

Jun 17, 20211 hrEp. 35

Interview with Brita Filter from RuPaul's Drag Race Season 12

About Today’s Show On today’s episode, Calan has a sit down with RuPaul’s Drag Race season 12 contestant Brita Filter (aka Jesse Havea) to talk about mental health and the experience of being on a show like RPDR. Jesse was very open, honest and candid with Calan as he shared his journey with depression, toxic social media, alcoholism, being painted as “the villain” on his season of RPDR, hitting rock bottom and attempting suicide. He also shared how he’s now on a healing journey, recovering, re-...

Jun 10, 202155 minEp. 34

Lone Wolf Syndrome

About Today’s Show The Lone Wolf mentality can feel safe and serve us in some ways, but as we share in this episode, it's also one of the common blocks that prevent us from belonging and connecting in community. We'll also share some tips on how you can allow more connection in your life. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com -— Join the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching com...

Jun 03, 202159 minEp. 33

Evolution of the Gay Community with Tim McCaskell

About Today’s Show As Pride Month celebrations begin, Michael turns back the clock and takes a glimpse into the evolution of the gay community with long-time activist, author, and educator, Tim McCaskell. Tim shares his unique experience living through those watershed moments of our shared history including the fight for gay liberation and the AIDS crisis. Together they discuss how the gay community has evolved through the last 50 years. They also take stock of where we are today and explore whe...

May 27, 202156 minEp. 32

Fear of Judgment

About Today’s Show Fear of judgment often prevents us from showing up as our authentic selves. Not only do we fear judgment and criticism of others, but we also have to contend with our self-judgment and self-criticism. In this episode, we're sharing our experiences with this deep-seated fear and the lessons we've learned on how to deal with it. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com --- Click here ...

May 20, 202158 minEp. 31

Gender and Sexual Identity with Christiano Green

About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt Speaks with Identity & Mindset Coach, Speaker, Trainer, Author, Podcast Host, Thought Leader, & Entrepreneur Christiano Green about Gender & Sexual Identity. These two coaches candidly breakdown the difference between gender and sexuality and how it is a spectrum, not a construct. Further concepts that are unpacked in this episode are gender fluidity, gender energies, rising of the feminine, topping and bottoming and how we view them as mascul...

May 13, 202148 minEp. 30

The Power of Vulnerability

Click here to REGISTER NOW for the GAY MEN GOING DEEPER MEMBERSHIP coaching community! (Doors are only open for the next 48 hours!) About Today’s Show We tend to avoid vulnerability but when we use it to our advantage, it can be a potent source of personal power and a means of establishing authentic connections with others. In this episode, we're sharing how vulnerability has actually helped us along our respective journeys to become more self-confident, more rooted in authenticity, and develop ...

May 06, 202156 minEp. 29

Talking Relationships with Jordan Bach

Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Relationships! Always such a hot topic in the gay community (and in all communities really). In today’s episode, Calan Breckon invites guest speaker, writer and Life Coach Jordan Bach back for a chat about gays and relationships. Covering things like resentment after a rejection, conscious uncoupling, clearness is kindness, confidently asking someone out and what “pretty privilege” ...

Apr 29, 20211 hr 15 minEp. 28

Romantic Relationships

Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Romantic relationships give us a perfect opportunity to learn more about ourselves and how we relate with others. In this episode, we're sharing our perspectives and lessons learned in love, dating & relationships. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMenGoingDeeper.com --- Sign up and get new episo...

Apr 22, 20211 hr 5 minEp. 27

Myths & Misconceptions About Sexual Health

Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show What is ‘super gonorrhea’? What are the side effects of PrEP? What is U = U? In this bonus episode, Michael and special guest, Pharmacist Andrew Schonbe dismantle some of the myths and misconceptions about STIs and PrEP. Join us for an open and informative discussion about sexual health. Click here for more Sexual Health info Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the...

Apr 15, 202142 minEp. 26

Friendships with Gay Men

Click here to find out more and to get on the Waitlist for the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership! About Today’s Show Developing friendships with gay men can be challenging when the line between platonic friends, friends with benefits, fuck buddies is blurred. In this episode, we talk about our own unique experiences with making friends and how we've learned - and continue to learn - ways to nurture these important relationships. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Fac...

Apr 08, 20211 hr 1 minEp. 25

Talking HIV Stigma

About Today’s Show In this episode, Matt speaks with Arnoud Boek and Steven Band from the Gay Men’s Brotherhood about HIV Stigma. The three of them unpack some of the heavy topics that surround this issue that many face within the gay community. Some questions they explored are: 1) How has Prep impacted the gay community? 2) How has being HIV+ impacted dating and intimacy for you? 3) How have your family relationships been impacted by your HIV+ status? 4) How quickly do you disclose your HIV+ st...

Apr 01, 20211 hr 20 minEp. 24

Surrender

About Today’s Show In this episode, the guys are talking about what it means to surrender. Whether it's surrendering control of outcomes or surrendering to our emotions, there are valuable gifts and lessons to be learned. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMensBrotherhood.com --- Sign up and get new episodes delivered directly to your inbox!...

Mar 25, 202155 minEp. 23

Interview with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker

About Today’s Show In today’s bonus episode, Calan has a one-on-one with Jordan Bach; Life Coach, Writer and Motivational Speaker. Jordan has been on the Life Coaching scene for over a decade and quickly became a trailblazer for gay men looking to go on a personal development journey. In today’s episode Calan and Jordan chat about how he started his career as a coach, working through “imposter syndrome,” how to handle those nasty keyboard warriors, healthy boundaries and much more. Jordan’s Inst...

Mar 18, 20211 hr 11 minEp. 22

The Illusion of Control

About Today’s Show Are you a control freak? Recovering Perfectionist? Or maybe you feel like you’ve never had any control. Today we dive into the topic of control and how we navigate this illusion that we can control the things and people around us. We share insights on how we learned to let go of the need to control everything around us and how we each embrace the energy of allowing and having faith in the process. Calan also shares a very personal story in today’s episode about where his need ...

Mar 11, 202154 minEp. 21

Love, Intimacy & Connection: behind-the-scenes of a modern gay relationship

About Today’s Show In this juicy episode, Michael and his partner have a raw and refreshing chat about gay relationship dynamics including interracial love, monogamy, and conflict. They’ll share how they overcame their fears and trust issues in a messy yet authentic way. Whether you’re single or in a relationship, this episode is full of tips and advice for you. Watch this ep on YouTube --- - Connect with us - Join the private Facebook community Instagram | YouTube | Twitter GayMensBrotherhood.c...

Mar 04, 202145 minEp. 20
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